Sex Games for Couples

Advanced Sex Games for Couples

Advanced Sex Games for Couples

 

It’s time to have some fun and talk about easy sex games for couples you can use to keep things new and playful with your partners!

We’re all stressed out right now. Most of us are quarantined at home, worried about the coronavirus and the latest news on shutdowns and phased openings. Frankly, it can be overwhelming. When stress enters our lives, it distracts us from what we should be focused on. That includes the people we love and those we want to have sex with!

In my time with clients during the pandemic, sometimes the little problems or inequalities in our sexual relationships become larger. One person wants sex all of the time to take their mind off what’s going on, and another partner isn’t thinking about sex because they’re trying to hold it all together.

Sex games are the perfect way to lighten the mood and connect with your partner on a different level than what you’re accustomed to.

Here are some Kink/BDSM games and tantra tips that you can use immediately to shake things up.

 

What Is Kink and BDSM?

BDSM is thought of as a kinky and non-traditional sexual activity. 

What’s non-traditional, you might ask? 

As a long-time sex therapist, I probably have a different idea of what “normal” sex looks like than most people.

I think everyone has some type of kink, whether it be a sexual fantasy, a certain type of body shape, or some sexual power dynamic that really gets them off. I’m here to say, that’s totally OK!

Exploring your kink means you’re diving into what sex can do for you and how you feel the best with yourself and your sexual partners. Everyone’s into something, just most people are not into everything.

BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) is the intersection where power dynamics and sexuality meet. Yes, there are typically toys and props like whips, chains, leashes, and other things involved. Some people love being tied up. Those are merely props. The main thing is the intention and the power play at work with the people having sex.

 

Sex Games for Couples New to BDSM

If you’re exploring your kink and want to give BDSM a try, here’s a game for you. It’s a fun and light game that will help introduce the idea of being powerful at times and submissive at others. What it involves is writing down certain parts of your body like back, lips, nipples, or thighs.

Then, on a different set of papers, you write out certain actions like a blow, suck, lick, or caress. Get creative! You and your partner take turns pulling one item from each list. So, you might get lick – nipples, and then have to lick your partner's nipples and so forth.

The BDSM part is you allowing your partner to have the power as you submit to their sexual act and vice versa.

 

Who’s Calling the Shots?

Flipping the switch with who’s in charge during sex is another fun BDSM game that will ease you into the dominant/submissive world. It’s a simple concept.

At one- or two-minute intervals, you and your partner flip a coin to decide who is calling the shots. When you’re in charge, anything goes, and the same goes for when your partner’s boss. Of course, you should agree to some boundaries before playing with BDSM, so you both can feel safe exploring your sexuality.

 

Getting Deeper Into the BDSM World

As you become more comfortable in the BDSM world, you can start to introduce props into sex. Things like blindfolds, chains, ropes, whips, and other props sharpen the physical and emotional power dynamic during sex.

One great game to play with props is to tie your partner up and blindfold them, making them totally under your control. You can use vibrators to tantalize and tease them, slowing or speeding the pace of how turned on they are.

How far you’ll go will depend on your and your partner’s kink level. As you mess around with humiliation and degradation, you open yourself to new sexual experiences.

 

What Is Tantra?

Tantra is Sanskrit for weaving the energy between lovers. It emphasizes a very deep level of physical and emotional sexual connection.

Breathing is a big part of tantra. It’s the number one thing you need to be mindful of when you’re practicing tantric sex. You want it to be cyclical. In through the nose, out through the mouth.

Sound also plays a big role. When I went to the Hawaii Tantra Festival, I realized how important sound is in sex. Different sounds elicit different reactions. We use different voices with friends, children, and pets, so why not our sexual partners?

Pay attention to the noises you make during sex. Why are you keeping your voice down? Do you feel comfortably letting out a loud moan when a touch fills you up? Explore the sounds you make. The sexual experience includes grunts, moans, requests, and make the sounds we want to.

 

Tantra Sex Games for Couples

Tantra games start early. You can begin by being touchy and flirty on a date or early in the day as you let your partner know you’re up for some fun later on. Here are a few fun tantric sex activities to try.

Massages - A massage table and some high-quality oils are a great way to teach each other how you like to be touched. You can lay your partner on the bed or the massage table and caress their body slowly with oils.

Your hands can eventually find their way to your partner’s breasts, vagina, or penis as the massage continues. You can even use your body instead of your hands for the massage. Climb up on the bed or table and, as you straddle over your partner, rub them with your chest, abdomen, and legs.

Eventually, you and your partner won’t be able to stand it anymore and you’ll move straight into some amazing, oily sex.

Striptease – Switch up the sexual routine by ordering your partner to lay on the bed and face you. Stand at the foot of the bed and begin to move side to side as you take off your clothing piece by piece. Extra points if you turn on some music to set the mood and already have on some sexy underwear before things heat up.

Finger Tracing – Grab your partner’s hands and show them where you like to be touched. Spend at least ten minutes guiding their hands around your arms, neck, thighs, butt, and other places that turn you on. Teach them, as you control your breathing, how to stimulate you and ask them to do the same for you.

Sex games for couples offer so much fun and pleasure for everyone. Learn the art of scheduling time for pleasure to take mood out of the game. When both of you know what’s on the table for sex, it makes offering consent and buy-in easier. Stop living with the idea that arousal lives outside of yourself and accept responsibility for your pleasure.

Ultimately, it will make sex games more rewarding and create an incredibly strong sexual bond between you and your partner.

