Female Orgasmic Disorder Treatment

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Female Orgasmic Disorder Treatment

 

If you’ve stumbled upon a term called female orgasmic disorder treatment, you might be curious to learn what it actually is. There are many reasons why you might not be able to reach a climax in your relationship. Therapy, medicine, and addressing underlying problems are possible treatment forms. However, a professional will need to see you first to detect the root of the problem. 

In this article, we’ll take a closer look into female orgasmic disorder treatment. Find out the reasons why it happens, which treatment options are available, and so much more that might be beneficial for you when learning about female orgasmic disorder. 

 

What Is Female Orgasmic Disorder? 

Orgasmic dysfunction occurs when a woman experiences difficulty or fails to experience an orgasm during a sexually stimulating moment.

When it’s not fun, having sex may turn from being a fulfilling, intimate experience for both parties to a chore. Sex may happen less frequently and with a decrease in sexual desire. Tension and animosity may result from this in the partnership.

A disorder known as orgasmic dysfunction is when a person struggles to experience an orgasm. Even when they are sexually aroused and receiving enough stimulation, they still struggle with this. This disorder is referred to as female orgasmic dysfunction when it affects women. Although it is far less common, orgasmic dysfunction can also affect men.

Orgasms are powerful sensations of release that occur during intercourse. Their frequency, duration, and strength might all change. Even minimal sexual stimulation can cause orgasms, although occasionally, much more stimulation is required.

Even when they receive plenty of sexual stimulation, many women still struggle to experience an orgasm with a partner. Many studies have indicated that 11–41% of women may experience orgasmic dysfunction. Anorgasmia, or female orgasmic condition, is another name for orgasmic dysfunction.

 

Causes of Female Orgasmic Disorder

10% to 15% of women report never having experienced an orgasm. According to surveys, as many as 50% of women express dissatisfaction with the frequency of their orgasms.

The complicated interaction between the mind and body occurs during sexual response. For an orgasm to occur, both must be in good working order.

Orgasmic difficulties might result from a variety of circumstances. Common causes are:

  • Past experience of rape or sexual abuse
  • Fatigue, tension, or despair in a relationship or during sexual activity
  • Not understanding sexual function
  • Prejudice about sex, which is frequently picked up in childhood or adolescence
  • Embarrassment or shyness around physical touch
  • Relationship problems

 

Health issues that may make it challenging to experience an orgasm include:

  • Certain medications that are prescribed. 
  • Hormonal imbalances or changes (menopause).
  • Persistent conditions that impact one’s sexual desire and well-being
  • Endometriosis 
  • Damage to the nerves supplying the pelvis 
  • Contraction of the vaginal muscles 
  • Dryness in the vagina

 

Symptoms of Female Orgasmic Disorder

The inability to reach a sexual climax is the primary sign of orgasmic dysfunction. Other symptoms include orgasms that are not satisfying and climaxes that take longer than usual to reach.

It might be challenging for women with orgasmic dysfunction to experience an orgasm during masturbation or sexual activity.

Four categories of orgasmic dysfunction exist:

  • Primary anorgasmia: The inability to experience an orgasm.
  • Secondary anorgasmia: Having trouble experiencing an orgasm despite having experienced one previously.
  • Situational anorgasmia: The most prevalent kind of dysphoric orgasm. It happens when you can only experience an orgasm in particular circumstances, such as during oral sex or masturbation.
  • General anorgasmia: The inability to experience an orgasm in any situation, even when you’re really aroused and have received enough sexual stimulation.

 

Treatment for Female Orgasmic Disorder

If your sexual dysfunction is not causing an issue for you, it shouldn’t be considered as something that needs to be solved. You should seek treatment only if your dysfunction is bothering you or impacting your relationship with your partner.

Treatment types differ depending on the potential symptoms and causes of the sexual dysfunction you’re experiencing. You should share your concerns and learn to understand better your body and how intimacy works for you. Your sexual aspirations are also crucial when talking about treatment options.

If you’re experiencing sexual dysfunction as a woman, a comprehensive treatment approach addressing physical, relationship, and emotional factors could be very beneficial for you.

When treating sexual dysfunction, your physician may advise applying the following techniques:

  • Converse and pay attention
  • Adopt a healthy way of living
  • Discover relaxing techniques
  • Consult a counselor
  • Apply lubrication
  • Try using a gadget

 

When treating sexual dysfunction, an underlying issue should be addressed first. Your doctor could recommend switching medications or writing you a prescription for another one.

When talking about medications, these are the treatment options for female sexual dysfunction that most doctors recommend:

  • Estrogen therapy
  • Ospemifene (Osphena)
  • Androgen therapy
  • Flibanserin (Addyi)
  • Bremelanotide (Vyleesi)

 

Asking for Help 

Make an appointment with your physician if you believe you have orgasmic dysfunction. Your physician has the expertise to identify your ailment and devise an appropriate course of action. The greatest approach to guarantee that you can once again fully enjoy sexual activity is to get advice from your doctor.

Your doctor conducts a physical examination and inquires about your sexual history during your visit. Your answers and the results of the exam can assist in discovering additional elements that might be causing your issue, as well as any underlying reasons for orgasmic dysfunction.

For a follow-up checkup, your doctor might recommend that you see a gynecologist. For orgasmic dysfunction, additional treatments can be suggested by a gynecologist.

 

Therapy for Orgasmic Disorder

Couples therapy is yet another well-liked form of treatment. You and your partner can resolve any disputes or issues by working through them with the assistance of a counselor. This can settle the problems that are coming up in the bedroom and in the relationship.

 

In Conclusion

Being unable to experience an orgasm can be annoying and could affect your relationship. With the right care, you might be able to reach a climax. Realizing that you’re not alone is crucial. Orgasmic dysfunction is a problem that many women have at some point in their lives.

You might benefit especially from therapy if you experience orgasmic dysfunction. A portion of couples’ or individual therapy focuses on your perspective on sexual activity. You and your partner can better understand each other’s sexual needs and wants by attending therapy sessions. It will also take care of any relationship problems or daily worries that might be keeping you from experiencing an orgasm. In the future, resolving these underlying issues may facilitate orgasm experiences.

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

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What Does It Mean To Be A Pick-Me Girl?

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Relationship Experts Explain How To Know If You Are A Pick-Me Girl?

You might not have a ton of girlfriends, for starters.

Amanda Pasciucco, PhD, LMFT, CST and Owner of Life Coaching and Therapy was interviewed for this article by Addison Aloian, published on April 28, 2024 in

You know her, you (probably don’t) love her: She’s the pick-me girl. She’s not like other girls. In fact, she isn’t really friends with girls, and she definitely isn’t a “girl’s girl.” Instead, she likes to sit and talk negatively about other women while watching football over a pint of beer with the guys—and she makes it her entire personality.

The pick-me girl goes “out of her way to stand out from other women in a way that is often for the male gaze, acceptance, approval, attention,” says Amanda Pasciucco, PhD, LMFT, a sex therapist based in West Hartford, Connecticut. It’s not exactly a ~good thing~ to be this type of girl, since they often cater their personalities to men.

Wondering what, exactly, a pick-me girl is and—gulp—if you are one? (Don’t worry, I won’t tell.) Ahead, experts explain the pick-me girl and pick-me boy labels, share common signs of pick-me girl behavior, and potential solutions to work on that part of yourself that’s screaming “pick me!!”

What is a Pick-Me Girl?

The pick-me girl tries to establish themselves outside of the typical normal behaviors for women and girls, says Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, PhD, a professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University, Fullerton. “A lot of it is rooted in insecurity, low self-esteem, and competition,” she adds.

The goal of the pick-me girl is to be the one who gets picked by the gender of their choice, according to Betsy Chung, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist and relationship expert based in Newport Beach, California. She might say something like, “I’m not like other girls,” or pretend to be chill around guys when—surprise—she’s not chill. She also may pretend to be into hobbies that the guys around her like, such as sports, or act like she’s “not into drama,” Pasciucco says.

But just because a woman is into sports or has other hobbies that aren’t traditionally feminine doesn’t mean she’s automatically a pick-me girl. She’s only a pick-me girl if she isn’t *actually* into said hobbies, and is just pretending to be so that she can cater to the interests of guys.

The origin of the term is actually from a season two episode of Grey’s Anatomy, where Meredith told Derek to “Pick me, choose me, love me,” but it’s recently gone viral on TikTok. (There are over 480,000 posts tagged #Pickme on the app.)

What is a Pick-Me Boy?

The pick-me boy is similar, except that they’re not seeking male validation—instead, they’re trying to impress women. He might say something cringey, like working the fact that he’s “a feminist” into a conversation, Suwinyattichaiporn says. This boy might also degrade other men, or try to appeal to women by claiming to be attentive or caring about growth or going to therapy, Pasciucco adds. A more obvious example would be going out with his guy friends and trying to outdrink everyone to impress women at the bar, Chung adds. Essentially, a pick-me boy is something of a chameleon. He can either be super macho or very sensitive, depending on the type of girl(s) he’s around.

