Natural Male Enhancement
Natural Male Enhancement
When did the obsession over penis size start? I mean, if you take a trip to Rome, you’ll see row after row of statues with a beautiful muscular physique. Draft your eyes a bit lower, though, and you see some pretty small penises. Some say small penises were idealized then. It wasn’t too long ago, so why the shift?
These days, from grade school locker rooms to professional pornography shoots, people look at and talk about penis size. Now it’s a huge part of sex culture. People with penises silently judge themselves based on their “size”. It’s not their defining trait, but it’s certainly on the mind.
Sure, if you’ve got an average-sized package, you’re always looking for a bit of an edge. Maybe in the right lighting, whoever’s looking at your waist region will look fantastic after a nice night out. Additionally, a few compliments from partners or casual hookups on your size are enough to never make you worry about it again.
There are, though, people who struggle over their penis size. They worry about what impression it makes and how it affects sexual performance. There’s so much emphasis on large penises these days, that it’s easy to get trapped into self-consciousness if you feel like you’re smaller than average.
The good news is that you can help enhance your penis naturally by taking a few steps. It’s not going to take you from four inches to twelve, but natural male enhancement works. What’s best? It will make you feel better about yourself and more confident in dealing with intimate situations.
Stop Smoking
This is not a joke. Smoking can shrink your penis size. Unfortunately, sometimes smokers suffer from permanent penis shrinkage that cannot always be reversed.
It’s a small minority of smokers, yet any chance is reason enough not to do so. Especially when you think about all the other reasons not to smoke cigarettes.
When you smoke, it affects blood vessels in the body, including the penis.
When the blood flow is impaired, it prevents the penis from stretching and filling with blood during an erection.
Not only could you suffer a frustrating episode right before sex, but it also affects your ability to maintain an erection. That’s bad news for you and could be bad news for whoever you’re having sexual interactions with.
After you’ve stopped smoking, not only will you notice a difference in your size and the ability to get and maintain an erection; you’ll feel better overall! It may be a worthwhile goal for any of you still smoking!
Try to Lose Some Weight
If you’re overweight, excess fat may restrict blood flow inside blood vessels as well. Of course, consult your doctor whenever you attempt to lose weight. Some people don’t have the weight to lose!
There are ways you should go about losing weight that make it healthy, so find what works for your overall lifestyle.
Losing weight can be great for your overall health if you are on the heavier side, and it can bring some positive news for your penis!
Proportions matter, right?
When you have excess weight above the waist, it can make your penis look small in comparison. Certainly, even a large penis can look small on a large person.
When you lose weight, some of the fat on the pubic bone disappears, leaving more room for your penis to shine.
Fun Fact - your penis also extends back into your body. Losing excess fat from your waist and pelvis will reveal more of your penis root and allow for greater sensation and deeper penetration during sex.
Take Inventory of When You Feel the Firmest and Hardest
Enhancement isn’t just about size all the time. The great thing about penises is that they get bigger when you need them to! Natural enhancement deals also with getting better, harder, and longer erections.
Hormones feed erections. In bodies with penises, testosterone feeds your ability to get and keep an erection. Higher levels of testosterone mean you become aroused more frequently and easily.
Lower testosterone equates to lower sex drive, among other negative symptoms.
Hormone levels change regularly. They shift when you’re in different physical shapes, based on your diet, the time of day, your age, and other factors.
One thing you can do for natural penis enhancement is to understand your body and take stock of what’s going on when you have a great erection.
Don’t just say that you get a great erection because you’re about to make love to someone very attractive. Is your erection better in the morning? Is it more firm at night? How are your erections after one drink? After four? What about after you smoke? What about if you don’t sleep well?
Notice the patterns in your erections. When you can zero in on what makes your erection great, then you can get started working on creating those conditions over and over.
Try Some Ginseng for Performance Enhancement
Let’s just get this out of the way. Sometimes it’s hard to get or hold an erection.
