Female Orgasmic Disorder: What Every Woman Needs to Know

Female Orgasmic Disorder: What Every Woman Needs to Know

 

If you haven’t yet heard about the phrase “female orgasmic disorder,” you will probably want to read this article and maybe even send it over to your female friends. Every woman responds to stimulation differently, both in terms of intensity and type. Most women can reach orgasm when their clitoris is stimulated, yet not all of them will orgasm during sexual intercourse. If we consider that some women never even reach orgasm, many questions need to be answered to help women enjoy sex more and have frequent orgasms. 

Many women with orgasmic disorder can’t have an orgasm at all, not even when they’re masturbating or very excited. But if a woman doesn’t have an orgasm because she isn’t stimulated enough, this is called an arousal disorder, not an orgasmic disorder. It’s usually only a problem when the woman is upset about not being able to orgasm. 

What Is Female Orgasmic Disorder?

Several factors can cause female orgasmic disorder. If a woman cannot orgasm, her orgasms take way too long to happen, she orgasms less frequently than you’d prefer, her orgasms are not as intense, or she feels anxious or depressed about orgasms, all of these can be causes for a female orgasmic disorder. Still, if you only have one or two of these problems, it can be called an orgasmic dysfunction instead of an orgasmic disorder. Both are more common than you think, yet luckily, it is possible to treat them and continue enjoying sex as you have before.

As was already said, our orgasms are affected by many things, including our physical health, emotions, hormones, experiences, beliefs, relationships, and way of life. If you experience issues with any of these things, you might have issues with having an orgasm as well. 

What Causes a Female Orgasmic Disorder?

Remember that the factors that cause orgasmic disorder vary from woman to woman. Remember that the factors that cause orgasmic disorder vary from woman to woman. Also, someone might experience only one factor from this list, while another might experience several. 

This is a comprehensive list of all possible causes of orgasmic disorder.

  • Anxiety,
  • Depression, 
  • Stress,
  • Tiredness,
  • Issues with the nerves or blood flow in your genitals,
  • Issues with your sexual or romantic partner,
  • Concerns about your body image,
  • Reduced amounts of sex hormones,
  • Medications (e.g., blood pressure medications, antidepressants, chemotherapy, etc.)
  • Medical problems (e.g., such as bladder issues, diabetes, heart issues, multiple sclerosis, or cancer),
  • Menopause,
  • Pregnancy,
  • Past sexual assault or trauma.

Types of Orgasmic Disorders

The inability to reach sexual climax is the primary sign of orgasmic disorder. When talking about orgasmic disorders, four different kinds exist:

  1. Primary anorgasmia: The inability to experience an orgasm.
  2. Secondary anorgasmia: The inability to orgasm despite having previously had one.
  3. Situational anorexia: This form of orgasmic dysfunction is the most prevalent. It occurs when you can only orgasm in particular circumstances (e.g., during masturbation or oral sex).
  4. General anorgasmia: An inability to experience orgasm at any time, even when you’ve had enough sexual stimulation and are extremely aroused.

How to Treat Female Orgasmic Disorder?

 

You can make an appointment with your doctor if you think that you have an orgasmic disorder. Your doctor can identify and offer an appropriate course of action. After all, the best way to make sure you can once again thoroughly enjoy sexual activity is to talk about it. 

Your doctor may do a physical examination and ask about your sexual history. Meaning, a gynecologist can then recommend suitable options to treat your orgasmic disorder. 

Orgasm disorder can be treated in various ways, and the cause of the issue will determine how it is treated. You will not have to look for the best treatment, as your doctor or a sexual health therapist can guide you and provide helpful information. When talking to a doctor or therapist, you will be asked about your health and any potential issues mentioned above. These questions can also be about your sex life; however, don’t feel awkward, as they are genuinely interested in helping treat the orgasm disorder.  

Your doctor may also do a physical exam and take blood and urine from you to check for any health problems.

Options for treatment include:

  • Breathing techniques
  • Communicating about fantasies
  • Using sex toys
  • Using moisturizers or lubricants 
  • Elevating your mood through different techniques (e.g., breathing exercises and meditation)
  • Limiting alcohol intake and abstaining from drugs, and smoking
  • Regular exercise and being active
  • Pelvic floor physical treatment 
  • Talking to a sex or relationship therapist 

If you’re in menopause, your doctor might advise inserting a ring, cream, or pill called estrogen in your vagina. This may increase blood flow and moisture by strengthening and stretching the vagina’s muscles.

In Final Words

Being unable to orgasm can be quite frustrating and could affect your relationship. With the proper care, you might be able to start enjoying your orgasms again. It’s critical to understand that you are not alone. Orgasmic disorders affect a lot of women at some point in their lives.

If you suffer from it, counseling may be very beneficial. How you see sexual activity is discussed in individual or couple therapy. By going to therapy together, you and your partner can learn more about each other’s sexual wants and needs. It will also deal with any problems with other people or general stress that are making it hard for you to orgasm. You could return to enjoying your sexual life anytime soon if you take care of these underlying issues.