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.


drunk sex

7 Reasons to Be Sick & Tired of Having Drunk Sex!

7 Reasons to Be Sick & Tired of Having Drunk Sex!

 

Fictional Tim has spent the last few weeks trying to meet girls online. After messing around with the usual dating apps, he’s got a couple of matches and finds the courage to ask one of them out. He doesn’t want it to be too formal, so he proposes they meet for drinks.

On their date, things go incredibly! There’s chemistry and Tim is feeling like there’s a chance for some romance. He’s nervous, though, so he drinks a lot to get rid of his anxiety and any inhibitions.           

Things progress, and they end up spending the night together. Tim remembers it was fun and felt good. He wants to meet again. He wants to ask her out again, and he goes with what worked last time. They meet for drinks again and the whole scene plays out again.

 

We’ve All Been There Before

Take out Tim’s name and you can probably substitute all of ours in there. Drinks and dating go together like peas and carrots. It’s been like that forever. And there’s no denying it. Getting tipsy can be the difference between having sex and going home alone if you’re shy or lack confidence.

Plus, drinking is entwined in our social interactions that it’s everywhere. It’s almost strange if you don’t drink.

If you feel like you’re relying on alcohol to get laid, then that’s something you may want to address. Additionally, it’s stopping you from having GREAT sex. Here are 7 reasons you should be sick and tired of having drunk sex.

 

  1. Lack of Real Connection

This is the first reason and probably the most important one. When you’re drunk, you’re essentially putting a cap on how emotionally intense sex can be. That’s fine if you just want to get your rocks off, and hey, sex is still fun no matter what.

If you’re looking for mind-bending, life-changing sex, then alcohol’s not going to get you there. Being drunk numbs your senses. It also robs you of some of the intense emotions that come along with getting to sex in the first place.

Trust me, the juice is worth the squeeze. Let yourself feel those emotions. Sex is so much better with the buildup and when you’re totally present.

 

  1. You Might Settle

Getting drunk and going out is a phase most people go through. It’s normal. Sooner or later, you’re going to want to start setting the bar a bit higher for who gets in your pants.

Using too much alcohol and having drunk sex leave room for you to settle for people you normally wouldn’t hook up with. It’s easier to excuse poor decision making because, after all, you’re drunk!

Staying clearheaded will help you make better decisions about who you want to have sex with. You’re more likely to get involved with people who lift you up and you’re attracted to rather than saying, “whatever” at the end of a drunken night.

 

  1. When Lines Get Crossed

Drunk people can be more aggressive and slower to read social cues. No big deal if you’re out with friends in a completely safe environment. What about having sex with someone you’ve recently started dating?

Sex without substances is already an intricate interplay of verbal, physical, and emotional signals. It’s a fun dance that people play with flirting, light touching, kissing, and eventually sex. Boundaries get murky when you’re drunk.

In the extreme, your safety can be at risk. Under more common circumstances you and your partner could take each other’s comfort for granted, and that’s important when you’re having sex.

 

  1. Performance Issues

Even though you get the benefit of feeling more open and talkative when you’re drunk, it can come back to bite you when it’s time to have sex. Alcohol has frozen many a penis in its tracks when the moment arrives. Getting drunk affects the sexual anatomy.

Whether it’s the inability to hold an erection or failure to orgasm, drunk sex affects sexual performance. The effects can be good and bad, sometimes it’s a roll of the dice. Might as well avoid the drunk sex to give yourself a better shot.

 

  1. What Happened?

Alcohol fogs memories and makes you forget. A lot of people say they can’t remember many of the details of a drunken sexual encounter. If they’re REALLY drunk, they may not remember it happening at all.

Aside from being dangerous, what fun is it? Your sexual scoreboard might be running up, that’s about it. Skipping the booze will make sure you know what’s happening at the moment and can remember the great sex you had last night, last weekend, and last year. Those are the best kind of memories.

 

  1. Regret

“Was the person I slept with last night attractive? Did I use protection? Did I get taken advantage of?”

People who have drunk sex often report higher levels of anxiety and even guilt after the fact. They worry about the aftereffects of sex, even if it’s with someone they know.

It’s also easy to find your standards slipping when you’re drunk. Saying no to sex without protection is harder after several drinks. People have one-night stands they wouldn’t have otherwise had, cross sexual boundaries with friends, and other acts that lead to regret.

People who have sex with a drunk partner also often feel regret over the encounter, even if they were sober. They wonder whether it was totally consensual and how their relationship will be impacted in the future.

 

  1. It’s Not as Good Drunk!

Drinks might help you close the deal. Still, drunk sex is nowhere near as fun and fulfilling as sober sex. When you’re drunk, you lose some of your motor functions. You’re slower and clumsier.

Without alcohol, your senses light up and are tuned in on your partner and the moment. You and your partner can give each other better feedback on where to touch, how fast, how hard, and more. Orgasms are more intense, and the experience is more real.

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.


dealing with anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety During Sex

Dealing with Anxiety During Sex

 

Some people are dealing with anxiety while they are having sex and it isn’t anything to be concerned about. 

Actually, dealing with anxiety, especially while in the bedroom, is more common than you think! 

Looking into places like AASECT, you will see there are thousands of sex therapists nationally certified to help you while you are dealing with anxiety. 

I’m going to tell you my favorite method, and as a psychotherapist, something that truly helps you. 

 

Deepening Emotional Knowledge: 

🔻Do you find it difficult to get the kind of pleasure you desire or hear about? 

🔻How often does dealing with anxiety during sex keep you from climax? 

🔻Are others around you trying to repress or express their emotions on you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable? 

🔻Do you ever feel triggered by a situation, yet only when trying to experience orgasm with a partner? 

dealing with anxiety

Not understanding how to manage your emotions can prevent pleasure on multiple levels. 

Dealing with anxiety during sex can literally can rob you of an orgasm. 

