Chemistry Between Two People: How to Recognize It?

 

Is chemistry between two people real? How long does it last? Is it the same as being in love? We’ve all found ourselves thinking about this, especially when we become romantically interested in someone new. You might compare this feeling you have with the last time you experienced something similar. Regardless of what it is, we can all agree that the chemistry of love makes our world a little more interesting. 

There are certain signs that indicate chemistry exists between you and another person. Depending on the circumstances, you might date them or simply enjoy the subtle flirting. Learn how to recognize these signs and when it makes sense to address the chemistry.

 

Signs of Chemistry Between Two People

One person doesn’t have to experience the chemistry the same way as someone else. They might even notice that every time they feel attracted to someone, it feels different or unique. For some, this chemistry could be felt only on a physical level. The person’s appearance and aura might attract them. In most cases, this chemistry is a mix of emotional, mental, and physical attraction. 

Such chemistry can be indicated by the intensity of contact and the feeling of being drawn to them. Find below the most obvious signs of chemistry between two people:

• • Intense eye contact: You can’t keep your eyes off of them, and they feel the same way. When you look into each other’s eyes, there’s a certain connection that you only feel with them. 
  • Talking to them is easy: You might have many things in common, or you simply enjoy talking for hours about different topics that come to mind. You feel like you know them for much longer, and it’s much easier to talk to them than to other people in your life. 

• They make you laugh: You smile around them all the time. 

• Your body reacts when they’re near: You might feel butterflies in your stomach or tingling when they’re close to you or when they touch you. 
• Mimicking gestures: You unconsciously mimic each other’s gestures, speech patterns, or posture. It’s a subtle sign of a deep connection.
• Losing track of time: Time passes by quickly when you’re talking to them, looking at them, or daydreaming about them. 
• After spending time with them, you feel an energy boost instead of feeling drained; their presence gives you a buzz, like a shot of positive energy.

 

What to Do About the Chemistry

You’re certain there is chemistry between you and the other person, and now what? What are your options? First, it will significantly depend on the circumstances. Are you both single? Would there be complications if you wanted to start dating or become a couple? For instance, you might work together and dating can be awkward, especially if things don’t lead to the expected outcomes. 

Second, analyze their words and gestures. Do they still seem as interested in you as they were in the beginning? Do you believe they feel the same way as you do? Taking a moment and thinking about their feelings toward you can help you understand better your options.

If you believe that the chemistry is mutual and strong, it’s time for the next step. What actions would make you feel comfortable? Maybe you’d like to express verbally how they make you feel. You could tell them directly or write it in a letter. If that’s too much for you, use body language to make them realize how you feel about them. Sit closer, show interest by asking questions, flirt, invite them to spend time alone with you, etc. Whatever feels natural to you, do it. 

 

What If It’s Not Chemistry?

Occasionally, it can be tricky to determine whether what you feel is chemistry or something else. Chemistry between two people implies that you both feel attracted to each other on some level. If they are not showing any of the signs mentioned above, maybe it’s time to reconsider the situation. Is it chemistry or something else?

A person might have different motives for connecting with another person. A boss or a colleague might show interest in a certain employee because they recognize potential in them or want to learn a certain skill from them. A friend could appreciate a friend’s advice without any romantic intentions. 

Take a moment to really think about how they behave when they’re near you. Have they said or done something that implies they’re attracted to you? Do they treat other people the same way, or is there something unique about their approach to you? 

If you’re uncertain if there’s chemistry between the two of you, consider if it makes more sense to wait until you know or to ask them directly. If you work or are friends with someone, it can be awkward to learn they don’t feel the same way. 

Take It Slow 

The best piece of advice for this situation is to take it slow. Rushing things could ruin the chemistry you already have. Instead, try to take it slow and see how the situation evolves. If you feel attracted to them and notice they feel the same, enjoy it. We often want to label things instead of enjoying the experience. 

When the moment is right, you’ll know it. There might be the right gesture, word, or opportunity that makes you feel like you want to address the chemistry and ask the person about their view on it. If you’re honest about your feelings from the start, it will be easier to deal with. Whatever the case, make sure you’re not pressuring yourself into doing something you’re uncomfortable with. Respecting your needs first will help you enjoy that chemistry more, regardless of the outcome. 

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