What Is Arousal Disorder?

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What Is Arousal Disorder? Causes, Symptoms + What You Can Do

 

What is arousal disorder, really? It’s a question many people ask themselves in silence—often feeling confused, frustrated, or even ashamed. If you’ve ever struggled with a lack of desire or felt like your body just isn’t responding the way it used to, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken.

Arousal disorder describes difficulty becoming or staying sexually aroused—mentally, physically, or both. This can affect people of any gender, and it often shows up in ways that are both confusing and discouraging. You might feel the desire to connect with your partner but notice your body isn’t cooperating. Or you might feel completely disconnected from your sexual self altogether.

In this video, I’m breaking down exactly what arousal disorder is, why it happens, and most importantly—what you can do to heal. Because yes, there is hope.

Common causes include hormonal changes (like during menopause or after childbirth), chronic stress, anxiety, unresolved trauma, relationship strain, or even side effects from medications such as antidepressants or birth control. It’s also worth noting that societal pressure, shame, or unrealistic expectations about sex can play a role in how we experience arousal.

Symptoms can range from low or absent desire, trouble becoming physically aroused, difficulty maintaining arousal, or feeling emotionally distant during intimacy. And all of that can take a toll—not just on your relationships, but on your self-esteem.

But here’s the thing: arousal is a complex dance between your mind, body, and emotions. And when one part falls out of sync, it doesn’t break you—it simply creates space for healing.

Let’s talk about what’s really going on—so you can reconnect with your body, your pleasure, and your power.

 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Robot Fetish

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Robot Fetish: A Deep Dive into Technosexuality

 

Although you may not know about robot fetishes, you may have seen a film about human-machine romance. Since artificial intelligence has become a media buzzword, people have wondered if it can evoke desire like humans. 

To understand how and why humans decided to connect with the machines in a way that used to connect with other humans, we have to address robot fetish and technosexuality. These two are synonyms referring to sexual or romantic attraction to robots or other machines that aim to mimic human behavior. It ranges from admiration for the robotic form to longing for a non-human, artificially intelligent partner. 

In this article, we’ll explore the origins, psychology, cultural impact, and everything else you’d like to know about robot fetishism.

 

The Origins of Robot Fetishism

Although we talk about robots as something futuristic, the truth is that humanoid machines have been present throughout history. Just remember Pygmalion and Galatea in mythology or Frankenstein and Metropolis in literature. In recent years, we’ve had sci-fi movies like Blade Runner, Ex Machina, and Her, all showing the allurement of human-robot relationships. 

However, today, we’re not talking about imagination. Due to the evolution of robotics and artificial intelligence that started at the end of the 20th century, people nowadays have all the tools needed to build a relationship with a robot. The normalization of human-machine interactions is offering a new aspect for those who are looking for something different for numerous reasons. 

You may be tired of trying your hardest or being cheated on, so you are exploring robot fetish to see if it is right for you. Regardless of the motivation, there’s no denying the permanence of human-machine interactions. 

 

The Psychology Behind Technosexuality

Why do people find robots alluring? Well, there are several reasons why technosexuality is becoming so popular. One of the most obvious and common is control and predictability. The reason why many relationships and marriages go through difficult times and even separations is that we can’t control or predict another person’s behavior. Compared to humans, robots currently may have less emotionally complex characteristics, which allows them to become “perfect matches” to each individual.

Also, there is an aspect of fantasy and projection. Technosexuality allows humans to project their desires onto non-human entities. In other words, the robot you’re building a relationship with will want to become what you need it to be. Do you want to have a partner that is more seductive? A robot can do this for you. Do you maybe want a partner who knows how to make you laugh when you have a lousy day? A robot will do this for you. 

Lastly, we have to address the increasing loneliness in today’s modern society. We feel more and more separated from society. This can be because of traveling, moving abroad, or simply because we’re so used to being at home interacting with technology that we’ve lost interest in connecting the way we used to before. Robots can fill the emotional void for people who have a deep desire to connect with someone with the minimum risk of getting hurt. 

 

Technosexuality in Popular Culture

As mentioned above, technosexuality appeared in mythology, literature, and movies. Its usage can be defined as recent, yet the concept of robot fetish is older than any technology the human race has witnessed. Over the past few years, there has also been a rising trend of video games with robots as icons of desire. The most popular examples are Ava from Ex Machina and Westworld’s Hosts. 

Robot fetish is a common theme in modern erotic art and literature as well. This concept spreads across all forms of art and entertainment, and its popularity indicates that today’s audience finds this idea alluring. The rise of AI companion apps and interactive sex dolls further blurs the line between fantasy and reality. Similarly, they are working on surrogate sex robots to be able to carry your future children while you stay at work. 

If you’re interested in a human-like relationship with a robot, there are tons of options for you to try out. From installing a mobile app on your phone and building relationships with a machine to using AI tools for dating advice, matchmaking, and role play, AI can offer support for any romantic aspect you seek. 

 

The Future of Human-Robot Intimacy

Given this, what will the future be like? These technological advances show AI and robotics’ potential to create emotionally responsive companions. This could lead to long-term relationships with machines, where people make memories and celebrate important dates. 

Only twenty years ago, we didn’t have AI assistants such as Alexa or Siri. The idea of technology creating our grocery shopping list or playing interactive games with us was pretty unimaginable at that time. That is why we can say that technology and the way humans respond to it are difficult to predict. However, the main question isn’t whether or not society will accept the idea of human-robot intimacy. What matters is whether this type of intimacy will make a person feel loved and secure and ready to date again if the opportunity arises. 

 

Conclusion

There is no doubt that the technology we’re seeing today can be used in different ways and forms, including our romantic lives. Technosexuality brought to life a thousand-year-old concept in which we’ve been imagining what it’s like to connect with someone who is not human. 

With more robots in our society, there is no doubt that there will also be an increase in the number of relationships with them. We’ve mentioned all the reasons why someone would be interested in building a romantic relationship with a machine, yet a machine is still just a piece of technology. One internet outage or software attack would cause that relationship to suffer a unique set of challenges. 

Despite the existence of robots, the ideal relationship remains unattainable. It comes with certain risks, and it’s up to you to weigh your options and decide whether it’s the right thing for you. Come talk to us if you have issues with robot-machine relationships. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Why Do Serial Cheaters Want to Stay Married?

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Why Do Serial Cheaters Want to Stay Married?

 

Today, we’ve decided to answer a difficult question: why do serial cheaters want to stay married? Cheating has been around forever. Yet we still turn our heads away from this topic, crossing our fingers it never happens to us. Truth be told, cheating happens, and often, there is not much you can do about it. A person who wants to cheat will find a way to, even if they are in a relationship with the best person they ever met. 

If you have fallen in love with a cheater who thinks your love is enough to keep them from being intimate with others. This article is for you. 

 

How to Recognize a Serial Cheater

Before responding to the big question, let’s look into the common signs of a serial cheater. After all, it’s possible to be in a relationship or a marriage with a serial cheater and not be aware of it. 

 

Lies, Lies, Lies

To be a cheater, you have to be comfortable with lying. Cheaters lie about their whereabouts, needs, desires, and feelings in their marriage. In most cases, they will never try to improve their marriage or speak their mind on something that bothers them. For instance, if they need more sex, they will look for it outside the marriage instead of talking to their spouse about it. 

That is why it’s recommended to pay attention to their words. Do they lie when they talk to others? Have they lied to you about anything else?

 

They Hide Their Phone

While it’s understandable to want privacy when communicating with others. A partner who hides their tablet, laptop, or phone from you might be doing so because they have something to hide. This also applies to spouses who don’t hide their gadgets yet are very possessive about them. For instance, they will never leave their phone on the table and go to another room. 

