How Your Sense of Smell and Taste Affects Your Sexual Experiences
When you are having sex with someone, there is no avoiding sexual smell and taste!
Smell and taste REALLY can affect your sex life. If you want to heighten your sexual pleasure, consider the importance of these two senses when it comes to impacting lust and attraction!
Most sexual activity comes with some form of bodily fluid exchange. If having sex is accompanied with something that you were taught to be “disgusted by,” subconsciously, a part of you will feel disgusted during sex.
Look at the length you have gone through in your life to cover up your smell using deodorant, soap, perfumes, and scented feminine hygiene products.
Many of us carry shame when it comes to the way we smell and taste. We are sold products to keep us clean. We are constantly inundated with the message that something about our genitals is wrong and must be avoided.
For those who are advanced sexually you were taught to eat different foods so your sexual parts will smell better. Newsflash – that is still shaming and judgemental!
I’ve learned that most people have negative feelings when it comes to their own or another’s fluids and smells. This does not include fluids and smells from bacterial or sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This insight is based on more than 15,000 clinical hours of experience I’ve had speaking to those from an array of backgrounds.
Here are some of the most common negative taste and smell examples:
- Disgusted to kiss their partners after going down on them.
- Partners that refuse cunnilingus or intercourse with menstruating women.
- Joking about vaginas smelling “like fish” or cum being “gross” and “repulsive.”
- Telling their partner to shave off body hair, because it holds the sweat.
Why are Tastes and Smells an Important Part of Sex?
We are animals and have instinctual, primal tendencies that dictate our sexual behaviors, desires, attractions, and sometimes turn ons!
Chemical communication plays an important role in the social interactions and mating behavior of diverse animals, yet its role in humans remains unknown.
- Pheromones – substances which are secreted to the outside (secretions such as urine, semen or vaginal secretions, breast milk and potentially also saliva and breath, yet most attention thus far has been directed toward axillary sweat) by an individual, and received by a second individual of the same species. When pheromones are released they cause a specific reaction, for example, a definite behavior or a developmental process. They are present in all bodily secretions. Aandrostadienone is a pheromone that is present at much higher concentrations in male sweat and can be detected by women. Androstadienone improves mood. A positive mood and heightened focus are important for a women’s sexual response and sexual satisfaction.
- Copulins – chemical fluids secreted by a vagina are chemical messengers that are emitted from the body that end up activating specific behavioral or physiological responses in those around them.
Whether you know it or not, these pheromones and copulin could be playing a key part in attraction.
How Can We Embrace our Senses During Sex?
Enough is enough! WE MUST END SEXUAL SHAMING OF SCENTS AND FLUIDS FOR MORE DELICIOUS PLEASURE.
Start by tasting or smelling your OWN fluids! This is one of the TOP tips from the Queen of Female Masturbation and the woman that put the vibrator on the map, Betty Dodson.
I recommend that you try to release some of your inhibitions and enjoy the tastes and smells of your sexual partner. Being comfortable with the taste and scent of your lover can be an incredibly amazing, pleasure-enhancing experience.
I promise, you are not “weird,” or “disgusting” if you kiss your partner after they go down on you! It is HOT, and it is a sign of confidence.
Nothing is that bad about your partner’s or your own taste and smell!
I recommend looking deeper into these aversions and questioning whether it may be something you wish to overcome, because nothing compares to having a partner who loves the way you taste and smell.
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