What’s important here is that just because a guy is a feminist or cares about going to therapy doesn’t automatically make him a pick-me boy. What does, though, is if he doesn’t *actually* care about those topics—and instead is just advertising it to get approval from women. It “enforces gender stereotypes” by appearing to subvert them for personal gain, Pasciucco says.

Signs of a Pick-Me Girl

There are a few tell-tale signs that might point to someone being a pick-me girl. Experts say to watch out for these:

  • She doesn’t have close girlfriends, and she doesn’t consider herself a “girl’s girl,” Suwinyattichaiporn says.
  • She constantly needs validation and affirmations (“you’re so pretty, you’re smart”) from the men in her life, either her guy friends or romantic partner(s).
  • She talks negatively about other girls in front of guys, especially a guy’s ex-girlfriend or potential romantic partner, and she’s not aware of the impact her words have on them.
  • She’s really competitive. Maybe she doesn’t want another girl on her flag football team because she assumes the other girl is not athletic or doesn’t know how to play.
  • She tries to let everyone know that she’s “different” from other girls, maybe through her hobbies or interests. For instance, maybe she likes to say she’s “not about drama unlike other girls,” or she’s always talking about sports to her guy friends, Chung says.

Why is Being a Pick-Me Girl Problematic?

The whole concept of the pick-me girl is based on seeking male validation. It stems from internalized misogyny, gender stereotypes, and sexism. “That perpetuates the stigma that masculinity is better,” Pasciucco says, because the way women think they have to stand out to men is by appealing to their interests. It rejects a type of femininity, Chung adds.

Being a pick-me can also be a symptom of “having low self-esteem [and] feeling very insecure about your identity,” Suwinyattichaiporn says. Sometimes, they have broken families or don’t get enough attention from their dads, so they seek it externally to feel better about themselves.

“We live in a society where women and girls were taught since a young age to be a certain way—to be nice girls,” Suwinyattichaiporn says, adding that it feeds into the idea of packaging yourself a certain way to get a boyfriend, and that’s how you’re considered “successful.” “[The concept of the pick-me girl] is rooted in misogyny and female competition. Pick me girls may talk negatively about feminine women in order to distinguish themselves to be ‘different.”

And above all, it’s presenting yourself in a false way for attention, Chung says: “At the end of the day, what you’re doing is you’re showing a less authentic version of yourself.” That can lead to inauthentic friendships and relationships, especially once you get close enough with someone to share your insecurities with them. And, of course, it’s just not nice to put other women down, regardless of who you’re with, Chung adds.

Why is the Term Pick-Me Problematic?

The term itself is problematic, too, though. First of all, it’s a way to label and objectify someone based on one component of their identity. “We all have so much underneath,” Pasciucco says. “[Using this label is] minimizing, and it doesn’t see women as complex human beings.”

It can also be harmful for women who “don’t necessarily understand their personality development yet or why they are seeking external validation,” Suwinyattichaiporn says. Plus, it’s a negative descriptor that might be stamped onto someone just because of their genuine interests.

“While hanging out with all guys or wanting to be with men isn’t necessarily a bad thing, what’s harmful is someone condemning another person for their preferences,” Pasciucco says. It insinuates that girls have to conform with what’s considered traditionally feminine in order to be normal or considered a girl’s girl, Suwinyattichaiporn adds.

For instance, if a girl has a lot of guy friends (and not a lot of girlfriends) in school because she loves playing on the different sports teams, it would be problematic to call her a pick-me girl instead of realizing her interests simply differ from someone with more traditional “girly” interests, Suwinyattichaiporn adds.

What if I’m a Pick-Me Girl?

If you’re reading this and some of the signs sound a *bit* familiar, it’s okay. You may have not realized that you exhibit these types of traits until they were laid out in front of you. JSYK, there are some pick-me elements that might be inherent to one’s personality, but others can develop over time, Suwinyattichaiporn says.

For instance, say you’re a true pick-me girl, a.k.a., you like sports because your guy friends like them. When this identity starts to include gossiping about girls in front of the guys to make yourself look better, “that’s where it becomes a problem beyond your personality” interests, Pasciucco says.

So, if you think you might be a pick-me girl—and again, it’s okay if you are!—there are a few things you can do to implement more healthy habits.

Journal

First, look into how to increase your self-esteem and self-worth so you can start not viewing other women as competition, Suwinyattichaiporn says. Try journaling with the following prompts she recommends: What kind of relationships with women have I had in my life before? What are some of the trigger points I experience when I talk to other women? What do I want to manifest in the future of what female relationships look like for me?

You can also try confidence journaling, which consists of writing down three reasons why you’re great, Suwinyattichaiporn says. It can be simple, like “I’m a great friend,” “I’m a great listener,” “I donated money today that made me feel helpful,” or “I cooked amazing pasta last night.” Once you do it frequently enough, you’ll realize all the amazing things about yourself. Confidence journaling “allows you to become more self-assured,” which will help you “seek external validation less,” she says.

Meditate

You can also try meditating on some powerful affirmations. For instance, if you struggle with body image issues and find yourself comparing your body to other women, instead, think positive thoughts about your body as you meditate. Maybe you start with the affirmation, “I love my body,” Suwinyattichaiporn suggests.

Make Some Girlfriends

This one might seem obvious, but becoming friends with other women is nurturing and very helpful in personal growth,” Suwinyattichaiporn says. To do that, you can join a walking, running, or hiking group around you, or even try group fitness classes and ask a girl in your class if she wants to get coffee afterward, she says.

Speaking of friends, if you have a gal pal who exhibits this pattern of behaviors, have a low-key open dialogue about it to help her overcome her insecurities, Suwinyattichaiporn says. Being that supportive female friend (she may not know she needs) can show her it’s possible to have a whole crew cheering her on.

Pick Up A New Hobby

“When people do things that they are passionate about, they’re less likely to be looking at other people and comparing themselves to others,” Suwinyattichaiporn says. Her advice is to try a bunch of different things, and see what sticks. You can start with different categories of your life, so if you’re into exercising, try joining a pickleball group. Or, if you’re into arts and music, consider taking a class. Without trying, you won’t know what makes you happy and what’s a good way to spend your time.

Shift Your Internal Dialogue

If you’re ruminating on comparing yourself to another woman, stop the internal conversation, Pasciucco says. Instead of criticizing her personal interests, for example, shift your mindset to think instead: “I appreciate that she has freedom to choose things that aren’t what I like,” she says. “Work on becoming conscious—stopping, taking a breath, and observing if you’re being critical.” Intentionally rejecting those knee-jerk negative reactions is the start of “trying to find a way to uplift other women,” Pasciucco adds. Plus, the more you practice this mindset shift, the more natural these positive thoughts will become.

Work With A Therapist

If you’re not already in therapy, find a therapist who will focus on helping you “recognize and build on your strengths, but also learn how to accept weaknesses,” Chung says. “The goal is really to be able to trust that you have value simply by being yourself.”

Be More Intentional About Your Relationships

The first step: Taking stock of your current connections. Ask yourself, “When do I feel uncomfortable in a relationship—and why?” and “How do I present myself in a relationship—am I showing up authentically?” If you find you’re chasing attention and approval from others, that may be something to talk to a therapist and/or do some deeper reflection about.

“If it feels like you’re doing too much and you’re doing things that go outside of your personal values, that might also be a sign that you’re trying to chase approval, rather than showing up authentically,” Chung says.

If a relationship feels one-sided—even if it’s in your favor—it might never develop into a super deep or intimate connection because “you’re basically just in a relationship with yourself,” she explains. Pick-me peeps tend to operate based on what the other person wants, and they end up melding into that, rather than being themselves. Ultimately, you won’t feel fulfilled by being another person’s dream personified because it’s not what you actually want.

Remember, it’s not about guys picking you—it’s about you picking yourself.

About the Author:

Addison Aloian (she/her) is the assistant love & life editor at Women’s Health. Outside of topics related to lifestyle, relationships, and dating, she also loves covering fitness and style. In her free time, she enjoys lifting weights at the gym, reading mystery and romance novels, watching (and critiquing!) the latest movies that have garnered Oscars buzz, and wandering around the West Village in New York City. In addition to Women’s Health, her work has also appeared in Allure, StyleCaster, L’Officiel USA, V Magazine, VMAN, and more. Read full bio

Can a 70-Year-Old Woman Be Sexually Active?

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Can a 70-Year-Old Woman Be Sexually Active?

 

If you’re in your 70s or are simply wondering, ‘Can a 70-year-old woman be sexually active?’, we have an answer to your question. However, it’s important to keep in mind that sexual activity depends on several factors, such as an overall health condition, libido, and any other challenges or obstacles that can prevent a woman of that age from having sex – and enjoying it!

