Are You Gender Conforming or Gender Non Conforming?
What is Gender Conforming?
Gender conforming individuals are people who adhere to “normative” cultural standards surrounding gender expression.
This would be a woman dressing in feminine attire or what our culture would consider acceptable for a woman (dress, leggings, certain colors, skirt, heels, etc.) or a man dressing in “masculine” attire (pants, athletic gear, a suit, tshirts, etc).
The majority of our culture is “gender conforming” because that is what is expected and acceptable.
People, generally, like to feel connected and accepted in our culture so most people will follow or conform to what is “in style” or “appropriate” for their gender.
Gender conforming can also be defined as following the “rules” to your assigned gender at birth or your natal sex.
Some would not consider transgender people to be gender conforming, even if they are wearing clothes that match their gender.
Most of the clients and the majority of individuals in our world are gender conforming.
What I work on with these clients is challenging these “normative” beliefs in order for them to assess what truly is comfortable for them so that it is a conscious choice rather than an unconscious one.
So often when we conform, we do not think, we just do without being conscious.
Whatever your choice is, I want you to realize it is a choice.
Gender Non-Conforming or Gender Creative Individuals
Gender non-conforming individuals have gender expression that does not follow the stereotypical “rules” surrounding what is expected in for attire. For example, someone who presents as a woman yet is shopping for herself in the men’s department.
Additionally, individuals who are gender non-conforming may have a different style completely or may fluctuate between what the culture considers masculine and feminine. Some people may present more neutral or androgenous, whereas others may shift their gender expression based on activity, crowd, emotion, or internal part of them that they are embodying.
People who are gender creatives may identify with their assigned gender or may identify with other identities such as non-binary, gender queer, gender fluid, gender bending, gender non-conforming, or something else.
For the clients that I work with who are gender creatives, often have a strong sense of internal identity and also really connect with the spectrum of masculinity and femininity. Others do not connect to either at all.
Gender Conforming, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression are NORMAL!
To be clear, there is nothing clinically problematic or concerning about gender expression or being gender conforming AT ALL.
The individuals who see licensed clinicians like me and are gender non-confomring yet are seeing me for a completely different reason (and just want an identity-affirming therapist).
As you may imagine, someone who is not conforming to societal norms experiences a lot of unique stressors, and with gender expression being something that you “show” the world – it creates a lot of difficulty due to people’s hate and inability to learn and grow.
Regardless of how you express your gender, whether you conform or not, at LCAT, we see you and we are here to help provide a safe, comfortable environment for you to explore yourself and learn and grow to be in your best empowered self!
We are here to help at LCAT, we have various therapists who have training and understanding.
Join us on your healing journey.
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