Edging a Female Orgasm & How To Become An Expert In It

Edging a Female Orgasm & How To Become An Expert In It

 

Edging a female orgasm refers to the practice of preventing yourself from reaching orgasm right when you’re about to experience the sexual climax. It is also known as surfing, peaking, and teasing. This term has become very popular lately as a way to describe reaching better orgasms, yet it was first mentioned over half a century ago as a treatment for premature ejaculation.

To edge an orgasm means to prevent sexual stimulation before having an orgasm, wait about 20-30 minutes, and stimulate yourself repeatedly until you’ve decided to orgasm. You can think of edging orgasms as turning your short morning jogs into marathons. 

Holistically, edging an orgasm can help you become more aware of your sexual responses when you’re masturbating or having sex with your partner by introducing mindfulness into your sex game.

 

Before You Start Edging

The more you are aware of the ways your body responds in bed, the less anxiety you will have in your sexual life. You will be more certain of things you want and don’t want to try out alone or with your partner, and you will be absolutely sure when you are about to come. This knowledge will help you understand yourself better as a sexual being and also bring more curiosity into your sex life. 

However, to truly master edging, you need to first learn the four stages of arousal, which can help you understand when to prevent yourself from orgasming and beginning stimulation:

  1. Excitement. You will notice your skin is starting to flush, muscles get tense, heartbeat is getting faster, and blood going down to your penis or vagina and clitoris. For people with a penis, their scrotum will withdraw. For people with a vagina, their vagina will get wet.
  2. Plateau. All the symptoms you experienced in the first stage will get even more intense. You will feel like being closer to an orgasm, and to edge it, you will need to slow down stimulation.
  3. Orgasm. A range of nerve and muscle responses will start happening, and you will notice a feeling of ecstasy, more lubrication in your vagina, or ejaculation of semen from your penis. However, if you’re practicing edging, this is the stage you will continuously postpone until you’re ready to have an orgasm.
  4. Resolution. Once you have had an orgasm, your tissues go back to their non-aroused sizes and colors, while your vitals normalize as well. In this stage, the refractory period starts, where you will not be able to get aroused for a period of time. It might last anywhere from a few minutes to a few days. 

 

That said, two people might feel emotions during each of these four stages. You might even not experience some of them, while others might appear in different stages. This is why it is important to pay attention to what responses occur in your body and when to be able to learn how to edge an orgasm successfully. 

 

Ways to Edge An Orgasm

If you’re curious about edging, start paying attention to what you feel before your orgasm and try to remain in that stage between plateau and orgasm. Listen to your body and focus on the signs. You will probably not be able to do it right away, and that is completely fine. Most people are not paying attention to how they come or what their orgasms include, so the learning process takes some time. 

There are several ways you can start experimenting with edging. If a certain method doesn’t work for you, just continue to the next one until you find the one that can help you easily edge into an orgasm and achieve more sexual pleasure. 

 

Solo

  • Turn your environment into something that is ideal for you. Lock the doors, put on your favorite music, turn down the lights, or do anything else that will put you in the mood.
  • Prepare your body for the adventure. Close your eyes and start touching yourself in areas that feel good until your vagina gets wet or your penis gets hard. 
  • Begin with masturbation. Stroke the penis, stimulate the clitoris, or do anything else that has previously helped you achieve orgasms.
  • Once you notice you’re close to having an orgasm, stop touching yourself and start breathing slowly and deeply. Open your eyes to become aware of your environment.
  • Think about what got you so excited and become more aware of stimulation,areas, or thoughts that bring you closer to an orgasm. Focus on how your body was changing as well – sweating, excitation, shaking, etc.
  • When you’re ready, start touching yourself or masturbating a bit faster. Repeat all the steps that proved successful before until you are ready to reach your orgasm. 
  • When you feel you’re close, let yourself experience this incredible orgasm, which will probably be much longer or more intense than any other orgasms you have experienced in your life. Compare how your orgasm went with and without edging. 

 

With Your Partner

  • Get aroused through foreplay or any other activities that you and your partner prefer doing before sex. It can be dirty talking, oral sex, licking or sucking nipples, stimulating the G-spot, etc.
  • Tell your partner and listen to them when giving cues or sharing ideas on what to do with each other. 
  • Once you’re both close to an orgasm, reduce or stop the stimulation until you go back to a plateau. 
  • Begin the stimulation again and repeat all the things you both liked until you are ready to orgasm.
  • After an orgasm, talk with your partner about how it felt to edge into an orgasm. Learning how your partner felt can help you improve this entire experience next time. 

 

In Final Words

With each of these methods, you can adjust them to your needs while trying them alone or with your sex partner. The important thing here is to maintain your curiosity and focus on how your body reacts. Edging a female orgasm will feel even better if your partner is learning how to edge their orgasm as well. This will unlock a range of incredible opportunities that will show you new things about your sexuality, so don’t just ignore it. 

 

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Help! I Have No Sex Drive and My Husband Is Mad!

Help! I Have No Sex Drive and My Husband Is Mad!

 

Have you ever thought, “I have no sex drive, and my husband is mad,” to yourself? You may have even attempted to look for advice on how to improve both your relationship and yourself online. Some wives even discuss this with their closest friends to figure out how to be more sexually active with their husbands.

If you care about this topic, keep reading as we explore all your options and their causes. Not being sexually interested in your partner in a monogamous sexual relationship must be addressed. There are times when we do not want to have frequent or any sex with our partners. However, if this phase is lasting too long and you do not know how to bring back that sex magic, it is time to examine what is going on in your relationship. 

 

What is Sex Drive?

Let us first define your sex drive before discussing why it is low and how to boost it. Our desire to have sex is called libido. A person with low sex drive has little or no desire for sex. This will be more noticeable in a long-term relationship than if you are single and not dating. 

A lack of sexual desire can damage your relationship and even cause a breakup if you’re with an allosexual partner. Understandably, if your partner and you have different sexual drives, it may affect your relationship. The only thing that matters here is being honest with yourself and your partner when finding the solution to this unpleasant problem. 

 

Reasons for Lower Sex Drive

Instead of blaming yourself for low sex drive, consider external factors. Some women notice their sex drive dropping greatly after menopause, while others remain aware of it throughout their lives due to cultural and religious beliefs.

Mental illness has been linked to decreased sexual drive and arousal. A lack of sexual drive and sexual dysfunction are common in depressed and anxious people. Check with a therapist to see if your low sex drive is linked to mental health. 

Mental health, menopause, and other factors can affect sex desire. Age, obesity, chronic conditions, medication, pregnancy, and relationship satisfaction can all affect sex drive. We are all different in our ways of being intimate or sexual towards another person, so make sure you are not comparing your situation to your friend’s. 

 

How to Improve Sex Drive

You shouldn’t expect to improve the sexual aspect of your marriage if you’re uncertain of the reason for it. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to improve the sexual connection you have with your husband. Most couples experiencing this issue will seek sex therapy, in which a therapist will assist with the sexual problems you two are having. 

Besides helping you solve the issues that are preventing you from enjoying marital sex, therapists can also improve intimacy between spouses, improve your orgasm experience, help you communicate your sexual wishes that you were afraid or ashamed to share, and so much more. 

You might not know this, yet sleep is crucial for sexual desire. If you’re sleeping only a few hours every night and trying not to collapse under all the responsibilities you have, your desire to be sexually intimate with your partner will most likely be very low. Women who improve the quality and duration of their sleep report a higher sexual drive the next day. 

Also, you can try aphrodisiacs, such as foods like raw oysters, strawberries, and chocolate, to improve your sexual desire. Yoga, mindfulness, and regular exercise can also enhance your libido and lead to more frequent sexual activities.

 

Different Sex Drive Levels in Relationships

There is no normal sex drive or norm that everyone should aspire to when it comes to being sexually attracted to or having sex with another human being. You might need to have sex once a week with your husband, while another person will need to have sex with their spouse several times a week. Both of these situations are perfectly fine, as long as they are not making you feel bad or affecting your relationship in any way.

Many couples will notice that one partner’s sex drive and needs are very different from their own. What is key to this is communication, like everything else in marriage. Both partners should be aware of their partner’s sex drive and find a way to ensure their needs are met. Talk to your partner and explain to them how you feel about sex. The sooner they understand that your lower sex drive has nothing to do with them, the healthier your sex life will be. 

