How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

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How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

 

Curious to learn how to have sex like a porn star? Believe it or not, many will be looking into tips and tricks from their favorite porn movies or porn stars to spice things up in the bedroom. And let’s face it, life is truly too short not to enjoy good sex whenever and wherever you want it. 

If you’re looking to turn your wildest, craziest fantasies into reality, this probably means you’re ready to dive into the world of porn stars for inspiration. To help you make the most of your sex life and have fun with your sex partner. Take a look at our suggestions on how to become a porn star in your own life!

#1 Press Record

The difference between porn stars and everyone else is they are recording themselves having sex. Well, you might not have a production team in your bedroom and all that fancy equipment, yet it’s possible to record your wildest moments and keep them as great memories. If you haven’t recorded yourself having sex before, you might feel a bit uncomfortable the first time.

Regardless, make sure you enjoy it and don’t be shy to be yourself just because your camera is on. Forget completely that these moments are being recorded and connect with your sexual partner as you have connected during the previous times. 

#2 Dress Up

When was the last time you spent money on nice lingerie or underwear? Men or women, we all like to put a nice piece of clothing to flirt with our partner and use it as an invitation for sex. Order online or make an event out of it and go shopping alone, with friends, or even with your sexual partner. 

If you want to level it up, you can even buy a costume for a role play. For instance, your partner might have shared their fantasies about the doctor-nurse scenario, so why not buy a uniform and surprise them when they come from work? Whatever your choice is, make sure that it’s used to enhance your foreplay and sex.

#3 Own The Dirty Talk

If you’ve ever seen a porn movie (we know you have!), you’ve probably noticed all the dirty. Playful words porn stars are using. Sex is not just about physical, you can enjoy it from so many other angles, and one of them is verbal. Share with your partner how bad you want it with your dirty talk and encourage them to talk dirty to you too!

However, before going into all of that, make sure you have communicated it with your partner, so they don’t get surprised or offended once you start throwing a few dirty words around. The best thing to do is to start small and see where you both feel comfortable with dirty talk. 

#4 Open Your Sex Life

If you’re not a complete monogamist or you’d like to explore non-monogamy concepts, how about inviting another person to your bed? If you’re in a long-term, serious relationship, start a conversation with your partner and ask for their opinion on it. Of course, you will do the same if it’s with a person who is your sex partner, only there is more risk with relationships.

You might decide to have a threesome or group sex, and the most important thing about it is to practice safe sex. Including more people in your sexual life requires more attention and preparation, both physically and emotionally. If you discover that having sex with more people at the same time is something that excites you. You can start practicing it more and discover something new about your pleasure with each experience.

#5 Try BDSM

When talking about porn movies, BDSM is one of the most popular categories people enjoy watching. So, if you’re curious to try it out, why not suggest to your partner a night of hot BDSM passion? However, as pleasure is intertwined with pain in the BDSM world. You will need to talk about the limitations and what things are off the table. Most couples will determine a safe word they will use once they want to end the foreplay or the sex.

Also, you will notice that BDSM consists of a wide range of different techniques. So make sure you go into it step by step. Another thing that would be quite useful to know before you start exploring the BDSM world is to think about the aftercare element. As things can get rough, it’s nice to know that you and your partner can go back to hugging, kissing, cuddling. And deep conversation after you’ve had the orgasms of your lives. 

#6 Watch Porn

If you’re determined to start having wild sex with your partner, you will need a source of inspiration. After all, our tricks can only do so much, right? So, why not dive into an endless library of porn movies you can filter by your own interests? Instead of having a movie night on Friday. Why not have a porn movie night with your partner and discover new things you’d like to try in the bedroom?

Browse through different categories, read what other users are recommending. And you can even join forums and chats where you can also inspire other people with your sex ideas. Such places are great to inspire you and also to connect you with a like-minded group of people. Those who are looking for an extra in their sexual relationship might even find them there.

In Conclusion

To do it like a porn star, you will need to be ready to look deep into your fantasies. Share them with your partner. And start practicing them in the bedroom. If you’re not used to wild, free sex without limitations, it will take a while for you to get used to it. And don’t worry if some of the things you try out don’t work. There is plenty of ideas waiting for you to turn them into reality!

