Manipulation in Relationships Signs

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7 Sneaky Manipulation in Relationships Signs You NEED to Spot!

 

Manipulation in relationships signs aren’t always flashing neon red flags. Sometimes they’re soft, subtle, and wrapped in a hug that feels just off. 😳 Ever gotten a hug that felt more like control than comfort? Yep. That’s what we’re talking about.

In this video, I’m breaking down 7 low-key ways manipulation hides in physical touch—and why your gut reaction is always worth listening to.

When someone uses physical affection to control, distract, or guilt-trip you, it can leave you questioning your own instincts. A hand on your back that subtly steers you at a party. A kiss that interrupts rather than connects. A “comforting” cuddle that only shows up when you agree with them. All of these are ways manipulation disguises itself as intimacy.

We’re diving into how touch can be used like a reward system—offered when you comply, withdrawn when you push back. And how physical closeness can blur emotional boundaries, keeping you stuck in cycles of guilt and confusion.

Another manipulation tactic? Acting hurt or rejected when you ask for space. That “But I just want to be close to you” line can sound sweet but feel suffocating when it ignores your needs.

By the end of this, you’ll know how to spot when affection is being used to connect—and when it’s being used to control. Because real love doesn’t pressure. It honors your yes and your no.

So get cozy, open your heart, and let’s shine a light on these subtle signs—because your peace is worth protecting. 💛

Let’s dive in. 👀✨

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Netflix Adolescence: The Conversation We Need to Have

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Netflix Adolescence: The Conversation We Need to Have

 

If you still haven’t seen Netflix’s Adolescence, you’ve probably heard other people talk about it. According to Netflix, this TV series had 96.7 million views in the first three weeks, making it the ninth most-watched series on that platform. There are several reasons why this series became popular immediately, yet the most important one is that it invites us all to talk about something taboo—violent behavior in minors. 

If you still haven’t watched it, we’ll do our best not to spoil it for you. However, you probably already know what it’s about. A young boy is accused of the murder of a girl who goes to the same school as he does. Unlike any other series about this topic, Adolescence doesn’t pretend to be a crime series in which we’re anxiously waiting to learn whether he did it or not. Instead, we’re invited to learn about violent behaviors between teens, how they affect them, and what impact such a tragedy can have on a thirteen-year-old boy and his entire family. 

 

Adolescent Violence

This series showed viewers that adolescent violence is taboo for some reason. Children feel like they have to hide it from their parents, and the parents assume that everything is alright if their child is not asking for help. The series also addressed the school system’s lack of ability to provide that support to students. 

Underpaid educators and overworked parents are struggling with so many issues in their adult lives that the social component of growing up is completely overlooked. Just because a person is a good teacher or a good parent, it doesn’t mean that the child will be protected from anything that’s going on in school. Peer pressure and social media play a giant role in today’s adolescent years. This generation is going through something that previous generations haven’t experienced. Maybe that’s also one explanation for why these kids lack support when they need it the most.

 Most importantly, it is crucial to include teens in the conversation about violent behaviors. This Netflix series made that obvious and invited parents to check in on their children and ask about these things. Instead of asking the question, ‘How was school today?’ sit with them and start a conversation about “what was the most challenging part of your day” or “what was the highlight of your day?” Pay attention to their words and the topics they avoid talking about. If you believe that your kid finds going to school stressful, talk to them about visiting a therapist and highlight the benefits of therapy. 

 

How to Talk About Violence With Your Child

If this series has made you realize the significance of discussing child violence, there are several actions you can take to enhance the comfort and mutual benefit of such conversations. You’ll want to keep this conversation going. If you haven’t talked to your child about this before, the first conversation could be longer. But you should ask them how they feel about school and their friends. 

 

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Make sure all your questions are open-ended. It’s possible that your child will not feel comfortable talking about this topic at first, and asking yes or no questions might make the conversation short and dry. Instead, ask them open-ended questions and show curiosity while talking to them. To start, you might want to ask questions like:

  • What is your favorite thing about going to school?
  • What is your least favorite thing about going to school? 
  • How do you spend your lunch break?
  • Are there kids who usually sit alone? Why do you think that is?
  • Is there somebody in your class who makes other kids uncomfortable or sad?

Give them time to respond to each of your questions. When you’ve both decided to stop the conversation, ensure they know that you want them to continue talking about this topic with you. If they have shared something that makes them uncomfortable going to school, follow up regularly to see how they feel. 

 

Don’t Offer Solutions

One of the common traps for parents is offering solutions. When you provide solutions to your kids’ problems, you’re not teaching them to be able to solve them. You are making them dependent on you or someone else later in life. Instead, ask them what they think is the best solution. You can ask questions such as:

  • What do you think is the best way to solve this?
  • If this were happening to you, what would you do? 
  • How can I support you and give you what you need now?

If they don’t come up with anything, don’t jump in with suggestions. They could come up with their answer in a few hours or tomorrow. It’s more about getting them to think of solutions than solving the problems they mentioned. 

 

Share Your Experience

Children respond to similar experiences. Don’t forget they only know the adult version of yourself. That is why it’s critical to tell them about your similar experience. If someone made fun of them, share your feelings about a similar experience you had at their age. 

Don’t just tell them what happened; tell them how you felt. Sharing your feelings can resonate with a child going through the same situation. Sharing a similar story goes much further than simply saying you understand them. The story can also motivate them to think about how they feel and share these feelings with you. 

 

Keeping the Conversation Open

As we’ve mentioned already, the most important thing to do here is to maintain this conversation with your kid regularly. Let them know they can come back to you anytime with questions or worries. It’s better to have an ongoing conversation than a one-time talk.

Be sure to provide them with an example. You can model how to approach their issues, but don’t offer solutions. Children learn from watching their parents and not just hearing them talk. How you react to different situations and your emotional stability can guide your kids. If you think that situations at school are impacting your child’s emotional and mental health, consider taking them to a trusted therapist. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Chemistry Between Two People: How to Recognize It?

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Chemistry Between Two People: How to Recognize It?

 

Is chemistry between two people real? How long does it last? Is it the same as being in love? We’ve all found ourselves thinking about this, especially when we become romantically interested in someone new. You might compare this feeling you have with the last time you experienced something similar. Regardless of what it is, we can all agree that the chemistry of love makes our world a little more interesting. 

There are certain signs that indicate chemistry exists between you and another person. Depending on the circumstances, you might date them or simply enjoy the subtle flirting. Learn how to recognize these signs and when it makes sense to address the chemistry.

 

Signs of Chemistry Between Two People

One person doesn’t have to experience the chemistry the same way as someone else. They might even notice that every time they feel attracted to someone, it feels different or unique. For some, this chemistry could be felt only on a physical level. The person’s appearance and aura might attract them. In most cases, this chemistry is a mix of emotional, mental, and physical attraction. 