Couples who differ in sexual expectations often realize that being open and honest in their communication about sex leads to stronger connections and a greater desire to have sex. Let’s not forget that one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs is not chocolate, sexy lingerie, or a gym body – it is the connection built through valuable conversations with your partner. 

Forget about improving your sex drive and setting goals in your mind. Work on connecting better with your partner, trying out new and exciting things, and learning something new about each other, and you will notice the sparkle coming back both in your relationship and your bed. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Edging for Women: The Art of Controlling Orgasms

Edging for Women: The Art of Controlling Orgasms

 

Edging for women is increasing sexual stimulation to the point immediately before orgasm and then decreasing it again. It is a safe technique and will not likely harm your health.

Simply put, edging is the act of holding back an orgasm’s release while remaining on its brink.  males and women both use edging methods. However, males do so more frequently. Women don’t need to practice edging as much because they can become multi-orgasmic on their own or with training. Instead, a woman could choose to learn how to orgasm several times throughout a sexual session.

 

What Is Edging?

Edging is the process of gradually increasing sexual stimulation and ending just before the orgasmic peak. Edging can be done by one person or a group of people. The moment right before orgasm is known as the “edge.” During sexual action, people repeatedly practice edging to get to this point.

Edging may be done by anybody, regardless of gender or sexual preference. Similar to edging, the final climax will eventually be more fantastic the longer you wait and the more frequently you edge and withdraw. Trust us, it’s worth the effort.

 

How Edging Works

Edging is difficult. Many women who struggle with orgasming believe that getting there is like ascending a mountain; why would I want to drop back down and start over?

The proper approach is crucial to keep you on or as close to the edge as feasible because that is a problem. It’s a smart idea to use a vibrator and other devices to keep yourself entertained if you’re traveling alone. Stop any stimulation just before you’re about to reach your climax, and take a moment to allow your blood flow to slow down a bit.

Your orgasm will start to fade, but you shouldn’t wait until it is completely gone. Whether you were stroking your vibrator on your clitoris or using your hand, continue until you feel as though you are just coming out of climaxing. Then, work to return to the edge quickly so you can repeat the process. Your body will start to tingle as you play on the brink of your orgasm, and you’ll soon start to experience goosebumps.

 

Tips to Get Started with Female Edging

For various persons, edging can have different uses. It could also differ if someone is doing edging solo or in a group.

Edging is a tool that anybody may use to intensify a sexual orgasmic experience. Some people could use it to extend the duration of their sexual encounters.

 

  • Try It On Your Own

It might take some talent to learn how to edge, so try it out on your own first. The goal is to get as near to an orgasm as you can, pause, and then resume the process all over again.

So, pick a quiet location where you won’t be disturbed and where you can concentrate completely on the feelings of masturbation.

 

  • Pay Attention to Your Body

By edging, you may get much more familiar with the precise physical symptoms and in-the-moment reactions of an orgasm. So, do some areas of your body begin to stiffen up? Do your heart rate and breathing patterns alter?

Make a mental note of any minute changes that you notice. You might not be able to stop your climax this time, but the next time you try, you’ll be much more conscious of it as you get closer to the end.

 

  • Rate Your Arousal

To that aim, rank your level of arousal from one to ten, with ten being climax. When edging, you should halt yourself at an eight or a nine; you should experiment to see how close you can go.

Aiming for an eight when you first start out is a fantastic idea. Then, until you are back down to maybe a six or a five, stop touching yourself or touch yourself just very, very lightly and gently. You may then scale it back up to an eight or a nine before reducing the intensity to two and repeating the process until you are no longer able to tease yourself.

 

  • Take Turns with Your Partner

To handle both partners at once is simply too much to manage; you won’t be able to get the timing precisely perfect. Instead, before you begin, explain to your spouse what you hope to accomplish and set up a method. 

Decide on a clear signal in advance. It might be anything as easy as an arm or shoulder grasp, or it could be a vocal indication like “stop” or “pause” or “red light”. However, be sure to define the signal first: It might be hard to take yourself out of a situation when you’re with a partner if you get caught up in the moment and are approaching that nine.

 

  • Choose Your Positions

Choose positions where you have control since edging does call for a significant degree of physical control. Consider woman-on-top positions like Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl for penetrating sex because you can assess the speed and depth of the thrust and stop yourself as soon as necessary. These positions not only provide you easy access to your own clit.

Any position that allows you to rub yourself, though, works for edging because so many women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm: Consider lying back while your standing spouse thrusts in a posture known as a tabletop position, the downward dog, or other rear entrance positions.

 

In Final Words

You can learn about yourself and what makes you tick by engaging in sexual experimentation of any type. It’s okay if everything does not work for you.

In essence, if you don’t try, you won’t know. When you decide to let yourself feel the added intensity of eventually letting yourself fall over the orgasm cliff, you may realize that standing on the “edge” is just thrilling. Edging may first appear difficult. However, once you master the art of edging, the benefits are endless!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Intimacy Therapy Guide: How to Make the Most of It

Intimacy Therapy Guide: How to Make the Most of It

 

When talking about intimacy therapy, many of us will assume it has to do mostly with sex. However, there is so much more to intimacy than just that, while it is a crucial component. When you are close to someone, your mind, body, and spirit may all be involved. This is what it means to be intimate. It’s about having the strongest possible sense of connection to individuals who are close to you. 

You might feel intimately connected whether you’re in a romantic, platonic, or family connection. Counseling for intimate relationships might be helpful if you need help in this area. 

 

What Is Intimacy Therapy?

Most of us seek closeness because it helps us feel close to others and like valuable members of a group. We can’t always have intimacy in the manner we’d like to, though. That is where intimacy therapy comes in. 

Both single people and couples who want to explore intimacy might benefit from intimacy therapy. The goal is to find any obstacles preventing you from having the connection you deserve and want. It might have some similarities with sex therapy, yet they are not the same. Sex therapists concentrate on sex-related difficulties, while intimacy therapy doesn’t always have to be about that. 

You should be able to develop trust, vulnerability, and commitment with yourself and others through effective counseling. It is a type of talk therapy that may assist you in locating healthy answers to any intimate issues you may be experiencing. 

 

Understanding Intimacy

Before finding the right therapist for you, you will need to understand intimacy first. It’s important to comprehend the many sorts of closeness to determine whether you require intimacy therapy. Some of the most typical are the following:

  • Emotional: Frequently has to do with how you feel and how close you think you are to someone. Anything that gives you a deep emotional connection, such as the sensation of being loved, noticed, heard, or safe while discussing your feelings, might qualify. 
  • Sexual: When you interact sexually or in a sensual way with someone. 
  • Intellectual: The joining of two brains via deep discourse, common interests or principles.
  • Physical: Closeness that is either non-sexual or sexual, such as hugs, kisses, massages, hand holding, or snuggling.
  • Spirituality: Supporting one another’s personal growth and working for a shared objective and respect for one another’s unique or shared views. 
  • Experiential: Establishing relationships via common interests or experiences. 

 

Benefits of Intimacy Therapy

Intimacy isn’t often at the top of the list of all the education we receive. The media, our caretakers, or our friends frequently provide us with some unhelpful examples. This implies that we could develop behaviors that prevent us from engaging in intimacy and having healthy relationships. 

Perhaps you find it difficult to be personal with yourself because you find it difficult to overcome emotions of shame. Or a once-warm relationship has abruptly turned frigid. This wouldn’t be unusual, given that research shows that closeness increases throughout the early stages of a relationship before finally becoming static. Through counseling, you may discover new techniques for fostering closeness in your relationships and with yourself and help you break harmful patterns.  

The easiest subject to discuss is intimacy difficulties. You might not yet be able to communicate respectfully, listen actively, and have an open mind. You may acquire insight and develop workable answers to any problems by speaking with a qualified expert. Counseling can offer solutions whether you want to improve your sexual relationship or get to know yourself better. When there is someone who can assist, you shouldn’t have to deal with these problems on your own. 

 

How to Build Intimacy in Relationship

It is possible to overcome your fear of intimacy or issues you might have in that area. A sympathetic therapist can assist you in comprehending the underlying feelings that underlie your dread. They can assist you in addressing these emotions and identifying other, better-coping mechanisms for isolation.