That being said, it’s completely normal for people in their 70s to be sexually active! If you’re in love with your partner and both want to be intimate physically as well, age shouldn’t be a factor. In this article, we’ll look at all the important details you need to know about sex life for those in their 70s!

 

Sex In Your 70s

Intimacy and sexual engagement are vital throughout life. Many elderly women in their 70s and 80s still engage in sexual activity.

Although physical changes and health issues may influence an older adult’s sexual performance, several techniques can support people in maintaining a fulfilling and pleasurable sexual life. Intimacy and sexual engagement are vital throughout life. Many elderly women in their 70s and 80s still engage in sexual activity.

Changes brought on by aging may impact a person’s sexual life. A person’s sexual life might be impacted by health issues and shifting hormone levels, yet there are things people can do to maintain their sexual fulfillment as they age.

Age does not have to be a factor in sexual limitations. Because they have fewer obligations and are less likely to become pregnant unintentionally, older adults may feel more liberated than they did when they were younger.

 

How Aging Impacts Sex

Changes brought on by aging can have an impact on sexuality. As people age, their sexual organs alter. The vagina may narrow and become less lubricated in females. Menopause may also have an impact on sexual desire. Male erectile dysfunction may become increasingly prevalent.

Individuals may also discover that weight or muscle mass changes impact how they feel about their bodies. Illness, medication, or surgery can all have an impact on the desire and intimacy for sexual activity. Still, not everyone has these issues, and for those that do, many solutions are available.

 

Physical Changes

The vagina might get shorter and narrower as women age, and the vaginal wall can get thinner and stiffer. Less lubrication of the vagina may also occur. This might make vaginal penetration uncomfortable or lessen a person’s desire to have specific types of sexual relations. Luckily, lubricants exist, so they can be used to overcome this problem.

 

Hormonal Changes

Because menopause induces hormonal changes, going through menopause might have an impact on a person’s sexual life. While some menopausal individuals might not see any changes in their sexual lives, others could experience some of the symptoms below:

  • Getting drier and thinner in the vagina might make intercourse painful
  • Decreased desire or libido, trouble becoming aroused
  • Sleep disruptions that might make people feel more exhausted than normal
  • Mood changes that could affect a person’s desire or sex drive

Hormone replacement therapy is a prescription that a doctor might give to help with menopausal symptoms, which could be painful or impact sexual life.

 

Mental Changes

According to numerous studies, the most common reasons why older women avoid having sex are:

  • How satisfied you are with your relationship?
  • How intimate you are with your partner
  • How is your overall health?

Keep in mind that relationship factors are equally important as health-related factors for a woman in her 70s to be sexually active. For instance, if she is feeling anxious or is experiencing symptoms of depression, it will surely impact her ability and will to be intimate and have sex with her partner. 

 

How to Have an Active and Healthy Sex Life in Your 70s

If you have an open mind and a determined spirit, there’s a lot you can do between the sheets that can be really fulfilling. Saying you’re fatigued, that you have a headache, or that something aches is simple. Finding methods to please your loved one and have a quality of sex that may still make you feel turned on and happy with your relationship requires time, patience, and a strong desire. Everything depends on each partner’s mindset.

 

Invest in Your Relationship

The quality of the connection is a determining factor in the enjoyment of sex. A relationship is as wonderful as its sex. Their sexual life will be a reflection of the strength of their relationship if they are able to be candid, open, and accept responsibility for their flaws, errors, and inappropriate actions. Sex will suffer from the contaminated space and it will not be good if the lovers’ relationship space has been contaminated over time. Relationships require care just as much as a house, automobile, children, pets, and plants do. Sex will suffer if the relationship has been neglected for whatever reason. If there isn’t any love in the relationship, you can’t expect your spouse to be loving. 

 

Talk, Talk, Talk, and Talk More.

Good communication is necessary to help those with sexual dysfunction. Sadly, couples often choose to keep their emotions to themselves so as not to let their spouse down; as a result, excuses are created rather than the problems being addressed. Insecurities, shame, and guilt prevent people from solving their sexual difficulties. A couple will never have a resolution if they never discuss their feelings. It is not the solution to sidestep the problem and blame a headache or tiredness. 

 

Be Present

Regarding communication, listening and practicing presence are your greatest friends. The majority of couples are awkward with one another. One may stand in your way, yelling, passing judgment, condemning, or blocking your path, while the other could back off and become silent. When conversing, being present entails meeting each other’s eyes. 

Being present and getting to know their spouse’s language and cultural background means showing respect and having an open heart to truly grasp what their partner is saying without interjecting.

As long as you’re taking care of your health the best you can and feel connected to your partner, you’ve got the green light to make the most of your sexual life!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Help with Menopause Crazy Behavior

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Help with Menopause Crazy Behavior

 

If you’re a woman, you’ve probably heard someone talking about menopause crazy behavior, and if you’re in your 30s or 40s, you might feel confused about its meaning. We wanted to do some more research on how menopause affects women before deciding what is crazy and what isn’t. 

There is little discussion of menopause, which is unavoidable for aging cis women. Even if you ask young women, most of them will not know what to expect when that time comes. Read on if you are a woman curious about menopause or has just entered it and wants to know if your symptoms are common.

What Is Menopause? 

A woman enters menopause twelve months following her last menstrual cycle. The menopausal transition, also known as perimenopause, is the period before that happens when women may have hot flashes, irregular monthly cycles, or other symptoms.

The onset of menopause typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55. This period of time can range from 7-14 years. The length of time may vary depending on lifestyle choices, including smoking, age at onset, and race/ethnicity. The ovaries produce the hormones progesterone and estrogen, which the body produces in varying amounts during perimenopause.

Every woman experiences the menopausal transition differently and in different ways. Women may acquire weight more quickly, and their bodies use energy differently and in various ways in fat cells. Your physical function, body composition, and structure, as well as your heart or bones, may all alter.

Stages of Menopause

Menopause is the natural end to menstruation. There are three stages of menopause that you’ll need to be aware of to be able to tell them apart.

Perimenopause

Your ovaries progressively start to generate less estrogen eight to ten years before menopause, which is when perimenopause starts. It generally begins in your 40s. The final year or two of perimenopause is when estrogen begins to decline. Many women may be experiencing menopausal symptoms at this point. However, you can still become pregnant during this period and still have menstrual cycles.

Menopause

When you reach menopause, your menstrual cycles stop. Your ovaries have finished generating the majority of their estrogen and are no longer releasing eggs at this point. When you have missed your monthly cycle for 12 months in a row, a medical professional will diagnose you with menopause.

Postmenopause

This is the term used to describe the period following a year without a period. Menopausal symptoms, such as hot flashes, may improve during this phase. Nonetheless, a decade or more after the menopause transition, some women still have menopausal symptoms. People in the postmenopausal period are more susceptible to several health issues, including osteoporosis and heart disease, due to a decreased level of estrogen in their bodies.

Menopause Symptoms

If you start to have some or all of the following symptoms, you could be entering menopause:

  • Hot flashes (a sudden sense of warmth that spreads across your body)
  • Chills and/or flashes of cold
  • Dryness of the vaginal walls 
  • Pain during intercourse
  • Urinary urgency
  • Sleep problems
  • Emotional changes 
  • Chapped lips, eyes, or skin
  • Soreness in the breasts
  • Abnormally heavy, light, or irregular periods

Some women might also experience:

  • Heart palpitations
  • Headaches
  • Pain in the muscles and joints
  • Sex desire changes
  • Concentration issues
  • Memory loss
  • Weight gain
  • Thinning or loss of hair

Changes in your hormone levels bring on these symptoms. While some people experience minor menopausal symptoms, others may experience severe symptoms. Not every person going through menopause will experience the same symptoms. 

Contact a healthcare provider that specializes in menopause. There are different boards depending on what country you live in. If you are in the United States, check them out. 

Why Do I Feel Like This? 

In menopause and perimenopause, varying emotions are common. Changing progesterone and estrogen levels cause many changes in your life like mood swings, insomnia, and hot flashes.

Your ability to sleep may suffer, libido problems may negatively impact your sexual life, and vaginal dryness may make things seem unpleasant. You could think you’re insane because of all these changes, yet we’re here to reassure you that you’re not. Hormonal changes happen! You don’t have to suffer and you can reach out to a longevity specialist. 

Hormone fluctuations occur throughout perimenopause and diminish during menopause, which can lead to abrupt and inexplicable mood swings or seemingly insane behavior. You could think you’re going crazy if you experience increased levels of impatience, anxiety, or melancholy, yet there’s no reason to freak out.

Menopause is a natural aspect of aging for all women, and it brings with it a host of mental and emotional changes that can cause disruptions to day-to-day activities. You should be aware that you are not experiencing menopausal symptoms alone, since around 75% of women encounter emotional issues during this time.

