How to Make Her Miss You

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How to Make Her Miss You

 

Are you still thinking about the best moments you shared, yet don’t know how to make her miss you? You might have decided to go your separate ways or to have a break, and now that she’s gone, you want her back. If you’re looking for healthy ways to re-establish the connection, you will find inspiration in this article. 

Avoid manipulative techniques, as they won’t get you far. Honesty and respect are the only ways to her heart. Before diving into ideas on how to make her miss you, let’s take a moment to look at the psychology behind attraction and absence. 

 

Understand the Psychology of Missing Someone

Have you ever wondered why you miss one person and not the other? Although the answer can be different for different people, what makes us miss others is the emotional bonding. Just recall the last time one of your exes had to travel for a few days while you were still in a relationship. You missed them because you’ve built something valuable between the two of you.

Even in relationships that end in heartbreak, this emotional bond cannot disappear overnight. That is when we start missing the other person, daydreaming about them, or anticipating their call or text. A mix of dopamine and anticipation is what continues to feed that emotional bonding even after she is gone.

Furthermore, it’s relevant to mention that we tend to crave what we can’t have. When something has been a part of our lives for a longer period of time, we may sometimes overlook its value. We expect to always have it, and then, when it’s gone, we want it back. We feel more passionate about bringing someone back to our lives than we felt daily when they were with us. Of course, feeling this way is completely normal, yet it’s important to understand the psychology of missing another person. 

 

Respecting Boundaries

Before you start communicating to her how you feel, it’s important to give her space to feel your absence first. This way, you will also allow her to see how she really feels about you and show that you’re respecting her space. Reaching out to her right away may push her away, so take time to check in with your feelings to see what you miss most. Is it just their presence, or was there something special about this person that makes it hard to stop thinking about them?

Time is your biggest ally in this situation. Constant texting and calling will not bring anything positive in a period where you have decided to stop seeing each other. Instead, allow them to see if they miss you, too. It can also help you both to truly reflect on the last conversations you had and see what new conclusions may appear as time goes by. 

This doesn’t mean that you have to stop trying to communicate with her as a rule, unless she has asked you to. If her birthday is approaching, you can still send a nice text or call her. If something happened that you believe could scare her or make her sad, you can still communicate your support and care to her. The key here is to show you what you think of her while expecting nothing in return. Sometimes, your expectations can add more stress to the entire situation.

 

Don’t Be Too Available

Obviously, you want her to know you miss her, yet make sure you’re not too available. Making yourself a bit more mysterious can make her curious about how you spend your days, who you talk to, and how you’re feeling. Make sure you keep some parts of your life private and do not overshare with her or on social media after splitting up. 

When you decide to share something, think well enough about how this information will impact her and if now is the right time to share it. Selective sharing is crucial when trying to maintain her interest yet not bother her in any way. 

For instance, you can share if you have an update on something she knows that is a big deal to you or if she has been a part of, such as a job promotion or graduating from university. If you’re uncertain, you can ask yourself whether or not she’d be happy that she heard that piece of information. If the answer is negative, simply don’t share it with her during this phase. 

 

Focus on Your Own Life

As much as your main goal is to get her back, it’s important to still prioritize your needs and desires. Living your life and investing in yourself can also be seen as more attractive than avoiding socializing and spending time in bed. 

Invest in hobbies, friends, and goals. This doesn’t mean that you decide to forget completely about her. It simply shows that you’re working on a better version of yourself, which can make her want to know that version and fall in love with you again. 

Your independence can trigger emotional attraction. Beyond that, it allows you to heal from the pain of missing her. Regardless of what the future holds, you are not happy because of this situation, and you deserve to take care of yourself. 

 

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take for a woman to start missing you?

It depends on the depth of your emotional connection and how much space you give her. For many women, it can take anywhere from a few days to a few weeks of limited contact to truly start missing someone. Focus on personal growth and calm detachment during this time.

Should I stop texting her completely to make her miss me?

Going completely silent can backfire if it feels like punishment. Instead, think about reducing communication naturally. Respond thoughtfully, not instantly, and let her reach out occasionally. Balance space with warmth because that’s what builds longing, not coldness.

How can I tell if she actually misses me?

Signs include her initiating contact more often, reminiscing about shared moments, or subtly checking in through social media. She might ask mutual friends about you or react emotionally to your posts. When she starts showing curiosity or affection again, that’s a clear signal she’s missing your presence.

 

Conclusion 

Making her miss you isn’t about playing games. It is about creating emotional depth, presence, and balance. When you give her space, live your life fully, and stay authentic, you naturally become someone she thinks about. The more fulfilled and grounded you are, the more intriguing you will become. 