Occasionally, mental health conditions like avoidant personality disorder can further exacerbate problems with intimacy. This can be treated, which has important advantages for those facing these issues.

Even when neither partner dislikes intimacy, a couple may struggle to communicate. The following advice may help you and your partner get closer and have more intimacy in your relationship.

  • Be more tolerant. It takes a lot of time to get to know someone well. The process of establishing trust is frequently laborious. No race can define intimacy.
  • Start with the little things. Discuss your hopes and objectives if you prefer to talk about the future rather than the past. As trust grows, you could find broaching the more challenging subjects less threatening.
  • Openly discuss your needs. Do you frequently require alone to rejuvenate? How frequently do you like having sex? Instead of presuming that your wishes are “obvious and clear,” be explicit with your spouse about what you want to avoid a lot of misunderstandings.
  • Be respectful of one another’s differences. Even the closest of couples still have their personalities. To love each other and have a happy relationship, you and your spouse do not always have to agree on everything.

 

There is still hope if you and your partner struggle to become closer. Couples counseling can improve communication and help you clear up misconceptions. Additionally, it can aid both parties in overcoming any intimacy-related issues that could hold them back. Getting assistance is not a sign of shame.

 

Finding the Right Intimacy Therapist

It’s crucial to find a therapist who can help you with your intimacy issues, regardless of what they are. A good therapist is crucial for your healing path, and finding one should not be that difficult if you know what you need. 

For instance, maybe you will prefer in-person sessions, so you will look for an intimacy therapist nearby. Or, you will want someone with years of experience in couples therapy, so you might opt for someone with work experience in that field. Whatever it is you’re looking for, it’s important to feel positive and motivated about working with that therapist because it’s a crucial element of each therapy, especially if you’re working on your intimacy issues. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

 

For all of you wondering how to get a girl horny, today we’re sharing our best tips and ideas on how to make her panties wet. Luckily, there are plenty of tricks you can try out when wanting to get a girl very interested in being sexually intimate with you. Although you might assume that things get heated up after the penetration, you will be surprised to hear that for most girls, foreplay is key to good sex.

You will find plenty of articles online on how to improve your sex game or lead your girl to orgasm, yet very few of them talk about setting the mood for sex and upgrading your foreplay game. If you’re curious to learn what works and what doesn’t, continue reading this article and taking notes.

 

Build Up the Chemistry

Establish sexual chemistry before making any moves. Instead of admitting you like her, flirt with her verbally and nonverbally. You can flirt by casually complimenting her looks or outfit. You might also tease her a little bit by cracking a joke or two. Please keep in mind that most girls will feel attracted to someone who makes them laugh.

With nonverbal flirting, you will need to learn how to look at her in a way that makes her intrigued. You should look deep into her eyes, and when your eyes meet, do not look away. This is where the flirtation starts. You can slightly smile at her when she looks your way, even if you’re already conversing with her. 

 

Sit Close to Her

If you’re not comfortable with flirting, this one might seem awkward to you at first. Ensure that you sit extremely close to the girl you wish to get horny with the next time you see her. This will also allow you to see how she feels near you. When you’re that close to her, pay attention to her signs. She might turn towards you and start a pleasant chat, decide to sit even closer to you, or show you she is not interested in sharing her space with you. 

You can show her something interesting on your phone to have her lean closer and see how she feels sitting this close to you. Or, you might show her something that is in front of you, such as a billboard sign or a parked sports car. 

Although you will be focusing on another thing, you will notice whether or not she feels comfortable with you being really close to her.

 

Talk about Something You’re Passionate about

Many girls will become attracted to someone when they notice their passion for something. For instance, seeing a person talk about their favorite band, movie, sport, or childhood memory can really turn a girl on. Your passion doesn’t have to be anything out of the ordinary. You might talk about your favorite restaurant or how you feel about your upcoming vacations. 

For someone listening, you will show a side of you they haven’t seen before. This is also probably where your confidence lies, another factor girls seek in their partners. Getting immediately into foreplay or sex is not nearly as interesting as getting attracted to another person gradually and then, when things get heated up, starting with the action.

 

Avoid Touching

As much as physical contact can be sensual and flirty, try to avoid it until you’re 100% sure the girl is interested. Think about it: a part of what makes flirting interesting is the uncertainty of the outcome—whether or not the girl will like you back. Even if you notice that she is becoming more and more interested, try to avoid touching her to get her even more excited.

After all, words can be a powerful seduction tool. Tease her and show her you’re the catch. Curiosity will motivate her to continue talking to you and, when the time is right, move it to the next level. 

 

Let’s Get Physical!

There’s a reason why it takes a few steps until you can try to either touch her fingers, move hair from her face, hug her, or do anything else that naturally comes to mind. Touching someone without first determining whether or not they are interested in you will eliminate any possibility of arousing their desire. 

Once you’ve read all the signs right and noticed she likes having you close and there is a certain chemistry between you, you can try to show her you like her in a decent physical way. For instance, you might touch her fingers while you’re sitting close and talking. Or, you might move her hair from her face after a sudden breeze. 

All of these movements will show you how she reacts to physical touch. If she touches your back or indicates that everything is well received, you are on your way to getting a girl horny. You two decide how to proceed from there. You could stop here or continue privately.

Make sure you are both okay with sex and have everything you need for the safest and most pleasurable experience. Each example is unique; some people will need weeks or months to get a particular girl horny, while others might need a few hours. There is no magic formula, and oftentimes, it will depend on factors that are out of your control. 

 

Conclusion

Ready to get a girl horny? If there’s a person you like, why not try to put your new skills to the test? Ask them out for a coffee or a dinner; invite them to see a music concert; or ask them to work out with you in the gym. If they accept, it means they would like to spend some time with you.

When you meet, it will be up to you to see if her interest is purely friendly or if there is something more for you to discover. 

 

BLISS: Proven Methods for Improving the Female Orgasm

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us with a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy, and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

 

Have you ever considered practicing yoga for better stamina? Well, there are many benefits you can enjoy from yoga, and improving stamina and sex is one of them. Reduced stress is surely the greatest advantage of yoga, which is great for bedroom activities as well. Practicing yoga regularly lowers cortisol levels, lowering stress levels in the body. In other words, if you are stressed, you will probably experience decreased sexual desire. 

This is why yoga is becoming a popular solution to improve sex quality among couples. To help you make the most of it, we’ve decided to gather all the relevant details about this trend!

 

Ways Yoga Benefits Your Life

Additionally, yoga may enhance overall sexual performance. Yoga teaches you how to calm your thoughts and pay attention to your body. Combining these two techniques will help you gain awareness of your likes and dislikes, enabling you to communicate with your spouse more effectively.

Regular yoga practice helps you become more mindful of the moment, which is crucial to improving your stamina. Yoga and sex improve your overall health—physically, mentally, and emotionally. The experience will be nicer for you both the more present you can be with your companion.

 

Yoga Poses for Better Stamina

Yoga is a great way to connect with your body and breath, which may help increase sexual longevity. It also improves flexibility, which might encourage you to try out new poses. As a result, regular yoga practice will leave you stronger and more toned, which can boost your self-assurance in your physical appearance.

 

  • Downward-Facing Dog

Stretching your muscles and improving blood flow to your body in the downward dog position can assist you in reducing stress. This stance will assist you in finding new, vivacious energy.

Keep your legs as straight as possible while putting your hands shoulder-width apart on the ground. Inhale deeply and keep your tailbone up as you place your hands on the mat.

 

  • Eagle Pose

Balancing in the eagle stance demands intense concentration. You’ll become more attentive and present if you carry this focus into the bedroom. Start by standing tall and lifting your left leg to perform this stance. As you lower yourself into a squatting position, hook it behind your right calf. Then parallelize your arms in front, hook your right arm underneath, and clasp your palms.

 

  • Frog Pose

Bhekasana, also known as the frog pose, can alleviate leftover tension in the groin region while boosting blood flow to the pelvic region. This region is essential for promoting arousal.

Start by bending your knees and pointing your feet outward. Start by pulling your hips back and opening up your legs. Your inner thighs will begin to strain severely. It’s a strong one, so you might unknowingly hold your breath. Hold for 1 minute, yet don’t forget to breathe. Too much? Put a folded blanket under your knees to modify it.