Such chemistry can be indicated by the intensity of contact and the feeling of being drawn to them. Find below the most obvious signs of chemistry between two people:

    • Intense eye contact: You can’t keep your eyes off of them, and they feel the same way. When you look into each other’s eyes, there’s a certain connection that you only feel with them. 
    • Talking to them is easy: You might have many things in common, or you simply enjoy talking for hours about different topics that come to mind. You feel like you know them for much longer, and it’s much easier to talk to them than to other people in your life. 
  • They make you laugh: You smile around them all the time. 
  • Your body reacts when they’re near: You might feel butterflies in your stomach or tingling when they’re close to you or when they touch you. 
  • Mimicking gestures: You unconsciously mimic each other’s gestures, speech patterns, or posture. It’s a subtle sign of a deep connection.
  • Losing track of time: Time passes by quickly when you’re talking to them, looking at them, or daydreaming about them. 
  • After spending time with them, you feel an energy boost instead of feeling drained; their presence gives you a buzz, like a shot of positive energy.

 

What to Do About the Chemistry

You’re certain there is chemistry between you and the other person, and now what? What are your options? First, it will significantly depend on the circumstances. Are you both single? Would there be complications if you wanted to start dating or become a couple? For instance, you might work together and dating can be awkward, especially if things don’t lead to the expected outcomes. 

Second, analyze their words and gestures. Do they still seem as interested in you as they were in the beginning? Do you believe they feel the same way as you do? Taking a moment and thinking about their feelings toward you can help you understand better your options.

If you believe that the chemistry is mutual and strong, it’s time for the next step. What actions would make you feel comfortable? Maybe you’d like to express verbally how they make you feel. You could tell them directly or write it in a letter. If that’s too much for you, use body language to make them realize how you feel about them. Sit closer, show interest by asking questions, flirt, invite them to spend time alone with you, etc. Whatever feels natural to you, do it. 

 

What If It’s Not Chemistry?

Occasionally, it can be tricky to determine whether what you feel is chemistry or something else. Chemistry between two people implies that you both feel attracted to each other on some level. If they are not showing any of the signs mentioned above, maybe it’s time to reconsider the situation. Is it chemistry or something else?

A person might have different motives for connecting with another person. A boss or a colleague might show interest in a certain employee because they recognize potential in them or want to learn a certain skill from them. A friend could appreciate a friend’s advice without any romantic intentions. 

Take a moment to really think about how they behave when they’re near you. Have they said or done something that implies they’re attracted to you? Do they treat other people the same way, or is there something unique about their approach to you? 

If you’re uncertain if there’s chemistry between the two of you, consider if it makes more sense to wait until you know or to ask them directly. If you work or are friends with someone, it can be awkward to learn they don’t feel the same way. 

Take It Slow 

The best piece of advice for this situation is to take it slow. Rushing things could ruin the chemistry you already have. Instead, try to take it slow and see how the situation evolves. If you feel attracted to them and notice they feel the same, enjoy it. We often want to label things instead of enjoying the experience. 

When the moment is right, you’ll know it. There might be the right gesture, word, or opportunity that makes you feel like you want to address the chemistry and ask the person about their view on it. If you’re honest about your feelings from the start, it will be easier to deal with. Whatever the case, make sure you’re not pressuring yourself into doing something you’re uncomfortable with. Respecting your needs first will help you enjoy that chemistry more, regardless of the outcome. 

If you want to entice more feelings of chemistry at home, get our sensual video for therapy suggestions on demand.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Sensual Definition

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Sensual Definition: Unlock the Power of Touch and Connection

Let’s talk about the sensual definition. And no, it’s not just about romance or physical attraction (though those can be fun too). In today’s video, we’re expanding the meaning of sensuality and inviting you to experience it in a whole new way.

Sensuality is about presence. It’s about tuning in, slowing down, and savoring life through your senses. The warmth of your morning coffee mug, the way your softest sweater hugs your skin, the scent of rain on the pavement—these aren’t just everyday things. They’re tiny portals to deeper connection.

By embracing sensuality, we’re saying yes to living more fully in our bodies and in the present moment. It’s a practice of intimacy—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you.

Once you tap into this kind of connection, even your daily rituals start to feel ✨magical✨. So grab your coffee, cozy up, and let’s redefine sensual together.

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Is Tantric Meditation & Should You Try It

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What Is Tantric Meditation & Should You Try It

 

You’ve probably landed here after asking, ‘What is tantric meditation?’ There is so much confusion around tantric massages and tantric meditation. Although Tantra is often connected with sex, it is a much broader term than that. The origin of Tantra can be traced back to Hinduism and Buddhism, making it an ancient yogic tradition. 

In this article, we’ll take a closer look at tantric meditation, teach you how to meditate this way, and cover everything else you need to know about Tantra.

 

Definition of Tantra

Tantra was first practiced on the Indian subcontinent as an integral part of a yogic tradition. The name refers to the system of practices and philosophies that aim to expand consciousness and cultivate the inherent divine potential within oneself. Tantra uses a wide range of techniques, including rituals, mantras, visualizations, and yogic practices. It often involves using the body and energy to access higher states of awareness.

Tantra emphasizes the sacredness of the body and all aspects of life, including sexuality. It denies that the body hinders spiritual growth, as some religions and philosophies claim. Instead, Tantra sees the body as a vehicle for creating a connection to oneself and others.

Some of the most well-known tantric practices are yoga, pranayama, meditation, mantras, and visualizations. Tantric meditation is practiced to cultivate focus, concentration, and awareness of the present moment. So, how is tantric meditation different from other types of meditation?

 

Tantric Meditation

A key element of the broader Tantra philosophy is tantric meditation.  Tantric meditation is entirely dependent on energy, as Tantra is the philosophy and study of energy.  For people accustomed to meditation techniques designed to symbolize an empty mind, this is something entirely new. 

Various energy forms and characteristics, including sounds, colors, mantras, yantras, vibrations, visualizations, and kundalini force, are used in tantric meditation. All of it serves this spiritual practice to produce profoundly altering effects on the human mind and body.  

Every form of energy creates a resonance inside of us that might produce unique and powerful outcomes. After all, a tantric meditation is a very personal experience that can feel very different from one person to another. 

Tantric practice says that by engaging in genuine spiritual practice, we may elevate our awareness and transform our soul. In this philosophy, our only real mission as humans is to transform our spiritual journey.  

 

Key Techniques in Tantric Meditation

If you’re interested in trying your first tantric meditation, there are a few terms you’ll need to learn first. Frequency and the way these techniques are applied in tantric meditation can differ from one teacher to another, yet they will result in valuable experiences while practicing this type of meditation. 

 

Breathwork 

Also known as Pranayama, breathwork refers to the conscious breathing that awakens energy within us. Breathwork is a foundational practice in tantric meditation that uses conscious breathing techniques to regulate energy, calm the mind, and connect the body to the present moment. 