That said, orgasmic disorder can result from physical issues, so it’s important to talk to your therapist and doctor to get proper treatment. 

 

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Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

 

Sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction (commonly known as “ED”) is a form of psychotherapy that helps men (and their partners) address the psychological and emotional factors that are contributing to the ED. 

This type of sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction can include individual therapy or couples counseling and may involve a variety of techniques. 

Additionally, it is important to consider the psychological and emotional impact of ED on individuals and their partners. This can include feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem, which can impact the individual’s quality of life and relationship satisfaction. In these cases, it may be helpful to seek out counseling or therapy to address these underlying emotional issues.

A sexual therapist for erectile dysfunction can help the couple to identify any emotional or relationship issues that may be contributing to the ED, including yet not limited to cultural context, sexual orientation, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or unresolved conflicts. If you can’t get into the mood because you are stressed out, sex therapy may help you. 

 

Be mindful that the type of ED concerns you have can vary, yet sex therapy can help a variety of guys. Do you struggle with self-doubt, anxiety, and insecurity in the bedroom? If you cannot keep it up during a steamy session, it makes sense that you would want more support.

 

Some people come to sex therapy because their partners have incredibly high expectations, which can cause performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you are constantly worrying about your partner’s satisfaction only, you aren’t going to have successful intimate moments in partnered sex.

 

Finally, some people have sex therapy and ED concerns because of past trauma. Feeling triggered during an intimate event is something that many don’t want to experience. Therefore, they seek out sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction.

 

The main reasons someone may come to sex therapy, other than erectile dysfunction: 

  • To address issues with sexual identity or orientation: 🏳️‍🌈
  • To overcome sexual dysfunction or discomfort: 🤕
  • To improve communication and intimacy in their sexual relationship: 💬
  • To explore and understand their own sexual desires and preferences: 🧐
  • To address past trauma related to sexual experiences: 💔

 

A therapist can also teach the couple communication and intimacy skills to improve their sexual relationship.

It’s important to note that sexual therapy is used in conjunction with other treatments for ED such as tantra, kink, somatic experiences, or sensate focus techniques. 

 

Therapists skillset and client needs can vary greatly from person to person and is influenced by a range of factors such as culture, religion, and personal values. A qualified sex therapist can help individuals and couples address these needs in a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential environment.

Seeking professional help as soon as possible can help you understand the underlying cause of ED and get the appropriate care.

 

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Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌 Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

 Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

People often ask can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I am here to tell you that erectile dysfunction can be cured and treated successfully.

The specific treatment that is most appropriate for an individual is dependent on the underlying cause of their erectile dysfunction (ED). 

In many cases, ED can be improved with lifestyle changes, such as cardio exercise, balanced eating – no fatty foods that affect cholesterol and quitting smoking. 

Making lifestyle changes is not easy, yet it is one way to answer: can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

Please, consult with a healthcare provider to determine the best treatment plan for you. 

For some, medications [sildenafil – Viagra, vardenafil – Levitra, and tadalafil – Cialis] are effective in treating ED. Yet, for others this is not a possibility. Learn the best way to manage your ED by learning what is happening in your body. 

 

Get comfortable with touching your skin, the largest organ full of sensation so that you can awaken a full-body type of orgasmic experience.

Yet in other cases, erectile dysfunction cannot be cured, because it is a more serious underlying condition. 

 

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Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Solutions for Valentine’s Day

Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Solutions for Valentine’s Day

 

Erectile dysfunction and Valentine’s Day can be a hard problem. Valentine’s Day – celebrated on February 14th – is dedicated to expressing love and affection to those that are important to us. 

Today, we are going to talk about things to do instead of focusing on your erectile dysfunction for Valentine’s day.  

Here are a few ideas for Valentine’s Day to do instead of having sex, 

  1. Valentines Crafts: Provide some ideas to your partner for DIY Valentines, such as homemade wreaths and decor for the home. Erotic energy is also creative energy!
  2. Read traditions: What are the origins of Valentine’s Day customs around the world! Some people really enjoy the story and this is such a great distraction from erectile dysfunction on the holiday. 
  3. Gift ideas: Share some thoughtful gift ideas with your significant other, such as massage coupons, a romantic getaway, or a special piece of art you make together.
  4. Date night ideas: Offer suggestions for unique date night ideas, such as a cooking class, a cheese tasting, or an escape room. Don’t focus on intimacy. 

Remember to keep your partner in mind while you customize your plans for Valentine’s Day to be relevant and interesting. Also… keep in mind that Valentine’s Day is not the only day to be gracious and caring for your partner. In long-lasting relationships that have high levels of sexual satisfaction, these individuals report celebrating their love daily.

How to Prevent Erectile Dysfunction? 

There are things to do to work on your erectile dysfunction, yet wait until Valentine’s Day and the pressure is over. 

Making small, long-lasting adjustments is an integral part of enhancing general health.