Noticing your emotions and the way your TONE of voice affects others around you when you are feeling different emotions is important aspect for pleasure within partnered sex.

If there is a perception of shame, blame, or denigration in your voice because you are feeling sad or fearful or pressured, your tone is still your responsibility to address on the impact it has - especially in partnered sex. 

It is delicate and intimate, thus we want to be tender and gracious to those around us, so we can strengthen the bond. 

If you don’t know how to feel your emotions fully, OR if you don’t know how to handle emotional intensity without breaking into tears, it’s time to understand your own emotional intelligence. 

FIRST, learning to notice emotions and where they are in the body. 

This skillset goes beyond learning just the emotional names though. 

Not only will you learn to name emotions, you will have to integrate emotional intelligence into your daily life and into your body. 

We cannot talk about sex without discussing the body. 

Instead of speeding up the sex, let’s learn to slow it down. 

Instead of having mood based sex, where you are looking for your desire to lead the sex, look for your mind, body, and emotions to lead to eros of intimacy, which leads to great sex. 

Be mindful of your emotions! dealing with anxiety

Learn to identify them! Draw them out in your body! 

    • Fear - lets you know to slow down. Lets you know that there is possible danger. 
    • Anger - lets us know that a boundary has been crossed. That we need to renegotiate a limit.
    • Sadness - lets us know that something is important. It tells us that we are feeling a loss.
    • Joy - lets us know that something is nourishing for us. 

 

No matter if you are single, or have been married for 30 years… there is work to be done often that began in your childhood or younger years. 

Instead of being told to suppress or express your emotions onto others, this is a reclamation of consciousness and self-awareness. 

As we get older, we are able to have more autonomy, and more integrity. 

When we choose to notice our emotions, our tone, and our impact on others, we begin to have new experiences.  

When we bring emotions like overwhelmed, tired, regretful, scared, or annoyed to the bedroom, your body responds to pleasure differently. 

Similarly, if you are dehydrated or hungry, your body will respond differently. Each part of you (the mind, body, soul, AND your emotions) all have a part to play in the connection. 

 

🔥 Emotional understanding is part of having awesome experiences - interpersonally and erotically. 🔥

 

If you are dealing with anxiety during sex, we know that we can help you. 

This is a speciality that some clinicians do not understand, yet we can help! 

Let us show you how! 

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.

 


bdsm

TAKE A BDSM TEST! BDSM for Couples!

TAKE A BDSM TEST! BDSM for Couples!

 

Have you ever taken a BDSM Test? 

I often compare sex to restaurant menu options. 

How boring would it be for some of you to go to a restaurant with only three or four items on the menu? 

Even if they all tasted excellent, eventually you may get tired of going there. 

Even the best meal can lose its luster if eaten too often.

What you want out of restaurants is options usually, especially if you’re going with someone else. 

There needs to be enough on the menu to offer enough choice for both of you without being overwhelming. The best restaurant owners and chefs obsess over their menus, trying to find the best mix of dishes to suit their clientele.

The same can be said of sex. 

One of the biggest issues couples deal with is when sex gets a bit dull. 

You use the same positions and even have sex on the same one or two days of the week. 

If either of you tries to add something to the “menu,” it feels awkward, like it’s not part of the scheduled programming.

What you need to consider is to open up the menu and to find something new that excites you. 

A BDSM test entices your sexuality into a new realm of feeling and being. 

That’s where BDSM for couples comes in.

 

Entering the World of BDSM for Couples

Experimenting with BDSM is like going to an infinite smorgasbord, where there are limitless options and you can choose what you put on your plate. The food is the different roleplays, props, positions, and other sexual dynamics.

Your kink is your appetite, it’s what decides what you are hungry for and what foods will fill you up.

One of my greatest joys as a sex therapist is helping people embrace their kink - especially after taking a BDSM test.

There are many negative connotations around the word “kink” that go back to puritan roots where thinking or talking about sex, or even feeling sexual were somehow mislabeled as wrong.

Recognizing your kink and using BDSM with your partners is the fastest way to more enjoyable, exciting sex that you can spend a lifetime exploring.

You might be into edgeplay, some sort of fetish, cuckolding, impact play, bondage, or queening. BDSM is a magical world where you get to break into a new understanding of what sex is emotionally and physically.

 

Some Things to Try!

BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) outlines only the foundation of kinky sex. Under the BDSM umbrella you can find a vast spectrum of sexual interests and behavior. Even if you feel like you already know what your kink is, toying with other aspects of BDSM can be incredibly fun and sexually rewarding! Here are some things to try.

 

Zentai Suits:

Japanese sexual culture is heavy into the BDSM scene. Zentai is a skintight bodysuit made from nylon or spandex that covers your whole body. People use it because they love the tight feel of the material around them and the fact that it delays sexual gratification. After all, it makes movement and sensations more restricted.

 

Edgeplay:

Edgeplay refers to some of the kinkier sex out there. Everyone’s idea of edgeplay will be different because their risk tolerance varies. For some people it may mean dripping hot wax on nipples or bare stomachs. Others even bring knife play into the bedroom. Choking is also common in BDSM for couples. The main thing you want to do with edgeplay is take it slowly and make sure you’re doing it with someone cautious and knows what they’re doing.

Tied Up Sex

 

Shibari:

This refers to the Japanese erotic art of knot tying. Partners use a system of intricate knots and positions to play out dominant and submissive sexual fantasies. The great thing about Shibari is that, as you explore this type of sex play, you can learn new knots and methods to level up as you go.

