Sex Toys For Pleasure: Overview & Tips On How To Use Them 

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Sex Toys For Pleasure: Overview & Tips On How To Use Them 

 

In the last decade, sex toys for pleasure have created a market on their own. By offering pleasure to men and women, sex toys have evolved tremendously and broken through all the stereotypes people used to have about this type of product.

After all, we’ve only recently started discussing more openly our sex lives, sexuality, and things we like and dislike in the bedroom. Sex and pleasure are becoming one of the common topics in conversations with friends, and also in educational institutions.

All of this has led to more people being interested in and buying sex toys for pleasure. From steam-powered vibrators and rubber dildos, there is a wide range of sex toys available to everyone looking to get some pleasure.

Before getting overwhelmed with so many options on the sex toy market, we’ve done our homework and decided to recommend you a few products you should try out. Let the moaning begin!

Sex Toys for Women

There are so many sex toys available to women that the only problem will be to limit yourself to trying out only a few toys and not spending all of your money. Dive into the most purchased sex toys for women:

1. Magic Wand Rechargeable

With a fervent fanbase, Magic Wand is still amazing women as it did when it was launched first. Many women recommend it because of its amazing vibrations and simplicity. That said, those who wish to switch gears or have a more flexible toy will need to be aware of the limitations of our beloved Magic Wand. Yet, don’t discard it so quickly, this is one of the most used sex toys in porn – that has to mean something!

2. Njoy Pure Plug 

For those of you who enjoy good anal sex, you will need to try this luxe metal plug. Its surface is almost blissfully smooth and more importantly, it’s compatible with all lubricants out there, so it guarantees you’ll get the pleasure you’re seeking. The weight of Njoy Pure Plug is also big enough to be aware of ii, yet small enough to not be uncomfortable for the woman. The great thing about it is that it comes in small, medium, and large versions, so anyone can have fun with it. 

3. Vixen Creations Mustang

You’ve never liked sex toys as they don’t seem like a real deal? Well, you’ll surely change your mind once you hear about Vixen Creations Mustang, the most realistic dildo in the world. This dildo has great dual-density material and its gentle curve will stimulate your G-spot like nothing you’ve ever tried before. This toy works well for men as well!

4. Lovense Lush 3

Are you in a long-distance committed relationship and want to spice things up with your partner? Or, are you a webcam performer who loves connecting with your audience? This long-distance Blootooth vibrator allows others who are not in bed with you to titillate you from afar by using the toy’s app. What we love about this sex toy is its rumbly motor incredibly fast responsiveness! 

Sex Toys for Men

If we had to write this article a few years ago, it wouldn’t be so easy to find great sex toys that will provide incredible pleasure to men as well. Luckily, there are many options for men to choose from when it comes to orgasming whether it’s on their own or with their sexual partner.

1. Fleshlight Quickshot

From men to men, Fleshlight Quickshot has been praised as the best male masturbator several times already. Besides being the best male sex toy, this was also the first-ever masturbator. 

The pioneer in male pleasure, Fleshlight Quickshot is smaller than its original version as it has 3.5 inches to insert the penis. Another plus is that you will not have to hide it around your room from someone who might stumble upon it because it doesn’t look like your regular sex toy. 

2. Uberlube

Okay, we know that lubes are not exactly sex toys, yet nobody can deny how much pleasure they bring during masturbation and intercourse. Uberlube is silicone-based so it will last quite long, and you will not be able to keep your hands off from the slippery surface, regardless of whether you’re touching yourself or your partner. We also love it because of its beautiful packaging, yet keep in mind you cannot combine it with silicone toys.  

  • Lelo HUGO

Although its price is a bit above the average of other male sex toys, LELO Hugo will justify its price the first time you use it. This is a favorite prostate massager for many sex toy users due to its remote that controls both strength and location of the vibrations. 

For instance, if you tilt it to the right, the vibrations will be stronger on the left side. More importantly, you will be able to focus on the area where you feel the most pleasure and make the most of it with Hugo.

3. Tenga Egg

The Tenga Egg is an excellent sex toy for those who are unwilling to invest a lot of money in it. Tenga Egg is very affordable with its price below ten dollars. Its price is what makes this super-stretchable elastomer sleeve one of the commonly used sex toys and a great idea when you want to step away from the old-fashioned ways. 

Of course, you shouldn’t expect too much for a few-dollar toy. It will not revolutionize your sex life or be your go-to toy for each masturbation, yet it is good to have if you’re not looking for expensive sex toys. It’s also a recommended option for beginners as they will not spend a lot of money on something they are still not certain if it works or not.

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Whether you are looking for sex toys for yourself or enjoy them with your sexual partner, these products can truly make a difference in how you experience your sexual pleasure. Whichever you choose, make sure you make the most of it and try it in different scenarios and positions. The only decision you might regret is buying a sex toy and not pleasuring yourself with it enough!

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

What to Expect In Sex Therapy as an Individual

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What to Expect In Sex Therapy as an Individual

 

We often wrongly assume that sex therapy is reserved for couples who wish to improve their sexual life; however, getting sex therapy as an individual has incredible benefits and will help to achieve a certain goal in their sexual lives. 

Regardless of what their goal might be, a person that wishes to resolve or improve a certain aspect of their romantic or sexual life will seek help in a form of sex therapy as an individual.

The first step will be to reach out to a sex therapist of their choice. Depending on the preferences, a person’s choice can be made based on the financial budget, insurance coverage, therapist’s location, recommendations, or personal connection. Whatever your reason for contacting a sex therapis. You have decided to start a journey of healing, exploring, and growing as an individual which leads to a stronger awareness of your personal needs and emotions. And also deeper relationships with other people in your life.

Below, you will find all the steps of sex therapy that you will have to go through to achieve the objective you have set for yourself. Without a doubt, it is a process that requires time, honesty, and patience, yet the final results will have immense value to you.

#1 Filling Out The Intake

Once you have found the therapist you would like to work with, you will need to fill out an intake, which is also considered the first session of your sex therapy. Sometimes, filling out your intake might take more than one session. However, because the insurance coverage covers only one session for the intake, most individuals will decide to do it in one session.

During the first session, you will be able to decide whether the therapeutic bond is beneficial for you or not. Pay attention to how you feel when talking to your therapist and how they listen. And respond to your questions or concerns. This will give you a pretty good idea of what you can expect if you continue working with this therapist. That said, if you feel a bit uncomfortable, that’s completely fine as you are sharing intimate details about yourself with someone you’re seeing for the very first time. 

In the intake, the therapist is seeking to get your sex history, origin details, and information on where you’ve lived and anything else that might affect your knowledge or perspective on sex, intimacy, and relationships. The intake is incredibly valuable for your therapist as they can get an idea of how to help you. And start working on a strategy that will help you achieve your goal.

#2 Setting a Clear Goal

Your goal will be related to the reason why you’ve decided to go into sex therapy. For instance, you’ve looking to start dating after a long relationship or going through a divorce and need help to feel good about your sexuality. Setting a clear goal will help your therapist understand where you want to go with your therapy

Your goal should be in your intake. That way, your therapist will know in which direction to take the sessions to make sure you’re both working towards the same goal. Also, your therapist will be the one to tell you what does it takes to obtain your objective. The most important is your willingness and openness to things you don’t know. 

When discussing your goal with the therapist, ask them questions about how to achieve it. Seek tactics that can get you closer to what you want. After all, the reason you’ve decided to talk to a sex therapist is that you wanted to learn valuable techniques that will help you in your life. After each session, ask them for homework. Your therapist might decide to share an article, a book, watch a movie, do a little experiment. Or something completely else. 

#3 Listening & Reflective Support

Besides providing you with information and useful tools, sex therapists are also great listeners and support systems. Once in therapy, you will be able to say whatever you’re thinking or feeling. This space is incredibly valuable for those individuals seeking reflective support. The more information you share with your therapist, the better. Don’t feel discouraged or ashamed to share your beliefs, fears, desires, or skills because most of us have limited knowledge about sexuality and sexual pleasure. 

We’ve learned everything we know from media, our parents or caretakers, our friends, schools. And other educational institutions, and often, that knowledge is not most accurate or beneficial for us. That’s why a big part of therapy is unlearning what we know and learning again how to get your needs met and what do they when they aren’t. 

#4 Learning Process

After you have shared all relevant information about your sexuality and perspective on sex. Your therapist will start providing you with information. Even if you haven’t asked for it, a therapist will start the learning process during sessions and outside of them. They will use various sources to teach you tools and ways that will get you closer to your goal. For instance, a client that feels uncomfortable when naked might be recommended to read a book on accepting and loving their body. 

