Sexually Fluid Guide for Beginners

 

Being sexually fluid means your sexuality can change over time. It doesn’t mean you’re indecisive or confused about your sexuality. Sexual fluidity often gets confused with pansexuality, an attraction regardless of gender. A sexually fluid person will not be attracted to all genders at once; they will rather have shifts of interest when it comes to genders. 

If you want to understand sexual fluidity better or determine whether it’s something that resonates with you, continue reading this article. We’ve gathered all relevant information for sexually fluid people, including tips on how to embrace your authentic self and live your life to the fullest. 

 

Defining What It Means to Be Sexually Fluid 

Sexual fluidity is a natural process of feeling attracted to different genders at different times in your life. Although the shift itself is what makes sexual fluidity different from all other sexual orientations, identities, and processes, it is not its most essential characteristic. It is important to note that a sexually fluid individual does not necessarily experience constant changes in their sexuality. Their attractions and self-identifications may develop over time, but this evolution does not have to look any certain way.

 

Key Characteristics of Sexual Fluidity

If you’re uncertain whether you or someone in your circle is sexually fluid, there are certain characteristics that can provide additional clarification:

• Changes in attraction: You may feel attracted to one gender now and another gender or multiple genders in the future. 
• Changes in identity labels: The way you identify yourself can change from being a lesbian/gay to bisexual or vice versa. 
• Not a fixed state: You don’t see your sexual orientation as something permanent. It’s something that evolves with time and experience. 
• It’s not a phase: Sexual fluidity is not a phase; it’s a process. Just because there are changes in this process, it doesn’t mean it’s not permanent. 

 

How Fluidity Shows Up in Real Life 

Besides knowing these characteristics, are there other ways that sexual fluidity appears in our lives? Can you tell if someone is sexually fluid without knowing the key aspects mentioned above?

Think about all the people you felt attracted to on some level. What were their sexual identities? This doesn’t imply that all these people have nothing in common. For instance, you might like their sense of humor or intelligence, yet their gender wasn’t something that was a determining factor for you. 

When talking about fluidity, it’s important to consider time and context. Don’t look into your current or last relationship to define whether or not you’re sexually fluid. Context refers to the type of relationship and the connection level you had with that person. This information can help you clarify if you’re sexually fluid, pansexual, or something else. 

Keep in mind that being sexually fluid means you don’t have to change the way you label yourself. As a sexually fluid person, you can be interested in different genders across years, and your label will stay the same. Sexual fluidity means that the status quo can change, and these changes make you fluid. 

 

Becoming the Real You 

If our article helps you confirm you’re sexually fluid, you will want to continue reading the tips on how to truly enjoy your sexual fluidity and connect with others who celebrate you. Please ensure you feel confident about this information before sharing it with others. Highlight the best moments of this beautiful process and make a list of things you’re grateful for. 

Once you feel ready to let the world know you’re sexually fluid, think about the people who will be happy for you. Share it with your close friends and loved ones before opening up about it to everyone. If you feel stressed about it in any way, consider talking to a therapist with experience in this field. A therapist can help you navigate challenges you stumble upon and support you on the path toward embracing yourself completely. 

Another way to memorize all crucial moments of your sexually fluid journey is by journaling. Just imagine how exciting it will be to read your thoughts in a few years from now! Journaling or similar self-help techniques can help you if you feel confused or scared or want to work more on accepting yourself. 

 

Navigating Relationships and Communication 

A wonderful aspect of sexual fluidity is the inclusion of diverse relationships. Your well-being and happiness depend on how you connect and communicate romantically with loved ones. Once you’re certain that you’re sexually fluid, you will probably want to make the most of your relationships. 

Just like it is in any other relationship, sexually fluid people will need to be transparent and honest if they want to connect in a meaningful way with someone else. In this case, you will probably want to talk about your fluidity. If your partner is not familiar with sexual fluidity, please explain it to them. 

People should process new information at their own pace, but for a relationship to succeed, mutual respect and transparency are crucial. 

Being sexually fluid doesn’t mean you want to explore how it feels to be in a relationship with all genders. You may see that you only dated one gender at first, but now you prefer others. Your experience can be very different from that of another sexually fluid person. That is why it’s important to explore it in alignment with your needs and desires. 

 

Final Words

As a sexually fluid person, you will want to embrace curiosity and self-compassion. Being curious about how you feel about other people can help you understand yourself better. The better you know yourself, the easier it will be to find the right partners to enjoy this exciting journey with you!

Be kind to yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others, and embrace all the positive things sexual fluidity can bring to your life. Having compassion for yourself can help you make the most of your relationships and allow others to fall in love with the best version of yourself – the authentic one. 

 

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