By shifting the rhythm, depth, and direction of the breath, you can activate the nervous system, release emotional blockages, and create space for more profound awareness and inner stillness. In tantric practices, breath becomes a guide and a gateway to help you anchor in the present moment. 

 

Mantras and Mudras 

In tantric meditation, mantras and mudras are powerful tools used to focus the mind, awaken subtle energy, and create a sacred inner space. A mantra is a sacred sound, word, or phrase repeated during meditation to help concentrate the mind and align with specific vibrational qualities.

Mudras, on the other hand, are symbolic hand gestures that direct the flow of energy in the body. Each mudra forms an energetic circuit, helping to reinforce the intention of your meditation. Together, mantras and mudras create a multi-sensory meditation experience of sound, vibration, breath, and body, all weaving together to support your transformation.

 

Visualizations 

Visualization involves forming mental images during meditation to direct focus and energy. Rather than emptying the mind, tantric practice often fills it intentionally with sacred forms, light, or energy centers to weave body, mind, and spirit together.

This might be tricky for those who have never tried a similar exercise before. However, visualizations can really be powerful even when used outside the meditation. Use visualizations that matter to you and that seem most natural. 

 

Energy Awareness

Energy awareness is something that will depend solely on the person doing the tantric meditation. You will want to allow yourself to feel any sensations arising during the meditation. Tantra teaches to allow anything to express itself through the body, whether we see it as a positive or negative sensation. 

 

Benefits of Tantric Meditation

There are many benefits to practicing tantric meditation. The more often you practice it, the more you will become aware of all these perks. Tantric meditation helps you feel your emotions fully without judgment. This is something we often avoid in daily life, but having a practice that allows us to explore our emotions can improve our overall well-being. 

Through breathwork, visualization, and energy practices, buried emotions like grief, anger, shame, or fear can gently surface and move through the body. You might cry during a practice, feel warmth in your chest, or release tension from your gut. Instead of analyzing emotions mentally, Tantra teaches you to feel and liberate them somatically, which can lead to deep healing over time.

Tantra emphasizes radical presence. It asks you to slow down, tune in, and listen to your inner world. Over time, this technique helps form a more honest, compassionate relationship with yourself. You become more attuned to your needs, boundaries, and desires. 

This self-awareness naturally translates into relationships. You may find yourself communicating more openly, holding space for others more patiently, or connecting more deeply, whether platonically, romantically, or sexually.

 

Work with a Trusted Tantric Practitioner

To get the most out of Tantra, work with a skilled practitioner. After all, tantric massage is not just a regular massage. It requires additional knowledge and experience that other meditation teachers might not possess. If you prefer, you can also try tantric meditation at home on your own. The results can help you decide whether this practice is something you’d like to continue doing in the future. With time, you can join other meditation groups with tantric practices and make the most of this ancient yogic tradition.

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Silent Divorce Trend: Living Together, Growing Apart

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Silent Divorce Trend: Living Together, Growing Apart

 

You probably know what silent divorce stands for; you just weren’t familiar with the name. Silent divorce refers to a married couple who live together yet are not emotionally connected anymore. The reasons for staying together can vary from finances to not being willing to make such a change in your life. Whatever it is, there has been a rise in silent divorces across the US. 

Although it is becoming more common, we’re rarely talking about silent divorce. It is taboo, resulting in a lack of support for people experiencing it. What are your options if you’re in a silent divorce? How can you ensure you feel supported throughout this experience? Let’s explore it together. 

 

What Is a Silent Divorce?

Silent divorce differs from the traditional divorce concept you have in mind. Both have the same or similar causes, yet their direction is not the same. Being in a silent divorce doesn’t imply that the couple is initiating a legal divorce. So, what is a silent divorce?

It is a phase of a marriage in which both partners have lost emotional connection to each other, including physical intimacy, and still live together. Unlike many misconceptions, silent divorce has nothing to do with cheating. The phase your marriage is in has nothing to do with the third person. It is just a result of an emotional distance between you and your spouse. ‘

 

“I see many clients who indicate they feel like they are a roommate instead of a partner,” indicates Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, owner of Life Coaching and Therapy.

“This issue has become more commonplace since the COVID-19 pandemic and continues to be a leading problem among couples today,” adds Pasciucco. 

 

This emotional distance includes mental and often physical disengagement. It can show up as a lack of interest in your partner’s activities, emotions, or whereabouts. Couples going through a silent divorce can also experience a lack of communication, shared goals, and engagement in each other’s lives in general. 

 

Common Causes of Silent Divorce

While each marriage is unique, we can identify certain factors that commonly lead to silent divorces. One of the most common reasons for a silent divorce is emotional neglect. Both partners are neglecting each other and are not interested in each other’s emotional needs. They are not behaving this way to hurt each other or to prove a point. Emotional neglect is two-directional and is a result of a lack of interest in each other, not an external factor. 

Almost all silent divorces are characterized by poor communication habits. This doesn’t have to imply that the couple was communicating poorly prior to this phase. On the contrary, the couple could have been close before, sharing secrets and talking about each other’s emotions and personal experiences. 

Another cause of silent divorce is unresolved conflicts or resentment. For whatever reason, the couple hasn’t worked on these issues, or they haven’t found an efficient solution. Over time, this situation caused the couple to grow apart and cease functioning as a team. 

Also, life transitions such as children, aging parents, and career shifts can lead to silent divorce. You may have different views on these topics, or you may have changed over the years due to these events. 

 

The Hidden Impact of Silent Divorce 

Just because the emotional distance is mutual, it doesn’t make it a pleasant experience. It can be quite challenging not to be intimate with the person who used to mean everything to you. It takes time to get used to the new dynamics in the house, and you may both find it difficult to adapt. 

There could be a variety of feelings, including anxiety, loneliness, and low self-esteem. You might worry about how your behavior affects your children and other family members. Over time, you may experience some health symptoms, particularly in relation to your physical and mental well-being. Because of this, it’s critical to get help before you feel overburdened. 

During this time, speaking with a reputable mental health therapist can make you feel more supported. Therapy can also make you more aware of what is in your control and what is not, which is especially important if you have kids.

Keep in mind that, although a silent divorce is a better alternative than marriage with a lot of arguing and stress, it is not the best solution for either of you. Staying together because of financial issues or family stability can backfire emotionally and create more damage than good for everyone involved. 

 

Are You in a Silent Divorce?

If you’re uncertain whether your marriage is going through a silent divorce or something else, there is a quick self-assessment exercise you can do to find out. The exercise consists of a list of questions or indicators that you can answer. Your spouse is not required to do this exercise with you. 

