Sex Therapist Secret Male Masturbation Techniques Revealed!
Sex Therapist Secret Male Masturbation Techniques Revealed!
What are your favorite male masturbation techniques?
Mine is edging, and I am going to teach you how to get longer, and stronger orgasms.
It’s time to take control back of your member!
A brief introduction into a variety of male masturbation techniques encourages conscious self-pleasuring.
In recent years, there has been a new term that has entered the sexual lexicon - a favorite one of my male masturbation techniques, according to internet research.
“Edging” is the practice of extending and intensifying the period of sexual stimulation and pleasure by delaying orgasm, specifically ejaculation.
DISCLAIMER: For the sake of brevity rather than priority, we will be limiting our conversation to humans with external genitals in the context of “male” sexuality. Please email us if you want more on masturbation techniques across the binary!
Masturbation is Good for You!
Self-pleasure is an excellent way of providing for your own needs! It is fun, self-soothing, and feels good.
Most men stumble onto this natural wonderment in puberty and joyfully or shamefully retreat to the privacy of their room and their receptive sweat socks and lotion bottles with great regularity.
No harm, no foul!
As young men mature, so do their sexual and emotional needs, and many begin to seek out intensifying factors such as porn; and occasionally other fetishistic behaviors, like self-bondage, panty-sniffing and about a million other things, including edging.
These patterns will certainly shape the sexual behavior and preferences for the rest of his life, occasionally in unpleasant ways.
Masturbation is powerful in its potential to “program” our sexual behavior.
Here is where edging can be beneficial to our sexual performance when we add a partner into the mix.
Often, there is shame associated with ejaculation before your partner is ready for it.
This shame is not helpful, so I’ll bypass the tropes and point out that, generally speaking, the ability to control orgasm and ejaculation is considered a desirable trait in a male lover, and the lack thereof would be high on the list of frustrations by people who find sex with their partners unfulfilling.
A good start is to not ejaculate until you have been masturbating for at least 20 minutes.
This will help you develop the ability to sense and delay the onset of ejaculation with pacing, a good second step is to not allow yourself to ever stop masturbating, but rather slow down and speed up to gain even greater control.
At more advanced levels, this will help you to develop the muscles required to delay ejaculation and maintain a firm erection even when pleasure increases or is momentarily interrupted.
There are even videos on Pornhub to assist you in this practice.
In my opinion, most of them are too short, but they may be helpful to you (search JOI or edging challenge)! Some even have a guide sound or visual to require you to stroke at a certain intensity.
Hopefully your solitary practice of edging will benefit your sexual relations as well!
Wouldn’t it be nice to know going into a sexual encounter that you have perfect control of your own orgasm and will be able to please your partner with a mutually satisfactory experience without anxiety over orgasming too soon or that awkward feeling of being “done” when your partner is still raring to go?
So far, we have only spoken of this as a means to an end, and it can be helpful that way; however, edging with a partner can be a wonderful experience.
It can be done as pure hedonism or with with an edge of power exchange where control of orgasm and prolonging of pleasure becomes kind of a game.
In porn, it seems to be popular when combined with humiliation play or bondage and “ruined orgasm” videos abound where a man is made to edge over several days, or weeks even, and is then stimulated to the point of orgasm and then stimulation stops just at the onset of orgasm.
It seems mean, but the guys don’t seem to mind - LOL.
The increased volume of semen that is often a result of edging is also a factor for some people as is the increased “horniness” that prolonged edging over days or weeks can cause.
There are many reasons to give all of these considerations a try in your self-pleasure practice.
Have fun with your new Male Masturbation Techniques!
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
How To Break Up With Someone During The Holidays, According To Experts
How To Break Up With Someone During The Holidays, According To Experts
By CAROLYN STEBER from bustle.com
While it's never easy to end a relationship, it can be particularly difficult to break up with someone during the holidays. It's only natural to think you'll celebrate with your partner, give gifts, visit family, and spend the season side by side. So the idea of pulling the plug on all that, right when expectations are high, can be tricky.
And yet sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. If a relationship isn't working, it's OK to end it even though the holidays are right around the corner. It can even be kind, in a way, not to lead a partner on through the festivities, only to break up them in the new year. Instead, focus on ways to make the break up less terrible, find the right time, and then do it.
Following the time-tested bandage method, where you rip it off (or end the relationship) quickly, is usually the least painful option. "If you’re going to break up with someone, be direct about it," Jonathan Bennett, a relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells Bustle. "The holidays are stressful enough and your partner doesn’t need the extra drama of ghosting, slow fading, or anything else except a clean breakup."
It may be tempting to ignore texts or bail on holiday parties as a way of slowly stepping out of a relationship, but being straightforward is best. And don't wait until the last minute, either. "The longer you wait to end it, the more you’ll disrupt everyone’s holiday schedule," Bennett says. It's going to throw your partner through a loop, but even more so if they don't have time to make other plans.
Depending on the length and intensity of your relationship, the breakup could be as easy as that. But if you've been committed for years, be prepared to do more work. "We get into relationships with respect and love," Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. "We ought to end them with respect and love towards the partner we say we have loved."
This might mean going to couples therapy before calling things off. "Send an email, handwrite a letter, or have a face-to-face conversation (or multiple conversations) stating you are not happy and that you want to see a therapist before immediately breaking up with someone," Pasciucco says. On the one hand, you may begin to overcome your differences. Or, it could be the last olive branch you need to extend before officially parting ways.
From there, end the relationship as you would any other time of year. "Be honest. Own your part. Stay respectful [...] Treat them the way you would like to be treated," Christine Scott-Hudson, MA, MFT, ATR, a licensed psychotherapist, tells Bustle. "And finally, apologize for anything you may have said or done that was hurtful. And tell them they are lovable and deserving of a healthy relationship in the future."
Once you've broken up try to take good care of yourself, especially as you head out to gatherings and dinners. "It is difficult to breakup before the holidays because of shame, fear [...] and what others will think of you both," Pasciucco says. You might not want to face your family or have to explain why your partner isn't present, but keep in mind why it needed to end and don't let anyone make you feel bad about the timing.