Let her feel your absence as a reminder of your value, not a punishment. Stay confident, patient, and genuine in your connection. When you finally reconnect, do it with warmth and calm certainty. That’s when she’ll truly realize what she’s been missing: the real, evolved version of you.

If you need help, please refer to a therapist! 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Problems With Communication

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Fix Problems With Communication in Relationships

Problems with communication can appear even in strong relationships, and they often make partners feel like they’re speaking different languages. When these problems with communication show up, simple moments can turn tense. Both people may walk away feeling unheard. However, this experience is far more common than most couples realize.

In this episode, I explain why these problems with communication happen. Old emotional wounds, unresolved trauma, and daily distractions interfere with how partners talk and listen. Because of this, the tone of a conversation can shift quickly. Even stress or fatigue can make a harmless comment feel sharp or confusing.

I also share what helps repair these patterns. Small moments of validation matter the most. For example, pausing before reacting creates space for understanding. A quick “I hear you” softens defenses. Also, choosing to listen instead of assuming the worst builds trust again. These small but steady choices help couples reconnect and reduce misunderstandings.

If you want to address the problems with communication in your relationship, this episode gives you clear, practical steps. It shows how simple actions can move you toward a more honest and connected way of speaking, and listening, together.

Download CONNECT

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Affairs in the Workplace

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Affairs in the Workplace: Causes & Prevention

 

Work doesn’t just bring projects and deadlines; it can also spark emotional connections. These connections can put your personal relationships at risk. Affairs in the workplace often start subtly: through shared laughter, late nights collaborating, or leaning on a colleague for support. High-pressure environments, long hours, and close proximity make these connections feel more intimate than they really are. Emotional needs that aren’t met at home: like appreciation, understanding, or excitement, can increase the risk of affairs in the workplace.

Recognizing early warning signs is key. Secretive communication, excessive texting, or depending on a coworker for emotional support can indicate trouble. Preventive strategies include setting professional boundaries, keeping open communication with your partner, and prioritizing quality time outside work. Understanding the factors behind affairs in the workplace and taking proactive steps can strengthen trust and safeguard your bond. By staying aware, you can navigate workplace connections responsibly and reduce the risk of hidden emotional entanglements.

 

Download CONNECT

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Why Nonverbal Communication in Relationships Matters

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Beyond Words: Why Nonverbal Communication in Relationships Matters

 

While most couples prioritize improving verbal communication, they often overlook the equally important role of nonverbal communication in relationships. If you’ve ever experienced being frustrated because your partner was saying there’s nothing to share with you, yet their body language was saying something else, you probably know what we’re talking about. 

Nonverbal communication refers to facial expressions, tone, gestures, posture, eye contact, touch, proximity, etc. These nonverbal clues can impact you without your awareness. If you don’t properly address these slight changes in your partner’s behavior, it can lead to bigger problems in relationships. Recognizing and discussing these nonverbal signals is crucial for your relationship’s well-being. 

 

Value of Nonverbal Communication in Relationships

Numerous studies have examined the extent of our verbal and nonverbal communication. All of these studies have demonstrated that although the percentages differ, we communicate more through nonverbal cues like body language than through spoken words. Just consider how much your partner’s feelings can be inferred from the silence that follows an argument. 

That being said, there is no reason why silence means something negative, other than that there was just an argument. Additionally, nonverbal communication can be used to express love, respect, support, and any other kind of affection. For instance, you can support your partner in a stressful situation by nodding your head when they are sharing something with you, sitting or standing close to them, or even holding their hand. 

Neither you nor your partner should expect to cease using nonverbal cues. We all do it most of the time. However, if you notice that you’re bothered by your partner’s silent signals and that it’s affecting your relationship, it’s best to talk to a relationship therapist. Therapy can help you discuss how nonverbal communication affects you, why it matters, and how to align it with your words. 

 

The Different Forms of Nonverbal Communication

At the beginning of our article, we mentioned the different forms of nonverbal communication briefly. Being unaware of these forms can result in unpleasant situations between you and your partner. You might not be aware that every time you argue, your facial expression reveals how judgmental you are towards something. Bringing awareness to our own nonverbal communication signals is essential to becoming successful communicators and romantic partners. 

Facial Expressions

Facial expressions reveal emotions instantly, often more truthfully than words. A smile can communicate warmth, while a frown may signal disapproval. Noticing subtle changes in your partner’s expressions helps you understand their feelings, like a certain facial expression can appear only when they are confused. Although it may seem superficial at first, nonverbal communication can help you understand your partner better and become more supportive. 