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Using A Mouth Gag? [LIVE DEMO in MOUTH]

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Using A Mouth Gag? [LIVE DEMO in MOUTH]

 

Are you interested in using a mouth gag with your partner to get closer to bringing each other bondage and pleasure? A mouth gag has many uses and one is for connection.

Today we answer that!

Amanda Pasciucco, an AASECT certified sex therapist and owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, shares her tips to success! Amanda has been featured multiple times on CNN, Playboy, PornHub, Maxim, Daily Mail, Men’s Health. Hartford Courant, HeadSpace, VICE, and more!

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Setting Goals For The New Year

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Setting Goals For The New Year

 

As we’re saying goodbye to the year that’s already behind us, it’s always a good time for setting goals for the new year as well. It’s another opportunity to start over, dedicate your attention to things you wish to achieve or change. Whether you want to get rid of a bad habit or introduce a healthy routine in your life, having an entire year in front of you is sometimes all the motivation you need. 

In this blog, we’ve gathered useful tips for setting goals for the new year and ways to achieve those goals. Prepare a pen and paper, or for those who prefer everything digitized, open a new google document and simply follow our suggestions! 

New Year Exercise

If you’re passionate about setting new goals, whether they’re personal or professional, you’ve probably done some exercise on your own, however, this one combines all of your goals for the upcoming year, while also looking back at the year that’s behind us. You can do this exercise alone, with your partner, your best friend, or anybody else you wish to share it with.

What did I Accomplish in 2021?

Start thinking about your proudest moments in the past year. Maybe you’ve learned a new language, made a new friend, started going to the gym regularly, began to eat more healthily, or something completely else. This exercise is about you, so whatever you think it’s relevant to celebrate from 2021, point it out. To create more order in the way you’ll approach thinking in retrospect, make sure you separate your personal goals from your professional goals. 

Examples: 

  • I reconnected with an old friend from high school and had a great time with them.
  • Stopped drinking unhealthy beverages and replaced them with freshly squeezed juices.
  • I successfully completed a long project and everyone congratulated me on it.
  • Advocated for my boundaries and that helped improve my life quality.
  • I discovered a cafe shop in my neighborhood and I often go there to read books or work on my computer.
  • This year, I expanded my knowledge in speaking Italian (or insert any subject you desire).

What did I WANT to Accomplish yet didn’t in 2021?

When asking yourself this question, it’s important to approach it with a clear mind. 

Forget “I should have done this…” type of language. 

Instead, recognize that you are envisioning it in the next year. The point is that you are recommitting to smaller steps to help achieve success. 

Try to eliminate blaming and shaming thoughts that might arise when answering this question. The point is that you are going to recommit to what is still important to you. After all, if you care about it one year later, you have plenty of motivation to break it into steps in the next year! 

Examples: 

  • I didn’t manage to go to bed before midnight and have more quality sleep.
  • Wanted to cook more at home yet I mostly ordered in or went to a restaurant.
  • I tried spending more time with friends, however, I had too many work obligations. 

  • I wanted to learn how to use a new tool that would make my work easier and didn’t do it in the end.
  • Tried arriving at work on time, yet somehow I was late more often than I am comfortable with.

COUPLES EDITION: 

What did We ACCOMPLISH in the Relationship in 2021?

This part can be done alone or with your partner. If you’re going through this exercise with your partner, make sure that both of you have the space to voice your answers without affecting each other’s responses or getting off track. 

When thinking about these accomplishments, you will need to think about those areas of your relationships you managed to improve in some way. Whatever you feel was an accomplishment in your relationship, celebrate it with your partner.

Couple Examples:

  • We managed to spend more time together and try out new activities.
  • Improved our intimacy by hugging more and having sex. 
  • We started going to couple therapy and successfully resolved many issues from before. 

What did We ACCOMPLISH in the Relationship in 2021?

Like your personal desired accomplishments, approach this question without any resentment or frustration. What were the important things for you both at the beginning of 2021, yet you couldn’t do them? If they still seem relevant to you, make sure you talk about them as it might give you a better idea of how to accomplish them. 