Ask yourself the following questions to assess your marriage situation: 

  • Do you feel more like roommates than lovers?
  • Do you avoid meaningful conversations?
  • Is there emotional or physical intimacy?
  • Do you feel you must hide things from them, as they wouldn’t want to be disturbed? 

You can answer these questions in writing or use them to think about the current situation. You can share this list of questions and your answers with your partner if you think it will help.

 

Conclusion

It will depend on you two as to how your situation develops in the future. You might both decide to seek marital counseling and work on the underlying problems or conflicts that have been present for years. You might choose to live apart to figure out what you want. Some couples decide to try reconnecting through shared activities before thinking about separating or divorcing. 

During this experience, it’s crucial to take care of yourself. Doing your best to save or end your marriage shouldn’t cost you your well-being. If you have kids, they should see that their parents are emotionally stable even in difficult times. Being true to yourself will lead you to the best option, whether that’s staying together or divorcing. Lastly, be kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. The same goes for your spouse. You can only function as a team, even in the final act, when both of you prioritize your personal needs. Prioritize yourself today by scheduling a session. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Disadvantages of Male Circumcision to a Woman: Nerve Endings + Beyond

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Disadvantages of Male Circumcision to a Woman: Nerve Endings + Beyond

 

The disadvantages of male circumcision to a woman might not be something we hear about often, but it’s a real and valid conversation — especially when it comes to intimacy, pleasure, and connection.

Today, we’re diving into how male circumcision can affect women’s sexual experience and emotional bond with their partners.

Yep, we’re going there — because you deserve to have all the info, and I’m here to keep it honest (and judgment-free).

This isn’t about blaming anyone who is circumcised — it’s about understanding our bodies, our partners, and making intimacy better for everyone involved.

Circumcision can reduce sensitivity in the penis due to the removal of the foreskin, which contains thousands of nerve endings. That reduced sensitivity can sometimes mean less natural friction and less stimulation — not just for him, but for you too.

Some women report a difference in lubrication, rhythm, or arousal with circumcised partners. Others feel like something’s missing, but can’t quite put their finger on it (pun only kind of intended).

None of this means things can’t be amazing — but awareness gives us tools to explore, adjust, and communicate better.

So if you’ve ever felt like something’s just a little “off” during intimacy, or you’re just curious to know more, stick around. You might just have an “aha!” moment today.

Let’s open the door to better understanding and even better connection.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Why Men Need Sex and What Drives Their Desire?

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Why Men Need Sex and What Drives Their Desire?

 

Many stereotypes exist around sexuality, and learning why men need sex can help you learn all about male sexuality. Is it true that they need more sex than women, or is this a myth we’ve been telling ourselves as a society? Do men and women seek the same when engaging in sexual activities?

Instead of simply supporting or going against this claim, we’ve decided to dig deeper to understand what drives male sexuality. Whatever your sexual identity or orientation is, you can benefit from this article. It will help you understand the men in your life, whether friends, romantic partners, or family members, and how they go about in this area. 

 

The Biology Behind Male Desire

All genders have testosterone to some extent. However, in males, the testicles produce testosterone, the primary male sex hormone. Testosterone is crucial for developing male characteristics like muscle growth, body hair, a deeper voice, and sexual desire. 

Testosterone is responsible for several actions in male bodies:

  • Stimulates sexual desire
  • Supports erectile function
  • Affects sexual thoughts and fantasies
  • Drives morning erections

When talking about sexual desire, also known as libido, it’s important to highlight that it’s also influenced by emotional connection, stress levels, mental health, relationship quality, and life circumstances. This influence is what explains the fact that even though all men have testosterone, they don’t feel an equal level of sexual desire. 

In other words, just because someone is a man doesn’t mean they will have an immense libido. One of the common misconceptions about sexual desire is that it’s fixed. Your sexual desire can decrease and increase depending on the above-mentioned factors. If you need help with your performance, get STIFF. 

You might notice you had a strong libido last year when you started your new job and felt excited about this new chapter in your life. That level of sexual desire could decrease as soon as you start feeling overwhelmed with job responsibilities. Although every person is different, there are certain factors that can explain low or high libido. 

 

Emotional and Psychological Drivers

For men and women, sex is a form of emotional connection. We seek it when we want to feel closer to someone or when we feel attracted to a new person we’ve met. Especially in long relationships, sex becomes a form of connection between two partners rather than just a physical act. 

For many men, sex is a way to seek love and validation. Whether in a relationship or not, men see physical intimacy as emotional reassurance. It can help them feel more desirable or loved, connected to someone they also find important, safe, and so much more. 

 

Self-Esteem and Masculinity

Sex can also benefit a man’s confidence and boost his self-worth. The inability to engage in sexual activity, whether with their romantic partner or with individuals they are seeing, can negatively impact their self-perception. 

In most cases, self-esteem and masculinity are the same for men. People around them shape their self-worth. If other people see them as masculine, strong, and sexy, their self-esteem grows. If they are not perceived that way, they will probably struggle with self-worth issues. This is one of the crucial differences between male and female sexuality. 

Cultural and societal pressures contribute to various notions. For example, men are expected to constantly be ready for sex and to be good at it. They are still seen as hunters, especially by other men. In most cases, these are their friends, brothers, and often, fathers. 

From an early age, boys are taught to be tough, not to cry, and never to be afraid. Masculinity is being awarded so early in life that when they grow up, most of them still follow the same rules. It’s not uncommon for men to be advised to get over someone they love by having sex with another person. 

However, this societal pressure doesn’t have realistic expectations. Men seek sex for more than just enjoyment and to be viewed as manly; they are emotional creatures. 

 

Stress Relief and Mood Regulation

Of course, we can’t talk about sexuality without mentioning the psychological benefits of sex. The focus isn’t on whether men need sex more than women. Sex can have a positive impact on how you deal with stress and regulate your mood.  (dopamine, oxytocin, stress reduction).

During sex, and especially orgasm, your brain releases a powerful cocktail of chemicals. These chemicals are dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. Dopamine boosts pleasure, oxytocin strengthens bonding, and endorphins elevate your mood and reduce stress. This doesn’t mean that you should have sex all the time just to release these chemicals. It simply implies that having a healthy approach to your own sexuality can be gratifying in so many ways. 

 

Societal Conditioning 

We’ve mentioned a bit of societal pressure above. Being such a huge factor in male sexuality, it deserves more explanation. In most cultures, boys and girls are raised very differently. When they grow up, they look to meet the expectations others have of them. 

One such expectation is that men are sexually driven all the time. They should always be ready for sex and perform at their best. This is why issues with erections are never talked about as openly as issues that women may face (low libido, dry vagina, etc.). 

 

Therapy for Men

Because of societal conditioning, men will be more reluctant to seek romantic or sexual guidance from a therapist. For most men, talking to a professional would mean admitting they have a problem with their sexuality, which would affect their ego immediately. However, not all men are the same. 