To reduce your risk of ED, consider the following:

  • Medical condition management,
  • Reduce stress,
  • Exercise about 4x/week,
  • Keep your weight where you feel most comfortable, 
  • Eat balanced meals (not just fatty foods)
  • Seek help if experiencing anxiety or depression,
  • Stop drinking and smoking! 

In Conclusion 

Sometimes it’s hard to be honest about your struggles with erectile disorders. 

However, seeing a doctor is essential if you cannot get or maintain an erection. Your symptoms might not be related to ED yet a medical thing! Your doctor can do several procedures to rule out or confirm the presence of any of other disorders.

Although dealing with ED symptoms can be unpleasant and even shameful, numerous services are available to help. 

All adults have the right to enjoy sex, and a few bumps on the road doesn’t mean your penis is broken. It happens to more men than you think and there is a solution for most cases. 

Sometimes, if you are struggling with ED, you are putting so much pressure on your penis. 

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

Although most couples in our culture are monogamous, consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is on the rise. Monogamy means that once you are engaged, you do not have romantic or sexual interactions with anyone else. Yet, we know that around one-fifth of the population engages in non-monogamous relationships at some time in their life.

Consensual non-monogamy can be practiced in various ways; one of the most important is an honest and open dialogue between partners. Partnerships that aren’t monogamous yet are morally acceptable include polyamory, open relationships, and swinging.


Let’s take a closer look at consensual non monogamy, its types, and how to start practicing CNM. 

What is Consensual Non-Monogamy? 

The phrase “consensual non monogamy” is an umbrella term, meaning its broad definition encompasses various individual connection types. A relationship may exhibit consensual non-monogamy, or CNM, in multiple ways, from entailing simply romantic relationships to purely sexual relationships, or both romantic and sexual. One person may behave outside the boundaries of the partnership or even both parties.

The fact that both partners agree to whatever kind of consensual non-monogamy is used in the partnership distinguishes it from infidelity. The partner does not agree to cheat. Because you and your partner have already decided to practice non-monogamy, CNM is not considered cheating.

There are numerous good reasons to prefer a non-monogamous relationship structure, including:

  • Being able to explore sexuality,
  • Understanding that one relationship doesn’t satisfy all your needs,
  • You want to give love and affection to more than one person. 

Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

Everyone spends a certain amount of time dating before settling down with “the one.” Meeting the one you’re meant to be with at a young age is a rarity, yet it does happen. So many people have to keep looking before they meet someone they click with. Some people may keep dating even after discovering someone they can settle down with.

Everyone participating in a non-monogamous relationship must agree to its structure to be considered consensual. One of the most common misunderstandings about non-monogamy is that cheating on a spouse or partner is a license. Consensual non-monogamy, on the other hand, is fundamentally distinct from cheating because of its emphasis on consent, openness, and honesty. Contrarily, cheating is a severe breach of trust.

How to Practice CNM

Consensual non-monogamy, like any other relationship, thrives based on mutual understanding, respect, and trust. Everyone should know what they’re getting into and provide their complete, informed permission before entering into a relationship. Practicing CNM is similar to being in any relationship, except for setting initial boundaries, expectations, and wants.

These tips might make it easier for you to maintain fulfilled relationship(s):

  • The two of you have settled on a list of dos and don’ts for your relationship.
  • Transparency is essential.
  • Have respect for your partners’ emotions and talk about them.
  • A primary partner is possible in CNM if you want one. 
  • Non-hierarchical connections are an option to consider. 
  • Expect highs and lows, just like in any relationship you have had. 
  • Jealousy is completely normal, and it’s okay to feel it. 

Consensual Non-Monogamy Examples

It doesn’t work to generalize consensual non-monogamous relationships. Different types of relationships range from  romantic to sexual to platonic feelings between partners. Let’s go through some of the most common types of CNM relationships that I see below.

Polyamory

The idea of love is vital to polyamory, yet instead of being limited to a single partner, it is shared in many forms among many individuals. Friendships might be seen as polyamorous since we often cultivate close bonds with several people at once. Persons who practice polyamory are like those with more than one relationship because they satisfy their emotional demands in this way. Polyamory is not exclusively practiced by any one sexual orientation, although bisexuals and heteroflexibles seem to embrace it the most.

Hierarchy in Polyamory: the Primary/Secondary Model

Primary and secondary exclusive non-monogamous relationships vary primarily because both partners can have sexual and/or emotional connections with others. The passionate commitment to the principal partner in a non-monogamous relationship is equivalent to that to the only partner in a monogamous relationship.

Individuals in CNM relationships tend to be satisfied inside the partnership, yet research has shown that a deep bond with one primary partner might diminish happiness in secondary relationships.

Closed V

Picture three persons, one on each of the letter V’s vertical sides. The other persons in the V are only linked to the person at the bottom. As a result, a closed V involves a single individual having love ties to two others who are not linked.

Throuple/Quad

A throuple or quad consists of three persons, or four people in the case of a quadruple, who are romantically or sexually associated with one another, as opposed to the closed V, in which only one person is romantically involved with two others.