Couple Examples:

  • We tried to do more outdoor activities, yet we spent too much time watching TV.
  • Wanted to cook dinners together, and often ended up ordering take out because we were too tired. 
  • We wanted to have deeper and more intimate conversations, yet we spent more time talking about our complaints and household obligations.  

New Vision & Recommitment

Here, you will need to think about what you wish to celebrate by the end of 2022. Think about the things that matter to you personally and your relationship. What do you wish to start implementing in your everyday life? What are the things or habits you wish to say goodbye to? 

The great thing about doing this exercise with your partner or your friend is they will motivate you throughout the year as they will be aware of your new year goals. Also, you can invite them to hold you accountable. For instance, if you want to spend more time with your friends, your best friend or partner can encourage you to do so by reminding you of your goals. 

When talking about committing to something, think about how you will hold yourself accountable? Having the help of others is great, yet if not doing your best, it will be hard to achieve any goal you want to set for the new year. 

There are plenty of ways you can make sure your 2022 will align with your goals:

  • If you wish to be more active, pay an annual membership instead of monthly.
  • Also if you wish to spend more time with friends, book the times in your calendar and share them with your friends. 
  • If you want to be more proactive at work, talk with your colleagues and find a way that will help you to deliver more.

Whatever it is, think about the easiest way to achieve your goals. If you think about ways to do something, it will be easier to achieve it than just focusing on goals. Please think big; you can do anything you set your mind to. 

Happy new beginnings!

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Psychological Dependence

Psychological Dependence: Definition & How To Deal With It

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Psychological Dependence: Definition & How To Deal With It

 

Each psychological and emotional process has a physiological basis. And every behavior that is not simply reflex action has a vital emotional and psychological component. Therefore, thinking of mind and body as two separated entities leads to unrealistic and incorrect ways of looking at any behavior type. It is mostly seen in cases of substance use disorders and process additions. 

For instance, claiming that “gambling addiction is not a choice’’ is equally wrong as claiming it is a choice. Human beings are too complex to say their behavior is “entirely physical” or “entirely psychological”. To truly understand how addictive behavior develops, both physical and psychological dependence will need to be considered. 

Psychological Dependence Definition

Psychological dependence is a term used to describe the emotional and mental processes associated with development. And recovery from a substance use disorder or process addiction. It must be viewed as a combination of emotions and cognitions, as they intertwine in their existence. 

When talking about psychological dependence, most cases refer to the cognitive and emotional aspects of addictive behaviors or withdrawing from drug or alcohol use. This is quite different from attempting to classify certain substances or activities as addictive either in a physiological or physical way. 

Psychological Dependence Symptoms

There are several symptoms associated with the psychological components of any type of addictive behavior (psychological dependence). Not every person will have all of these symptoms and some of them will be expressing them mildly, while others more than that. People with psychological dependence will often have cravings, mostly food-related ones. Also, they might have anxiety issues that occur each time someone tries to stop their addictive behavior. Instead of anxiety, a person can have depression issues when not being able to proceed with their addictive behavior due to someone or something. 

They might also struggle with sleeping well as their sleep often is disrupted when trying to stop consuming the substance or it’s not available to a person. When not consuming or trying to quit their addiction, whichever it might be, they will probably feel irritability and restlessness. A wide variety of moods might happen each time a person is not able to use their substance of choice or is trying to quit. These mood swings are usually quite obvious externally, too. 

Besides how they feel, their behavior will change significantly as well. For instance, they will have issues with concentration, memory, problem-solving, and judgment in general. When talking about physical dependence, symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, seizures, diarrhea, hallucinations are quite common. 

Substances In Psychological Dependence

It’s considered that all substances of abuse are associated with both psychological and physical aspects of dependence. Yet, numerous sources are separating the aspects related to the development of a substance use disorder and withdrawing from it into substances associated with withdrawal symptoms which are psychological. Usually, they include: 

  • Most stimulants, which include cocaine and Ritalin
  • Most hallucinogenic drugs (e.g. LSD)
  • Cannabis products
  • Numerous inhalant products
  • Numerous psychotropic medications (e.g. antidepressant medications)

When talking about substances relate to the development of strong physical dependence usually include:

  • Alcohol
  • Opiate drugs – heroin, morphine, Vicodin, etc.
  • Benzodiazepines – Xanax, Valium, Ativan, etc.
  • Barbiturates – Seconal and phenobarbital.