"Breaking up is always difficult and there is no good time to do it," Bennett says. "If the relationship is truly over, then you don’t have to feel guilty ending it over the holidays." Instead, rest assured you ended well, and try to move on from there.
Experts:
Jonathan Bennett, a relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating
Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist
Christine Scott-Hudson, MA, MFT, ATR, a licensed psychotherapist
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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
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Learn How to Manage Holiday Stress and Anxiety
Learn How to Manage Holiday Stress and Anxiety
It’s that time of year, and we thought we would help you learn how to manage holiday stress and anxiety. If you’re like us, you’ve got a love-hate relationship with the holidays. Along with the nostalgic joy of music, food, and family gatherings comes the stress of dealing with it all.
For some people, handling the holidays can be tough. Even though we know what will set us or others off, we think things will be different every year, and we put ourselves in situations filled with anxiety triggers.
Who gets a present? Who doesn’t? How many people do you invite? Which parties should you go to? Will anyone show up at yours? Have you overcommitted again?
All of these questions are enough to make us wish the holidays never existed. There is, however, hope. Here are some tips on handling the holiday season.
Take a Personal Inventory
Before you get stressed out this holiday season, sit down and take a personal inventory. Some years, you’re up for everything. Maybe it’s been too long since you’ve seen your family, or you’re flush with cash, so you want to buy everyone presents. Other years, though, you need to be low key.
You need to know how much you can handle before you start filling out your schedule. Avoid holiday burnout by pacing out your activities. Don’t overcommit yourself. If you spend all your time and emotional energy ticking off obligations, you won’t be able to enjoy the parties and activities that really mean something.
Set Clear Boundaries
Why do you keep spending two weeks with your parents when you know one week is all you can take? For some reason, maybe a sense of duty or being too idealistic, we keep putting ourselves in situations we know are fraught with anxiety and stress.
Before the holiday season comes, set clear boundaries for yourself and others. Let your parents know you’ll be coming for only a week this year. Finally, say no to the parties you don’t want to go to and fight for that time off at work so you’re not responding to emails on New Year’s Eve.
Make time for yourself so you can handle the stress and anxiety that comes with the holidays. Do something that makes you feel good.
The Gift Exchange
Some people are just better than others at giving gifts. It’s easy to feel like a total failure if it’s something you struggle with, particularly if your partner excels at it.
Giving family gifts is also very tricky. Why should you have to buy gifts for a million people just because your brothers and sisters decided to have a ton of kids?
Try a proactive approach and set a money limit on gifts with the family. Set expectations so you’re not stressed and scrambling right up to the holidays. If you’ve got a big family, think about a gift exchange where you buy for just one sibling and their family each year.
Having to buy fewer gifts will mean less holiday stress and you’ll have more time to spend with people you love rather than running around in stores.
Don’t Party Hard, Party with a Purpose!
We’ve all had years where we cut super loose and went a bit crazy over the holidays. Going to parties is awesome. We see our friends, celebrate with colleagues, and blow off some steam.
While there’s certainly an argument for partying hard over the holidays, remember that you’re headed into the new year as well. You don’t want to go into 2020 with an extended hangover from weeks of partying too much.
Remember that the holidays are supposed to refresh you as well. You want to start the new year feeling great, healthy and ready for what comes.
When it comes to parties, go to the ones with people you enjoy the most. Leave behind the random invites and banquets so you can spend a bit more time reflecting on what you want for the new year.
Manage Stress as It Comes, Not When You Can’t Handle It Anymore
Holiday stress tends to fester and build under the surface. There’s a reason there are a million movies about family fights and holiday chaos. People can handle a lot of stress before they finally explode.
When stress bubbles to the surface and detonates all over you and your relatives, it’s really not about whether the stuffing is moist enough. It’s just the final straw and a way to release anger without addressing what’s going on.
This holiday season, do your best to take on stress as it comes. Don’t take a perceived slight and let it bother you for days. Address it so you can have peace of mind. Ultimately, if you can’t have frank conversations with your relatives for your own mental health, then you probably should limit the time you spend around them.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
In a 2005 article titled “Seasonal Affective Disorder: An Overview and Update”[1], Dr. Roecklien and Dr. Rohan reported that between 10 and 20 percent of recurrent depression happened on a seasonal schedule, mostly during fall and winter months.
What that tells us is that it’s no accident to feel a bit down around the holidays. It’s not just because you didn’t get the present you wanted. Be aware that Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is real. If you find yourself stressed or depressed every year during the holidays, talk to a therapist and see if they can help. There may be treatments that can help you enjoy the holidays more.
Make Yourself a Priority
The best thing you can do for the holidays to fight off and handle stress and anxiety is to remember what you need to feel happy.
Find your stress relief - exercising, volunteering, reading, massage, or maybe even organizing your closet.
What do the holidays mean to you? Answer that question and then do what it takes to make your holiday season successful. It may take people time to adjust to your new reality, but in the end, you will be better off for it.
[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004726/
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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Holiday Shopping! What are the Best Sexy Gifts to Buy Your Partner?
Holiday Shopping! What are the Best Sexy Gifts to Buy Your Partner?
You know it, the holidays are around the corner and its time to give the best sexy gifts for the ultimate night of seduction!
We are about to be stressing about what to buy for that special someone in our lives. If you’ve been together for a while, it’s hard to come up with the best sexy gift ideas. Instead of buying what we want, let's get partner gifts that keeps on giving!
So, what do you do when you don’t want to give your partner a gift card or a pair of socks? Thankfully, you’ve come to the right place! This year is the year when you should spice things up and buy a scintillating, sexy gift.
Stick the standard gifts under the tree and save a couple of the presents off this list for when you’re alone. Your partner will love the message it sends, and, hey, it’s really a present for the ultimate night of seduction!
Here are Some of the Best Sexy Gifts for your Lover!
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
Even though the Crave Vesper necklace has a beautiful, subtle design, there’s nothing subtle about your intentions when you give this to your partner.
The Vesper is something your partner can keep at home for intimate moments or wear out at night if you guys are feeling a little risqué.
The necklace is made of high-polish stainless steel that comes in silver, gold and rose gold.