Monogamish

These hybrid monogamous/polyamorous couples share characteristics of both types of relationships. It often works because, at some point in time, one or both parties will decide to introduce a third party into the relationship. In most cases, this is done to gratify sexual desires rather than form meaningful bonds with others.

Because of this, firmly attached persons are more likely to have a sense of emotional safety and contentment in their closest personal connections. They may relax in a relationship or be independent if they choose.

Swingers

Whether single or in a committed relationship, you may participate in swinging, also known as wife-swapping, husband-swapping, or partner-swapping. Swinging is an open, non-monogamous relationship. Reasons vary for why people decide to adopt a swinging lifestyle. According to proponents, both the quality and amount of sexual activity improve. Swinging is a form of sexual experimentation that may appeal to those bored with or seeking variation in their sexual life. Swinging is seen as a positive way to release stress and enhance bonds by some couples.

Kinksters

A kinkster is someone who engages in sexual behavior that deviates from the conventions of their society. It’s derived from the word “kink,” which in the context of sex means any sexual activity other than “norm” of heterosexual, cisgender missionary with the goal of having children.

People who prefer BDSM and those who engage in polyamory are most likely to identify as kinksters, yet it may be extended far more broadly to persons with fetishes and other wants (e.g., pet play, role play, leather, etc.).

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Kink Ideas You Will Want to Apply In Your Everyday Life

Kink Ideas You Will Want to Apply In Your Everyday Life

 

Many couples often fantasize about spicing things up in the bedroom or outside of it, yet they feel clueless when looking for kink ideas. What is kink? How kinky should you and your partner be? These are all the questions that newbies think about when exploring this new exciting world.  

Regardless of your kink experience, this article will inspire you to play harder and more often with your sexual partner(s). Find out what experienced kink couples suggest to new members of the kink community. Before diving into these ideas, let’s look at what kink is. 

What Is Kink?

With its broad definition of “non-normative” sexual acts that go beyond customary or accepted sexual behaviors, the term “kink” is often used to describe these practices. However, kink encompasses a wide range of activities outside BDSM, known as an acronym for bondage, punishment, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Anything from role acting to using blindfolds and feathery props to having a threesome might be considered kink. The most important guideline is to talk openly with your partner about what it is about kink that turns you on and what you feel comfortable doing if you both enjoy kinky sex.

Kink is a collection of enjoyable behaviors that individuals choose to partake in with one another yet which are uncommon or unappealing in other settings. Another name for it is BDSM, a catch-all phrase for any actions, thoughts, or situations involving a pleasant power transfer and acknowledging that one individual has more influence on another. The partners agree in advance on what they will do. It could entail restriction, physical restraint, sensory deprivation, discomfort, humiliation, or being reprimanded. All the things that would often be terrible might feel exciting in kink. It’s something that many people simply imagine.

Often, non-kinky or non-kinky objects are referred to as “vanilla” things. It’s just not kink; vanilla isn’t dull or worse than kink. The term “kink” is even sometimes used liberally to describe everything else outside a monogamous sexual relationship, although it might not always be the case. The focus of kink in this article is mainly on BDSM-related activities.

1. Watch a Kinky Movie Together

According to the experts, seeing a movie with a kink aspect might be a fantastic place to gain some ideas if you’re not ready to delve in. Don’t make it porno, though. In porn, BDSM is used in various genuinely nasty and dangerous ways.

Considering that not everybody in the kink community approves of the way BDSM is depicted in the movie, the experts also do not advise 50 Shades of Grey. Play The Secretary on Netflix instead, or become sexy researchers who search kinky movies together and discover discovering something exciting to watch.

2. Get Inspired by a Blindfold or a Tie. 

You may have a scarf or a tie lying around your bedroom. Tying one on takes away one of your primary sensations, which amplifies the intensity of the other senses—touch, taste, smell, and sound—for you or your spouse. You may enjoy yourself differently by doing this. A power imbalance is further emphasized by the blindfold, which places your companion at your mercy. How sexy is that?

3. Play Gently Restrained.

Using belts, ties, and scarves can also be a simple, unthreatening technique to practice restraint (a.k.a. bondage). In reality, testing it out is as easy as securing someone’s hands with a bandana or scarf.

A beginner’s kink kit is also available; it contains items like fuzzy handcuffs and blindfolds. In addition to things like a feather on a stick for sensation play or a soft flogger for spanking, most sex shops offer beginner’s packages that will be more than enough for you to relish in the kink world. 

4. Visit a Sexual Dungeon.

Before you freak out, the experts endorse BDSM dungeons as a terrific spot to watch kinky sex from a distance. Beginner lessons are available in several local dungeons where you may practice spanking and knotting ropes. Additionally, this is a fantastic location to pick up some kink safety advice.

However, if the name “dungeon” turns you off, try out the kink workshops your neighborhood sex-positive sex shop offers to learn some kinky tricks in the open air. That might also help you observe the variety of kinks and see which ones seem exciting and which are a big NO for you.

