What Happens When a Man Is Sexually Deprived?

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What Happens When a Man Is Sexually Deprived?

 

Ever wondered What Happens When a Man Is Sexually Deprived?

In this video, we’ll dive into the psychological, emotional, and physical effects of going without intimacy for long periods as a man.

So, what happens when a man is sexually deprived? For starters, his mood can take a serious hit. Irritability, frustration, and even feelings of loneliness can become more prominent. A lack of physical intimacy can also lead to lower self-esteem and increased stress levels, affecting his daily interactions and relationships.

On a biological level, sexual deprivation can impact testosterone levels, sometimes leading to decreased energy, reduced motivation, and even trouble focusing. It may also contribute to disrupted sleep patterns and increased tension in the body.

But it’s not all negative—what happens when a man is sexually deprived can also include unexpected benefits. Some men experience heightened creativity, stronger discipline, and a chance to focus on personal growth without distractions.

From relationship struggles to hormonal shifts and potential advantages, this topic is more complex than you might think! Stay tuned as we break it all down.

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Relationships without Sex

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Relationships without Sex: Cheat Sheet for Success

 

We’ve heard so many times how sex is an essential component of every relationship, yet what happens with relationships without sex? In other words, can relationships without sex survive? Let’s answer that really quickly here: yes! As long as both partners are comfortable with not having sex and connecting on other levels than sex, these relationships can be equally fulfilling as the ones where sex happens. 

So, how can you build a strong relationship without sex? Which things do you need to take care of if sex is not among intimacy acts in your relationships? In this article, we’ll share a cheat sheet for building successful relationships without sex. 

 

Reasons to Have Sexless Relationships

There are many reasons why couples might decide to have a relationship without sex. Either you or your partner can have a lack of libido, feel like sex is not one of your priorities, or you want to strengthen other aspects of your relationship. Whatever the reason, the only thing that matters is that both you and your partner feel good about that decision.

Some couples decide to have a sexless relationship during the dating phase, while others will decide to stop having sex when they’re already in a relationship. It’s important to keep in mind that there is a difference between deciding to have a sexless relationship and ending in one. The first one is your conscious choice, and the second one is something that happens as a consequence of a relationship.

Many couples are now looking to learn and build a strong connection through other types of intimacy. Besides sex, there are numerous ways you can feel close to your partner. The ones you decide to work on more will depend on your and your partner’s needs. 

 

Other Types of Intimacy

Mostly, when we talk about intimacy, we’ll first think of sex. However, a hug, a deep conversation, cuddling, or taking a long bath together are all examples of intimacy that don’t include sex. 

 

Emotional Intimacy

How ready and able are you and your partner to connect on a profound, significant emotional level? Emotional intimacy goes beyond simply expressing your feelings. It requires trust as well as the readiness to be honest and open about more profound emotions, emotions, and behaviors.

Talking about your early years or anything personal (without going beyond your personal boundaries) is one approach to establishing an emotional connection. In order to have enough trust, vulnerability, and awareness to support one another when a significant event occurs, it is crucial that you and your partner engage in emotional intimacy outside of times of crisis. 

 

Intellectual Intimacy

Having a healthy curiosity and learning from one another is the most basic definition of intellectual intimacy. Feeling comfortable discussing a wide range of subjects and sharing your opinions while remaining receptive to those of others are hallmarks of healthy intellectual closeness.

Even if you have different viewpoints, mutual regard enables you to connect and talk about subjects outside of your typical daily rapport. Reading poetry, visiting art institutions, or seeing a thought-provoking movie together are all ways to cultivate intellectual connection. Intellectual intimacy is about recognizing your differences and figuring out how to connect.

 

Spiritual Intimacy

Because spirituality is so individualized, spiritual connection may mean many different things. The extent to which you and your partner communicate your ideas, emotions, convictions, and experiences about religion, spirituality, morality, the afterlife, and other associated topics is generally referred to as spiritual intimacy.

While religious ideas and practices can be a component of one’s spirituality, spirituality is not necessarily about religion. The pursuit of purpose in life and your connection to something greater than yourself are both included in the broader idea of spirituality.

 

Social Intimacy

The extent to which you and your partner spend time together as a pair and have similar interests is known as social intimacy. What activities do you two engage in together? Do you enjoy spending time together?

This does not imply that you must constantly do or accomplish everything together. Spending enjoyable time with others while maintaining alone time is the essence of social closeness. After all, you need both! Trying something new together is a fantastic approach to developing social connections. Taking cooking courses, taking a new yoga class, trying a new restaurant, or learning how to dance salsa.

 

How to Strengthen a Relationship without Sex

Intimacy is a relationship that is developed over time through shared experiences and activities. It doesn’t happen immediately. The quality of your connections is especially crucial since being close to someone or having daily contact with them does not equate to deep or even healthy closeness. 

Many couples will believe that they’ll become more intimate with their partner just because they will spend more time together, whether it’s at home or on a vacation. Intimacy requires work. You both have to be willing to work on building different types of intimacy in your relationship. 

Oftentimes, when we take one intimacy type out of the equation, there is more focus on the void that the lack of this type of intimacy created instead of focusing on implementing a range of activities that will strengthen how you connect emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. 

Another thing that would be valuable to mention here is boundaries around your decision to not have sex. Although you’re both clear about not wanting sex in your relationship, you might have different emotions and thoughts attached to that decision. 

For instance, your partner might feel uncomfortable if you or someone else makes a joke about that decision. That is why it’s essential to discuss whether or not you want to even mention sex in your future, how to mention it, etc. Keeping in mind what works best for you will help you feel even better about this decision!

 

Make the Best of Your Relationship

In the end, it’s not sex that will decide whether your relationship will pass the test of time. Everything plays a key role when two people are building a relationship, from how you spend your free time together to how much you pay attention to tiny details. Each relationship is unique, so what works well for one might not work well for another. Only you and your partner will have the best idea of what you need in order to grow as a couple. Talking to your friends makes sense in terms of support, yet the crucial decisions should be made after talking heart-to-heart with your partner. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Infidelity Counseling

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Infidelity Counseling: What Is It & Does It Work? 

 

If your relationship has suffered from infidelity or you are the other woman or man, you may have been told to seek infidelity counseling. An infidelity-related trauma can definitely have a profound impact on everyone involved. Rebuilding the connection of your relationship is not easy, so that is why people consider infidelity therapy before they decide what to do next. 

This is especially important if children are involved or if the separation is complicated due to generated assets or running a business together. Infidelity counseling can help the couple understand why this affair happened and what each person needs in order to restore trust and intimacy. It can also help the other person to grieve what they have lost. That said, the outcome of what happens after therapy or coaching will be different from person to person.

