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Not Attracted to Husband: What Should I Do?

Not Attracted to Husband: What Should I Do?

 

When preparing for your wedding, you’re probably not even considering that there could be times when you’re not attracted to husband. Although it might sound odd if it hasn’t happened to you, not feeling attracted to your partner is common and can be solved with the right approach.

We hope to explain why this occurs and what couples can do to feel more intimate with one another. So if you feel that your marriage needs help with sex and passion, keep reading this blog.

 

What Is Attraction in a Relationship? 

We use the word ‘attraction’ so often; however, defining it is not as easy as saying it. So, what is attraction? To describe attraction, we must think of desire, interest, or affinity that could be emotional, physical, sexual, or aesthetic. That said, people very often believe that attraction is related only to something romantic, while simply admiring someone can be considered a type of attraction. 

In a relationship, you can feel all these different types of attraction towards your partner. For example, you might be interested in learning more about how your partner approaches work responsibilities and learn from him that way. You could also admire his appearance after they have put so much time into improving their health and physique. 

Although you admire your partner, consider them your close friend, and so much more, it’s not uncommon to feel a lack of sexual attraction. You might even blame yourself for not feeling. Yet it’s important to remember that it’s not something humans are able to force. You feel something, or you don’t. Your focus shouldn’t be on forcing yourself to feel that attraction. It should be on understanding the reasons it’s not there. 

 

Factors that Impact Sexual Attraction 

When in a long relationship or marriage, it’s expected that the sexual attraction will not be as strong as it was in the beginning when everything was exciting. Over time, you may find yourself not attracted to husband in the same way. But that doesn’t mean the attraction is gone forever. Understanding what leads to that lack of attraction can help you restore it in your marriage.

Any marriage must include sexual fulfillment, which is frequently seen as essential to preserving a happy and healthy union. However, partners often have different needs, wants, and expectations when it comes to sex, making sexual fulfillment in marriage a challenge. Communication, connection, trust, and physical and mental well-being are just a few of the numerous factors that impact attraction in marriage.

 

Communication

Any successful couple should communicate effectively, and this is particularly true when it comes to sex. The likelihood of sexual satisfaction in a marriage is higher for couples who can discuss their sexual needs, wants, and preferences in an honest and open manner. 

Talking openly and honestly with your spouse is a good place to start if you are having trouble feeling attracted to them. Make sure you both are clear about what you enjoy and don’t like. Instead of pointing fingers or condemning one another, concentrate on figuring out how to make your sexual connection better. Also, keep in mind that communication, in general, can help you feel more connected. Which can then lead to more desire and need for physical touch. 

 

Intimacy

Another crucial element in attaining sexual fulfillment in a marriage is intimacy. If you find yourself not attracted to husband, it may be a sign that emotional intimacy needs attention, in addition to physical connection. Sharing your ideas, feelings, and experiences with your spouse builds emotional closeness, which can reignite attraction.

Make an effort to spend quality time together, both in and out of the bedroom, to increase closeness in your marriage. Cuddling, holding hands, and massaging one another are a few examples of this. Try to establish a secure and comfortable environment where you and your spouse may explore your sexual dreams and desires while still being present and aware of their needs.

 

Trust

Any successful couple must trust each other, and this is particularly true when it comes to feeling attracted and secure. It might be challenging to really enjoy sex and explore your sexuality if you don’t feel safe or at ease with your partner.

Try to be open and truthful with your spouse about your feelings, wants, and opinions in order to foster trust in your marriage. Refrain from holding secrets or concealing anything, and be open to hearing your partner’s worries. Keep in mind that developing trust takes time and that both parties must be dedicated to creating a solid and wholesome relationship. 

 

Emotional and Physical Well-Being 

Lastly, attaining sexual fulfillment in a marriage depends on both mental and physical well-being. It might be challenging to completely participate in and enjoy sex if you are dealing with mental or physical health conditions like stress, anxiety, or depression. 

Try to maintain a good diet, get lots of rest and relaxation. And exercise frequently to enhance your mental and physical well-being. Think about getting professional assistance from a therapist or counselor if you are experiencing mental health problems. Keep in mind that keeping a happy and healthy marriage depends on you taking care of yourself. 

 

Invest In Your Marriage

If all of the above is not an issue in your marriage. Then it’s time to pay closer attention to what has changed. What was different when you felt attracted to them? Has something changed in your or your partner’s life? Noticing these details might be difficult, so you should consider reaching out to a therapist. You could look for an individual therapist or a marital counselor, depending on how your partner feels about this subject.

Whatever you choose, make sure you are open to discussing these issues with an expert. Sometimes, a person might feel ashamed, insecure, or even ungrateful if complaining about their spouse to a third person. That is why it’s important to keep in mind that a therapist can help you only if they know all the vital information about the reason you seek therapy. In therapy, there is no judgment, and you are invited to share everything that can help you improve your marriage. 

 

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