 

Mental Health Issues 

Their emotional health problems may not have been addressed yet. Underlying conditions may range from primary psychiatric conditions, like bipolar disorder, to impulse-control disorders, like ADHD or substance-induced behavioral disorders. Sexual addiction or attachment issues may also be a key factor here. 

 

They Believe You Forced Them into Monogamy

They think that the monogamy agreement you made is overrated or act as though sex isn’t a big concern. If someone does not seem interested in committing to you, believe them. This kind of thinking is typical of someone who has cheated on their relationships. Please remember that open relationships with mutual respect differ greatly from marrying someone who doesn’t believe in monogamy.

 

How Serial Cheating Impacts Your Marriage

Serial cheating is unhealthy for all parties involved because it affects the cheater as well as the one being cheated on. How you react to being cheated on might be influenced by your personal relationship history. For the person being cheated on, this behavior could feed into past trauma and actually keep the partner engaged in a negative loop.

On the other hand, a positive relationship history might make it easier for you to leave the situation faster. The partner who has been cheated on will usually move on from the relationship and avoid the drama of further negative behavior if they have a healthy attachment process and high self-esteem.

Whatever your decision might be, it should be clear that cheating is not a problem you should solve together. It’s your partner’s issue, and they should have full responsibility for solving it and ensuring it never happens again with you or other partners. 

 

Why Serial Cheaters Marry

Having all this in mind, the question still remains: ‘Why do serial cheaters want to stay married?’ Of course, the answer might vary depending on the person, yet there are some common reasons. 

Firstly, they might decide to marry to meet the expectations of others. Their family might be traditional, or their career might be affected by such a decision. Being married can be seen as a mature, responsible decision and could lead to others seeing the serial cheater as something completely opposite to his nature. 

Secondly, they might believe they are capable of changing. A serial cheater might even want to be faithful to their spouse, have children with them. And leave their mistakes in their past. However, they will probably quickly go back to cheating. 

Thirdly, serial cheaters typically want a comfortable life. Marrying someone who will care for them and ensure they have everything they need could be just one of their many selfish decisions. Such a person will look for a dedicated, caring spouse who puts a lot of effort into their marriage. In other words, if you’re the only one making romantic plans, trying to solve conflicts, and prioritizing them over everything else, there’s a pretty big possibility that they’re cheating on you. 

 

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Whether you should end your marriage with a cheater or not is not an easy answer. There are many factors to consider, including kids, mortgages, future plans, etc. However, the most important factor here should be how you feel if you have been cheated on. If you’re unable to forgive your partner and believe they are capable of changing, the marriage will be painful for both of you.

Beyond your thoughts, there is also the uncertainty of whether they will change. Are you okay with your partner going outside the marriage? Probably not. 

Consider it a positive sign if you see your partner making changes or taking time to share their intimacy issues with you. That said, there is no universal path to stop infidelity. A person can do their best to change and still cheat when the opportunity arises. 

What’s important to remember here is that your spouse’s decision to cheat often has little to do with you. It’s not your fault, so you do not feel obligated to help them change. Instead, take care of yourself, talk to a close friend or a therapist. And ask yourself if the life this person is giving you is satisfying you. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

When To Walk Away From A Sexless Marriage

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5 Ways To Know When To Walk Away From A Sexless Marriage

 

Are you questioning whether it’s time to walk away from a sexless marriage or try to fix it?

In this video, we’ll explore five clear signs that can help guide your decision.

If you’re feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or struggling with emotional and physical intimacy, understanding these key signals can be the first step in prioritizing your emotional well-being.

 

We’ll cover:

  1. Lack of Effort: When both partners stop trying to address the lack of intimacy, it may be a sign the marriage is no longer healthy.
  2. Emotional Disconnection: If you feel distant from your partner emotionally, it often reflects a deeper problem.
  3. Resentment: Ongoing resentment can build a wall between partners, making reconciliation harder.
  4. Avoidance of Communication: When one or both partners refuse to talk about the issue, it’s difficult to move forward.
  5. Feeling Unappreciated: Consistently feeling undervalued is a strong indicator that the relationship may no longer be serving your needs.

 

Watch the video to gain insights and help you determine if it’s time to walk away or work on healing your marriage.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

How to Save a Sexless Marriage?

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How to Save a Sexless Marriage?

 

If you’re thinking about how to save a sexless marriage, it probably means that there was no consensus between you and your spouse on having a marriage without sexual activities. This article doesn’t aim to talk about marriages in which both sides don’t need sex to feel fulfilled. Instead, it seeks to provide guidelines to partners who are looking to address the lack of sex and how it’s impacting their marriage. 

There are certain things you can consider if you’re in a sexless marriage. To understand how it comes to that, we’ll look closely into the reasons why sex vanishes from most couple’s priority lists and how to put it back there. 

 

Why Sex Matters

One thing that distinguishes a love relationship from a platonic friendship is physical intimacy. However, some couples neglect the physical aspect of their marriage; this is especially prevalent in the early years of a marriage, especially if children are involved.

The importance of sex varies from person to person. There are others who might believe that having a sexual relationship is essential. Some people might think that connections and intimacy of a different kind are more significant. 

In addition to the benefits for you and your spouse personally, having regular sex has several other positive effects on a harmonious relationship. For example, the oxytocin released during sexual activity promotes emotional connection and strengthens bonds.

In a monogamous relationship, having sex deepens your emotional bond and devotion to the other person. Sex as a means of expressing love makes couples more likely to stay together. Sex is positively linked to a decreased divorce rate.

Depending on the marriage, having no sex may or may not be a problem. However, there are ways to address the issue together and individually if a lack of sex and physical closeness is a problem in your marriage. The first step to saving your sexless marriage is to determine the underlying cause.

 

How Do We End Up in a Sexless Marriage?

There are many reasons why some partners stop having sex in their marriage. Despite the pain it may cause you and your partner, you must understand what caused it to find a solution. 

 

Health Concerns

A person’s libido and desire for physical closeness can be significantly impacted by their state of mind and body. Also, health issues and disabilities can interfere with the physiological arousal process. Consider consulting a healthcare professional if you or your partner experience sexual dysfunction that persists for longer than a few months or is causing stress in your marriage.

 

Incompatible Libidos

Sex drive naturally flows, and not everyone has the same degree of sexual desire. When a couple’s sexual desires are not aligned, they may find themselves waiting to have sex until one or the other is feeling particularly in the mood. This will significantly reduce the frequency of sexual experiences in your marriage.

 

Having children

Many medical professionals advise delaying intercourse for at least six weeks, and some women may choose to hold out longer because of their experience giving birth, pain, or overwhelming feelings.

Generally speaking, not having sex just after giving birth wouldn’t qualify as a true “sexless marriage.” However, if it continues, sometimes this is how a marriage becomes sexless after a mother has decided she wants to focus on the family and not pleasure anymore.

 

Stress 

Your desire to have sex can be severely impacted by excessive stress. When cortisol levels rise, sex hormones drop, which eventually lowers your desire for sex. Additionally, if you’re stressed about family, work, or health, sex may not be a priority. 

 

Lack of Communication

It can be challenging to keep physical closeness going when you and your partner are having communication issues. Ineffective communication regarding sex, in general, can affect the body physiologically in terms of lubrication, orgasm, and erectile function, as well as reduce an individual’s desire and arousal for sex. 

 

Saving a Sexless Marriage

In a low- or no-sex marriage, the first step is determining if intimacy is an issue. Whether you and your partner find a low-sex or no-sex marriage problematic is a personal choice.

There is no rule on how many times marriage people should have sex per week, month, or year. Whether you and your spouse are content in your marriage and whether you still feel close to each other are often more significant factors.