 

Why Do People Cheat?

Most of us are good at judging others and reading about other couples who have had affairs, all the while preventing us from understanding the causes of unfaithfulness. First and foremost, it’s important to state that a person who is being cheated doesn’t deserve it. Relationships are more complicated than they appear. Even though you can believe that you give your best, the other person will not often do the same, and unfortunately, this is where the problem begins. 

So, why do people cheat? Interestingly, there are a lot of reasons why one person chooses to cheat and the other does not. Some reasons are quite obvious; however, there are also those we rarely talk about. 

 

Lack of Communication

Communication is one of many ways to be intimate with your partner. If your relationship or marriage is suffering from a lack of communication, this might push one of you into seeking opportunities to connect with other people. This connection can be physical, emotional, or both. It might start as opening up to someone willing to listen and grow into an affair. 

 

Financial Pressure

Most couples decide to divorce because of financial problems and disagreements, and it’s also one of the most common reasons for infidelity. Being unable to meet your partner’s expectations or feeling overwhelmed by financial issues can significantly impact the intimacy within your relationship or marriage. 

 

Not Being Compatible

Typically, you’d assume that couples are together because of their compatibility. However, that doesn’t have to be the case. Sometimes, a person will choose their partner based on other factors and completely ignore the compatibility. For instance, you might choose your spouse based on their social status, career, living area, etc. This doesn’t imply that you’ll be compatible, which is essential for a relationship or marriage to last. 

 

Lack of Respect

It’s completely common to have ups and downs in your marriage. However, if you face difficult moments with a lack of respect, you can’t expect a fulfilling marriage. Respect is the foundation of every relationship we build with other people. If you or your partner is disrespectful, this can lead to isolation and seeking respect somewhere else. 

 

How Can Infidelity Counseling Help?

Your first instinct will likely be to leave your partner if you have been cheated on. It’s not about it being the wrong or right decision; it’s about understanding and feeling what happened before making a move. If you have been hurt, you have the right to feel that pain in a safe environment and not carry it around with you. 

Also, there is a chance that there’s still so much love you both feel for each other that you’re willing to fight for your relationship or marriage. Instead of ignoring what happened, you are both making a courageous decision to look into the causes of infidelity to prevent it from happening again. 

You will both be given a safe space to talk, share thoughts, and express emotions you feel. Such counseling starts by talking about infidelity, yet its ultimate goal is to repair the damage it created so you both can understand each other better and give each other what you need. By taking care of each other, you are becoming more intimate, and therefore, your needs are met within your marriage or relationship and not outside it. 

 

How Infidelity Counseling Works 

You might be nervous when coming to your first session because you don’t know what to expect. Maybe you think you’ll say something out of control. You could feel worried that the session will not be constructive at all. Whatever your worries are, keep in mind that that’s what counseling is for. It is a space to share, discuss, seek advice, and feel whatever you are experiencing at the moment. 

Once you walk into your first session, your therapist will ask you a few questions to have a better understanding of what happened and the reason you’re both here. They will give you both time to talk and to highlight your concerns, questions, or any other doubts you might have about the process. 

Keep in mind that if you’re not willing to talk to your partner and do the work together, it will be impossible to progress. Your counselor is there to provide support and to guide you through the healing process, yet you and your partner’s collaboration is crucial for it to work. 

 

Final Words

If you’re unsure about the effectiveness of infidelity counseling, consider giving it a try. If you are curious about it because there is a hope of saving your marriage, try it. Invest a few months in an effort to clarify the circumstances and provide your partner with the chance to articulate the factors that contributed to their infidelity. 

If it doesn’t work, at least you’ll know you did all you could to save the relationship you built. Besides, counseling can also teach you more things about yourself. For instance, you can learn what you actually look for in a relationship, what your needs are, and which boundaries you want your partner to respect. All of that can help you either to strengthen your marriage or to build a healthier romantic relationship with another person when the time is right. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Babygirl Full Movie

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Sex Therapist Reviews Babygirl Full Movie and Discusses All the Subtle Hints!

 

The Babygirl full movie is one of the best I’ve seen in a long time. Halina Rejin explores dual relationships and non-monogamy with authenticity and depth. The story is told from the perspective of a woman executive navigating the integration of her many parts, offering a refreshing and emotionally engaging narrative.

The film delves into themes of self-discovery, workplace dynamics, kink, and power struggles. Rejin skillfully balances vulnerability and strength, highlighting how intimacy intersects with ambition and control. Each scene feels intentional, offering viewers moments of both discomfort and revelation.

With bold storytelling and nuanced eroticism, Babygirl explores desire, identity, and relationships in ways few films dare to. The characters are multifaceted, each one bringing the intricacies of human connection to life. The movie doesn’t shy away from addressing taboo topics, challenging viewers to question societal norms around sexuality, power, and the roles we play in relationships.

As a sex therapist, I appreciate the film’s sensitivity in examining how past experiences, insecurities, and evolving needs shape our intimate lives. The portrayal of non-monogamy feels realistic and avoids sensationalism, showing both the challenges and rewards of exploring less conventional paths.

Babygirl also shines in its depiction of how different aspects of identity—personal, professional, and sexual—can coexist. It invites viewers to consider how they integrate these parts of themselves, especially in moments of vulnerability and growth.

This movie serves as both a form of entertainment and a deep reflection on love, power, and connection. It’s a rare gem that sparks meaningful conversations long after the credits roll. Whether you’re curious about non-monogamy or simply enjoy complex storytelling, Babygirl is a must-watch.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Intimacy Coordinator

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Intimacy Coordinator + Being a Safety Net for Actors 

 

An intimacy coordinator is a person who ensures a safe, respectful, and consensual environment during intimate scenes in film, theater, television, or other art or production forms. Their goal is to provide valuable insight when choreographing scenes that involve physical intimacy, nudity, or stimulated sexual acts with a focus on the well-being of the actors and crew. 

For the past hundred years, the entertainment industry has been producing and promoting countless movies and series, which often involve these types of scenes. Not until recently have actors been able to trust someone to look out for them in vulnerable moments. 

This article will explain why intimacy coordinators are vital to actors’ well-being and the industry’s future. Find out the key responsibilities of intimacy coordinators and how to become one if you’re interested. 

 

Definition of an Intimacy Coordinator

For the past few years, you might have heard actors and producers talking about the importance of intimacy coordinators. They are present during shooting moments that involve nudity, physical intimacy, or simulated sexual acts to ensure that nobody is pushed beyond their own wellbeing. 