The Bottom Line

Your progesterone and estrogen levels vary during perimenopause and drop sharply during menopause. Due to low hormone levels affecting mood-regulating neurotransmitters, mood swings are common.

Hot flashes, which exacerbate tiredness and irritation and make it hard to fall asleep, are another effect of a fall in estrogen. Without enough sleep, as we all know, everything feels worse, and our emotional stamina is at its lowest.

While most women do not experience severe depression or anxiety after menopause, it is normal for them to have modest mood changes, irritability, and a lack of energy. Additionally, women who have had anxiety or depression in the past are more likely to encounter severe emotional symptoms throughout menopause.

If you’re struggling with your menopause symptoms or have any questions related to them, reach out to your doctor. If you’re noticing mood swings and are not able to function due to emotional bursts, you should consider reaching out to a therapist, as there might be other issues you need to address and work on. 

 

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Edging a Female Orgasm & How To Become An Expert In It

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Edging a Female Orgasm & How To Become An Expert In It

 

Edging a female orgasm refers to the practice of preventing yourself from reaching orgasm right when you’re about to experience the sexual climax. It is also known as surfing, peaking, and teasing. This term has become very popular lately as a way to describe reaching better orgasms, yet it was first mentioned over half a century ago as a treatment for premature ejaculation.

To edge an orgasm means to prevent sexual stimulation before having an orgasm, wait about 20-30 minutes, and stimulate yourself repeatedly until you’ve decided to orgasm. You can think of edging orgasms as turning your short morning jogs into marathons.

Holistically, edging an orgasm can help you become more aware of your sexual responses when you’re masturbating or having sex with your partner by introducing mindfulness into your sex game.

 

Before You Start Edging

The more you are aware of the ways your body responds in bed, the less anxiety you will have in your sexual life. You will be more certain of things you want and don’t want to try out alone or with your partner, and you will be absolutely sure when you are about to come. This knowledge will help you understand yourself better as a sexual being and also bring more curiosity into your sex life.

However, to truly master edging, you need to first learn the four stages of arousal, which can help you understand when to prevent yourself from orgasming and begin stimulation:

1. Excitement:

You will notice your skin is starting to flush, muscles get tense, heartbeat is getting faster, and blood going down to your penis or vagina and clitoris. For people with a penis, their scrotum will withdraw. For people with a vagina, their vagina will get wet.

2. Plateau:

All the symptoms you experienced in the first stage will get even more intense. You will feel like being closer to an orgasm, and to edge it, you will need to slow down stimulation.

3. Orgasm:

A range of nerve and muscle responses will start happening, and you will notice a feeling of ecstasy, more lubrication in your vagina, or ejaculation of semen from your penis. However, if you’re practicing edging, this is the stage you will continuously postpone until you’re ready to have an orgasm.

4. Resolution:

Once you have had an orgasm, your tissues go back to their non-aroused sizes and colors, while your vitals normalize as well. In this stage, the refractory period starts, where you will not be able to get aroused for a period of time. It might last anywhere from a few minutes to a few days.

Two people might feel emotions during each of these four stages. You might even not experience some of them, while others might appear in different stages. This is why it is important to pay attention to what responses occur in your body and when to be able to learn how to edge an orgasm successfully.

 

Ways to Edge an Orgasm

If you’re curious about edging, start paying attention to what you feel before your orgasm and try to remain in that stage between plateau and orgasm. Listen to your body and focus on the signs. You will probably not be able to do it right away, and that is completely fine. Most people are not paying attention to how they come or what their orgasms include, so the learning process takes some time.

There are several ways you can start experimenting with edging. If a certain method doesn’t work for you, just continue to the next one until you find the one that can help you easily edge into an orgasm and achieve more sexual pleasure.

 

Solo

  • Turn your environment into something that is ideal for you. Lock the doors, put on your favorite music, turn down the lights, or do anything else that will put you in the mood.
  • Prepare your body for the adventure. Close your eyes and start touching yourself in areas that feel good until your vagina gets wet or your penis gets hard.
  • Begin with masturbation. Stroke the penis, stimulate the clitoris, or do anything else that has previously helped you achieve orgasms.
  • Once you notice you’re close to having an orgasm, stop touching yourself and start breathing slowly and deeply. Open your eyes to become aware of your environment.
  • Think about what got you so excited and become more aware of stimulation, areas, or thoughts that bring you closer to an orgasm. Focus on how your body was changing as well – sweating, excitation, shaking, etc.
  • When you’re ready, start touching yourself or masturbating a bit faster. Repeat all the steps that proved successful before until you are ready to reach your orgasm.
  • When you feel you’re close, let yourself experience this incredible orgasm, which will probably be much longer or more intense than any other orgasms you have experienced in your life. Compare how your orgasm went with and without edging.

 

With Your Partner

  • Get aroused through foreplay or any other activities that you and your partner prefer doing before sex. It can be dirty talking, oral sex, licking or sucking nipples, stimulating the G-spot, etc.
  • Tell your partner and listen to them when giving cues or sharing ideas on what to do with each other.
  • Once you’re both close to an orgasm, reduce or stop the stimulation until you go back to a plateau.
  • Begin the stimulation again and repeat all the things you both liked until you are ready to orgasm.
  • After an orgasm, talk with your partner about how it felt to edge into an orgasm. Learning how your partner felt can help you improve this entire experience next time.

 

In Final Words

With each of these methods, you can adjust them to your needs while trying them alone or with your sex partner. The important thing here is to maintain your curiosity and focus on how your body reacts. Edging a female orgasm will feel even better if your partner is learning how to edge their orgasm as well. This will unlock a range of incredible opportunities that will show you new things about your sexuality, so don’t just ignore it. Edging a female orgasm can lead to more intense and satisfying sexual experiences, enhancing both solo and partnered sexual activities.

 

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Edging for Women: The Art of Controlling Orgasms

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Edging for Women: The Art of Controlling Orgasms

 

Edging for women is increasing sexual stimulation to the point immediately before orgasm and then decreasing it again. It is a safe technique and will not likely harm your health.

Simply put, edging is the act of holding back an orgasm’s release while remaining on its brink.  males and women both use edging methods. However, males do so more frequently. Women don’t need to practice edging as much because they can become multi-orgasmic on their own or with training. Instead, a woman could choose to learn how to orgasm several times throughout a sexual session.

 

What Is Edging?

Edging is the process of gradually increasing sexual stimulation and ending just before the orgasmic peak. Edging can be done by one person or a group of people. The moment right before orgasm is known as the “edge.” During sexual action, people repeatedly practice edging to get to this point.

Edging may be done by anybody, regardless of gender or sexual preference. Similar to edging, the final climax will eventually be more fantastic the longer you wait and the more frequently you edge and withdraw. Trust us, it’s worth the effort.

 

How Edging Works

Edging is difficult. Many women who struggle with orgasming believe that getting there is like ascending a mountain; why would I want to drop back down and start over?

The proper approach is crucial to keep you on or as close to the edge as feasible because that is a problem. It’s a smart idea to use a vibrator and other devices to keep yourself entertained if you’re traveling alone. Stop any stimulation just before you’re about to reach your climax, and take a moment to allow your blood flow to slow down a bit.

Your orgasm will start to fade, but you shouldn’t wait until it is completely gone. Whether you were stroking your vibrator on your clitoris or using your hand, continue until you feel as though you are just coming out of climaxing. Then, work to return to the edge quickly so you can repeat the process. Your body will start to tingle as you play on the brink of your orgasm, and you’ll soon start to experience goosebumps.

 

Tips to Get Started with Female Edging

For various persons, edging can have different uses. It could also differ if someone is doing edging solo or in a group.

Edging is a tool that anybody may use to intensify a sexual orgasmic experience. Some people could use it to extend the duration of their sexual encounters.

 

  • Try It On Your Own

It might take some talent to learn how to edge, so try it out on your own first. The goal is to get as near to an orgasm as you can, pause, and then resume the process all over again.

So, pick a quiet location where you won’t be disturbed and where you can concentrate completely on the feelings of masturbation.

 

  • Pay Attention to Your Body

By edging, you may get much more familiar with the precise physical symptoms and in-the-moment reactions of an orgasm. So, do some areas of your body begin to stiffen up? Do your heart rate and breathing patterns alter?

Make a mental note of any minute changes that you notice. You might not be able to stop your climax this time, but the next time you try, you’ll be much more conscious of it as you get closer to the end.

 

  • Rate Your Arousal

To that aim, rank your level of arousal from one to ten, with ten being climax. When edging, you should halt yourself at an eight or a nine; you should experiment to see how close you can go.

Aiming for an eight when you first start out is a fantastic idea. Then, until you are back down to maybe a six or a five, stop touching yourself or touch yourself just very, very lightly and gently. You may then scale it back up to an eight or a nine before reducing the intensity to two and repeating the process until you are no longer able to tease yourself.