 

  • Water Hand Gesture

Deep meditation and orgasm both take place in the same brain state. You can get there by connecting with your water element. This element is associated with sexual expression and marma points, which are stimulation sites on the body related to everything from the health of your organs to the release of hormones. Yoga enhances all facets of sexual functioning, with the most noticeable results in women over 40.

Start by sitting up straight. With your hands on your knees, join your pinky finger and thumb. Make the connection between these points explicit. If your thoughts start to stray, gently bring them back while holding for one minute.

 

  • Bridge Pose

The bridge is a crucial posture to master for enhancing sexual function because it strengthens the pelvic floor and the core, activates the glutes, and increases blood flow to the pelvic area. The pelvic floor is capable of storing a lot of strain. Mindfulness techniques strengthen the area and allow more blood flow, enabling deeper orgasms and lubrication.

Kneel on the ground with your feet hip-width apart, near your glutes. Put your hands on the floor and lift your glutes while keeping your knees and ankles straight. To prevent stress from building up while you lift, keep your head and shoulders firmly planted. To lift higher, interlace your fingers beneath. For one minute, hold.

 

  • Happy Baby

Happy Baby is a powerful hip opener that promotes flexibility and emotional release. It activates your sacral chakra, the doorway to your pleasure and desire centers. Physically and emotionally, stress can make it difficult to have pleasant sex. Think about your neck or back muscles tensing under stress. Stress can cause the pelvic floor muscles to stiffen up as well, which can make intercourse unpleasant and, in extreme situations, cause vaginismus.

Lie on your back with your knees bent to perform this pose. With your knees slightly wider than your chest, grab the outside of your feet.

 

  • Shoulder Stand Pose

Lower body tension can be relieved with the shoulder stand. Additionally, it might increase blood flow to the pleasure center of the brain.

Lay on the ground with your knees bent to perform this pose. Put your hands out straight, palms facing the ground, on both sides. Using your hands to push through, extend your legs vertically to the ceiling. To support yourself and allow you to extend the stretch, place your hands behind your lower back.

 

  • Corpse Pose

‘Corpse pose’ is the yoga pose known as Savasana. The freedom and room to engage in sexual pleasure are available here. Breathing shallowly or holding your breath is typical, especially when an orgasm is about to occur. This may reduce the depth of the experience. Deep breathing induces relaxation, which heightens your perception of pleasure.

Close your eyes and lie on your back with your arms and legs at your sides. Turn your palms up, breathe gently, and remain for five minutes. As your thoughts wander, resist the need to judge; instead, practice acceptance.

 

The Final Words

While some yoga poses might enhance your stamina and sexual life, being less stressed is the benefit that everyone notices! This offers many advantages and allows you to unwind and enjoy sex!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Erectile Dysfunction Therapy Videos 💻

Erectile Dysfunction Therapy Videos 💻

 

Many studies have already highlighted the intensity of erectile dysfunction among men in the United States, so erectile dysfunction therapy videos are needed to solve the problem discreetly in your home. 

Men find it embarrassing to talk about erectile dysfunction, yet if you can fix it, you’ll be able to enjoy sex again the way you want to.

If you cannot enjoy your sexual life because of impotence, erectile dysfunction therapy videos might be what you need to recover that drive. Start your journey here

That said, there are a few things you will need to know to better understand what is happening in a male body when they struggle with erectile dysfunction. Also, if you lead a healthy and fulfilled life, you can reduce your chances of developing erectile dysfunction in the first place. 

In this article, we bring you all the details you need, yet you were afraid to ask for. 

 

What is Erectile Dysfunction (ED)?

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is when a man can’t get or keep an erection strong enough for sexual activity. The causes of ED are not limited to a single part of the erection process. 

Normal blood flow to the penis can be increased by thinking about something pleasurable or by touching the penis. An erection occurs when blood flow to the penis is regular.

It happens more often than you might think, especially since it can be caused by many things that have nothing to do with your sexual health. 

Many people go through it when they’re under a lot of pressure or after making drastic changes to their way of life.

However, persistent ED might indicate underlying health issues that require addressing. 

Alternatively, it may indicate underlying emotional or relational problems. 

 

What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

Some of the things that might lead to erectile dysfunction are:

  • Vascular disease: Atherosclerosis and other forms of vascular disease can cause the arteries that feed blood to the penis to narrow or close off entirely (hardening of the arteries).
  • Neurological disorders: Stroke, diabetes, and other neurologic illnesses can cause damage to the nerves that provide the penis with sensations and stimulation.
  • Psychological states: Stress, despair, a lack of brain stimulation, and performance anxiety are all states of mind.
  • Trauma: Traumatic events may play a role in triggering ED symptoms.
  • Chronic illnesses: Peyronie’s disease is a disorder that can lead to ED, as can chronic sickness and several drugs. Surgery for prostate, bladder, or colon cancer might trigger ED.

Several pharmaceuticals have been linked to the development of erectile dysfunction.

Even though these drugs are meant to treat a certain disease or condition, they may cause erectile dysfunction or make it more likely by changing a man’s hormones, nerves, or blood flow.

 

Erectile Dysfunction Therapy

You will hear about many ways to treat your ED, yet not all of them will be successful for you. Some of the various treatments available for erectile dysfunction are:

  • Medications
  • Sex therapy,
  • Vacuum devices,
  • Injections in the penile area (I recommend NOT doing this!) 

Each type of treatment has its own set of benefits and drawbacks. 

Remember that many emotional or mental health issues might cause your ED.

Many men struggle with erectile dysfunction during times of stress, anxiety, or depression. Opening up about this to someone you don’t know, although they are experts in their field, is difficult.  To be honest, it might even keep you from talking to a therapist and getting the ED treatment you need.

However, there are different ways to access sex therapy. 

You can seek erectile dysfunction therapy videos online and hear what sex therapists say about this issue! 

Your relationship may also benefit from seeing a therapist if your ED is causing problems in it. If you and your partner are having trouble reconnecting emotionally, relationship counseling may be able to help.

 

Curious to start your journey?

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Female Edging

The Ultimate Guide to Female Edging: Tips and Techniques

The Ultimate Guide to Female Edging: Tips and Techniques

 

Learn how to practice female edging and take your sexual experiences to the next level. Edging female involves pushing yourself, as a woman, just past the point of orgasm and then pulling back before letting yourself reach the peak. 

This means that your orgasm will be much more intense than usual because you gradually raised your level of arousal until it peaked. Then lowered it, raised it again, and lowered it. 

Edging can significantly increase how strong, intense, and pleasurable the orgasm appears in women.

Here is all the information you require regarding this practice.

 

What Is Female Edging?

 

When you are on the cusp of orgasm, you are said to be “female edging.” It’s a great way to make your orgasms stronger and become more sexually aware. Continue reading to learn more about edging and the benefits it may provide.

Whether you’re masturbating alone or with a partner, edging is all of the sexual buildup and foreplay you feel before you reach climax. However, when you get there, you put on the brakes and let the “engine” slow down, which delays the climax a bit.

If you’re never tried it, edging can have several sexual advantages, including producing orgasms that are more powerful and last longer. Sometimes in our lives, all we need is a climax to unwind, or we’re not up for long romantic dates.

However, you know what it takes to get there if you’ve ever experienced one of those mind-blowing, bury your face in the pillow, screaming orgasms. It takes a lot of foreplay and patience to get those orgasms. To get you there, you probably did some fantastic acts like oral sex, manual sex, and other things. Not to mention, you’re likely doing it with someone you have a strong romantic interest in.

Like edging, the final climax will be better the longer you wait the more you edge and withdraw. Trust me, it’s worth the effort.

 

Tips to Start with Female Edgingand 

 

There are some things you can do to make sure that your first time female edging is a good one. Try them out when you feel like you’re in the mood. 

  • Do it on your own. 

You should practice edging on your own at first because learning how to perform it might require some ability. The goal is to get as close to an orgasm as you can, pause, and then resume the process all over again.

So pick a quiet location where you won’t be disturbed and can concentrate completely on the feelings of masturbation.

 

  • Pay attention to sensations in your body. 

