What is Orgasm Abuse – Not The Kinky Kind!
Do you know what orgasm abuse feels like in your body? We aren’t talking about the kinky kind either. What is the difference between orgasm abuse and orgasm pleasure?
If you want to see our blog on orgasm denial, please go here!
Orgasm abuse happens and when there is something as serious as abuse on the line, we feel differently than we do about boundaries being crossed.
We all react to pressure differently… especially when it comes to orgasm and when it comes to abuse.
So when we are talking about orgasm abuse, for many reasons, a lot of people experience it and have kind of stage fright when it comes to discussing the sexual encounter(s).
Maybe it’s happened to you before. You meet someone you’re interested in, things click, you progress along the intimacy scale, and eventually find yourselves in bed together.
Suddenly, when it’s time to experience what you assume to be pleasure, abuse happens instead.
Your sexual partner may even assure you that it’s no big deal after it happens…
Still, it’s uncomfortable all the same.
Don’t agonize too much over it in the moment, yet we’ve all been there when the thoughts come back…
Orgasm abuse is a real thing, and it’s not always what you think.
Unfortunately, there’s a stigma around orgasm, therapy, abuse, and discussing uncomfortable or “negative” emotions.
For some people, it threatens to shatter the image they portray of the world.
Often, we EXPECT the people that we are with and talk to regularly to have a life more like a celebrity or a social media start than a human.
Abuse even if there is orgasm can also be taken as a signal that you weren“into it” and your sexual partner at that time may even think that they pleased you.
As a sex therapist, I often suggest talking about it, setting a boundary that it was not ok, and then following through in action steps to be certain that this type of abuse does not happen again.
You may wonder if you are quietly making this a bigger deal than it is.
If you told people, maybe then rejection would be on the horizon.
Sex is a complicated, like a messy ice cream sundae, and orgasms are the cherry on top, right?
Not really when it comes to orgasm abuse. Some people can be in a trauma state and still have an orgasm.
Therefore, it is important and imperative to know your boundaries and your requests within sexuality.
If you have been in a situation where you have been on either side of orgasm abuse, this isn’t easy to sit with.
At times, you may need support. Let a certified sex therapist help if you need.
If you need more support, please check out the video on how to recover after trauma.
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