Body Language and Posture

Posture is a powerful indicator of openness and engagement. Usually, we become conscious of it during the first few dates and then forget about it entirely. The way your partner sits or stands during your interactions can reveal a lot about their feelings toward you and your partnership. In conversations, relaxed and open body language invites trust. Small changes can strengthen the feeling of emotional closeness and understanding by making conversations feel safer and more personal.

Eye Contact

Making eye contact strengthens emotional ties, closeness, and trust. During talks, maintaining eye contact with your partner demonstrates honesty and concentration. While too much eye contact might seem intense, too little eye contact can convey discomfort or distraction. Warm, balanced eye contact strengthens mutual understanding in a relationship by expressing openness, affection, and presence.

Touch

Touch is one of the most powerful forms of nonverbal communication. A gentle squeeze of the hand, a hug, or a reassuring pat can convey love and support instantly. Physical contact releases oxytocin, fostering closeness and security. In relationships, intentional, affectionate touch strengthens bonds and reassures your partner without words.

Tone of Voice

The way you speak has the power to completely alter the meaning of a message. Tone of voice can convey more than just words; it can also convey attitude, intention, and emotion. While a sharp tone can cause tension, a soft, gentle tone promotes comfort. Using a mindful tone encourages safety, trust, and connection. If your tone doesn’t match your words (even if you say them perfectly), you won’t be believed. Be sure to add tone in writing, such as “this is said in a warm, loving tone,” before something that could be misconstrued. 

Personal Space 

Personal space reflects our comfort levels and boundaries. In relationships, closeness often signals intimacy, while distance can indicate emotional withdrawal. Your and your partner’s needs for personal space can be different, and they can even change from situation to situation. Respecting each other’s space builds trust, while knowing when to close the gap fosters warmth. Awareness of space dynamics supports a balanced, healthy connection.

 

How to Improve Nonverbal Communication in Your Relationship

Attention is a crucial step in improving nonverbal communication between partners. Start paying attention to their gestures, facial expressions, and movements, particularly when they are feeling emotional. If you notice any slight changes in their expression or posture, use this information to get a bigger picture of how they feel and what they are experiencing at the moment. 

Knowing your own nonverbal signals is as crucial. You may establish either intimacy or distance with your posture, your facial expression, and even your tone of voice. Make sure your body language reflects what you are saying when you talk. Your spouse can feel perplexed or even defensive if you are reassuring them, yet your tone is harsh or your arms are crossed. A strong bridge may also be created through positive contact.

A gentle hand on the arm, a hug, or holding hands during a difficult conversation can communicate love and safety in a way that words lack. Over time, making sure your nonverbal cues align with your spoken words will help your partner trust that what you say is what you truly feel.

Never be afraid to talk about the silent messages between you. If you sense mixed signals or you are unsure about your partner’s body language, ask with curiosity rather than judgment. You may avoid misunderstandings and strengthen your relationship by having open discussions about the meaning of particular gestures, tones, or emotions. The connection becomes safer and more loving when both parties feel heard, seen, and understood.

 

Conclusion

Nonverbal communication often serves as the silent core of a relationship. When the connection seems perfect, it’s in the way two bodies instinctively lean toward one another, the warmth of a touch, and the lingering gaze. We can control our words, yet our bodies rarely lie. Even if we say we are comfortable in a certain situation, our body will send different signals. 

Learning to notice these small signals and to share your own with honesty creates a deeper sense of trust and understanding. When we pay attention to what is said without words, we begin to hear our partner on a different level. That awareness can turn everyday moments into lasting expressions of love and connection.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

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Gottman Method Couples Therapy vs. Traditional Marriage Counseling: What’s the Difference?

 

When faced with relationship challenges, many couples choose the Gottman Method Couples Therapy over traditional marriage counseling. John and Julie Gottman created a structured, research-based approach to couples counseling that focuses on strengthening their bond and managing conflict. These practical, emotion-driven strategies have become popular in the last few years, yet how do they differ from traditional couples therapy? 

As someone who is looking to invest in their relationship, you might be interested in learning more about the Gottman Method. This article explores the key differences and benefits of these two approaches and helps you choose the right method for you and your partner. 

 

What Is Gottman Method Couples Therapy?

Traditional couples therapy often provides space and time for partners to talk about issues or goals. In contrast, Gottman Method Couples Therapy offers practical exercises and tools that couples can use with their therapist and at home.

The Gottmans developed this method after 40 years of research and observation. They found that certain areas of a relationship are essential for a strong bond and healthy conflict management. These areas became the core principles of their emotion-focused model, known as The Sound Relationship House Theory.

The main principles include:

  • Building love maps: Partners learn each other’s inner world to deepen understanding.

  • Nurturing fondness and admiration: Showing appreciation and respect every day.

  • Turning toward each other: Responding positively when your partner seeks connection or support.