By edging, you may learn a lot more about the exact physical signs and reactions of an orgasm in the moment. So, do some areas of your body begin to stiffen up? Do your heart rate and breathing pattern change?

Make a mental note of any minute changes that you notice. You might not be able to stop your climax this time, yet the next time you try, you’ll be much more conscious as you get closer to the end.

 

  • Evaluate your pleasure level.

We also suggest picturing how excited you are on a scale from one to ten, with ten being the peak. While edging, you should halt yourself at an eight or a nine; you should experiment to see how close you can go.

Aiming for an eight could be a good idea when you first start. Then, until you are back down to maybe a six or a five. Stop touching yourself or touch yourself just very, very lightly and gently. You may then scale it back up to an eight or a nine before reducing the intensity to two and repeating the process until you can no longer tease yourself.

 

  • Don’t reach for toys. 

Beginners should aim to orgasm with only their hands if they can, yet if they can only climax with a vibrator, by all means. The great thing about a vibrator is that it can give you the kind of intense stimulation that your body can’t give you on its own. When you’re trying to edge, all that intensity might make it hard to be as “fine-tuned” as most people need to be when judging how much fun they’re having. 

The vibrator can occasionally swiftly take you from 0 to 100. Thus, choose a manual for this inaugural journey. But if a vibrator is your favorite way to have fun. Try playing with different pulse rates and patterns to keep yourself from getting too excited.

 

Female Edging Improves Sexual Awareness

 

You and your partner will enjoy better sex if you understand your arousal cues. The sexual fulfillment of their female companions is a major issue for many people.

There is a reason why so many of us have in the past fabricated orgasms. Some of them like making their lovers feel good in bed, and many partners enjoy feeling powerful while their partners orgasm.

A great way to alert your spouse to your orgasm ladder and what it takes to ascend it is through female edging. If you do it frequently enough and your spouse pays attention. They will eventually understand some of what makes you tick.

Doing the edge with a partner might be more enjoyable since you can tease each other and it heightens the sexual tension. There is some power play as your lover pushes you into the climax and then pulls away.

They have to “allow” you to reach your climax, and some individuals enjoy feeling subjugated and in charge. Your partner will pay close attention to how you breathe, make sounds, and move your body in reaction to contact, all of which will enhance your sexual encounter.

You will be involved in a thoughtful, intimate interaction that will be more enjoyable and link you both.

 

In Final Words

 

You most likely had a clitoral orgasm if, throughout this exercise, your clit suddenly became hypersensitive and uncomfortable to touch or if you abruptly lost interest in your practice. That’s alright.

After engaging in this enjoyable edging, you may be in an orgasmic state all along rather than experiencing an orgasmic peak. It could feel like “simple pleasure” at first, yet after using this technique for a week or two and being stimulated for 30 minutes. You will realize that what you feel is far more than “just pleasure.”

Because sexual energy builds up, this exercise gives you an orgasmic feeling that lasts even after you stop touching yourself. Even an internal energy orgasm could occur. Surprise! Your orgasmic power is already growing.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Female Orgasm Videos Teach You Everything You Need to Know About Sex 

Female Orgasm Videos Teach You Everything You Need to Know About Sex 

 

Have you ever watched female orgasm videos? If so, have you watched them purely for pleasure or to learn something? This type of video can teach us everything, from female anatomy to understanding better factors that impact a female orgasm. Regardless of being a woman or not, this article will provide valuable insights into learning what women need for better sex and building a deeper intimacy with their partner. 

Find out the lessons behind the most popular female orgasm videos and start applying them in your sex life to feel better about yourself and your relationship!

What Is the Female Orgasm?

A female orgasm, which can happen through masturbation or sexual activity with one or more partners, can be delightful. Its potential for additional advantages is unknown to scientists.

We know less about the function of the female orgasm. The blood flow to the genitals rises during excitement, making them more sensitive. Researchers have proposed numerous possible advantages, but few have undergone thorough testing, and no idea has received firm scientific backing.

A person’s heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate may rise when excitement does. During an orgasm, many women suffer rhythmic vaginal muscular spasms. Muscles may twitch or spasm just before orgasm. Males typically need to relax for a while before having another orgasm. However, many ladies have experienced multiple orgasms, a series of orgasms in a short period during intercourse.

Female Anatomy

The vulva, or external genitalia, and the ovaries and uterus, or internal reproductive organs, are both parts of the female body. The reproductive systems of men and females are significantly different. Female anatomy typically involves hormone regulation, sexual function, and reproduction.

Although the sexual anatomy of men and women differs physically, all sex organs grow from the same bundle of cells during fetal development. The minute the father’s sperm and mother’s egg come together, the baby’s biological sex is established.

The pubis and the vulva are parts of the external female anatomy. Females often develop pubic hair on the fleshy portion of the pelvic bone known as the mons pubis, or public mound. The exterior female genital components are referred to as the vulva. The labia majora, labia minora, and glans clitoris are some of their constituent parts. 

The vagina, or canal connecting the vulva and uterus, is where the internal female anatomy starts. The fallopian tubes link the ovaries to the uterus, while the cervix divides the vagina from the uterus.

Different Types of a Female Orgasm

Some orgasms are solely focused on the vagina, while others let you experience trembling intensity in areas you never considered erogenous. Discovering the pleasure your body may feel is something you owe to yourself. Let us educate you on the range of available orgasms.

Clitoral Orgasm

To attain climax, every woman wants a distinct kind of touch. For most women, the clitoris is the preferred sweet spot when they wish to enjoy and release an orgasm. However, even though clitoral orgasms are the most accessible type, this little, largely concealed joy button is entirely personal.

G-Spot Orgasm

Your G-spot is located on the anterior vaginal wall, roughly midway between the cervix and vaginal opening. Look for a spot that is just a little ridged or rough. Insert a finger inside your vagina and push forward; although you can’t generally see it, you can usually feel it (making a come-hither motion). Many women prepare themselves for a G-spot orgasm by lightly pressing and massaging this region.

Anal Orgasm

Not every woman enjoys anal sex or anal play. Others don’t like it at all, while others adore it. However, if you fall into the first group, you should be aware of an anal orgasm.

Numerous nerves and muscles, notably the PC (or pelvic floor) muscle, are shared by the anus and rectum and the vagina, clitoris, and perineum, which connect the three structures. Many women’s pelvic floor muscles are extremely sensitive, and when they are stimulated, both vaginal and anal orgasms can result.

Blended Orgasm

This type of orgasm is appropriate for you if you can withstand two, three, or even four times the intensity and pleasure of a typical O. When more than one erogenous zone is being stimulated simultaneously, a mixed orgasm can result from it. The intense orgasm that typically follows can be experienced through clitoral contact and G-spot insertion. However, it might also result from clitoral, nipple, anal, and vaginal penetration, or all of these simultaneously.

Common Female Sexual Fantasies 

Women’s sexual imaginations don’t always correspond to their actual desires. For instance, although a sizable majority of the study’s female participants claimed to have dreamt about being controlled in some fashion, half said they would not wish to actualize their fantasies of sexual servitude.

Overall, thoughts of having sex in “romantic” or “strange” locations are the most prevalent, and fantasies of sexual subjugation are also among the most common. Interestingly, a few studies revealed that women who acknowledged having thoughts of domination were more sexually pleased than those who did not. Having sex with two women, watching two women have sex, and having sex with a stranger in public are typical sexual fantasies. Interestingly, a few studies revealed that women who acknowledged having thoughts of domination were more sexually pleased than those who did not.

Myths about Female Orgasms

Partners frequently experience severe guilt and embarrassment over the nature of their sexual pleasure—or lack thereof. That frequently happens when talking about female orgasms. These unfavorable perceptions about the female sex might harm the quality of your relationship.

These horrible ideas increase anxiety and tension, which makes it harder for a woman to experience orgasm. The relationship’s physical and emotional distance only worsens as a result. Take a look at the frequent myths listed below if you believe that any of these notions could affect how much fun you have during sexual activity.

My Vagina Should Look Differently

How your vagina looks is not defined. There is no particular aesthetic that women should aspire to, and accepting your vagina leads to connecting better with yourself as a sexual being.  They exist in various hues, forms, and sizes and differ in terms of their colors, textures, and pubic hairstyles. They are all stunning, and each one is different.