It starts from $69 and has four different speed settings with two modes, quite impressive for something so small. You can personalize the vibrator with a special message, so she’ll think of you every time she puts it to good use.
Egyptian Cotton Bed Sheets
If you and your partner aren’t at the “buy your partner a vibrator” stage, you can go for something a bit tamer like Egyptian cotton bed sheets.
Whenever you’ve laid on the bed in a high-end hotel, you’ve noticed how smooth and crisp quality sheets feel. Too many people neglect their beds even though it’s where we spend most of our time. Buying real Egyptian quality sheets will make a huge difference in how your partner will feel lying in bed to sleep or while making love.
Be careful while you’re shopping to buy 100% certified Egyptian cotton. Quality sheets vary in price, but you should expect to pay around $200-$300 for a nice set of queen or king sheets.
The smooth, silky feel of Egyptian cotton absorbs body moisture and regulate temperatures, so whatever you do in bed will feel a ton better.
Barbell by Betty Dodson
Dr. Betty Dodson has spent years studying women’s sexual health issues, and the Betty Dodson Barbell is a revolutionary product that helps build pelvic muscle strength.
Everyone wants their partner to have a better time during sex, correct? Well, with stronger pelvic muscles, women experience more intense orgasms. It sounds like a pretty good investment. In addition to helping with sex, the Barbell increases pelvic floor control and overall vaginal health.
The Barbell is just under seven inches long, so it’s discreet. Make sure your partner reads up on how to use it so she gets the most out of it. There’s nothing more sexy than a woman confident in her sexuality, and the Barbell will help her feel like she’s got more control over her body.
Leather Cuffs, Chokers, and Other Toys
Add some kink into your relationship by getting your partner some leather cuffs or some similar toy for the bedroom. We’ve all been at points in our sex lives where things can get a bit routine.
You’ve seen how your partner reacts when you wear something different or try something new, so you know these sexy gifts work.
Thankfully, the sex industry has come a long way and people have much more open attitudes about things like light bondage play. Let your fantasies play out with your bedroom by taking turns with dominance and submission. Buying a gift like an elegant choker or stylish leather cuffs is a great signal to your partner you’re ready to spice things up.
If you’ve never done anything like this, the best thing about buying something light like handcuffs is that you can gauge your partner’s reaction. Who knows, maybe they’re up for more and you can explore that part of their sexuality together. Double present win!
Anything from Agent Provocateur
Getting your partner anything from Agent Provocateur is always a great idea. Agent Provocateur is a high-end nightwear, lingerie, and accessory company that makes exquisite pieces. The site has a variety of gifts you can buy anything from stocking stuffers like lipstick to pricey, intricate lingerie pieces.
You can find something practical like a luxury bra or nightgown, or you can get steamy and pick up a corset and a garter.
They even have a “naughty styles” section on their site for presents you want to see your partner in by yourself.
Tazapper
If you are interested in things getting a little kinkier and spicier, I would suggest the tazapper!
It can give you a little excitement this upcoming holiday season, as it is the only toy of its kind! Try it out and let us know your thoughts about all the buzz in an Electrifying Role Play!
Toys for Two
If you’re into toys and you want to get something nice for your partner, getting a set that works for both of you is a nice way to blow away any anxiety or awkwardness.
You guys can even make a game of it with a pair of remote-controlled toys.
Each of you will have a ton of fun giving and receiving pleasure as you make love.
Whether it’s a multi-setting vibrator, a cock ring, a butt plug or some other fun toy, buying one for each of you sends the signal that you want in as well.
He, she, or they will love that you’re in it together and the present will send the right message.
Gifts Laced with Desire
For the ultimate night of seduction, give a sexy gift because you want more intimacy with your partner.
Don’t laugh it off like it’s a gag gift! Do your best to give a sexy gift and be clear that your desires are sultry.
Let your partner know you can’t wait to see them wear or use whatever it is you’re giving them.
They’ll love the gift, and they’ll love why you gave it to them even more.
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Happy Thanksgiving from LCAT!
Happy Thanksgiving from LCAT!
We all know the research, that when you practice thankfulness and gratitude you are happier! Yes, contribution is THAT important, so I wanted to take the time to really say thank you for all that you do.
We have the greatest most dedicated clients!
I am so grateful for all the hard work that they put in their individual lives, in their family life, and of course, their romantic relationships.
Here in Life Coaching and Therapy, we are grateful that you chose us to start your journey and we are grateful that you will continue your healing process with us in 2020.
Without you, the mission that we have in LCAT isn't possible so thank you.
If you have topics for 2020, email us: info@lcatllc.com. Yes! I am always looking for more ideas!
Thank you so much for sharing your secrets, trying new things, and embracing the uncertainty.
We appreciate you so much. Thank you for choosing us and trusting us.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Do I Need a Life Coach? 8 Signs that Hiring a Life Coach Will Take You to the Next Level
Do I Need a Life Coach?
8 Signs that Hiring a Life Coach Will Take You to the Next Level
Here is a blog on why YOU need a life coach, from a new guest blogger, Charles Rojas, at https://www.knowledgeformen.com/
Men especially, please let us know in the comments what you think of Charles' insight, as he specializes in knowledge for men.
Can you guess what Michael Jordan, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tony Robbins, and Bill Gates all have in common?
Sure, they’re all successful beyond most people’s wildest dreams.
But, more importantly, they all achieved success by following a similar strategy.
They all had a life coach who helped them accelerate their success and achieve their goals faster.
In recent years, internet marketers and sketchy “Gurus” have given the coaching industry a bad rap.
Most men have a completely warped and unrealistic view of what a coach is and how they can help you achieve your goals and dreams.
If you’re wondering, “Do I need a life coach?” I’m going to set the record straight explaining exactly what a life coach does.
Then I will explain why you should hire a life coach to break through your biggest obstacles so you can achieve your big, hairy audacious goals in life.
What Does a Life Coach do and Why do I Need a Life Coach?
While life coaches vary in their expertise, abilities, and specialties, I can tell you for a fact that a life coach is not:
- Someone who has all the answers to everything…
- A superhuman who has access to knowledge that you don’t…
- Someone you hire to achieve your goals for you…
If you see a coach making any of these claims run in the opposite direction.