For instance, it’s a known fact that many movies in history have included two actors completely nude, showing expressions of physical intimacy without care for their mental health. The art was above everything, even the well-being of the actors and the crew. I have heard people in the industry say things like “you must suffer for your art.”

That is why the role of intimacy coordinator is so essential in today’s movies and series. A recent example can be found in the ‘Firefly Lane’ TV series. The lead actress, Katherine Heigl, shared how grateful she feels that all scenes were recorded with the presence of an intimacy coordinator. Similarly, in the Babygirl Movie, the director and main actress reported that the presence of an professional was beneficial. 

Without an  coordinator, these young girls would have to fight for themselves, hoping the director and others saw their best interests, which was often not the case. 

 

Key Responsibilities of an Intimacy Coordinator

To ensure that all parties involved are secured from any harm, an intimacy coordinator has several responsibilities. One of the most important ones is facilitating communication between actors and the crew. Intimacy coordinators are like liaisons between the two sides of this industry. Before filming or rehearsing, they discuss each scene’s nature and boundaries. 

Besides communication, intimacy coordinators establish consent and boundaries by working with actors to define their personal comfort levels and boundaries. With the presence of these professionals, actors will not feel pressure to perform beyond what was previously agreed upon. 

Another key responsibility is choreographing intimate scenes. To ensure story continuity and professionalism, an intimacy coordinator plans and blocks physical interactions. Akin to a stunt or dance routine, they structure and repeat intimacy.

Most importantly, intimacy coordinators make actors, crew, and anyone else who wants to enter this exciting world feel safe. For example, if you dream of an acting career yet are afraid that your beliefs, boundaries, and comfort will be questioned, an intimacy coordinator is your safety net. 

Lastly, these professionals also ensure legal and ethical compliance. They do so by ensuring that productions comply with union guidelines and legal standards regarding nudity and simulated acts. They can also implement modesty garments, barriers, or other protective measures when sensual scenes happen.

 

How to Become an Intimacy Coordinator

SAG-AFTRA-accredited professional certificates in intimacy coordinating can be obtained through different venues. To be included in the union’s intimacy coordinator register, you must combine relevant training and job experience. 

Aspiring intimacy coordinators are advised by SAG to show intent, develop their skill set, and network to obtain employment experience. To demonstrate interest in this emerging sector, future intimacy coordinators should participate in industry conversations. Another great idea is to join relevant organizations, attend networking events, build company relationships, find mentors, and look for assistance or shadowing.

To be an intimacy coordinator in the United States, a person will need to meet a few requirements, including:

  • Pass a state and federal background check
  • Obtain intimacy coordinator certification from a SAG-AFTRA-approved training program
  • Continue educating yourself about sexual storytelling, communication, consent, gender, sexual diversity, sensitivity, movement coaching, masking, and power dynamics 
  • Gain knowledge about union contracts that discuss simulated sex
  • Seek mentorship opportunities from an established intimacy coordinator

Also, many professionals have previously worked as sex and relationship coaches. This allowed them to have relevant experience working with couples and individuals and learning different methods to establish boundaries and build mutual respect. Such knowledge is extremely beneficial for intimacy coordinators. 

 

Conclusion

It’s not a surprise that everyone, including sex therapists, is celebrating this rising trend in the entertainment industry. Intimacy coordinators establish a professional atmosphere that discourages exploitation or inappropriate behavior, contributing to improving the conditions of the industry. Because of intimacy coordinators, awareness of the need for workplace safety and consent is growing as well. Actors and crew members have been vocal about their need for an independent professional who can protect their boundaries in a healthy and sustainable way. 

With the right training and education, intimacy coordinators can protect everyone involved in rehearsing and producing vulnerable scenes. By standing up for each person in this industry, intimacy coordinators are ensuring that the work environment of these people is not as harmful as it was before. Just like it is with any other profession, workers have every right to have their boundaries respected and not be traumatized during their work hours. 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Trauma Release Exercises

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Trauma Release Exercises You Can Do From Home

 

Whether or not you’re already seeing a therapist, there are certain trauma release exercises you can do from the comfort of your home. It can be a great addition to your therapy, or you can use it whenever you want to release tension or unwind from a stressful day.

Although we’re all mostly used to busy, dynamic lifestyles, our bodies need time to relax and release all the tension they have accumulated throughout time. Giving yourself some time to do so can help you become more present in your life, understand better what you care about, and how to ensure you protect yourself from stressful situations.

 

What are Trauma Release Exercises?

Trauma-release movements aim to relieve deep muscle patterns of chronic stress, muscle tension, and trauma-related physical discomfort. These exercises can be quite beneficial in helping to release any stored stress and trauma, as they activate the body’s natural tremoring mechanism. Trauma-release exercises can be a wonderful way for your body to let go of tension that has been held for a long time, helping you to find a sense of balance again. 

Anyone experiencing stress, anxiety, or witnessed discomfort while alone and without support can consider trauma-release exercises. It benefits those who have tightness, discomfort, or inflammation in their bodies. Trauma-release exercises can benefit those with family, housing, financial, or health issues. Such exercises can help anyone whose health and well-being are being jeopardized by stress, overload, worry, or pain.

 

Examples of Trauma Release Exercises

There are several different types of TREs that can help people let go of unresolved trauma. As you experiment with them, you may discover that some have a greater influence on you than others. You may consult a mental health practitioner to decide which trauma release exercises would benefit you best if you’re uncertain or you feel like they can maybe trigger you into reliving your trauma again. 

 

Stretching 

Stretching is one of the most popular TREs since it helps release tense muscles. The modified TRE, or standing forward fold with shaking, promotes relaxation and helps the release of tension held in the muscles. Keep in mind to pay attention to your body and modify the level of intensity as necessary.

The way to do it is to stand with your feet hip-width apart while also relaxing your knees. When you feel comfortable, start slowly bending forward at the hips and feel your upper body becoming more relaxed as you go. After you’ve done a few movements, start gently shaking your body. You can do a sway from one side to another or from the lower part of your body to your head. 

Yet if you can, while you’re gently shaking your body, don’t force or jerk any movements and allow your body to release tension. During shaking, think of an animal after a bath, and focus on taking slow, deep breaths, as it also helps release tension or stress stored in the body. 

Once you feel like you’re done, slowly stop with the shaking. Bring attention to the rest of your body and notice how your body feels after this exercise. You may feel warmer, sillier, or back to a primal state like a dog. 