5. Let the Spanking Begin.

A surprisingly private method to enter kink is via spanking. Because of its tactile nature and close skin contact, it may indeed be a bonding activity. However, there is also a transfer of power. A gentle touch with a hand swat or a soft, padded flogger from your local sex-positive shop can help you get comfortable.

6. Enjoy Dress-Up Games.

Costumes may be a fun way to get kinky, whether your fantasy is a silk French maid uniform, a sexy police outfit studded with leather, or a fuzzy animal print catsuit. Tell your partner that you’d like to play with clothing and see how you feel about role-playing. If you don’t know what to wear, it’s a great way to make your partner’s fantasy come true. A maths teacher? A hot girl from a recent action movie? A heroine from his favorite comic book? Go for it!

Is Kink for You? 

These kink ideas might be for you, and they might not be. Kink is not for everyone, and that’s completely okay. Some persons choose to engage in activities only with partners who share negligible authority.

The perception that we should constantly expand and push ourselves to achieve more is often untrue. For instance, just because you and your partner have started practicing kink doesn’t mean you can rebuild intimacy or solve other issues in your relationship. Because they were subjected to BDSM during sex without consent, many people are entirely turned off from practicing it.

Most individuals find it challenging to understand that anything they enjoy sexually can be utterly repugnant to someone else and that something they feel revolting will be someone, for others, might be the ultimate satisfaction. 

Ultimately it’s up to you whether you want to give it a shot or not. If you do, make sure you only try out things you and your partner are excited about!

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How To Have Sex During Your Period

How To Have Sex During Your Period

 

Learning how to have sex during your period is easier than you think. More importantly, there is no scientific evidence that having sex during your period is harmful to your health in any way. Some women even report that having sex with their partner during a period brings them several benefits, with deeper orgasms being one of them. 

Keep in mind that you can get pregnant during your period. Also, having sex while you’re menstruating will not eliminate the possibility of getting a sexually transmitted infection (STIs), so it’s recommendable to practice safe sex. 

Period Sex Benefits

We’ve already mentioned above that sex while menstruating brings many physiological benefits. Orgasms tend to relieve menstrual cramps because of contracting and releasing the uterine muscles. Due to that movement, muscle tension can be significantly reduced during the period. Not to mention that having sex will trigger endorphins, which remove the focus of any pain and discomfort you might feel in your body.   

Also, these muscle contractions will help clear the uterus contents leading to a shorter period, however, there is still no scientific evidence for this, although many women swear it’s true. Besides the ease of menstrual cramps, sexual activity can even help with headaches, which is assumed to be related to endorphins. 

Let’s not forget another important aspect of period sex which is lubrication. Many women have vaginas dry, so the menstrual flow can serve as a natural lubricant. That will make sex more pleasant for both you and your sex partner as you don’t have to stop with sexual activity to apply the lube. 

Practicing Safe Sex

Regardless of your menstruation, you should always practice safe sex. Even with all the benefits of having sex during your menstruation, you cannot simply ignore the risk of sexually transmitted infections, such as hepatitis or HIV. Such viruses can spread easily when in contact with the infected person’s blood, making menstruation the perfect situation for the virus to spread. 

To ensure you’re practicing safe sex and still getting as much pleasure as possible, use condoms during sex to be safe from catching or spreading an STI.

Avoid Heavy Days

It will greatly depend on your menstrual flow, however, some women will experience a more intense flow during the first few days of their period. If you are among them, choose lighter days for sexual activities. If the heavier flow doesn’t affect you or your partner in any way, there is no reason not to have sex during the first days of your period. 

Prepare Towels and Tissues

If this will be your first time having sex during your period, make sure you put some towels under to protect your bed sheets and mattress. You might even have a lighter flow that day, yet the sexual activity will probably get some blood around, so have towels and tissues nearby to wipe yourself after sex. 

Sex In The Shower

If you feel uncomfortable having sex during your period on your bed, you can try sex in the shower. The water will wash away the menstrual flow and allow you to change things a bit if you’re both bored of the old-fashioned missionary position in the bed. This option is great for everyone who will be trying to have sex during the period for the first time and once they feel comfortable with it, they can continue trying all the positions they want without worrying about pain or discomfort. 

Rethink Foreplay

While menstruating, you and your partner might want to avoid using your hands as it can be messy due to the blood, however, if it doesn’t bother you, just go for it. If you wish to play with your partner before the sexual activity, you should consider vibrators or any sex toys that might set the mood for both of you. If you’re looking for a quickie, your period days are perfect for it because you already have a natural lube so your partner can easily penetrate and give you the pleasure you deserve. 

What About Oral Sex?

If you’re a big fan of oral sex, you can practice it without any problems during your period. Think about using a menstrual cup, tampon, or contraceptive sponge to decrease the leakage. If you decide to do it in the shower, you will probably not need any of these things, yet keep in mind that sometimes things can get pretty steamy, so make sure you don’t forget about putting a condom before penetration.

