Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

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Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

 

A sex and marriage therapist in training can help you with gender and LGBTQIA+ problems. If you have questions about your sexuality or gender identity, they can help.

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, and other orientations and gender identities may also experience stress and anxiety from minority status. Although your sexuality, romanticity, or gender identity may not cause distress, you may still feel stressed, anxious, or unheard. To better manage these issues and express your orientation or gender identity, seek therapy.

 

Issues LGBTQIA+ People Face

Despite growing mainstream acceptance of various sexual and romantic orientations and gender identities, LGBTQIA+ people still face persecution, discrimination, and marginalization. Managing prejudice and oppression, coming out to family, and finding an “authentic” self in the face of society’s expectations and demands can lead to depression, anxiety, drug use, and other mental health issues for those who are LGBTQIA+.

According to research, young people who identify as LGBTQIA+ are more likely to have suicidal thoughts and self-harm, especially if they encounter prejudice because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Discrimination includes social exclusion, verbal and physical abuse, and sexual assault. Consequent incidents can cause chronic stress and mental illness. Anticipating prejudice and discrimination can also lower mental health. In housing, jobs, education, and human rights, LGBTQIA+ people may face similar harassment and bias.

The LGBTQIA+ community also faces many of the same challenges as everyone else. Money, sex, in-laws, and quality time are common topics of conflict in relationships, and the same everyday stressors—mood swings, work worries, or poor self-esteem—affect everyone.

 

Gender Dysphoria 

Gender dysphoria occurs when your identity contradicts your birth sex. You may experience severe distress and physical discomfort as a result of this. Gender dysphoric people can change their gender identity.

There are numerous reasons why people with gender dysphoria seek therapy. However, these are common ones:

  • Anxiety and/or confusion over sexual orientation,
  • Couple in conflict over coming out,
  • Gender transition.

 

Therapy for the LGBTQIA+ Community

People who are members of the LFBTQIA+ community frequently face unique challenges, with specific sets of circumstances unique to the LGBTQIA+ community or, in many ways, far more prevalent than in the straight community. Since the legalization of homosexuality and other steps toward a more equitable and tolerant society, such as raising the legal consent age, allowing marriage, and recognizing non-binary status, culture and its views on the LGBTQ community have changed.

Many who come out fear rejection from friends and family and workplace discrimination. Even after coming out, those who are in the LGBTQIA+ community may face assault, bullying, and hate crimes. Any of these can cause stress, sadness, anxiety, identity issues, and low self-esteem.

Whether your issues are related to your sexual orientation, risky sexual behavior, difficult relationships, or any other aspect of being LGBTQIA+ and navigating modern life, counselors and therapists offer a private, judgment-free space to work through them.

If you are experiencing emotional stress due to your gender or sexual identity, therapy and counseling can greatly help. A therapist may provide methods for coping with your worries about coming out, techniques to cope with prejudice, and assistance with other issues experienced by members of the LGBTQIA+ community, such as relationships, marriage, and parenthood, in a private, safe, and non-judgmental environment. Additionally, you can discover new approaches to relating to yourself and others, as well as daily self-management skills.

 

Considering a LGTBQIA+ Therapist

Even though many therapists are capable of helping, LGBTQIA+ clients may feel more at ease with an LGBTQIA+ therapist or, at the very least, with a therapist who specializes in or has extensive expertise in LGBTQIA+ matters. These therapists are located in some towns. As more therapists and counselors offer phone or online services, a person’s search for the right therapist may expand. Gender confirmation patients often see a therapist before surgery. If available, consult a specialist.

Another great option is to reach out to a sex and marriage therapist who can guide you through the entire process. Keep in mind that all traumas, problems, or minor issues can be solved with quality therapy. You just need to take the first step!

 

Come see Griffin or Karissa today. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

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Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

 

Sex training is one of the best ways that therapists can enhance their intimate connection with themselves so that they can help their clients do the same. 

 This therapy is client-centered, trauma-informed, and intimacy-deepening. Sex training is specialized clinical training for consultants, life coaches, and therapists.

Sex training teaches you how to help your clients feel less trauma-related symptoms, more serenity, a better grasp of how to ask for what they want, and a greater sense of connection with others around them.

 

What is Sex Training?

Sexual therapy certification programs train specialists to help clients with sexual health issues. Although some healthcare training programs cover gender and sexuality, most do not prepare professionals to provide sex therapy. Sex therapy certification programs teach experts in other fields how to treat sexual health issues.

The majority of states require sex therapists to hold valid healthcare licenses to practice their profession. Sex therapists typically have backgrounds in a range of disciplines, such as marriage and family therapy (systems work), social work, psychology, urology, gynecology, and/or psychiatry. The American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), which offers a national certification process, is where most of those who are certified in sex therapy obtain their credentials. The top certification programs for sex therapy offer a direct path to a certification that is acknowledged at the local, state, or federal levels.

However, receiving sex training is what ensures that a therapist is knowledgeable about different approaches to helping their clients in the field of sexuality and intimacy. There are different training programs available across the United States, and finding the one that will provide you with key learnings and skills is crucial for your work success. 

 

Key Learnings in Sex Training

Programs for sex training are made to get you ready to use sex therapy in your practice. They adopt a sex-positive and inclusive stance and discuss issues including common therapies, strategies to rephrase language to be inclusive, and sex therapy diagnosis.

Some of the key learnings in sex training that therapists can expect to start applying in their work with clients are:

  • Identifying and diagnosing common concerns in sex therapy
  • How to apply different interventions, 
  • How to build trust with clients to discuss sexual concerns

Your comprehension of the intersections between the body, mind, emotions, culture, and identity will deepen as a result of the course. You’ll be able to assist patients in achieving their treatment objectives and staying true to their basic principles. Similar to this, you will be able to assist couples in overcoming the push-pull conflict cycle that frequently arises while working with multiple people simultaneously.

Sex training is intended for professionals interested in learning how to apply sex therapy to their clinical work as well as how to be more inclusive in their client interactions. Throughout this program, you will also discuss issues including usual diagnoses, the distinction between sex positivity and sex negativity, how to change the language to be more inclusive, normal sex therapy techniques, and more.

 

Becoming a Sex Therapist

There are five crucial steps to follow to become a sex therapist, yet if you are just getting started, it may take some time. The amount of time required for sex therapy training depends on your level of education and any credentials or certificates you have earned before enrolling in a particular program. Each state has its own standards for finishing your master’s degree, and they might be complicated and unclear.

Most sex therapists take this route to earn their degree and start working in the field:

  1. Obtain a master’s degree in counseling, psychiatry, clinical social work, marital and family therapy, or psychotherapy. Depending on the degree you choose to pursue, these degrees typically take two to seven years to complete.
  2. Meet all licensing standards; these criteria vary by state, so you’ll need to do your study based on where you live.
  3. While you are completing your supervised work experience, get a provisional license. Typically, the criteria call for between 1,500 and 4,000 hours.
  4. Pass the state’s licensing test.
  5. To finish your sex therapy training, finish an extra 60 supervised hours, finish an equivalent number of sexuality-related graduate school classes, or become a Certified Sex Therapist (CST).

 

Sex Therapy Session

As a sex therapist, you will pay attention to how your clients explain their issues and determine whether psychological, physical, or a combination of the two factors into the problem.

Every treatment session is private. Your clients are welcome to attend alone, yet if their issue also impacts their partner, it could be best for both of them to be present.

You’ll learn more about what’s going on and the reasons for it by talking about and investigating your client’s experiences. You might also assign them tasks to complete at their convenience

Typically, sessions last between 30 and 50 minutes. Your therapist might suggest weekly sessions or fewer regular visits, like once a month.

 

Sex Therapist vs. Sex Coach

You can also think about becoming a sex coach if you have a strong desire to help people improve their sex lives and relationships but feel unsure if the career path of a sex therapist is best for you.

Even though you will still require training, taking this specific course can help you finish it much more quickly and start work right away. There is a growing and strong demand for sex coaching.

As a therapist, you may want to enroll in a sex coaching school to help your clients with sexuality without going through the certification process. If you want a more hands-on experience, try somatic sex coaching or sex surrogacy. 

 

In Conclusion

Regardless of your career path, if you’re passionate about sexuality and learning ways to help your clients connect better with that part of themselves, you should take sex training. Learning from such programs is incredibly valuable to you as a professional and also to the relationship you are building with your clients. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

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Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

 

Have you ever watched a sex education video on your own initiative rather than at the request of your teacher or parents? How curious are you about sex? Just like you, many young people feel a bit overwhelmed with everything around sex, yet they are either too afraid, too proud, or too confused to decide to learn more about it.

