What Does Arousal Feel Like for a Woman
If you’ve ever wondered ‘What does arousal feel like for a woman?’, we’ll answer your question in this article with all the juicy details. So, let’s get into it right away. When a woman gets sexually aroused, numerous emotional and physical arousal responses will be triggered in her body. You will feel your nerves, brain, and hormones changing, along with your thoughts and emotions. We often call this ‘being turned on’, yet it is quite a complex response our body is giving to the initial reaction of being aroused.
The official term is ‘female sexual excitement and it refers to a person with a vagina getting sexually excited. To help you understand why you feel the way you do each time when you get sexually aroused, let’s dive into this complex topic and unravel the mystery once in for all.
Physical Signs of Woman’s Arousal
There are several signs that will indicate you’re becoming sexually aroused. For instance, your breasts will become fuller, your nipples harder, and your heart rate and breathing will become faster. It will be easy for you to notice these signs as they occur immediately once you get aroused, however, these are not the only signs your body will show. Your clitoris and vagina’s inner lips will also start swelling.
The final sign of sexual arousal is, obviously, an orgasm. That said, not having an orgasm while you’re sexual excitement doesn’t mean that you lack excitement. As a woman, you can get sexually aroused and not climax. Each body and person is different, yet there are four stages of how our body responds to sexual arousal, which are more or less the same for everyone – excitement, arousal, orgasm, and resolution.
In the first stage, you will feel the sexual arousal kicking in. Your thoughts, words, smells, touch, and sights will slowly change. You might notice a desire to have sex as these changes start happening in your body. Also, your muscles will begin to tense, your heart rate and breathing will become faster and your breasts fuller. If you’re not with your sexual partner at the moment when feeling sexually excited, you might think about masturbating.
Also known as a plateau, sexual arousal occurs when a person is both thinking about it and feeling it in their body. The blood will begin to flow to the vagina, making the clitoris and vaginal walls swell. Because of this increased blood flow, the vagina will produce more lubricating fluid, which you better know as ‘getting wet’. At the same time, the muscles will continue tightening and the clitoris will feel sensitive to touch.
When your reach the sexual excitement or climax, this will mean you’re having an orgasm. Moments before your orgasm, the muscles will tense up even more. Once the orgasm begins, your vagina muscles will start contracting in a rhythmical way. Typically, an orgasm lasts for a few seconds. During these few seconds, you’ll experience muscle contractions and spasms, and also your heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing will accelerate, followed by a strong release of sexual tension.
Depending on the person, you might have one or more orgasms, also known as multiple orgasms. As mentioned above, you don’t need to orgasm in order to enjoy sex. Keep in mind that if you had an orgasm this time, you might not have the next one and vice versa. You can freely enjoy sexual activity without worrying about orgasm.
The last stage of sexual pleasure is the sense of your well-being being completely relaxed. In most cases, this stage will follow after orgasm, yet it can happen after sexual activity that didn’t lead to an orgasm. You will notice your body returning to its initial levels of how your body, including heart rate and breathing, used to be before the sexual arousal began.
Some people even feel sleepy in this stage because of all changes that happened in their bodies. Others will be able to orgasm again really quickly after they had their first orgasm. This is not common for someone with a penis who will not be able to orgasm right after their ejaculation.
Improving Your O Game
Are you having an orgasm each time you have sex? Are you hoping on improving your orgasm? If you responded with ‘Yes’ to any of these two questions, there are a few things that might help you enjoy your orgasms even more. For instance, you can slow your breathing and focus more on it moments before you’re about to climax. Taking deep, concentrated breaths will ensure your orgasm is much more enjoyable and it might even trigger your orgasm quicker.
Also, you can get to know your body better. Once you realize what works for your sexual pleasure and what doesn’t, it will be easier to communicate it with your sexual partner. You might even realize you’d like to introduce a certain sex toy to bed to heat things up a little bit more and have more orgasms.
Another thing that might improve your O game is doing your vaginal exercises. By squeezing and contracting the muscles that surround your vagina, you can even increase your male partner’s pleasure and help him have a passionate orgasm as well. Routine in sex also affects your orgasm, so ensure you and your partner are trying different sex positions and different locations to have sex.
Why not try it in the shower the next time or give a doggy style a shot? You might discover a new thing you like in sex, which might bring you orgasms you didn’t even know can happen. The more you are willing to explore your sexuality, the better you will feel about sex in general. If you communicate all of your explorations with your partner, that will help them to understand you better in a sexual way and provide you with the pleasure you need. So, whatever arouses you, be sure that your partner knows it too!
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