People with penises all over the world have dealt with this. It can be embarrassing, especially when you’re eager to impress, and let’s just admit that it’s a fact of life, and normalize this!
Chronic erectile dysfunction may need attention from a physician. Sometimes chronic erectile dysfunction is a sign of something else!
Sometimes people experience more difficulty getting and staying hard based on age and other factors.
Ginseng is one thing you can try to overcome erection challenges!
Red ginseng is a traditional Korean herbal remedy that’s long been used overseas to treat several conditions.
Recently, it’s made its way into the United States because of its ability to help with erectile dysfunction. The science behind red ginseng is still being researched. Our favorite types are Herb Pharm Asian (Panex) Ginseng Tincture or Pure Encapsulations Panex Ginseng.
However, Ginseng is believed to increase levels of nitric oxide in the blood which can improve blood flow and help you get a better erection faster.
In 2008, the British Journal of Clinical Pharmacology published a review that pointed to red ginseng as improving ED in multiple studies. Since then, more and more people with penises struggling with ED have benefitted from taking ginseng. I have seen it in my practice numerous times!
Work with What You’ve Got
You need to recognize that, without surgery, there’s only so much you can do.
Every natural enhancement can marginally improve your erections and the size of your penis.
When added up together, however, they can make a massive difference!
You’ll feel great and your partners will start to take notice.
Love the skin, and penis you are in, and know what you can and cannot do to help!
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
To Shave or Not to Shave Your Pubic Hair
To Shave or Not to Shave Your Pubic Hair
Think twice before you laser or shave your pubic hair!
If you have been wondering whether or not to shave your pubic hair entirely, trim it closely, or let it grow bushy, we are happy to tell you the trend is to do whatever makes you happy.
If you grew up before the late nineties, you may have gotten your first glimpse of a stranger’s naked body in an adult magazine. Remember, this was before the internet and the explosion of online porn. People sometimes had to learn the birds and the bees from printed publications or VHS tapes.
Back in the old days, the centerfolds laid out on the pages had a healthy bush. It was almost as if no one had ever heard of shaving pubic hair. Large tufts of pubic hair on all genders were in full effect.
For the past two decades, however, shaving has been in.
Smooth Sexy Parts
Many years ago, Brazilian wax salons started popping up all over the country. At first, we all giggled at the thought of ripping hair off vaginas, balls, and other body parts. Waxing scenes removing underarm hair, chest hair, and pubic hair played in movies and jokes between friends.
The no pubic hair trend caught fire and stuck. All you have to do is take a look at some popular porn sites to take sampling. Most of the videos feature people of all genders with no pubic hair.
So why did pubic hair removal become so popular? A lot of people prefer it, because they feel like it’s a cleaner look. You’re not worried about pubes poking out of a swimsuit or falling all over the bathroom floor. Others like how it gives a better view of what you’re working with down there.
Celebrity voices added to the popularity of the no-bush trend. Some have spoken out about their personal preference for laser hair removal and waxing. Even for celebrities who’ve remained silent, all you have to do is take a look at their social media posts in tight swimsuits to see they’re pubic hair-free.
Don’t Look Now, But Bush is Back!
Even though pubic hair removal is still extremely popular, having pubic hair is becoming less of a taboo. Before, if you had pubic hair, you’d probably get some heat for being lazy or sloppy. Now, however, it’s becoming a sort of personal statement.
We’ve all heard that fashion trends repeat. Could it be the same for pubic hair? Well, in the past few years, pubic hair is making somewhat of a comeback.
As is usually the case, a trend starts when a small group of people decide they want to go against the crowd. They decide they don’t want to do what everyone else is doing. They want to stand out.
Eventually, people take notice and want to hop on the early beginnings of a trend. More and more people do it until whatever was popular in the beginning is hard to find at all. Then the cycle repeats.
The same is happening with shaving and other ways of pubic hair removal. The bush is creeping back into the mainstream. You can find it online in pornographic videos, pictures, and even in Hollywood productions.