Once the therapist has a clear idea of your objective and obstacles preventing you to achieve it. They will start with specific suggestions. That means that two clients with the same goal might be suggested different homework due to their different-sex history or childhood background. A person that is going through a divorce will also receive a different type of sex therapy than someone who is looking to start dating after years of being out of a relationship.

#5 Intensive Type of Therapy

Most of the time, the learning process mentioned above will be enough to get you to achieve the goal from the beginning of your sex therapy. However, in cases where the goals still haven’t been met, a therapist might suggest an intensive type of therapy. These therapy types might be eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR). Trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT), or dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT).

Each of these intensive therapy types will get you to the core of what is preventing you from achieving your goal. By applying this type of therapy, your therapist will guide you to dive deeper into the areas affecting how you feel and think about your sexuality and sexual pleasure. Once you’ve gotten to the core of the issue, it will be a lot easier to understand what it takes for you to reach the set objective. And enjoy your sexuality without any obstacles around you.

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). And an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

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Sex Education You Never Got

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Sex Education You Never Got

 

Whether you’re in a relationship or solo, adolescent, or in your 20s or 30s, sex education is a never-ending process. Often, we’ll wrongly assume that just because someone has passed their adolescent year, they know everything there is about sex, dating, and relationship, yet this is not the case. 

This area is so wide that it would probably take us an entire lifetime to learn everything there is about sex. Dr. Sara and I did a presentation on this before the pandemic and I would love to share here! 

Learning about sex shouldn’t begin after your first sexual experience, yet as this topic was until recently considered taboo, things are slowly starting to change. Young people are educating themselves through conversations with their family members and friends, through schools, media, etc. By understanding sexual education doesn’t involve only sex, you will better manage situations you find yourself in, from dating to being in serious, long-term relationships. 

Dating as an Opportunity

Things are not just fast-forwarded to sex. To get to know each other better, people will typically start dating before they decide to move to a more physical phase that involves touching, kissing, and having sex. If dating is a stressful experience for you, consider applying an opportunistic or zen philosophy in dating. In other words, you will have to be willing and open to confront anything that’s causing any unpleasant emotions within yourself. 

Instead of allowing these emotions to take control over you while you’re trying to ignore them, take a look at them to understand them better. What makes you feel like this? Is it a certain situation or expectation that is causing discomfort in you? Have you had this feeling before? Start exploring it instead of ignoring it and you will soon notice how your attitude towards dating is changing. So, before jumping into exploring sex, make sure you feel good about dating new people. 

The Science Of Sex

How you feel about sex is one thing, yet knowing the technical details of sexual pleasure is crucial to enjoying sex and having orgasms. Understanding the difference between the internal and external clitoris, the labia majora and minora, uretha and vagina hole are just some of the terms you’ll need to learn to understand better the female body, and see what works for you and what doesn’t. 

There are many different paths to a female orgasm, which doesn’t necessarily include only sex organs. By touching and kissing a person’s nipples, they can experience a wave of sexual excitement which followed by, for instance, touching the G-Spot can lead to an incredible orgasm. As every person is different, their likes and dislikes in sex will differ as well.

Physiology Behind The Orgasm

If you’ve ever orgasmed before, you know that this feeling is undeniably good, however, to learn how to have frequent orgasms you’ll continue enjoying, it’s necessary to know at least some basics around the big O. Having an orgasm is feeling your vagina, uterus, anus, and sometimes even other body parts contracting rapidly from 3 to 15 times, squeezing for a little less that one second at a time. 

The female orgasm can also include ejaculation, the release of a liquid out of the urethra. As every sex experience is different for each person, orgasms might feel different as well. That’s why it’s vital to learn what feels good and what doesn’t for you. Understanding what excites you and sharing it with your sex partner to experience the four phases of orgasm: 

  1. Excitement: Initially being turned on.
  2. Plateau: Repetitive motion that feels pleasurable.
  3. Orgasm: The burst of pleasure and release.
  4. Resolution: The refractory period. 

Although these phases are accurate, they don’t need to occur every time. Also, for some women, sexual pleasure doesn’t always lead to orgasm. On the other hand, having an orgasm at the end of the sexual experience doesn’t imply that the sex was amazing. As said, it’s quite individual, so your learning about sex might be different from how your friend is learning about their body and sexual pleasure. 

Types of Sex

There are hundreds and hundreds of sex positions you can try out with your sex partner. However, if you’re looking for more general categories of sex, you can start learning about different types of sex. You can choose between clitoral, vaginal, cervical, and anal sex. 

With all four types of sex, a woman can experience orgasm. Depending on what you prefer, you can combine a few sex types in one experience or stick to the one that makes you feel completely excited. If you lack experience and would like to see how you like each of these types of sex, you can easily try it on your own. Use a sex toy like a vibrator or your fingers instead of a penis. For instance, with clitoral sex, you can insert your fingers or the toy into your vagina and move them in a “come hither” motion in the direction of your belly button. 

Taking Care Of Your Health

Taking care of your sexual health goes beyond just having protected sex. As much as using condoms protect you from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You will need to be careful which soap you use, underwear you wear, the food you eat, etc. Taking care of yourself is essential for a fulfilled and satisfied sexual life. 

If you’re keen on practicing anal sex, make sure you shorten your nails, take off any jewelry such as rings or bracelets, and use lubricant for easier penetration. Be responsible and discuss all these aspects with your sex partner as they might prefer something different from what you had in mind. Having an open conversation is the first step leading towards great sex as it helps partners exchange ideas and get to know each other better before engaging in any sexual activity.

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

Stiff: Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction On-Demand Webinar

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sexology

Everything You Wanted To Know About Sexology

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Everything You Wanted To Know About Sexology

 

Many people wrongly assume that sexology is a scandalous profession, yet the term stands for the scientific study of human sexuality and sexual behavior. People who are studying sexology are sexologists, and they differ significantly from sex therapists. Many sexologists might decide to pursue their career as sex therapists to work with their patients in a clinical setting. Others might explore other careers such as sex educator, sex researcher, or public policy activist.

The work of a sexologist is not very different from other researchers of human behavior or therapists. They study and communicate with people who might experience low sexual desire, feeling of disconnection, or inabilities to have an orgasm. Their profession doesn’t imply they love sex more than any other person. It just means they enjoy studying it, helping people, and contributing to their field of science. 

As there is still a lot of misconceptions about sexology, we’ve decided to bring some clarity to this topic and find out what a sexologist does in their job. 

Becoming a Sexologist

A person can become a sexologist in more than one way. With many universities offering degrees in sexology or human sexuality, students have more options to decide what will be the starting point of their career as a sexologist. Also, someone can become a sexologist if they have an educational background in sociology, psychology, biology, anthropology, or public health. 

Typically, a sexologist will have a master’s or doctoral degree, yet it doesn’t necessarily have to be in sexology or human sexuality. There are also many training and certification programs for becoming a sexologist, and they are a personal choice rather than a field requirement. 

Using Sexology Knowledge

As already said, a sexologist doesn’t necessarily have to become a sex therapist and work with patients in a clinical setting. Besides being a sex therapist, sex educator, sex researcher, or public policy activist, there are many ways to practice sexology. For instance, a sexologist can organize workshops about sex health, educate teenagers about sex, or participate in sex-related initiatives in their community. 

Those who have decided to pursue their career as sex therapists will work directly with clients, with individuals or couples, to address problems they have in their sex lives and find solutions for these problems. The variety of such problems goes from mismatches libidos to sexless relationships. As most states don’t require certification to practice sex therapy, it’s crucial to check the previous experience of the sex therapist before starting therapy with them.

A well-recommended or experienced sex therapist will detect problems easier than someone without these two factors and will help the patient more efficiently. As much as it’s true that good sex therapists without certifications exist, this helps patients be at peace when undoing sex therapy and sharing their intimate details with someone who is a stranger to them. 

Sex Therapists vs Sexologists

Both professions study human sexuality and sexual behavior, yet in different ways. Often, sexologists will study patients and do their research from afar, whereas sex therapists will work directly with their patients. During sessions, sex therapists will not have any physical contact with their patients. As many people think that clinical sexologists do hands-on work, it’s quite important to know that all work is being done through the conversation between the therapist and the patient. 

Also, there is no nudity or any demonstration of sexual activity involved during sex therapy sessions. Future patients must understand that these sessions are just like regular therapy sessions with more focus on conversations related to sex. If there is a need to explain something graphic, a sex therapist or a patient will show it in on a puppet, diagram, or in a book. 