Imagine if you were to learn how to drive a car from reading several social media posts or hearing gossip in high school. You might know how to start the engine or steer the wheel, yet being able to drive on the road without hurting yourself or anybody else requires more knowledge, skills, and practice. 

The same is true with sex; you need to educate yourself about all aspects of sex. From hygiene and feeling comfortable in your body to different sex techniques and orgasm types, you should be informed about it all before stepping into this experience. 

Although sex has become less taboo in recent years, many teens and young adults are still ashamed to seek answers to questions about sex. That’s why watching a few sex education videos or reading a blog or two might be just what you need to feel more confident and safe for your first time.

 

Why Sex Is Not Like Any Other Topic

It kind of is, yet your experience is telling you differently. You talk comfortably with your friends and family about your hobbies, the music you listen to, and your dream career, right? However, when it comes to sex, you start to feel uncomfortable and wish to switch to another topic. Sex was considered taboo in the past for a variety of social and religious reasons, yet learning about it on time helps young individuals like yourself, when they decide to have sex for the first time, practice it safely and not in ignorance. 

Sex is a private act, and if you don’t feel comfortable talking about it openly, you can educate yourself about it privately as well. It’s up to you when choosing how to learn about sex;, however, don’t ignore the power of education. Ignorance about sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), broken hearts, and different emotional issues. 

 

Learn Your Body First

Pleasure is the reason why people enjoy sex. You can reach sexual pleasure on your own or with another person; that’s completely up to you, yet you will need to learn what feels good and what doesn’t. The best way to do it is to study your body first. Masturbating is completely natural and the best way to get to know your body in a sexual way. 

Besides knowing how touching certain spots on your body makes you feel, you should also learn the names of body parts and what they do. For instance, do you know the difference between the vulva, vagina, and clitoris? This information can make your first sexual experience more enjoyable and help you not feel confused about sex.

 

Sex Requires Consent

Once you’ve covered all the details about your body parts and learned what you like and don’t like, there are quite a few things you’ll need to keep in mind for your first time. The most important one is consent. Because it involves another person, it is very important for you to communicate your intentions and get consent to have sex. 

If you or your partner starts feeling uncomfortable, in pain, or has simply changed their mind, make sure you respect them and stop right away. Also, you should know the name and age of your sex partner and avoid getting intimate with people you don’t know well enough. 

 

Before Your First Time

Once you’ve given and received consent and decided you’re ready for your first time, a few other things will need to be crossed off of your list. Consider how you wish to have your pubic hair. Maybe you want to have it completely shaved or waxed, or you want to leave it as it is. Also, think about the things you really didn’t like during the exploration of your body. You can even write them down on a piece of paper so you don’t forget them later. 

These things should be communicated to your sex partner before you engage in any type of sexual activity, as they will affect how you feel during sex and, often, after it. Once you’ve both expressed your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, be sure to have protection with you, whether it’s a preservative, contraceptive pills, or something else. Keep in mind that not all types of contraception protect you from both STIs and unwanted pregnancy. In fact, the only contraceptive method that will keep you safe from both is a preservative or condom. 

Another thing you need to know is that the first time is only that—the first time you are experiencing something new. Don’t feel bad if you feel awkward during sex;, that’s completely normal and expected. It will take some time until you start feeling more pleasure in sex and the discomfort and weirdness around sex completely disappear. By communicating with your partner, it will be easier to go through these mixed feelings because you will realize you are not alone in them.

 

Conclusion

There are a lot of things you need to learn about sex before engaging in sexual activity. However, the more you learn, the better you will feel about it. Knowing what to expect during sex and understanding what your body needs helps you have better control over a situation that is completely new to you. Not to mention that experiencing anything for the first time always brings a bit of confusion and fear.

Sex is a form of intimacy between partners, and it can bring you closer to each other, but only if it’s not rushed and done when you’re both ready. The only way you’ll know if you’re both ready for what you want is by talking to each other before anything actually happens. 

That way, you will assure the connection between you strengthens and your sexuality is nurtured in a healthy way. After all, you’ve got your entire life to explore everything around sex, so make sure you dedicate some time to learning about it first. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Free Couples Counseling: How To Make the Most Of It

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Free Couples Counseling: How To Make the Most Of It

 

If you think your relationship is going through some difficulties or would benefit from free couples counseling, find out how to maximize the value of this type of therapy. After all, different approaches and types of therapy help you decide what is the best solution for your relationship based on your unique situation.

That said, what is free couples counseling from Medicaid with LMFT-As, and can you expect it to save your relationship and bring you closer to your partner? Definitely! Even one session can be beneficial for couples if they prepare well, provide valuable information to their counselor, and apply what they learn to their romantic lives.

Before going into tips on how to make the most of your free couples counseling through interns, let’s take a look at what to expect when you and your partner visit your chosen therapist for the first time.

 

What Is Free Couples Counseling?

Free couples therapy is exactly like regular couples counseling, yet you will not have to pay for it. As we often misinterpret that what is given for free has no or little value, there are also certain misconceptions about free couples therapy. The biggest one is that people think that just because a therapist is doing their work for free, they will not put in any effort.

Many therapists practice this type of counseling to give back to the community in the best way they can, while others might do it to gain relevant experience and apply for the desired job. Regardless of their reason, you should discard the option of going to a couples counselor and strengthen your relationship.

This type of therapy is typically performed online, and you and your partner can talk to a therapist from the comfort of your home. This is a great option for people who don’t have a lot of time due to their responsibilities or feel uncomfortable sharing intimate thoughts and emotions in a new environment. 

 

Reasons to Seek Couples Counseling

Sometimes it may be difficult to find a professional therapist. Also, one partner may be unwilling to seek professional relationship counseling, even if it’s free. However, when they start talking to a therapist, they will discover that most therapists have a nonjudgmental perspective and can significantly improve the quality of your relationship. 

 

Whether the issue in your relationship is sex, a lack of communication, stress from work, or family responsibilities, couples counseling can help you eliminate the obstacles to your relationship’s happiness. 

  1. Couples counseling can strengthen your relationship.

Online therapy can help you get the mental health support you need, which will strengthen your relationship.  Free couples counseling is a cost-effective mental health service that helps people have more fulfilling relationships and, parallelly, work on themselves as well. Relationships take work, and finding a professional might alleviate some of that burden for you, as we often don’t know what’s the best way to do something or struggle to find common ground with our partners. 

  1. Couples counseling builds communication, intimacy, and trust.

Unresolved mental health problems may unintentionally affect a relationship if one or both partners are experiencing them. Also, each person is different, so finding a way to communicate efficiently is a challenge for most relationships. There is nothing unusual about that, and seeking couples counseling could help solve all these issues. Once both partners have the right tools to communicate, their intimacy and trust will be rebuilt and strengthened.

  1. Couples counseling helps you understand different phases of a relationship.

In love, our brains’ pleasure and desire chemicals do not stay as high. Hormone levels dropping may feel like depression or other mental health issues. Dealing with this is harder than it sounds, and not accepting the new phase of your relationship may cause new issues for you as a couple. With a couples therapist, you can enjoy this new phase and stay connected as your relationship changes (because it will).

 

Tips To Get The Best Of Free Couples Counseling

If you and your partner have decided to start couples counseling, there are ways to maximize its benefits. Together, you can find a therapist. This will give you a shared mission and let you talk about something important. Find a counselor you both like, as personal preference affects therapy results. 

Talk to your partner prior to the session and mutually decide on the topic you want to bring to your chosen therapist. This can save you time, as you’ll know which information you want to share with the therapist instead of going back and forth with your partner to determine what would be the best thing to talk about in your first session.

Also, talk to your partner if there is a need to connect to your free couples therapy from different rooms so you can both have the space you need to share. Connecting from one computer and sitting so close to each other might not be the best solution for one or even both partners. That said, keep in mind that joining the therapy from separate rooms doesn’t imply you are not on the same side. 

Once your session has ended, take a moment to reflect on everything that was just said. When you both feel ready, set aside some time for a conversation about what you could do with the information you just received. For instance, if your couples therapist advises you to make more romantic plans to strengthen your relationship, you can discuss possible date or travel ideas. 

