Clitoral Orgasm: Everything You Need To Know About It
When it comes to orgasms, there is always something new to learn, especially with certain types such as a clitoral orgasm, right? After all, every woman has the right to learn how to enjoy herself. Enjoying that clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration on your own is something that will help you understand what you love in sex, what your erogenous zones are, or, simply put – what drives you crazy in bed.
So, what is actually a clitoral orgasm, and how can you achieve it? If these questions are coming to mind when hearing about this type of orgasm, keep reading as we’re laying down all the facts, and also the tips and tricks on how to make the most of it and enjoy it every time alone or with your sexual partner.
When talking about orgasms, we have to mention our masturbation mentor and explorer of sexual pleasure, Betty Dodson. She is an artist, author, and PhD sexologist who has been guiding women and educating them on women’s sexual pleasure and health for more than four decades. Here is everything you can learn from Betty’s school of orgasms.
We will usually just say the word ‘orgasm’ when talking about women, however, you will need to be more specific from now on. The way these orgasms feel usually depends on a person, yet learning about them will help you understand what to expect.
Before diving into explanations of what orgasms are and what types of them exist, let’s talk about the clitoris first. It is a small button that has many nerve endings peeking out from the vulva’s top, and it extends down the inside of the labia.
To stimulate it efficiently, you will need to gently rub it with your fingers, palms of your hand, or tongue in a back, forth, or circular motion. For those who want to pleasure themselves and are doing it for the first time, you will need to use a lot of lubricant on your vagina. Once you have done that, start doing clitoral stimulation and discover what you like. Also, if something starts making you feel uncomfortable, stop immediately.
When it comes to heterosexual sex, the vaginal orgasm is the easiest to reach due to the penetration with the penis, however, for women, it’s the most difficult orgasm to reach on their own. Without a penis, a woman might use her fingers or a sex toy to have the same sensation.
Start by inserting your fingers or the chosen sex toy into your vagina, and start moving them so you feel almost the same as if you were having sex with a partner who has a penis. Try to navigate your fingers or your toy in the direction of your belly button, as that’s where your G-spot is located. Meaning, hitting it with regular pressure might result in an orgasm.
Did you know that anal orgasms are way more common in men due to the prostate? Additionally, rubbing the outside of the anal opening without penetrating can produce this type of orgasm. Remember to use lube when doing anal play, as the anal area naturally doesn’t produce lubricant, the skin around it is prone to tears. Also, wash anything that touches the anus with soap and water before touching another part of the body, to avoid infections.
There are many women who struggle with orgasm, even while masturbating. Most of the time, the lack of orgasms in our lives are a result of the emotional or psychological issues where we cannot actually relax. By changing our lifestyle, hydrating appropriately, and practicing pleasure, the orgasms will come easier.
There are plenty of ways one can enjoy clitoral sex games. The best thing about it is that you can orgasm both alone and with your sexual partner. Of course, reaching climax alone will be a lot easier as you know what feels good and what doesn’t. If you were struggling to reward yourself with an orgasm, keep in mind that’s a process that involves many complex issues.
Erogenous zone orgasms are something you will definitely love, yet it requires a lot of experimentation. What works for you may not work for the next person. Some can easily orgasm from kisses on their neck, while others will love feeling their partner’s teeth on their nipples, or maybe even fingers on the inside of their elbows.
If you’re not sure which are your erogenous zones, the best way to find out is by using a feather or any other light external object and finding out where you feel the most pleasure.
During an Orgasm
Have you ever wondered what happens physically in a woman’s body when having an orgasm? Vagina, uterus and anus, and sometimes other body parts, will contract rapidly 3-15 times. You probably already know that women sometimes ejaculate as well, which means they release a liquid out of the urethra.
We don’t experience sex and orgasm the same way, so exploring is the essential part of any sex game you and your partner decide to play. However, there are four stages of an orgasm that might be useful to know:
- Excitement: The first moments of being turned on
- Plateau: The repetitive motion that brings you pleasure
- Orgasm: The explosion of pleasure
- Resolution: The refractory period.
Communication Leads To Orgasm
In any type of sexual play that includes two people, communication is crucial. Sharing with your partner what you want, how, where and when is the only way to ensure you feel the most pleasure. Make sure you have these conversations before you two engage in sexual play so you both know what the other person wants.
This doesn’t imply you are not able to talk or change opinions during sex, it’s just to set some ground rules and have a general understanding of how things should go. Your partner cannot read your mind, so make sure you always share with them anything that might affect your sexual life and, of course, your orgasms.
There are many ways to experience orgasms. Sometimes, they will be small and almost unnoticeable, while other times, they will be really big and powerful. Sometimes, you will have only one way, and other times you might have several of them in a row.
Just like our bodies are different, our orgasms are different as well. It’s up to you to explore what brings pleasure to you and communicate it with your partner so you both can enjoy it as much as possible.
Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?
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