After several sessions, when the patient has more trust in their therapist, they might be given more practical tasks to take them home. This is often the case with couples or if a person is struggling to achieve an orgasm. Where a therapist might suggest exploring and doing research when at home alone or with a partner. 

Benefits of Sexology

Whether it’s sexologists or sex therapists, they both have incredible value in how we feel about sex, what we know about it, and how we behave in actions related to sex in any way. The more these topics are discussed. People will have more healthy sex lives that improve how they see themselves. And also how they connect with their partners.

All of the achievements that were made in the field of sexology, regardless of the branch, have had a positive impact on society as a whole and us as individuals. Due to sexology, we today know that having sex without protection can lead to a range of sexually transmitted infections. We’ve also learned there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Most achievements in sexology were focused on unlearning what we’ve been taught about sex to finally enjoy that aspect of our lives. After all, we’re sexual beings and we deserve to feel excited in more ways than just one!

In Final Words

Whether you’re currently seeking a sex therapist or considering pursuing a career as a sexologist. Hopefully, this article motivated you to do your share. As much as the sexual revolution helped us realize how significant sex health, sex education. And sex activities are in one’s life, there is still much more to learn and unlearn. We need to look at it as sexual evolution. 

As human beings, we’re constantly evolving and learning new things about ourselves and everything around us. There is no reason for it to be different with human sexuality and sexual behaviors. Whether it’s an open conversation with a friend, scheduling your first sex therapy session. Or enrolling in an undergraduate sexology program, each of these steps will contribute to a healthier and happier society that doesn’t ignore its sexuality. Instead, it celebrates it and seeks more ways to enjoy it!

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

Stiff: Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction On-Demand Webinar

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

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Tantric Sexology Near Me: Learn All About It

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Tantric Sexology Near Me: Learn All About It

 

If you’re interested in connecting sexually with your partner, you might look online for terms such as ‘tantric sexology near me’ or ‘best tantric sex’ to understand better what it’s all about. With tantric sex, you are able to dive deeper into a sexual connection that provides you with access to more profound levels of feelings, sensations, and energy, and most importantly, a better understanding of who you are.

In tantra, we celebrate the sacredness of our bodies and sexual desires, while at the same time, we’re buying mindfully aware of the shared pleasure. Learning tantric sexology can help in releasing shame, trauma, and any obstacles you might have around sex by unleashing the very transformative power of erotic energy and the most incredible orgasms you’ve ever had. 

 

Tantric Sex

This sexual practice is one aspect of the ancient spiritual philosophy known as tantra. Its purpose is to reveal an ecstatic union with life that goes beyond our sense of self. Tantric sex is often looked at as one doorway to transcendent experience which once learned, can never be forgotten. Tantric intimacy is something that awakens the fire in your sexual energy, passion, creativity, and personal desires aligned with your heart and spirit. 

With tantric sex, your lovemaking will feel healing, empowering, transcendent, and beyond. You will also feel connected to your partner, and you will notice how your relationship is blossoming, along with your sexual life. During lovemaking, you both will feel as if the time is slowing down and your intuition is expanding as you’re both diving into almost psychedelic realms of the erotic world. 

 

During Tantric Sex

Once your start exploring tantric sex, you will notice it actually involves a variety of erotic activities. Some of them will not involve penetration or any physical stimulation that we typically connect with sex, yet it will provide you with such pleasure that you will want to repeat it as soon as possible. 

A typical tantra encounter will involve many subtle sexual realms, from gentle caresses to being focused on the way that energy flows between two bodies. At times, you will even barely move, as you will be focused on the meditative aspect of the tantra, and this stillness combined with your partner’s energy will lead you to precious romantic and erotic moments. Once you start practicing tantric sex, try to be as relaxed as you can be and truly take things slowly. Play with the rhythm of your sexual games, speed it up and then slow it down to really make the most of this erotic energy that’s exchanged between you two.  

 

Sexual Energy vs Tantric Energy

The difference between regular sex and tantric one is in its awareness. Tantric sex is so much than sex and it emphasizes so much more than bodies. You will be more aware of your and your partner’s breath, how you both move, how it feels when you touch each other. And how you’re both filling up the room with your combined erotic energy. Not to say that tantric sex cannot be raw and intense. Yet it’s always aiming to connect two souls through intercourse instead of just aiming for pleasure.

As we mentioned awareness quite a few times, it’s evident that breathwork is crucial for tantric sex. You will use your breath and awareness, and learn to move your sexual energy through your entire body. This will also help you feel the sexual pleasure throughout the body as you give into the cosmic play with your sexual partner. 

 

Neotantra Or Classical Tantra?

The earliest evidence of someone mentioning tantra dates back to the seventh century. In Hindu books, many texts were written about it. However, there is a bit of difference in how the eastern world and western world define it. Typically, when people from western countries use the word ‘tantra’, they are actually referring to ‘neotantra’.

When talking about classical tantra, there are numerous complex and quite rigorous spiritual paths that aim to achieve enlightenment. Often, these paths will involve serious study and dedication, many meditative practices, etc. Focusing on sexual energy is only a small part of it and usually is reserved for advanced practitioners only. 

On the other hand, neotantra has been developing over the past two centuries and its goal is to enhance intimacy and connection in people. A more profound connection to our bodies and emotions, while also opening ourselves to orgasmic ecstasy. What you will usually find in the media is a set of practices from modern tantric sex practitioners. These practices are not a part of ancient wisdom, however, their relevance and meaning are unquestionable. 

 

Tantric Sex Benefits

We already mentioned many benefits from having tantric sex with your partner. Yet there are so many of them that it doesn’t hurt to mention a few more. As you continue practicing tantric sex, you will notice how you’re receiving more of what you want in sex. While also releasing sexual blocks and shame you have from before. Indeed, tantric sex is therapeutic as it helps you even heal from sexual trauma and rediscover intimacy with your partner.

Also, you will notice how your sexual energy is slowly increasing as you’re allowing it to flow freely throughout your body. Overall, you can expect to experience an entirely new level of heart connection, a deeper sense of intimacy. And purer love for each other. There are plenty of ways you can start exploring tantric sex. You can start reading about it on your own, and once you feel confident, share it with your partner.

Or, you can start discovering the world of tantric sex together. Find what you wish to try out first, and start with smaller steps. Sit opposite to one another and focus on your breath. Look into each other eyes and pay attention to what happens in your body. This can be a great introduction for those who are choosing to have tantric sex for the first time as it’s gradually preparing you both for a very unique erotic experience. 

 

Tantric Sex Best Practices: Breathing, Desire & Arousal

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

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How To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

 

Curious to learn how to have sex like a porn star? Believe it or not, many will be looking into tips and tricks from their favorite porn movies or porn stars to spice things up in the bedroom. And let’s face it, life is truly too short not to enjoy good sex whenever and wherever you want it. 

If you’re looking to turn your wildest, craziest fantasies into reality, this probably means you’re ready to dive into the world of porn stars for inspiration. To help you make the most of your sex life and have fun with your sex partner. Take a look at our suggestions on how to become a porn star in your own life!

#1 Press Record

The difference between porn stars and everyone else is they are recording themselves having sex. Well, you might not have a production team in your bedroom and all that fancy equipment, yet it’s possible to record your wildest moments and keep them as great memories. If you haven’t recorded yourself having sex before, you might feel a bit uncomfortable the first time.

Regardless, make sure you enjoy it and don’t be shy to be yourself just because your camera is on. Forget completely that these moments are being recorded and connect with your sexual partner as you have connected during the previous times. 

#2 Dress Up

When was the last time you spent money on nice lingerie or underwear? Men or women, we all like to put a nice piece of clothing to flirt with our partner and use it as an invitation for sex. Order online or make an event out of it and go shopping alone, with friends, or even with your sexual partner. 

If you want to level it up, you can even buy a costume for a role play. For instance, your partner might have shared their fantasies about the doctor-nurse scenario, so why not buy a uniform and surprise them when they come from work? Whatever your choice is, make sure that it’s used to enhance your foreplay and sex.

#3 Own The Dirty Talk

If you’ve ever seen a porn movie (we know you have!), you’ve probably noticed all the dirty. Playful words porn stars are using. Sex is not just about physical, you can enjoy it from so many other angles, and one of them is verbal. Share with your partner how bad you want it with your dirty talk and encourage them to talk dirty to you too!

However, before going into all of that, make sure you have communicated it with your partner, so they don’t get surprised or offended once you start throwing a few dirty words around. The best thing to do is to start small and see where you both feel comfortable with dirty talk. 