 

Conclusion

Free couples counseling is an excellent way to improve your connection with your partner and to remember what truly matters to you both. Sometimes, responsibilities and lifestyle can get in the way of our relationships, and with the right therapist, you and your partner can fall in love again and enjoy all the little things you used to do together. Use these tips to find the best free or low-cost therapist for you and take the next step to a more fulfilled relationship. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

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Featured in The Knot – Sex Therapy

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Here’s What Actually Happens During Sex Therapy (Hint: No One Gets Naked)

Plus, where to find your own sex therapist | The Knot | by Dina Cheney

Whether it’s mismatched sex drives or one partner’s inability to orgasm, issues with sexual compatibility can leave you feeling frustrated and hopeless. Enter sex therapy—a specific type of talk therapy that focuses on sexual well-being and relationship satisfaction. Sounds intriguing, no?

To understand what sex therapy really is and how to find the right specialist, we spoke with three experts:

What Is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is essentially talk therapy, but with a focus on sexuality and relationships, explains Dr. Buehler. “It can help to treat sexual issues and problems in and out of the bedroom,” she says.

Sex therapy can be used to facilitate communication if you’re simply looking to take your sexual satisfaction to the next level, as well as help with issues that include:

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  • Low sexual desire
  • Mismatched sexual desire
  • Differing physical abilities
  • Sex after illness or cancer
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Consensual nonmonogamy

What Actually Happens in Sex Therapy?

First, the therapist takes a history to get a sense of the problem and how to best solve it, explains Dr. Buehler. Usually, the solution will take the form of education, suggestions of strategies to try, or—if the problem is long-standing—additional psychotherapy plus educational tips.

The psychotherapy piece involves exploring patients’ past emotions, relationships and core beliefs about themselves and the world around them. After all, according to Dr. Barbach, many sexual problems (such as lack of desire) are really relationship problems. “People come to work on the sex, but have to work on the relationship—so they’re feeling connected enough to work on the sex,” she says.

One of the most common issues, low sexual desire or drive, can often be remedied by focusing on self-care, says Dr. Buehler, who urges her patients to ensure they’re getting proper sleep, nutrition, exercise and stress management.

For couples to make progress between sessions, sex therapists will also often give homework assignments, like touching activities or gratitude practices, to report back on during their next appointment.

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How to Find a Sex Therapist

When looking for a licensed sex therapist, it’s important that your specialist has a background in psychology, stresses Dr. Buehler, since many physical sexual problems have a psychological aspect to them as well. This way, they can diagnose non-physical issues affecting sexual function, like trauma, depression and anxiety. Ideally, they should be certified by AASECT, the oldest and largest association for sex therapists.

Find a Sex Therapist Near You

To find a local specialist, Dr. Buehler recommends searching the directory on the AASECT site and inputting your zip code. You can also ask your OBYGN, urologist or primary care doctor for a referral.

Dr. Pasciucco also recommends reading online reviews, as well as exploring any professional social media the specialist may have. By looking specialists up on YouTube and reading their blogs, you can get a sense of their approach, she explains.

Online Sex Therapy

Many practitioners also offer their services virtually, so you and your partner can attend online sessions without leaving home. Just make sure to choose a sex therapist licensed to practice in your state, says Dr. Barbach.

Additionally, there are therapy services that exist solely online, such Talkspace and Regain. Both popular online treatment providers offer relationship-centered couples therapy, where you can discuss topics surrounding sex and intimacy. While price quotes vary, Talkspace typically charges around $110 a week for a 30-minute couples therapy video session, plus text and audio messaging with a licensed marriage and family therapist.

How to Get a Resistant Partner to Go for Sex Therapy

Unfortunately, couples tend to wait a while before seeking a sex therapist. “Things usually have to get very bad first,” says Dr. Barbach. To encourage a resistant partner, she suggests explaining that sex is very important to your relationship satisfaction, and that your issue is likely common and solvable.

If your partner is hesitant out of embarrassment, reassure them that therapy is completely confidential. Ultimately, sex therapy provides a safe space for you to grow and thrive as both sexual beings and as a couple.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Is Couples Therapy Covered by Insurance?

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Is Couples Therapy Covered by Insurance?

 

If you’re wondering ‘Is couples therapy covered by insurance?’, keep in mind that couples therapy is often not covered by insurance; however, there are always exceptions. Insurance companies must offer fair coverage for mental health illnesses following the Affordable Care Act, the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act, and other federal legislation. This requires them to cover mental health illnesses as equally as physical health conditions, not deny them coverage, and not impose higher co-pays on these conditions.

In most cases, insurance equity regulations do not apply to couples therapy. This is so because legislation promoting mental health parity treats mental health issues like medical diagnoses. Couples counseling is not comparable to a physical health condition because it is not a medical diagnosis.

 

When Is Couples Therapy Covered By Insurance

When a mental health problem directly causes the need for couples counseling, an insurer may occasionally be forced to pay for couples therapy. For instance, if a person has a sex addiction or another disorder that impairs their marriage, certain insurance companies may pay for marital therapy. Even then, obtaining insurance protection might be challenging.

Couples therapy is not a requirement for plans. However, some do provide it as an extra benefit. Studying the plan documentation is crucial to understanding precisely what is and is not covered. You’ll often have to pick a supplier from a pre-approved list. A deductible may need to be met before coverage begins. Or you might need to submit a request for reimbursement rather than making a copay.

Employee assistance programs may pay a portion of the cost of couples therapy. This might occur when a severe problem like depression or addiction brings on the couple’s issues.

 

Cost of Couples Therapy Without Insurance 

Similar to individual therapy, the cost of couples counseling depends on the clinician’s experience, location, and education. Therapists who are well-known and regarded generally charge more. Residents in high-income or high-cost-of-living locations may anticipate paying higher rates.

Counseling couples may be difficult labor that calls for a specific set of abilities. Therapists must safeguard the welfare of both parties, constantly examine their prejudices, and rely on intricate research from several domains. Couples therapy is sometimes more expensive than solo treatment for this reason.

The expense of couples counseling without insurance can rapidly mount up as most teams visit their therapist every week. However, it is challenging to determine the total worth. Therapy can keep a marriage together and save the astronomical costs of divorce. Even if a couple decides to divorce, going through therapy might save money because it can improve their communication, making it simpler to divide assets and discuss child custody.

Most couples spend between $75 and $200 per hour without insurance. Some therapists provide discounts for purchasing numerous sessions or a sliding scale for income-based rates.

 

Why Choose Couples Therapy

Contrary to the persistent myth that couples therapy is only appropriate for partners whose relationships are struggling to survive, all couples can benefit from it. Working with a counselor may strengthen your relationship regardless of how deeply in love you are with your partner or how well you get along. People who are in unhappy relationships might also benefit from counseling. 

Understandably, money is a crucial factor when it comes to deciding whether you and your partner will try therapy or not. That said, the benefits it might have for your relationship are tremendous. In many cases with our clients, couples therapy saved their relationship or marriage. Having someone experienced in this field allows you and your partner to feel secure enough to share and discuss some of the most intimate points of your relationship. Not only that, a couples therapist will also guide you and provide you with valuable tools to use in your relationship. 

 

Here are the most common benefits of couples therapy for our clients:

  • Provides you with a deeper understanding of the relationship dynamic, 
  • Get a neutral party to listen to you and provide constructive feedback,
  • Have a safe space to speak your mind and hear your partner’s as well,
  • Learn more about your partner and their perspective,
  • Learn effective coping skills,
  • Rebuild trust,
  • Deepen the intimacy between you two,
  • Improve communication skills, etc. 

 

Couples therapy may be immensely beneficial if you want to improve or fix your relationship. You’ll be provided with the resources you need to establish solid, mutually beneficial relationships and communicate clearly.

 

Couples Therapy Goals

The reasons you choose to seek counseling in the first place will have a big impact on the objectives of couples therapy. During the initial sessions, you might collaborate with your counselor to create a list of goals. For instance, you could decide how to make a family or work on creating a budget with your partner.

Learning how to communicate better is a typical aim of couples counseling. For instance, you and your partner could work with a therapist to establish guidelines for communication or disagreements. Several other goals for couples counseling include:

  • Rebuilding affection,
  • Building respect,
  • Increasing intimacy, 
  • Restoring faith.

 

Conclusion

Regardless of your reason for seeking couples therapy, you should try it, as you will notice results even from your first session. To our clients, we suggest a mix of life coaching and therapy because it has proven to show quicker results. However, deciding the best option to strengthen your relationship is up to you. You can always check if your insurance covers couples therapy before paying for the first session yourself. 