Since each marriage is different, try not to compare yours to others. Research has shown that going without sex is more common than you might imagine, even though you may come across marital sex statistics that will suggest a certain number to be able to call your marriage sexually active. 

 

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate 

Discuss the problem of little or no sex in your marriage with your spouse. Even if it could be challenging, this communication is essential. Problems with intimacy and sex can arise in partnerships that are otherwise strong. It’s not always an indication that your marriage is facing a serious problem.

Instead of accusing, ask your partner how they feel about the issues. Would they like to have more sex? What do they need in order for that to happen? Make sure you also talk about what matters to you. Define clearly what sex means to you, and why it’s important to improve that area of your marriage. Being intimate about it may help you want sex again. 

 

Build Intimacy

Consider scheduling more sex if you’ve both agreed. It may not be romantic, but it can be thrilling and unique if done right. You can anticipate something and show your commitment to each other and your physical connection by making plans.

In addition to having sex, it’s critical to look into other ways to develop intimacy, as this is frequently lacking in low- or no-sex partnerships. There is more to physical connection than just intercourse. Try to rekindle your romance and find that unique spark by doing the things you both love. 

 

Consider Therapy

Depending on the underlying problems, seeking help outside your marriage could also be wise. Try attending a workshop, seminar, or marriage retreat to improve your intimacy. 

To address any underlying medical concerns that might be affecting your sexual life, speak with a healthcare professional. Seek joint or individual assistance from a mental health expert to develop communication skills or acquire stress reduction methods.

Should you decide that therapy is the best course of action for you, you might want to contact a trained sex therapist or another counselor who specializes in marital sexual issues. Any problems that are preventing you from experiencing intimacy can be worked through with your therapist. Make the most of these chances to concentrate on strengthening and deepening your marriage.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex Coach Videos and Guides Can Improve Sex Life and Health

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Sex Coach Videos and Guides Can Improve Sex Life and Health

 

Did you know you can learn about sex through sex coach videos? Sex education is not only reserved for students who are taking these classes. Regardless of your age, you can learn everything there is about sex, intimacy, and relationships. 

Not only that, but you can watch educational and engaging webinars on a variety of topics, including how to improve intimacy with your partner and how to try new things in bed. After all, if sex is not boring, then learning about it should be just as enjoyable! We will look at how sex coaches can make your relationship work better and lead to a more fulfilling sexual life in this article.

 

What Is a Sex Coach? 

An experienced expert who offers guidance and education on matters about intimacy, sex, and relationships is known as a sex coach. They educate you on how to completely realize your sexual potential and assist you in resolving issues like low libido, sexless marriage, and sexual dysfunction.

Sex coaching offers practical strategies for overcoming obstacles in the sexual life, in contrast to sex therapy, which concentrates on healing from prior traumas or dysfunctions. Clients of sex coaches can benefit from a variety of special advantages, such as learning seduction techniques, recognizing limits, and being more tolerant of their desires.

 

What Does a Sex Coach Do?

We look for coaches to help us improve at everything in our lives—business and finances, relationships, fitness, and health. Then, why wouldn’t we look for a coach to help us live the sexual life we’ve always desired?

Considering how vital intimacy is to our health, we have to take action to resolve any problems that are keeping us from having a satisfying sexual life. However, it can be awkward and ineffective to discuss these issues with friends or therapists who aren’t specialists in the field of sexuality.

Sex coaches are trained specialists with specific skills and knowledge who may assist us in overcoming obstacles and improving our sexual enjoyment.

 

What Does a Session with a Sex Coach Look Like?

It’s crucial to understand what to anticipate from a sex coaching session, regardless of whether you want to work as a sex coach or hire one.

It’s important to understand that sex coaching does not include sexual activity first. Practitioners never take off their clothing. Having said that, experienced sex trainers may impart sexual skills through practical means. They are also permitted to engage in specific forms of seduction and contact within the bounds of the law. 

You can talk about your sexual experiences and feelings with a sex coach you decide to see. Expect them to ask about the problem’s past and gather any information necessary to help you.

A sex coach will discuss potential solutions with you based on the particular coaching technique they use. They might recommend watching movies or doing homework. During a session, practice techniques could include self-touch, movement, breathwork, touch skills training, and communication tools. Additionally, a sex coach will constantly support you in overcoming shame and gaining greater confidence in relation to your sexual issues.

Once you are done with those tasks, whether it’s during the session or after it, in the comfort of your home, you’ll share what you’ve discovered and your current thoughts on it. Finally, your sex coach will go over how you may carry these improvements into your daily life going forward.

 

Difference Between a Sex Coach and a Sex Therapist

While sex therapy may delve into past traumas that have continued to affect you as an adult, sex coaching focuses on practical strategies and exercises to help you get over your sexual obstacles. Because of this, those who have more dysfunction or unresolved trauma typically benefit from sex therapy.

Unlike therapists, who must pursue advanced degrees in social work, psychology, religion, or medicine, sex coaches can start working with clients as soon as they want. A sex therapist has a bachelor’s degree, a master’s degree, and a certification from an accredited board to maintain their status. 

 

Reasons to Work with a Sex Coach

Society teaches us that having sex is something we ought to be able to do naturally. The ability to be a wonderful lover is not necessarily inherent, even though the desire is. In our culture, talking about sex or giving clear instructions is still frowned upon. It implies that there aren’t enough opportunities for people to learn how to have fulfilling relationships with others. And very few are fortunate enough to have a mentor in the form of a spouse.

Sadly, most individuals don’t provide constructive criticism, which leaves a lot of people unaware of what constitutes excellent sex. Working with a competent sex coach might be beneficial in this situation. Sexuality may be taught and learned. Seeking advice from an expert who is also encouraging and nonjudgmental is the best approach to learning about it.

The majority of people will find that the only way to obtain practical, precise guidance on becoming a better lover is to hire a sex coach. They’re not only knowledgeable on the psychology and physiology of sex, yet they can also offer advice and criticism in real-time.

 

How to Choose the Right Sex Coach for Yourself

Keep in mind that selecting a sex coach is a personal decision on the best course of action. As you read about the many kinds of sex coaches, pay attention to your body. Imagine finishing your assignment after speaking with your coach. Imagine now that you are working on experience exercises or that you are learning how to touch your coach sensually. Which one fits your requirements and personality the best?

Think about how important it is to you to have a coach who shares your gender, sexual orientation, race, or any other common experience. Finding the right coach for you requires speaking with potential candidates and gauging your feelings toward them. 

The best way to choose the right sex coach is to trust your gut, as simple as it sounds. Of course, read other people’s opinions and ask them questions if you have any. In the end, if you don’t like the first sex coach you encounter, you can always find another one and see if it fits you better. In the meantime, make sure you check out our sex coach videos and guides! 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Relationship Therapist Near Me: How to Get Help Right Away

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Relationship Therapist Near Me: How to Get Help Right Away

 

If you were looking for a ‘Relationship therapist near me’ on Google, you’re determined to start going to therapy sessions. Regardless of your reason for seeking therapy, finding a good mental health expert focused on relationships and marriages is now easier. You can easily find a therapist in your area, read other clients’ reviews, or even learn more about the therapist on their website.

Consider online sessions if you’re in a rush and want to talk to someone as soon as possible. This will give you more options to choose from, and you’ll likely find a therapist to talk to, even on the same day. To help you choose the right relationship therapist, we’ve decided to take a closer look into how to tell a great therapist from an average one and what else you should pay attention to when making the choice. 

 

What Is Relationship Therapy? 

Relationship therapy, sometimes referred to as couples therapy or counseling, is a kind of psychotherapy that aims to assist clients in strengthening their love relationships. By working with a therapist, couples can address problems in their relationships, practice communication, enhance their relationships, and settle disputes.

