What is Female Orgasm Denial?

 

Female orgasm denial is a term for sexual play – especially in power exchange relationships – where orgasm is delayed, denied, and then even “forced.” 

To learn all about orgasm denial, see here

Today, we will talk about female orgasm denial specifically. 

Ask yourself if this part of you really wants to play with your partner in this way. 

Orgasm denial is SO not for everyone… please do not do it if it is too much for you. 

Does your inner Dominant or submissive really vibe with your partner(s) inner Dominant or submissive? Maybe! Maybe not. 

Female orgasm denial is one type of strategy for sex, and sometimes I have heard that women were into orgasm denial as part of consensual “non consent.” 

What is consensual non-consent?

Basically, it’s about “forcing” someone to do things that they pretend they don’t want to do, or doing things to them that the receiver “protests” against, yet are actually in favor of.  

One form of female orgasm denial that women have talked to me about is genital deprivation.

 

Genital Deprivation

If you got the basics of orgasm denial, female orgasm denial can be taken up a step by practicing genital deprivation. 

This method is used to build arousal, tension, and connection to one another by practicing building up desire and then lowering the desire.

So… you touch your partner everywhere – except their genitals. 

This can be a really interesting exploration of erogenous zones, and you never know- you may have an unintended orgasm from the unlikeliest of places! 

  • Tease your partner by licking, tickling and kissing them all over their body. 
  • Avoid touching their genitals, vagina, clitoris or anus! Stick to other zones like their feet, neck, inner thighs, lower back, or forearms and hands. With consent or consensual “non consent,” you can tie up your submissive for an added bonus if you know what you are doing!
  • You can use your hands, tongue, or a toy super close to their genitals, and then move it away to another, less sensitive area. 

 

Forced Orgasm

This is a complete 180, and keeping in mind that everything is done in a consensual context it can still seem a little strange on paper- and so much fun in practice! Forced orgasm is pretty self explanatory- you make someone orgasm who “doesn’t want to” or make them orgasm many times or much stronger than they think they can handle. Safe words are a must! 

  • Acting out a scenario and making your partner orgasm “against their will” can be inexplicably hot and safe! 
  • Practice compassionate aftercare after these scenarios, and use a safe word. 
  • Make sure your partner respects this immediately. 
  • Like when you’re being tickled and you want it to stop but someone keeps going? 
  • This can be a great exercise if you are wanting to try squirting or g-spot orgasms. 
  • Have a safeword, and challenge your partner by continuing to stimulate them as they orgasm, and keep going no matter how much they squirm and resist (provided they don’t use the safe word of course). This can result in some intense orgasms that are almost unbearable and may result in some extra surprises! 

 

Ready to Try?

Female orgasm denial often involves tension and release, control and submission, and pleasure and pain. 

If you want to explore your submissive or dominant side, female orgasm denial can be a lot of fun, and an awesome way to dip your toes into BDSM – with or without a partner! 

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