#4 Open Your Sex Life

If you’re not a complete monogamist or you’d like to explore non-monogamy concepts, how about inviting another person to your bed? If you’re in a long-term, serious relationship, start a conversation with your partner and ask for their opinion on it. Of course, you will do the same if it’s with a person who is your sex partner, only there is more risk with relationships.

You might decide to have a threesome or group sex, and the most important thing about it is to practice safe sex. Including more people in your sexual life requires more attention and preparation, both physically and emotionally. If you discover that having sex with more people at the same time is something that excites you. You can start practicing it more and discover something new about your pleasure with each experience.

#5 Try BDSM

When talking about porn movies, BDSM is one of the most popular categories people enjoy watching. So, if you’re curious to try it out, why not suggest to your partner a night of hot BDSM passion? However, as pleasure is intertwined with pain in the BDSM world. You will need to talk about the limitations and what things are off the table. Most couples will determine a safe word they will use once they want to end the foreplay or the sex.

Also, you will notice that BDSM consists of a wide range of different techniques. So make sure you go into it step by step. Another thing that would be quite useful to know before you start exploring the BDSM world is to think about the aftercare element. As things can get rough, it’s nice to know that you and your partner can go back to hugging, kissing, cuddling. And deep conversation after you’ve had the orgasms of your lives. 

#6 Watch Porn

If you’re determined to start having wild sex with your partner, you will need a source of inspiration. After all, our tricks can only do so much, right? So, why not dive into an endless library of porn movies you can filter by your own interests? Instead of having a movie night on Friday. Why not have a porn movie night with your partner and discover new things you’d like to try in the bedroom?

Browse through different categories, read what other users are recommending. And you can even join forums and chats where you can also inspire other people with your sex ideas. Such places are great to inspire you and also to connect you with a like-minded group of people. Those who are looking for an extra in their sexual relationship might even find them there.

In Conclusion

To do it like a porn star, you will need to be ready to look deep into your fantasies. Share them with your partner. And start practicing them in the bedroom. If you’re not used to wild, free sex without limitations, it will take a while for you to get used to it. And don’t worry if some of the things you try out don’t work. There is plenty of ideas waiting for you to turn them into reality!

 

 

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Tantric Sex Positions That Will Blow Your Mind

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If you and your partner have been researching the best tantric sex positions to improve your sexual life, that means you are looking for something more than just sex – you’re looking for a connection. Even if you haven’t been looking into tantra that much, and are curious to discover what’s it about, this article will provide you with all the information you need to connect with your partner on a more meaningful level and maybe enhance your relationship and not just your sexual life. 

So, for those who don’t know what tantra actually is, tantra is considered a system of combining breaths, sounds, movements, and focus that lead to longer and more intense orgasms, more intimacy, more significant connection, altered states of reality, and transcendence during sex. 

Tantra vs Kama Sutra

If you’re new to this term, you might easily confuse Tantra and Kama Sutra, although they are very different in their nature. Kama Sutra is focused on advanced sex positions while Tantra shows you ways to move and connect with your energy while in these certain positions, which then turns these positions into a completely different experience for you. When trying tantric sex positions, partners should be aware of taking deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling, in order to activate their nervous system that leads to a flow state. 

As much as Tantra is not focused so much on the specific positions, there are a few positions that will be used more often in Tantra to achieve incredible orgasms and an even deeper connection with your partner. If you were looking for new tantric sex positions to try out, here is the list of our favorites!

#1 Goddess Pose

If you want to feel like a goddess during sex, this position is perfect for you. The insertive partner will have to lie on their back, while the receptive one squats over the partner who is beneath them. While doing so, their feet should be flat on the ground. Think of it like a cowgirl position, yet with a more profound experience. 

When you’re in the goddess pose, make sure you maintain eye contact with each other. While the partner on their back can enjoy the goddess riding them and making them feel all kinds of sensations. Don’t forget about inhaling and exhaling deeply. While trying to connect your breath, and get into a flow you’ll never forget.

#2 Open Pincer

In the Open Pincer pose, the receptive partner will lay down while their legs will be in the penetrative partner’s hands. On the other hand, the penetrative partner will kneel on their knees and move towards the receiving partner. For even a better sensation, you can use a pillow or sex wedge under the hip of the partner who is laying down.

There are various reasons why this position is great for tantric sex. It’s great for anal sex, and also for vaginal penetration. The Open Pincer position also creates more space in the vulva, and it’s recommended for self-clitoral stimulation. Last but not least, it’s a position that allows partners to maintain eye contact and shared breath which leads to great pleasure and orgasm. 

#3 Snake Trap

This position is quite different from the previous two mentioned above as the couple will not be close to each other. However, their legs will by being entwined in “V” shapes, while sitting across from each other. Both partners will have their hands on the ankles of the other person to maintain stability and leverage. 

This position is perfect for those looking for a bit more shallow penetration, without losing eye contact. It’s also great for those who love having the entire body view of each other as the position is exposing their bodies. More importantly, it’s great for deeper emotional intimacy, sharing breath, and even for foreplay. 

#4 The Tiger

If you’re a big fan of a spooning position or simply love to cuddle a lot during sex. The Tiger position is what you’ll be most interested to try out with your partner. This variation of the spooning position creates more space between the chest of the insertive partner and the back of the receptive one. To get into it, both partners will need to lie down next to each other on their sides. 

This is one of the tantric sex positions that doesn’t require so much energy and stamina. So any couple can try it at a certain point in their relationship. If you and your partner are looking for an intimate, slow. And sensual position to enjoy each other and achieve great orgasm together, the Tiger is perfect for you. 

#5 Third Eye Bliss

Just by reading the name of this tantric sex position. You already know it’s mostly about connection and eye contact, right? The Third Eye Bliss is a missionary position in which one partner will lay on their back while the insertive partner will start the penetration. The partner who is penetrating will be on top of the receiving partner looking them in the eyes and maintaining the connection and shared breath. 

Both partners can focus on inhaling and exhaling at the same time. And seeing what sensations it causes in their bodies. Once they start feeling all that sexual energy moving through their bodies. They can inhale it up to their spine, all the way into their brain, and slowly exhale it. 

Conclusion

Whichever tantric sex position you choose, you will not be wrong. All these positions are great to enhance your sexual life, and also your relationships. Talk to your partner to discover which position they would like to try and start practicing them when you are ready. Soon, you will discover a completely different dimension of sex that will produce more pleasure than you could ever imagine. 

 

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Tickle Orgasms And Everything You Need To Know About It

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 Tickle Orgasms And Everything You Need To Know About It

 

Have you heard of tickle orgasms or the arousal a person will feel when being tickled? If this is your first time hearing about it, don’t worry – you’re not the only one. As much as knismolagnia, the official name of tickle orgasm, is just another kink that someone might enjoy. We have rarely heard about this term or even discussed it among our friends while casually conversating about sex. 

Tickling Fetish

Tickling is a form of stimulation that is produced by a light touch on one of the sensitive areas of the body. Such as armpits, collar bones, stomach, ribs, feet, inner thighs, behind the knees and elbows, etc. When talking about sexual fetishes. Tickling can play only a part of the sexual art or it can be the entire play. Also, tickling fetish can also be enjoyed even if there is no nudity or overt sexual activity. 

Those who have this particular fetish can achieve orgasm just from tickling alone. In other words, there is no other stimulation needed to have an orgasm. Besides getting tickled to have an orgasm, there are people who are being turned on when tickling other people or just watching them getting tickled. 

If you want to take your tickling fetish a step further. You can even use props such as feathers, vibrators, electrical current. Or something else that might enhance this stimulation. Depending on how you want to express and practice your kink. You can choose from a variety of options and decide whether you will use it just as foreplay or you want to reward your sexual partner with an orgasm. 

Tickle Or Fetish?

To respond to that question, we’ll need to first go back to the definition of fetish. It is when a person or object has a deeper meaning for someone and becomes part of its favorite sexual experiences. In some cases, they are absolutely required for a person to climax. Tickling in its nature is not so different from foreplay. However, what makes it fetish as it occurs in sexual scenarios and it leads to sexual pleasure. Simply put, a tickling fetish means you get turned on when someone tickles you or vice versa.

In psychology, having a tickling fetish is considered atypical behavior. However, it is more than usual and completely normal for a person to experience this feeling. And sensations that come with it. 