 

The Spiral Technique

This is one of the trauma-release exercises you can do on your own or with your therapist. It requires you to close your eyes, see your body, and recall the unpleasant experience or trauma. During this process, monitor your body’s response, particularly your heartbeat and stomach.

Think of that part of your body as a spiral, and observe how quickly or slowly it turns. Push the spiral in the other direction with your thoughts. This may be a difficult task if you’re practicing it for the first time, yet it will become more natural with time. 

As you do the spiral technique, be mindful of your breathing. When you’re ready, return your focus to your surroundings and pay attention to your physical sensations. Keep your eyes open, pay attention to your breathing, and hold onto any safety or calm you have experienced during the exercise.

 

Wall Sitting Stretch for Upper Legs

If you are noticing some tension in your upper legs, it could be helpful to explore this technique. Lie flat on your back. Bend your knees, making sure your feet are right underneath you, and bring them together. Bring your heels as close as you can to your body and spread your knees. During this exercise, it’s important to keep your foot soles together. 

Once you feel ready, raise your hips off the ground and keep them in the air for 30 to 60 seconds, depending on what feels comfortable to you. Then, lower the hips to the ground and press the body against your heels. Use this time to recover and breathe. When you feel ready to repeat this exercise, bring your knees a bit closer and lift your hips. Repeat this as many times as necessary, until the knees are joined together. 

You don’t have to do the entire exercise at once; you can take as many pauses as you need or slowly extend the exercise by one movement each time you perform it. 

 

Benefits of Trauma Release Exercises 

The majority of people report both physical and mental benefits from trauma-release exercises, which can assist with PTSD, anxiety, and other chronic problems. Additionally, even those with physical restrictions or impairments can safely do TRE stretches at home. To prevent hurting oneself or making preexisting issues worse, make sure you modify stretches to suit your requirements. Each body is different, so it’s best to listen to it for instructions instead of forcing something that might not work for you. 

Trauma work means taking care of your bodily, mental, and emotional needs. To help with your healing process, take good care of yourself before, during, and after trauma release activities. Keep yourself active, eat a healthy diet, and get enough sleep to meet your other fundamental needs.

 

Conclusion

Trauma-release exercises are a recommended method for removing stress from your body at home. However, don’t hurry it and start slow! When exercising, pay attention to how your body feels instead of pushing yourself to the point of great discomfort. 

Keep in mind to breathe deeply and to let your body move freely. If you have trouble practicing independently or have mobility limitations, think about locating a certified TRE practitioner or talk to your therapist about it. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Does Age Matter in a Relationship When The Woman is Older?

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Does Age Matter in a Relationship When The Woman is Older?

 

Does age really matter in a relationship when the woman is older? Is it just a number when it comes to love?

In this video, licensed therapist Amanda Pasciucco dives deep into why age gaps in relationships may not be as big of an issue as you think—especially when both partners are over 25!

From the rise of “Cougar & Cub” relationships to the fact that emotional connection, compatibility, and shared values matter far more than the years between two people, Amanda explores why these relationships can thrive. She discusses how maturity, life experience, and mutual respect can often outweigh age differences, providing a richer understanding of love and partnership.

 

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

How to Be a Better Listener

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How to Be a Better Listener: Tips and Techniques To Use

 

Learning to be a better listener will benefit you in every aspect of your life. Actively listening to people allows you to get to know them better, understand their point of view, and become closer to them. Although we are all aware of the importance of quality communication, the emphasis is often on talking rather than listening. 

However, communication cannot exist without listening. If one person talks, the other one has to listen. No matter how clearly someone is stating something, if another person is not paying attention, the communication will not be successful. Instead of providing you with useful tips and ideas on how to be better at communicating what you want, we’ve decided to focus on helping you become a better listener. 

 

Why Does Listening Matter?

Even for a little interaction between two human beings, you need someone to talk to and someone to listen. We’re exchanging information with other people constantly, whether it’s at work, at home, or while we’re on public transportation. That said, each interaction or communication we share with another person or group of people can only be efficient if somebody is listening to us. You may feel let down if your boss does not listen to you when you walk into their office after spending the entire night planning the best way to request a raise. 

You can easily find online courses and schools that help people become better at public speaking. And you probably already know certain people who excel in communication. However, we rarely seek out listening strategies or learn how to listen better. Somehow, society has pushed listening aside, and people have focused on sharpening their communication skills while completely ignoring the importance of being a good listener

Except for certain situations, most communication opportunities will require a certain amount of talking and a certain amount of listening. Being good at talking alone does not translate into effective communication. Meaning, brilliant communicators understand that talking and listening are complementary aspects of communication. 

Lastly, when you listen to someone, you show respect. It’s impossible to respect someone without caring about what they have to say, how they feel, and what they need. 

 

What Happens When You Don’t Listen

If you care about any aspect of your life, it might be your marriage or your career; becoming even better at it requires understanding what is necessary to move forward. Meaning, ignoring your spouse’s needs during a difficult time in your marriage could result in divorce. If you want a promotion by the end of next year, failing to listen to your superior’s requirements could cost you that opportunity or even get you fired.

When we were children, we listened to other people in order to stay safe. Now, when we’re adults, we should listen to connect. This connection isn’t necessarily a form of intimacy. It can also lead to fulfilling your professional goals, meeting new people in a new city, or learning about a different culture when traveling. 

 

How to Listen Better

Before we get into tactics and tips for becoming a better listener, it’s important to distinguish active from passive listening. Passive listening is a type of listening in which you are quiet, yet you are not fully concentrated on what the person is saying. A perfect example of passive listening would be a child during a subject they are not passionate about. 

Active listening, on the other hand, requires your focus. You are paying attention to what the person is talking about, you feel interested in the subject of the conversation, and you want a positive outcome of such a conversation. Active listening is required for overcoming a crisis in a relationship or during a performance review, especially if you’re interested in improving your results. 

If you want to become a better listener, keep reading our recommended techniques.

 

1.Set Intention to Listen

It might sound weird at first; however, those who are not naturally good listeners will need to practice it, just like they would with any other skill. So, if you’ve decided to become a better listener, you should start by setting the intention to listen more and speak less in a certain situation of your interest.

For instance, if you want to show support to your spouse who is going through a stressful period at work, you will want to initiate the conversation after you’ve set the intention to listen. Choosing to pay attention allows you to feel more curious about the conversation itself instead of feeling like you’re trapped until the person stops talking. This will also help you become more aware of the moments when you feel ready for such a conversation and those when it would be best to be alone and take care of yourself first.