Have a Talk First

As much as having sex during your period is completely normal and there is no reason for avoiding it during these days, make sure your partner is okay with it. Let them know you’re having your period and that you don’t mind a few drops of blood to enjoy good sex with them. Typically, most people don’t have any issues with having period sex, however, your sex partner might be terrified of blood, so seeing it during sex might not produce the results you need. 

Ask them openly have practice period sex and if they liked it. Luckily, there are so many ways to enjoy sex during your period, it will not be difficult to find one that both you and your partner will love.  

In Final Words

Once you start practicing it, you will discover a completely different dimension of sexual pleasures and orgasms and you will be impatiently waiting for your next period to enjoy it all over again. While practicing it, make sure you’re not having menstrual cramps as it will be difficult to relax and enjoy sex with your partner. Before going into any sexual activity, take a moment to see how you feel and if there are no obstacles or concerns from your end, go and have the best sex of your life!

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Freaky Couples Goals

Freaky Couples Goals

 

If you’re thinking about spicing up things in the bedroom, have you ever wondered what is on the freaky couples goals list? We have, and we wanted to share them with you. It’s time to act wild and fun by setting up a playful relationship goal.

Every relationship needs a little bit of a freaky couples goals to aim towards, yet only some couples can maintain it. That only indicates that setting realistic relationship objectives is always necessary, even if they are not required. Here is everything you need to consider to add to your freaky plans for your relationship to blossom sexually.

What are Freaky Couples’ Goals? 

Have you ever found a partner that makes you feel good, is enjoyable to be with, and who, just by being in their presence, brings out the best in you? Think of these freaky goals as crazy, sexy, and curious expectations you and your partner decide to research further. Before we spill the beans, let’s look at what is considered freaky regarding couples’ goals.

The definition of an unusual relationship is doing wild, nasty, yet valuable things in a relationship. Vibe partnerships refer to freaky relationships that are vibrant, joyful, and entertaining despite engaging in highly unusual and bizarre activities.

It’s time to go from taking relationships seriously daily to having bizarre relationship objectives. Sometimes we focus on the essential things that occasionally do not constantly improve a relationship and pay little to no attention to the simple things that support a partnership.

We overlook that many fragile relationships lack the vital elements that seem less significant. Why stay in a constantly severe relationship when you and your spouse may engage in wild and fun activities while maintaining a solid bond superior to that of other people?

1. Sex in the Wardrobe

When there is a perfectly decent bed available, why choose the little closet or cupboard beneath the stairs? Mainly because you have to try out fresh stances and angles. It forces you to devise creative methods to achieve orgasm to do it someplace less liberating than a bed, such as a car, a tent, or a restroom. And the more ways you practice, the more familiar you’ll get with your body, making orgasms more straightforward. Don’t do this if your home has a built-in closet. When two people are having sex, furniture tends to shift, and if it collapses with the doors down while you are inside it, you may be trapped for a very long time!

2. Hair Brushing Your Bodies

Another commonplace item that also functions admirably as a sex toy is the hair brush. Before contacting each other, skin to skin, you may use a hairbrush to make the nerve endings ready. Green advises getting undressed and gently brushing his body. Start from the feet and legs, then massage the arms, shoulders, and chest. Work on the thighs and abdomen last, concluding with his testicles. That excites every inch of his skin, causing hell to erupt with pleasure as you explore your entire body with your fingers, tongue, and lips after throwing the hairbrush across the room. 

3. Tasting Toes

Tasting toes is gross for some people; for others, it’s bliss. Unless you have a foot fetish, our feet may not seem like the sexiest body part, yet some sections are extremely sensitive to touch. Consider how much you like massaging your feet because these nerve endings are sensitive to the touch.

4. Synchronized Breathing

You relate heavy breathing with sexual arousal for a reason: breathing is indissolubly linked to sexual stimulation and orgasm! Blood pumps to your genitalia as your body gets ready for sex, and your nerve endings go into red alert because you start lacking oxygen. There are two benefits to matching your breathing pattern to that of your man. It helps you concentrate on your breathing. You’re more likely to inhale profoundly and fill your lungs. That helps in the diffusion of feelings rather than their localization. Second, depending on your respiration rates, you’re more likely to be in sync sexually at comparable excitement levels. For instance, it can assist slow the reaction if one partner is in front of the other.

5. Nose Diving 

There is an urban legend linking a guy’s nose size to the size of his penis. However, we believe there is some merit to the notion that a man with a somewhat large nose can be fantastic in bed. Why? Considering that it is the ideal clitoral stimulation! The perfect stimulus is a nose since it is firm without being overly so, stimulating the whole clitoral region and surrounding tissue. Men often use the tip of their tongue or finger for cunnilingus, yet sticking their noses within will trigger more erotic nerve endings.