  • Letting your partner influence you: Sharing power and allowing mutual influence.

  • Solving solvable problems: Using healthy communication and conflict management skills.

  • Overcoming gridlock: Staying curious and finding ways to move past recurring issues.

  • Creating shared meaning: Building rituals, goals, and a shared sense of purpose.

This method adds structure to traditional therapy. It guides couples on how to build connection and handle conflict, which naturally shows up in every relationship. It also encourages partners to apply these tools outside the therapist’s office and work toward shared goals—rather than just talking about problems.

Structure of Gottman Therapy

If you’ve scheduled your first session, you may wonder what to expect. All you truly need is the motivation to participate and try your best. Some therapists may also ask you to prepare certain information or complete a questionnaire to understand you both better.

You will notice that the therapist follows a clear roadmap. It is typically divided into four phases: assessment, therapeutic interventions, ongoing progress and maintenance, and conclusion.

Assessment Phase 

The first phase allows the therapist to get to know you as individuals and as a couple. In most cases, this phase takes about three sessions. The therapist meets with each of you separately and then together.
Separate sessions give each partner space to speak freely about personal experiences, family history, and concerns.
The final session in this phase focuses on feedback, introducing the Sound Relationship House Theory, and setting clear goals for therapy.

Therapeutic Interventions Phase 

This is the phase where the therapist works on the core principles of the Gottman Method. The couple learns how to build a love map, enhance fondness and admiration, manage conflict, and so on. Depending on the nature of the relationship and the issues the couple is facing, a therapist might decide to focus more on certain principles. 

Ongoing Progress & Maintenance 

The Gottman Method encourages couples to practice new skills between sessions. Your therapist will check in on progress, refine strategies, and introduce you to new tools or ideas if necessary. In this phase, the couple is focused on building long-term resilience and connection instead of reacting to recent events or emotions. 

Ending Therapy

After you’ve applied all that your therapist suggested and started noticing benefits in your relationship, you will be encouraged to continue applying these principles in your everyday life. A therapist could suggest scheduling maintenance check-ins every few months to reinforce positive habits. There is no way to tell how long a couple will be in therapy, as each relationship dynamic and challenge is different. 

 

Benefits of Gottman Method Couples Therapy 

Couples can benefit from this structured approach in many ways, regardless of their motivation to start therapy. If you’re still unclear whether Gottman Method Couples Therapy is the right choice for you and your partner, consider the following benefits:

  • 40 years of research and observation of couples
  • Research shows the Gottman Method can reduce divorce rates
  • Structured therapy offering a clear roadmap for partners
  • Helps partners rediscover friendship, intimacy, and admiration
  • Improves communication skills
  • Manages conflict constructively

 

Conclusion

When couples seek help, the type of therapy they choose can make all the difference. Traditional marriage counseling has long provided a safe space for partners to talk through their struggles, gain emotional support, and explore solutions with the guidance of a therapist. For many couples, this flexible and conversational approach feels natural and valuable.

On the other hand, Gottman Method Couples Therapy offers something unique. It is a structured, research-based framework proven to strengthen relationships over the long term. The Gottman Method equips couples with practical tools they can use daily and outside the therapist’s office by focusing on friendship, healthy conflict management, trust, and shared meaning. It moves beyond crisis management to help partners deepen their bond and build resilience for the future.

Ultimately, the best choice depends on your relationship’s needs and goals. Couples who want evidence-backed roadmaps may gravitate toward the Gottman Method. Those seeking more open-ended dialogue may prefer traditional counseling. What matters most is finding an approach that resonates with both partners and fosters real growth. To book a session today, schedule an appointment here.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

10 Unique Things Couples Should Do Together

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10 Unique Things Couples Should Do Together

 

In this video, I’m sharing 10 unique things couples should do together to build emotional intimacy, physical synergy, and creative passion. These aren’t basic “go on a date” tips. Instead, they are intentional experiences that pull you out of routine and into connection.

First, we’ll explore vulnerability swaps. Then, we’ll dive into sensory deprivation games, invention nights, role reversals, and adventurous challenges. Each activity is designed to spark curiosity and deepen trust.

You’ll learn how to shake up routines and create moments that bring you closer rather than drifting apart. Whether you’ve been together for 3 months or 30 years, these ideas can reignite excitement and build unbreakable bonds.

Most importantly, we’re talking about real connection—adrenaline, quiet intimacy, emotional honesty, teamwork, and playful experimentation. These moments keep your relationship alive and constantly evolving.

So, get ready for laughter, tension, surprise, and maybe a little chaos—in the best way.

If your relationship feels predictable, this video is the plot twist you need. Let’s make love feel alive again.