 

2.Ask Questions

Listening doesn’t have to be a passive activity in which you struggle to stay concentrated. If your mind wanders off or you feel like you need additional clarification, ask a question. For instance, if you’re new at your job and the onboarding specialist is giving too many instructions, instead of feeling overwhelmed with information, ask a question. 

Ask them to repeat something they’ve said or ask about something you’re interested in. This will allow you to change the dynamic of the conversation, take a breath, and feel like you have more control over the situation. 

 

3.Pay Attention to Nonverbal Communication

We are always communicating, even in a room with people who are all sitting quietly. Nonverbal communication is often more impactful than verbal communication. If you’re listening to your colleague talking in a long business meeting, what would your nonverbal communication say? Are you bored? Are you impatient to jump in and start talking? 

Nonverbal communication matters equally when you’re speaking and listening. That is why it’s crucial that you remind yourself that your posture, eye contact, and every little move you make show how you feel about the situation you’re in. Avoid playing with your fingers, looking away through the window, and sitting with your arms crossed across your chess, as they are all cues of lack of interest or disagreement. 

Luckily, if you’re truly interested in becoming a better listener, you can do so with practice. Give yourself some time to implement these tips, and whenever you find yourself in a listening mode, use it as an opportunity to improve your listening skills. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Nonverbal Communication Cues

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Nonverbal Communication Cues In Dating or Partnership

 

Communication is the basis for every relationship, and nonverbal communication cues are a big part of it. We often forget that communication is not only the things we say and hear. It is far more than that, and as a result, we frequently suffer in certain relationships and situations. Not knowing why you feel uncomfortable or stressed even though a person is not saying anything harmful to you could be quite confusing. Oftentimes, the answer can be found in nonverbal communication cues. 

In this article, we will explain why nonverbal communication has such an impact on us and share examples of nonverbal communication cues with you. Also, you will learn how to read these cues and their meaning, so let’s dive into them straight away. Shall we? 

 

What is Nonverbal Communication?

Experts say that around 80% of our communication is actually nonverbal. In a way, we can say that for every sentence you speak, you’ve already given four nonverbal communication cues to the person or group listening to you. Unlike talking and listening, nonverbal communication doesn’t require our conscious decision to express itself. 

For instance, you might be on the first date with the person you’ve been thinking about for a while. You are saying the right things and trying to remain calm. However, your left leg is restless, your hands are sweating, and you suddenly sense that the room temperature is too high. These are all examples of nonverbal communication that provide information on how we feel about a certain situation or person. 

 

Examples of Nonverbal Communication Cues

Nonverbal communication cues can be divided into a few categories. The ones we are most aware of are probably facial expressions, followed by gestures, postures, eye behavior, touch, body movements, and use of space. 

 

Facial Expressions 

Both children and adults make facial expressions based on how they feel about something. Teenagers learn to control their facial expressions so they don’t reveal too much. 

Examples of facial expressions are:

  • Smiling 
  • Frowning 
  • Raised eyebrows
  • Avoiding eye contact 

 

Gestures

Gestures are most notable when we meet someone or are listening to them speak. When we greet someone, we’re very focused on the way they respond to seeing us. Are they happy to see us or not? We draw a conclusion through their gestures.

Examples of gestures are:

  • Nodding 
  • Shaking head 
  • Thumbs up 
  • Waving 

 

Postures

You’ve probably thought about your posture during long business meetings, lectures, or any other situation in which you’ve been more passive than active. If a person enters the room with a straight posture and stands tall next to you, they express confidence and authority that way. If that same person entered the room with their head down, looking at the floor, this wouldn’t be an example of confident behavior. 

Examples of postures are:

  • Leaning forward
  • Crossing arms 
  • Standing tall 
  • Slouching 

 

Eye Behavior 

This is maybe one of the most intimate nonverbal communication cues of all, as it requires you to be close to the person to see their eye behavior. For instance, you might want to pay attention to your friend’s eye behavior when asking if they’ve shared your secret with someone else. 

Examples of eye behavior are: 

  • Direct eye contact
  • Staring
  • Rapid blinking
  • Looking away

 

Touch 

Although we think of touch when talking about intimate relationships, it can also be a part of your professional life. Shaking hands with coworkers and new business partners can reveal a lot about you. On the other hand, touch can give a person so much information on a first date. Did you shake hands or hug at the end of your date? 

Examples of platonic touch are:

  • Handshakes 
  • Patting on the back or shoulder
  • Hugging 
  • Tapping someone on the shoulder

 

Body Movements 

Body language allows us to express ourselves in so many ways, and one of them is through body movements. These body movements differ from our conscious movements, such as walking, reaching out for something, or raising our hands to ask a question. 

Although the way we do all these things also contains valuable information, body movements refer to the following: 

  • Shrugging shoulders 
  • Tapping fingers 
  • Pacing 

 

Use of Space

The way someone uses the space between you or your group will tell you a lot about how comfortable they feel or how much they trust you. Even on professional occasions, you can use these nonverbal communication cues to understand the other person better. 

These are the ways a person can use space: 

  • Standing close
  • Keeping distance
  • Encroaching on personal space

 

How to Read Nonverbal Communication Cues

If all this information is new to you, don’t worry. Reading nonverbal communication cues is a skill that everyone can learn. At first, it might take you some time to pick up this habit when interacting with other people, especially when you’re meeting a new person. Also, this skill will be quite beneficial if you’re going through a rough patch with your romantic partner and you want to understand them beyond the words they speak.

So, the first thing you’ll need to do to learn to read nonverbal communication is to speak less and listen more. When you’re not talking, you have more energy and time to focus on the other person. If they are shy, ask them a question and analyze their body language. Are they playing with their fingers? Do they adjust their hair every few minutes? How is their posture while sitting with you? Do they look directly into your eyes, or are they looking away?

All these answers can help you understand how the person feels in the situation. For instance, your dating partner might say all the right words, yet something feels off to you. Although they say they want to meet you again, they maintain distance, cross their arms, and are looking all around, except at you. This could mean that they are potentially not as interested as they portrayed. With time and curiosity, you will be able to read all these cues. Until then, you can ask what the other is thinking. 

 

Quality Communication Helps Strengthen Connection

Once you start paying attention to people interacting with you, whether it’s in your personal or professional life, you will notice how your relationships grow. If you’ve only been focused on a portion of communication between you and your partner, friends, or family, you’ve also been missing a lot of information. Maybe somebody is uncomfortable with your tone and doesn’t know how to say it to you. 

Reading their nonverbal communication cues can help reduce the tension between you and the other person. As soon as you focus more on their body language instead of just what they are saying, you will be able to understand people better and connect with them on a more meaningful level. 