6. Wheelbarrow

The wheelbarrow is one of several nearly difficult sex positions worth attempting. It is an excellent position when your boyfriend is too quick to the climax. He will not arrive immediately with all his work to keep you waiting. Of course, you’re working hard, so how about your orgasm? The woman lays her arm and chest on the bed, and I like to suggest a twist on the wheelbarrow. She may then unwind a little and relish the nipple stimulation as her partner thrusts back and forth and lifts her bottom and thighs.

In Final Words

We hope you have found one or two ideas for a freaky night with your partner. Ensure you bring these ideas with them to hear how they feel. Your partner might also come up with some steamy, sexy ideas that will blow your mind in bed – and around it.

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A Parent’s Guide On Teenagers Sex Education

A Parent’s Guide On Teenagers Sex Education

 

As a parent, your responsibility is to prepare your child for adulthood as much as possible, including teenagers sex education. After all, it’s completely normal for your teenager to have many questions and a lot of thoughts about sex education, so it’s vital to approach this topic maturely. Even allow your child to ask you everything that’s on their mind and respond to them without shame!

Keep in mind that teens who have frequent and open conversations with their parents about sex will more likely step into sexual activities when they are older. Similarly, they will be protecting themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when they become sexually active. 

If you wish to be the biggest influence in your teenager’s decisions about sex, you should start planning these conversations and make sure they feel comfortable enough to come to you with their questions as well. 

Prepare Yourself

In all honesty, accepting that your teenagers sex education at school won’t be enough and it’s on you is not easy. As parents, we often continue seeing them as too vulnerable for the real world, and that’s why you need to prepare yourself if you wish to avoid confusing your teen even more. 

What are your personal values and beliefs about sex? What is something that you want to share with your teen? 

Ask yourself about what you have learned from your first sexual experiences and which mistakes you would wish they avoid making. 

If this conversation is uncomfortable for you, make sure you are well prepared and see a sex therapist or sex educator first.

Include in your conversation information about protections such as birth control and condoms, STIs, and everything else that might be important for them. 

Think about this as the first step to building a mature relationship with your teen where you will start discussing topics you never have before. 

Start the Sex Talk First

It would be really good if you would be the one starting this conversation so you can dedicate your full attention to it. They might ask you some questions before you decide to sit with them and have the ‘big talk’, yet make sure you start it first as it will show you are open to discussing this topic and you’d love to hear your teen’s view on it. 

Make sure you have chosen a day where both you and your kid have enough time to dedicate to this conversation. When you’re ready, start the conversation casually and try to not make a big deal out of it. Remember, you should make this conversation about teenagers sex education the least uncomfortable that it can be for them. So, being uptight about it will not help at all! 

Guiding the Conversation

Your teen will probably have a few questions for you as well. Try to respond to your teenager accurately and straightforwardly. For instance, if they ask for a proper age to start having sexual relations, try not to get too philosophical about it. 

Instead, provide them with statistics in different countries, and then add your personal opinion if they want to know it. Literally, ask them “do you want to hear my opinions on this too, or just the statistics?” This models consent for your teenagers, which is so important when it comes to sex education. 

Keep in mind that your teenagers will form their own opinion about sex education as they go through life, so it’s vital to give them all information ahead of time. 

If you personally feel uncomfortable sharing some of your sexual experiences with your child, you can talk about it in the third person. If your teen asks a question you don’t know how to answer, be honest and invite them to look for that information together. 

Common Misconceptions Teens Have About Sex

When talking with your teenager, they will maybe share with you one or two of the common misconceptions teens have about sex. For instance, they might think that sex will make them appear more grown. 

Be supportive and offer alternative ways that might show them what it is like to be mature and responsible in their friends’ eyes. For instance, they can get a summer job or volunteer or start creating a YouTube channel.

If they want to have sex just because all of their friends are doing it, you can focus on things that make them unique and stand out from the crowd! 

Explain that not following every step their friends make is a good sign, and that they should start having sex when they feel desire. Teach them about healthy solo sex and look up websites like scarleteen.com, instead of having them compare to what their friends are doing. Also, make them aware that many lie about their sexual experiences and that on average, teenagers in the United States are having partnered sex at a later and later age. 

If they are in a relationship and they want to feel closer to their partner, ask about their motives behind it. For example, many teenagers will have sex because of fear of losing that person or being seen as “prude.” Teach your teenagers that there are many ways to show you love someone and sexual pleasure is more than just genitals touching. Also, share that consent is what matters most, and without it, it isn’t enjoyable, will not improve relationships, and will cause an impact. 

Safe Sex

As a parent, it’s your responsibility to inform your teen of sexually transmitted infections, unwanted pregnancy, and any other consequences having unprotected sex can have for them. You don’t have to be a teenagers sex education expert to help your teen avoid these consequences; howeer, make sure you motivate them to learn about safe sex. 

Make sure they know they have to use protection once they start having sexual relations. Talk to them about pregnancy and how it changes life for a young person, so they are aware of all the outcomes of unprotected penetrative penis-vagina sex. Let them know that sexually transmitted infections happen from various partnered sexual acts. Also, make your teenagers aware that they are not alone in partnered sex, and their decisions on partnered sex involves another’s desires and preferences.