Relationship therapy may be beneficial at any point in a relationship, even though it’s frequently utilized to address issues. Counseling that enhances communication and connection can still benefit those in pleasant, healthy relationships.

 

What Does a Relationship Therapist Do? 

It’s crucial to recognize the distinctions between what a relationship therapist does and what a regular therapist offering individual therapy does. Relationship issues might occasionally resolve themselves if one partner seeks private therapy to address their issues. However, a relationship therapist aims to improve the quality of the relationship by talking to both partners. 

Often, one or both partners lack certain skills to build a quality relationship. Learning how to communicate, listen, compromise, and trust are not skills we all possess at the same level. Without them, the relationship might become complicated and often toxic. To avoid getting to that point, partners tend to seek a relationship therapist, whether online or in person, to work on those areas and strengthen their bond. 

If you’re not sure how a relationship therapist can help you, these are some of the things you can expect:

  • Ask you and your partner questions to get to know you better
  • Determine a relationship goal with you and your partner
  • Tap into the certain issues that are causing you to discuss, fight, or isolate from each other
  • Suggest exercises on the spot or at home to better understand each other
  • Teach you techniques to use when focused on a similar challenge or situation
  • Dig deeper into your past romantic and family-related experiences to understand why you react or feel a certain way

 

Benefits of Relationship Therapy

Relationship therapy is really effective, especially if couples seek help before issues are too severe or complex to handle on their own. Couples that seek relationship therapy before allowing conflicts to develop should anticipate some of the following advantages:

  • They will have better and healthier communication practices
  • Couples will be more equipped to decide important matters together
  • Spouses or partners will be able to handle problems more easily
  • Learning healthy conflict-resolution techniques (e.g., improving listening skills and spotting misconceptions)
  • Help couples understand their true intentions and needs

 

What to Expect from Your First Session

If you’re thinking about getting counseling, you undoubtedly want to know how relationship therapy works. Therapy sessions will probably not be extremely confrontational in the beginning. This is due to the fact that relationship therapy starts with your therapist asking you and your partner questions to learn about your background and the causes of your marital or relationship issues.

Every partner will get an opportunity to speak and present their perspective. The relationship therapist could even ask for separate sessions from each spouse after the first one so that they can discuss things that they might not feel comfortable discussing with their partner.

 

How to Find a Relationship Therapist

A variety of professionals, such as licensed clinical social workers, licensed counselors, registered marital and family therapists, and clinical psychologists, can provide relationship therapy. Though their term refers to “marriage,” keep in mind that relationship therapy is beneficial to single people as well. However, if you really want someone who is experienced in relationship topics, you will want to seek a relationship therapist. 

Asking friends and family for recommendations can be a more successful method of starting your search for a therapist, even if most people’s first instinct when seeking one is to head online. There are dozens of licensed therapists in your area, so choosing one should not be difficult. If you want to broaden your choice and seek a certain profile of therapist regardless of their working area, consider online sessions, which are equally efficient and could help you with anything you need.

 

Online Relationship Counseling

If you and your partner find that traditional in-person therapy isn’t working or isn’t possible, online therapy may be a great alternative. There are several reasons to consider trying online counseling. For instance, your spouse and you don’t share a residence. This may be relevant to those in long-distance relationships or separated individuals contemplating a permanent break. 

Or, you have to travel quite a bit for work. Thanks to online choices, people may benefit from therapy regardless of their location or how hectic their calendar is. Sometimes, traditional treatment does not feel comfortable for you or your partner. For some people, receiving therapy in person might be difficult, awkward, or even anxiety-inducing. Relationship counseling may be easier to obtain with web-based tools.

 

Work Together Towards Your Relationship Goal

You could discover that counseling is beneficial if your relationship is having problems. A therapist may help you and your spouse identify the underlying causes of your issues, develop fresh lines of communication, and fortify your bond.

You and your partner may resolve any issues you may be facing and strengthen your relationship by agreeing to seek therapy together. Talk to each other and choose the therapist together. Don’t forget that relationships require work, and sometimes, getting help from a relationship expert is just what you need to feel closer to each other and become more intimate than ever before. 

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Comprehensive Sex Therapy: Unlocking a Fulfilling Life

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Comprehensive Sex Therapy: Unlocking a Fulfilling Life

 

In our fast-paced, modern lives, it’s not uncommon for sex and intimacy to be relegated to just another item on our never-ending “to-do” list and to ignore comprehensive sex therapy altogether. Many of the individuals we work with express feeling drained, exhausted, and underappreciated. 

They often find themselves living on autopilot, unable to savor the small, subtle beauties of life. When was the last time you could truly switch off your racing thoughts and immerse yourself in a pleasurable experience? If that moment seems like a distant memory, you’re not alone. Sex therapy offers a path to rediscovering that connection and vitality in your life.

 

Understanding Sex Therapy

Sex therapy is a specialized modality that addresses a multitude of issues related to human sexuality. It’s a powerful tool for becoming more mindful, aware, and connected to your sexuality, and it can alleviate many of the symptoms associated with the pervasive issue of life burnout that so many individuals and couples experience.

 

Exploring the Diverse Realms of Comprehensive Sex Therapy

When delving into the realm of sex therapy, you’ll discover a rich tapestry of subcategories, each designed to address specific aspects of sexuality and intimacy. These include, but are not limited to:

 

1. Readjusting Sex Life after Transitions

Life transitions, such as becoming parents, going through menopause, experiencing injuries, and more, can significantly impact your sexual life. Sex therapy provides guidance on adapting to and finding joy in these new phases.

2. Pain during intercourse

Experiencing pain during sex can be emotionally and physically taxing. Sex therapy addresses the underlying causes and helps you find relief and enjoyment.

3. Low or no desire

Loss of sexual desire can be distressing, but it’s a challenge that sex therapy can help you overcome, rekindling the flame of passion in your relationship.

4. Identity and Orientation Issues

Exploring and embracing one’s sexual identity and orientation is a transformative journey, and sex therapy provides the support and understanding needed.

5. Desire Discrepancies

When partners have differing levels of desire, it can strain a relationship. Sex therapy offers strategies for bridging this gap and fostering intimacy.

6. History of Sexual Trauma

Healing from past traumas is a critical aspect of sex therapy. It offers a safe space to address and work through these deeply rooted issues.

7. Orgasm Issues

Difficulty achieving orgasm is a common concern. Sex therapy explores the psychological and physical factors contributing to this issue.

8. Fertility

Dealing with infertility can be emotionally challenging. Sex therapy provides support and strategies for coping with the impact on your relationship and self-esteem.

9. Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction can be a source of anxiety and frustration for many. Sex therapy helps individuals and couples navigate this challenge with empathy and guidance.

10. Sex Education

For those seeking a deeper understanding of their own bodies and sexuality, sex education is an essential component of sex therapy.

 

Breaking Free from Shame and Stigma

Shame frequently characterizes societal attitudes in the United States and some of the Americas toward sex, our bodies, and intimacy. This cultural backdrop can hinder open discussions about intimate issues. However, I firmly believe that removing the veil of shame and encouraging open dialogue is incredibly empowering.

Important Note: It’s essential to clarify that I am not a sex surrogate. All therapy sessions are talk-based and conducted with clothes on. My role as a therapist is to guide you on a journey of self-exploration, helping you tap into the many facets of your identity, including your sexuality, to empower you to become the best version of yourself.