Psychological Dependence Treatment 

The use of drugs that are considered to lead to physical dependence, such as alcohol, barbiturates. And benzodiazepines, can lead to the development of potentially fatal seizures. Yet, this generally doesn’t occur with withdrawal from opiate drugs, which are considered to be very physically addicting. 

Individuals with a substance use disorder will need to be strictly monitored by a physician or psychiatrist specialized in addiction medicine during their recovery. Such level of care and caution is required to be able to identify and potential seizure activity and if it occurs, act on time and help the individual. When treating any substance use disorder, the initial program of physician-assisted withdrawal management is essential for recovery. 

This type of approach is recommended because initial recovery from any substance of abuse can be intertwined with emotional and physical distress that might lead to dangerous scenarios for the person. Examples of such dangerous scenarios are overdosing during a relapsed, being involved in accidents, or trying to commit suicide. 

When compared to those with physical addition or physical dependence, individuals with psychological dependence will not have much difference in the overall plan of recovery. It will be required that they are thoroughly assessed, guided by a physician. And treat for any issues that might appear as a consequence of their substance use. Also, they are often involved in substance use disorder therapy, which is crucial for their recovery. 

Most of the time, they will also get involved in social support groups or seek support from their family and friends. Understanding how challenging and frustrating at the time the recovery process can be. A strong support system is essential to recover.

Conclusion

Without a doubt, psychological dependence is associated with various emotional and cognitive symptoms. By separating physical dependence from psychological dependence, enormous damage is done in understanding this condition and, more importantly, in treating it. Treatment of any substance use disorder must be seen as with both emotional and cognitive symptoms.  

While psychological dependence is definitely associated with both emotional and cognitive symptoms. Physical dependence is usually associated with tolerance development and withdrawal symptoms that are not emotional nor cognitive. 

To understand addictive behavior means to accept the interplay of both emotional and cognitive mechanisms. Any treatment that aims to help a person recover from substance use disorder should be holistic in nature and consider all possible treatment options that lead to recovery. And, although the recovery plan might be long, frustrating. And scary, many individuals have successfully recovered from psychological dependence and are now enjoying their lives with their loved ones.

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

How to Tie the Takate Kote (TK)  Kinbaku Bondage

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How to Tie the Takate Kote (TK)  Kinbaku Bondage

 

So you want to learn how to tie the takate Kote (TK) and kinbaku. This kinbaku rope bondage can bring you and your partners closer together.

In many videos with bondage, there are more than one rope involved in the piece to get the desired outcome.

Amanda Pasciucco, an AASECT certified sex therapist and owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, shares her tips to success! Amanda has been featured multiple times on CNN, Playboy, PornHub, Maxim, Daily Mail, Men’s Health. Hartford Courant, HeadSpace, VICE, and more!

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Tantric Sex Positions

Tantric Sex Positions That Will Blow Your Mind

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Tantric Sex Positions That Will Blow Your Mind

 

If you and your partner have been researching the best tantric sex positions to improve your sexual life, that means you are looking for something more than just sex – you’re looking for a connection. Even if you haven’t been looking into tantra that much, and are curious to discover what’s it about, this article will provide you with all the information you need to connect with your partner on a more meaningful level and maybe enhance your relationship and not just your sexual life. 

So, for those who don’t know what tantra actually is, tantra is considered a system of combining breaths, sounds, movements, and focus that lead to longer and more intense orgasms, more intimacy, more significant connection, altered states of reality, and transcendence during sex. 

Tantra vs Kama Sutra

If you’re new to this term, you might easily confuse Tantra and Kama Sutra, although they are very different in their nature. Kama Sutra is focused on advanced sex positions while Tantra shows you ways to move and connect with your energy while in these certain positions, which then turns these positions into a completely different experience for you. When trying tantric sex positions, partners should be aware of taking deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling, in order to activate their nervous system that leads to a flow state. 

As much as Tantra is not focused so much on the specific positions, there are a few positions that will be used more often in Tantra to achieve incredible orgasms and an even deeper connection with your partner. If you were looking for new tantric sex positions to try out, here is the list of our favorites!