Life coaches are simply professionally trained individuals who can see things that you can’t, hold you accountable to your word and help you achieve results faster.
And for men – your word is everything. That’s it.
Think about Michael Jordan.
Every year of his professional career, he had numerous coaches who helped him improve his game, overcome his weaknesses, and capitalize on his strengths.
Were any of these coaches better at basketball than Michael?
Of course not!
His coach simply knew the game and he knew how to instruct Michael to have the right mindset and become a more powerful player.
And a life coach is the same way.
It’s not that they are better at life than you are, it’s simply that they can recognize patterns in your mindset, actions, and subconscious programming that you cannot.
And because they can see these patterns, they can help you overcome them so you can achieve your biggest goals in life.
When you have a coach you are acting and living in full alignment to what you value in most in life.
This helps you move closer every day towards the person you want to become.
It’s that simple. So what are the signs that it might be time for you to hire a life coach?
Keep reading, because this may be exactly what you’ve been looking for all this time.
1. You Feel Unsure of Your Purpose in Life
Have you been floating around life without any real aim or purpose in life?
Have you struggled to find your “calling” or wasted years of your life pursuing the wrong things that don’t fulfill you?
The right coach will ask you powerful questions that will help you wake up to the realities of your life. This will enable you to consider potential paths that you had never imagined.
They will ask questions that will help guide you to understand who you are on a deeper level so that you can understand what you really want to do with your life.
A life coach can help you develop rock-solid certainty in your path and purpose in life. This will give you crystal clear clarity not only who you are, but who you want to be and where you want to go.
You will save you years of climbing up a ladder that is leaned up against the wrong wall. Don't you want wake up every day with passion and excitement?
A lost person is a leaf in the wind chasing approval from friends, family, society, and partners for their entire life. A person on a mission is respected by high-value people and attractive to high-value partners.
If you don’t have a vision, you need to get a life coach.
2. You Have a Huge Vision, but You’re Unsure of How to Achieve It
Let’s say you have a clearly defined purpose that motivates you.
The only problem is that you’ve had that same vision and purpose since you were a kid.
Now 15-20 years later still no real progress has been made, and you don’t know how to achieve the ambitions you’ve set.
You’ve spent years going through the same motions, getting the same results, or NO results.
You're feeling frustrated that you can’t motivate yourself to take action, and become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
You feel like there are simply too many options and considerations to make and so you suffer from paralysis by analysis. You learn plenty, but accomplish very little.
If this sounds like you, then hiring a life coach might the vaccine for your no-action-itis.
When you get a life coach, you will have access to decades of wisdom and experience that can help you cut through the b.s.
You will uncover the steps that you need to take to turn your dreams into your reality.
A life coach provides high level accountability. You’ll be making consistent progress towards realizing your vision within weeks.
The life coach will put an end to talking about your vision and goals all day and help you turn them into a reality so you can live it.
3. You Have Struggled to Overcome the Same Addictions for Years
Have you been stuck in an endless cycle of addiction for years?
Maybe you’ve quit your specific addiction, whether it was smoking, alcohol, or drugs, several times only to revert back to it when things get hard and times become stressful?
Maybe you are addicted to something that seems innocuous like porn, video games, social media or TV.
This can still cripple your drive and holding you back from reaching your full potential.
Addictions steal your finite time, cost money and prevent you from living your best life. There is no benefit to an addiction that hurts your body and mind.
When you get a life coach, they will provide the heavy accountability that you need to break your addiction and finally achieve the freedom you’ve so desperately been searching for.
In fact, I have an employee who has been working with me since the earliest days of Knowledge for Men.
He’s been a heavy smoker for almost two years and even though he would try to quit often, he would always fall back into the bad habit after a few weeks.
He decided to hire a coach several months ago and after his first session, he completely quit smoking and hasn’t had a single puff since. He now uses that extra time and money to move towards his goals. By hiring a coach he likely added a few years to his life.
What are your years worth to you?
4. Your B.S. Stories Stop You From Achieving Your Dreams
“I’m not good enough”
“There’s too much competition”
“She doesn’t want to date a guy like me”
“I was born poor so this is just my destiny”
“It’s genetics, there’s nothing I can do about it”
“Someone will just steal my idea”
If any of these statements sound familiar then you need to hire a life coach...yesterday.
Philosophers from east to west have concluded that “Man is his own worst enemy” and most people fail to realize how true this is and the implications of this.
The biggest thing that you have to fear is not nuclear attacks, political unrest, or world war. The biggest thing that you have to fear stares back at you in the mirror every single day.
You and you alone are both the greatest champion and the greatest enemy of your dreams and ambitions.
If you haven’t achieved your biggest goals, if you don’t have the body, the business, the relationships, and the spiritual connection that you’ve always wanted then there is only one person to blame...you.
There is always someone out there who had it worse than you and still gone on to achieve great things in their life, so there is no reason why you can’t too.
Just think about a few of the guests that I’ve had on this podcast.
- Grant Cardone: $50,000 in debt, addicted to drugs, unemployed, and unmotivated. Today is worth nearly $700,000,000 and is one of the most widely known and respected real estate and sales experts in the world
- Bedros Keulian: He was raised so poor that he literally had to dig through the garbage to find food. Today he owns one of the largest fitness empires in the world.
- T. Harv Eker: He was raised in a poor family and failed at every business he started. He was living with his parents without a dollar to his name and after he received one word of advice from a mentor, he became a multimillionaire in two years.
These stories and countless others clearly show that if other people can achieve greatness, it’s not an accident, it’s a science. It is something that is within your reach too!
Your internal narratives and stories are one of the biggest traps holding you back from your dreams and the fastest way to overcome them is to identify them and work with a coach to rewire your brain to eliminate them.
This is where a life coach can unleash the most effective tool – deep internal mindset development.
The right coach can help you identify your b.s. stories and eradicate them from your subconscious mind for good. This enables you to get out of your own way and finally achieve the success you’ve always desired.
5. You Are Crippled by Stress, Anxiety, and Depression
Do you constantly feel overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed?