That said, we cannot stress enough how much our clients have grown through couples therapy and how it has transformed their relationships. After all, talking to each other with someone else’s guidance and expertise allows you both to look at your relationship from a more palatable perspective. Working with a couples therapist, you will soon notice how you handle challenging situations more positively. Ultimately, you can split the couples therapy cost between you two if that’s the one thing that’s keeping you away from trying. Trust us, you will surely not regret it!

 

Couples Counseling – Get Your Spark Back

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sex Positive Meaning Embracing a Liberating Perspective

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Sex Positive Meaning Embracing a Liberating Perspective

 

In a world that has often been shrouded in secrecy and shame, the sex positive meaning is often skewed. As a source of open communication, empowerment, and acceptance, we hope to shine brightly. As a trauma therapist and proponent of sexual well-being. We cordially invite you to explore the profound significance of sex positivity and its positive influence on our lives.

Adults seeking a more comprehensive and healthy perspective on sexuality can satisfy a variety of underlying needs by understanding the concept of sex positivity. The following are some fundamental needs that may prompt people to look into sex positivity:

 

The Meaning of Sex Positive

Sex positivity is a paradigm shift that challenges traditional sexuality norms and promotes inclusivity, respect, and empathy. Sexual positivity respects all sexual expressions, desires, orientations, and identities. It promotes open, nonjudgmental, shame-free sex conversations and encourages adults to be themselves.

 

  • Freedom from Shame and Guilt: Many people grew up in settings where sex-related conversations were fraught with shame and guilt. The need to comprehend sex positivity stems from the desire to let go of these unfavorable feelings and replace them with a sense of empowerment and self-acceptance.
  • Validation of Diverse Identities: People with diverse sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship dynamics frequently endure judgment and invalidation from society. They seek an understanding of sex positivity, which celebrates and embraces all identities and expressions, out of a need for acceptance and validation. 
  • Accurate Information: Confusion and anxiety can result from incomplete and incorrect sex education. People look to sex positivity as a source of trustworthy knowledge because they need accurate information about sexual health, anatomy, and practices.

 

Empowerment and Agency

Many people want to have a sense of agency over their physical needs, sexual desires, and intimate encounters. Individuals who have a better understanding of sex positivity are better able to make decisions, establish boundaries. And engage in sexual activities that are consistent with their values and preferences.

  • Overcoming Trauma and Shame: People who have suffered from sexual abuse or trauma frequently harbor deep-seated shame and emotional scars. By tearing down false narratives and empowering survivors to reclaim their bodies and sexuality on their own terms, the idea of sex positivity provides a path to healing.

 

Fundamentally, understanding sex positivity is about overcoming shame, seeking acceptance, fostering healthy relationships, getting access to accurate information, empowering oneself and others, recovering from trauma, accepting diversity, and fostering a positive self-image. Individuals can begin a transformative journey toward a more fulfilling and liberated perspective on sexuality by attending to these needs.

 

Debunking Myths

Escaping generations-old myths is crucial to sex positivity. Recognizing that sex is natural and beautiful is key. Encouraging self-education about bodies, desires, and healthy sexual practices helps people make informed choices and have fulfilling, consensual relationships.

 

Empowerment by Knowledge

As a trauma therapist, I know how misinformation and social taboos can affect a person’s mind. Providing accurate information, encouraging comprehensive sex education, and helping people understand their bodies empowers them. Therefore, when we equip ourselves with knowledge, we can navigate intimate encounters with confidence and agency.

 

Breaking Down Stigmas

Sex positivity also plays a crucial role in breaking down stigmas surrounding various sexual orientations, gender identities, and unconventional sexual practices. By acknowledging and embracing diversity, we create a more inclusive society where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. This can have a powerful healing effect, especially for those who have faced discrimination or shame due to their sexual preferences.

 

Consent and Boundaries

At the heart of sex positivity lies the cornerstone of consent and healthy boundaries. Embracing a sex-positive mindset involves prioritizing communication, mutual respect, and enthusiastic consent in all sexual interactions. By fostering open discussions about desires and limits, we create a safer environment for exploring our sexual selves while ensuring that everyone’s autonomy is honored.

 

Promoting Self-Love and Acceptance

Sex positivity isn’t just about external relationships; it’s also about cultivating a positive and healthy relationship with oneself. Embracing your body, desires, and fantasies without judgment or shame is an integral part of this journey. Our culture promotes fear, but self-love helps us approach intimate relationships authentically. 

 

Conclusion

In a world where judgment and shame have long overshadowed discussions about sexuality. The concept of sex positive meaning emerges as a guiding light toward a more enlightened and liberating path. By embracing the true meaning of sex positivity, we can dismantle harmful stigmas, foster healthy communication, and empower ourselves to lead fulfilling and authentic sexual lives. As a trauma therapist, I encourage you to explore this paradigm shift and embark on a journey toward a more compassionate and inclusive understanding of sexuality.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

 

Does Couples Therapy Work?

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Does Couples Therapy Work?

 

If you have ever wondered, ‘Does Couples Therapy Work?’, this article will answer this question and others about couples therapy. In most cases, couples therapy links partners with a therapist who can assist them in cooperatively resolving issues and difficulties while enhancing communication. Couples counseling may be done in person or online; you don’t have to be married to benefit from it. 

Results are frequently improved when both parties are ready to work hard to change for the better. The ability to set limits with friends, find a mental health professional with whom you feel at ease, be honest with oneself, and seek couples counseling or marital counseling before issues get out of hand are some additional elements to success. 

 

What Is Couples Therapy? 

Couples therapy often assists couples in addressing issues like excessive argumentation, growing apart, or coping with work-related stress that affects their relationship. While therapeutic strategies might be helpful, these difficulties and many more can be daunting. Couples counseling typically provides you and your spouse with the skills necessary to communicate effectively and handle the unique issues in your relationship.

You don’t necessarily need to have relationship issues to seek couples counseling. Acting now rather than when your marriage is falling apart may improve your outcome. If couples want to get closer, this treatment may help.

 

Benefits of Couples Therapy

Effective couples counseling may help you improve skills that support healthy relationships and help you and your spouse understand your relationship better. Communication, conflict resolution, listening, and relationship harmony and positivity are examples.

Couples who struggle to resolve conflicts and maintain their relationship benefit from couples therapy. Does couples therapy work? It depends on whether individuals are willing to learn to forgive, heal, and reconnect via sessions. 

Due to their inability to repair their hurt, many couples are stuck. For instance, one spouse might have been unfaithful while the other may still be inconsolable over the betrayal. Their partner must recover from adultery before forgiving the cheater. 

Effective communication is essential for every relationship to be successful and joyful. In a relationship, it’s necessary for both partners to feel heard and understood. Believing that your partner is not paying attention to you is upsetting. It’s easy to feel disregarded by a loved one, whether they stonewall you or don’t offer any indications that they comprehend your ideas and feelings. Couples can sharpen their communication and listening skills through marital counseling so that both spouses feel heard and understood. 

 

How Couples Therapy Works

Couples counseling does not involve blaming someone or pointing fingers, if there is one thing it does not involve. Instead, marital counseling gives couples the skills to speak honestly to one another and request what each partner requires for their relationship to be successful. 

Couples counseling encourages partners to talk about their current issues and consider any potential answers they may have to mend their marriage and halt the fighting. The counselor will steer the dialogue to concentrate on assisting the partners in effectively communicating any conflict or potential relationship cracks. The therapist won’t pick sides or incite conflict between the partners. Instead, they will assist the spouses in understanding one another and exploring and resolving their issues. 

A couples counselor will also assign tasks to clients outside of their therapy sessions, such as practicing empathetic behavior, effective communication, or constructive conflict resolution. Couples must work on their relationship outside of counseling sessions in order to modify ingrained negative behaviors that contributed to the initial decline of their relationship. 

 

Preparing for Couples Therapy

Avoiding the idea of couples therapy as “divorce counseling” or as a punishment your spouse must experience to demonstrate their love for you may be helpful. You should remember that you are the only one you can manage. Although you may not be able to pick your partner’s path or control their behavior, you may influence others, especially those with whom you have a strong relationship. Even in marriage counseling, concentrating on your ideas, attitudes, intentions, and behaviors may be the key to success. This might be a straightforward yet effective tactic to enhance the therapeutic process for troubled marriages.

People have a tendency to resist change. No matter how bad our reality is, we are usually more comfortable in the familiar. Truly, this might be one of the biggest obstacles when undergoing individual or couple treatment.

As was already established, for couples therapy to be successful, both spouses’ motivation is often needed. Therapy may require more receptivity from some partners. One spouse may agree to couples counseling to say they tried to save the relationship. Although these partners may not know what is expected if couples therapy works, significant change requires genuine dedication, intentionality, and action.