#1 Goddess Pose

If you want to feel like a goddess during sex, this position is perfect for you. The insertive partner will have to lie on their back, while the receptive one squats over the partner who is beneath them. While doing so, their feet should be flat on the ground. Think of it like a cowgirl position, yet with a more profound experience. 

When you’re in the goddess pose, make sure you maintain eye contact with each other. While the partner on their back can enjoy the goddess riding them and making them feel all kinds of sensations. Don’t forget about inhaling and exhaling deeply. While trying to connect your breath, and get into a flow you’ll never forget.

#2 Open Pincer

In the Open Pincer pose, the receptive partner will lay down while their legs will be in the penetrative partner’s hands. On the other hand, the penetrative partner will kneel on their knees and move towards the receiving partner. For even a better sensation, you can use a pillow or sex wedge under the hip of the partner who is laying down.

There are various reasons why this position is great for tantric sex. It’s great for anal sex, and also for vaginal penetration. The Open Pincer position also creates more space in the vulva, and it’s recommended for self-clitoral stimulation. Last but not least, it’s a position that allows partners to maintain eye contact and shared breath which leads to great pleasure and orgasm. 

#3 Snake Trap

This position is quite different from the previous two mentioned above as the couple will not be close to each other. However, their legs will by being entwined in “V” shapes, while sitting across from each other. Both partners will have their hands on the ankles of the other person to maintain stability and leverage. 

This position is perfect for those looking for a bit more shallow penetration, without losing eye contact. It’s also great for those who love having the entire body view of each other as the position is exposing their bodies. More importantly, it’s great for deeper emotional intimacy, sharing breath, and even for foreplay. 

#4 The Tiger

If you’re a big fan of a spooning position or simply love to cuddle a lot during sex. The Tiger position is what you’ll be most interested to try out with your partner. This variation of the spooning position creates more space between the chest of the insertive partner and the back of the receptive one. To get into it, both partners will need to lie down next to each other on their sides. 

This is one of the tantric sex positions that doesn’t require so much energy and stamina. So any couple can try it at a certain point in their relationship. If you and your partner are looking for an intimate, slow. And sensual position to enjoy each other and achieve great orgasm together, the Tiger is perfect for you. 

#5 Third Eye Bliss

Just by reading the name of this tantric sex position. You already know it’s mostly about connection and eye contact, right? The Third Eye Bliss is a missionary position in which one partner will lay on their back while the insertive partner will start the penetration. The partner who is penetrating will be on top of the receiving partner looking them in the eyes and maintaining the connection and shared breath. 

Both partners can focus on inhaling and exhaling at the same time. And seeing what sensations it causes in their bodies. Once they start feeling all that sexual energy moving through their bodies. They can inhale it up to their spine, all the way into their brain, and slowly exhale it. 

Conclusion

Whichever tantric sex position you choose, you will not be wrong. All these positions are great to enhance your sexual life, and also your relationships. Talk to your partner to discover which position they would like to try and start practicing them when you are ready. Soon, you will discover a completely different dimension of sex that will produce more pleasure than you could ever imagine. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Teen Counseling

Teen Counseling: What Every Parent Should Know

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Teen Counseling: What Every Parent Should Know

 

If you’re a parent of a teenager or have one in your family, you know that it can be quite challenging. And seeking teen counseling arises as a natural suggestion to help the person struggling. 

Besides undergoing numerous changes physically, emotionally, and psychologically, this young person will also go through identity formation. All of these areas might be really difficult for an individual and they might lead to different forms of pressure, while experiencing social pressure, bullying, or even questioning their gender or sexual identity as they start their first valuable relationships with other people.

Another factor that needs to be taken into consideration in today’s culture is social comparison and lower self-esteem due to the prevalence of social media. There’s no question about it, being a teenager in our modern world is quite stressful and understanding all the benefits from teen counseling as they are navigating these challenges. 

Why Do Teens Need Counseling?

It’s quite crucial to memorize that teens, although they are becoming adults, are still children. The brain is in the process of fully forming, yet they are still not able to make mature decisions or handle mature situations the same way adults can. Also, understanding their bodies are changing and all the side effects of budding hormones. All of this can tip teenagers over the edge, even if an adult doesn’t realize how stressful it might be for the teenager. 