To begin the communication journey at home, learn to get connected.

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Best Out of the Box Date Night Ideas at Home!

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Best Out of the Box Date Night Ideas at Home!

 

Looking for creative ways to spend quality time together? Try these out of the box date night ideas at home! If you’re tired of the usual routine, these unique ideas will help you connect in new ways. They’re perfect for couples who have been together for years or those just starting to explore their relationship.

These ideas bring adventure, laughter, and closeness—without leaving your home.

Whether you’re exploring new activities together or discovering something new about each other, these date night ideas will deepen your bond. You don’t need to leave your house to have an amazing time. All you need is a little creativity and a willingness to try something different.

Stepping outside traditional date night options can make even simple activities special. These out-of-the-box ideas encourage fun and meaningful interaction. You’ll create cherished memories that last long after the evening ends.

With these ideas, your next date night will be filled with fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments!

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Robot Fetish

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Robot Fetish: A Deep Dive into Technosexuality

 

Although you may not know about robot fetishes, you may have seen a film about human-machine romance. Since artificial intelligence has become a media buzzword, people have wondered if it can evoke desire like humans. 

To understand how and why humans decided to connect with the machines in a way that used to connect with other humans, we have to address robot fetish and technosexuality. These two are synonyms referring to sexual or romantic attraction to robots or other machines that aim to mimic human behavior. It ranges from admiration for the robotic form to longing for a non-human, artificially intelligent partner. 

In this article, we’ll explore the origins, psychology, cultural impact, and everything else you’d like to know about robot fetishism.

 

The Origins of Robot Fetishism

Although we talk about robots as something futuristic, the truth is that humanoid machines have been present throughout history. Just remember Pygmalion and Galatea in mythology or Frankenstein and Metropolis in literature. In recent years, we’ve had sci-fi movies like Blade Runner, Ex Machina, and Her, all showing the allurement of human-robot relationships. 

However, today, we’re not talking about imagination. Due to the evolution of robotics and artificial intelligence that started at the end of the 20th century, people nowadays have all the tools needed to build a relationship with a robot. The normalization of human-machine interactions is offering a new aspect for those who are looking for something different for numerous reasons. 

You may be tired of trying your hardest or being cheated on, so you are exploring robot fetish to see if it is right for you. Regardless of the motivation, there’s no denying the permanence of human-machine interactions. 

 

The Psychology Behind Technosexuality

Why do people find robots alluring? Well, there are several reasons why technosexuality is becoming so popular. One of the most obvious and common is control and predictability. The reason why many relationships and marriages go through difficult times and even separations is that we can’t control or predict another person’s behavior. Compared to humans, robots currently may have less emotionally complex characteristics, which allows them to become “perfect matches” to each individual.

Also, there is an aspect of fantasy and projection. Technosexuality allows humans to project their desires onto non-human entities. In other words, the robot you’re building a relationship with will want to become what you need it to be. Do you want to have a partner that is more seductive? A robot can do this for you. Do you maybe want a partner who knows how to make you laugh when you have a lousy day? A robot will do this for you. 

Lastly, we have to address the increasing loneliness in today’s modern society. We feel more and more separated from society. This can be because of traveling, moving abroad, or simply because we’re so used to being at home interacting with technology that we’ve lost interest in connecting the way we used to before. Robots can fill the emotional void for people who have a deep desire to connect with someone with the minimum risk of getting hurt. 

 

Technosexuality in Popular Culture

As mentioned above, technosexuality appeared in mythology, literature, and movies. Its usage can be defined as recent, yet the concept of robot fetish is older than any technology the human race has witnessed. Over the past few years, there has also been a rising trend of video games with robots as icons of desire. The most popular examples are Ava from Ex Machina and Westworld’s Hosts. 

Robot fetish is a common theme in modern erotic art and literature as well. This concept spreads across all forms of art and entertainment, and its popularity indicates that today’s audience finds this idea alluring. The rise of AI companion apps and interactive sex dolls further blurs the line between fantasy and reality. Similarly, they are working on surrogate sex robots to be able to carry your future children while you stay at work. 

If you’re interested in a human-like relationship with a robot, there are tons of options for you to try out. From installing a mobile app on your phone and building relationships with a machine to using AI tools for dating advice, matchmaking, and role play, AI can offer support for any romantic aspect you seek. 

 

The Future of Human-Robot Intimacy

Given this, what will the future be like? These technological advances show AI and robotics’ potential to create emotionally responsive companions. This could lead to long-term relationships with machines, where people make memories and celebrate important dates. 

Only twenty years ago, we didn’t have AI assistants such as Alexa or Siri. The idea of technology creating our grocery shopping list or playing interactive games with us was pretty unimaginable at that time. That is why we can say that technology and the way humans respond to it are difficult to predict. However, the main question isn’t whether or not society will accept the idea of human-robot intimacy. What matters is whether this type of intimacy will make a person feel loved and secure and ready to date again if the opportunity arises. 

 

Conclusion

There is no doubt that the technology we’re seeing today can be used in different ways and forms, including our romantic lives. Technosexuality brought to life a thousand-year-old concept in which we’ve been imagining what it’s like to connect with someone who is not human. 

With more robots in our society, there is no doubt that there will also be an increase in the number of relationships with them. We’ve mentioned all the reasons why someone would be interested in building a romantic relationship with a machine, yet a machine is still just a piece of technology. One internet outage or software attack would cause that relationship to suffer a unique set of challenges. 

Despite the existence of robots, the ideal relationship remains unattainable. It comes with certain risks, and it’s up to you to weigh your options and decide whether it’s the right thing for you. Come talk to us if you have issues with robot-machine relationships. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Stress Relief Activities

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Stress Relief Activities to Unwind and Recharge

 

If you’ve been overwhelmed with responsibilities lately, learning which stress relief activities can help you relax and get back on track. Whether it’s work, family, or your health, feeling stressed can only make things worse. However, most of the time, we’re not aware of the activities that can help us step away from all the tension. 

Whatever your life looks like, what we all have in common is the inability to control external factors. In other words, we can’t control what will happen. What we can control is how we react to these external events until we dismantle the greater systems at large. So, if we spend time focusing on activities that help us restore and relax, we may be able to respond more to what life throws at us. 

In this article, we’ll share with you the most efficient stress relief activities you can start implementing today. Try them until you’ve found the ones that resonate best with your personality and goals. If none, consider our YouTube techniques. 