Tickling & Sexual Pleasure

Now, let’s explore the tickling fetish a bit more if we want to find the answer to why some people feel sexual pleasure from getting tickled. If you’re to ask a person with knismolagnia what turns them on, a common response would be related to laughter. When a person is being entertained by another person’s actions so hard that they can’t help themself to laugh. It’s quite sexy and doesn’t seem like anything awkward, right? 

The other common reason is the arousal that comes from the physical sensation. In other words, tickling will get people turned on because this sensation is pleasurable for them. We can’t also avoid the fact that tickling involves the body’s largest organ, the skin. 

Tickling fetish is also quite common in the BDSM world where ticklers might enjoy the feeling of dominance and the ability to make the tickled squirm, and the tickler might feel helpless. For instance, the dominant partner might use blindfolds and restraints to improve that powerless element and add more passion into the game. Speaking from the tickled’s perspective, if they are tickle-averse. They can even relish the aspect of torture that being tickled brings for someone who is completely restrained from moving. 

Is Tickling Fetish Common? 

Just like the majority of fetishes, it’s difficult to determine whether a certain fetish is common or not because they were never documented in a scientific way. Even with surveys on sex, we cannot rely on people telling the complete truth about their sexual activities and preferences due to many factors such as stigma, taboo, and shame. 

However, if you were to look up the term ‘tickle porn’ on the Internet, you will find more than 600,000 results. Which kind of implies that the fetish is more common than you’d think. There are even dating sites created specifically for people that share this fetish and want to meet other people who would love to experience a tickle orgasm. 

How Safe Is It? 

There is really a small chance of being at any risk when getting tickled. Especially because there are no fluids exchanged between the partners. More importantly, neither of the partners will be permanently scarred or damaged from the tickling fetish. Of course, there might be some reflexes involved that might come as a body’s natural response to being exposed to tickling. Yet these things happen quite rarely as both partners give their consent on exploring tickling in the sexual concept. 

When even talking about more serious consequences, there have been only a small number of cases of death by laughter. What’s important to note here is that neither of these people who are a part of this statistics has actually died because of the laughter. Being in poor health was the reason for their death. So it’s safe to say that you cannot die of laughing too much or too hard. 

If a person is laughing too much for more than usual, they might faint or it might trigger cataplexy, a lack of ability to move your muscles. As it is with everything, try to not take it too far. If you enjoy tickling or getting tickled, be conscious of it, and instead of testing the boundaries. Remind yourself that you’re doing it for the incredible sexual pleasure and great orgasm that will follow. Going to the extreme will rarely produce more sexual pleasure, so keep it modest, yet funky! After all, we are talking about tickling!

 

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Finding The Best Sex Toy For Men

 

Usually, when talking about the tools to achieve pleasure, we rarely talk about finding the perfect sex toy for men. Without a doubt, women are spending more money on sex toys. Yet the male audience is becoming more and more interested in this type of product as well. Men are determined to enjoy exploring their sexual pleasure, whether it’s through masturbation or having sex with their partner.

As much as you might assume that the male sex toy market is one-dimensional. The reality is actually quite the opposite. Nowadays, men have numerous options to choose from to enhance their pleasure during masturbation or sex. Regardless of the sex toy you might choose. You will soon start enjoying priceless orgasms and might end up buying more and more sex toys. 

To help you make your decision. We have prepared an overview of the best sex toys for men which can be used for your solo play. Or you might even decide to share them with your special one. It’s completely up to you!

#1 Lil Tootsie

Let’s start with the sex toy you can use alone or with someone. The Lil Tootsie is the perfect choice for men as its silicone sleeve features a ribbed material. Reminding the user of a vagina. Also, it can be used in a different way where a user would pull it tight to mimic a sucking sensation. 

So, if you’re tired of all these vibrators on the market and are looking for something completely different. Lil Tootsie is perfect for you. This nonvibrating toy can be used in any moment of masturbation and couples can use it as a tool in a game of two. 

#2 Fun Factory MANTA Vibrating Stroker

If you were assuming that wand vibrators can only bring pleasure to vaginas and vulvas, you were completely wrong. This vibrating stroker is your go-to toy when you’re looking for a little bit of fun in the sheets with your sexual partner. This pretty impressive sex toy comes with a loop handle that fits around the shaft to ensure you achieve stroking pleasure.  Or a really focused deep sensation. 

Its ridges hold lube and its motor will vibrate along your entire penis so you can enjoy it however you want. In other words, if you love great handjobs or blowjobs. Having a toy like this vibrating stroker will stimulate exactly these feelings for you. 

#3 Classic Pink Lady Fleshlight

If the thought of vagina is what turns you on when you’re masturbating alone in your bed. You will be happy to hear that there are more sex toys for men created in a form of the vagina. The ‘fleshlight’ is designed so it reminds a person of a vagina while they are masturbating. To experience the pleasures of penetration. All you will have to do is to slip it over your penis to stimulate the experience of vaginal or anal sex.

Besides its stunning design, men have praised its effect. And are suggesting it to anyone who would love to take their masturbation game to the next level. And, it’s perfect for those who are single as this toy can best be enjoyed only when it’s you and nobody else in the room. 

#4 SVAKOM Alex Neo Mastubator

Anybody who loves seeing the wonders of technology in every aspect of their lives will adore this SVAKOM Alex Neo Masturbator. It’s a thrusting stroker that shows its full potential if the user utilizes an app to explore many modes and audible experiences. This toy is perfect for all of those who want to use it with their long-distance partner as you can communicate via app or video chat. 

Moreover, you can pair it with the porn of your choice and align the strokes accordingly which brings a completely another dimension of virtual reality masturbation. If this is a bit too much for you, just simply remove the detachable textured sleeve. And find your own pleasure. 

#5 Pleasure Works Gala Confetti Mini Anal Plug

For those who are curious to explore anal penetration and have yet to try it, this anal plug is the perfect solution. This is a small and simple butt plug designed to bring incredible anal pleasure. And you will love it from the first moment you try it. 

This confetti-decorated silicone anal plug is very flexible to help you truly enjoy the penetration and it’s tapered for easy insertion. And we can’t forget its wings that give you complete control over movements while you are masturbating. 

#6 Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration

If you’re a fan of vibrators, you will probably want to have more than just one. After all, some men have an entire collection of different vibrators they use quite often. So, if you’re one of them too, the Heat Vibration will provide you with all the levels of pleasure you’re fantasizing about. And more importantly, it will also help you get to climax. Pretty impressive, right? 

This sex toy includes a very soft sleeve with pleasure ridges, two motors, and 70 vibration patterns. No wonder why most men recommend it for absolute pleasure as you’ll have plenty of options to explore until you find the one that provides you with the best orgasm!

#7 Lelo LOKI Wave

You’ve already well familiar, or we can see somewhat an expert, in the anal play? Then, you’ll love LOKI Wave by Lelo! It brings incredible prostate play to its users due to the adjustable power with ten stimulation modes. This sex toy was created to provide great pleasure and stimulation inside and out. With this one, you will have two motors targeting your prostate and perineum. While the stimulator will move back and forth against the prostate. Getting you closer to your climax. 

The Bottom Line

If you’re looking to buy your first sex toy, you’ll be surprised by the wide choice of products. More importantly, diversity will help each individual find something that will work for them. Also, look for sex toys that are designed for the level of experience you have. It’s not the same to use a sex toy for experts and the one for beginners. That’s why it’s vital that you research well and read reviews before buying, so you can have as many orgasms as you want!

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Couple’s Sex Toys Everyone Needs To Know About

 

If you’re in a relationship, finding a few couple’s sex toys might bring that fun to the sheets you both were looking to regain. After all, it’s a small investment that brings incredible benefits to your sexual health and wellness. If you’re assuming that sex toys are not what you two need to spice things up and just unwind after a long day. Maybe this article will change your mind. 

We are used to spending hundreds of dollars on a treadmill, a new juicer, or anything else we believe that might benefit us in any way, so why not do the same when it comes to sex? Regardless of what you’re looking for in bed, you will easily find a toy that can help you turn each of your fantasies into a reality. 

Once you and your partner agree on this investment, the toy hunt can begin. You will find a wide range of toys designed specifically for women, men, or even both. Many toys out there even have a diverse use, so you can truly make the most of them. And start experimenting with different types of sexual pleasure with your partner.

To help you make the right choice, you will find the best sex toys for couples currently on the market and tips on how to use them for maximum fun!

#1 Magic Wand Original

How can you expect to do some between-the-sheets magic without a magic wand? Many are saying it is their favorite vibrator. And what’s even more surprising is that this Hitachi Magic Wand has been on the market for over 50 years. It has two speeds, low and high, and is a great option for different pleasurable uses for both women and men. 