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Physical Signs of Being Sexually Active

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Physical Signs of Being Sexually Active Explained by a Sex Therapist

Have you ever wondered what the real physical signs of being sexually active are?

Myths, gossip, and assumptions can be misleading. This post breaks down the most common ways sexual activity can show up in the body.

It’s not about “figuring out” someone else’s sex life. It’s about understanding how intimacy affects you.

When we’re sexually active, our bodies release hormones like oxytocin, estrogen, and testosterone. These hormones increase blood flow and brighten the skin. Many people get that natural post-intimacy “glow.” Some notice clearer skin, softer features, or a radiant look. Others feel more relaxed, focused, or energized.

Sex can also affect sleep, stress, and the immune system. You might see changes in appetite, menstrual cycles, or muscle tension. These shifts happen because the body responds to regular arousal and connection.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:
✨ “How do you know if someone is sexually active?”
✨ “Can intimacy change how I look or feel?”
✨ “Is it normal for my body to shift after more or less sex?”

This article is for you. I explain it from a therapist’s perspective — clearly, without shame, and based on science.

Whether you’re sexually active, abstinent, or somewhere in between, understanding these signs can help you tune in to your body. It’s a way to understand your health and vitality more deeply.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

3 Most Important Things in A Relationship

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3 Most Important Things in A Relationship: Bulletproof Bonds

 

Unlock the top 3 secrets to bulletproof bonds in just 7 minutes with Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, licensed sex therapist and PhD in clinical sexology.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, these essentials—communication, respect, and intimacy—can transform your love life and help you build lasting connections.

In this short video, Dr. Amanda shares practical tools and expert insights that anyone can apply to strengthen their relationship. These aren’t abstract theories—they’re real, actionable strategies designed to help you and your partner build trust, handle challenges, and keep your connection alive through every stage of love.

Why does this matter? Because the truth is, even the strongest couples can drift apart without consistent effort. Communication ensures you both feel heard and understood. Respect helps you honor one another’s differences while creating safety and security. And intimacy—emotional and physical—keeps passion and closeness at the center of your bond.

Dr. Amanda has helped thousands of individuals and couples worldwide, and now she’s bringing her most important insights directly to you. If you want a simple, clear roadmap to stronger, healthier love, this video is the perfect place to start.

Bedroom Checklist for Couples: Vanilla to Kinky

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Is Sexual Healing?

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What Is Sexual Healing? Exploring the Mind-Body Connection in Intimacy

 

You might be wondering, ‘What is sexual healing?’ and what it entails. Or you’re on your healing journey right now and want to try different techniques. Sexual healing is essential for building or rebuilding emotional intimacy. It also helps with recovering from trauma or reconnecting with yourself.

Many assume sexual healing is only about sex. In reality, it explores the mind-body connection in intimacy. It focuses on making that bond sustainable and nourishing for both partners. Learn how to build that type of connection and maintain it through all the phases of your romantic life. 

 

Defining Sexual Healing

You may know the famous Marvin Gaye song, but sexual healing is rooted in much deeper practices. Sexual healing can be defined as the process of recreating a healthy and safe relationship with your sexuality. 

Although many assume that our sexuality is expressed only on the physical level, it actually needs to be restored on emotional, energetic, and spiritual levels. Sexual healing involves addressing wounds, shame, traumas, and disconnection. These are often stored in your body, nervous system, or memories. Examples of such wounds are feeling uncomfortable when being hugged by someone you love and trust, or struggling with allowing your sexual energy to flow and grow in your relationship. 

People look for sexual healing for different reasons. Some may see that they have the same intimacy issues in all their relationships, while others may want more sexual freedom in how they dress, flirt, have sex, and cuddle. 

It’s important to state that most of us need some type of healing. This doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of connecting with your partner without this process. It can help you see which parts of yourself need growth. Working on them can strengthen your bond with yourself and your partner.

 

Aspects of Sexual Healing

Depending on the reasons why you seek sexual healing, your therapist or healer might suggest different approaches to work on the relevant aspects. Some therapists might prefer going through all aspects of sexual healing to ensure you’ve rebuilt the connection with yourself that allows you to be a sexual being, celebrating all corners of your intimacy. 

 

Healing Through the Body and Nervous System

Our bodies remember what our minds may forget. Sexual healing often involves releasing stored tension, trauma, or numbness from past experiences, such as abuse, shame, or neglect, that have impacted your ability to feel safe, connected, or fully present during intimacy.

 

Reconnecting With Pleasure

Pleasure is not just physical. It is also emotional and energetic. Sexual healing helps you reclaim pleasure as a natural and nourishing force, rather than something tied to guilt, pain, or obligation. This can include learning to feel desire again, honoring your boundaries, or experiencing joy in your body.