 

1.Meditation

Nowadays, everyone is talking about meditation—and for a good reason. Meditation helps you find inner peace by sitting still, breathing, and exploring what your inner world wants to tell you. Instead of focusing on your thoughts, meditation allows you to pay attention to sensations in your body. When was the last time you were present at the moment, and your mind wasn’t going through your to-do list or avoiding that list? 

The good news is that you do not need anything to begin meditation if you have never done it before. Just find a quiet, comfortable place and dedicate 10 minutes to just being in the present moment. You can meditate lying down or sitting; it’s up to you. Guided meditations and breathwork are just two of the many types of meditations available online. It’s important to say neutral to kind things to yourself, like you would a best friend, a child, or someone you are mentoring. 

 

2.Therapy

A person can only do so much on their own when it comes to improving their reaction to stressful situations. We usually look within our beliefs and skills for solutions, ignoring many more efficient options. That is where therapists come in. 

Most of the way we react to external factors is conditioned by our past experiences and the beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us. A therapist can help you take a closer look at how you’re reacting to stress, the reasons for it, and the alternatives. After just a few sessions, you will notice that your perspective is shifting, and you may be able to react differently to life around you.  

 

3.Journaling

Although journaling may appear to be a monotonous activity, it has numerous mental health benefits. Starting to journal, especially if you are working on gratitude, will change how you feel about your reality. 

If you focus on what you can, you will notice a new lens to old problems. Whatever you focus on grows! It’s your decision whether you’ll focus on positive or negative things in your life. 

 

4.Physical Activity

If you ask any doctor or scientist about the best activity to unwind and recharge, 99% of them will list physical activity as one of the top three suggestions. Your brain releases dopamine and endorphins when you exercise, making you feel good. 

You can start with any physical activity that seems interesting to you, whether it’s swimming, jogging, gym, hiking, or working out at home. Make sure that your chosen physical activity matches your lifestyle. For instance, if you don’t have enough free time, driving to the gym and back home might be a waste of your time. Instead, you can purchase a set of weights and equipment you’ll need to work out at home. 

 

5.Spend Time in Nature

Today’s busy lifestyle makes us forget how important spending time in nature is for us. Walking in the woods is the best way to chill out and recharge.

Explore nature according to your interests. Perhaps you would rather sit in a park and listen to the birds sing or take long walks on the beach. Make the commitment to do that at least once a week, no matter what it is. Try adding it to your calendar and creating a healthy stress-relief routine. 

 

6.Connect with Your Close Ones

We often forget how valuable personal connections are to us. We’ll postpone meeting our best friend for weeks due to work responsibilities, not being aware of how much better we feel after we’ve talked and laughed with them for hours. 

Find the time to be with your friends, family, or your romantic partner. Getting together does not have to require an exciting plan. Oftentimes, the best moments are when we’ll just talk to the ones we love while sitting on our sofa or drinking coffee in our favorite place. 

 

7.Start Your Morning Right

Do you often wake up and instinctively reach for your phone to check your emails and messages? The way you start your morning affects the rest of your day, so maybe you can consider a new habit stop. If you’re immediately focusing on your responsibilities, the day will probably feel too overwhelming for you.

Instead, why not set intentions for that day? You can decide to do a short meditation before you go about your day as well. Maybe you’ll want to mindfully drink your cup of tea or coffee in silence. Your morning ritual could be exactly what you need to become more resilient to the outer world. 

 

Conclusion 

Whether it’s talking to your therapist or going for long walks in nature, find the stress relief activity that makes you feel peaceful and fulfilled. The more you start practicing these activities, the easier it will become to navigate the challenges of the modern lifestyle. Start today, so your tomorrow is something you look forward to!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Overcoming Obsession with Another Person

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Overcoming Obsession with Another Person

 

Struggling with an obsession with another person can feel overwhelming and all-consuming.

Are obsessive thoughts about someone taking over your life? 🌪️

Obsession can feel all-consuming, like a never-ending loop of thoughts and emotions tied to one person. It often sneaks in when we least expect it, feeding off insecurities, unmet needs, or unresolved feelings. The cycle can be exhausting, affecting your mood, relationships, and overall well-being.

In this video, we’ll dig into the root causes of obsession. Is it unfulfilled attachment? Low self-esteem? Or maybe unmet emotional needs? Understanding the “why” is the first step to breaking free.

We’ll also explore how these obsessions become ingrained in your everyday life. They might seem harmless at first—a fleeting thought or a harmless text—but over time, they can grow into something that feels impossible to escape.

The good news? There’s a way out. I’ll share simple, practical steps to reclaim your mental space and restore balance. Learn how to set boundaries with your thoughts, refocus your energy on personal growth, and find fulfillment beyond the obsession.

You deserve to feel free and in control. Tune in, take notes, and start your journey to overcoming obsession today.

 

 

Ready to take the next step? Book a session with my team 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Nice Guy Syndrome

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Nice Guy Syndrome: Do You Have It & What To Do About It? 

 

If you’ve been told that you have nice guy syndrome, you’re probably wondering whether a blog can help. Perhaps you have dated a few people who have emphasized your niceness, or your friends bring it up when discussing how to find the right person for you. 

What does it mean to have nice guy syndrome? What are the things you’ll need to be aware of when meeting other people and building relationships with them? In this article, we’ll share everything you need to know about the nice guy syndrome and how to use it to your advantage!

 

What Is a Nice Guy Syndrome? 

When talking about nice guys, at least one guy probably comes to mind. The one you felt safe walking home from the bar, or the one who offers to carry your luggage if it looks too heavy. You can count on the nice guy to understand you emotionally. 

If you’ve been described as a nice guy many times, congratulations! Contrary to what many might think, being a nice guy actually means you’re an authentic person who has other people’s interests in mind. Why would anyone want to change that? 

However, if you suspect that the lack of success in your romantic life is due to the nice guy syndrome, don’t panic. We have skills we could work on when approaching other people and trying to establish connections with them. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should stop being a nice man. 

Your prospective partners who are seeking a genuine relationship are undoubtedly not interested in bad boys who fail to contact them after a successful date. Being a nice person is essential if you want to find someone who will be kind to you as well and choose you in the long term. 

 

Useful Tips for Nice Guys 

On a first date, you don’t need to impress someone you’ve just met. Small details like opening the door and being curious to learn more about them are enough. 

Keep in mind that you don’t have to pretend you’re not a nice guy. Understanding the situation and what it requires from you can greatly benefit you. You might have the best intentions to show this person sitting across you that you want to get to know them better, and they might think you’re trying too hard. Avoiding that can help you secure a second date. 