The Magic Wand Original comes with a 2.5-inch soft head and is completely bendable. All you have to do is to choose between the two speeds and this magic wand will help you relieve any type of stress you might have. With your partner, you can use its good vibrations to heat up the things between you two. And give each other the sensations of your lifetime.

#2 We-Vibe Sync

This vibrator prouds itself to be the number one vibrator for couples. We-Vibe Sync is a cuff-shaped vibrator. And its top is shaped like a pancake ensuring it stimulates the clitoral part and a smaller vibrator that stimulates the G-spot while the couple is having sex.

The great thing about it is that the cuff will stay in the desired position preventing the device from slipping in and out during sex. If you and your partner are looking for sex toys that can be used in a pool or ocean. You’ll definitely want We-Vibe Sync as it’s completely waterproof. 

#3 We-Vibe Couples Massager

If you prefer stimulation over penetration, you will love the We-Vibe Couples Massager! It’s created to bring a lot of clitoral stimulation to partners with a vagina. The reason why this toy is so popular with heterosexual couples is that it can be used at any moment before. During. And even after sex. 

You can use it as a tool for foreplay. Yet it can be perfect once you and your partner have both achieved orgasm. And you wish to start the second round. Nothing will get you going like a good, stimulative sex toy that both of you can use.

#4 Vesper Necklace

Okay, you will probably not be encouraged to walk around with the sex toy you and your partner just bought, right? What if that sex toy seemed like an elegant piece of jewelry hanging around your neck? Vesper Necklace is such a sex toy you’ll love to wear and it can also serve as a great conversation starter with new people. 

Choose between three colors and three suggestive phrases to be engraved on the necklace for a more personalized touch. And, once the vibrations of this beauty kick in. You and your sexual partner can drop any conversation you were having and go straight into the action.

 

#5 Trojan Vibrating Fingertip Personal Massager

If you enjoy the sensation of vibration, yet would prefer avoiding toys that are created for penetration. This toy is the right choice for you. The famous preservative company Trojan has designed an exciting vibrating fingertip massager that will go beyond your lover’s touch. With it, the couples can enjoy the boost of high-sensory titillation while at the same time staying connected. 

Its simple design allows you to create layers of excitement with just your hand going from one part of your partner’s body to another. Including the erogenous zone and genitals. This personal massager is perfect for foreplay and during sex as it creates a complete explosion of pleasure!

#6 Starsi Silicone Rechargeable Waterproof Vibrator By Cute Little Fuckers

This is truly a unisex toy, as it can be used by anybody, any gender, and orientation, and on any part of the body. This interesting sex toy can be used over the nipples, vulva, penis, neck, or anywhere else where you think there will be beneficial and provide pleasure to you or your partner. 

Based on the idea that our entire bodies are covered in nerve endings. This little star will blow your mind as it touches your skin and moves around with your partner guiding it. Explore each other’s bodies and find an erogenous zone where you never thought it exists.

#7 Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrating Cock Ring

If you’re into sex toys, you have probably already tried one of the rings on the market. However, there is nothing like this little rabbit. It will add stimulation during sex with your partner and because of the base of the vibrating part. It brings incredible clitoris stimulation.

With its bunny ears, this sex toy definitely has some charm you’ll need to explore further. What’s interesting to most couples is that this ring can be used with a remote. So the partner who is wearing it can control the buzz of the ring. 

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Erectile Dysfunction & Its Impact on Relationships

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Erectile Dysfunction & Its Impact on Relationships

 

There are no perfect relationships, so it’s completely normal to ask questions about the issues that appear in them, Such as erectile dysfunction and its impact on relationships. Of course, there are other emotional and physical problems a couple can have, yet noticing the lack of honest. Valuable conversation around erectile dysfunction (ED) proves the need of talking about it. 

This common condition results in difficulties in sexual activities with another person and sometimes, it even leads to a loss of intimacy in relationships and marriages, which then affects the mental wellbeing of the couple. 

So, what is exactly erectile dysfunction, why it happens and how it impacts long-term relationships and marriage? Read all about it in this article. 

What is ED?

Erectile dysfunction, also referred to as ED, is the inability to get or keep a man’s erection firm enough to have successful sexual intercourse. When it happens occasionally, erectile dysfunction is nothing unusual as many men will experience it during stressful times. However, if the ED becomes frequent, it might be a sign of health problems that require certain treatment. 

Besides health issues, it’s important to say that ED can be a result of emotional or relationship difficulties which will also need the help of a professional in order to be resolved. So, what causes the ED? 

It occurs because of issues at any point in the man’s erection process. An erection comes as a result of increased blood flow into the penis. This blood flow is stimulated by one of these two options: sexual thoughts or direct contact with the penis.

So, when a man gets sexually excited, the muscles in his penis will start relaxing. This will get the blood flow through the penile arteries by filling two chambers which once filled with blood, the penis will start growing. The erection is considered done when the muscles contract so that the accumulated blood can flow out through the veins in the penis.

Causes of ED

There are numerous possible causes of erectile dysfunction and, as mentioned, they can involve both emotional and physical conditions. Some of the most common causes are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, obesity, kidney disease and low testosterone levels. 

When talking about mental health, there are also various possible causes of ED, such as stress, anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, and even Parkinson’s disease and multiple sclerosis. 

However, these causes can even be the result of the lifestyle a person has. For instance, erectile dysfunction can occur due to relationship problems, prescription medications, drug use, alcohol or tobacco consumption. 

Erectile dysfunction can be caused by one of the mentioned factors or even several of them. That’s why it’s vital to seek help from an adequate professional and get the treatment on time. 

How ED Affects Relationships

When in a long-term relationship or marriage. ED is definitely something you wish to prevent from happening, so how to act when it happens? The important thing is not to panic as erectile dysfunction is treatable in most cases. There are numerous effective treatments available that can successfully restore sexual function and enhance satisfaction in the relationship that way.

With that being said, it’s possible that a person will need to try out more than one treatment until they find the option that works best for them. During the entire process, their partner should be open, caring and supportive. Knowing that your partner is with you will help you feel less stressed about the treatment. Which can also have positive effects on your ED. 

When faced with ED, the person will most likely be recommended some of the following approaches:

  • Open communication
  • Counseling
  • Practicing other forms of intimacy
  • Changes in your lifestyle
  • Honest and open communication

Understanding that ED is a common condition that happens to many men around the world, you should know that feelings such as guilt and embarrassment will only worsen the situation. That’s why it’s always recommended to practice other forms of intimacy so that you and your partner can still feel close to each other while you’re treating your ED.

Erectile Dysfunction Treatment

The right treatment for erectile dysfunction will greatly depend on the cause of it. Sometimes, a person will need only talk therapy to solve the issue successfully and other times, a combination of treatments will be required. 

The doctor might even prescribe you medications to help you deal better with the ED symptoms. With that being said, it might even take several medications until you find the one that works best for you. These are some of the medications prescribed to people with ED to stimulate blood flow to the penis: 

  • Avanafil 
  • Sildenafil
  • Vardenafil 
  • Tadalafil 
  • Alprostadil 

You should never take any of these medications before consulting a doctor as they might not be suitable for you and they might even have an effect on other medications you are taking. 

Another common way of treating ED is with talk therapy as many causes of ED are actually psychological. Such as stress, anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. You can expect to go over various topics with your therapist like stress or anxiety factors, how you feel about sex and subconscious conflicts that might affect your sex drive.

If your relationship is affected by ED and you feel as if you and your partner can use therapy to have a space for a healthy conversation. You should also consider relationship counseling. 

Another method of treatment you will probably hear about is vacuum pumps. It is a treatment that uses the creation of a vacuum to stimulate the erection. As the device is working, the blood is drawn into the penis causing an erection. This method of treatment is usually recommended when the cause is physical.

Don’t Ignore it!

As much as it can get uncomfortable for you to talk about erectile dysfunction. Keep in mind that it’s a common condition that can happen to any man on the planet. A lot of factors can lead to ED, so blaming yourself or feeling ashamed to share this with someone shouldn’t be a part of your coping mechanism. Instead, think of it as part of your sexual health and do everything you can to resolve it and make sure you feel 100% like yourself again! 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). And an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Pregnancy Sex Positions

Your Ultimate Guide To Pregnancy Sex Positions

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Your Ultimate Guide To Pregnancy Sex Positions

 

You will change your mind quickly once you see our list of pregnancy sex positions. There is so much to enjoy in bed with your partner, without even mentioning orgasms that are more profound, longer, and more sensual when compared to non-pregnant sex. 