Those who start therapy to work on their relationship or sexuality become more aware of the factors that impact their overall well-being and start prioritizing their desires and expectations over someone else’s. They become more relaxed and comfortable with themselves, which also helps them feel better with their sexuality. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Importance of Listening Skills: The Key to Effective Communication

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Importance of Listening Skills: The Key to Effective Communication

 

You’ll hear everyone talking about how to speak properly and keep others engaged, yet we rarely talk about the importance of listening skills. Talking and listening are integral aspects of effective communication. You can’t be a successful and efficient communicator if you don’t know how to listen properly when someone else is talking. 

Listening can help you understand the other person better and connect with others on a more meaningful level. Learn how to develop these skills and improve relationships in your private and professional life. 

 

What Are Listening Skills?

When people talk about listening, they often confuse it with hearing, yet hearing someone speak doesn’t imply you’re listening to them. Active listening consists of four components:

  • Attention: Are you paying attention to what is being said?
  • Understanding: Are you able to mentally process what is being said?
  • Response: Are you able to respond in a way that shows your engagement?
  • Retention: Are you able to remember key points from the conversation? 

A great example of passive listening is when students listen to their professors. Your professor could talk for an hour, yet you are not paying attention to everything they are saying. Listening requires paying attention and understanding what is being said, while hearing requires only allowing the speaker to say something and you to hear it. 

 

Why Listening Skills Matter in Communication

Listening skills are essential for connecting with everyone in your life. Even a random person on the street asking you a question can benefit from your listening skills. Not paying attention to their question can lead to incorrect answers, misunderstandings, and conflicts. 

You’ve probably heard that communication is key for every relationship. That means that strengthening your listening skills will help you with your coworkers and romantic partner. 

 

Builds Trust and Empathy

Do you remember the last time you shared something personal with your best friend, and you felt such relief when you realized how much they understood you? Such an experience is a sign that your friend has excellent listening skills. Listening to someone makes them feel seen and heard by you.

It fosters trust and empathy. Instead of only focusing on what you want to say, pay attention to what others are telling you. Show interest. Ask them questions. Most relationships suffer because partners are unable to communicate well with each other. In most cases, they both know how to talk; yet the listening part is what makes the relationship truly successful. 

 

Reduces Misunderstandings

When we pay attention to what the other person is telling us, we minimize the possibility of misunderstandings. When you don’t listen, assumptions start to arise. You start thinking that your partner is avoiding spending time with you when, in reality, they are working long hours. 

Misunderstandings can also happen at work. If you don’t actively listen to your colleagues and superiors, your performance may suffer, and you may not be able to advance in your career. That is why it’s essential to make an effort to actively listen and engage. Start by ensuring you can easily focus on the other person and eliminate potential distractions. 

 

Enhances Problem Solving and Collaboration

Listening is a foundation for teamwork. Whether you’re born in a big family or work in a team, listening to others is essential. It can help you get to know people better and also boost your problem-solving skills. By understanding someone else’s perspective, it becomes easier to suggest effective solutions.

Also, listening is a key element in collaboration. You might work on a large project and need to coordinate activities with your teammates. The situation can become an issue if you struggle to listen to what they are sharing about the project. 

 

Improves Leadership and Influence

All great leaders are great listeners as well. They will be more respected by their employees because they will understand them better. A leader who doesn’t listen to their employees cannot be an efficient boss. They will overlook challenges and issues their employees are facing because they don’t pay attention. 

On the other hand, leaders who listen will have more successful teams. They will know what their team needs and provide them with whatever it takes to be more efficient. A successful leader knows that listening is a form of emotional intelligence, and they use their time to listen to others, not just to talk. 

 

How to Improve Your Listening Skills

If you’re not skilled in listening, don’t worry. As with any skill, you can learn it over time. First, it’s important to understand which factors are impacting your inability to listen. You might get distracted easily or not have enough patience to listen to someone else talking. Whatever it is, be honest with yourself, as knowing the reasons could help you become a better listener. Recognizing the importance of listening skills is the first step toward improving them and becoming more present in your conversations.

 

Being Present

When someone starts talking, decide to listen to them. Set aside everything you’re doing or thinking about and give them your undivided attention. If something is distracting you, suggest moving to another location or postponing the conversation for the moment so that you’ll both be able to communicate.

 

Asking Questions and Paraphrasing

If you’re not sure if you understood correctly, ask them to clarify. You can paraphrase what they said to see if you agree. Try saying, “What you’re saying is …” or ask, “What did you mean when you said _____?”

 

Reflecting

We all talk to each other because of our need for connection, regardless of the environment. That is why reflection is such a key factor in active listening and highlights the importance of listening skills in building meaningful conversations. Once the person has stopped talking, reflect on what has been said. Show support or comprehension by reflecting on their words before speaking on what you want to share. Even though you might continue talking about the same topic, ignoring what was said can make the other person feel unheard.

 

Don’t Interrupt

Interrupting is something you should avoid unless it’s necessary. Instead, wait until the speaker has finished their thought. In almost all scenarios, interruption is considered a rude act, and it can even harm the communication flow. When you feel the urge to interrupt, remind yourself to wait. After all, patience and respect are key characteristics of outstanding communicators. 

If you start working on your listening skills, you will notice improvements instantly. You can improve your relationships by using every conversation to become a better listener. 

Start your journey here.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Female Sexual Health Myths: Expert Debunks!

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Female Sexual Health Myths: Expert Debunks!

 

Female sexual health myths have been floating around for decades — whispered in locker rooms, passed down through generations, or casually dropped into conversations as “just the way things are.” But let’s be real: a lot of us grew up believing some pretty weird stuff about women’s bodies. And honestly? It’s messing with confidence, relationships, and the way we talk about sex.

From “you can’t get pregnant on your period” to “libido disappears after 40” — the myths are everywhere. And they’re not just outdated; they’re harmful. They create shame, confusion, and unnecessary fear. That little voice that says “something must be wrong with me”? Yeah, that often comes from misinformation, not reality.

But today, we’re clearing that up — for good. If you’ve ever felt confused or awkward about these topics, you are definitely not alone.

Understanding your body (and your pleasure!) is empowering. It’s about unlearning what was wrong and learning what’s real.

Everything becomes simpler once you are aware of the facts!

This leads to improved conversations, stronger connections, and yes, even enhanced intimacy. You deserve knowledge, confidence, and joy — no shame included.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Empathy Statements: How to Verbally Show Your Support

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Empathy Statements: How to Verbally Show Your Support

 

Empathy statements can be valuable tokens of appreciation for everyone in your life, from your siblings to your coworkers. Understanding what others are feeling can strengthen your bond with them. 

Empathy is crucial for success across all areas of life. The more we understand ourselves, the easier it is to connect with it and respond to loved ones. A lack of empathy leads to disconnection and loneliness. If you want to become more empathetic, this article is a must-read. We’ll talk about why empathy matters and how to support people who verbally matter to you. 