 

Emotional and Energetic Restoration

Sexual healing often involves letting go of internalized shame or fear, rewriting limiting beliefs about sex, love, and your body. And learning to trust again, both yourself and others. This restoration might be necessary if you’re going through heartbreak, grief, or betrayal. Even if this happened years ago, it can still be in your body and nervous system. Until these emotions and energy have a safe way to exit your body, it will be difficult to truly heal. 

 

Sexual Healing Practices for You

If you’re looking for other types of therapy and self-awareness work that can help you with sexual healing, there are other techniques to consider. Depending on your preferences, you might discover that you enjoy working more with your trusted therapist on healing your inner child or trying out Tantra or breathwork. 

 

Somatic Therapy or Trauma-informed Talk Therapy

Somatic therapy focuses on the connection between the mind and body, helping you release trauma stored in your nervous system through body awareness, movement, and sensation. Unlike traditional talk therapy, it doesn’t just explore memories or emotions. It helps you feel and process them physically. Trauma-informed talk also provides a safe space to gently unpack past experiences and rebuild trust in your boundaries and desires. Both approaches support nervous system regulation, which is essential for healing intimacy-related wounds.

 

Breathwork, Tantra, or Energy Work

Breathwork helps regulate your nervous system and unlock suppressed emotions by using conscious breathing to release physical and emotional tension. Tantra is an ancient practice that combines breath, movement, intention, and presence to awaken sexual energy and deepen connection with yourself and others. Energy work, like Reiki or chakra healing, focuses on unblocking emotional or sexual energy that may be stuck or imbalanced. These practices create space for safety, sensuality, and expansion without pressure or performance.

 

Conscious Self-touch and Self-pleasure

Conscious self-touch is about slowing down and being fully present with your body, offering touch that is loving, curious, and non-judgmental. This can include sensual or sexual touch, yet it’s always guided by self-consent and emotional awareness. When you practice it with intention, self-pleasure becomes a way to reconnect to your desires, needs, and bodily wisdom. With time, you might notice your focus shifts from performance and shame to presence and self-love.

 

Inner Parts: Healing and Emotional Release

Inner parts work involves reconnecting with the younger parts of yourself that may have felt unsafe, unloved, or ashamed around intimacy or expression. Although we were not aware of the impact these events had on us when they happened. They often influence adult sexual beliefs, boundaries, and behaviors. By tending to the inner child with compassion, you create safety and permission to feel, play, and receive again. Emotional release practices can help discharge suppressed pain and open the heart to intimacy. Good examples of such practices are crying, screaming into a pillow, journaling, or creative expression.

 

Conclusion

Sexual healing is a deeply personal journey of reconnecting with your body, reclaiming your pleasure, and releasing emotional wounds that may have disrupted your sense of safety and intimacy. It invites you to explore your sensuality without shame, to heal past trauma with compassion, and to restore trust in your desires and boundaries. Whether through breath, touch, therapy, or energy work, sexual healing creates space for softness, empowerment, and wholeness. 

At its core, it’s not about being fixed. Sexual healing is about remembering that your body is wise, your pleasure is sacred, and you are worthy of a deep, authentic connection with yourself and others. Start your sensual guide at home with this video made to help you get in touch with your pleasure. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Emotional Arousal Definition

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Emotional Arousal Definition: Stop Trauma From Controlling You

 

What is the true emotional arousal definition, and why does it matter in your relationships?

When your heart races and your mind spirals during a fight, that’s emotional arousal in action. It’s the body’s natural alarm system, preparing you to react quickly to danger or threat. Elevated heart rate, shallow breathing, tightened muscles, and a flood of overwhelming thoughts are all signs of arousal taking over.

For trauma survivors, it’s more than stress; it’s the nervous system on overdrive. Past experiences can train the body to respond as if every conflict is life-or-death, even when it isn’t. That’s why small disagreements can feel explosive, and emotional regulation may seem nearly impossible in the moment.

Learning to recognize these signals is the first step toward reclaiming control. With the right tools—grounding techniques, therapy, and conscious communication—you can break the cycle, calm your nervous system, and build relationships that feel safe, steady, and supportive.

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

30-Day Intimacy Challenge

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30-Day Intimacy Challenge to Start Today

 

This 30-day intimacy challenge is for you if you’re unsure how to enhance intimacy with your partner. Couples often get stuck in routines, and it can be hard to find time to connect with busy schedules and endless to-do lists. However, intimacy is crucial for relationship success. 

Below, you can find a 30-day intimacy challenge that you can start right away. Send it to your partner and discuss how you both feel about beginning this journey toward being more connected and in love!

