What to Do When One Partner Wants Sex More

One partner wants sex more than the other and it’s starting to feel personal. If you’re the higher-desire partner, you might be interpreting the “not tonight” as rejection.If you’re the lower-desire partner, you might feel constant pressure and start avoiding even small moments of closeness.

This is one of the most common (and most painful) patterns I see in long-term relationships. The good news: it is solvable when both people stop treating desire like a character flaw and start treating it like a system that needs care. In this video, I walk you through:

Why a desire gap is rarely about attraction or love.
How even small amounts of pressure can kill the desire you’re trying to make
Easy ways to ease the stress while still staying in touch
What makes the partner with less desire feel safer and the partner with more desire feel wanted again?

If this is something you and your partner are navigating, you’re not broken and you’re not alone.

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