What’s making things even worse, today’s teenagers are not spending the same amount of time with their families as 10 or 20 years ago as today’s parents work long hours. However, family time is crucial in keeping stress levels low, so the lack of family time will be just another factor why it’s so beneficial for a teenager to seek counseling. 

Once a teenager reaches the point where they are not able to effectively handle school, social situations, or family stress, counseling can help them tremendously in learning how to cope with it all. Parents will typically consider this option once they notice that their teenager is struggling with one of the mentioned areas. Yet the smarter decision would be to send your teenager to talk to a professional before they reach that level of stress. 

Deciding that a teenager should go to therapy will benefit them in numerous ways. Especially as they will be able to talk about their current struggles and even past events that are troubling them. 

What Can Parents Expect From Teen Counseling?

As a parent, you should know what you and your teenager can expect from teen counseling. Once your teenager begins counseling, it might surprise you that parents are typically not invited to attend. All you can do is drive your teen to the doors and wait for his counseling to finish. Another thing to keep in mind is that the counselor cannot share information on these sessions due to therapist-client confidentiality. What a counselor can do is to provide you with more general information regarding progress and diagnosis. If you don’t feel supportive about this, be aware that your teenager needs a safe place to express their thoughts and emotions without fearing consequences. And if you know even one thing about teens, that would be that they value their privacy and want to have more autonomy from their parents.  

Types of Teen Therapy

The type of counseling will usually depend on the precipitating problem. For instance, you teenager will maybe start teen counseling because they are struggling with studying and their grades. So the counselor will start from there and gradually, dive deeper. The reason for that is that establishing trust and getting to know each other is crucial for success in therapy. 

The initial intake session, however, might include parents as well, yet from the next session. The therapist will spend only on getting to know the teenager and helping them learn useful tools to make their lives easier. As a parent, you will need to accept you’re not in control over the process and have faith in it. Just because it seems to you that the therapist is taking the wrong approach doesn’t mean you’re right. After all, you are not sitting in those sessions and you’re not the patient. 

What A Therapist Needs To Report?

As mentioned above, all the information your teenager decided to share with the counselor is considered confidential. Except anything the counsel will be legally mandated to report. The examples would be the intent to harm themselves or someone else, sexual or physical abuse, and suicidal thoughts. So, if your teenager is experiencing serious issues, you can be sure they will receive the help they need and you as a parent will be informed about it. 

When it comes to everything else, teenagers will be able to discuss any concerns they have without the fear that they will be shared with their parents or someone else. 

Preparing Teens For Counseling

Don’t feel discouraged if the first time you talk to your teenager about the therapy they feel resistant. It’s quite normal, so try to understand their point of view as well. To help you get your teenager to become more open about teen counseling, consider these helpful tools: 

They Should Lead

If you think your teenager would benefit from therapy, try starting a conversation on their thoughts about therapy. Inform them about the process and tell them you think it would be great for them to talk to someone who is not their parents. And will provide them with useful tips on how to deal with some situations in their lives.

Offering Incentives

There are plenty of ways to motivate your teenager to go to a counselor if the conversation didn’t produce results. And one of them is offering a reward. For instance, you can tell them that if they attend just one session. You will buy the concert tickets to see their favorite band or their favorite sports team. 

Including Them in the Process

If you’re thinking about teen counseling, you should also consider including your teenager in the process of choosing a therapist. And allow them to decide when they would like to schedule their appointments. They will more likely think that therapy is a good idea if they are a part of the decision-making process. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Hair Tie With Rope

Ideas For Erotic Hair Tie With Rope

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Ideas For Erotic Hair Tie With Rope

 

Learn how to do a Hair Tie with Ropes in this video!

Learn how to try to be as safe as possible when you put rope bondage in someone’s beautiful hair and learn how to tie it off!

Hair tying with rope is one of our favorites!

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Tickle Orgasms And Everything You Need To Know About It

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 Tickle Orgasms And Everything You Need To Know About It

 

Have you heard of tickle orgasms or the arousal a person will feel when being tickled? If this is your first time hearing about it, don’t worry – you’re not the only one. As much as knismolagnia, the official name of tickle orgasm, is just another kink that someone might enjoy. We have rarely heard about this term or even discussed it among our friends while casually conversating about sex. 