 

Orgasm Denial:

Used to control a partner's sexual anticipation, orgasm denial offers incredible sexual buildup. If you’ve ever delayed an orgasm purposely, you know that when you do finally climax, it’s more intense and lasts longer. This is typically referred to as edging, not to be confused with edgeplay. Taken further, edging to become complete orgasm denial, where the dominant partner gets to decide when, where, and how the submissive gets to experience climax. This can get extremely hot the longer it goes as anticipation builds and builds.

 

Painslut:

Some people want sex to hurt, and some people want to hurt their partners. As with any other type of sexual encounter, consent here is very important. However, if it’s your kink, it’s your kink, and hopefully, you’ll find someone willing and capable of making the spanking, hair pulling, stepping, or whatever you’re into work!

 

Before You Begin BDSM for Couples

You, and whoever you’re having sex with, need to make sure you set boundaries before engaging in any sort of kink. The goal is to make sure both of you feel comfortable with what’s happening and can communicate when it’s ok to proceed, and also when either of you feel uncomfortable. Giving and acknowledging consent should drive everything you do together.

Additionally, aftercare is a huge part of BDSM for couples. As you push the envelope with sex, you’ll likely experience new sensations and emotions. Those often take time to process.

Imagine being spanked for the first time and feeling pain during sex. While exhilarating, you and your partner should spend some time cuddling and reaffirming each other after sex is over to re-center. It also is a way you and your partner can validate each other in your kink.

Sometimes we feel apprehensive about expressing our innermost sexual identity for fear of judgment or rejection. Some hugging and reassuring kisses go a long way in communicating acceptance.

Don’t wait any longer to embrace your kink! There’s so much out there waiting for you in the sexual world. We’re all wonderful sexual beings full of potential. As you experiment with BDSM and power dynamics in sex, you’ll learn more about yourself, experience more pleasure, and have some amazing sex!

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.


Signs of Insecurity

11 Signs of Insecurity that Turn Others Off

11 Signs of Insecurity that Turn Others Off

 

I'm going to teach you the most common signs of insecurity.

Everyone is insecure about something. No matter how confident you are, there’s always that one thing someone can say that will send you reeling back into past trauma whether all of a sudden you’re back in high school being teased or thrown into a memory of being rejected by a crush.

For most people, building confidence is a lifelong pursuit. We learn, bit by bit, to do things like not be overly self-deprecating, maintain good eye contact, and how to overcome self-doubt. It’s not easy. As the saying goes, nothing worth doing is, right?

The process of building confidence and defeating insecurity means we have to try to take out our insecurities one by one.

There are things you do right now, probably without even knowing it, that turn others off to you. They communicate the wrong message. Getting it right is important, especially if it’s someone you want to turn on! Let’s take a look at 11 signs of insecurity and what you can do to correct them.

 

1.Body Negativity

Almost everyone has some part of their body they feel insecure about. Many of my female-bodied clients are worried about the shape of their breasts and thighs. There’s so much pressure to look a certain way, it’s no wonder so many of us lack confidence.

We all need to work on being body positive. That means you need to be proud of your body! Your body is part of what makes you who you are. You’ll be surprised how feeling good on the outside can change the way you feel inside.

You can start working toward body positivity by focusing on your strengths. Use affirmations as a way to emphasize your beautiful hair, gorgeous eyes, or some other feature you love.

Signs of Insecurity 

2.Rejecting Praise

Knowing how to receive a compliment is part of being confident. For some reason, insecure people often try to deflect or dismiss praise. It’s as if you don’t want to believe there’s something praiseworthy about you.

What you think is being humble can be a turn off to others. It’s as if you’re rejecting their compliment or even their attempts to flirt or express interest.

If you find yourself shying away from compliments, focus on changing your response. Start with a simple, “Thank you,” if that’s all you can manage. Another great method is to say thanks and return a compliment.

 

3.Making a Bad First Impression

Not “caring” about how you come off when you meet people one of the most common signs of insecurity. People who lack confidence often try to mask it with ambivalence. However, it’s a massive turnoff social, professional, and romantic relationships.

People you meet will take it to mean either you’re not confident in yourself or that you simply don’t care. Both aren’t great.

Whether you’re meeting a first date, going for a job interview, or meeting your partner’s family for the first time, put in some effort to communicate confidence in who you are and what you look like.

Wear clothes that fit you – go on YouTube and look up videos on clothes that fit different body shapes. Feeling good is important on a first date. Make it look like you put in a little effort. You want to look like someone who cares.

 

 

4.Poor Eye Contact

Poor eye contact is one of the signs of insecurity easiest to spot. It’s hard to disguise your inability to meet someone’s gaze. It may also nonverbally tell someone you’re genuinely interested in that you aren’t. Poor eye contact can also be a sign someone has suffered trauma in the past.

Practicing maintaining eye contact to develop the habit. This is something that can be learned. You can give it a try in front of the mirror or with friends you trust. Just don’t overdo it or you’ll end up scaring people off! It’s a good rule of thumb to hold eye contact for a few seconds and then look away before returning.

 

 

5.Automatically Assuming Something Negative

There are enough negative people out there in the world. It’s a turnoff when people always assume the worst. The person you date, people you work with, your friends, and your family want to be surrounded by positive people with bright outlooks.

The people you spend time with are going to have the biggest influence on your life. That means you should be around people who lift you and are striving for good outcomes.

Review conversations you have to analyze whether you were being overly pessimistic. Start correcting negative thoughts in your head, and eventually it will change the way you speak and act.

 

 

6.Easily Offended

People who are easily offended are that way because they lack confidence in the face of other people’s opinions. It’s one of the signs of insecurity that is most obvious. People with poor self-image try to avoid attention on their behavior by constantly going on the attack. Either that or they’re overly sensitive to constructive feedback from friends, family, or lovers.