 

How to Make the Most of Your Couple’s Therapy

Before starting your first therapy session, consider your goals and the direction you’d like your relationship to take. It may be helpful to be willing to own your shortcomings and your part in the present situation and to be ready to put in the necessary personal effort to make your therapeutic efforts effective.

Having the support of your friends while establishing clear boundaries may help you deal with the issues brought up during your therapy sessions. However, your progress can be hampered if your friends consistently advise you to break up with your spouse rather than recognize your right to make your own choices.

Collaboration between you, your partner, and your therapist is typically necessary for therapy. Finding a therapist with whom you feel at ease is frequently beneficial. Also, be prepared to switch to another therapist if your present one is ineffective. 

 

In Final Words

It’s crucial to pick a therapist whose method you believe will work for your circumstances. You could opt to participate in emotion-focused treatment even though your family would benefit from solution-focused therapy. With this method, your therapist reorganizes interactions, reduces relationship discomfort, and enhances relationship function. Then, emotionally oriented treatment can strengthen the attachment relationship. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

 

Sex Ed Video vs. Sex Ed Class

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Sex Ed Video vs. Sex Ed Class

 

Learning about sex is possible through various tools, from a sex ed video to a sex ed public class or going to therapy and asking questions you’re curious about. However, not everyone will feel comfortable showing interest in these topics, especially teens, so having access to sex ed video material could be the most convenient way to learn about them. 

In this article, we’ll cover what sexual education is and how to learn about sex-related topics regardless of your age. After all, it’s never too late to learn a new thing or two about sex!

 

What is a Sex Ed Video?

Young individuals must make crucial choices regarding relationships, sexuality, and sexual activity as they mature. Their choices might have a long-term effect on their health and happiness. Meaning, young people have the right to lead healthy lives. It is the responsibility of society to equip them with the knowledge and skills necessary to make healthy decisions by providing them with comprehensive sexual health education. To assist young people in preventing unexpected pregnancy or illness, programs that include abstinence and contraception are not sufficient.

Sex education consists of excellent instruction and learning on a wide range of subjects connected to sex and sexuality. It examines values and ideas around those subjects. It also helps develop skills necessary for navigating relationships with oneself, others, and the community, as well as managing one’s sexual health. Sex education can happen in classrooms, at home, in public places, or online. 

 

Types of Sex Ed

Several types of sex education are available to those looking to learn more about them. That said, it will depend on your preferences, needs, age, and time available when deciding the best type to get the information you need. These are the sex ed types:

  • Comprehensive sex education: A holistic approach to sex education is what comprehensive sex education tries to deliver. A wide range of subjects are covered, including anatomy, puberty, contraception, STIs, and healthy relationships. 
  • Abstinence-only sex ed: The belief that abstinence from sexual activity is the sole method to prevent STIs and unintended pregnancies is promoted through abstinence-only sex education. This method has been proven not to work.
  • Gender-specific sex education: Boys and girls have different requirements; thus, gender-specific sexual health education is designed to address those needs. 
  • Culturally-specific sex ed: Culturally relevant sex education acknowledges that various cultures have diverse views on sex and sexuality.

 

Why Sex Ed Matters

The subjects covered in comprehensive sexual health education vary depending on the student’s grade level. It can help young people, in addition to parental and community support:

  • Prevent bad health effects by giving young people the self-defense skills they require through sex education.
  • Discusses sexuality and sexual health with others. People discuss their sexuality with parents, friends, and romantic partners. 
  • Recognizes the differences between good and bad relationships. Good relationships need skills that many young people are never taught, such as effective communication, dispute resolution, and negotiating choices around sexual activity.  
  • Comprehensive sexual health education teaches young people not just the fundamentals of puberty and development but also instills in them the belief that they have the right to choose the behaviors they engage in and to say no to unwelcome sexual activity. 
  • Good sex education teaches children what sexual violence is, why it is wrong, how to get help if faced with a violation, respect for others’ rights to bodily autonomy, etc.

 

Learning about Sex From the Comfort of Your Home

Whether you’re a parent looking for ways to educate your child about sex or a teen seeking to learn more about sex-related topics, talking about sex in a safe environment is key. Compared to public classes on sex education, learning from home allows you to ask questions or share concerns you probably wouldn’t share in a less private environment. 

Many parents may find it uncomfortable to bring up such topics with their kids. The most common reason is that they may not have had free discussions about delicate subjects when they were children. That is why sex ed videos can open a conversation and allow the young person to speak their mind without fear of being judged. 

 

Other Sex Ed Tips 

Also, talk to your kids about relationships and anatomy when they are young, using basic language suitable for their age. As they mature, you may provide them with more specific information. Instead of using “nicknames,” stick to the facts and the proper nomenclature for human anatomy. Even though it may seem less awkward and more child-appropriate to avoid using “adult” vocabulary, it is crucial to use the proper word for genitalia. It guarantees that kids can successfully interact with medical professionals if they have health problems, and it helps kids understand their bodies.

Ensure the materials you’re using to teach your kids about sex education are current and accurate. You can consult books, films, and internet resources or ask medical experts for advice.  It’s crucial to talk about values and attitudes related to sex and relationships, such as consent, respect, and good communication, in addition to presenting factual facts.

Encourage your kids to think critically so they can assess messages in the media, cultural expectations, and peer pressure surrounding sex and relationships. Encourage your kids to express their opinions and ask questions about sex and relationships. Make a place that is judgment-free and safe for honest dialogue. It’s crucial that kids feel comfortable asking questions about sex education, even though doing so might be awkward. 

 

Conclusion

By giving them the appropriate knowledge, attitudes, and abilities, comprehensive sexuality education equips young people to defend and promote their health, well-being, and dignity. It is a requirement for engaging in complete bodily autonomy, which calls for both the legal right to make decisions about one’s body and the knowledge necessary to do so in a meaningful manner. These programs also improve gender equality, young people’s rights, and empowerment since they are founded on human rights concepts. 

Lastly, sex ed may support wholesome relationships and deter sexual assault. Education on sex can help prevent sexual harassment and assault by teaching people about consent, limits, and respect for others.

 

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

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Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

 

Have you ever considered practicing yoga for better stamina? Well, there are many benefits you can enjoy from yoga, and improving stamina and sex is one of them. Reduced stress is surely the greatest advantage of yoga, which is great for bedroom activities as well. Practicing yoga regularly lowers cortisol levels, lowering stress levels in the body. In other words, if you are stressed, you will probably experience decreased sexual desire. 

This is why yoga is becoming a popular solution to improve sex quality among couples. To help you make the most of it, we’ve decided to gather all the relevant details about this trend!

 

Ways Yoga Benefits Your Life

Additionally, yoga may enhance overall sexual performance. Yoga teaches you how to calm your thoughts and pay attention to your body. Combining these two techniques will help you gain awareness of your likes and dislikes, enabling you to communicate with your spouse more effectively.

Regular yoga practice helps you become more mindful of the moment, which is crucial to improving your stamina. Yoga and sex improve your overall health—physically, mentally, and emotionally. The experience will be nicer for you both the more present you can be with your companion.

 

Yoga Poses for Better Stamina

Yoga is a great way to connect with your body and breath, which may help increase sexual longevity. It also improves flexibility, which might encourage you to try out new poses. As a result, regular yoga practice will leave you stronger and more toned, which can boost your self-assurance in your physical appearance.

 

  • Downward-Facing Dog

Stretching your muscles and improving blood flow to your body in the downward dog position can assist you in reducing stress. This stance will assist you in finding new, vivacious energy.

Keep your legs as straight as possible while putting your hands shoulder-width apart on the ground. Inhale deeply and keep your tailbone up as you place your hands on the mat.

 

  • Eagle Pose

Balancing in the eagle stance demands intense concentration. You’ll become more attentive and present if you carry this focus into the bedroom. Start by standing tall and lifting your left leg to perform this stance. As you lower yourself into a squatting position, hook it behind your right calf. Then parallelize your arms in front, hook your right arm underneath, and clasp your palms.

 

  • Frog Pose

Bhekasana, also known as the frog pose, can alleviate leftover tension in the groin region while boosting blood flow to the pelvic region. This region is essential for promoting arousal.

Start by bending your knees and pointing your feet outward. Start by pulling your hips back and opening up your legs. Your inner thighs will begin to strain severely. It’s a strong one, so you might unknowingly hold your breath. Hold for 1 minute, yet don’t forget to breathe. Too much? Put a folded blanket under your knees to modify it.