Through talk therapy, goal-setting, and other proven methods, we can help you strengthen your relationship with your partner. Let’s embark on a transformative journey toward a more fulfilling and vibrant life. Come schedule a private session with Sarah Fitzgerald, LCSW or Amanda Pasciucco, PhD, LMFT, AASECT CST.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sex Counselor & How They Can Help You Through Divorce

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Sex Counselor & How They Can Help You Through Divorce

 

There are many reasons why people find divorce to be the most stressful situation of their lives, yet a sex counselor might be exactly what you need. After all, most people will talk about how to recover emotionally, and as much as this is crucial, sex and intimacy are important aspects of your life, and you should dedicate your attention to them as well. 

In this article, we’ll take a closer look at the importance of having a sex counselor support you through a divorce and why you should consider finding one. 

 

Why Sex Matters 

Sex is a big deal in marriages, so why assume it will not be a big deal in divorces? It is so much more than just a physical activity; it involves intimacy, connection, excitement, pleasure, and trust. For a couple to enjoy sex, they need to make sure that both partners’ needs are met, and that can often be challenging. It might be that sex is not the reason why you and your spouse have decided to part ways, yet it will have a significant impact on how you see yourself as a sexual being in your upcoming relationships.

For instance, if your partner was never interested in sex, you might feel awkward that your next partner is initiating it and not know how to respond to it. Or, you might feel uninspired to try out different things in bed because your spouse didn’t like them, so you’ll assume that your partner in the future will be the same way. All of these beliefs affect how we see ourselves and how we connect with others, both romantically and sexually. 

 

Numerous sex issues can occur in your marriage and follow you way past your divorce, such as:

  • You stopped having sex,
  • You or your spouse initiate arguing after sex,
  • You don’t match each other’s libido,
  • You see sex as a more or less important aspect of your marriage than your spouse,
  • You or your spouse find other people more sexually appealing than each other. 

 

After Divorce

Your first sexual encounter following a divorce may be remarkably similar to your very first encounter. Both men and women are concerned about having their first sexual encounter following a divorce. Males may have some erection problems due to the strain of a new relationship and their eagerness for sex. 

You can feel apprehensive since their body will differ from what you are used to. Will you know where everything is and how to turn it on? You could also experience climaxing troubles rather than erection problems. Once more, guilt over sleeping with a different person could prevent you from experiencing orgasm.  

When having sex for the first time after a divorce, women may be reluctant to expose their bodies out of concern that they are not perfect enough, especially if they are middle-aged. The first time you have sex after a divorce, you might not be able to climax because you might not be able to unwind and trust your partner enough to feel free with them. 

If your first sexual encounter doesn’t go as you expected, don’t be disappointed. It will take time to adjust to many aspects of your new life, including intimacy after divorce and a new sexual partner.

 

Reasons to Talk to a Sex Counselor

Sex therapists are licensed counselors, physicians, or other healthcare professionals who have received further training in assisting clients with sex-related issues.

Many people, at some point in their lives, struggle with sex. Some people can easily help themselves. Others may experience significant discomfort and sadness as a result of sexual issues. 

These are just a few of the sexual issues that a sex counselor can help you with:

  • Lack or absence of sexual desire,
  • Difficulties having an orgasm,
  • Feeling pain during sex,
  • Inability to practice penetrative sex,
  • Erectile dysfunction,
  • Premature ejaculation.

 

Your concerns will be discussed with a sex therapist, who will determine whether they are more likely to be psychological, physical, or a combination of the two.

 Each counseling session is private. You can go to a sex therapist alone, yet it could be best if you both go if your spouse is also affected by the issue.

You will have a more profound knowledge of what is happening and the causes by discussing and examining your experiences. The therapist could also assign you and your partner specific exercises and chores to complete independently.

 

Quick Tips to Help Yourself Enjoy Sex Again

The best way to solve any issue around sex and intimacy in your marriage or even during a divorce is to talk to a sex counselor. They will provide the best support and guide you on your path to falling in love with yourself as a sexual being – which we all are! That said, there are a few things you can try on your own that might help you improve how you feel about sex. Keep in mind that each situation is individual, so some of these tips might not work for you. 

The first piece of advice would be to solo touch. It might sound silly, yet how well do you truly know what feels good? Do you know which sensations and which parts of your body provoke a feeling of pleasure? Many people will forget about things that they are passionate about exploring with their partner. So, if that’s your situation, give yourself a few orgasms before you get back in the game.

Also, do not rush into sex.  Speeding up to get over it is unnecessary. You should enjoy it and do it when it feels right, whether it’s the first night you meet them or after a few months. One thing you should also be clear about with yourself is not to use sex to fill up the void. Sleeping alone after years of marriage might seem weird or even too scary, so you might get the idea of getting into bed with someone to fill up the void. Keep in mind that the best motivation to have sex with someone is when you’re truly attracted to them; otherwise, you will feel even more lonely after having sex with a person you don’t even like.

 

The Bottom Line

Sex after divorce may simultaneously be terrifying, thrilling, and fulfilling. To shape your sexual life after divorce, you must go carefully into the unexplored region. However, you don’t have to do it alone. Consider reaching out to a sex counselor and getting the support you need to solve any unresolved sexual issues, and look forward to sexual experiences coming your way!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

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Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

 

A sex and marriage therapist in training can help you with gender and LGBTQIA+ problems. If you have questions about your sexuality or gender identity, they can help.

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, and other orientations and gender identities may also experience stress and anxiety from minority status. Although your sexuality, romanticity, or gender identity may not cause distress, you may still feel stressed, anxious, or unheard. To better manage these issues and express your orientation or gender identity, seek therapy.

 

Issues LGBTQIA+ People Face

Despite growing mainstream acceptance of various sexual and romantic orientations and gender identities, LGBTQIA+ people still face persecution, discrimination, and marginalization. Managing prejudice and oppression, coming out to family, and finding an “authentic” self in the face of society’s expectations and demands can lead to depression, anxiety, drug use, and other mental health issues for those who are LGBTQIA+.

According to research, young people who identify as LGBTQIA+ are more likely to have suicidal thoughts and self-harm, especially if they encounter prejudice because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Discrimination includes social exclusion, verbal and physical abuse, and sexual assault. Consequent incidents can cause chronic stress and mental illness. Anticipating prejudice and discrimination can also lower mental health. In housing, jobs, education, and human rights, LGBTQIA+ people may face similar harassment and bias.

The LGBTQIA+ community also faces many of the same challenges as everyone else. Money, sex, in-laws, and quality time are common topics of conflict in relationships, and the same everyday stressors—mood swings, work worries, or poor self-esteem—affect everyone.

 

Gender Dysphoria 

Gender dysphoria occurs when your identity contradicts your birth sex. You may experience severe distress and physical discomfort as a result of this. Gender dysphoric people can change their gender identity.

There are numerous reasons why people with gender dysphoria seek therapy. However, these are common ones:

  • Anxiety and/or confusion over sexual orientation,
  • Couple in conflict over coming out,
  • Gender transition.

 

Therapy for the LGBTQIA+ Community

People who are members of the LFBTQIA+ community frequently face unique challenges, with specific sets of circumstances unique to the LGBTQIA+ community or, in many ways, far more prevalent than in the straight community. Since the legalization of homosexuality and other steps toward a more equitable and tolerant society, such as raising the legal consent age, allowing marriage, and recognizing non-binary status, culture and its views on the LGBTQ community have changed.

Many who come out fear rejection from friends and family and workplace discrimination. Even after coming out, those who are in the LGBTQIA+ community may face assault, bullying, and hate crimes. Any of these can cause stress, sadness, anxiety, identity issues, and low self-esteem.

Whether your issues are related to your sexual orientation, risky sexual behavior, difficult relationships, or any other aspect of being LGBTQIA+ and navigating modern life, counselors and therapists offer a private, judgment-free space to work through them.