If you find yourself quickly moving into defensive mode, then spend some time reflecting on how you come across. Instead of reacting rashly, instead, ask probing questions to discover how other people feel.

 

 

7.Difficulty Talking About Sex

One of the signs of insecurity in a relationship is Discomfort talking about sex. When you lack confidence in something, you’re quick to change the subject or shut down someone’s attempts at digging under the surface. I meet with clients who struggle to talk about sex because they’re unsure of what they want or feel performance anxiety around sex.

To overcome insecurity around talking about sex, try to create conditions where you feel safe discussing intimacy. Removing anything that makes you feel threatened or overwhelmed will help facilitate conversations.

Talking about sex is so important in a successful relationship. You need to be able to express your sexual needs and understand what your partner needs as well.

 

 

8.Avoiding Sex

Some people avoid sex altogether to hide their insecurity. They say things like they don’t enjoy sex or it’s not particularly fun for them.

I find that many times this happens because they feel anxiety over their lack of sexual inexperience, or they may have suffered trauma in the past that’s inhibiting their ability to enjoy sex.

If you feel insecure about having sex or feeling turned on by your partner, meeting with a sex therapist can help. I give my clients the psychosexual therapy exercises they use to relax and open the door to enjoy sexual experiences.

Signs of Insecurity 

 

9.Being Passive in Bed

Insecure people are often passive in bed. They wait for their partner to make the first move or take the initiative at every turn. Not only is this a turnoff, it’s also no fun!

When insecure people hear that they should be more active in bed, many of them interpret that as their partner saying they should put on a show. Like they’ll only be happy if you install a stripper pole before you have sex the next time.

In reality, your partner likely wants to be equal partners in your sexual relationship. They want you engaged because it communicates to them that you love and desire them.

 

 

10.Codependence

Codependence is the result of insecurity and it perpetuates other people’s poor behavior. You make your needs subservient to someone else’s needs and then become resentful.

I work with people to transition their codependent relationship into an interdependent one, where both of you are meeting each other’s needs on equal footing.

 

 

11.You Struggle with Trust

Do you sneak looks into your partner’s phone while they’re not looking? Are you suspicious of their relationships with other people? Difficulty trusting people is a major sign of insecurity. It’s you simply yelling that you think you’re not good enough for your partner, so you have to constantly follow-up on their activities. Who did they talk to and where were they?

This can be very trying for any partner in a relationship.

Rather than constantly worry about what your partner is doing and with whom, try to grow your social circle to fill your time with something else. When you pursue your passions, you’ll become more confident and start to realize that anyone you’re with is lucky to have you.

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

 

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

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Grapefruit Technique

The Grapefruit Technique

The Grapefruit Technique

 

Have you heard of The Grapefruit Technique in Bed?

Maybe it has been a while since you’ve been a little freaky, and you have a feeling that your partner feels things are a bit stale in your sexual techniques lately?

We all fall into sexual doldrums from time to time. Work, family, or just life, in general, gets to us. 

We feel like we can barely make it into bed much less put on a show.

You don’t have to go wild in bed every time you have sex. 

Sometimes though, you need to do something new to juice up the sex life a bit… so: the grapefruit technique.

I meet with people all the time that want more out of sex, and they don’t know where to start. 

Well, this blog is for the adventurer in you. 

This is a quick guide to something called the grapefruit technique, brought to us by Angel, otherwise known as the “Grapefruit Lady.” If your partner’s got a penis, this is something fun that is sure to blow their mind.

 

The Setup

Anytime old friends get together, they talk about sex. How much they’re getting, if it’s good, what they wish would happen, who’s the hottest, what’s the craziest thing they’ve done, and anything else you can think of. Don’t believe whatever your partner tells you. If they’re hanging around friends, sex is on the table.

One of the time-tested sex topics is a preference between oral sex and intercourse. What feels better, getting head or getting inside?

What if you could find a way to make it feel like you’re doing both at the same time? With the grapefruit technique, that’s exactly what you’ll get.

First, you’re going to need a grapefruit. Oh, you thought this was just a name for something else? No, you need an actual grapefruit.Grapefruit Technique

Now, if your partner is allergic to grapefruit for any reason, skip it and buy a large orange or something comparable.

Cut a hole in the middle of the grapefruit that’s approximately the size of your partner’s penis. Again, you should have a good idea of how big they are. This isn’t exactly something you want to bust out on the first night.

Just before you’re ready for sex, place the grapefruit under your bed where you can reach it. Your partner will probably think you have some scented candle burning or an oil diffuser on.

 

The Get Down

 

You must get your partner blindfolded before you bring the grapefruit out. The element of surprise is important here. Your partner may be resistant to the idea of having a grapefruit rubbed all over their penis, so get the blindfold on them and lay them down.

Trust me, practically no partner will ever reject the idea of being blindfolded by their lover. If you haven’t tried it yet, put it on your list immediately.

Once the blindfold is on, lay your partner on the bed and get started doing what you do. Give your best blow job intro to get them hard, then reach under the bed and pull out the grapefruit.

Slide it over their penis and move it up and down with your hand in sync with your mouth. Your partner’s not going to believe what they’re feeling. How can they be getting an incredible blowjob and feel like they’re inside of you at the same time?

After you’ve been going for a while, feel free to take the blindfold off to give them a view of what’s happening. Now the grapefruit is going to be a pleasant surprise instead of too much to handle.

You can bet they’re going to be asking for it again soon.

There’s good news for the giver as well! Grapefruit is probably going to make giving head more fun and tastier than ever.

 

Keep It Playful

The grapefruit technique is just one example of ways you can mix it up in bed to keep your sex life interesting and fresh. Life’s too short to worry about how you’ll look or what they’ll think. Break free from prudish thinking and push the limits of your sexual boundaries.

