How to Ask for What You Want to Get Your Needs Met
Workshop | Dec. 8th | 6:30 to 10:00 PM | West Hartford, CT
Why are we offering a workshop on how to ask for what you want? It seems so simple and it is our right, but so many of us don’t know how to effectively ask for things in a way that is a positive experience for both the person asking and the one receiving. Then as a receiver, we often respond in such a way that can damage our relationships or get the opposite of what we really want.
This workshop will provide you with understanding and new strategies and techniques to get your needs met. By transforming your communication skills you can improve your life satisfaction. You can apply these skills to relationships with both adults and kids, work environments, volunteering — anything!
Often times we don’t even know what we want and then we don’t say what we want, because we are afraid of getting hurt, of hurting others, or of being perceived a certain way, such as bossy, dumb, weak, etc.
We will help you determine what it is you want and how to speak it. We will teach you how to give generously without attachment to outcome.
This is an interactive workshop in a safe, non-judgemental environment. You will work in groups of three people where one person receives and two people do the giving.
We will practice giving from our bodies, in a calm place with a ventral vagal breath. We will learn what it means to have a calm mind and give with an open heart.
LGBTQI+ and all relationship orientations welcome. You can come on your own or bring your partner or a friend (and get a discount for two people). However, this event is not focused on couples.
If you have any questions, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Connect to your inner knowledge of what you want
- Learn how to successfully ask for what you want — without fear and with clarity
- Learn how to receive from others more effectively
- Reclaim your voice!
- Develop the capacity to give with an open heart and without expectations
- Understanding and applying your love languages
- Welcome and opening circle
- Stating intentions
- Rules and consent
- Hands-on techniques and skills practice
- Closing process
Examples of Common Challenges:
- Being able to say no, and negotiate what you are willing to do to get to a yes
- Being able to share something, e.g., a story, feeling problem, and not be interrupted or judged
- Asking for intimate, emotional, or physical contact without shame or guilt
- Receiving verbal praise, compliments or appreciation and accepting it positively
- Understanding how to set boundaries
- Creating win-wins through communication and negotiation
Wednesday, December 8, 2021
- 6:30 – 10:00 PM EST (3.5 hours)
- Doors open at 6:00 PM. Please arrive by 6:15 PM.
- 8 Lowell Road, West Hartford, CT, 3rd Floor (stair access only)
- Free parking in the rear of the building.
- Attendees must be at least 21 years old – bring ID.
- Masks are required. See-through masks will be provided at the door or you can bring your own mask.
- Please bring proof of vaccination and/or negative PCR test results within prior 48 hours.
- No alcohol, drugs or guns are allowed on the property.
$50 per person
Bring a friend or partner and take 20% off. Enter 2 or more in the quantity and use promo code ask20
Enter the additional attendee name(s) in the Order Notes field.
- Bring pen and paper to take notes. (We will provide a summary document, too.)
- Dress in comfortable clothing.
- Please avoid perfume or cologne. Some people are sensitive to scents.
- If needed due to an increase in Covid numbers, the workshop will take place on Zoom.
- We reserve the right to make this decision up to 24 hours before the workshop begins.
- If we have a Zoom event, you agree that you will not record the event in any way to keep confidentiality of those involved.
- You also agree to participate from a private space of your own.
About Your Counselors:
This unique workshop is brought to you by two experts in life and love transformation.
Francesca is a clinical sexologist and has more than 20 years of experience as a relationship and sexuality guide and counselor.
She developed the Inner Aspects Method (IAM) to help hundreds of people improve communication and sexual satisfaction in their intimate relationships. She currently teaches a version of IAM at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology for a dissertation specialization.
Francesca has expertise in health education, cross cultural spirituality and non-violent communication techniques. She helps with presenting problems that include pre-orgasmic conditions, erectile difficulties, painful intercourse, orgasm dysfunction, sexual desire discrepancy in couples, emotional disconnects, communication challenges, childhood sexual abuse and adult sexual trauma.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) founder, Amanda Pasciucco, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and an American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and Continuing Education Provider.
Known as “The Sex Healer” by her clients and colleagues, Amanda has helped transform the intimate lives of those struggling with infertility, sexless relationships, low-desire, arousal, orgasm, and penetration problems.
Through her flexible, multi-technique, sex-positive approaches, clients improve their sexual lives, and this often carries into a whole life transformation.