 

  • Take Turns with Your Partner

To handle both partners at once is simply too much to manage; you won’t be able to get the timing precisely perfect. Instead, before you begin, explain to your spouse what you hope to accomplish and set up a method. 

Decide on a clear signal in advance. It might be anything as easy as an arm or shoulder grasp, or it could be a vocal indication like “stop” or “pause” or “red light”. However, be sure to define the signal first: It might be hard to take yourself out of a situation when you’re with a partner if you get caught up in the moment and are approaching that nine.

 

  • Choose Your Positions

Choose positions where you have control since edging does call for a significant degree of physical control. Consider woman-on-top positions like Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl for penetrating sex because you can assess the speed and depth of the thrust and stop yourself as soon as necessary. These positions not only provide you easy access to your own clit.

Any position that allows you to rub yourself, though, works for edging because so many women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm: Consider lying back while your standing spouse thrusts in a posture known as a tabletop position, the downward dog, or other rear entrance positions.

 

In Final Words

You can learn about yourself and what makes you tick by engaging in sexual experimentation of any type. It’s okay if everything does not work for you.

In essence, if you don’t try, you won’t know. When you decide to let yourself feel the added intensity of eventually letting yourself fall over the orgasm cliff, you may realize that standing on the “edge” is just thrilling. Edging may first appear difficult. However, once you master the art of edging, the benefits are endless!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text

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How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text

 

Are you looking to learn how to flirt with a guy over text? You’re in the right place! Sending a few flirtatious texts to a person you like is a terrific technique to gauge his interest while you’re messaging him. However, how can you flirt with someone subtly if you’re unsure whether they feel the same way?

If you’ve never done this before, it might feel awkward or even intimidating. Luckily, we’ve prepared everything you’ll ever need if you want to become an expert at how to flirt with a guy over text.

 

Why Flirting over Text Is Not Easy?

It’s nerve-wracking enough to flirt with your crush (why do you constantly feel speechless?). However, flirting over text introduces a completely different problem. When they make you laugh, you can’t rely only on modest and discreet flirtations like making eye contact, smiling, or lightly caressing their arm. Instead, you’re forced to think of clever and adorable answers to express your true emotions to your crush through good morning messages and well-placed emoticons (gasp).

To be honest, flirting through text is really simple, so it’s entirely reasonable to feel a bit embarrassed (and the fear of being left on ‘read’ is genuine).

Don’t undervalue the power of a heart-eyes emoji. Also, ask questions and sprinkle in a few charming compliments here and there. After all, you are playing. So who knows?

Your flirtatious texts could lead to a phone call or face-to-face interaction, and before you know it, you’ll be organizing your first date. You only need to click “send.” The following advice will help you flirt through text and get a quick response from your crush.

 

Become a Pro in Texting with a Guy

With a solid opening, begin the conversation. Even though “hey” or “hi” can seem obvious, you want to leave a positive impression. Get a discussion started (Dunkin’ or Starbucks?) to liven things up a bit. Do they choose Chipotle or Taco Bell?

Let them know you’re looking forward to seeing them this weekend, send a humorous TikTok, or ask for a new Netflix recommendation. From then on, the discussion might take a lot of different turns.

 

Ask Questions

Fun and insightful inquiries demonstrate your interest in the other person’s life and your concern for them. It may be as simple as asking, “How are you?” However, feel free to ask them about their summer vacation plans, their reading, or if they’re a foodie like you. It’s an incredibly easy and successful technique to strike up a discussion.

 

Use Humor

Post a funny TikTok, meme, or tale about your day in the comments. Laughing together quickly strengthens your bond and creates a flirtatious, fun atmosphere in your conversation. Laughing together boosts relationships, according to several studies, so start laughing.

 

Avoid Multiple Texts

Although it is tempting, sending many texts could be a little overbearing. Yes, sending many messages at once could be OK, depending on how the discussion is developing. However, avoid sending a follow-up text if you send them texts every few minutes and they’re waiting a little longer to reply. When someone abandons you on ‘read,’ it is frustrating. Just note that there are a variety of explanations for it: they may be in class, have to leave for work, or perhaps have fallen asleep. Allow some time before you decide they are not interested in you.

 

Compliment Them

Whether it’s about their new shoes, their game-winning shot in tonight’s basketball game, or the mark they received on a recent exam, make them grin with lovely praise. They will undoubtedly have an inward sense of warmth.

 

Show Interest

Whether it’s about their new shoes, their game-winning shot in tonight’s basketball game, or the mark they received on a recent exam, make them grin with lovely praise. They will undoubtedly have an inward sense of warmth.

 

Be Playful

Select a completely frivolous subject, then get his opinion on it. You may have a flirtatious text debate if you both choose opposing positions. In addition to getting to demonstrate your sense of humor, you may also politely taunt him about his viewpoint.

 

Send a Meme

Another technique to make him laugh is to do this. Send him a link to anything funny you saw online that you think he’ll enjoy, along with a note like, “This made me think of you!” He’ll probably be flattered to know that you have him in mind, and you two could even have a good time talking about the meme.

 

Invite him to an Event

See if he wants to go if you’re performing or playing a game. It might be a terrific way to build your relationship to invite someone to an event like this since it lets him know that you want him there. Quickly message him to let him know you’d love to see him there.

 

Text Examples for Inspiration

There are an endless number of texts you can send to the guy you like. However, if you need a bit of inspiration, we’ve gathered several that might help you take the first step toward how to flirt with a guy over text.

  • Hey you! Stop thinking about me so much!
  • I had a dream about you last night.
  • I’m not good at starting conversations. What about you?
  • I just watched a movie you’d absolutely love. Want me to send you information about it?
  • After the day I had, I needed some fresh air. Care to join?
  • I found you funny and interesting. We should really talk more!
  • How’s your week going? I need a break from mine.
  • Can you teach me how to flirt?
  • I just saw the new photo you posted. I really love the way you look in it!
  • In the mood to have some fun?
  • I found a great movie on Netflix. Want to watch it together?
  • Which emoji makes you think of me?
  • My hands hurt from all the typing. Want to meet up?
  • What would you say if I said that it’s time for a first date?
  • Share a secret with me, and I’ll share mine with you!
  • That’s it! I’ve officially deleted my dating app. I no longer need it!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

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How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

 

For all of you wondering how to get a girl horny, today we’re sharing our best tips and ideas on how to make her panties wet. Luckily, there are plenty of tricks you can try out when wanting to get a girl very interested in being sexually intimate with you. Although you might assume that things get heated up after the penetration, you will be surprised to hear that for most girls, foreplay is key to good sex.

You will find plenty of articles online on how to improve your sex game or lead your girl to orgasm, yet very few of them talk about setting the mood for sex and upgrading your foreplay game. If you’re curious to learn what works and what doesn’t, continue reading this article and taking notes.

 

Build Up the Chemistry

Establish sexual chemistry before making any moves. Instead of admitting you like her, flirt with her verbally and nonverbally. You can flirt by casually complimenting her looks or outfit. You might also tease her a little bit by cracking a joke or two. Please keep in mind that most girls will feel attracted to someone who makes them laugh.

With nonverbal flirting, you will need to learn how to look at her in a way that makes her intrigued. You should look deep into her eyes, and when your eyes meet, do not look away. This is where the flirtation starts. You can slightly smile at her when she looks your way, even if you’re already conversing with her. 

 

Sit Close to Her

If you’re not comfortable with flirting, this one might seem awkward to you at first. Ensure that you sit extremely close to the girl you wish to get horny with the next time you see her. This will also allow you to see how she feels near you. When you’re that close to her, pay attention to her signs. She might turn towards you and start a pleasant chat, decide to sit even closer to you, or show you she is not interested in sharing her space with you. 

You can show her something interesting on your phone to have her lean closer and see how she feels sitting this close to you. Or, you might show her something that is in front of you, such as a billboard sign or a parked sports car. 

Although you will be focusing on another thing, you will notice whether or not she feels comfortable with you being really close to her.

 

Talk about Something You’re Passionate about

Many girls will become attracted to someone when they notice their passion for something. For instance, seeing a person talk about their favorite band, movie, sport, or childhood memory can really turn a girl on. Your passion doesn’t have to be anything out of the ordinary. You might talk about your favorite restaurant or how you feel about your upcoming vacations. 

For someone listening, you will show a side of you they haven’t seen before. This is also probably where your confidence lies, another factor girls seek in their partners. Getting immediately into foreplay or sex is not nearly as interesting as getting attracted to another person gradually and then, when things get heated up, starting with the action.

 

Avoid Touching

As much as physical contact can be sensual and flirty, try to avoid it until you’re 100% sure the girl is interested. Think about it: a part of what makes flirting interesting is the uncertainty of the outcome—whether or not the girl will like you back. Even if you notice that she is becoming more and more interested, try to avoid touching her to get her even more excited.