If you are experiencing emotional stress due to your gender or sexual identity, therapy and counseling can greatly help. A therapist may provide methods for coping with your worries about coming out, techniques to cope with prejudice, and assistance with other issues experienced by members of the LGBTQIA+ community, such as relationships, marriage, and parenthood, in a private, safe, and non-judgmental environment. Additionally, you can discover new approaches to relating to yourself and others, as well as daily self-management skills.

 

Considering a LGTBQIA+ Therapist

Even though many therapists are capable of helping, LGBTQIA+ clients may feel more at ease with an LGBTQIA+ therapist or, at the very least, with a therapist who specializes in or has extensive expertise in LGBTQIA+ matters. These therapists are located in some towns. As more therapists and counselors offer phone or online services, a person’s search for the right therapist may expand. Gender confirmation patients often see a therapist before surgery. If available, consult a specialist.

Another great option is to reach out to a sex and marriage therapist who can guide you through the entire process. Keep in mind that all traumas, problems, or minor issues can be solved with quality therapy. You just need to take the first step!

 

Come see Griffin or Karissa today. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

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Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

 

Sex training is one of the best ways that therapists can enhance their intimate connection with themselves so that they can help their clients do the same. 

 This therapy is client-centered, trauma-informed, and intimacy-deepening. Sex training is specialized clinical training for consultants, life coaches, and therapists.

Sex training teaches you how to help your clients feel less trauma-related symptoms, more serenity, a better grasp of how to ask for what they want, and a greater sense of connection with others around them.

 

What is Sex Training?

Sexual therapy certification programs train specialists to help clients with sexual health issues. Although some healthcare training programs cover gender and sexuality, most do not prepare professionals to provide sex therapy. Sex therapy certification programs teach experts in other fields how to treat sexual health issues.

The majority of states require sex therapists to hold valid healthcare licenses to practice their profession. Sex therapists typically have backgrounds in a range of disciplines, such as marriage and family therapy (systems work), social work, psychology, urology, gynecology, and/or psychiatry. The American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), which offers a national certification process, is where most of those who are certified in sex therapy obtain their credentials. The top certification programs for sex therapy offer a direct path to a certification that is acknowledged at the local, state, or federal levels.

However, receiving sex training is what ensures that a therapist is knowledgeable about different approaches to helping their clients in the field of sexuality and intimacy. There are different training programs available across the United States. And finding the one that will provide you with key learnings and skills is crucial for your work success. 

 

Key Learnings in Sex Training

Programs for sex training are made to get you ready to use sex therapy in your practice. They adopt a sex-positive and inclusive stance and discuss issues including common therapies, strategies to rephrase language to be inclusive, and sex therapy diagnosis.

Some of the key learnings in sex training that therapists can expect to start applying in their work with clients are:

  • Identifying and diagnosing common concerns in sex therapy
  • How to apply different interventions, 
  • How to build trust with clients to discuss sexual concerns

Your comprehension of the intersections between the body, mind, emotions, culture, and identity will deepen as a result of the course. You’ll be able to assist patients in achieving their treatment objectives and staying true to their basic principles. Similar to this, you will be able to assist couples in overcoming the push-pull conflict cycle that frequently arises while working with multiple people simultaneously.

Sex training is intended for professionals interested in learning how to apply sex therapy to their clinical work as well as how to be more inclusive in their client interactions. Throughout this program, you will also discuss issues including usual diagnoses, the distinction between sex positivity and sex negativity, how to change the language to be more inclusive, normal sex therapy techniques, and more.

 

Becoming a Sex Therapist

There are five crucial steps to follow to become a sex therapist, yet if you are just getting started, it may take some time. The amount of time required for sex therapy training depends on your level of education and any credentials or certificates you have earned before enrolling in a particular program. Each state has its own standards for finishing your master’s degree, and they might be complicated and unclear.

Most sex therapists take this route to earn their degree and start working in the field:

  1. Obtain a master’s degree in counseling, psychiatry, clinical social work, marital and family therapy, or psychotherapy. Depending on the degree you choose to pursue, these degrees typically take two to seven years to complete.
  2. Meet all licensing standards; these criteria vary by state. So you’ll need to do your study based on where you live.
  3. While you are completing your supervised work experience, get a provisional license. Typically, the criteria call for between 1,500 and 4,000 hours.
  4. Pass the state’s licensing test.
  5. To finish your sex therapy training, finish an extra 60 supervised hours. Finish an equivalent number of sexuality-related graduate school classes, or become a Certified Sex Therapist (CST).

 

Sex Therapy Session

As a sex therapist, you will pay attention to how your clients explain their issues. And determine whether psychological, physical, or a combination of the two factors into the problem.

Every treatment session is private. Your clients are welcome to attend alone, yet if their issue also impacts their partner. It could be best for both of them to be present.

You’ll learn more about what’s going on and the reasons for it by talking about and investigating your client’s experiences. You might also assign them tasks to complete at their convenience

Typically, sessions last between 30 and 50 minutes. Your therapist might suggest weekly sessions or fewer regular visits, like once a month.

 

Sex Therapist vs. Sex Coach

You can also think about becoming a sex coach if you have a strong desire to help people improve their sex lives and relationships but feel unsure if the career path of a sex therapist is best for you.

Even though you will still require training, taking this specific course can help you finish it much more quickly and start work right away. There is a growing and strong demand for sex coaching.

As a therapist, you may want to enroll in a sex coaching school to help your clients with sexuality without going through the certification process. If you want a more hands-on experience, try somatic sex coaching or sex surrogacy. 

 

In Conclusion

Regardless of your career path, if you’re passionate about sexuality and learning ways to help your clients connect better with that part of themselves, you should take sex training. Learning from such programs is incredibly valuable to you as a professional and also to the relationship you are building with your clients. 

 

Tantric Sex Best Practices: Breathing, Desire & Arousal

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

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Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

 

Have you ever watched a sex education video on your own initiative rather than at the request of your teacher or parents? How curious are you about sex? Just like you, many young people feel a bit overwhelmed with everything around sex, yet they are either too afraid, too proud, or too confused to decide to learn more about it.

Imagine if you were to learn how to drive a car from reading several social media posts or hearing gossip in high school. You might know how to start the engine or steer the wheel, yet being able to drive on the road without hurting yourself or anybody else requires more knowledge, skills, and practice. 

The same is true with sex; you need to educate yourself about all aspects of sex. From hygiene and feeling comfortable in your body to different sex techniques and orgasm types, you should be informed about it all before stepping into this experience. 

Although sex has become less taboo in recent years, many teens and young adults are still ashamed to seek answers to questions about sex. That’s why watching a few sex education videos or reading a blog or two might be just what you need to feel more confident and safe for your first time.

 

Why Sex Is Not Like Any Other Topic

It kind of is, yet your experience is telling you differently. You talk comfortably with your friends and family about your hobbies, the music you listen to, and your dream career, right? However, when it comes to sex, you start to feel uncomfortable and wish to switch to another topic. Sex was considered taboo in the past for a variety of social and religious reasons, yet learning about it on time helps young individuals like yourself, when they decide to have sex for the first time, practice it safely and not in ignorance. 

Sex is a private act, and if you don’t feel comfortable talking about it openly, you can educate yourself about it privately as well. It’s up to you when choosing how to learn about sex;, however, don’t ignore the power of education. Ignorance about sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), broken hearts, and different emotional issues. 

 

Learn Your Body First

Pleasure is the reason why people enjoy sex. You can reach sexual pleasure on your own or with another person; that’s completely up to you, yet you will need to learn what feels good and what doesn’t. The best way to do it is to study your body first. Masturbating is completely natural and the best way to get to know your body in a sexual way. 

Besides knowing how touching certain spots on your body makes you feel, you should also learn the names of body parts and what they do. For instance, do you know the difference between the vulva, vagina, and clitoris? This information can make your first sexual experience more enjoyable and help you not feel confused about sex.