 

  • Water Hand Gesture

Deep meditation and orgasm both take place in the same brain state. You can get there by connecting with your water element. This element is associated with sexual expression and marma points, which are stimulation sites on the body related to everything from the health of your organs to the release of hormones. Yoga enhances all facets of sexual functioning, with the most noticeable results in women over 40.

Start by sitting up straight. With your hands on your knees, join your pinky finger and thumb. Make the connection between these points explicit. If your thoughts start to stray, gently bring them back while holding for one minute.

 

  • Bridge Pose

The bridge is a crucial posture to master for enhancing sexual function because it strengthens the pelvic floor and the core, activates the glutes, and increases blood flow to the pelvic area. The pelvic floor is capable of storing a lot of strain. Mindfulness techniques strengthen the area and allow more blood flow, enabling deeper orgasms and lubrication.

Kneel on the ground with your feet hip-width apart, near your glutes. Put your hands on the floor and lift your glutes while keeping your knees and ankles straight. To prevent stress from building up while you lift, keep your head and shoulders firmly planted. To lift higher, interlace your fingers beneath. For one minute, hold.

 

  • Happy Baby

Happy Baby is a powerful hip opener that promotes flexibility and emotional release. It activates your sacral chakra, the doorway to your pleasure and desire centers. Physically and emotionally, stress can make it difficult to have pleasant sex. Think about your neck or back muscles tensing under stress. Stress can cause the pelvic floor muscles to stiffen up as well, which can make intercourse unpleasant and, in extreme situations, cause vaginismus.

Lie on your back with your knees bent to perform this pose. With your knees slightly wider than your chest, grab the outside of your feet.

 

  • Shoulder Stand Pose

Lower body tension can be relieved with the shoulder stand. Additionally, it might increase blood flow to the pleasure center of the brain.

Lay on the ground with your knees bent to perform this pose. Put your hands out straight, palms facing the ground, on both sides. Using your hands to push through, extend your legs vertically to the ceiling. To support yourself and allow you to extend the stretch, place your hands behind your lower back.

 

  • Corpse Pose

‘Corpse pose’ is the yoga pose known as Savasana. The freedom and room to engage in sexual pleasure are available here. Breathing shallowly or holding your breath is typical, especially when an orgasm is about to occur. This may reduce the depth of the experience. Deep breathing induces relaxation, which heightens your perception of pleasure.

Close your eyes and lie on your back with your arms and legs at your sides. Turn your palms up, breathe gently, and remain for five minutes. As your thoughts wander, resist the need to judge; instead, practice acceptance.

 

The Final Words

While some yoga poses might enhance your stamina and sexual life, being less stressed is the benefit that everyone notices! This offers many advantages and allows you to unwind and enjoy sex!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Discover the Advantages of an AASECT Certified Provider

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Discover the Advantages of an AASECT Certified Provider

 

Sex and intimacy therapy is an important aspect of mental health and wellness. Yet it can be difficult to know where to turn for help. That’s why it’s so important to seek out a provider who is AASECT-certified. 

In this blog, we’ll explore the skill sets of these certified providers and what makes them the best choice for anyone seeking transformation and healing in the realm of intimacy and sexual health. AASECT Certified is a big deal when it comes to the accreditation board. AASECT certification is a way to prove that a person has enough knowledge and experience in the fields of sexuality education, counseling, and therapy to meet certain standards. 

Are you having trouble getting close to people or having sexual problems that are affecting your overall health? Seeking help from an AASECT certified provider can be a life-changing decision that helps you improve your sexual health and overall happiness.

Here are some common reasons someone seeks sex therapy: 

  • To overcome sexual dysfunction or discomfort
  • To improve communication and intimacy in their sexual relationship
  • To address past trauma related to sexual experiences
  • To explore and understand their own sexual desires and preferences
  • To address issues with sexual identity or orientation

It’s important to remember that reasons can vary, depending on things like culture and personal values. Furthermore, individuals and couples can talk to an AASECT-certified provider about these needs in a safe, non-judgmental, and private setting.

AASECT stands for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. To get this additional certification, professionals in their field had to meet certain requirements for education, training, and experience, as well as pass an exam to get a license in their field. This is over 90 hours of knowledge for therapists and 200 additional hours for clients. 

Most of the time, AASECT-certified professionals work with individuals, couples, groups of three or more. And families to solve a wide range of sexual and relationship problems. The variety of topics that AASECT Certified providers are experienced in includes. But is not limited to, sexual dysfunction, low sexual desire, sexual trauma, and LGBTQIA+-related lifestyles. 

They also work with clients to improve communication, intimacy, and romantic and sexual satisfaction in their relationships.

In the fields of sexuality education, counseling, and therapy, AASECT certification is a well-known standard. It shows that the professional has a high level of knowledge, skill, and expertise in this area.

If you are interested in learning more about AASECT certification, you can check it out on their website. 

 

The Power of AASECT Certification

The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) is a professional organization that sets the standards for best practices in the field of sexuality education and therapy. By becoming AASECT Certified, a provider has shown that they understand the complexities of human sexuality and are committed to ethical and  evidence-based practices.

This certification is not just a badge of honor; it’s a guarantee of quality. 

When you see an AASECT-certified provider, you can be confident that you’re working with someone who has the knowledge, skills, and experience needed to help you achieve your goals.

 

The Importance of Communication 💬

One of the most important skills of an AASECT-certified provider is the ability to help people talk to each other in an open and honest way. This is especially important in intimacy therapy, where the topic is often sensitive and hard to talk about. 

AASECT-certified providers are trained to create a safe and non-judgmental environment where you can feel comfortable talking about your feelings, experiences, and desires. They are also good at helping you figure out what you want and say it, and they can help you get past any problems that might be getting in the way of your sexual and intimate happiness.

 

Achieving Transformation through Sex Therapy

The main goal of intimacy therapy is to help you get over any trauma, problems, or other things that are stopping you from having a fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

AASECT-certified providers have the expertise and experience needed to help you achieve this transformation. They use evidence-based techniques and strategies to address a wide range of issues, from low sexual desire and performance anxiety to sexual pain and trauma recovery.

By working with an AASECT-certified provider, you can expect to see real, meaningful change in your life. Whether you’re seeking to improve your sexual relationships, better understand your own sexuality, or overcome a specific challenge, these certified providers have the skills and experience to help you get the results you’re looking for.

 

Taking the First Step

If you’re ready to take the first step on your journey towards sexual and intimate wellness, consider reaching out to an AASECT-certified sex therapist to understand what they have to offer you. 

With their expertise, compassion, and commitment to your success, they have the power to help you achieve the transformation you’re looking for.

If you’re looking for a provider, it’s important to choose someone who is AASECT-certified. This will ensure that you’re working with a qualified professional who has the necessary skills and experience to help you achieve your desired transformation.

In summary, an AASECT certified provider is a professional who has met strict standards of knowledge and experience in the fields of sexuality education, counseling, and therapy. 

They can help you deal with trauma, improve your sexual function, and make your relationships feel closer. If you’re struggling with intimacy issues or experiencing sexual difficulties, seeing an AASECT certified provider can be a life-changing decision that helps you improve your sexual health and overall happiness.

Ready to learn more on your own? Check out the video I made on AASECT certification here. 

Sign up for the IAM landing page to take our course in the future. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

 

Things Toxic Partners Say & What to Do About It

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Things Toxic Partners Say & What to Do About It

 

There are certain things toxic partners will say, and knowing them might help you react in a more beneficial way. That said, it’s important to distinguish being toxic from being assertive or struggling with other issues in your life. For instance, you are not toxic if you set healthy boundaries with your partner that make you feel safe, yet treating your partner miserable because they are not behaving how you expect them to would be considered a toxic behavior, especially if you’re doing it regularly. 

So, let’s look at things only a toxic partner would say and the best ways to react to each type of toxicity. Use them as red flags in your relationship. However, keep in mind that context plays a key role here, and comforting your partner can help you understand their reasons as well. 

 

What Is a Toxic Relationship?

When two partners injure one other in some way, whether by intention or not, the relationship is considered toxic. Sometimes, manipulative tactics or intentional abuse in a relationship leave one spouse feeling stuck or worn out. These behaviors were likely picked up throughout childhood or experienced as an adult, and no alternative behavioral expectations have been set.

When a relationship is toxic, it may take time and consideration for the parties involved to resolve their differences and foster greater trust. Others may only be that they are great people individually, yet poor match when together. Although both situations might happen simultaneously, it’s vital to distinguish between a toxic relationship and calling a spouse toxic.

