Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask
Have you ever watched a sex education video on your own initiative rather than at the request of your teacher or parents? How curious are you about sex? Just like you, many young people feel a bit overwhelmed with everything around sex, yet they are either too afraid, too proud, or too confused to decide to learn more about it.
Imagine if you were to learn how to drive a car from reading several social media posts or hearing gossip in high school. You might know how to start the engine or steer the wheel, yet being able to drive on the road without hurting yourself or anybody else requires more knowledge, skills, and practice.
The same is true with sex; you need to educate yourself about all aspects of sex. From hygiene and feeling comfortable in your body to different sex techniques and orgasm types, you should be informed about it all before stepping into this experience.
Although sex has become less taboo in recent years, many teens and young adults are still ashamed to seek answers to questions about sex. That’s why watching a few sex education videos or reading a blog or two might be just what you need to feel more confident and safe for your first time.
Why Sex Is Not Like Any Other Topic
It kind of is, yet your experience is telling you differently. You talk comfortably with your friends and family about your hobbies, the music you listen to, and your dream career, right? However, when it comes to sex, you start to feel uncomfortable and wish to switch to another topic. Sex was considered taboo in the past for a variety of social and religious reasons, yet learning about it on time helps young individuals like yourself, when they decide to have sex for the first time, practice it safely and not in ignorance.
Sex is a private act, and if you don’t feel comfortable talking about it openly, you can educate yourself about it privately as well. It’s up to you when choosing how to learn about sex;, however, don’t ignore the power of education. Ignorance about sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), broken hearts, and different emotional issues.
Learn Your Body First
Pleasure is the reason why people enjoy sex. You can reach sexual pleasure on your own or with another person; that’s completely up to you, yet you will need to learn what feels good and what doesn’t. The best way to do it is to study your body first. Masturbating is completely natural and the best way to get to know your body in a sexual way.
Besides knowing how touching certain spots on your body makes you feel, you should also learn the names of body parts and what they do. For instance, do you know the difference between the vulva, vagina, and clitoris? This information can make your first sexual experience more enjoyable and help you not feel confused about sex.
Sex Requires Consent
Once you’ve covered all the details about your body parts and learned what you like and don’t like, there are quite a few things you’ll need to keep in mind for your first time. The most important one is consent. Because it involves another person, it is very important for you to communicate your intentions and get consent to have sex.
If you or your partner starts feeling uncomfortable, in pain, or has simply changed their mind, make sure you respect them and stop right away. Also, you should know the name and age of your sex partner and avoid getting intimate with people you don’t know well enough.
Before Your First Time
Once you’ve given and received consent and decided you’re ready for your first time, a few other things will need to be crossed off of your list. Consider how you wish to have your pubic hair. Maybe you want to have it completely shaved or waxed, or you want to leave it as it is. Also, think about the things you really didn’t like during the exploration of your body. You can even write them down on a piece of paper so you don’t forget them later.
These things should be communicated to your sex partner before you engage in any type of sexual activity, as they will affect how you feel during sex and, often, after it. Once you’ve both expressed your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, be sure to have protection with you, whether it’s a preservative, contraceptive pills, or something else. Keep in mind that not all types of contraception protect you from both STIs and unwanted pregnancy. In fact, the only contraceptive method that will keep you safe from both is a preservative or condom.
Another thing you need to know is that the first time is only that—the first time you are experiencing something new. Don’t feel bad if you feel awkward during sex;, that’s completely normal and expected. It will take some time until you start feeling more pleasure in sex and the discomfort and weirdness around sex completely disappear. By communicating with your partner, it will be easier to go through these mixed feelings because you will realize you are not alone in them.
There are a lot of things you need to learn about sex before engaging in sexual activity. However, the more you learn, the better you will feel about it. Knowing what to expect during sex and understanding what your body needs helps you have better control over a situation that is completely new to you. Not to mention that experiencing anything for the first time always brings a bit of confusion and fear.
Sex is a form of intimacy between partners, and it can bring you closer to each other, but only if it’s not rushed and done when you’re both ready. The only way you’ll know if you’re both ready for what you want is by talking to each other before anything actually happens.
That way, you will assure the connection between you strengthens and your sexuality is nurtured in a healthy way. After all, you’ve got your entire life to explore everything around sex, so make sure you dedicate some time to learning about it first.
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