 

Sex Requires Consent

Once you’ve covered all the details about your body parts and learned what you like and don’t like, there are quite a few things you’ll need to keep in mind for your first time. The most important one is consent. Because it involves another person, it is very important for you to communicate your intentions and get consent to have sex. 

If you or your partner starts feeling uncomfortable, in pain, or has simply changed their mind, make sure you respect them and stop right away. Also, you should know the name and age of your sex partner and avoid getting intimate with people you don’t know well enough. 

 

Before Your First Time

Once you’ve given and received consent and decided you’re ready for your first time, a few other things will need to be crossed off of your list. Consider how you wish to have your pubic hair. Maybe you want to have it completely shaved or waxed, or you want to leave it as it is. Also, think about the things you really didn’t like during the exploration of your body. You can even write them down on a piece of paper so you don’t forget them later. 

These things should be communicated to your sex partner before you engage in any type of sexual activity, as they will affect how you feel during sex and, often, after it. Once you’ve both expressed your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, be sure to have protection with you, whether it’s a preservative, contraceptive pills, or something else. Keep in mind that not all types of contraception protect you from both STIs and unwanted pregnancy. In fact, the only contraceptive method that will keep you safe from both is a preservative or condom. 

Another thing you need to know is that the first time is only that—the first time you are experiencing something new. Don’t feel bad if you feel awkward during sex;, that’s completely normal and expected. It will take some time until you start feeling more pleasure in sex and the discomfort and weirdness around sex completely disappear. By communicating with your partner, it will be easier to go through these mixed feelings because you will realize you are not alone in them.

 

Conclusion

There are a lot of things you need to learn about sex before engaging in sexual activity. However, the more you learn, the better you will feel about it. Knowing what to expect during sex and understanding what your body needs helps you have better control over a situation that is completely new to you. Not to mention that experiencing anything for the first time always brings a bit of confusion and fear.

Sex is a form of intimacy between partners, and it can bring you closer to each other, but only if it’s not rushed and done when you’re both ready. The only way you’ll know if you’re both ready for what you want is by talking to each other before anything actually happens. 

That way, you will assure the connection between you strengthens and your sexuality is nurtured in a healthy way. After all, you’ve got your entire life to explore everything around sex, so make sure you dedicate some time to learning about it first. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Free Couples Counseling: How To Make the Most Of It

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Free Couples Counseling: How To Make the Most Of It

 

If you think your relationship is going through some difficulties or would benefit from free couples counseling, find out how to maximize the value of this type of therapy. After all, different approaches and types of therapy help you decide what is the best solution for your relationship based on your unique situation.

That said, what is free couples counseling from Medicaid with LMFT-As, and can you expect it to save your relationship and bring you closer to your partner? Definitely! Even one session can be beneficial for couples if they prepare well, provide valuable information to their counselor, and apply what they learn to their romantic lives.

Before going into tips on how to make the most of your free couples counseling through interns, let’s take a look at what to expect when you and your partner visit your chosen therapist for the first time.

 

What Is Free Couples Counseling?

Free couples therapy is exactly like regular couples counseling, yet you will not have to pay for it. As we often misinterpret that what is given for free has no or little value, there are also certain misconceptions about free couples therapy. The biggest one is that people think that just because a therapist is doing their work for free, they will not put in any effort.

Many therapists practice this type of counseling to give back to the community in the best way they can, while others might do it to gain relevant experience and apply for the desired job. Regardless of their reason, you should discard the option of going to a couples counselor and strengthen your relationship.

This type of therapy is typically performed online, and you and your partner can talk to a therapist from the comfort of your home. This is a great option for people who don’t have a lot of time due to their responsibilities or feel uncomfortable sharing intimate thoughts and emotions in a new environment. 

 

Reasons to Seek Couples Counseling

Sometimes it may be difficult to find a professional therapist. Also, one partner may be unwilling to seek professional relationship counseling, even if it’s free. However, when they start talking to a therapist, they will discover that most therapists have a nonjudgmental perspective and can significantly improve the quality of your relationship. 

 

Whether the issue in your relationship is sex, a lack of communication, stress from work, or family responsibilities, couples counseling can help you eliminate the obstacles to your relationship’s happiness. 

  1. Couples counseling can strengthen your relationship.

Online therapy can help you get the mental health support you need, which will strengthen your relationship.  Free couples counseling is a cost-effective mental health service that helps people have more fulfilling relationships and, parallelly, work on themselves as well. Relationships take work, and finding a professional might alleviate some of that burden for you, as we often don’t know what’s the best way to do something or struggle to find common ground with our partners. 

  1. Couples counseling builds communication, intimacy, and trust.

Unresolved mental health problems may unintentionally affect a relationship if one or both partners are experiencing them. Also, each person is different, so finding a way to communicate efficiently is a challenge for most relationships. There is nothing unusual about that, and seeking couples counseling could help solve all these issues. Once both partners have the right tools to communicate, their intimacy and trust will be rebuilt and strengthened.

  1. Couples counseling helps you understand different phases of a relationship.

In love, our brains’ pleasure and desire chemicals do not stay as high. Hormone levels dropping may feel like depression or other mental health issues. Dealing with this is harder than it sounds, and not accepting the new phase of your relationship may cause new issues for you as a couple. With a couples therapist, you can enjoy this new phase and stay connected as your relationship changes (because it will).

 

Tips To Get The Best Of Free Couples Counseling

If you and your partner have decided to start couples counseling, there are ways to maximize its benefits. Together, you can find a therapist. This will give you a shared mission and let you talk about something important. Find a counselor you both like, as personal preference affects therapy results. 

Talk to your partner prior to the session and mutually decide on the topic you want to bring to your chosen therapist. This can save you time, as you’ll know which information you want to share with the therapist instead of going back and forth with your partner to determine what would be the best thing to talk about in your first session.

Also, talk to your partner if there is a need to connect to your free couples therapy from different rooms so you can both have the space you need to share. Connecting from one computer and sitting so close to each other might not be the best solution for one or even both partners. That said, keep in mind that joining the therapy from separate rooms doesn’t imply you are not on the same side. 

Once your session has ended, take a moment to reflect on everything that was just said. When you both feel ready, set aside some time for a conversation about what you could do with the information you just received. For instance, if your couples therapist advises you to make more romantic plans to strengthen your relationship, you can discuss possible date or travel ideas. 

 

Conclusion

Free couples counseling is an excellent way to improve your connection with your partner and to remember what truly matters to you both. Sometimes, responsibilities and lifestyle can get in the way of our relationships, and with the right therapist, you and your partner can fall in love again and enjoy all the little things you used to do together. Use these tips to find the best free or low-cost therapist for you and take the next step to a more fulfilled relationship. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

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Here’s What Actually Happens During Sex Therapy (Hint: No One Gets Naked)

Plus, where to find your own sex therapist | The Knot | by Dina Cheney

Whether it’s mismatched sex drives or one partner’s inability to orgasm, issues with sexual compatibility can leave you feeling frustrated and hopeless. Enter sex therapy—a specific type of talk therapy that focuses on sexual well-being and relationship satisfaction. Sounds intriguing, no?

To understand what sex therapy really is and how to find the right specialist, we spoke with three experts:

What Is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is essentially talk therapy, but with a focus on sexuality and relationships, explains Dr. Buehler. “It can help to treat sexual issues and problems in and out of the bedroom,” she says.

Sex therapy can be used to facilitate communication if you’re simply looking to take your sexual satisfaction to the next level, as well as help with issues that include:

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  • Low sexual desire
  • Mismatched sexual desire
  • Differing physical abilities
  • Sex after illness or cancer
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Consensual nonmonogamy

What Actually Happens in Sex Therapy?