Even while toxic relationships can take many various forms, some indications might include emotional manipulation, mutual contempt, or feeling alone even when you’re with someone. In this list, you will find signs of a potentially toxic relationship:

  • One person feels disrespected.
  • The needs are not met for one or both partners.
  • Communication is a challenge in your relationship.
  • One partner gives more than the other.
  • One partner feels resentment towards the other.
  • The self-esteem of one partner or both is deteriorating.
  • One partner feels stressed, frustrated, or scared around the other.
  • One partner takes responsibility for the happiness of the other. 
  • There is an excess of jealousy. 

 

Toxic Phrases Couples Should Avoid

There are certain things you can say to your romantic partner that will not benefit either of you. As something that requires trust and respect, your relationship needs nurturing words and behaviors to grow. 

If you wish to stay away from toxicity, the phrases that are mentioned below should not be used in your relationship.

 

  1. “You don’t deserve me.”

Contemptuous language tells your spouse that you think they are inferior to you. This can lower their self-esteem and interest in being intimate with you in any way. 

 

  1. “Everything is fine.”

Partners are prevented from directly and openly discussing their difficulties by passive-aggressive rhetoric. This makes it challenging to solve conflicted situations and may give both partners a sense of insecurity.

 

  1. “You’re stupid.” 

Name-calling reduces a person to a single negative trait. We should all treat one another as a person with various qualities. Whatever the reason, this will not produce anything positive in your relationship. There are other ways to communicate you disagree with how they say or do something, and name-calling is never a solution. 

 

  1. “I hate you.”

It’s harmful to use language that expresses your feelings at a tense, emotional time that doesn’t reflect how you feel overall. Even when you’re happy with your relationship, it overgeneralizes fleeting emotions and breeds insecurity. How can you say that you hate someone and expect them to believe you when you say you love them the next day?

 

  1. “I want to break up with you.”

Language like “I’m leaving,” “I’m done,” or “I want to break up” implies the end of your relationship can have a negative tool on both your partner and your relationship. If you feel like a flight risk, your partner could find it difficult to trust you, which restricts intimacy. Also, if you threaten to leave and then not leave, they will probably not be willing to talk to you about it anymore. 

 

A Path to a Healthier Communication

Communication is a skill. When communicating with another human being, you should always communicate in a way that benefits both of you. If you both are willing to change, there are ways to improve the relationship. By establishing sound limits and improving your self-awareness, you may manage these relationships more effectively.

 

  1. Have Long, Honest Conversations

Be honest and direct with your spouse about your feelings and responsibilities. Intimacy between spouses improves by having these discussions on time and dividing the workload. Pick a moment when you are both refreshed so that these talks can be meaningful and productive.

  1. Leave Past in the Past

You can’t go forward if you keep thinking about your past errors. The past is beyond our control, and dwelling on it will prevent us from being present. Spend some time processing the past so that you are not forced to think about it while you try to move your relationship ahead.

  1. Take Responsibility for Your Actions and Words

Accepting full responsibility for abusive behavior is a crucial factor in whether a toxic relationship can change. In unstable relationships, denial is a common trait, and in intervention programs, denial is the primary clinical problem. A person won’t change if they refuse to acknowledge that they have a problem. You both need to be completely honest and accept full responsibility for the hurt you are causing. More importantly, you have to work persistently for a significant amount of time to try and put things right for a relationship to recover. Promises or cheap apologies simply won’t cut it.

  1. Look at Your Partner with Compassion 

Despite how difficult it may be, we must remember that our partners are also people, and as such, they make errors and have had relationships before us. It’s critical to keep it in mind and understand their difficulties. It’s crucial to approach your partner with compassion because it enables you to perceive them as a real partner rather than as the enemy. When there is a disagreement, showing compassion can significantly improve communication and make a difference.

 

Final Words

Some people find that leaving unhealthy relationships is the best course of action. If your relationship affects your health and well-being, you must do something about it. When there is an abuse of any kind, it’s critical to understand to protect yourself. Seek the assistance of a therapist and create an escape strategy so you can depart securely. 

If you have tried couples therapy and believe you have shown patience and made changes and are still not happy, it may be time to leave the relationship. This can be a difficult thing to do and a difficult decision to make. It can take some time to accept the fact that certain people are just not compatible. Whatever your situation is, make sure you do the best for yourself!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Discover Trusted Intimacy Therapists Near Me 

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Discover Trusted Intimacy Therapists Near Me 

 

If you’re having difficulty in your personal life, seeking intimacy therapists near me is a good place to start to improve your overall well-being.

Relationships are hard, so intimacy therapists are popular despite the taboo. 

The special training that real intimacy counseling has will surely make you feel more comfortable than a regular couples therapist. 

It’s important to understand your motivation before you get to the counselor. In other words, the counselor will ask you what is happening with your life. Begin to take inventory. 

 

Start asking yourself questions like:

  • Are you having communication issues with friends?
  • Do you want to feel more connected to others?
  • Is there past trauma that is preventing you from experiencing inner peace?

When you know what you are looking for, you are better equipped to ask the right questions to the intimacy counseling center near you. 

Please note that therapists approach things in different ways. Meaning, some may focus on communication skills, while others may talk about deeper emotional and psychological issues. Some use parts theory and anchor core values, while others teach CBT and DBT skills. 

Whichever method they choose, be sure to ask them about their experience. Similarly, look for professional certifications and school programs. It will be difficult to find anyone who is a licensed therapist with specialized training in sexuality, trauma, intimacy, somatic work, tantra, couples / marriage, or systems therapy who takes insurance. 

All of these different specialties and the confidential nature of intimacy therapists near me make it difficult to disclose information. So, before choosing an intimacy therapist, look into their background and read reviews or testimonials from past clients. 

Because of its specialized nature, intimacy therapy is more expensive than regular therapy. Consider your overall intake of money and the price of transforming your problems into a life of peace and pleasure. 

Once you decide this is what you want, schedule an intake. This is the first session and the consultation to discuss your needs and goals. Evaluate their approach, experience, and communication style to see if you feel comfortable. If not, find someone else. 

We hope these tips have helped you find an intimacy therapist who meets your needs and goals. Remember that working with an intimacy therapist can improve your personal, relationship, pleasure, and connection well-being.

 

Come schedule your text intake today! 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Reignite the Spark: Effective Sex Therapy for Married Couples to Strengthen Your Relationship

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Reignite the Spark: Effective Sex Therapy for Married Couples to Strengthen Your Relationship

 

Are you thinking about starting sex therapy for married couples? Although you might think it’s not common, you should consider talking to a health specialist, and this time the treatment area would be your sexual life. Let’s be honest, sex plays a major role in a marriage, and ignoring related issues might lead to other serious issues, such as loss of intimacy and distancing. 

However, what precisely is sex therapy for married couples? If you haven’t tried it yourself, you’ve probably heard about it in your favorite TV show, movie, or on the Internet. This article will share everything there is to know about this type of therapy. 

 

What Is Sex Therapy?

Anyone who needs help overcoming or comprehending anything in their sex life should consider receiving sex therapy. Sex therapy can help you better understand your sexual needs, wants, and desires. By doing this, you’ll feel more comfortable talking to your spouse, who is also your sexual partner.

Sex therapy is a certain kind of psychotherapy. It expands talk therapy to address sexual issues like erectile dysfunction, arousal issues, communication issues with your partner during sexual activity, and more.

According to sex therapists, sexuality is a fundamental aspect of the human experience. They value sexual freedom of thought, action, and imagination. When treating sexual issues, sex therapists take a non-pathologizing stance. This suggests that any problems are dealt with as treatable conditions rather than fatal flaws. Sex therapy for married couples allows you the time and space to reflect on your desires to find a life of pleasure.

 

Why Married Couples Need Sex Therapy?

So many married couples have issues discussing sexuality. When considering or exploring sex, issues of guilt, self-judgment, and humiliation frequently come into play. People who suffer a lack of sex in their marriage sometimes feel pushed, unwanted, unneeded, ugly, and other negative emotions.  

Sex can become a challenging and unpleasant aspect of marriage if the issues are ignored. This often results in a couple that starts distancing themselves from each other, being less intimate with each other, and even communicating less about topics that are not related to sex. Instead of having fulfilling experiences, they start feeling resentment or indifference toward each other.