Does it seem like your emotions are running your life?
Are you one step away from a mental and physical breakdown?
Then it’s time to hire a life coach.
When you are caught in an emotional rut, it can be difficult to understand what’s causing your problems and get to the bottom of why you feel this way.
A life coach can help cut through the noise, dig deep and point out the underlying problems and struggles that have been running your entire life.
With the right coach, you can identify and eliminate the root causes of stress, anxiety, and depression and move towards a life where emotions you experience every day are joy, growth, and accomplishment.
Yes, there are real people who live almost every day of their life exactly like I just described.
Recognize that this is your own negative mindset (likely fueled by anxiety, stress, or depression) that is trying to keep you where you are.
A coach isn’t a cure-all, you’re right. We aren’t miracle workers. But the right coach can help you figure out what’s really going on beneath the surface.
They can help you overcome past traumas and accept your current reality.
This will enable you to live each day with power, joy, and peace instead of wallowing in self-pity and sabotaging every chance of success that you have.
6. You Want to Shorten Your Learning Curve and Achieve Success Faster
Maybe life is good, you have a vision, and you are on the path to realizing it. Great!
If this is the case then a life coach can help you achieve your vision faster. A coach can help you shorten your learning curve and growth hack your path to success.
Billionaires and the world’s best athletes agree that having a coach is a good idea even though they are already at the top of their game, so why not you?
Did you know that most high achievers are only running at about 70% capacity?
Sure, they have the foundations figured out and they are ahead of 99% of the population, but they are missing out on the 2-millimeter shifts.
These improvements can 10X your results and help you achieve your goals in half the time that you would otherwise spend.
Using a coach is a tool that will help you get to your destination faster than you ever thought possible.
Just consider a few of the following statistics:
- 80% of life coaching clients claim that they increased their confidence
- 73% measurably improved their relationships
- 72% improved their communication skills
- 67% improved their work-life balance
As long as you are working with the right professional, life coaching will help you get results.
The only question is…is it worth it?
To answer this question, I want you to consider the following.
If you had to go from Los Angeles to New York City would you rather go it alone and “work hard” by foot travel or just buy a plane ticket (a tool) to get there faster.
A coach is an investment in yourself to help you get results faster and for most – those results more than pay for the coaching itself.
When you have the right life coach, you can quickly identify and stop potential obstacles before they happen.
You can figure out how to get more done in a month than most people accomplish in a year.
A coach can help you leverage your inherent strengths to accelerate your results and live a truly incredible life.
7. You are a Serial Procrastinator
Do you constantly find yourself cramming for tasks before the deadline, putting off things that are important, or struggling to make moves towards your goals?
A life coach could be the best solution to your procrastination.
A life coach can give you accountability so that you cannot procrastinate, and b.s. yourself or anyone else with the excuse “I didn’t have enough time” any longer.
You will shift your “shoulds” into “musts” which changes the entire game.
Now you’re ready to crush it!
With the help of a life coach you can beat procrastination where it lives and finally take action towards the life you’ve always wanted. Not tomorrow…today!
8. You Can’t Afford a Life Coach
If you are truly struggling and can’t afford to put groceries on your table then you don’t need to go and hire a life coach. Read some books and watch some youtube videos teaching you about success.
But if you’ve tried that and your first thought is “I want a coach but I probably can’t afford a life coach,” you likely need a life coach more than anyone else!
Here’s what I mean.
Imagine that you are horrible at playing guitar. You’ve read all the books, watched all the videos, and even tried the fancy new apps.
But nothing has worked.
If you are committed to becoming a better guitar player, you are going to hire an experienced guitar instructor.
An instructor who has proven results with dozens of other students can help you shorten your learning curve and achieve the results that you desire.
In fact, this might be the only way to achieve the levels of success that you desire.
And it’s no different in life.
I understand that many people have genuine financial struggles and if that’s you then I’m not speaking to you.
I’m talking about those of you in the audience who don’t think that you can afford a life coach.
I speak with potential clients all the time who say “I love what you’re doing but I just can’t afford it right now”.
These are the same people who wear $200 sneakers, spend $500 a month going out, and waste more than $300 every month on useless digital subscriptions.
If you make enough money to cover basic expenses and believe that you can’t afford a life coach, I want to challenge you to look at your values.
Do you value fashion, entertainment, and comfort?
Or do you value growth, achievement, and living life to the fullest.
If you value the latter, you would greatly benefit from working with a life coach.
They can help you develop a better understanding of money and business so that you can increase your income and have financial freedom.
Never say the words “I can’t afford that” again.
Conclusion
The most prolific and successful individuals in the world get a life coach to go from good to great, so why wouldn’t you?
The highest achievers know that they can’t do the journey alone. They know that they need accountability, guidance, and an outside perspective to achieve their dreams and aspirations.
It’s time to step up to the plate and stop playing small.
Hire a life coach if you need someone to hold you accountable, push you towards your greatness, and help you identify your blind spots.
Invest in yourself and step into your greatness.
It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
Thank you Charles for this great information!
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
About LCAT
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
My Naked Female Weekend with Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross
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My Naked Female Weekend with Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross - Pleasure is Healing
On July 14, 2013, I met Betty Dodson for the first time. She hugged me, whispered "you're a very naughty girl...I like you" to me, and then slapped my ass. Life was good.
Have you ever heard of Betty Dodson? If not, have you ever heard of a vibrator?
If yes, consider saying “thank you” to Betty Dodson!
Betty put the vibrator on the “map” for women’s sexual pleasure, and the movement that she began decades ago has changed sexuality for the better!
Betty Dodson is not only a sexologist and the author of Sex For One (it sold over a million copies) and Orgasms for Two, she is a phenomenal artist.
Soon, she will have some of her work in an exhibition at The Museum of Sex in New York City.
If you would like to see some of Betty’s illustrations, you can find them here.
A few months ago, I realized that Betty is 90 years old, and I had yet to attend one of her events.
I wanted to see Betty and her “right-hand woman,” Carlin Ross, in action!
Immersing myself in Betty and Carlin’s energy for the first time in six years didn’t feel scary or intimidating to me. It almost felt like “coming home” while attending Dodson and Ross’ BodySex Weekend.