First, the therapist takes a history to get a sense of the problem and how to best solve it, explains Dr. Buehler. Usually, the solution will take the form of education, suggestions of strategies to try, or—if the problem is long-standing—additional psychotherapy plus educational tips.

The psychotherapy piece involves exploring patients’ past emotions, relationships and core beliefs about themselves and the world around them. After all, according to Dr. Barbach, many sexual problems (such as lack of desire) are really relationship problems. “People come to work on the sex, but have to work on the relationship—so they’re feeling connected enough to work on the sex,” she says.

One of the most common issues, low sexual desire or drive, can often be remedied by focusing on self-care, says Dr. Buehler, who urges her patients to ensure they’re getting proper sleep, nutrition, exercise and stress management.

For couples to make progress between sessions, sex therapists will also often give homework assignments, like touching activities or gratitude practices, to report back on during their next appointment.

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How to Find a Sex Therapist

When looking for a licensed sex therapist, it’s important that your specialist has a background in psychology, stresses Dr. Buehler, since many physical sexual problems have a psychological aspect to them as well. This way, they can diagnose non-physical issues affecting sexual function, like trauma, depression and anxiety. Ideally, they should be certified by AASECT, the oldest and largest association for sex therapists.

Find a Sex Therapist Near You

To find a local specialist, Dr. Buehler recommends searching the directory on the AASECT site and inputting your zip code. You can also ask your OBYGN, urologist or primary care doctor for a referral.

Dr. Pasciucco also recommends reading online reviews, as well as exploring any professional social media the specialist may have. By looking specialists up on YouTube and reading their blogs, you can get a sense of their approach, she explains.

Online Sex Therapy

Many practitioners also offer their services virtually, so you and your partner can attend online sessions without leaving home. Just make sure to choose a sex therapist licensed to practice in your state, says Dr. Barbach.

Additionally, there are therapy services that exist solely online, such Talkspace and Regain. Both popular online treatment providers offer relationship-centered couples therapy, where you can discuss topics surrounding sex and intimacy. While price quotes vary, Talkspace typically charges around $110 a week for a 30-minute couples therapy video session, plus text and audio messaging with a licensed marriage and family therapist.

How to Get a Resistant Partner to Go for Sex Therapy

Unfortunately, couples tend to wait a while before seeking a sex therapist. “Things usually have to get very bad first,” says Dr. Barbach. To encourage a resistant partner, she suggests explaining that sex is very important to your relationship satisfaction, and that your issue is likely common and solvable.

If your partner is hesitant out of embarrassment, reassure them that therapy is completely confidential. Ultimately, sex therapy provides a safe space for you to grow and thrive as both sexual beings and as a couple.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Is Couples Therapy Covered by Insurance?

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Is Couples Therapy Covered by Insurance?

 

If you’re wondering ‘Is couples therapy covered by insurance?’, keep in mind that couples therapy is often not covered by insurance; however, there are always exceptions. Insurance companies must offer fair coverage for mental health illnesses following the Affordable Care Act, the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act, and other federal legislation. This requires them to cover mental health illnesses as equally as physical health conditions, not deny them coverage, and not impose higher co-pays on these conditions.

In most cases, insurance equity regulations do not apply to couples therapy. This is so because legislation promoting mental health parity treats mental health issues like medical diagnoses. Couples counseling is not comparable to a physical health condition because it is not a medical diagnosis.

 

When Is Couples Therapy Covered By Insurance

When a mental health problem directly causes the need for couples counseling, an insurer may occasionally be forced to pay for couples therapy. For instance, if a person has a sex addiction or another disorder that impairs their marriage, certain insurance companies may pay for marital therapy. Even then, obtaining insurance protection might be challenging.

Couples therapy is not a requirement for plans. However, some do provide it as an extra benefit. Studying the plan documentation is crucial to understanding precisely what is and is not covered. You’ll often have to pick a supplier from a pre-approved list. A deductible may need to be met before coverage begins. Or you might need to submit a request for reimbursement rather than making a copay.

Employee assistance programs may pay a portion of the cost of couples therapy. This might occur when a severe problem like depression or addiction brings on the couple’s issues.

 

Cost of Couples Therapy Without Insurance 

Similar to individual therapy, the cost of couples counseling depends on the clinician’s experience, location, and education. Therapists who are well-known and regarded generally charge more. Residents in high-income or high-cost-of-living locations may anticipate paying higher rates.

Counseling couples may be difficult labor that calls for a specific set of abilities. Therapists must safeguard the welfare of both parties, constantly examine their prejudices, and rely on intricate research from several domains. Couples therapy is sometimes more expensive than solo treatment for this reason.

The expense of couples counseling without insurance can rapidly mount up as most teams visit their therapist every week. However, it is challenging to determine the total worth. Therapy can keep a marriage together and save the astronomical costs of divorce. Even if a couple decides to divorce, going through therapy might save money because it can improve their communication, making it simpler to divide assets and discuss child custody.

Most couples spend between $75 and $200 per hour without insurance. Some therapists provide discounts for purchasing numerous sessions or a sliding scale for income-based rates.

 

Why Choose Couples Therapy

Contrary to the persistent myth that couples therapy is only appropriate for partners whose relationships are struggling to survive, all couples can benefit from it. Working with a counselor may strengthen your relationship regardless of how deeply in love you are with your partner or how well you get along. People who are in unhappy relationships might also benefit from counseling. 

Understandably, money is a crucial factor when it comes to deciding whether you and your partner will try therapy or not. That said, the benefits it might have for your relationship are tremendous. In many cases with our clients, couples therapy saved their relationship or marriage. Having someone experienced in this field allows you and your partner to feel secure enough to share and discuss some of the most intimate points of your relationship. Not only that, a couples therapist will also guide you and provide you with valuable tools to use in your relationship. 

 

Here are the most common benefits of couples therapy for our clients:

  • Provides you with a deeper understanding of the relationship dynamic, 
  • Get a neutral party to listen to you and provide constructive feedback,
  • Have a safe space to speak your mind and hear your partner’s as well,
  • Learn more about your partner and their perspective,
  • Learn effective coping skills,
  • Rebuild trust,
  • Deepen the intimacy between you two,
  • Improve communication skills, etc. 

 

Couples therapy may be immensely beneficial if you want to improve or fix your relationship. You’ll be provided with the resources you need to establish solid, mutually beneficial relationships and communicate clearly.

 

Couples Therapy Goals

The reasons you choose to seek counseling in the first place will have a big impact on the objectives of couples therapy. During the initial sessions, you might collaborate with your counselor to create a list of goals. For instance, you could decide how to make a family or work on creating a budget with your partner.

Learning how to communicate better is a typical aim of couples counseling. For instance, you and your partner could work with a therapist to establish guidelines for communication or disagreements. Several other goals for couples counseling include:

  • Rebuilding affection,
  • Building respect,
  • Increasing intimacy, 
  • Restoring faith.

 

Conclusion

Regardless of your reason for seeking couples therapy, you should try it, as you will notice results even from your first session. To our clients, we suggest a mix of life coaching and therapy because it has proven to show quicker results. However, deciding the best option to strengthen your relationship is up to you. You can always check if your insurance covers couples therapy before paying for the first session yourself. 

That said, we cannot stress enough how much our clients have grown through couples therapy and how it has transformed their relationships. After all, talking to each other with someone else’s guidance and expertise allows you both to look at your relationship from a more palatable perspective. Working with a couples therapist, you will soon notice how you handle challenging situations more positively. Ultimately, you can split the couples therapy cost between you two if that’s the one thing that’s keeping you away from trying. Trust us, you will surely not regret it!

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.