Good Sex Needs to Last Longer

The amount of penetration that causes orgasm has no established gold standard. The duration of the sexual encounter cannot reliably predict female orgasms. While some women might get aroused early by foreplay and imagination and need less time to reach climax, others have a longer arousal cycle.

Sex without Vaginal Penetration Is Not Sex

Although many people refer to sex as vaginal penetration, orgasm is most likely to result from other forms of sexual stimulation. Try modifying your approach. The majority of women need several types of stimulation to climax.

Final Words

Both of your orgasms are equally important. Exploration and experimentation are necessary to perfect the female orgasm. It begins with an honest conversation with your sex partner and enjoying the beauty of female sexuality!

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Female Orgasm Contractions

Female Orgasm Contractions

 

Although orgasms are a favorite aspect of sexuality, many women aren’t even aware of how to achieve female orgasm contractions. Also, only a percentage of women can reach orgasm via penetration only, while some women struggle to climax at all. .

However, when you experience that pleasure, how much do you feel what your body is doing? You may experience orgasm contractions more frequently if you are aware of what happens in your body during arousal and orgasm.

Arousal 

As many can confirm, an orgasm is a full-body feeling. Therefore, the anatomy of an orgasm starts before bodies touch. Yet once you get to the bedroom, female orgasm contractions are easiest achieved through clitoral stimulation and contracting and relaxing the pelvic floor muscle.

As your body prepares, sometimes taking a minimum of twenty minutes, higher heart rate and blood pressure may cause a warm, tingling sensation in your body. Similarly, you may experience body temperature changes as the blood heads directs toward your genitalia. The clitoris, which contains over 8,000 distinct nerve endings, enlarges and swells. 

The clitoral gland will push through in an erection, and you may see the clitoral hood back up or down as climax approaches. Inside your body, the clitoris is erect! Your outer lips will separate, the inner labia swell as more blood fills the tissue, and sometimes, the genitalia color changes or darkens. 

Orgasm

Your muscles will begin to pulse when the climax finally arrives, particularly in the pelvis. The waves of pleasure that travel through your abdomen and the rest of the body are caused by the contact between the walls of your uterus, vagina, and pelvic floor.

Interestingly, researchers have discovered a connection between how strong your orgasms are and the condition of your pelvic floor muscles. The pelvic floor muscles will contract more effectively during an orgasm, increasing the pleasure you feel, the more toned they are. 

Although the number of female orgasm contractions might vary, the normal range is between 1 and 12, with each lasting roughly a second or two. Please, don’t assume that having partnered sex or having an orgasm is only a physical sensation; your brain also releases hormones like dopamine and oxytocin.

Keep in mind that every orgasm is unique and that every woman has a different orgasmic experience. However, gaining a deeper knowing of how your body (and mind) respond to sexual stimulation can assist you in discovering the key to how you get there.

A Variety of Experiences

Female orgasm contractions are sought after. There are variations in every woman’s anatomy and preferences, so one woman’s solution might not apply to another.

The pathway to pleasure ought to be set for the goal of discovery rather than orgasm. Often, when that happens, orgasms are found along the way!

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

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Goop – Features Amanda Pasciucco on Edging for Stronger Orgasms Article

Goop – Features Amanda Pasciucco on Edging for Stronger Orgasms

 

Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, CST, owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, and a.k.a “The Sex Healer” was interviewed in an article for Gweneth Paltrow’s goop site and lifestyle brand. You can find interesting content and products related to sexual wellness on goop.

Let’s say you’re right on the edge of coming. Now back off a sec. Can you slow down? Can you extend that pleasure? And when you come back toward orgasm: Do you notice anything different? That’s edging, or the stop-and-start technique. And it’s a tool sex therapists use to enhance pleasure.
Clinical sexologist Amanda Pasciucco says edging is all about riding the wave of arousal and building and rebuilding sexual tension. It resembles tantric sex: Edging is about enjoying the present pleasure rather than rushing to orgasm. Edging works by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, which creates a more intense orgasm when you finally allow yourself to finish. It has to do with the anatomy of arousal. “Letting the blood flow circulate into the genitals and letting that come back into the body creates an embodied, sensational experience,” Pasciucco says.Sex educator Taylor Sparks often recommends edging to couples. She says the practice encourages partners to engage and pay attention to each other throughout the entire experience of sex. “You get to watch what pleases your partner,” she says.Bringing yourself (or your partner) to the edge of orgasm can be used as a form of control play, too. Like certain BDSM techniques, edging plays on the psychological thrill of wanting something you can’t have. “It’s the anticipation. You’re so close to having that oh mighty O, you’re almost there, but then it’s like, wait,” Sparks says.Edging can also help people seeking better control over ejaculation, including premature ejaculation. Both Pasciucco and Sparks say that when people practice edging regularly, their bodies adjust to holding an erection longer.

HOW TO START EDGING

Pasciucco recommends building arousal by focusing on your senses and your breath. Then touch your body wherever feels most exciting. Maybe glide a vibrator over your inner thighs, lower belly, pubic bone, or inner groin before moving to the clitoris. Then imagine a barometer of pleasure. On a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 is an orgasm, Pasciucco asks, where is 7? “We’re gonna back off as soon as we feel a 7,” Pasciucco says, “and go back down to a 5.”

It’s worth trying different kinds of sex toys to see how they enhance your practice. Engage the senses with something that feels good on the skin, like soft fabrics, floggers, feathers, or paddles. Our Double-Sided Wand Vibrator offers rumbly vibrations for a controlled buildup. And an air-pulsing vibrator like Womanizer sucks the clitoris and is a great choice for (finally) finishing.

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Devices that surround the penis and apply varied waves of pressure, like the Arcwave Ion, can engage the frenulum, an area on the underside of the penis that’s particularly packed with nerve endings. It’s not designed for edging, but it’s one way to heighten pleasure in a masturbation session—and you can use it as a tool in an edging practice.

  1. Arcwave Arcwave Ion

Don’t worry about getting edging right. The point, ultimately, is to get out of your head, get in touch with your senses, and let go of the impulse to rush to the end. “Just enjoy the journey and enjoy the act of pleasure,” Sparks says.

Written by: Zoe Moscovici | Published on: October 6, 2022

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

What Is Male Edging?

What Is Male Edging?

 

Edging is a technique for either one partner or both partners to extend the time it takes to reach orgasm. Even though edging is typically considered a method for men to stay in the game longer, it can be used by women as well. Before an orgasm, partners learn to stop all sexual arousal and communicate. They can experiment with different methods of contact so that the agitated partner can calm down before continuing. This can both delay the climax and heighten the intensity of the orgasms when they do occur.

Communication with your partner is essential if you want to experiment with edging during sex. Success depends on knowing how many cycles of teasing they can take and how to touch them during a cool-down period.

Before getting into the details of male edging, let’s take a look at the common misconceptions about it.

Misconceptions about Male Edging

Ejaculation is impacted by a few medical disorders (the discharge of semen from the penis). Not to be confused with edging are these:

  • When you reach orgasm soon, you ejaculate prematurely. Anxiety and hereditary characteristics are a few of the causes. Up to 40% of men who have a penis experience it at some point.
  • Anorgasmia, often known as delayed orgasm, is the inability to have an orgasm. This illness is uncommon and poorly understood.
  • When the muscles in your urethra are unable to correctly contract, semen might back up into your bladder and result in retrograde ejaculation. Because there is no discernible ejaculate at the climax, this is referred to as a dry orgasm. It may be caused by nerve damage brought on by other illnesses such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, spinal cord injuries, and certain surgeries. 

On the other side, edging is a secure and healthy method of sex exploration. It has no conditions or negative effects. It can be used either alone or during intercourse with a partner and can boost enjoyment regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Edging can be utilized to improve communication and closeness by focusing on one partner or both.

How to Make the Most of Edging

Choose first if you want to try edging solo or with your partner. Whatever method you choose, keep in mind that getting to know your body is always a good idea. The cherry on top is orgasms that are even more powerful.

Solo

To practice edging, you can use your hands or toys. Whatever method you use, make sure to move gently and deliberately while paying close attention to the signals of your body. You should slow down or stop completely if you feel like you’re about to orgasm. 