 

Setting the Groundwork

Before embarking on this 30-day challenge, please make sure you both have the necessary time, energy, and motivation to see it through. If the timing doesn’t seem right, it might be best to delay the challenge for a few days and then consider pausing it.  Please make an effort to be present each day, even if it’s only for 10 minutes. YES! Every day! 

Approach this challenge with an open mindset and a commitment to setting aside judgment. Creating space for honest expression helps both partners feel heard and valued.

Be sure that your shared space, both emotional and physical, is one where each of you feels safe being vulnerable. This means listening without interruption, responding with empathy, and honoring each other’s experiences.

 

30-Day Challenge To Boost Your Intimacy

To start this challenge, all you’ll need is a few minutes every day. You can expand the activity or do something inspired by it when you have time. For instance, if you’ve shared your favorite memories, and one of them is your first date at a romantic restaurant, why not go there and create a new one?

 

Week 1: Emotional Intimacy

The first week of the challenge is all about building emotional intimacy. This means creating space for honest conversations, tuning into each other’s feelings, and encouraging a relaxed atmosphere where vulnerability is welcomed and respected.

Begin the challenge by expressing appreciation. Each of you should share three things you genuinely love about the other. Focus on qualities, actions, or moments that have had a meaningful impact.

The second day can be dedicated to practicing active listening. Choose a topic or simply talk about your day. One person speaks while the other listens without interrupting, reflecting back on what they heard afterward. Then, switch roles. This helps deepen understanding and presence. You can also write love letters to each other, leave love messages all around the place, etc. 

 

Week 2: Physical Intimacy

Week two of the challenge centers on physical intimacy. This includes not just sexual connection but also everyday touch, affectionate gestures, and sensual experiences that build trust and closeness.

The first day of the second week can be reserved for holding hands. Make a point to hold hands or intertwine legs as much as possible throughout the day, whether you’re sitting together or even watching TV. It’s important to lean into head pats and soft touches without escalating them to private intimacy in the bedroom. This simple act of physical connection helps reinforce a sense of togetherness.

During the second week, you can have one day for longer kisses, a massage night, dancing or showering together, cuddling on the sofa, or a date night if both are a hell yes to bedroom fun, etc. 

 

Week 3: Intellectual & Creative Intimacy

Week three of the challenge invites you to connect through intellectual and creative intimacy. This is about stimulating conversation, learning something new together, and co-creating experiences that spark curiosity and collaboration.

Choose a documentary on a topic that interests you both. After watching, talk about what stood out, what you learned, and how it made you feel. Use it as a springboard for meaningful dialogue. Find an online personality test, such as the Enneagram or the love languages, and take it together. Share your results and reflect on how they show up in your relationship.

You can also work on a small creative activity as a team. This could be painting, cooking a new recipe, designing something, or writing a short story together. The goal isn’t perfection but shared expression and playful connection.

 

Week 4: Spiritual & Future-Focused Intimacy

The final week of the challenge focuses on spiritual intimacy and future-oriented connection. This is a time to reflect on your shared values, create intentional rituals, and dream about the life you want to build together.

Set aside time to meditate, pray, or engage in a spiritual practice that resonates with you both. Whether it’s silent reflection, guided meditation, or spoken prayer, focus on being present and grounded as a couple.

Gather magazines, digital images, or art supplies and build a vision board that represents your shared goals, dreams, and values. Display it somewhere meaningful as a visual reminder of your future together.

You can also describe what a perfect day together would look like five or ten years from now. Include where you are, what you’re doing, how you feel, and what surrounds you. Talk about what small steps you can take now to bring that day closer to reality. 

 

Reflection and Integration

At the end of the 30 days, take time to reflect on your experience as a couple. Talk about what felt meaningful, what surprised you, and which activities brought you closer. Reflection is a powerful way to reinforce growth and celebrate your journey together.

To deepen your insights, consider journaling your thoughts individually or as a couple. Some helpful questions include:

  • What activity had the biggest impact on our connection?
  • How has our communication or closeness changed?
  • What did I learn about my partner that I didn’t know before?
  • What would I like to continue doing or explore more deeply?

Life happens, and it’s completely normal to miss a day or two. Instead of feeling guilty, simply pick up where you left off or extend the challenge by a few days. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s presence, progress, and intention. Get a deeper dive here with a video that can teach you how! 

 

Conclusion

Intimacy isn’t something you achieve once. It’s something you nurture over time. Consider repeating this challenge each season or adapting it to fit different phases of your relationship. As you grow together, your needs and desires will evolve, and so will the ways you connect.