Many couples decide not to have penetrative sex because they fear it will hear the baby, so it’s time to debunk all these myths around pregnancy sex and give you and your partner a chance to enjoy your sexual activities without worries.

From oral and anal sex to using blankets and pillows to spice up the things in the bedroom, here is every position you’ll be able to try when expecting!

1. Doggy Style

If you and your partner were never fans of the missionary positions, you will be excited to learn that sex from behind is actually the most recommended sex position during pregnancy. This position will keep the pressure off the belly, so the pregnant partner can feel more comfortable during sex.

You can also use pillows, towels, or blankets so the position feels more comfortable and experiences a better orgasm. However, while penetrating, it is vital to control its depth. It’s possible that the pregnant partner feels the penis hitting the cervix which can make her feel uncomfortable and cause pain, so be sure to take it slower than usual. 

2. Get On Top!

Many women tend to feel more sexual satisfaction when they are on top of their partner as it allows them to control penetration. Imagine the feeling when pregnant! This sex position is also supported by science, so you can enjoy it without fear of hurting the baby, your partner, or yourself.

The most important thing to do is to adjust your body so it feels comfortable by widening your stance or leaning back. This will keep the belly from tilting you forward and help you manage the situation better. 

3. Doing It While Hugging Each Other!

Well, you will not only hug each other, as the spooning position is perfect for a nice and easy penetration. One partner is holding the other one and penetrating from behind while they are both lying down, facing away from each other. Regardless of the penetration, it’s a good idea to touch the clitoris as that’s where the center for pleasure lies. 

Of course, you can penetrate with any other sex position and then switch to spooning if your partner doesn’t feel comfortable with it. The important thing is to penetrate slowly so the pregnant partner doesn’t feel any discomfort or pain during the penetration and sex. 

4. On Your Back, Cowgirl!

A reversed cowgirl is another great sex position that can bring so much pleasure to both partners. The pregnant partner can do it by straddling the other person and it’s also great for clitoris stimulation. Yet, if you wish to enjoy this sex position, you should make the most of it quickly as it’s not recommendable when the belly gets bigger.

If you enjoy it too much and want to keep doing it with your partner, make sure you provide your body with support by positioning arms behind you and leaning back. Many pregnant women opt for this position as it keeps their stomachs from being compressed which often can affect the sex drive. 

5. On Your Feet

During your first and second trimester, you can easily enjoy an orgasm while standing and having sex with your partner. The pregnant partner will need a bit of support so it’s a good idea to hold them during this position. Make sure you are on solid, stable ground and nothing can affect your balance and, potentially, cause harm. 

In the late second and third trimester, make sure you avoid having sex while standing as it will not be easy to keep your balance and enjoy sex. If at any time, you start feeling like you’re losing your stability, place your palms against a wall and lean in. The later in the pregnancy, the time you spend having sex standing needs to be shorter and shorter. 

6. Oral Sex

If you and your partner enjoy giving and receiving oral sex, the good news is that you will not have to give it up during pregnancy. It is one of the sex types you can enjoy during all three trimesters, and especially during the last one. As many of the sex positions will start to feel uncomfortable as the belly gets bigger, good-old oral sex will never disappoint. 

Also, if you are worried about a pregnant partner swallowing the sperm, don’t be. Sperm cannot affect the baby in any way so you can freely choose it each time you’re simply not up for penetrative sex or want to use it as foreplay. 

7. Anal Sex

Anal sex might not be the first position you will think about when being pregnant, however, it’s completely safe. You can practice anal sex with your partner at your rear or even while in the spooning position. So, if you usually do it the doggy style, why not change it a bit with anal penetration? 

One thing you’ll need to keep in mind is that it would be good to already have experience in anal sex before pregnancy as the pregnant partner might feel too much discomfort and pain. The experience will not harm the baby, yet the woman might feel emotional stress as a result of it.

The Bottom Line

Whichever of these sex positions you will try out, you should always practice them with caution. If a pregnant partner starts feeling uncomfortable, it’s time to either change the position or stop completely. Always communicate before, during, and after sex to make sure you’re both on the same page. Having sex can incredibly improve your intimacy and connect you two even more during this experience. After all, you should be enjoying pregnancy sex, so do it right!

 

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

What Do 50 Year Old Men Want In Bed

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What Do 50 Year Old Men Want In Bed

 

If you’re in your 50’s and started a relationship, you are probably asking yourself what do 50 year old men want in bed. Understanding what your partner needs in bed is crucial for any relationship to work. A man in his 50’s is not much different from men of other ages, yet there are a few things that differentiate them from the rest of the male population. 

In this article, you will find all the specific traits that 50 year old men want to see in bed from their sexual partner. Before we dive into these valuable tips, keep in mind that there is one aspect that will affect how well you two get along in the bedroom, and that’s open communication. Share your likes and dislikes and ask him what his preferences are. A good conversation is often the best start to beautiful experiences. 

1.Love Yourself First

As much as confidence and self-love are vital for any relationship we decide to build in our lives, the lack of it at this age will be a turn-off for most of the men in their 50’s. An older man will find it difficult to connect with a woman who has low self-confidence. After you’ve experienced a bunch of ups and downs, you should already be comfortable with who you are. Embrace your body and personality, and allow yourself to experience something beautiful where you can be yourself.

2. Intimacy Over Sex

You might assume that men, and especially older men, are looking only for sex. As much as women, men like to enjoy the act of sex and maybe some of them will need it more often than most women do, yet each of them prefers intimacy over sex. So, you should aim for intimacy if you’re dating a 50 year old man. He wants to feel close to you and the best way to be intimate is to take your time when having sex. 

3. Be Playful

There might be different personalities when talking about men in their 50’s, yet they all like playful, confident women. Playing in bed, exploring each other’s bodies, understanding what you both like, and just having fun is what every 50 year old man will want. Many things should be taken seriously in life, and sex is not one of them. Try to be more creative and open to different options, positions and places as you definitely won’t regret it. 

4. Take Initiative

When you were younger, you might have waited for a man to ask for your number, invite you for dinner or initiate sex, however, now, that’s not that sexy. You are a self-sufficient woman who knows how to get what she wants, and if she wants a man, she knows how to get his attention. If you’re in a relationship with an older man, he will be more than happy if you initiate sex as well. Making him feel desired and attractive to you is more powerful than any other aphrodisiac on the planet. 

5. Take Him Out Of Bed

When talking about you initiating sex, how about you take it one or more steps further – literary? You can do it on the counter, against the wall, on your balcony, in the shower, or somewhere outside your home. You can even take him to a location you have found and plan a romantic picnic for the two of you and then surprise him with a little bit of action. If you’re not a fan of outdoor sex, you can still spice things up in the comfort of your home. 

6. Show Him His Your Hero

The same way you can’t completely revel in sex when you’re not at your best, he struggles with the same. Complimenting your man on how he fixed your dishwasher or how he painted the walls of your house goes a long way. And, you can compliment him on more than just the chores. You can also thank him for being such a great listener or show how impressed you are with the relationship he has with his kids. Showing you’re noticing his strengths will make him feel better about himself and of course, your relationship. Not to mention that he will also be motivated to give you a compliment or two.

7. Don’t Be Quick To Judge

If your sexual partner shares a fantasy he wants to try out with you, don’t judge him. You will make him feel bad about his suggestion and he will not be motivated to share his intimate thoughts with you. The same goes for any other aspects of his life. Don’t judge him for sleeping an hour later than usual as his work might be more stressful than usual. Don’t make him feel bad just because you see or hear something you dislike. Instead, talk to him to understand his reasons behind it and you will easily find the solution. 

8. Be His Friend

We’ve talked about intimacy, open-mindedness and taking initiative, yet all of these things come short if you are not friends. It’s difficult to be attracted to a person for a longer period if they are not significant to you. Try building that relationship the same way you do with your new friends. Talk about hopes, fears, hobbies, opinions, and everything else you usually share with your friends. This will significantly improve your sex life and the attraction you feel for one another. 

9. For More, Ask Him

We are all different and if you are doing all of the things above, why not simply ask him? By showing you want to please him in bed, he will see how important he is for you and that you are willing to do work on your relationship. When talking about sex, make sure you start the conversation by sharing your desires and asking for his feedback. By simply asking him a bunch of questions related to sex, he might feel attacked or as he might think he is not good enough for you. Show him that he means a lot to you and that you want to make sure you are both enjoying your relationship. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Your Partner Freezes

What To Do When Your Partner Freezes

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What To Do When Your Partner Freezes

 

If you were looking into ways to stimulate the vagus nerve, it’s probably because your partner freezes due to the dorsal vagal system. As the vagus has two branches, dorsal and ventral, the one responsible for freezing is the dorsal or back vagus. We share this primitive nerve with all animals, and it goes down our spine, impacting our lungs, heart, and stomach.