Break out the handcuffs, buy a sexy outfit, start roleplaying, get some toys. Do whatever you think would be fun to try. Inserting flirty games into your relationship lets your partner see more of your sexual side, and they’ll feel more comfortable about expressing themselves too.

The grapefruit technique is awesome because it’s a sexual tool that’s fun and feels great. That’s a great combo. If anything, else, you can laugh at trying without taking yourself too seriously. Odds are, though, your partner is going to remember it forever. It may even be the topic of the next meet up between friends.  Your partners’ friends are going to go home begging their spouses and lovers to get to the market and buy some grapefruits.

 

Lean on Your Sex Therapist for Advice

Sex therapy is all about this type of exploration. While we do also focus on overcoming past sexual trauma and relationship issues that get in the way of sexual fulfillment, we spend a lot of time helping you become the sexual being you’re meant to be!

Talk to your therapist about fun ways to mix things up with your partner. Break out of your routine with easy steps we can provide you.

All it takes is a sense of adventure combined with our training and expertise to take you to the next level. Soon, you’ll be having the best sex of your life. The best part is that as you hand out sexual favors to your partner, you’re going to get the payback soon enough.

He’ll be thinking long and hard about how to one-up you on the grapefruit technique. Who knows what that’ll be? We’d love to find out!

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

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5 Ways to Decrease Orgasm Anxiety – For All Genders

5 Ways to Decrease Orgasm Anxiety – For All Genders

 

Orgasm anxiety happens all the time at work, on stages, sales pitches, and a million other meetings where something’s on the line. We all react to pressure differently.

For many reasons, a lot of people experience this kind of stage fright when it comes to sexual encounters. Maybe it’s happened to you before. You meet someone you’re interested in, things click, you progress along the intimacy scale, and eventually find yourselves in bed together.

Suddenly, when it’s time to “shine,” you can’t pull it off and orgasm anxiety spikes. 

Your partner assures you that it’s no big deal. 

Still, it’s awkward all the same. 

Don’t agonize too much over it, as we’ve all been there.

Orgasm anxiety is a real thing, and it’s not always what you think. 

Unfortunately, there’s a stigma around failure to orgasm. 

For some people, it threatens to shatter the image they portray of masculinity or femininity. Often, we EXPECT the person we are with to be more like a porn star than a human. 

Sex without orgasm can also be taken as a signal that you weren’t, “into it”, and your partner will quietly wonder if a rejection is on the horizon. Sex is a complicated, messy ice cream sundae, and orgasms are the cherry on top.

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Sexing While Stressing

Your mind can be your worst enemy when it comes to sex. You can hype yourself too much or psych yourself out of the moment. All of a sudden, we find ourselves in the middle of a pandemic. People initially thought being stuck at home would trigger a huge baby boom. Everyone would be having massive amounts of sex!

The evidence indicates the opposite is happening. People are losing their jobs, worried about markets, and watching people they love fall ill. Everyone’s stressed out, and no one’s having sex.

While we’re all justifiably worried about what’s next, we must control what we can in our immediate circles. Sex, of course, is a proven stress-reliever. It can help you lower blood pressure and release endorphins to lift your mood and improve your health.

Overcoming orgasm anxiety will help you feel better about initiating sex and enjoy it more while it’s happening. Here are five ways to decrease orgasm anxiety you can try.

 

  1.   Take It Slow

Have you ever been watching porn when the first clip you come across is just the one? The people are beautiful, the scene looks great, it’s amateur porn and that’s what you’re into.

You start doing your thing, trying to get there, and you just can’t. No matter how hard or fast you go, you can’t get over the mountain.

When you’re anxious about having an orgasm, you’re more likely to try and come quickly. For that to happen, though, the conditions need to be right.

You’re better off controlling the pace and using a slow build to reach climax. The slower you go, the less you have to force it. Your body does the talking for you.

 

  1. Use a Toy, a Hand, a Mouth, and/or All of the Above

Whoever was handing out the orgasm awards in heaven wasn’t fair. Some people come super easy, and for others, it takes a lot of work. Vaginal orgasms are different than clitoral orgasms and orgasms triggered with anal sex.

Some people can only come when you go down on them, and for others, a vibrator is a must. Don’t get stuck in the self-defeating thinking that you’re broken if you can’t come a certain way. Have fun finding out what makes you cum!

Go on a shopping spree and buy a bunch of lube, vibrators, plugs, and other sex toys and experiment!

For a lot of people, orgasms take a bit of hand stimulation, some oral sex, and then a little of the old-fashioned type to get off. What’s wrong with that?

Orgasm Anxiety

 

  1. Work with Your Therapist

Meet with a sex therapist to work on mechanisms you can use during sex to decrease anxiety. A lot of our clients who have trouble orgasms struggle with mental blocks that prevent climax. It’s not so much that they aren’t being stimulated correctly, it’s that they are stopping themselves from enjoying it.

If you’re thinking about how you look, what your partner is doing, the laundry that needs to be done or whatever else, you may be subconsciously stopping the urge to orgasm. Every individual is, of course, different, and a lot of times distraction during sex is a coping mechanism that deals with whatever hang-ups or anxiety you’re feeling.

A good therapist can help you establish the right mindset before sex and fight back when anxiety starts to creep in.

 

  1. Talk to a Doctor

If you struggle to orgasm, it could be a medical issue. I mean, sexual performance drugs were invented for a reason. There was enough demand that pharmaceutical companies developed the medications.

Just like stress can impact your sexual performance, so can medications you take, weight issues, and depression. Talk to your doctor to see if there’s something you can do to decrease your sexual anxiety without putting your health at risk.

