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My Husband Won’t Talk to Me but Talks to Everyone Else

My Husband Won’t Talk to Me but Talks to Everyone Else

 

If you’ve typed into Google, ‘My husband won’t talk to me but talks to everyone else,’ you’re in the right place. Before we start, keep in mind that you’re not alone in this. Many women have been in your shoes, and being interested in what’s actually going on means you care deeply. Being in a marriage where you feel like your husband is giving his attention to everyone except you can be painful. They might be cheerful when talking to their colleagues, friends, or parents, yet they show no interest in talking to you. 

Instead of pointing fingers at each other, it’s best to approach this issue with some curiosity. When you approach a sensitive topic like this with an open mind, it will be easier to understand the other side, see what you can do to improve the situation, and come up with solutions that work for both of you.

 

Why He’s Not Talking To Me?

We can’t answer this question for you, yet we can help you find the answer on your own. There are certain questions you need to ask yourself to be able to understand how serious the issue is, such as:

  • Why do I feel he talks to everyone but me?
  • What topics does he discuss with others and not with me?
  • Which things does he still talk to me about? 
  • When did I notice he stopped talking to me as he used to? 
  • How does he react when I’m sharing something with him? 
  • What would be his motives for not talking to me? 

 

When responding to these questions, try to be constructive. Blaming your husband will not make the problem go away. Instead, do your best to respond as realistically as possible. For instance, you might not know his real motives for not talking to you, yet asking yourself this question might suggest ideas you haven’t considered. They might want to protect you from worrying about financial problems or wish to keep their work life separated from their private life. 

 

What Can I Do About It? 

Feeling like your partner prefers to talk to everyone else except you is definitely a tough situation to be in. However, marriage takes work, and most of that work involves learning about each other as you grow old together. The first thing you’ll probably decide to do is talk to your close friend. As much as it’s a wonderful way to talk about it with someone else, keep in mind that your friend will not be able to give you the answers you seek. The only person who knows why your husband is not talking to you is your husband.

So, make sure you talk to them about it. Don’t initiate the conversation if you feel like it will cost you to be open-minded. The chances are that if you start accusing them of how they make you feel, they’ll not be encouraged to talk about this issue. Try to be curious. Say that you’ve noticed that they are not sharing things with you as they used to, and you’d like to see if you could do something to make them feel better. 

When talking to your husband about this, focus more on listening than speaking. You already know what you want to say, so be sure to listen to everything they’re saying actively. If you start the conversation, yet they’re uninterested or looking for an excuse not to talk to you, you should consider something else. A partner who is not willing to talk about something that affects your marriage will have a negative impact on you. That is why it would make more sense to suggest marital therapy. You can suggest it as a way to strengthen the bond between you two if you’re worried they would accept it if they knew they were the reason to seek therapy. 

 

We’ve Tried Therapy… He’s Still Not Talking to Me

If you’ve tried marital counseling and your partner is still preferring to talk to everyone except you, there’s really nothing else you can do. For whatever reason, your partner is not willing to change what bothers you, and it’s up to you to decide whether you should be in such a marriage or not. 

Not understanding why they are acting a certain way can drain your energy and make you forget about yourself. If your husband has made up his mind, it’s time to make yours. Nothing has to happen overnight. Start meeting with your friends, do things that make you happy, and be the one who will give you everything you need instead of waiting for your husband to change and be intimate with you. 

Once you start feeling better about how you spend your free time and the new memories you’re creating with your friends, it’s time to ask yourself how your husband fits this new situation. Are you feeling happy when you’re out with your friends and feel bad as soon as you enter your home? If so, maybe the next conversation shouldn’t be about the reason for his silence. It should be about the purpose of your marriage. 

If you can’t talk to each other, if you’re not having fun, and if you’re not there for each other, it might be difficult to motivate yourself to stay in such a marriage. After all, you did your best, and he is stilln’t interested in talking about the problem. It makes sense to take care of yourself, even if it means ending the marriage.

 

Don’t Rush It 

Whatever the outcome is, don’t be impulsive. Give your husband a chance to explain why he’s not talking to you. Maybe you’ll be surprised by his answer. Giving ultimatums is never a beneficial idea, especially in situations like this one. Invite him to have a heart-to-heart conversation and remind him that you both want your marriage to work. If that makes him change his behavior, that’s great! If not, the problem you’re dealing with goes beyond him not talking to you. Consider talking to an individual therapist if your husband is not willing to go, and make sure you take care of yourself along the way. 

 

 

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