Although everyone mostly talks about the nice guy syndrome when it comes to romantic life and dating, it’s also important to mention it in the context of your professional life. Whatever your job is, it’s crucial to be kind to your coworkers and superiors. However, you also have every right to establish healthy boundaries and be assertive when the situation asks for it. 

 

Too Much of a Good Thing

Just like it is with everything, you can be so nice to someone that it actually backfires and leads to undesired results. If you identify as a nice guy, make sure you become aware of certain behaviors that could be more harmful than beneficial. 

 

Overcompensation

One such behavior is overcompensation. Are you often putting other people’s needs first, even if it’s at your own expense? What many people forget is that being nice starts with yourself. Not taking care of yourself and making sure everyone around you is happy will eventually end in disaster. Don’t forget that only the ones who prioritize their own well-being are truly capable of taking care of others. 

 

Convert Contracts 

When we were kids, we were often taught that good behavior leads to rewards. If that was the case in your childhood, you might expect that people around you respond the same way when you do or say something nice. Expecting that other people respond how you want them to could lead to disappointment. To avoid it, make sure you become aware of your intentions before you act. 

 

Conflict Avoidance

This is one of the most common behaviors of nice guys. They avoid any type of conflict because they fear that someone will think worse of them. They might also avoid sharing their opinions in situations where they’re uncertain how it will result for them. In other words, they prefer to stay quiet in situations they can’t control. 

 

Passive Aggression

We mentioned above rewards for good behavior. However, what often happens when we don’t receive any type of reward is passive-aggressive tendencies. If you expect to be praised for being a nice guy in an environment that doesn’t care about it, you could feel a certain level of resentment. Passive aggression can be expressed in numerous ways, from comments, silence, and ignoring a person to manipulating and gaslighting. 

 

Key to Being Nice

Treat others the way you’d want them to treat you or the way you know they want to be treated. Being kind to people in your life can also teach them to treat you and others better. However, make sure that your behavior is something you feel inspired to do. When you’re kind because you want to and not because you expect something in return, everything becomes easier. After all, the rewards in life are not quite as we imagine them to be. 

When you feel a sense of satisfaction from helping someone or providing support to a friend, what could be a better reward? Be the nice guy who doesn’t care how the environment responds to his actions or words because he’s confident in his intentions. In the end, you’ll want people with the same perspective in your life, especially when choosing romantic partners. Make an appointment with one of our dating coaches to learn more about improving your life today. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

How to Have Difficult Conversations

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How to Have Difficult Conversations with People You Care About

 

Not knowing how to have difficult conversations with other people is more common than you think. We often believe that everyone else is so skilled when it comes to complex conversations. Recognizing that the situation feels a bit awkward and that you are not entirely comfortable with it is an important first step toward improving your ability to engage in these conversations. 

Since we all face such situations, it makes sense to learn how to have constructive conversations, even if they are difficult. In this article, we’ve explored some thoughtful approaches to help you prepare for a challenging conversation with someone who is important to you.

 

Examples of Difficult Conversations

Regardless of your age, education, career, and place of living, you’ve probably had a few difficult conversations in your life. That is because we’re constantly interacting with other people, trying to connect on a more meaningful level, or simply being new to situations. One difficult conversation may have been when you moved into your first apartment alone and the landlord confronted you about the noise levels on weekends. 

Many common examples of difficult conversations are those related to work, family, relationships, and friendships. Therefore, setting boundaries with people we care about is challenging for so many reasons. Because we care about them, confronting them on something may be scary, especially if we have not done it before.

Having tough conversations is not always fun, but at least you can be ready for them. 

 

Prepare Yourself for a Difficult Conversation

Regardless of why you need to have a difficult conversation with someone, you can practice it so you feel more confident in what you want to say. Preparation is about knowing what you want to say and what you want to learn from this conversation. 

The closer you are to that person, the more difficult the conversation appears in your mind. Before you share your perspective with another person and allow them to share theirs, it’s important to be as clear and straightforward while having a relaxed tone. 

 

1.Address the Trigger

What was the trigger that led you to decide to have a conversation? Was it one event or a series of events? Was this something that started happening recently, or has it been going on for decades? Knowing which actions or words made a negative impact on you is essential for the conversation. Without it, you will only be able to express how you feel, and the person will most likely have a poor understanding of what you are saying. 

 

2.Understand How You Feel

Oftentimes, we’ll try to rationalize our own feelings in order to be accepted by others. By doing this, you are skipping an important part of a process. Allow yourself to feel what needs to be felt and ensure you have enough time and a safe space to do so. You can journal about it or talk about it with a coach or therapist if you feel you need support. 

 

3.Define Your Talking Points

Once you’ve given yourself time to feel vulnerable, afraid, angry, or sad, it’s time to think about what you want to say to the person. For instance, if you’re breaking up with your partner after trying to save the relationship for so long, it’s essential that you’re clear on what you wish to communicate to them. You don’t have to share every thought you have. The idea is that the conversation is valuable to both sides. 

 

4.Choose the Time and Place 

Consider how you can make this conversation easier for yourself if you are aware that it may be awkward. Think about the places that can help you focus better or that are neutral territory, such as a park. If you think they’ll want to prolong the conversation and drain your energy that way, suggest meeting at a place that allows you to leave whenever you want. On the other hand, if the conversation is very intimate, your place might seem like a better option.  

 

5.Set the Tone

If a person is unaware that you want to have a difficult conversation with them, it would be best to say it before you dive into it. This will give them a moment to prepare and align their feelings with the purpose of the conversation. Make sure you’re being respectful yet very straightforward. Your responsibility is to communicate what you need to say, and the way they feel about it is their responsibility. 

 

After a Difficult Conversation…

There is a big chance that things will not be the same after you have that difficult conversation. The other person has the choice to either do their best to ensure this never happens again or they can get upset and stop talking to you. The important thing to know here is that you can’t control how other people react. 

Also, if you think they only apologized because they wanted to avoid talking further about it, pay closer attention to their actions. Be sure to check how they behave once a similar situation occurs. Are they taking into consideration everything you shared or are they acting the same? 

 

Seeking Help to Establish Boundaries

Any type of relationship might require a difficult conversation from time to time. If this is something that sounds overwhelming to you, consider talking to a therapist. They can help you understand what makes you feel so uncomfortable about this conversation. Beyond that, a therapist will help you learn to establish healthy boundaries. 

Once you understand your needs better, you will be able to communicate them more efficiently to others. However, this is easier said than done. That is why it’s common for many to talk to a mental health professional who can provide support on their journey towards more fulfilling relationships with themselves and others. Come join us by making a virtual session today. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.