Why Am I So Angry All the Time?

 

You should read this article if you have been wondering, “Why am I so angry all the time?” Even though you may think you are the only one going through this, many others are going through the same thing. They constantly feel angry, sometimes for no apparent reason. 

Instead of blaming you for feeling angry, it would make more sense to stop and have an honest conversation with your anger. As we know that this is something that feels unusual, we’ve decided to write an article dedicated to all people who feel angry all the time and don’t know what to do about it. Continue reading as we’ll explain what anger is, why it appears, what its purpose is, and what to do when you’re overwhelmed with this uncomfortable emotion. 

What Is Anger? 

When something goes wrong or someone wrongs you, you will probably experience anger. This is a very intense emotion, followed usually by stress and frustration. It’s important to say that all human beings experience anger and that it’s a completely natural emotion. Just like sadness, happiness, and fear, anger has its reasons for appearing on the surface. You might feel it in a challenging or stressful situation, whether it’s related to work, family, relationships, or something else. Anger often appears in moments of injustice or when we feel like we’ve been deprived of something. 

Anger only becomes an issue when it manifests excessively and starts interfering with day-to-day functioning and interpersonal relationships. The level of anger can vary, ranging from mild irritation to fury. It may occasionally be exaggerated or unreasonable. It might be challenging to control your emotions in certain situations, and you might act differently than you usually would. Anger could mean you lose control over your words and behavior, which might result in hurting someone else. 

Sings of Anger

Our bodies undergo certain physiological and biochemical changes when we are angry. The following are some examples of these changes your body may experience: 

• Energy boost
• Elevated blood pressure 
• Increase in hormones (noradrenaline and adrenaline) 
• Increase in body temperature  
• Heightened tension in the muscles 

It’s important to note that everyone experiences anger differently, and we all display it in various ways. When you’re upset, you may exhibit the following:

• Raising your voice
• Clenching your fists
• Fowning 
• Tightness in your jaw area
• Trembling 
• Rapid heartbeats 
• Sweating 

What Makes Me Angry?

There is nothing wrong with experiencing all the emotions. However, suppose you’re noticing that the anger is starting to impact your life. In that case, it’s time to do something about it, whether it’s destroying your romantic relationship or making your friends distant from you. That said, even if nobody around you is aware that you’re angry all the time, if you’re feeling like this most of the time, you shouldn’t ignore it.

As much as it’s true that anger is a strong emotion that often overwhelms you so much that you’re struggling to stay rational, it’s essential to start recognizing your triggers. What triggers your anger? These triggers can include things like your boss criticizing you, hearing your partner yelling at you, misplacing your phone or keys, etc. 

Once you start recognizing these triggers, it might help to create a plan for each of these triggers. For instance, if you keep losing your things, you might want to create a space for these things and try your best to leave them there. Keep in mind that thinking of these tricks will not make the anger go away. The idea of identifying triggers is to be able to analyze these situations and see what’s underneath them. People tend to be angry because they’re not satisfied with their life choices, are afraid to lose control over the most critical aspects of their lives, or are feeling sad.

Although sadness and anger are two individual emotions, often they are two sides of the same coin. Feeling angry provides us with a sense of control. It makes us feel like we’re stronger than when we’re crying. That is why many people who have lost someone important in their lives experience more anger than sadness. 

What To Do With My Anger?

We all experience anger occasionally, and most people can find healthy methods to vent it. Exercise is an excellent way of releasing anger and stress. However, if you find yourself wondering, why am I so angry all the time? and notice that anger is present in your everyday life, seeking therapy could be beneficial. Therapy is the most popular treatment for excessive anger for a reason.

If you struggle to pinpoint the feelings and situations that cause your rage, talking to a mental health expert could be extremely helpful. Besides teaching you efficient methods to deal with anger, they can also help you uncover the underlying problem. Sometimes, anger appears years after we’ve experienced a traumatic event, making it difficult to connect the emotion to the specific situation.

It is crucial to learn coping mechanisms for anger, whether alone or with the help of an expert. When anger rules our lives, it can lead to issues at work and harm relationships with loved ones.

Meditation significantly improves one’s ability to regulate emotions. Simple techniques, such as deep breathing exercises, are great places to start. When faced with a situation that makes you angry, think before you react. Try taking a few deep breaths or counting to help yourself relax and feel more at ease.

Finding Another Way

The most important thing is to not suppress your anger. The best method to deal with your anger is to express it when you feel it’s healthy. Suppressing the emotion will likely result in an unexpected, explosive explosion. So, instead of yelling at people in your life, why not journal how you feel? This can help you express your emotions without hurting yourself or others. 

If you feel hopeless, seek a therapist in your area or online. With the help of therapy, you will notice how the intensity of your anger is reduced over time, and you’ll probably learn a thing or two about the real cause of this strong emotion. A competent therapist will help you find a balance between all the emotions and support you while you explore what works best for you. 

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