What Is BodySex?
The best description I can come up with for BodySex is a sacred, two-day weekend workshop where women overcome their body shame and/or past traumas by practicing sensual pleasure.
Carlin says that “Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person.”
How does it work?
A group of more than 10 women from all over the WORLD come to learn from Betty and Carlin about their bodies, their orgasms, all while feeling the strong bond of sisterhood.
This event is for women only.
The first thing you do when you walk into the BodySex event is take off all of your clothing.
I was greeted by the lovely Ms. Ross, who I had met six years ago, and who still remembered me, by name. I smiled and felt honored, because Carlin and Betty are such heroes to me.
Women who spend their days teaching other women about pleasure has enabled me to live my life in exactly the way I want. Since I was 19, I was able to choose the profession I chose, because of the Sexual Revolution that Betty Dodson began.
We sat in a circle for two days (for a total of 10 hours), without any clothing, without any men, and we were led through the following practices by two Fearless Women:
- Conversation on Cultural Body Messages
- Vulva Show and Tell for all Participants
- Erotic Recess Focused on Pleasure
- Group Massage Focused on Non-Sexual Touch
I believe that all women can gain something from this experience.
Sitting in the nude isn’t comfortable for everyone when they begin. But, by the end of Day 2, after sharing your genitals and your pleasure with the other women, I am uncertain how anyone leaves without making LIFELONG friends!
Change occurs when you do something new!
Take Away Messages
1. If you are a woman struggling to orgasm, go to BodySex. It will change your life.
- By spending time with other women, especially other vulnerable, Bad-Ass women, your view of female bodies, orgasm, competition, and internal narratives begin to change.
- The idea that multiple women went in disliking their vulvas, and most did not know how to appreciate them (Day 1) and then left (Day 2) feeling pleasure and connection is MIRACULOUS!
- In 10 hours, Betty and Carlin undo YEARS of sexual shame and cultural fear that women’s bodies are “not enough.”
2. Women are GORGEOUS! Especially, women in their pleasure!
- The entire woman, including her VULVA, is beautiful.
- If you had to match a face to a vulva, you probably could NOT do it!
- One of my favorite quotes from the weekend is that “P--sy is fresh, no matter what age.”
- When you aren’t looking at sex from the lens of pornography, there is much more to enjoy and experience.
3. Many successful women are having children after the age of 40.
- For those of you who struggle with choosing between children and your career, I just want to share that I met multiple women this weekend who had babies after age 40.
- Until this weekend, I had never been in a room where women were willing to talk about the connection between their bodies, fertility and motherhood.
I witnessed multiple women orgasm for the first time in their lives, and it was SO beautiful to share that with them.
I believe ALL individuals can be healed from learning the beauty of their own pleasure. Just like Betty and Carlin's tagline and mission “Better orgasms. Better world.”
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
How to Give a Blowjob - A Mindblowing One!
How to Give a Blowjob - A Mindblowing One!
If you don’t know how to give a blowjob, or have ever been told you suck at it, worry no longer.
Here are some of the most amazing secrets I have learned about blowjobs while studying sexuality over the last 12 years that will help you give a mindblowing blowjob!
Have a Positive Mindset
If you want to give your partner an awesome blowjob experience, you first have to commit to the process and be authentic in your desire to please your partner orally.
Don’t just fake it until you make it. Find a part of you that can help you out mentally while in the process.
Something like “I am giving the best blowjob” or “I am great at giving head.”
Why?
Because if you repeat “I am so bad at this” or “I hate this. This penis is gross,” it will translate into your blowjob technique.
Make sure your mind knows that this is what you want to be doing.
If you are not in this mindset, your oral skills won’t be up to par, so you may as well not even start. Mindset DOES matter.
Some people get overwhelmed by the thought of giving a blowjob. They start to fear that it will hurt them or that they will get tired.
This thought can stop you from even starting oral sex, but it shouldn’t.
It is perfectly fine to tell your partner, “I am going down on you to start things off and then I want you inside of me.”
This gives you the power to go down on your partner for as long as it is enjoyable, and then you can switch to something else.
Be Prepared
Hydrate! Your mouth can’t be dry.
Stretch your neck - left and right. Hold for 10 seconds on each side.
Open and close your jaw to prepare for penetration.
For those of you with long hair, get a hair tie! Your hair will get in the way.
Make sure you have lube in case you need it.
Discuss what you will do if your partner ejaculates BEFORE the beginning of the blowjob.
Make sure you discuss STIs prior to beginning oral sex. You can ask to use a condom over the penis if you want to protect from certain STIs.
One other thing before you start, ask if any parts of the body are off limits.
Ask if you have free reign to touch thighs, ass, anus, stomach, etc. before you begin giving a partner oral sex.
Make sure your body is in a comfortable position while giving.
If you need to move your partner or yourself at any time to get more comfortable, do it. People get injured and pull muscles giving blowjobs, because they are too embarrassed to ask their partner to move.
Calibrate Your Touch
While giving a blowjob, make sure you ask what feels good.
Get an idea of the pressure that works, the spot that is most sensitive for them, and the speed they are enjoying.
Give positive feedback to your partner about how you are enjoying this experience.
Giving positive feedback during any type of sex is always a good idea!
Provide Visual Stimulation
When giving a blowjob, try to provide visual stimulation.
Some angles, like 69 or queening, are often huge turn ons prior to beginning the blowjob or during it.
If you can, cup your chest together and stroke his shaft up and down.
Gently caress and touch his package with your hands and other parts of your body.
Sometimes, wearing a certain outfit or performing a strip tease can enhance the blowjob moment.
Perfect Your Stroke Technique
Saliva or lube? It depends! If you are going to use lube, apply it at this point by putting some in your hands and stroking his shaft.
When putting your mouth on a penis, be sure to use your lips and tongue to wet the area. Go up and down the shaft, kind of like a harmonica.
Ask for input on desired speed, intensity, and pressure.
No Vampires! Be careful of teeth and keep them away unless he asks for it. There are only a FEW cases where I have heard individuals enjoying the sensation of teeth. Most often, it is NOT wanted.