After all, words can be a powerful seduction tool. Tease her and show her you’re the catch. Curiosity will motivate her to continue talking to you and, when the time is right, move it to the next level. 

 

Let’s Get Physical!

There’s a reason why it takes a few steps until you can try to either touch her fingers, move hair from her face, hug her, or do anything else that naturally comes to mind. Touching someone without first determining whether or not they are interested in you will eliminate any possibility of arousing their desire. 

Once you’ve read all the signs right and noticed she likes having you close and there is a certain chemistry between you, you can try to show her you like her in a decent physical way. For instance, you might touch her fingers while you’re sitting close and talking. Or, you might move her hair from her face after a sudden breeze. 

All of these movements will show you how she reacts to physical touch. If she touches your back or indicates that everything is well received, you are on your way to getting a girl horny. You two decide how to proceed from there. You could stop here or continue privately.

Make sure you are both okay with sex and have everything you need for the safest and most pleasurable experience. Each example is unique; some people will need weeks or months to get a particular girl horny, while others might need a few hours. There is no magic formula, and oftentimes, it will depend on factors that are out of your control. 

 

Conclusion

Ready to get a girl horny? If there’s a person you like, why not try to put your new skills to the test? Ask them out for a coffee or a dinner; invite them to see a music concert; or ask them to work out with you in the gym. If they accept, it means they would like to spend some time with you.

When you meet, it will be up to you to see if her interest is purely friendly or if there is something more for you to discover. 

 

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us with a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy, and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

How is the Barbie Movie Symbolizing Women’s Empowerment?

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How is the Barbie Movie Symbolizing Women’s Empowerment?

 

If you’ve seen the Barbie movie, you might have been surprised at first to learn how much Barbie and the women’s empowerment movement have in common. Barbie was a pretty doll to play with in our childhood. The movie you have probably heard about helped us see her complexity. 

In case you haven’t watched the movie yet, we’ve compiled several reasons we think Barbie should be on your to-watch list. 

Grab a friend, sister, niece, or partner and have a great cinematic experience while highlighting the journey of womanhood in our world.

 

Women Behind the Barbie Movie

To create such a heartfelt story that impacted millions of women worldwide, this movie surely needed a team of strong women. Margot Robbie’s portrayal of Barbie has transformed her from a one-dimensional character to a real woman who interacts with the outside world. Greta Gerwig, who is well-known for putting women and their untold stories at the forefront of her films like Little Women and Lady Bird, wrote and directed it. Even Barbie’s high-arched feet, formerly permanently molded into plastic to accommodate high heels, flatten out in the movie.

Amazing actresses like America Ferrera, Issa Rae, Kate McKinnon, Alexandra Shipp, and Emma Mackey were responsible for portraying each Barbie. Even the popular singer Dua Lipa appears as one of the Barbies. Naturally, men play Kens in the film. These were, however, supporting roles that were used to highlight the differences between the Barbie world and reality.  

 

How the Barbie Movie Empowers Women

“Stereotypical Barbie” and all other Barbies live in Barbieland, a matriarchal society where all women are successful, independent, and confident, according to the movie. Barbies work as doctors, lawyers, and legislators, while Kens relax at the beach. Barbie prefers her independence and time with the other Barbies, despite Beach Ken’s attempts to win her over.  

Barbie claims that empowering girls and women to believe in themselves has improved the world. Stereotypical Barbie leaves the fantasy world with Ken (Ryan Gosling) after an existential crisis. They discover during their travels that the majority of the women they meet in the real world require more empowerment. They were shocked to learn that men appear to hold the majority of economic and other power. 

 

Why Barbie Is Still Relevant

America Ferrera, who plays Mattel employee Gloria, mentioned how men can enjoy childhood pastimes like video games and comic books as adults. However, women must mature, set aside pleasures, sacrifice for others, and perform their duties while grinning selflessly. That is why the actress played Gloria. She viewed this figure as a resilient woman who made it into adulthood without giving up her belief in the value of childlike wonder, high aspirations, or originality. 

While grieving, Gloria looks for comfort in a memento from happier times. In a way that many women can relate to, she longs for the ease of her childhood. As the film progresses, it becomes clear that Barbie was mistaken in thinking that a young girl going through an existential crisis was playing with her. Instead, it was a full-grown woman who spends her downtime at Mattel conceptualizing new Barbies. It is truly remarkable that Barbie depicted an adult retreating to the familiarity of a childhood toy in the face of hardship, despair, and confusion. 

That is why the film resonated so deeply with women. We can simultaneously take on many identities.  We can be joyful, creative, and childlike even as grown women. 

 

One Last Thing

Girls grow up way too quickly. We naturally assume more moral, emotional, and sexual responsibility, even if we do not try. The global women’s empowerment movement aims to change that. The smartest people in the room can be playful. Without impressing others, we can dress cute or sexy. We deserve to love our childhood heroes like men do: Superman, Batman, the Ninja Turtles, and more. Yet, we love the Barbie movie. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Let Go of Your Prince Charming Complex and Be Your Own Hero

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Let Go of Your Prince Charming Complex and Be Your Own Hero

 

Why do Americans—women and men of all ages—have a Prince Charming complex? In this article, we touch on the reasons why it exists, how it has shaped our beliefs and actions. And how you can break free from this unrealistic childhood fantasy. Say goodbye to fairytales and embrace a more authentic and fulfilling reality. It’s time to foster personal growth and empowerment where you are the hero of your own life story.

In American culture, the idea of a Prince Charming coming to rescue us from life’s challenges and fulfill all our desires is deeply ingrained. This fairytale notion, while charming on the surface, can hinder personal growth and self-sufficiency. In this article, we will delve into why this belief persists and explore how letting go of the Prince Charming fantasy can lead to personal empowerment and the fulfillment of our true needs.

The Prince Charming complex can apply to a broader range of individuals than just single women. Meaning, it’s a belief system that can impact people across various demographics and life stages. Here are some other groups that the Prince Charming complex can apply to:

 

Men who are single:

Men sometimes make the mistake of thinking that finding the right partner will make all their problems go away. This can impede personal development and independence and cause irrational expectations in interpersonal relationships.

 

People in Relationships:

Individuals in relationships may still harbor the Prince Charming complex. Expecting their partner to fulfill all their needs and make them feel joy at all times. By putting too much pressure on one partner to provide all of the support and happiness, this can strain relationships.

 

Parents and caregivers:

Parents, particularly single parents, might unintentionally cling to the hope of finding a partner who will assist them in raising their kids and offer stability. Although seeking support is common, relying solely on this expectation may prevent parents from fully embracing their role and achieving personal growth.

 

Individuals Facing Life Transitions:

During times of uncertainty or significant life changes, such as job loss, divorce. Or a midlife crisis, people might be more susceptible to the Prince Charming complex. The desire for stability and comfort can lead individuals to believe that finding a partner will magically solve their current challenges.

 

Elderly Individuals:

Even in later stages of life, some individuals might hold onto the Prince Charming fantasy. Hoping for companionship or support in their senior years. This can prevent them from exploring their independence and pursuing personal passions.

 

People with Low Self-Esteem:

People with low self-esteem might believe that someone else’s love or validation will give them a sense of worth. This can lead to seeking external validation rather than cultivating a healthy self-image.

 

The Appeal of Prince Charming

The allure of Prince Charming lies in its simplicity and the promise of a happily-ever-after. The media, fairy tales, and popular culture often portray a knight in shining armor or a person with the answers as a solution to life’s struggles. This portrayal perpetuates the belief that someone will come and save us, providing emotional security and happiness. 

The desire for rescue and protection is natural, yet relying solely on external sources for fulfillment can be detrimental to personal development. 

 

Unrealistic Expectations

The concept of Prince Charming fosters unrealistic expectations about relationships and life. Believing that someone else will solve our problems can lead to disappointment and a sense of powerlessness when reality fails to match our fantasies. Relationships require effort and compromise from both parties, and expecting a perfect savior can lead to a cycle of failed connections.

 

The Influence of Pop Culture and Media

Pop culture and media play a significant role in shaping our beliefs and perceptions, including the idea of Prince Charming. From classic fairy tales to modern romantic comedies, the narrative of a perfect hero sweeping in to save the day is repeatedly reinforced. 

Here’s how these influential mediums contribute to the persistence of the Prince Charming fantasy:

 

Fairy Tales and Disney Princesses:

Fairytales have been an integral part of culture for centuries, and they often feature a damsel in distress waiting for her Prince Charming to rescue her. Disney has immortalized iconic characters like Cinderella, Snow White. And Sleeping Beauty, further promoting the idea that finding true happiness requires a prince’s rescue.

While these stories may hold sentimental value, they can also create unrealistic expectations. They often omit the complexities of real-life relationships, where both partners must actively work to maintain a healthy connection. By internalizing the fairytale narrative, individuals may start believing that their problems will be magically solved when they find their perfect match.