Prioritizing intimacy means making space for love, understanding, and presence in your daily life. Even small efforts can create lasting change when they come from a place of intention and care. For immediate support and a confidential conversation about your intimate life, schedule an appointment today. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

3 Nonverbal Communication Examples

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3 Nonverbal Communication Examples in Relationships and Friendships

 

Nonverbal communication examples are powerful tools that reveal emotions and shape our connections. In fact, they often speak louder than words. For example, have you ever noticed someone cross their arms in a heated conversation? You probably knew right away that they were shutting down. That’s the power of body language. The way we move, touch, and hold eye contact often sends stronger messages than anything spoken.

In this video, I’ll share 3 nonverbal communication examples that can transform how you connect with friends, partners, and loved ones. When you notice these subtle cues, you can build trust and reduce conflict. In addition, they help create more intimacy in your relationships. Everyday signals—like a reassuring touch, a shift in posture, or steady eye contact—offer valuable clues about how people truly feel.

I’m Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, PhD in Clinical Sexology. I created this video to show you real-life demonstrations of these cues in action. Watch the video below to see how posture, touch, and eye contact can improve the way you communicate. As a result, you’ll learn how to connect more deeply with the people who matter most.

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Does Possessive Mean?

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What Does Possessive Mean? Overpossessive Meaning

 

Feeling smothered by a partner or friend who wants to control your every move? That’s overpossessiveness, and it can quietly destroy even the strongest relationships. Understanding the meaning of possessive behavior is the first step in spotting red flags and protecting your emotional well-being.

In this video, Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, explains what overpossessiveness looks like, the signs to watch for, and how to set healthy boundaries. From constant check-ins to guilt trips, you’ll learn how to recognize the difference between genuine care and controlling behavior.

Why Watch This Video?

You’ll discover:

  • What “possessive” really means in relationships

  • The warning signs of overpossessive behavior

  • Simple tips to set healthy boundaries and protect your independence

If you’ve ever apologized just for needing space, this video is for you.

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Quality Time Love Language Examples

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Quality Time Love Language Examples – What is Quality Time?

Do you ever feel like your relationships are missing that spark? 💫 Sometimes the secret to deeper connections isn’t grand gestures—it’s simply spending meaningful moments together. In this post, we’ll share Quality Time Love Language Examples and how they can improve your friendships, family bonds, and romantic relationships.

Understanding the Quality Time Love Language

The Quality Time Love Language is about presence and attention. For many people, nothing feels more loving than having someone set aside distractions and give them their full focus. Whether it’s listening to a story, sharing a meal, or just sitting together, these small actions build trust and connection.

Simple Quality Time Love Language Examples

If you’re looking for ways to put this into practice, here are a few examples of the Quality Time Love Language:

  • Cook together – Preparing a meal is a simple but powerful bonding experience.

  • Unplug and talk – Turn off devices and give someone your full attention.

  • Take a walk – Even 15 minutes of conversation outdoors can feel intimate.

  • Weekly date night – Dedicated time builds consistency and reassurance.

  • Shared hobbies – Reading, working out, or even gaming together strengthens bonds.

Watch the Full Video

Want to learn more? In this video, Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT and trauma expert, explains the Quality Time Love Language, why it matters, and practical ways to bring it into your daily life.

 

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

How to Improve Communication Skills in a Relationship

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How to Improve Communication Skills in a Relationship: Expert Advice

 

Good communication is the heartbeat of every healthy relationship. Without it, misunderstandings grow, conflicts drag on, and intimacy fades. If you’ve been wondering how to improve communication skills in a relationship, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle with expressing themselves clearly or listening with empathy — but the good news is, these skills can be learned.

Why Communication Matters in Relationships

Learning how to communicate effectively in a relationship builds trust, reduces conflict, and deepens emotional intimacy. Couples who work on communication skills often report feeling more connected and respected. Whether you’re navigating everyday stress or bigger challenges, clear communication helps both partners feel heard and supported.

Practical Tips to Improve Communication Skills

Here are a few expert-backed strategies:

  • Practice active listening – Instead of planning your response while your partner speaks, focus on their words and feelings.

  • Use “I” statements – Phrases like “I feel worried when plans change suddenly” prevent blame and open up constructive dialogue.

  • Schedule check-ins – Set aside regular time to discuss feelings, goals, or concerns without distractions.

  • Seek feedback – Ask your partner how you can communicate better, and be open to their perspective.

For a deeper dive, check out Life Coaching and Therapy’s blog on relationship skills where we share practical guidance from licensed relationship therapists.

Final Thoughts

Improving communication in a relationship doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent practice makes a huge difference. Start small, stay patient, and celebrate progress along the way. If you’d like professional support, our therapists at Life Coaching and Therapy specialize in helping couples build lasting, healthy connections.

 

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.