 

  1. Practice!

We’re all in quarantine whether we like it or not, right? Make the effort and shake the dust off. One of the best ways to decrease anxiety related to any activity is to do it over and over again.

“So, what you’re saying is that I should masturbate and have sex as much as I can to decrease orgasm anxiety?” 100% YES!

Having an orgasm, for most people, is like building a house of cards. You have to spend time building a foundation that will get you to the top. A couple of wrong moves during the process will send everything tumbling down.

You need to know what it takes to set the groundwork for a fast orgasm, a delayed orgasm, multiple orgasms, intense orgasms, and however many other types of orgasms there are. Learn your body in and out.

Tell your partner where you want them to touch you. You aren’t there to sit silently while they try to figure things out! Give them a hand and have fun doing it together. Hopefully, it will make our time at home together more entertaining. A little exercise never hurt either.

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.


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How Often Should You Masturbate?

How Often Should You Masturbate?

 

The question "How Often Should You Masturbate?" has probably been entered into Google more times during the Coronavirus than ever before in history. I mean, we’re quarantined, what else are we supposed to do? 

NYC government even went so far as to recommend masturbation, saying that you are your safest sex partner and that masturbation was the surest way not to contract the virus from sex! 

The only caveat being you wash your hands, with soap, regularly… please. 

If you’re someone with high sexual desire, all it takes is a change of the wind, a single fleeting thought floating across your mind to trigger the thought, “Hey, maybe I should get off right now.”

If you’re not so high in desire, you might also be masturbating more than you were pre-pandemic. That’s normal given how much time we have on our hands. After all, there’s only so much Netflix you can watch, right?

Thankfully, masturbation is a godsend for people locked away in quarantine. Especially for our single readers, masturbation can give you a dose of self-love while you abstain from sex with partners due to health concerns.

Is there such a thing as too much masturbation? Let’s take a look!

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The Health Effects of Masturbation

Well, we know for sure that masturbation doesn’t spread STDs, and you won’t get pregnant, so check those boxes.

The main concern with masturbation is self-harm. If you’re masturbating a lot, or if you’re not following a few steps, you can end up chafing your skin or get sore. That’s not that serious, yet it can be uncomfortable.

You want to wank it knowing that there’s the potential to go again another day soon, so make sure you do the following:

 

Wash your hands – keep things as sanitary as possible. Germs or dirt can cause an infection that can last for days.

 

Use Lubricant – Take it easy on your genitals. This will go a long way in preventing sores or redness. It will also feel better and likely will make your orgasms more intense.

 

Pace Yourself if It Hurts – You know your own body, so don’t let your desperation for an orgasm cause you to hurt yourself. Stop masturbating if you start to feel more pain than you’d like.

 

Use a Good Vibrator if You Can – Get a quality sex toy that will take you over the edge!

 

Masturbation is Normal!

Unfortunately, for religious, cultural, or other societal reasons, masturbation lived in the shadows for decades. It was something we all did; we just couldn’t talk about it.

A lot of people grew up with a lot of shame around self-stimulation and still struggle to talk about it today. Thankfully, there’s much less stigma around masturbation these days. Maybe enough people have been caught or there have been enough movie scenes featuring masturbation that we’ve all learned to get over ourselves a bit.

Masturbation is a great way to relieve stress, feel good and engage with your sexuality. Indeed, it’s one of the best ways people who struggle with sexuality can become familiar with their bodies.

I often counsel clients who can’t orgasm or wrestle with shame around sex to masturbate more so they can become more comfortable with their genitals and feeling turned on. It’s too bad when people feel negative about the way their bodies can make them feel.

If you ever feel shame or doubt about your masturbation, you can talk to a therapist about your emotions. They can help you realize that it’s completely normal and even can be a healthy activity. Don’t waste any more time worrying about masturbation. If anything, try to learn how to do it better so you have more fun and orgasm more intensely!

 

The Social Exception to Masturbation

Perhaps the one exception to masturbation is if you’re denying yourself human connection or masturbation is getting in the way of being productive.

Some people with trauma or who want to hide from other problems can masturbate obsessively. In these cases, it’s not the masturbation itself that’s “too much”. It’s the inclination to distract from real life. Running and hiding is something we should avoid whether it’s jerking off, drugs, video games, shopping, you name it.

masturbation

Hopefully, we’re all leaning a bit harder on masturbation during quarantine to blow off some steam and tide us over until we can get back out on the dating scene. However, if you’re finding that you’re jerking off multiple times a day and you just can’t get to that work project, then maybe you need to pace yourself.

Don’t let masturbation, or any behavior for that matter, get in the way of doing the things you need to feel good about yourself. That means exercise, work, interactions with family and friends, and a slew of other things you should be doing in quarantine to get emotional and physical support.

The one thing I will say, though, is to avoid demonizing masturbation. Technically, there is no such thing as masturbation too much. No, you’re not going to go blind. Relax.

 

Saving Your Bullets for the Big One

If you’re a pro masturbator, then you know that masturbation frequently affects how your orgasms feel. Blasting off a bunch of rapid-fire bullets is different than saving up for a few days and dropping an orgasm bomb.

If you’ve been on a solid run of one to two times per day, add a little suspense to your life and wait a couple of days. Your orgasm will probably be longer and more intense because you’ve built up for a bit. Learn about edging and how it can supercharge your orgasms.

Most of all, make sure you’re enjoying the act. I talk to clients to whom masturbation is like brushing teeth, it’s just part of the daily routine. That’s fine if it works for you, all I would say it to take some time every once in a while, to feel your body and experience your sexuality at a deeper level.