 

Romantic Comedies and Dramas:

Romantic movies and TV shows also contribute to the Prince Charming fantasy. These narratives typically revolve around a romantic pursuit, where the lead characters’ lives transform once they find their soulmate. The focus on the “happily-ever-after” ending can overshadow the importance of personal growth and self-discovery.

While entertainment is meant to be enjoyable, it is essential to differentiate between fiction and reality. Romantic movies often present a highly idealized version of love, which can set unrealistic expectations for relationships in the real world. This can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction when real-life partnerships don’t live up to the cinematic magic.

 

Social Media and Influencers:

In the digital age, social media platforms and influencers play a significant role in shaping societal norms and ideals. Many influencers curate picture-perfect relationships and lifestyles, creating a false sense of what constitutes a successful and fulfilling life.

The constant exposure to idealized versions of relationships and the pursuit of “happily-ever-after” can subconsciously reinforce the belief that someone else holds the key to our happiness. This can lead to comparison and feelings of inadequacy, further perpetuating the Prince Charming myth.

 

Gender Roles and Societal Expectations:

The concept of Prince Charming is often intertwined with traditional gender roles, where men are expected to be strong protectors and providers, and women are portrayed as passive and in need of rescue. These roles can limit personal agency and perpetuate unequal power dynamics in relationships.

Challenging these gender norms is essential to promoting healthier relationships and empowering individuals to embrace their authentic selves. Acknowledging that both men and women can be strong, vulnerable, and capable of personal growth fosters more equal and fulfilling partnerships.

 

Men and the Pressure of Being Prince Charming: Redefining Masculinity

While the Prince Charming complex is often associated with women seeking a rescuer, it’s essential to recognize that men also experience significant pressure to embody the role of a perfect savior in their own right. 

This pressure is a result of societal expectations and traditional gender norms. Which frequently put men in difficult situations that can impede their personal development and well-being.

 

1.Emotional Suppression:

The social pressure on men to always maintain emotional fortitude and stoicism is one of the main ways they encounter the Prince Charming complex. Since sadness, fear, and vulnerability are seen as signs of weakness, men are frequently discouraged from expressing them. This pressure to appear strong and unaffected can cause emotional suppression and make it difficult to connect with people in a genuine way.

 

2.Financial Responsibility:

Men are frequently expected to be the main providers and breadwinners in a family. This pressure to succeed financially and maintain stability in order to validate their worth can be overwhelming for men. Thus, failure to meet these expectations can cause stress, anxiety, and inadequacy.

 

3.Relationship Roles:

In romantic relationships, men can feel pressure to be the strong and authoritarian figure, solving all problems and providing unwavering support. This can create an imbalance in the relationship dynamics. Where men might suppress their own needs and emotions to fulfill the Prince Charming role. Leading to unfulfilled relationships and emotional detachment. This leads to situations where men follow leaders like Trump, Andrew Tate, and Putin, who are seen as capable of solving the problem. While it is not problematic to have role models. The concept that you have to save someone creates issues in relationships because you cannot actually fix, heal, or change another person. You can help collaborate with a partner to the extent they are ready, willing, and able, but saving someone will come off as overbearing and thus further promote relationship issues. 

In conclusion, it’s time to forget Prince Charming and take that pressure off of men. Believing in the notion that someone will come to save you may hinder personal growth, self-sufficiency, and authentic relationships. 

 

The Power of Self-Reliance:

Embracing self-reliance empowers individuals to take control of their lives. Instead of waiting for a savior, we can become our own heroes, capable of making positive changes and pursuing our dreams. Recognizing our strengths and abilities enables us to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.

 

Embracing Growth and Personal Development:

Believing in Prince Charming can keep us stagnant, waiting for external forces to shape our lives. By breaking free from this notion, we open ourselves to personal growth and development. Embracing change and continuously striving to improve allows us to evolve as individuals. Leading to a more fulfilling and meaningful existence.

 

Building Interdependent Relationships:

Redefining our beliefs about Prince Charming is crucial to establishing healthy relationships. Letting go of the idea that someone else can complete us encourages us to seek partners who support and complement our growth rather than fill an unrealistic role. Healthy relationships are founded on mutual respect, shared values, and the willingness to grow together.

Let’s forget Prince Charming. Instead, let’s embrace our own strengths and capabilities, taking charge of our lives and embracing growth and empowerment through caring communities. True fulfillment comes from a variety of means, not from an external fairytale fantasy. Let’s reclaim our power and create a reality where we are the curators of our own realities and the hero of our own lives or stories

 

Note to Readers:

Breaking free from the Prince Charming illusion is a process that requires self-reflection and patience. It isn’t as easy as you might think. Recognizing the impact of pop culture and media on shaping our beliefs about Prince Charming is crucial to breaking free from this limiting fantasy. While these narratives may have a place in entertainment, we must remember that real-life growth and fulfillment come from within.

As we navigate the influence of media and societal expectations, let’s be mindful of the stories we internalize and seek a more balanced perspective on relationships. By challenging the Prince Charming myth and embracing personal empowerment. We can create healthier, more fulfilling connections based on mutual respect, growth, and authenticity.

As a master’s-level therapist in systems theory. I encourage you to explore these ideas further, seeking support and guidance if needed. Remember, you hold the key to how you interact with others. So sometimes it is helpful to explore with someone who gets it. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together with one of our staff. 

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Fascinating Facts About Women: Unveiling the Power and Potential

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Fun and fascinating Facts About Women that men don’t know!

Let’s learn more about celebrating the remarkable achievements and unique qualities of women around the world!

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From bodies to pleasure, we showcase the incredible facts about women and their bodies! Join us on this journey of female empowerment.

Our content is dedicated to fostering understanding and appreciation for the unique experiences of humanity, and we aim to share lovely facts about females.

We believe that knowledge is power, and by sharing these facts, we hope to promote gender equality, encourage inclusivity, and ignite conversations that empower both humans.

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Attention Deficit Disorder in Women: Seeking Solutions!

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Attention Deficit Disorder in Women: Seeking Solutions!

 

Women with ADHD or attention deficit disorder face unique challenges. They might feel powerless, fatigued, and like they’re constantly struggling to keep up. They may also have trouble with friendships, work, and school deadlines. If you’re a woman with attention deficit disorder, know that you’re not alone. There are many resources available to help you manage your symptoms and live a happy and fulfilling life.

 

What is ADHD?

Also, women with ADHD often have trouble with executive functioning, which can make it hard for them to manage their time, stay organized, and finish what they start.

The neurodevelopmental condition ADHD affects impulsivity, hyperactivity, and attention. In adults, ADHD is thought to affect 5–10% of them. Regardless of the type of diagnosis used, attention deficit disorder is referred to as the “ADHD inattentive type.”

 

Symptoms of ADHD in Women

The symptoms of ADHD in women can vary depending on the severity of the disorder. However, some common symptoms include:

  • Difficulty paying attention or following instructions
  • Restlessness, trouble sitting still 
  • Desire to fidget due to body dysregulation
  • Having trouble reining in impulsive behavior
  • Trouble planning tasks
  • Difficulty managing time and staying on task
  • Trouble with controlling emotions

 

Challenges Women with Attention Deficit Disorder Face

If you think you may have attention deficit disorder, it’s important to see an APRN and/or mental health professional for diagnosis and treatment. There are a number of effective treatments for ADHD, including medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. 

Women with ADHD often have difficulty with emotional regulation, which can lead to impulsive behaviors and mood swings. This can be difficult for partners to understand and can create conflict in the relationship. This can also be difficult for partners to understand and can lead to frustration.

Furthermore, changes that can be helpful for managing ADHD quickly include getting sleep, eating a balanced diet, moving your body, avoiding stress, avoiding caffeine, and finding someone to help you get organized. 

Women with ADHD face a number of challenges, including:

  • Having trouble at work and in school 
  • Substance abuse and / or disordered eating
  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Sleep disturbances 
  • Difficulty in relationships – including family and friends

 

How to Find a Therapist

If you’re looking for a therapist to help you with ADHD, you can ask your doctor for a referral or search online. When choosing a therapist, it’s important to find someone who is experienced in treating ADHD and who you feel comfortable with. 

Psychotherapy can be an effective treatment for attention deficit disorder in women. So, there are a number of different types of therapy that can be helpful, including:

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): CBT can help you learn how to manage your thoughts and behaviors in a more helpful way.
  • Group therapy: Group therapy can provide you with support and a sense of community.
  • Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT): DBT can help you learn how to manage your emotions and cope with stress.

 

Tips for Women with Attention Deficit Disorder

In summary, don’t be afraid to learn new skill sets. There are a number of resources available to help you manage your ADHD. Also, it’s common and normal to need others. Be patient with yourself, as it takes time to learn how to manage a different brain.