Here are some of the most common NEGATIVE examples of why people shave:
- They feel disgusted to kiss their partners after going down on them.
- Sometimes, partners refuse cunnilingus or intercourse with menstruating women or women with pubic hair.
- Joking about vulvas and vaginas smelling “like fish” or ejaculation is “gross” and “repulsive.”
- Partners shave off their body hair because they state it smells bad and holds the sweat.
Tips for when you shave your pubic hair:
Make sure you use an organic balm on the gentle skin of the pubic region. If you want to shave your pubic hair, just know that there will be some itching as it grows back.
Test for allergies! I was using organic products for years, and then found out I was still allergic to some of the products themselves, not just the pesticides of the pharmacy brand version).
If you love that bare look of no hair, enjoy a fun slip and slide with a hairless partner! I know some people who actually tweeze or thread their pubic hair to get the smoothest sensation imaginable. Yes, this takes hours to do if you are tweezing.
These are long-standing beliefs that keep our pleasure repressed, and keep us self-conscious instead. Find a happy medium for YOURSELF!
If you want bush, go for it. If you want to shave, go for it.
Or find a happy medium!
Keeping It Trim
An alternative for pleasure-enhancement is trimming!
At my Betty Dodson BodySex weekend, one of the women came in Day 1 donning a beautiful bush and the next day, she trimmed and was equally joyful and orgasmic Day 2!
We haven’t made a full return to the glory days when huge bush was in style...
Now when pubic hair makes an appearance [in pornography], it’s often neatly trimmed.
Closely-cropped pubic hair is easier to manage – there are fewer painful waxing or lasering sessions – and many individuals find this trimmed, “natural-state” highly desirable.
Grooming Tips
Thankfully, personal grooming is easier than ever. There are widely available grooming shavers that are adjustable to match whatever length or shape you’re looking for.
If you are thinking about letting your pubic hair make a comeback, start slowly. Buy a grooming tool that you can use to keep things trim and take it from there.
You still have a lot of choices in pubic grooming!
There’s waxing, shaving, threading, laser hair removal, chemicals that remove hair and other forms of trimming.
It’s not an “all or nothing” proposition when it comes to pubic hair.
Check out some LCAT Fan Favorites:
- The best razor for a close shave without nicks
- Shaving cream choice, especially for those with sensitive skin
- Baby trimmer for those who have never done it
- Body trimmer reported to prevent cutting
- Multigroom series
If you are going to get a brazalian or an anal wax, make sure that the person you are going to has hygenic facilities and that they are experienced. This is not a place you want any infections.
Body Positivity and Personal Preference
One of the best things about recent trends in pubic hair is the underlying support for personal preference when it comes to your body. We still have some ways to go, but the return of pubic hair and the debate over whether bald is better is becoming less about what’s “hot” and more about doing whatever you want concerning your body.
That sense of body sensitivity has sexual maturity, acceptance from sexual partners and even helped push choice feminism.
With the reemergence of bushier pubic hair, women should feel less confined to a certain body image or personal grooming standards.
Everyone has better sex when we feel good about our bodies.
More and more people, including people with large public followings, are proudly announcing their preference for the natural look.
That may seem a bit trite, but it goes a long way to breaking down barriers. Sometimes, when public figures open the door to how many people feel, it’s easier for them to take the leap and make changes.
The trend, for now, remains overwhelmingly in favor of total hair removal or very limited pubic hair. However, the stigma of bushy or trimmed pubic hair on all genders is slowly fading away. That’s good news for everyone.
Some people do what their partner prefers. I would consider that choosing what makes you feel the most confident about your body is what matters.
Can You Go Back if You’ve Done Laser Hair Removal?
What about people who chose laser hair removal to permanently remove their pubic hair?
A few years ago, they were so sure they’d never want pubic hair again.
The trend is changing, though, and so are some people’s minds.
With laser hair removal, your pubic hair may not be completely gone forever, and it’s likely that hair that grows back will be lighter, thinner, and that there will be fewer of them.