Simply put, a non-sexual marriage makes you unhappy as a couple. Couples who don’t prioritize developing and enhancing their sexual lives frequently feel that something is missing from their lives. It doesn’t matter if one feels they are doing enough, are good enough for their spouse, or are unattractive or unwanted. These are incredibly difficult emotions to suppress. These emotions frequently integrate deeply into the couple’s interaction. 

Couples in a sexual relationship are more likely to be jovial and pleasant in all aspects of their lives. There is a sense of lightness when sex is discussed, which is pleasant for both people. Other areas of their lives also reflect this lightness. Things are now taken less personally, and communication skills have improved. They have a higher propensity for flirting with one another. As a result, people take things less seriously and are more adaptable in everyday situations. 

A man’s ability to satisfy his spouse sexually plays a significant role in who he is. The reality is that a man who experiences rejection repeatedly often feels this in a very profound way. They are not meeting their partner’s needs, which may make them feel inadequate. All aspects of marriage can undoubtedly be impacted by feelings of inferiority or inadequacy. Along with other areas of his life. 

 

What to Expect from Your First Sex Therapy Session?

Sessions for sex therapy vary widely from person to person and couple to couple. They rely on the challenges and problems you wish to resolve as a couple. You typically begin each session by outlining your and your spouse’s sexual and romantic parts in detail. This helps your therapist comprehend your marriage, how you both see sex in your relationship, and what you wish to improve.

The most important thing in therapy is to be honest; therefore, don’t be shy. Talking about sex can be challenging, yet therapy is a private, secure environment where you can freely express yourself without fear of judgment. Don’t worry if you initially struggle to put things into words; as you progress through sex therapy, you will learn how to do so as well.

You will then discuss your motivation for attending sex therapy. Then you might begin discussing your objectives with the therapist. During the entire process, it is crucial that you are respectful of your partner and the perspective they share with the therapist to make progress. 

Your therapist could discuss your sexual desires, fears, obstacles, fantasies, and goals. These are just some of the questions you can expect to hear from your sex therapist:

  • Is sex important for you at the moment, and how?
  • Are there things preventing you from curiously and confidently experimenting with sex?
  • Is there something your spouse can do to make you more comfortable when having sex? 
  • What difficulties do you now confront in your sexual life?

Your therapist will assist you in beginning to move in the correct direction once they have a clear understanding of where you are and where you want to go.

 

In Final Words

Make sure the therapist makes you feel secure throughout your first appointment. How do you feel when they are talking, or when you are talking to them? Do they respond to your questions, even when you’re unsure how to phrase them? Any therapist you plan to speak with about your most private and sensitive experiences must establish a solid therapeutic environment for both you and your spouse to feel confident in rebuilding sexual connection and intimacy.

However, that path is not that clear if you’re taking it without the help of an expert, such as a sex therapist for married couples. Having someone to guide you while you reconnect with your partner and find the best way to enjoy your sexual life is essential. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Regain Your Passion: Expert Natural Solutions for Low Libido

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Regain Your Passion: Expert Natural Solutions for Low Libido

 

When one has a low libido, it means their sexual desire has been reduced. It is frequent and may be short- or long-term. Naturally, libido differs from person to person and might change throughout the course of your life. However, if a decline in your libido is upsetting you, you should consult a professional to get the help you need and continue enjoying your sex life like you used to.

 

What Is Libido?

Libido, or the urge for sexual activity, is a word that is frequently used to describe sexual drive. In terms of sexuality, sexual health refers to a condition of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being. Furthermore, contemporary medical professionals understand the significance of libido as one of the most important markers of overall health and quality of life.

Psychiatrists and psychoanalysts have used the term “libido” in their work throughout history to refer to various concepts. These include Carl Jung, who defined libido as psychic energy, and Freud, who included it on one side of his innate dualism. These broad concepts are rarely employed in modern times, and when discussing libido, we tend to focus largely on sexual drive.

The genesis of libido was formerly thought to be biological. Today, many developmental, psychological, and cultural variables impact desire. Natural selection is acknowledged as a key factor in Darwinian evolution, driving organisms to reproduce and pass on their genetic makeup to the next generation.

What Is Low Libido?

Reducing the frequency and/or intensity of your previous sexual desire is known as low libido (low sex drive). It could be short-term or ongoing.

Your libido, which encompasses having sex with a partner and masturbating, is your total sexual drive or desire for sexual activity. Complex biological, psychological, and social elements all influence libido. Sexual hormones like testosterone and estrogen, as well as neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin, control desire biologically.

Naturally, libido differs greatly from person to person. Your sexual desire may alter during the course of your life. There is no ideal or undesirable libido level. Some people desire or have sex daily, while others may only desire sex sometimes. Your choices and circumstances will determine what libido is “right” or “normal” for you.

However, it’s crucial to speak with a medical practitioner or mental health expert if a decline in libido is upsetting you. These are factors you will need to consider when talking about low libido:

  • Issues in your relationship,
  • Medical issues,
  • Hormonal imbalances,
  • Mental health issues,
  • Certain medications,
  • Stressful situations and experiences, 
  • Aging.

 

Low Libido Symptoms

A drop in sexual desire compared to your usual interest in sex is the primary sign of low libido. Other symptoms include:

  • having no interest in sex of any kind or a decline in interest in sex, including masturbation.
  • a decline in sex-related thoughts or desires.
  • feeling depressed or dissatisfied over having a weak desire for sex.

Even though your differences may be upsetting, neither of you is particularly out of the ordinary for people in your stage of life if you desire to have sex less frequently than your spouse does.

Similarly, even though your sex urge has decreased, your relationship could be better than ever. In conclusion, there is no definitive threshold for reduced sexual drive. From person to person, it differs.

 

What Causes Low Libido?

There are various biological, psychological, and social causes of low libido.

Any person may have a decline in sex desire due to any number of health issues, including yet not limited to:

  • Headaches,
  • Cancer,
  • Diabetes,
  • Chronic kidney disease.
  • Chronic pain,
  • Heart diseases,
  • High blood pressure,
  • Rheumatoid arthritis, etc.

There are psychological and societal variables that might cause anyone’s sexual desire to drop. One of the most frequent reasons for a drop in sexual desire is relationship concerns, such as challenges with intimacy, communication, or trust. Over the course of a relationship, a couple’s desire for sex frequently diminishes.

Stress, whether from work, family, or life in general, can lessen your desire for sex by diverting your attention from it. Stress that is ongoing may have an impact on your hormone levels, which will lower your libido.

Your libido may decline if you have poor self-esteem, experience despondency, or feel physically worn out. In addition, depression leads to an imbalance in the neurotransmitters that control desire. The “stress hormone,” cortisol, can become more active due to anxiety. Cortisol levels that are too high might reduce the sex hormones that affect your sexual drive. Additionally, there are a number of ailments and circumstances that impact libido that apply to those assigned female at birth and those assigned male at birth.

 

Low Libido Treatment

A healthcare practitioner will inquire about your: Due to the fact that there are various potential explanations for a reduction in sex desire:

  • Your symptoms,
  • Medical background,
  • History of medications,
  • Sexual background,
  • Relationships,
  • Tension level,
  • Sexual thoughts, 

The following tests may be performed or requested if a doctor suspects that a medical problem may be the reason for a decreased libido and wants to help identify the condition’s cause:

  • Examination of your body,
  • Pelvis examination,
  • Hormone levels,
  • Image-based exams.

 

The reason for low libido (low sex desire) determines the course of treatment. There are several therapy possibilities.

You may be able to get over your concerns about sexual function by learning more about sex, sexual activities, and sexual reactions. Many obstacles to a good sexual life may be solved by having a direct and honest conversation with your spouse about your wants and worries.

Utilizing strategies to enhance how you react to challenges in your life is known as stress management. These methods can stop or lessen the effects of stress, including reduced libido. Journaling, exercise, meditation, and other types of self-care may all be used to relieve stress.

Hormone treatment (HT) increases hormone levels while easing some menopausal symptoms, such as reduced libido. Estrogen treatment and estrogen-progesterone/progestin hormone therapy (EPT) are the two primary kinds of HT. Healthcare professionals use TRT to treat male hypogonadism, or low testosterone. There are several variations of testosterone replacement treatment, including tablets, creams, injections, and patches.

 

In Final Words

Consult a medical practitioner or mental health expert if you’re having problems in your relationship or are going through emotional discomfort as a result of a decline in libido.

They may offer advice on how to improve relationships and ways of life. They can offer medicine if an underlying medical issue is a problem. Talk to your doctor about modifying the drug or attempting an alternative if you’re concerned about how a medicine may affect your sexual desire.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.