What Is Male Edging?
Edging is a technique for either one partner or both partners to extend the time it takes to reach orgasm. Even though edging is typically considered a method for men to stay in the game longer, it can be used by women as well. Before an orgasm, partners learn to stop all sexual arousal and communicate. They can experiment with different methods of contact so that the agitated partner can calm down before continuing. This can both delay the climax and heighten the intensity of the orgasms when they do occur.
Communication with your partner is essential if you want to experiment with edging during sex. Success depends on knowing how many cycles of teasing they can take and how to touch them during a cool-down period.
Before getting into the details of male edging, let’s take a look at the common misconceptions about it.
Misconceptions about Male Edging
Ejaculation is impacted by a few medical disorders (the discharge of semen from the penis). Not to be confused with edging are these:
- When you reach orgasm soon, you ejaculate prematurely. Anxiety and hereditary characteristics are a few of the causes. Up to 40% of men who have a penis experience it at some point.
- Anorgasmia, often known as delayed orgasm, is the inability to have an orgasm. This illness is uncommon and poorly understood.
- When the muscles in your urethra are unable to correctly contract, semen might back up into your bladder and result in retrograde ejaculation. Because there is no discernible ejaculate at the climax, this is referred to as a dry orgasm. It may be caused by nerve damage brought on by other illnesses such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, spinal cord injuries, and certain surgeries.
On the other side, edging is a secure and healthy method of sex exploration. It has no conditions or negative effects. It can be used either alone or during intercourse with a partner and can boost enjoyment regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Edging can be utilized to improve communication and closeness by focusing on one partner or both.
How to Make the Most of Edging
Choose first if you want to try edging solo or with your partner. Whatever method you choose, keep in mind that getting to know your body is always a good idea. The cherry on top is orgasms that are even more powerful.
To practice edging, you can use your hands or toys. Whatever method you use, make sure to move gently and deliberately while paying close attention to the signals of your body. You should slow down or stop completely if you feel like you’re about to orgasm.
The next step is to calm down and rest until your orgasm is under control. Try deep breathing or rubbing your skin with your hands. Simply let your body appreciate a different kind of touch. Consider what nearly induced orgasm in you while taking note of how your body is feeling. You are free to restart and repeat the process as often as you like once you are ready.
With Your Partner
Hands, lips, sex organs, and toys can all be used when edging with a partner. Discuss how to let the other person know when you both need a break. Whatever works best can be a phrase or a gesture. When one of you is getting near to orgasm, try switching up your positions or your intensity. Alternate between penetrative sex and touch or oral stimulation and playing with a toy.
You can begin with a few edging cycles and increase the number as you please. During pauses, give one another a sensual massage. Blood will flow into your pelvic area more as you go through more cycles. This increases excitement and may trigger orgasms with greater intensity.
As edging might be a completely new term for you, we’ll break the entire process into simple steps for you to follow.
With or without a partner, the edging process typically looks like this:
- Begin sexual stimulation,
- Change the intensity or stop just before an orgasm,
- Increase the intensity after a small delay,
- Repeat all the steps.
When practicing edging with a partner, it is important to always talk about it beforehand and get enthusiastic approval.
Both those practicing alone and those practicing with groups may benefit from edging. According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, edging can make some people’s sexual activity more intense. The edging cycles can heighten tension and produce a more gratifying climax.
Additionally, edging might make sexual activities last longer. This method can be used to stop premature ejaculation by those who suffer it. To increase confidence in the bedroom, couples may also utilize edging. This might be especially helpful for newlywed couples who might be hesitant to have sex.
Finding out a person’s sexual preferences may be possible with the use of edging. People can learn about sexual triggers and experiment with new activities by doing cycles of edging repeatedly. This is also a great way to understand what you enjoy and what turns you on in sex and help your partner understand what gives you sexual pleasure.
Although edging may not be for everyone, it is safe and advantageous. People who want to try edging with others should always talk to them about it first. This will help establish whether the person is at ease and eager to give it a try. Some individuals might want to think about investigating edging independently first. They can use this to determine whether they want to attempt it with others, too.
All in all, edging enables you to discover new methods to satisfy both yourself and your partner as well as experience stronger orgasms. Instead of focusing just on achieving orgasm, letting yourself relax into the sex-related sensations can lead to a more playful, spontaneous relationship, increase your emotional connection to your spouse, and help you become a better lover.
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