Although ADHD cannot be cured, some people find it to be a gift. Concentrate on your distinct advantages, please. Relationships with women who have ADHD can be challenging, and they can also be incredibly rewarding. 

Women with ADHD are frequently passionate, creative, and active. They can also be incredibly supportive and devoted partners. It’s crucial to be understanding and supportive if you’re in a relationship with a woman who has an attention deficit. With some time and effort, both you and those around you can learn to enjoy the benefits of your relationship. Also, be certain to celebrate your connections. If you’re a woman with ADHD, know that you’re not alone and that there are others who are going through this as well. 

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm

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Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm

 

Have you ever thought about the best sex positions for female orgasm? If you struggle to climax in general, the best thing you can do is learn how to orgasm on your own. You’ll find it a lot more straightforward to have genuinely wonderful moments with a partner once you can orgasm on your own without any difficulty. 

For those who want pleasure during partnered sex, the best sex positions for female orgasm are found below! 

 

  • The Pindown 

You lie flat face down, and he’s on top of you, face down. After that, he/they enter you from behind. The feelings you experience are incredibly different from any rear-entry position when your bottom is up in the air or your legs are spread. 

Also, if you put your hand between the bed and your body, you can stimulate your own clitoris. Many women find it easy to orgasm in this position, even if they’ve never “come” in any other position. With legs closed together, this gives a sensation of ultimate arousal. 

 

  • Free Ride

The guy rests on their back. You sit on their penis, facing away, with your back to him. Next, in your own time, gently lower yourself until your back is completely extended on the front of your body and his penis is inside of you.

This is a truly new sense of feeling pleasure. Meaning, the fact that any partner can readily touch the clitoris is an added benefit. This position is unique and enjoyable, and everyone typically has a fantastic time.

 

  • Cuddly Cat

Even though this is a couch position, it is fun! While you both sit facing the same direction, you slide your vagina onto his penis. At this time, the clitoris may feel intense pulsing feelings.

The other distinction is allowing you to use your upper body strength to rock up and down. 

 

  • Spoon

In this position, you lie on one side, as your spouse lies facing the same way, penetrating you from behind. 

Although not all women find it simple to orgasm on their sides, some do. The fact that you or your partner can reach down and stimulate your clitoris is a huge advantage. 

 

The Female Anatomy

While stunning, the female anatomy is also intricate. The key to getting the right pleasure response is to understand how everything on the outside and inside of this body area works.

You must be well aware of what each component of the female anatomy is made of. Don’t be embarrassed if you need to figure out where anything is. Even though most people refer to the female genitalia as the “vagina,” this is only ONE aspect of the female sexual anatomy. The female inner lips are called the vulva. It is made up of the clitoris, the labia majora (outer lips), and the labia minora (inner lips).

Moreover, there is the vagina, which connects to the vaginal canal. During sexual activity, all of these components are active and functioning simultaneously. If she likes having other regions of her body handled, other hotspots are the anus and the perineum.

Many women feel more pleasure when they are stroked in any of these locations. Of course, it is a good idea to talk to your partner about your tastes, what you both love, and what you wish to avoid. 

 

Consider Sex Toys

Sex gadgets can give you the extra element you need to reach your climax. Men might use a toy on you or themselves, and you can wear a toy to stimulate your clitoral area more. Meaning, you could love trying out vibrators, dildos, and vibrating cockrings as sex toys with your partner. 

For men, also try out a ring that surrounds the penis and has a vibrating device on top. The benefit of this is that it brushes against your clitoris during sexual activity! 

 

The Bottom Line

While toys are great for helping you reach orgasm more often, most vagina owners want clitoral stimulation to have orgasms. Meaning, there are techniques to encourage your partner to stimulate your clitoris with their body.

 

Talk to your partner about the positions you are both excited to try out and set aside enough time to explore it properly.  With a partner who cares, you can make it easier for you to have an exciting and orgasmic experience.

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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The Ultimate Guide to Female Edging: Tips and Techniques

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The Ultimate Guide to Female Edging: Tips and Techniques

 

Learn how to practice female edging and take your sexual experiences to the next level. Edging female involves pushing yourself, as a woman, just past the point of orgasm and then pulling back before letting yourself reach the peak. 

This means that your orgasm will be much more intense than usual because you gradually raised your level of arousal until it peaked. Then lowered it, raised it again, and lowered it. 

Edging can significantly increase how strong, intense, and pleasurable the orgasm appears in women.

Here is all the information you require regarding this practice.

 

What Is Female Edging?

 

When you are on the cusp of orgasm, you are said to be “female edging.” It’s a great way to make your orgasms stronger and become more sexually aware. Continue reading to learn more about edging and the benefits it may provide.

Whether you’re masturbating alone or with a partner, edging is all of the sexual buildup and foreplay you feel before you reach climax. However, when you get there, you put on the brakes and let the “engine” slow down, which delays the climax a bit.

If you’re never tried it, edging can have several sexual advantages, including producing orgasms that are more powerful and last longer. Sometimes in our lives, all we need is a climax to unwind, or we’re not up for long romantic dates.

However, you know what it takes to get there if you’ve ever experienced one of those mind-blowing, bury your face in the pillow, screaming orgasms. It takes a lot of foreplay and patience to get those orgasms. To get you there, you probably did some fantastic acts like oral sex, manual sex, and other things. Not to mention, you’re likely doing it with someone you have a strong romantic interest in.

Like edging, the final climax will be better the longer you wait the more you edge and withdraw. Trust me, it’s worth the effort.

 

Tips to Start with Female Edgingand 

 

There are some things you can do to make sure that your first time female edging is a good one. Try them out when you feel like you’re in the mood. 

  • Do it on your own. 

You should practice edging on your own at first because learning how to perform it might require some ability. The goal is to get as close to an orgasm as you can, pause, and then resume the process all over again.

So pick a quiet location where you won’t be disturbed and can concentrate completely on the feelings of masturbation.

 

  • Pay attention to sensations in your body. 

By edging, you may learn a lot more about the exact physical signs and reactions of an orgasm in the moment. So, do some areas of your body begin to stiffen up? Do your heart rate and breathing pattern change?

Make a mental note of any minute changes that you notice. You might not be able to stop your climax this time, yet the next time you try, you’ll be much more conscious as you get closer to the end.

 

  • Evaluate your pleasure level.

We also suggest picturing how excited you are on a scale from one to ten, with ten being the peak. While edging, you should halt yourself at an eight or a nine; you should experiment to see how close you can go.

Aiming for an eight could be a good idea when you first start. Then, until you are back down to maybe a six or a five. Stop touching yourself or touch yourself just very, very lightly and gently. You may then scale it back up to an eight or a nine before reducing the intensity to two and repeating the process until you can no longer tease yourself.

 

  • Don’t reach for toys. 

Beginners should aim to orgasm with only their hands if they can, yet if they can only climax with a vibrator, by all means. The great thing about a vibrator is that it can give you the kind of intense stimulation that your body can’t give you on its own. When you’re trying to edge, all that intensity might make it hard to be as “fine-tuned” as most people need to be when judging how much fun they’re having. 

The vibrator can occasionally swiftly take you from 0 to 100. Thus, choose a manual for this inaugural journey. But if a vibrator is your favorite way to have fun. Try playing with different pulse rates and patterns to keep yourself from getting too excited.

 

Female Edging Improves Sexual Awareness

 

You and your partner will enjoy better sex if you understand your arousal cues. The sexual fulfillment of their female companions is a major issue for many people.

There is a reason why so many of us have in the past fabricated orgasms. Some of them like making their lovers feel good in bed, and many partners enjoy feeling powerful while their partners orgasm.

A great way to alert your spouse to your orgasm ladder and what it takes to ascend it is through female edging. If you do it frequently enough and your spouse pays attention. They will eventually understand some of what makes you tick.

Doing the edge with a partner might be more enjoyable since you can tease each other and it heightens the sexual tension. There is some power play as your lover pushes you into the climax and then pulls away.

They have to “allow” you to reach your climax, and some individuals enjoy feeling subjugated and in charge. Your partner will pay close attention to how you breathe, make sounds, and move your body in reaction to contact, all of which will enhance your sexual encounter.

You will be involved in a thoughtful, intimate interaction that will be more enjoyable and link you both.

 

In Final Words

 

You most likely had a clitoral orgasm if, throughout this exercise, your clit suddenly became hypersensitive and uncomfortable to touch or if you abruptly lost interest in your practice. That’s alright.

After engaging in this enjoyable edging, you may be in an orgasmic state all along rather than experiencing an orgasmic peak. It could feel like “simple pleasure” at first, yet after using this technique for a week or two and being stimulated for 30 minutes. You will realize that what you feel is far more than “just pleasure.”

Because sexual energy builds up, this exercise gives you an orgasmic feeling that lasts even after you stop touching yourself. Even an internal energy orgasm could occur. Surprise! Your orgasmic power is already growing.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.