Usually, the dorsal vagus has a positive function when it helps our body pendulate between arousal and relaxation. Yet, when the sympathetic system gets too aroused, the dorsal vagus nerve might shut down, causing the entire system going into freeze. This usually occurs in cases of trauma and shame. 

When taking into consideration anxiety, stress, and depression, is it possible for your partner to become more resilient? There are several techniques you can practice the next time your partner freezes.

The Freeze State

If your partner is in the ‘freeze’ state, it means they went to the most primitive pattern, also known as the emergency state. If your partner is going through this state, it means they feel hopeless and are not able to find their way out. They will probably feel depressed, conserve their energy, dissociate, feel overwhelmed and confused. When experiencing the ‘freeze’ state, the person’s insulin activity and fuel storage will grow and their pain thresholds will grow as well. 

When they are in this stressed state which can also accumulate a lot of anxiety, it’s incredibly challenging to be curious or even empathetic. Moreover, they might struggle to break the prefrontal cortex, meaning they will not be able to function, communicate, guide, or coordinate the functions of different parts of their brain efficiently. Simply put, when a person freezes, they are not able to regulate their attention and focus. 

If this is something that your partner is going through. You are probably curious to learn techniques that might help them deal with it. 

#1 Deep Breathing

When anything is making us feel depressed, anxious, scared, or stressed, the simplest yet efficient technique is to focus on deep breathing. If your partner is struggling with freezing, advise them to start practicing deep breathing more. Breathing slowly and deeply will activate their vagus nerve. And send messages to the brain that will help them lower the blood pressure and heart rate. 

The best way to practice it is by turning it into a daily routine. This way the person will think of it as a solution more often when in this type of ‘emergency’ situation. They can practice it early in the morning before work or in the evening before going to sleep.

#2 Singing

This might not be the first thing that will come to mind when thinking about things your partner can do when struggling with freezing yet singing, humming or chanting can all successfully increase the heart rate variability. With the higher heart rate variability or HRV, the rate of morbidity and mortality will decrease and well-being and quality of life will significantly improve. 

If you wish to help your partner even more, why not help him with this fun technique? By turning it into an interesting activity for couples, they will no longer be focused on solving their ‘freezing’ situation. Instead, they will be busy having a great time with you!

#3 Exercise

You already know that regular exercise leads to many health benefits, so it’s not surprising that it also helps with the vagus nerve. Physical activity is good for your brain’s cognitive faculties, mental health, and gut flow. The reason why there are so many benefits from exercising is that it stimulates the vagus nerve.

When it comes to the types of exercises a person can do, it really depends on preferences. Maybe your partner loves jogging, so you can go with them to a nearby park for a morning jog. If they prefer going to the gym, why not surprise them with a paid subscription to the closest gym? Of course, if none of these activities is something you’d like to do with your partner, you can always offer your unconditional moral support. 

#4 Laughing

Your partner freezing is definitely not entertaining for you nor them, however, there are plenty of other things that make you both happy in this world, right? Think of laughing as a natural immune booster. Similar to singing, it increases heart rate variability. So if your partner doesn’t like singing, laughing will surely be something they might be more interested in.

Think about your favorite comedy movies and organize a movie night at home. Or, take them to a stand-up comedy event to laugh at jokes with a bigger audience. They might have a friend who is incredibly funny and entertains everyone around them. Set up dinner at home or you invite them to a barbeque. So your partner can have a great time and increase their heart rate variability without even thinking about it. 

#5 Cold Exposure

Being exposed to cold temperatures also helps with freezing in a way it increases the rest and digest response, however, be careful with this one. This doesn’t mean you should sleep with an open window in the middle of the winter or walk around with short sleeves when it’s snowing. It simply means that your partner can have a cold shower before going to bed, drink cold beverages during the day and spend more time outside if the temperatures are low. Introducing cold to your body helps also those who have sleep issues. 

So, your partner might need to think about changing their cup of coffee for a cold version of it. Or doing outdoor activities instead of staying at home or going to the gym.

In Final Words

If your partner is experiencing freezing and you weren’t sure how to provide him with the support he needs. This article offered you several efficient techniques that might help in this situation. However, it’s always recommended to talk to a professional as they will treat anxiety, stress, or depression better than these tools we have provided here. Be there for them and show them you understand what they are going through.

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

What To Ask From An Escort

What To Ask From An Escort

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What To Ask From An Escort

 

You are maybe feeling lonely or looking for a date for this big event your company is throwing, and you’re curious about what to ask from an escort as it seems like the most viable option for you at the moment. If you’ve decided to go on a date with an escort, you will notice many dating services out there you can easily call and request a companion for the occasion you need. 

If you feel intimidated or overwhelmed with the entire experience, you probably want to learn how to get the service quality you need. The common advice is to think of it like any other date, yet always do a background check on your chosen escort agency and the laws about escorting in your area. 

Once you have done proper research and you’re all set to make the call, just follow these guidelines and make sure you’re confident and straightforward in the conversation. 

#1 Explain Your Request

Once you are sure that the escort agency is not a scam, you should call the escort and start the conversation with them. Explain to them why you need their services, so they can provide you also with the information you need. For instance, you might need them to be your date for a wedding or a business event in your company. Whichever the occasion is, you will need to be clear and not hide anything from the escort. 

You don’t have to lay out too much about the event or yourself. Just share the important details such as the date, city, and the nature of the event so the escort knows what is expected of them. The rest of it can be discussed later in the conversation. 

#2 Age

The most important question you will need to ask when hiring an escort is their age. The person needs to be of the right and legal age if you don’t wish to end up in more problems you can handle. When asking about the age, you can ask for some type of identification from them as well. 

The easiest way to do so is via a video call and asking them to show you their ID. Any weird answer or stalling should immediately be a red flag for you and you shouldn’t hire that person and their escorting services. 

#3 Rate

When hiring any professional, you always ask for the price before paying for it. The same is with the escort. Ask in advance for their rate as it will show you if this person’s services are within your budget or not. However, as much as you wish to avoid hiring a professional that is too expensive, avoid those who seem too cheap as well. They probably will not offer the best services and you might end up with a horrible experience. 

Find the quality you can pay for as you will leave an impression wherever you go with your chosen escort. It should be a pleasant experience from the first to the last moment of the date. 

#4 Photo

You should ask them for their photo if you agreed to hire them. Imagine a situation where you are picking them up in your car and you see dozens of beautiful women walking down the street and you have no idea which one is she. Once you both agreed, ask kindly for their photo and explain to them why you are asking for it. 

If they are not okay with sharing their photos due to a certain reason, just set up a way for you two to recognize each other. It might be that you will call them when you’re there and talk to them until you see them, or you might video call them and figure it out even more easily. 

#5 Date Details

Besides the information about the escort, you will need to determine the date details with them to make sure everything goes well. Be clear about the place and the time you will meet, where you will go, what is expected of the escort and when the date will end. If there is a certain dress code, make sure you share it with them on time. 

It might seem irrelevant to you, yet you might take an escort to a boat party and find out there that they are seasick every time they get on a boat. Also, if they need to talk to someone important to you, like your boss or a friend, make sure you inform them about it so they can leave a good impression. 

Staying Safe

All of these questions you will ask are equally important as much as how the date goes when you are with the escort. If you start suspecting that something is off, it’s because it probably is. End the date with them and give them money for the taxi if you’re uncertain whether driving them back is a good idea or not. Your safety should always be your priority and as much as you took all the precaution measures you could think of, it might not go well as planned. 

Also, before going to this event with an escort, always make sure that your family or friends know where you will be and when you are thinking of going back to your home. You don’t have to share with anybody that you’re going there with an escort, yet knowing where you are will also help you feel more comfortable if this is the first time you’re hiring an escort. 

In Final Words

You’ve probably heard of many scams in the escorting world, and you probably want to avoid these situations as much as possible. So, make sure you ask for all the information that will turn this into a positive experience in the beginning. 

Don’t be afraid to ask if something seems wrong. Ask for clarifications, repeat the question if you’re not sure it was answered, and do proper research of the agency. Keep in mind that you are the client here and you have every right to check the quality of service before paying for it. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.