Let’s Talk About Marriage!
Let’s Talk About Marriage!
Have you ever wondered if there is a talk about marriage that could help yours?
I did back in the day, and I know many of my clients have too!
The courtship process of dating used to be about testing this exchange in a way. Sometimes now, we bypass courtship for love, then we have marital problems.
While I bring you videos like, 7 Things That Destroy a Marriage, and then provide you with useful communication techniques that will guide you to recover from those topics, I want to talk about marriage today in a way that will help you improve communication with your partner… even with anyone.
In the book, The Good Marriage, we talk about marriage in four ways:
The Traditional Marriage – roles were very defined.
- Back in the day relationships and sexuality were witnessed as an exchange. The most common exchange in marriage from one partner, often the man, was I will give you my name, my commitment, and finances to shelter you. For the other partner, often the caretaker of the house, to provide children, companionship, and sexual desire.
- The man would make more money in the house. Deep respect for the distinction of the roles they had.
The Companion Marriage – more friendly.
- Ride or die commitment.
- Flexible roles with who does what in the marriage.
The Healing Marriage – savior marriage
- Often in this marriage, both individuals came from trauma and had a deep level of healing to do themselves.
- Then, they help their partner to do the same!
The Romantic Marriage – the one that had the most vibrant sex life.
- Keeping a live story of the couples’ romance.
- Often sharing the narrative of how the couple met. Romantic and repeated.
- Prioritize dates and adventures to keep the passion and romance alive.
In summary, whatever type of partnership you have, it’s good to talk about it.
It is especially important to talk about marriage.
Love is unconditional. Relationships, including marriage, take agreements, collaboration, and commitment!
On the level of consciousness, we are infinite… yet, we have a finite human body and only one body in this lifetime.
Instead of taking our body and mind to project onto others, let’s learn and grow.
- The mind is tricky and often projects.
- Usually when I am in hatred, I am also more likely to act out.
- Usually when I am in pain, I can justify my behavior to defend, deflect, and deny.
- Often, I must do the inner work to choose a new type of communication style with grace, and with accountability.
While we talk about marriage, may we experience ourselves as bigger, more profound, and more complex. The more intricate, the more passionate!
Adulting and creating safe space for your inner selves to talk about marriage, in the way that most of us did not see modeled growing up!
Being able to work with our partner to help them self-analyze and assess their choices.
We don’t want to suppress ourselves or our partners too far, because there is a chance it can turn into self-hate. We want to know the way to include all parts of our psyche into the conversation.
For me, my world has transformed when I love myself enough to take responsibility without collapsing into overly dramatic feelings of guilt.
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