Tickling Fetish

Tickling is a form of stimulation that is produced by a light touch on one of the sensitive areas of the body. Such as armpits, collar bones, stomach, ribs, feet, inner thighs, behind the knees and elbows, etc. When talking about sexual fetishes. Tickling can play only a part of the sexual art or it can be the entire play. Also, tickling fetish can also be enjoyed even if there is no nudity or overt sexual activity. 

Those who have this particular fetish can achieve orgasm just from tickling alone. In other words, there is no other stimulation needed to have an orgasm. Besides getting tickled to have an orgasm, there are people who are being turned on when tickling other people or just watching them getting tickled. 

If you want to take your tickling fetish a step further. You can even use props such as feathers, vibrators, electrical current. Or something else that might enhance this stimulation. Depending on how you want to express and practice your kink. You can choose from a variety of options and decide whether you will use it just as foreplay or you want to reward your sexual partner with an orgasm. 

Tickle Or Fetish?

To respond to that question, we’ll need to first go back to the definition of fetish. It is when a person or object has a deeper meaning for someone and becomes part of its favorite sexual experiences. In some cases, they are absolutely required for a person to climax. Tickling in its nature is not so different from foreplay. However, what makes it fetish as it occurs in sexual scenarios and it leads to sexual pleasure. Simply put, a tickling fetish means you get turned on when someone tickles you or vice versa.

In psychology, having a tickling fetish is considered atypical behavior. However, it is more than usual and completely normal for a person to experience this feeling. And sensations that come with it. 

Tickling & Sexual Pleasure

Now, let’s explore the tickling fetish a bit more if we want to find the answer to why some people feel sexual pleasure from getting tickled. If you’re to ask a person with knismolagnia what turns them on, a common response would be related to laughter. When a person is being entertained by another person’s actions so hard that they can’t help themself to laugh. It’s quite sexy and doesn’t seem like anything awkward, right? 

The other common reason is the arousal that comes from the physical sensation. In other words, tickling will get people turned on because this sensation is pleasurable for them. We can’t also avoid the fact that tickling involves the body’s largest organ, the skin. 

Tickling fetish is also quite common in the BDSM world where ticklers might enjoy the feeling of dominance and the ability to make the tickled squirm, and the tickler might feel helpless. For instance, the dominant partner might use blindfolds and restraints to improve that powerless element and add more passion into the game. Speaking from the tickled’s perspective, if they are tickle-averse. They can even relish the aspect of torture that being tickled brings for someone who is completely restrained from moving. 

Is Tickling Fetish Common? 

Just like the majority of fetishes, it’s difficult to determine whether a certain fetish is common or not because they were never documented in a scientific way. Even with surveys on sex, we cannot rely on people telling the complete truth about their sexual activities and preferences due to many factors such as stigma, taboo, and shame. 

However, if you were to look up the term ‘tickle porn’ on the Internet, you will find more than 600,000 results. Which kind of implies that the fetish is more common than you’d think. There are even dating sites created specifically for people that share this fetish and want to meet other people who would love to experience a tickle orgasm. 

How Safe Is It? 

There is really a small chance of being at any risk when getting tickled. Especially because there are no fluids exchanged between the partners. More importantly, neither of the partners will be permanently scarred or damaged from the tickling fetish. Of course, there might be some reflexes involved that might come as a body’s natural response to being exposed to tickling. Yet these things happen quite rarely as both partners give their consent on exploring tickling in the sexual concept. 

When even talking about more serious consequences, there have been only a small number of cases of death by laughter. What’s important to note here is that neither of these people who are a part of this statistics has actually died because of the laughter. Being in poor health was the reason for their death. So it’s safe to say that you cannot die of laughing too much or too hard. 

If a person is laughing too much for more than usual, they might faint or it might trigger cataplexy, a lack of ability to move your muscles. As it is with everything, try to not take it too far. If you enjoy tickling or getting tickled, be conscious of it, and instead of testing the boundaries. Remind yourself that you’re doing it for the incredible sexual pleasure and great orgasm that will follow. Going to the extreme will rarely produce more sexual pleasure, so keep it modest, yet funky! After all, we are talking about tickling!