 

What Is Empathy? 

Empathy can best be explained as an ability to comprehend and share another person’s feelings. Empathy requires more than just knowing what someone is going through or how they feel about it. It requires a real emotional connection to the person who is sharing their experience.

Those who are empathetic are able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes, regardless of that experience being pleasant or unpleasant. For instance, they can share your joy at buying your first home while also supporting you during a breakup, illness, job loss, or anything else. 

 

Types of Empathy

Although we typically just talk about empathy in general, three types of empathy exist: emotional, cognitive, and compassionate. Emotional empathy is feeling what someone else feels, even if they can’t express it. If you are emotionally empathetic, you can sense the feelings other people are experiencing and show support on an emotional level. 

Cognitive empathy refers to understanding the other person’s thoughts or feelings. Instead of feeling the pain or joy of the other person, you are comprehending their experience on a cognitive level. 

Lastly, compassionate empathy combines both cognitive and emotional empathy. Empaths can feel and share others’ emotions and are driven to help. If a person feels sad because they lost their job, a compassionate empath can talk to them, feel their sadness and fear, and then suggest helping by updating their resume or sending a list of job search sites. 

 

How to Show Support Verbally

Before we share some of the empathy statements you can use to support people in your life, let’s look into the things you should remember when being empathetic. From listening carefully to acknowledging their feelings, other actions can be equally important as your supportive words. 

 

Listen Carefully 

When somebody is sharing something important with you, listen carefully. Put down your phone and focus your attention on what they are saying. If you can’t concentrate because you’re in a crowded place, offer to go somewhere more private. While the person is talking, pay attention to what and how they are saying. You can learn a lot about how they experienced something by talking about it. 

 

Validate Their Experience

When we share something important with another person, we often want feedback. This feedback doesn’t necessarily have to be a solution. Instead, we seek validation from people we care about. Validation helps us heal, and it relieves us knowing that others also understand what we are experiencing. 

 

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Once the person is done sharing their story, be sure to ask questions. Remaining silent might lead them to think you weren’t interested in their story. Instead, ask questions to show you care and understand them. Don’t be judgmental or try to force them to behave as you’d behave if you were in their situation. If you don’t know which questions to ask, try these:

  • What was the hardest thing for you in that experience?
  • Do you want to talk more about it?
  • What do you need from me? I want you to feel supported in this moment.
  • What would you like to do now with all of these feelings? 
  • Do you want us to plan something in the near future to address these issues again?

 

Empathy Statements to Show Understanding

The questions mentioned above are a wonderful example of ways to show empathy to a person who needs it. 

However, there are numerous other empathy statements you can choose from, depending on the situation. Here are some examples:

  • “That sounds really hard. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
  • “I cannot even imagine how that must feel.”
  • “You’re not alone—I’m here for you.”
  • “Thank you for trusting me with this.”
  • “It makes sense that you’d feel this way.”
  • “That sounds overwhelming. Are you okay?”
  • “I hear you.”
  • “What you’re feeling is totally valid.”
  • “I’m with you. You don’t have to go through this experience alone.”
  • “It’s okay to feel this way! There’s no right or wrong way to deal with such a situation.”
  • “I see how much this means to you.”
  • “This must be so upsetting. I’m here if you need to talk.”
  • “I care about you and want to support you however I am able.”
  • “You’ve been through a lot. It’s okay to ask for support.”

Some other examples of empathy statements include, but aren’t limited to, the following:

  • “I may not fully understand, but I’m listening.”
  • “You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.”
  • “Your feelings are completely understandable.”
  • “Take your time. There’s no pressure to rush through this.”
  • “Would you like to talk more about it?”
  • “Is there anything you need right now?”
  • “I’m here to listen without any judgment.”
  • “That must have been painful.”
  • “I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Let’s figure it out together.”
  • “I can see how much strength it took to share that.”
  • “You don’t need to have it all figured out. One step at a time.”
  • “That’s a valid concern. Let’s talk it through.”
  • “You’re not being dramatic. The situation is real, and it matters.”
  • “It’s completely natural to feel that way.”
  • “Thank you for being honest with me. That takes courage.”
  • “I’ve got your back. I’m here.”

 

Make sure that the empathy statement you decide to use resonates with you. Saying something without resonance could make the other person feel like they shouldn’t have shared their experience with you. Use your own words to show support, and be kind while talking to them afterward. Supporting each other is an essential component of any relationship.

If you need to learn how to use empathy, book a session with one of our team members today. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Situationship Definition: How to Know If You’re In One? 

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Situationship Definition: How to Know If You’re In One? 

 

It’s certainly a word you’ve heard so many times already, yet the situationship definition is unclear to most of us. We can say that a situationship is a stage between dating and entering a relationship. However, it’s important to note that for most of us, situationship has a somewhat negative connotation. Why does it have a negative connotation?

Finding yourself in a situationship means that it has unique conditions and can’t be called a relationship because of these conditions. These conditions can differ from one example to another. Recognizing that you’re in a situationship is the first step to understanding your options. Let’s look at common signs of situationships and what to do if you’re not happy to be in one.

Situationship Signs

It’s not uncommon to find yourself wondering if you’re still just dating someone, in a situation, or in a relationship. You might think that these three are actually different stages couples go through, but the boundaries between them can be unclear.

If you’re searching for the situationship definition to make sense of where you stand, know that it often includes a lack of commitment and clear labels. As the name implies, there are reasons you and the other person aren’t as committed as you would be in a relationship. If you’re both fine with seeing each other, that’s completely okay. However, if your or your partner’s needs or desires aren’t met, you might want to change your current situation.

When it comes to common situationship signs, these are the ones to look for:

  • Lack of labels (e.g., exclusive relationship, open relationship)

  • Inconsistent communication

  • No discussions about the future

  • Making last-minute plans

  • Lack of integration in each other’s life

  • The main connection between you two is physical

  • You feel confused and anxious about meeting them or asking them about your status

  • You avoid serious conversations

  • You worry about them dating other people

 

The Emotional Impact of Situationships

As we’ve said, if you prefer seeing someone without the commitment of being a couple, situationships might be good for you. You could call it a situationship or casual dating—whatever makes you feel better.

But understanding the situationship definition can also highlight why some people feel emotionally drained in these arrangements. There are different emotions you could experience from being in a situationship. If you’re pleased to be in one, you could feel excitement, fun, and freedom. Being able to have fun with a person you like without serious conversations or labels might be just what you need right now.

On the other hand, if you feel stuck in a situationship, you might feel uncertain about your self-esteem. Your self-esteem may also suffer as a result. Being unable to talk about how you feel about the situation you’re in could lead to anxiety. You might fear that expressing your needs could result in them leaving you. Instead, even though this arrangement does not feel right or healthy for you, you choose to keep it up without saying a word.

