I Hate Therapy: 7 Reasons Why People Say This Phrase
If you have ever said or heard someone saying ‘I hate therapy,’ they probably didn’t have a great match.
Although the general public is becoming more aware of the benefits of therapy, a lot of people are not interested in talking to others about their time in therapy.
There are many reasons for someone’s lack of motivation to start therapy, from insurance to time constraints. In this article, we’ll go through reasons why people say i hate therapy and a solution for each!
#1 The Paradox of Choice
Typically, it is nice to have more than one option when deciding, yet having an endless number of choices might make you reluctant to make a decision. When it comes to therapists, most people will feel overwhelmed with so many different types of therapy to try. Without a recommendation, you’re often stuck reviewing names and phrases that mean nothing to you until you finally decide to quit.
To help you decide, consider creating a list of criteria: the days and times you are available, price, or online recommendations. If a person lacks one or more requirements, they will be eliminated from your list. Simple as that! This also helps you feel more confident in your decision.
#2 Long Waitlists
Even if you easily find a therapist you like, there is a chance you will need to join a waitlist first. Therapists are limited in the number of new clients they are taking on, so you’ll maybe need to wait a few weeks or even months until your first session. If you’re currently going through a certain situation that made you reach out to a therapist, it might be difficult to wait for a response from your chosen therapist.
Instead of waiting, you can focus on other resources that could help you such as reading books and articles, watching inspirational movies, or talking to your friends about it. This will take your mind from thinking about your therapy and allow you to feel better with things you can easily do in your daily life.
#3 Therapy Takes Time
Therapy is not an instant solution to problems. People who decide to start seeing a therapist have to be aware that, depending on the reason for therapy, it takes time to improve certain areas. The time might even be longer for people treating depression, anxiety, insomnia, or any other disorder.
To avoid feeling frustrated, you should celebrate smaller milestones. For instance, celebrate one month of therapy, the first time you approached a difficult situation differently or noticed an improvement in any other way.
Many people skip researching their therapists before scheduling the initial session, which often leads to a bad match. A personal impression of your therapist is crucial as you’ll share your intimate feelings, emotions and thoughts with them. If you don’t like them for any reason, this will impact your therapy.
Do a bit of research. Search for the therapist’s YouTube videos, blog, or social media accounts to listen to how they talk and if you like how they think about certain topics. How they explain their view of a topic can explain a lot about a person, especially if you share the same core values.
#5 Not Ready
That is probably the most valid answer on the list. Some people will not be ready to put in the work to make their therapy work. After all, you will not solve your problems or heal your traumas by only talking to your therapist, yet you have to be willing to change certain actions or thoughts that prevent leading to the same outcome.
If you feel like you need therapy yet are not ready for it, seek alternative solutions that might work for you. Reading a book about an issue or trauma might be something that feels right at the given time, and it could even motivate you to talk to a therapist later when you feel ready.
#6 Unrealistic Expectations
If you haven’t been to therapy before, chances are you are uncertain about what to expect. Some people assume that talking to a therapist once about their issue is enough. Even though they are mental health experts, they are not magicians. It takes time to change patterns in your life, regardless of the type of the issue or trauma.
People often choose to go to therapists for years to work on their mental and emotional health because they are aware of many things worth discussing on a professional level. To be more realistic, you can talk to people who have gone to therapy already or read about personal experiences online.
#7 In Denial
We have all been in denial about something at some point in our lives and probably more than once. However, the trickiest part about denial is that you think you don’t need help. You deeply believe you can solve all your problems although they have been present in your life for a while now.
For therapy to work, you must accept to learn and change. You must be willing to listen to your therapist and try new methods that might sound scary, odd, or uncredible at first. Understanding that this person is an expert in their field provides them with credibility, and you should make the most of their advice and implement it in your life.
In Final Words
Therapy is not easy. You cannot compare it to shopping or going to a restaurant. As you start working with a therapist, you will notice how issues in your life change. You may go from saying “I hate therapy” to “this is working.”
Such results require you to dedicate time, make goals, spend time learning new skill sets, and have faith in the process. If you don’t trust me, you can ask anybody who has tried therapy in their lifetime. It brings so many benefits into your life, and just by talking to a therapist regularly, you can get a new perspective.
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