Masturbation, when done right, can be an intense, healing experience. While it’s never going to hold a candle to sexual connection and intimacy with another person, it is still awesomely available.

During all of our downtime, make the extra effort to make masturbation better than ever!

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

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5 Tips to Protecting Yourself from Postpartum Sex Disasters

5 Tips to Protecting Yourself from Postpartum Sex Disasters

 

So, are you struggling with postpartum sex?

Postpartum Sex can cause great stress in the relationship, but it is normal and has a solution!

In this video, I’ll teach you 5 essentials points to have the best Postpartum Sex, and keep the spark in the relationship without neglecting your parenting role.

These tips for Postpartum sex will surely enlighten you on how to maintain a balance and enjoy parenthood without losing passion in the room!

Can’t wait for you to learn how to have improve your Postpartum Sex!

 

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Female Masturbation - Owning Pleasure with Virtual Erotic Recess

Female Masturbation - Owning Pleasure with Virtual Erotic Recess

 

In November 2019, I wrote about my first time attending Betty Dodson’s Bodysex weekend - a weekend centered on female masturbation. 

Can you imagine female masturbation occurring online for pleasure, instead of for pornography? 

Coronavirus created a space where that was possible! Globally! 

 

Then Coronavirus Hit

It’s been months since my Bodysex experience, and naturally, I was aching for more; yet Betty and Carlin’s BodySex was sold out the Goop episode, BodySex 2020 would be sold out… 

All of their workshops are done in person. 

The effect of showing your genitals and orgasming in front of people you just met is incredibly delicious and empowering; so much so that most attendees report it to be “life changing.” 

Coronavirus threw a wrench into the plans of pleasure though. 

All of BodySex workshops were canceled to meet social distancing requirements. As I would imagine Betty and Carlin must have been bummed. However, within a couple weeks, the news came forward that Erotic Recess would be moving forward… on Zoom!

Yes, you read that right. Female masturbation for pleasure on Zoom. 

We would be part of piloting a new program of sexual pleasure from our own homes. 

Imagine a bunch of women on the same screen - totally nude - exploring and celebrating their own body together! 

I was intrigued to be a part of seeing if this experiment would “work” in the pandemic. 

Would the virtual Erotic Recess seminar hold a candle to the in-person BodySex that included female masturbation?

 

How Did It Go? 

Being a part of a virtual seminar is obviously different from meeting in person. 

Sitting in a circle with attendees facilitates a natural interaction and conversation flow. 

You take turns by… going around the circle. 

It’s also easier to read people’s moods when you can feel their energy up close.

Still, I was just excited that technology has enabled us to do this! 

After all, even in the face of a pandemic, pleasure must go on...

We started with a bit of boundary setting to begin! 

That happens in every seminar anyway, and it’s especially important over webcams. 

Carlin held a sacred space and was clear about no penises in the circle!

 

Female Masturbation For Global Healing

Erotic Recess leaves no room for avoidance or shame. 

We embrace our bodies, own our pleasure, and celebrate our vulvas for the incredible gift they are! As the workshop progressed, we talked about orgasms and masturbated in front of our computers, focused totally on pleasure and the solidarity of connection. 

It was great seeing how so many women experience and approach orgasm so differently. All of us better understand that there is no “right” way to be in pleasure. All of us realize that there is no “one” camera angle that works for all adult female bodies and movement abilities. 

 

My Virtual Female Masturbation Takeaways

Here are some of my main takeaways:

  • Ownership is SO important - During the workshop, attendees are discouraged as much as possible from talking about how others have affected their sexuality. The emphasis is on owning your eroticism. You get to decide that you deserve pleasure and bask in its glory!
  • The Right Tool Helps - millions of women will celebrate Betty Dodson for the rest of their lives to thank her for making the vibrator mainstream. Due to Carlin Ross and the future of BodySex, the pleasure continues… virtually! 
  • Sex tools are a godsend for women, particularly those who struggle to orgasm. My husband recently bought me the Le Wand Feel My Power Special Edition. 
  • I have to say, along with lubing up and Betty’s Barbell, it works wonders! 
  • Strategize with different toys and options until you find the one for you.
  • Once again... pleasure is gorgeous and healing! I have seen thousands of nude bodies at this point, and I just want to say that during female masturbation, most bodies have similar responses, and have sounds of joy.  Instead of shaming self-touch, celebrate it. This process works if you work it.

 

Virtual Erotic Recess Works

In the end, even Coronavirus could not stop our pleasure.

The 16+ women who have shared their screens alongside me have adapted to our new reality, and it didn’t dampen the experience. Each of us came away refreshed and excited to feel more pleasure and be free with our bodies. As Betty always says, “Better orgasms, better world”.

I am so grateful that I get to do this for a living! Erotic Recess is a wonderful reminder to me of how impactful sex therapy is and how many women can change their lives, not just with intimacy, through this process. It’s an incredible experience and I’m moved every time to be a part of it.

If you’re interested in Betty Dodson seminars like Bodysex, check them out now! You’ll be glad you gave it a try.

As some of you may know, pleasure is healing and female masturbation is often the key to unleash the power within. 

We grow through pain and pleasure, usually when we are uncomfortable. 

During this time of a global pandemic, we use female masturbation and self-pleasure during the sexual stimulation process to increase the feel-good hormones in your body! 

Whether or not you reach the release of orgasm, the bodily function that sometimes occurs during sexual interaction, isn’t the goal. The purpose is to connect with you. 

Follow the advice of Dr. Betty Dodson, the Queen of Female Masturbation, by checking out her NYT article. 

Female masturbationYou Are Your Safest Sex Partner: Betty Dodson Wants to Help

You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer

If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

LCAT provides video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.