 

Deciding What You Want

Before you initiate a conversation with the other person, you have to be clear about what you want. Take a moment to really understand your current needs. A few weeks ago, you were maybe interested in something with no strings attached. Now, you might feel that you want to either stop seeing this person or move to the next step in your relationship. Whatever it is, ensure you’re clear about your intentions to make the conversation as efficient as possible.

If you’re not that clear on what you want, ask yourself a few questions that could help you clarify it, such as:

  • Am I satisfied with the current situation?

  • Do I want or need more to be fulfilled in this area of my life?

  • Is the situation negatively affecting my well-being in any way?

  • Do I enjoy spending time with this person, and is the time we spend together enough for me?

Responding to these questions can help you understand better what you need and what you want from the other person. Then, bring up the topic when it seems most convenient for both of you. Ask them if they’re okay with talking now or if they’d like to schedule a time for that conversation in the following days.

 

Making the Most of Your Situationship

If you’ve decided you’re more than okay with your current status, there is no reason to change a thing. If you’re both happy and okay with the no-strings dynamic, just enjoy it.

However, make sure you’re both respecting each other and being honest about things that matter. As long as your situation is enjoyable, it needs to feel like a safe space to address any changes or doubts you might have.

Communication is also key, even in situationships that are mostly fulfilling their need for physical connection. Consentual and emotionally healthy communication will help you make your relationship as sustainable as you want it to be. If you notice over time that your perspective on it has changed, knowing it’s okay to bring it up with that person will make things a lot easier.

 

Not Every Situationship Is the Same

Sometimes, situationships happen because both sides are not communicating clearly, yet they both want to be in a relationship with each other. Some people might also prefer something casual over entering a relationship they are not ready for.

That’s why knowing the situationship definition is only part of the journey—what really matters is how you feel about your unique connection. Assess your situation well, and don’t compare it to anyone else’s.

How you feel and what you think about it should be enough to understand if this is the right choice for you at the moment. If you want clarity, connection, and commitment, you have every right to ask for it. Even if you’re deeply enjoying the dynamic you’ve created, it’s beneficial to express your feelings and listen to the other person’s perspective.

If you want more, don’t settle for less than what feels emotionally safe and fulfilling. Every person has the right to be happy, and the path to that is understanding what makes you happy!

If you want to start your journey, make an appointment today!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Is Physical Touch? Unlock the Power of this Love Language

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What Is Physical Touch? Unlock the Power of this Love Language

 

What is physical touch, you ask? Well, what if I told you that something as simple as a little touch could transform the way you and your partner connect? Yep, it’s that powerful — and I’m here to spill all the details!

In this video, I’m breaking down physical touch as a love language — what it really means (hint: it’s waaay more than just sex!) and how you can start using it right now to make your relationship feel warmer, closer, and more passionate. Think hand-holding during a walk, cuddling on the couch while watching your favorite show, a gentle back rub after a long day — even a playful little nudge in the kitchen while you’re making dinner together.

When physical touch is your love language (or your partner’s), these small gestures aren’t just nice — they’re essential. They help build trust, reduce stress, and release feel-good hormones like oxytocin, deepening your emotional bond.

So, whether you’re looking to reignite that spark or simply want to feel more connected on a daily basis, learning how to “speak” this physical touch love language can open up a whole new world of intimacy. Let’s unlock that magic together — your relationship deserves all the warm fuzzies!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

How to Stop Being Codependent & Have Healthy Relationships

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How to Stop Being Codependent & Have Healthy Relationships

 

The answer to the question, ‘How to stop being codependent?’ is not straightforward. After all, developing codependency takes time, just as becoming more independent in your relationships does. All human beings exhibit certain types of codependent behaviors, especially during our childhood years. While growing up, we learn to become more independent in areas that feel safe, such as doing homework or riding a bike. 

As much as we become independent adults, we will still seek connection and support from people in our lives, which is beneficial in many ways. Codependency, on the other hand, implies a dysfunctional dynamic in a relationship. It could mean that one person prioritizes the needs and desires of the other person over their own. It could also mean they need someone else’s approval before acting or saying something. 

In codependency, both sides are enabling each other’s unhealthy behaviors. That is why the solution to codependency is not as simple as we’d like it to be. Instead, it’s essential to understand why someone is codependent, what they receive from it, and which healthy alternatives they can implement in these areas.

 

Codependency Explained 

Some might refer to codependency as relationship addiction, while others might call it toxic relationships. Although these terms have much in common with codependency, they are not synonyms. We’ll say that a relationship is toxic when we can clearly see unhealthy behavior or the dynamics of that couple. 

However, codependency will most probably not look toxic to you at first. People often mistake codependency for care, where one partner takes care of the other. Codependents expect others to care for them because they can’t do it themselves. 

The following key characteristics provide the best explanation of codependency:

  • Unhealthy dependence: Codependent people often have an unhealthy level of dependence on each other, whether it’s for approval, validation, security, or self-worth. 
  • Prioritizing others’ needs: In a codependent relationship, each person will prioritize the needs of the other instead of their own, most often at their expense. 
  • Enabling unhealthy behaviors: Both sides will enable codependency in each other through unhealthy behaviors, such as addiction, poor mental health, irresponsibility, or immaturity. 
  • Weak or lack of boundaries: Codependent partners will have issues setting and respecting boundaries. 
  • Fear of abandonment: To avoid being alone, a person with codependent behaviors will do anything to make the other person stay in their life. 
  • Low self-esteem: Those stuck in a codependent relationship often have low self-esteem and believe they don’t deserve anything positive or beautiful, so they focus on maintaining the status quo of their relationship instead of growing together. 

 

Causes of Codependency

By going through the main characteristics of codependency, you might also get an idea of its common causes. Mostly, codependency stems from early childhood experiences. This means that children in dysfunctional families tend to become codependent adults. Growing up in a home with a lack of boundaries, low self-esteem, or prioritizing family needs over their own, a person will most probably repeat the same patterns in their relationships. 

That is why it’s essential to become aware of what caused your codependency. In most cases, the answer appears during childhood. These causes can be:

  • Abuse
  • Neglect
  • Unhealthy family roles
  • Overprotective/underprotective parenting 
  • Insecure attachment 
  • Lack of self-worth 
  • Unresolved trauma
  • Substance abuse
  • Chronic illness
  • Cultural and social factors

 

How Can You Stop Being Codependent 

If you want your friendships and romantic relationships to be healthier, learning how to stop being codependent is essential. Follow the steps below to work on your codependency and consider talking to a therapist. Therapy is a good way to learn about your codependency, its effects on your relationships, and alternatives. 