Believe it or not, in recent years, some medical facilities have started performing hair transplants on people - for those balding, those who want a fuller bush, or those who regret past laser hair removal.
The procedures are expensive and are by no means mainstream, yet if the trend towards pubic hair continues, expect there to be more developments here.
Still, even with the potential for hair removal reversal, permanent laser removal should be something you consider at length.
Focus instead on feeling good about your body and taking small steps to find out what works best for you.
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Sex Therapist Secret Male Masturbation Techniques Revealed!
Sex Therapist Secret Male Masturbation Techniques Revealed!
What are your favorite male masturbation techniques?
Mine is edging, and I am going to teach you how to get longer, and stronger orgasms.
It’s time to take control back of your member!
A brief introduction into a variety of male masturbation techniques encourages conscious self-pleasuring.
In recent years, there has been a new term that has entered the sexual lexicon - a favorite one of my male masturbation techniques, according to internet research.
“Edging” is the practice of extending and intensifying the period of sexual stimulation and pleasure by delaying orgasm, specifically ejaculation.
DISCLAIMER: For the sake of brevity rather than priority, we will be limiting our conversation to humans with external genitals in the context of “male” sexuality. Please email us if you want more on masturbation techniques across the binary!
Masturbation is Good for You!
Self-pleasure is an excellent way of providing for your own needs! It is fun, self-soothing, and feels good.
Most men stumble onto this natural wonderment in puberty and joyfully or shamefully retreat to the privacy of their room and their receptive sweat socks and lotion bottles with great regularity.
No harm, no foul!
As young men mature, so do their sexual and emotional needs, and many begin to seek out intensifying factors such as porn; and occasionally other fetishistic behaviors, like self-bondage, panty-sniffing and about a million other things, including edging.
These patterns will certainly shape the sexual behavior and preferences for the rest of his life, occasionally in unpleasant ways.
Masturbation is powerful in its potential to “program” our sexual behavior.
Here is where edging can be beneficial to our sexual performance when we add a partner into the mix.
Often, there is shame associated with ejaculation before your partner is ready for it.
This shame is not helpful, so I’ll bypass the tropes and point out that, generally speaking, the ability to control orgasm and ejaculation is considered a desirable trait in a male lover, and the lack thereof would be high on the list of frustrations by people who find sex with their partners unfulfilling.
A good start is to not ejaculate until you have been masturbating for at least 20 minutes.
This will help you develop the ability to sense and delay the onset of ejaculation with pacing, a good second step is to not allow yourself to ever stop masturbating, but rather slow down and speed up to gain even greater control.
At more advanced levels, this will help you to develop the muscles required to delay ejaculation and maintain a firm erection even when pleasure increases or is momentarily interrupted.
There are even videos on Pornhub to assist you in this practice.
In my opinion, most of them are too short, but they may be helpful to you (search JOI or edging challenge)! Some even have a guide sound or visual to require you to stroke at a certain intensity.
Hopefully your solitary practice of edging will benefit your sexual relations as well!
Wouldn’t it be nice to know going into a sexual encounter that you have perfect control of your own orgasm and will be able to please your partner with a mutually satisfactory experience without anxiety over orgasming too soon or that awkward feeling of being “done” when your partner is still raring to go?
So far, we have only spoken of this as a means to an end, and it can be helpful that way; however, edging with a partner can be a wonderful experience.
It can be done as pure hedonism or with with an edge of power exchange where control of orgasm and prolonging of pleasure becomes kind of a game.
In porn, it seems to be popular when combined with humiliation play or bondage and “ruined orgasm” videos abound where a man is made to edge over several days, or weeks even, and is then stimulated to the point of orgasm and then stimulation stops just at the onset of orgasm.
It seems mean, but the guys don’t seem to mind - LOL.
The increased volume of semen that is often a result of edging is also a factor for some people as is the increased “horniness” that prolonged edging over days or weeks can cause.
There are many reasons to give all of these considerations a try in your self-pleasure practice.