The next step is to calm down and rest until your orgasm is under control. Try deep breathing or rubbing your skin with your hands. Simply let your body appreciate a different kind of touch. Consider what nearly induced orgasm in you while taking note of how your body is feeling. You are free to restart and repeat the process as often as you like once you are ready.

With Your Partner

Hands, lips, sex organs, and toys can all be used when edging with a partner. Discuss how to let the other person know when you both need a break. Whatever works best can be a phrase or a gesture. When one of you is getting near to orgasm, try switching up your positions or your intensity. Alternate between penetrative sex and touch or oral stimulation and playing with a toy. 

You can begin with a few edging cycles and increase the number as you please. During pauses, give one another a sensual massage. Blood will flow into your pelvic area more as you go through more cycles. This increases excitement and may trigger orgasms with greater intensity.

Edging Steps

As edging might be a completely new term for you, we’ll break the entire process into simple steps for you to follow.

With or without a partner, the edging process typically looks like this:

  1. Begin sexual stimulation, 
  2. Change the intensity or stop just before an orgasm, 
  3. Increase the intensity after a small delay,
  4. Repeat all the steps. 

When practicing edging with a partner, it is important to always talk about it beforehand and get enthusiastic approval.

Edging Benefits

Both those practicing alone and those practicing with groups may benefit from edging. According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, edging can make some people’s sexual activity more intense. The edging cycles can heighten tension and produce a more gratifying climax.

Additionally, edging might make sexual activities last longer. This method can be used to stop premature ejaculation by those who suffer it. To increase confidence in the bedroom, couples may also utilize edging. This might be especially helpful for newlywed couples who might be hesitant to have sex.

Finding out a person’s sexual preferences may be possible with the use of edging. People can learn about sexual triggers and experiment with new activities by doing cycles of edging repeatedly. This is also a great way to understand what you enjoy and what turns you on in sex and help your partner understand what gives you sexual pleasure. 

In Conclusion

Although edging may not be for everyone, it is safe and advantageous. People who want to try edging with others should always talk to them about it first. This will help establish whether the person is at ease and eager to give it a try. Some individuals might want to think about investigating edging independently first. They can use this to determine whether they want to attempt it with others, too.

All in all, edging enables you to discover new methods to satisfy both yourself and your partner as well as experience stronger orgasms. Instead of focusing just on achieving orgasm, letting yourself relax into the sex-related sensations can lead to a more playful, spontaneous relationship, increase your emotional connection to your spouse, and help you become a better lover.

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Sex Toys For Pleasure: Overview & Tips On How To Use Them 

Sex Toys For Pleasure: Overview & Tips On How To Use Them 

 

In the last decade, sex toys for pleasure have created a market on their own. By offering pleasure to men and women, sex toys have evolved tremendously and broken through all the stereotypes people used to have about this type of product.

After all, we’ve only recently started discussing more openly our sex lives, sexuality, and things we like and dislike in the bedroom. Sex and pleasure are becoming one of the common topics in conversations with friends, and also in educational institutions.

All of this has led to more people being interested in and buying sex toys for pleasure. From steam-powered vibrators and rubber dildos, there is a wide range of sex toys available to everyone looking to get some pleasure.

Before getting overwhelmed with so many options on the sex toy market, we’ve done our homework and decided to recommend you a few products you should try out. Let the moaning begin!

Sex Toys for Women

There are so many sex toys available to women that the only problem will be to limit yourself to trying out only a few toys and not spending all of your money. Dive into the most purchased sex toys for women:

1. Magic Wand Rechargeable

With a fervent fanbase, Magic Wand is still amazing women as it did when it was launched first. Many women recommend it because of its amazing vibrations and simplicity. That said, those who wish to switch gears or have a more flexible toy will need to be aware of the limitations of our beloved Magic Wand. Yet, don’t discard it so quickly, this is one of the most used sex toys in porn – that has to mean something!

2. Njoy Pure Plug 

For those of you who enjoy good anal sex, you will need to try this luxe metal plug. Its surface is almost blissfully smooth and more importantly, it’s compatible with all lubricants out there, so it guarantees you’ll get the pleasure you’re seeking. The weight of Njoy Pure Plug is also big enough to be aware of ii, yet small enough to not be uncomfortable for the woman. The great thing about it is that it comes in small, medium, and large versions, so anyone can have fun with it. 

3. Vixen Creations Mustang

You’ve never liked sex toys as they don’t seem like a real deal? Well, you’ll surely change your mind once you hear about Vixen Creations Mustang, the most realistic dildo in the world. This dildo has great dual-density material and its gentle curve will stimulate your G-spot like nothing you’ve ever tried before. This toy works well for men as well!

4. Lovense Lush 3

Are you in a long-distance committed relationship and want to spice things up with your partner? Or, are you a webcam performer who loves connecting with your audience? This long-distance Blootooth vibrator allows others who are not in bed with you to titillate you from afar by using the toy’s app. What we love about this sex toy is its rumbly motor incredibly fast responsiveness! 

Sex Toys for Men

If we had to write this article a few years ago, it wouldn’t be so easy to find great sex toys that will provide incredible pleasure to men as well. Luckily, there are many options for men to choose from when it comes to orgasming whether it’s on their own or with their sexual partner.

1. Fleshlight Quickshot

From men to men, Fleshlight Quickshot has been praised as the best male masturbator several times already. Besides being the best male sex toy, this was also the first-ever masturbator. 

The pioneer in male pleasure, Fleshlight Quickshot is smaller than its original version as it has 3.5 inches to insert the penis. Another plus is that you will not have to hide it around your room from someone who might stumble upon it because it doesn’t look like your regular sex toy. 

2. Uberlube

Okay, we know that lubes are not exactly sex toys, yet nobody can deny how much pleasure they bring during masturbation and intercourse. Uberlube is silicone-based so it will last quite long, and you will not be able to keep your hands off from the slippery surface, regardless of whether you’re touching yourself or your partner. We also love it because of its beautiful packaging, yet keep in mind you cannot combine it with silicone toys.  

  • Lelo HUGO

Although its price is a bit above the average of other male sex toys, LELO Hugo will justify its price the first time you use it. This is a favorite prostate massager for many sex toy users due to its remote that controls both strength and location of the vibrations. 

For instance, if you tilt it to the right, the vibrations will be stronger on the left side. More importantly, you will be able to focus on the area where you feel the most pleasure and make the most of it with Hugo.

3. Tenga Egg

The Tenga Egg is an excellent sex toy for those who are unwilling to invest a lot of money in it. Tenga Egg is very affordable with its price below ten dollars. Its price is what makes this super-stretchable elastomer sleeve one of the commonly used sex toys and a great idea when you want to step away from the old-fashioned ways. 

Of course, you shouldn’t expect too much for a few-dollar toy. It will not revolutionize your sex life or be your go-to toy for each masturbation, yet it is good to have if you’re not looking for expensive sex toys. It’s also a recommended option for beginners as they will not spend a lot of money on something they are still not certain if it works or not.

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Whether you are looking for sex toys for yourself or enjoy them with your sexual partner, these products can truly make a difference in how you experience your sexual pleasure. Whichever you choose, make sure you make the most of it and try it in different scenarios and positions. The only decision you might regret is buying a sex toy and not pleasuring yourself with it enough!

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Female Anal Orgasm

Female Anal Orgasm: Learn All About It Here

Female Anal Orgasm: Learn All About It Here

 

As there is still not much talk around female anal orgasm, many women are curious to learn more about it and understand what to expect when having anal sex for the first time. Activities that involve anal sex are touching, fingering, licking, penetrating, and anything else that builds that sexual pleasure you feel before, during, and after anal sex. 

The great thing about anal sex is that it can be enjoyable for both men and women. Yet, when talking about female anal orgasms, there are some tricks that might help you make this experience more pleasurable for you and your sex partner. 

What Do You Need To Know About Anal Orgasm? 

When you’re having an anal orgasm, it will feel like very intense, profound waves of pleasure are beginning inside of your body and radiate through it. For those who are trying anal sex, it might feel a bit uncomfortable at first because you will need time to adjust to penetration back there. It shouldn’t cause you pain, however, it’s vital that you feel relaxed and comfortable with the sexual activity to avoid pain or discomfort. 