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

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Your Ultimate Guide To Love Language Gifts

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Your Ultimate Guide To Love Language Gifts

 

Whenever we start a new relationship, we’re starting to learn a new language, and finding love language gifts for them during the holiday season is not as easy as it seems. Regardless of it, becoming fluent in your loved one’s love language is crucial to having a quality relationship. 

Understanding that your love language is not the same as the love language of your partner will save you a lot of headaches and provide you with so many benefits. Your partner might want more cuddling or more spontaneous experiences, so providing them with exactly what they need will set great foundations for your relationship and ensure you’re both enjoying it. 

To help you become fluent in your partner’s love language, we’ve decided to go over the best love language gifts you can surprise them with and enhance the connection between you as a couple. Make sure you go through all of them as you will surely find a lot of valuable information for your relationship. 

Quality Time

When talking about quality time, if this is something that your partner enjoys the most, you should focus more one on another. This means more than just finding time to do things together will not be enough because they want quality over quantity. For instance, if you already live together, why not surprise your partner with a road trip to the countryside? You can bring food and a bottle of wine and organize a picnic in a nice, quiet place with a great view?

Depending on your partner’s preferences, you can prepare anything they would like. It can be a hike in the woods, a visit to the museum, a weekend getaway to the closest island, signing in for a class or a workshop, or going to the movies. It really depends on what your partner needs at that moment and what will make them happy the most. 

Personalized Gift Cards

If you go and buy a gift card for your partner, how thoughtful would that be? In reality, you should spend time thinking about what would be a good gift for your partner, and what’s a better way than making personalized gifts? You can create personalized gift cards with a bunch of ideas that will make them feel great while going through the cards. 

From having a card for ‘a chores-free week’ where you would do all the chores so they can relax more to the one that’s saying ‘romantic dinner prepared just for you’, which would imply that you will prepare the dinner and you two would have a quiet, romantic night together. You can write whatever you want on these personalized gift cards as long as it has value for your partner. 

Verbal Support

If this is the love language of your partner, it means they will need a lot of verbal support from you and other people to thrive in their lives. Your partner will need compliments from you to feel like they are appreciated, loved, and safe, especially in difficult moments. So, to love your partner the right way and speak his love language, you will need to be supportive with your words. 

Tell them every day how much you love them and how much they mean to you. When they are talking about the challenges they are facing in their everyday life, make sure they know you believe in them and want to see them succeed in anything that is relevant to them. You can do so by sending them a card with kind, thoughtful words or even a text to help them start their day with confidence. 

More Cuddling & Touching

There are many people who need a lot of physical touch in a relationship and if you’re not one of them and your partner is, you will need to remind yourself frequently to speak their love language. This means you will need to stay a few minutes more in the bed before going to work and cuddle with them. This also means you will watch your favorite shows or movies and hug and kiss each other. 

One of the most intimate physical experiences for a couple is definitely sex, so try to always look at it as something more than just physical activity as it’s so vital for the connection between the partners. Whatever you choose to do more often to ensure your partner’s love language is spoken often in your relationship, never touch, kiss, hug, or have sex with them just because you think you have to do it as they will understand if the act comes from love or something completely else. 

Acts of Service

You don’t have to wait for a special date like an anniversary or a birthday to do something nice for your partner. Small things are what counts in serious, long-term relationships and how you both are making each other’s life more easier and enjoyable. So, if this is the love language of your partner, why not help them with small chores or run a few errands for them?

For instance, if your partner is working long hours, why not help them by preparing dinner for them and having a lovely evening when they come home? Or, why not organize their office if they work from home so they can be more productive? It can be even little things that show how much you love them, such as preparing them coffee or taking the trash out even though you’ve agreed it will be their chore in the house. 

Wrap Up 

There are many love languages, and your partner might speak some of them and others not. You might even have the same love language or you can have completely different needs to feel loved. It really shouldn’t affect your relationship negatively as long as you understand what your partner needs and provide them with it as much as you can.

After all, to love someone means to make them happy and help them to become the best version of themselves. Your love language should only be used with you, not with your partner, so once you do something nice for them, they will be motivated to do the same and strengthen your relationship even more. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.