Have fun with your new Male Masturbation Techniques!
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Does Size Matter?
Does Size Matter?
Is it long enough? Thick enough? Hard enough? Does size matter?
"Why is the size of a penis one of the biggest sexual concerns?" she asks.
“Toxic Masculinity,” she whispers.
We live in a culture that correlates penis size to how masculine a man is and / or his sexual identity.
“AHHH! Patriarchy!” she screams.
So… wait… DOES SIZE MATTER?
Whether you call it a penis, phallus, lingam, dick, cock, or any other name, we unfortunately live in a reality where everyone seems to be obsessed with penis size!
We see it in advertising, movies, and in dozens of studies that are conducted annually to determine if it is important, both to men and women.
Before debunking the stigma, here are some common phallus questions and answers.
When does it stop growing?
The largest growth spurts occur during male adolescence, and continue until around 20 years old. From this point on, it is common for penis size to remain similar for the rest of a man's life.
Although the growth of the penis occurs in this period, the rate may vary from one teen to another, and may be faster in some cases than in others.
Why is a penis crooked?
Penises can grow slightly from one side or the other, because the urethra does not always accompany the development of the rest of the organ, causing a slight curve.
However, if the curvature produces pain and impedes penetration during intimate contact, it is caused by Peyronie's disease.
Is it possible to increase the size of a penis?
The size of the penis varies greatly from one man to another, and from one country to another.
In this way, it is difficult to determine an interval to assess whether the size of the penis can be considered normal.
However, for men who want to increase penis size, there are forms of “treatment” from pumps to creams to losing weight to not smoking.
What is a normal or average penis size?
In the Journal of Urology study, researchers found the following among the group of 80 men:
- An average penis size length of 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) when flaccid (soft)
- An average penis size length of 12.9 cm (5.1 inches) when erect (hard)
- The size of a man's erect penis was not correlated with the size of his flaccid penis. This means that men whose penises are different lengths when flaccid may have similarly sized erect penises. There was also no relationship between mens' age and their penis size.
The Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2014 said that out of self-reported summaries:
- An average erect penile length of 14.15 cm (5.57 inches)
- An average erect penile circumference of 12.23 cm (4.8 inches). This means the girth, width, or "fullness" around the base of the penis.
How important is size?
The size of the penis is not as important as everyone thinks when it comes to sexually satisfying one's partner.
Penis size isn’t that critical to sexual pleasure. If you are going to penetrate another person, dildos are much more reliable and you can select the size you want.
The MOMENT you put pressure on the penis to get hard, it’s ALL OVER! You may as well just book an appointment now, because you will get stuck in the anxiety loop.
Regardless of size, what is important to one's partner is that the penis can stay hard for as long as it needs to. This is why I suggest the use of dildos.
Take the pressure off!
If you are performing for a female partner, just know that only 18% of women orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Therefore, make sure you have lubricant and a vibrator.
Women sometimes take up to 20 minutes to get warmed up so don’t rush them! Your penis being hard isn’t the concern. It is your patience in her getting to experience HER pleasure.
So my answer to the question "Does size matter?" is "eh - not really."
Size seems to matter most when the penis is too big or too wide. Depending on the time of month, the cervix is located in different places.
This matters with vaginal penetration, because too much length can cause pain while hitting the cervix. There is actually a sexual health device that goes on the base of the penis so that it cannot go in as deep to help fix this problem!
Another issue is when the penis is too wide, there may be an hour of foreplay needed so that other orifices are warmed up and relaxed.
If you were to ask me in my experience "within the therapy room," when asking clients (women or those who enjoy penetrative sex with penises) to choose between what matters more, 9 out of 10 will choose girth (width / circumference) over length.
Out of all the clients I have seen over the last ten years, only about 5 out of 100 people state that they care about size at all. Usually 3 of those 5 will be identified as bisexual or gay men.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your relationship and ignite your sex life at What We Do. Call or text us at 203-733-9600, or make an appointment.