Unlike vaginal sex, women will need to prepare for anal sex to have a better experience for both partners. Feeling relaxed and aroused before anal sex is crucial for both avoiding the pain and enjoying the game a bit more.

How To Prepare For Anal Sex? 

There are many ways a woman can prepare for anal sex, especially if it’s her first time. Try to indulge in something that is erotic for you. If you feel more turned on, it will become easier for you to enjoy the butt play. You can watch porn or think about your fantasies you always come back to to make you feel more turned on. 

If you need to relax your body, you should consider taking a hot bath as it can help you lose your muscles and enhance blood flow to all parts. During your bath, you can give the erogenous zones a bit of rub-a-dub and play with your anus while you are washing it up. 

Another thing that might help you prepare for the anal game is practicing with a butt plug. You can do it alone or with your sex partner, it’s up to you. Using sex toys like this can also give you a pretty good idea of how anal sex will feel like for you. So, make sure you are taking it slow and enjoying playing around with your butt plug. You can have your partner use it to tease your butt before actually inserting it. 

When you feel ready for your anal orgasm, make sure you communicate it with your partner and, more importantly, prepare some lube. When it comes to anal, you will notice how much difference it makes to have anal sex with and without lube. Not to mention that it’s vital for anal sex safety. 

Exploring The Anal Game 

Those who are without anal sex experience tend to be very surprised when they start discovering all the diversity in anal sex. There are many moves you will like to try out once you are a member of the A-game. 

One of the most recommended ways to reach an even better anal orgasm is to have your partner licking your erogenous zones with his tongue just before the penetration. He can use the tip of his tongue to tease your cheeks before sex and then tease you around your anus. This will produce more intense ways than you could imagine.

Another way to enhance the butt hame is with your and/or your partner’s fingers. Put the lube on the finger, insert it into the anus and curl your or your partner’s finger upward at a pace you feel comfortable with. If wanted, you can even try inserting a second finger.

Also, you can rub the pad of the finger in a circular motion near the A-spot or P-spot. Circle slowly around that area and pick up the pace when you feel ready. You can play with the size of the circles, and also with the speed to discover what gets you faster to an anal orgasm. 

Adding More Stimulations

If there is a lot of clitoral or vaginal stimulation, you will notice the sexual pleasure growing inside you, so don’t focus only on the anal game. Avoid limiting yourself, you might discover you enjoy when your partner is licking and kissing your nipples and that helps you reach a better anal orgasm.

Or, you might notice that you enjoy when your partner is stimulating your clitoris by using hands, fingers or sex toys. The entire sexual experience is very individual for each person so what works for you, might not work for your friend. 

That’s why it’s recommended to practice and really dedicate your time to explore more the anal game and to understand what you like and don’t like. 

Why You Need A Lube?

As already mentioned, lube is quite important in anal play. Without the lube, penetrating a finger, toy, or penis might be dangerous. With a rough penetration, the skin can tear up and you also increase the risk of sexually transmitted infections. 

You can use a lube that is based on water or silicone as these two options work well with condoms and any sex toy you want to use. Many might assume that anal sex is much safer than vaginal sex because it cannot lead to pregnancy, however, STIs are possible so it’s important to practice safe anal sex. 

Wrap Up

The anal game can be a lot of fun and you will probably experience some of the most intense orgasms in your life, yet don’t forget to prepare your body and be safe at all times. If it’s your first time, make sure you take it slow and do it with someone you trust as it will help you to relax. 

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Intense Female Orgasm

Intense Female Orgasm: All The Things You Should Know About It

Intense Female Orgasm: All The Things You Should Know About It

 

As it is completely individual, we rarely talk about all things both women and men should know about intense female orgasm. From different types of orgasms a woman can have to what helps a woman feel sexual pleasure before, during and after sex, all of these details are helping us understand the nature of female sexuality and bring a better overall experience to women. 

How a intense female orgasm differs from a male orgasm? Do women truly distinctively think about sex from men? We’ve gathered all relevant information regarding female orgasms to solve the mystery around it once and for all. 

Types of Intense Female Orgasm

Yes, we might say female orgasm, however, there are different types of orgasms a woman can experience during sex with their partner. Clitoral, vaginal, cervical, or the one that results from stimulating erogenous zones are the orgasm types most women have experienced in their lives. Some of them will also experience different orgasms, depending on the sexual activity they have with their sexual partner, while others will mostly experience only one orgasm type. 

Also, there is a percentage of women who are unable to orgasm due to various reasons. All of these reasons can be grouped into two categories – emotional and psychological reasons. It’s recommendable for them to talk to a therapist or any other professional that will help them work out these issues and allow them to start enjoying their orgasms. 

Erogenous Zones

As we’ve mentioned above, you can orgasm from someone touching, licking, and kissing your erogenous zones – neck, nipples, feet, behind the knee, earlobe, etc. For an area to become an erogenous zone will depend on someone stimulating that area arouses you. 

It might surprise you that many women can orgasm from nipple stimulation. If you’re interested in nipple orgasm, put your hands on your breasts, and start caressing and squeezing them, while touching other parts of your body as well. Then, you will slowly start teasing your areola with your fingertips until you start feeling excited, and continue with rubbing and pinching your nipples until your reach the climax. 

If you’re not sure what your erogenous zones are, you can easily explore your body and find out. Lay naked on your bed, grab a feather, and slowly start touching each part of your body until you figure out where you feel something. It might be that you feel a tickle or any other sensation in your body that will later bring you incredible sexual pleasure and some of the most amazing orgasms you’ve ever had. 

G-Spot

Of course, we can not take about erogenous zones without mentioning the most important area of your body – the G-spot. This is an area along the front wall of the vagina. When stimulated, it brings incredible orgasms for some women. The best way to reach the G-spot is with the fingers or a curved vibrator specifically made for the G-spot.

To reach it easily, make sure you’re in a squatting position. Insert the vibrator or fingers up toward the belly button and start moving them until you discover which pace works best for you. If you feel like you have to pee, that’s a completely normal sensation. Just keep going until the full-body release!

All the Feels of an Orgasm

Every orgasm is different, some will be more intense, while others will be completely incomparable to everything you’ve ever felt before. These are some of the things you can expect to happen in your body during an orgasm: 

  • The vagina and uterus will contract rapidly. 
  • You will notice your muscles contracting in other body parts, such as the abdomen or feet. 
  • Your breathing and heart rate will speed up. 
  • Your blood pressure will increase.
  • You might feel a relief of sexual tension or ejaculate during your orgasm. 

Male vs Female Orgasm

You might assume that male and female orgasm differ significantly, yet it’s not the case. Both male and female orgasm will send increased blood flow to the male or female genitals, accelerate breathing and heart rate, while other muscles in your body will contract as well. 

The difference between them can be seen in two aspects – duration and recovery. Female orgasms last longer than male orgasms, ranging from 13 to 50 seconds, whereas male orgasms range from 10 to 30 seconds. Another thing to keep in mind is that female orgasms can lead to repetition if stimulated again, also known as multiple orgasms. Also, male orgasm will involve ejaculation, while female orgasm doesn’t need to involve ejaculation every time. 

How to Orgasm More

For those who either haven’t experienced an orgasm before or wish to improve their experience, there is a way to practice having better and more frequent orgasms. The most important thing is to eliminate the pressure if you feel any. You should feel relaxed and be in the exploratory mode to climax. 

Take time to explore your body and see what feels good and what doesn’t. So, get comfortable and find a place where you will feel safe and relax to play with your body. You can use your imagination or read an erotic story to start things off. Slowly, start massaging the area above the clitoris until you get wet. 

If you need help, use lube and continue with your message. Once you’ve found a spot and rhythm that feel good, start rubbing faster and harder, while also increasing the speed and adding more pressure to make it more intense until you orgasm.  

If you didn’t manage to orgasm, don’t worry. You can always try it again and play a bit more. The important thing is not to think of this as failing. You are simply getting to know your body and understanding what brings you the sexual pleasure you need to orgasm. There are no rights and wrongs, so don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t orgasm right away. 

Instead, try different things or techniques. You can use a sex toy, watch a sexy movie, masturbate in the shower, use more lube, etc. The more things you try out, the better you’ll understand your sex drive. 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do