How To Save My Marriage!
How To Save My Marriage!
Step by step guide on how to save my marriage is here for you.
Seriously, how long has it taken you to google how to save my marriage?
If longer than a year, that’s an eternity in our fast-changing, “what’s new today” world.
You may be here because you or your partner(s) feels:
Step 1 on How To Save My Marriage
Accept that to save your marriage is going to be slow and tedious, yet really helpful!
I imagine a part of you feels your partner is confusing because they excuse their behaviors, and yet aren’t willing to learn about you or hear what you are saying.
My take is that because your partner and you are needing help on “how to save my marriage,” that I can give you a very strange take on how to slowly yet practically unwind the tangled mess.
Step 2 is to Use Your Psyche!
Go to therapy or use the Inner Aspects Method (IAM) by Francesca Gentille!
A quick synopsis of the IAM model is that ALL OF US have 100s of inner aspects on the inside.
They are brilliant parts of us created by our psyche to survive.
We can be heroes and villains in our own story.
Sometimes, it goes awry in a partnership and tangles up though.
You may not even be aware subconsciously of the many inner parts of your personality.
My truth is that there is no “ONE” thing that we are as a partner though. I wish there were… it would feel really comforting to know. Life, relationships, and relationships with responsibility and/or power dynamics are more nuanced and layered than one answer.
Step 3 Nonviolent Communication will save your marriage!
Nonviolent communication and Tony Robbins’ 6 Human Needs will teach you exactly how to save my marriage!
Each part of our psyche has different needs! See the graphic of the human needs here!
Humans WILL get these needs met (in HEALTHY or UNHEALTHY ways).
If we can slow down our world a bit and self-reflect and evaluate who we are on the inside… we can slow down enough to get conscious of who we are inside.
And then, figure out what STRATEGIES (examples of strategies:
- eating healthy
What are some of the ways you get your needs met through work? Which parts of you are getting those needs met?
For me, the therapist parts of me get my needs of contribution, uncertainty, connection, and certainty through some of the strategies I use daily with my clients and my staff.
Step 4 is Reconciliation on the past.
Whoever is MOST accountable wins. Continue to own parts of what you did to contribute to the current state of events. Seek a licensed marriage and family therapist, someone trained with a license in couples counseling, or seek someone who knows about balancing out the foundation of the relationship.
Begin moving through old stories and blame or shame.
Realize that these inner messages, if you have a partner willing to do the work and grow with you, are not going to be helpful for the relationship you are building.
Step 5 is where we envision a new marriage!
New rituals, vows, and more consciousness. Begin feeling inspired. Looking at your partner, and even friends, with loving eyes. New visions and recalibrating what you would like to create is often helpful to move through times that are uncertain and uncomfortable.
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