If you want to try deepthroating, cover your teeth with your lips and try to fit the shaft in your mouth (without using your hands).
Try to go as deep as you can without being uncomfortable or gagging. If you gag in the beginning, I have been told that it is attractive to some receivers of the blowjob.
Assess your partner and ask if they are enjoying the deepthroating sensation.
You do not have to suck on anything. You do not need to put ice or mints in your mouth!
Remember… blowing does not have to be involved.
Perfect Your Hand Techniques
Recalibrate together, and see if your receiver is interested in having your hand wrapped around their shaft.
If yes, move your hand directly under your mouth, creating a warm, wet space for the penis to go in and out of.
Move your hand/mouth up and down and make sure you don’t create friction.
Ask the receiver if they enjoy testicles being played with, because you can use one hand to touch those. Feel free to lick them while playing if you have consent.
I recommend starting out by touching the testicles, perineum, and anus, with a brush of your hand, and asking your partner “did you like that?” or “do you want me to do more?”
Look up at your receiving partner once in a while to see if there is enjoyment.
Ask about the pressure and speed.
If you want to use your hands, which makes for an easier blowjob for the person giving, there are a couple different techniques to try that are often a success!
“O”-Gasm: Make the sign-language letter “O” with your dominant hand and wrap your hand around their shaft. Use your hand as an extension of your mouth.
Slide it up and down the shaft; as your mouth moves, your hand moves.
You can try different things with this move such as twisting your hand (one inch in either a clockwise or counterclockwise direction) down his shaft.
Weave: Interlock both hands (palms facing one another) together at the fingers. Have the base of both your palms touching and let the shaft glide in between your hands.
Double Hands: Another variation is to place one hand over the other one if needed for more pressure.
Sometimes, those receiving the blowjob will put their hand on their shaft for you, to help you out. That is a blessing, because it helps you know what you are lacking.
If needed, use more saliva or lube to ensure a pleasurable sensation.
Completion of The Blowjob
You can begin to use your tongue to flick under the head of the penis, the frenulum, which creates an instant sensation.
Pick up speed if you feel your partner’s muscles begin to tense.
Usually, you will notice the leg muscles or stomach muscles begin to clench pre-ejaculation.
Keep constant pressure and do not change technique at this moment.
Continue stimulation until the agreed upon (discuss this before giving head) end of the blowjob or until your partner ejaculates.
In summary, giving a blowjob to ejaculation is kind of like riding a bike uphill. It is important to maintain a steady progression to the top. If you slow down, you may go backwards.
Keep your speed and pressure consistent or increase it as you go.
Ejaculation vs Orgasm - there are times that men do NOT ejaculate, yet they orgasm. When you have the feeling of energy surge through your entire body, that is an orgasm. Sometimes ejaculate happens at the same time.
Pleasure is the goal. Orgasm is a great side-effect! Just like Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross say, “Better Orgasms. Better World!”
Now that you know how to give a blowjob, try out these techniques and let us know if you have any other suggestions to share.
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
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Couple Fighting: Stop Arguing and Start Loving
Couple Fighting: Stop Arguing and Start Loving
Couple Fighting! Tips to Stop Arguing and Start Loving TODAY!
Far too often, we let our romantic relationships deteriorate to the point where it’s so hard to claw back the pain and resentment that’s been left to fester.
Couple fighting becomes a classic Western shootout.
Both of you are standing on either side, tense and ready to grab at your weapon.
You wait for your partner to flinch before you unleash all of your hurt and anger in their direction.
Of course, we know, it doesn't have to be like this. It’s hard, though, to see through the fog of anger and give love when we’re not sure we’re going to get it in return. How do we get from where we are to a better place with less couple fighting?
First off, let me commend you for considering couples therapy. If you’re already taking sessions, wonderful. That’s even better. But recognizing that you need help with your relationships is a brave and honorable thing.
The Silence Surrounding Unmet Needs
Couple fighting can almost always be drawn back to unmet needs. Each of us, though wonderfully unique, has needs that must be filled for us to feel confident, loved, and engaged in a relationship.
It’s been decades since Gary Chapman first presented his five love languages. They are:
- Physical Touch
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
These aren’t just simple niceties. They’re fundamental to our happiness. Denying we have needs is denying who we are, eventually, you’re going to have to face that reality.
When your needs are met, life is better. Everything seems easier. You’re not worried about doing the dishes three times in a row if you love language is physical touch and the sex is great. Your partner is happy to let your work long hours at the job you love because you give them the affirmation they crave.
The problems most people have that lead to couple fighting have to do with unmet needs that go unaddressed for too long. Silence allows resentment, the relationship destroyer, space to move in.
Overcoming Resentment by Quieting the Ego
When the couple fighting has been going on too long, motivations change. You’re no longer giving acts of service out of love; you’re doing them to see if they’ll earn you the quality time or gifts that you crave for validation. If they don’t come, we tell ourselves that we were right all along, it’s their fault things are bad. We’re doing our part, aren’t we?
Each feeling is driven by some innate need. We act out of a desire to connect, grow, contribute to a cause, or to gain certainty. When relationships stumble, uncertainty plays an outsized role in our communication. We overanalyze our partners’ and our actions, questioning why they said what they said or what will happen if I do this or that.
Our desire to create certainty can be destructive. It’s easy to draw into ourselves and shut others out to create some semblance of certainty in our lives.
The only way to fight back resentment in a relationship and create certainty is to quiet the ego and act out of love.
That, however, is very hard to do, especially when you feel like working on your relationship is a one-way street.
That’s where working with a therapist who specializes in relationship communication can help.
Setting Conditions for Nonviolent Communication
To overcome couple fighting, working with a therapist can be a huge help identifying damaging patterns in your communication with each other. Indeed, when relationships turn sour, the way we communicate becomes tainted with venom.
Our lack of certainty leads to hurt, and we become desperate that our partner understands that hurt. Too often, we try to get them to understand by doling out the same hurt we’re harboring inside through violent communication.
One of the biggest benefits of seeing a relationship therapist is that they can offer third-party insight into how the two of you are communicating. You can identify unhealthy patterns and start shifting to a better form of nonviolent communication.
In Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life, he lays out the steps for developing nonviolent communication. They are:
- State Observations – It’s very important that you’re honest with your partner and yourself about why you say and nonverbally communicate the way you do. Understanding why you are behaving or speaking the way you do will help you avoid saying something inflammatory or hurtful.
- State Feelings – We must emphasize that putting words to feelings is the only way for resentment to subside. If you know that something you’re doing is hurting your partner, you’ll find ways to stop doing it if you love them and want to connect.
- State the Need – Frequently, we’re embarrassed or afraid of being vulnerable, so we don’t verbalize our needs. How can our partners know how to fill our needs if we aren’t explicit in what they are?
- Be Specific – Don’t rely on innuendo to build a healthy, loving relationship. Have the confidence to be direct in you what you want and instill confidence in your partner to do the same. Less misunderstanding will mean less resentment.
Nonviolent communication is so critical to fighting back resentment. It’s the best way to break negative cycles and start building on common ground.
Decide to Make Room for Love
When we communicate without fear or uncertainty, we open ourselves up to giving and receiving love. Think about the times in your life when you’ve felt deeply loved. You weren’t worried about the other person’s judgment or concerned about how they slighted you yesterday. You were open, wonderfully vulnerable, and certain in the moment.
Each of us has challenges in our romantic relationships. At times, resentment and communication barriers trigger couple fighting that can threaten to destroy foundations that took years to build.
With the help of a qualified, understanding therapist, struggling relationships can thrive again. Armed with nonviolent communication skills, clear about our needs, and doing our best to push ego and resentment to the side, we can rebuild and reclaim love.
You can get more free content on relationship and sex tips by checking out my Youtube Channel - The Sex Healer.
If you know someone that would benefit from this information, feel free to share it.
Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.
Veterans' Day
Veterans' Day
Do Us All a Favor and Thank A Vet this Coming Veterans' Day!
If you’re living in the U.S., odds are you know a veteran. Every year, millions of Americans serve in our all-volunteer military service. They come from all walks of life. Rich and poor, all different genders, and races. Immigrants even joined the armed forces for a chance to become a U.S. citizen. They answer the call of sacrifice and duty to country that protects the freedoms we often take for granted.
Given the sheer number of people over the years who’ve served, you probably know several veterans. They’re our schoolteachers, they train us at the gym, they work at grocery stores, and run successful companies all across the United States.
So yeah, obviously, we shouldn’t just celebrate our veterans one day a year, but if you haven’t had the chance, use the holiday to show some love to the people who gave up time and being around the people they love for something bigger. Here are some great ways you can show love for our veterans this year.
Give Thanks by Understanding the Tradition of Service to Country
If you ask vets or active duty personnel, a lot of them will tell you that they tired, “Thank you for your service” can make their skin crawl. Sometimes it’s sincere, but so often it’s a canned line filled with political undertones.
Show a veteran you care by trying to understand what they’ve been through. Sure, you’ll never fully understand what it’s like to serve in wartime or be posted somewhere far overseas, but context goes a long way.
What Does Veterans Day Even Mean?
The U.S. has celebrated veterans since World War I ended in the early 1900s. On November 11 a year after the war, people flocked to the streets to celebrate peace, knowing the hell they’d been through. The holiday was initially called Armistice Day, but President Eisenhower changed it to celebrate all veterans.
America has been involved in the conflict for so long, that a lot of vets feel like what they do overseas is too far removed from normal American life. Unless you’re directly impacted, say, having a direct family member or close friend serve in a warzone, it’s hard to relate. A lot of the time they come home frustrated that normal people don’t understand what they’re doing over there.
We’re not out celebrating in the streets, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be showing thanks for what our soldiers, sailors, and marines are doing abroad. We’re lucky that current wars aren’t impacting us at home the way previous wars did.
When you meet a vet, the best way to thank them is to get to know them. If you know them, talk to them about their time in the military. Don’t be afraid to ask them questions about their time and what it meant. Don’t pry. Learn to take the subtle hints when something’s out of bounds. But don’t act like it never happened. Validate them with your interest.
Hold It Down for Our Vets
If you’re wondering what to do for our veterans this Veterans Day, there are tons of ideas. Here are a few good ones.
- Donate to a Good Cause – There are a ton of charities and service organizations focused on helping veterans find jobs, get therapy, find a place to live, and plenty more as they transition out of service. The money you give goes directly to helping the life of a veteran in need.
- Acts of Service – If you know a veteran, think of something you can do for them that they would enjoy. Get them tickets to the game or buy them some movie tickets. Take them out and treat them to a meal.
- Show Respect – You may not notice it, but most veterans pay attention to how people around them act concerning respect for the military and country. You may have strong opinions about certain political decisions but try your best to refrain from severe criticism if you’re around a veteran.
- Send a Care Package – You can mail a package of candy, clothes, electronics and other supplies to military personnel overseas for Christmas and other holidays. It’s easy to do and they love it.
- Show Your Vet Some Love – Hopefully, you noticed that we wrote “your vet” there. Some of us are extremely lucky to be in relationships or dating veterans. They bring so much to our lives. They work hard, are disciplined, honor us, and strive to progress. On Veterans Day it’s the least we can do to show them some fun, right? This Veterans Day let loose a bit and give your partner a good time.
On A More Serious Note
Everyone should know that every veteran returns from service as a changed person. Some changes are harder than others. Tens of thousands of veterans who served our country come home with physical injuries, emotional scars, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Putting the pieces back together takes time and patience. Most of all it takes a network of caring people who are there for them when they need them.
If you know someone who is struggling with issues they experience in the military, talk to them. You may not be able to give them the help they need, but you can help them find it. There are resources available for veterans to call on.
There are Still People Out There Fighting
Ask a vet, and they’ll tell you one of the best things you can do to support them is to support the brave people still out there fighting. Brave service people are stationed in bases all over the world ready to move on a moment’s notice.
We’re indebted every day to their willingness to serve and what they stand for. Veterans Day is more than a holiday. It’s an annual reminder that we should all be doing more to thank and give back to our veterans.
No go out there and show them some love.