Conclusion

Your teenagers sex education will happen, one way or another. 

It’s best if you can be their source of information and help them shape their opinion on sex, so that porn doesn’t affect their sexual life later. Don’t assume they know something just because you do, or because it was online. Really, check your own biases, because this builds trust and connection. Allow your teenagers to ask you whatever they need and encourage them to start the sex talk at any time. 

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Couple’s Sex Toys: The Gift That Keeps Giving

Couple’s Sex Toys: The Gift That Keeps Giving

 

If you’re in a relationship, finding a few couple’s sex toys this holiday season is where it is at! Interestingly it’s a small investment that brings incredible benefits to your sexual wellness. If you’re assuming you know all there is to know, then please comment and give some ideas! 

We are used to spending hundreds of dollars on a treadmill, a new juicer, or anything else we believe that might benefit us in any way, so why not do the same when it comes to pleasure? Regardless of what you’re looking for in bed, you will find a toy that can help turn fantasies into a reality. 

Many toys out there have a diverse use, so you can truly make the most of them and start experimenting with different types of sexual pleasure during the season. 

To help you make the right choice, you will find the best couple’s sex toys on the market and tips on how to use them for maximum fun!

#1 Magic Wand Original

How can you expect to do some between-the-sheets magic without a magic wand? Many are saying it is their favorite vibrator, and what’s even more surprising is that this Hitachi Magic Wand has been on the market for over 50 years. It has two speeds, low and high, and is a great option for different pleasurable uses for both women and men. 

The Magic Wand Original comes with a 2.5-inch soft head and is completely bendable. All you have to do is to choose between the two speeds and this magic wand will help you relieve any type of stress you might have. With your partner, you can use its good vibrations to heat up the things between you two and give each other the sensations of your lifetime.

#2 We-Vibe Sync

This vibrator prouds itself to be the number one vibrator for couples. We-Vibe Sync is a cuff-shaped vibrator, and its top is shaped like a pancake ensuring it stimulates the clitoral part and a smaller vibrator that stimulates the G-spot while the couple is having sex.

The great thing about it is that the cuff will stay in the desired position preventing the device from slipping in and out during sex. If you and your partner are looking for sex toys that can be used in a pool or ocean, you’ll definitely want We-Vibe Sync as it’s completely waterproof. 

#3 We-Vibe Couples Massager

If you prefer stimulation over penetration, you will love the We-Vibe Couples Massager! It’s created to bring a lot of clitoral stimulation to partners with a vagina. The reason why this toy is so popular with heterosexual couples is that it can be used at any moment before, during, and even after sex. 

You can use it as a tool for foreplay, yet it can be perfect once you and your partner have both achieved orgasm, and you wish to start the second round. Nothing will get you going like a good, stimulative sex toy that both of you can use.

#4 Vesper Necklace

Okay, you will probably not be encouraged to walk around with the sex toy you and your partner just bought, right? What if that sex toy seemed like an elegant piece of jewelry hanging around your neck? Vesper Necklace is such a sex toy you’ll love to wear and it can also serve as a great conversation starter with new people. 

Choose between three colors and three suggestive phrases to be engraved on the necklace for a more personalized touch. And, once the vibrations of this beauty kick in, you and your sexual partner can drop any conversation you were having and go straight into the action.

 

#5 Trojan Vibrating Fingertip Personal Massager

If you enjoy the sensation of vibration, yet would prefer avoiding toys that are created for penetration, this toy is the right choice for you. The famous preservative company Trojan has designed an exciting vibrating fingertip massager that will go beyond your lover’s touch. With it, the couples can enjoy the boost of high-sensory titillation while at the same time staying connected. 

Its simple design allows you to create layers of excitement with just your hand going from one part of your partner’s body to another, including the erogenous zone and genitals. This personal massager is perfect for foreplay and during sex as it creates a complete explosion of pleasure!

#6 Starsi Silicone Rechargeable Waterproof Vibrator By Cute Little Fuckers

This is truly a unisex toy, as it can be used by anybody, any gender, and orientation, and on any part of the body. This interesting sex toy can be used over the nipples, vulva, penis, neck, or anywhere else where you think there will be beneficial and provide pleasure to you or your partner. 

Based on the idea that our entire bodies are covered in nerve endings, this little star will blow your mind. As it touches your skin and moves around with your partner guiding it, it’s awesome. Explore each other’s bodies and find an erogenous zone where you never thought it exists.

#7 Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrating Cock Ring

If you’re into sex toys, you have probably already tried one of the rings on the market. However, there is nothing like this little rabbit. It will add stimulation during sex with your partner and because of the base of the vibrating part, it brings incredible clitoris stimulation.

With its bunny ears, this sex toy definitely has some charm you’ll need to explore further. What’s interesting to most couples is that this ring can be used with a remote, so the partner who is wearing it can control the buzz of the ring. 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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