Queer Women
Queer Women
Queer women are wonderful. Even though I may be biased that queer women are wonderful, hear me out and let me explain the why!
What does Queer even mean?
Back in the day being dubbed “queer” was a slur and negative.
People used that to insult people in the LGBTQ+ community or to insult someone’s perceived identity (often feminine men).
Recently, we as a community have reclaimed the term “queer” to be empowering and create a sense of community rather than as an insult.
When you hear the word queer (not “what a queer” or “you are sucha queer” those are still negative), it indicates someone within the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, etc (LGBTQ+) community.
The word queer encapsulates for many relational, sexual, and gender identties.
Queer Women
So queer women are people who identify as women and are on some piece of the LGBTQ+ community spectrum.
As queer women, we come in a variety forms, identities, and belief systems. Some of these identities are within sexuality identities of bisexual, lesbian, gay, pansexual, etc. Some of these identities are within gender: transgender, cisgender, nonbinary, femme, genderflexible, etc.
Relational identities such as monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, open, etc.
Often queer women, specifically “lesbians” are boiled down to either being super “butch” or about lesbian orgasms. Some queer women are butch, many like to orgasm, but in my experience queer women show up in so many different ways. Please do not boil us down that simply.
Queer women are on a spectrum of gender and sexual fluidity. In my practice, I work with many queer women. As a queer woman, it is amazing to learn the diversity of this part of my community.
Not one of us is the exact same, but we all seem to intersect in some way or another.
This intersectionality is important in our collective growth, and learning from one another allows us to reach new levels of empowerment and discovery.
I learn so much from my queer clients, in general, and my clients who identify as queer women.
Being able to break the stereotypes, defy the patriarchy, and show up and be who we are is an empowering process to be a part of.
I have so much pride to know and work with them on this collective, healing journey towards growth and empowerment.
Collective Healing
In my practice, I have bore witness to collective trauma of the queer community.
This includes, yet is not limited to queer women.
The intersection of the identity as “queer” and “woman” has created a unique experience for queer women. The intersection of sexism and homophobia and if they are people of color add racism in the mix.
Bearing witness to the pain, the hurt, the trauma is heartbreaking. These brave women, who have fought and been harmed by a system of oppression.
This harm has reverberated through their beings and they are wanting to heal.
It is so sad to hear the stories of failed attempts at therapy – not on their part – but on the therapists part.
Therapists have tried to hold space for them and their experiences but were far beyond their depth in being able to facilitate a space to heal or to recognize the intersections of systems of play that were continuing their trauma as queer women.
When we (collectively) are able to hold space for queer women in therapy, where we recognize the various intersections and systems at play, we allow for the trauma and harm to be confronted in a way that allows for healing.
As therapists, it is our job to work towards facilitating a space of healing, growth, and change. In order to do that, we have to allow for the space to be one of vulnerability.
My hope is that through more therapists and clients being able to work together to create more spaces for (yet not limited to) queer women, we allow for collective healing and growth.
Queer women, I am sorry that in so many ways you have not felt seen or heard in the mental health field. I am sorry that in so many ways you were retraumatized in your experiences.
Although, I cannot take away that pain for you, I can offer a space in a practice where we are committed to growth, learning, social justice, and doing better!
We want to hear you, we want to see you, and we want to support you. We are here to empower you at Life Coaching and Therapy, LLC. Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.
Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.
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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!
Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.
LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.
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