 

1.Get to Know Your Codependency

When we’re talking about the parts of us we don’t like so much, we tend to run away from them, thinking it might set us free. However, you can’t run away from something that is a part of you. Instead, you need to befriend it and learn all about it. 

Why are you codependent? How does the habit benefit you? What are your first memories of codependent behavior? Answering these questions can help you understand the dynamics of your relationships. You can explore many techniques to get to know this part of you. 

Consider giving that codependent part of you a name and talking to it. If you don’t want to do that, you can write down how you feel and what you need. It might feel awkward at first. After all, you’re doing it for the first time. 

 

2.Think of Alternatives for Your Codependent Behaviors

Unbelievably, your codependency solely prioritizes your well-being! For example, your fear of abandonment led to creating several techniques to ensure such an event doesn’t happen in the future. Unfortunately, these techniques are exhausting and detrimental to your well-being. 

Instead, you could set a goal of spending quality time with yourself once a week. The task could involve picking up an old hobby, practicing mindfulness, dancing to your favorite music, or anything else you like. By learning to enjoy your alone time, you will remind yourself that you don’t depend on others to have a good time. 

The same goes for anything else you’ve realized while learning about your codependency. If you struggle with setting boundaries, these issues can be your focus. First, determine which values are most important for you in your relationships. For instance, if you appreciate punctuality, communicate it to your friends and romantic partner. Ask them to respect your time and share your boundaries with them. 

This means you can leave after waiting 15 minutes or only meet when they can hang out with you. 

 

3.Consider Therapy

This work might be overwhelming, so talking to a mental health professional could greatly help. A therapist can guide you through the process of understanding and reducing your codependency. Such an approach can benefit those who can’t find the right methods to get to know their codependency. 

With a therapist, you will look closely at your relationships to see the common dynamic. Occasionally, all we need is someone asking the right question to trigger a train of thoughts that lead to valuable conclusions. You can also become aware of your codependency and work in parallel with a therapist. You can even ask them to give you homework after each session to maximize the value of the therapy. 

Conclusion

Learning how to stop being codependent is the first step toward becoming more independent and building healthy, fulfilling relationships. It might take time, yet it’s possible. Once you realize your codependent behaviors, you’ll see things improve, whether you work on it alone or with a therapist. With each step, you will feel more confident and motivated to pursue relationships that reflect your inner state. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

How to Be More Productive in Your Therapy Sessions

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How to Be More Productive in Your Therapy Sessions

 

Do you want to learn how to be more productive while talking to your therapist? You might feel that time is running fast during your sessions, and you don’t have enough time to address everything you want. Or, you might feel like you’re forgetting everything you’ve talked about as soon as you leave the office. Whatever the reason, being productive in your therapy sessions is very beneficial for you. 

Productivity can provide you with structural support when it comes to healing. You can focus on what’s best for you instead of worrying about forgetting to bring something up or memorizing your therapist’s words. Ultimately, the goal of therapy is to enhance your mental and emotional health, and productivity can be a huge aid in the process. 

 

Productivity Hacks for Your Next Therapy Session

You might be preparing yourself for your first therapy session, or you’ve been going for a while. In either case, you can start being productive before, during, and after talking to your therapist. 

 

Before the Session

Are you one of these people who’s rushing into your therapist’s office or opening that meeting link in your calendar without catching a breath? Well, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate this approach. Preparing yourself for therapy eliminates the stress and helps you concentrate on what will happen during the session. 

Before each session, give yourself five to ten minutes to prepare tea, coffee, or water; go to the bathroom; and tidy up and organize the space around you. In the time between sessions, make sure you write down the events or thoughts you’d like to share with your therapist.

When it comes to productivity hacks before the session, consider these:

  • Setting clear goals: Define what you wish to address or achieve in each therapy session (e.g., event, emotion or feeling, memory, relationship, etc.).
  • Keep a therapy journal: Write down all your events, thoughts, and emotions in one place. It helps you track your progress and go back to the past moments when necessary. 
  • Track patterns: You can use a journal or write notes in an app, yet tracking recurring triggers, behaviors, or emotions can help you address those issues with your therapist.  
  • Prepare topics: If there is something that crosses your mind, write it down and read it before the session to see whether or not you want to talk about it. 

 

During the Session

Productivity really pays off during your therapy sessions. During the session, your therapist will provide advice and ask the right questions. Making sure you pay attention to and memorize their words will be valuable to you later as well. You might come across the same situation as you did a few months ago, and checking your notes from that session might save you time and energy. 

When it comes to productivity hacks during the session, consider these:

  • Be transparent: Therapy is your safe space, and you should motivate yourself to speak freely about your thoughts and emotions. Allow yourself to explore uncomfortable topics and dig deeper into them. 
  • Ask questions: If something is unclear or you want to discuss the topic more profoundly, ask your therapist to explain or provide examples. 
  • Take notes: You don’t have to write everything during the session. Write key insights, phrases, coping strategies, or ideas that you or your therapist mentioned.

 

After the Session 

You should take five to ten minutes after the session, just like you do before it. Take a moment to absorb everything that was said after you leave your therapist’s office or end the online call. We often forget to reflect on our experiences because we’re so focused on what’s next. Taking a moment to take care of yourself after therapy should become a part of your routine. 

When it comes to productivity hacks after the session, consider these:

  • Reflect: Think about what you said and heard, and how it could be used in daily life. 
  • Implement: Apply the coping mechanisms or techniques recommended.
  • Notice progress: Track improvement or emotional shifts you notice as a result of therapy.
  • Provide feedback: Share with your therapist how you felt afterwards and what changes you’ve noticed or managed to implement after the session. 

 

Overcoming Common Challenges

You may notice certain challenges when it comes to your first efforts to become more productive in your therapy sessions. The lack of productivity can make it seem like you’re not benefiting from your therapy as much as you’d like. Applying all the tips mentioned above allows you to see a clear overview of your healing process. You can see how you felt months ago, which triggers you had, and what new techniques your therapist was suggesting. You can compare that information with the present situation and see what has improved. 

Being more productive, especially writing down and reflecting, enables you to manage more efficiently intense feelings during and after sessions. Once you start applying these suggestions, you will notice so many benefits. 

You will feel more concentrated and prepared for your next session. You will pay closer attention to your therapist’s words. You will notice how the work from therapy shows up in your daily situations with minimal conscious effort. All of this is possible due to the progress made during your therapy sessions. 

 

In Final Words

You don’t have to use all of our productivity tips at once. Make notes for your next therapy session, and after you’re done, take some time to think back on it. Doing it all at once could overwhelm you and make it feel like a systematic rather than emotional process. 

Also, not all techniques work for all people. Some might prefer to track progress in their therapy journals, while others prefer writing key words and phrases on sticky notes and having them where they can see them. It’s up to you to decide which of these ideas can help you become more productive. After all, you will enjoy its benefits!

Schedule a session today! 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.