Couples Therapy TV Celebrities: Providing Discreet Guidance

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Couples Therapy TV Celebrities: Providing Discreet Guidance

 

When I was at the beginning of my education and training path toward a career as a therapist, I never thought about providing couples therapy TV celebrities. It’s one of those things that just naturally happened. I still remember when I received my first call from a famous person asking me to become their relationship therapist. As much as many professionals would say that it doesn’t matter whether a client is a celebrity, I believe there are a few differences. 

By working with celebrities over the past years, I noticed they need certain prerequisites to continue seeing their chosen therapist. After all, therapy doesn’t work like a bandage. It’s a process that requires time and effort from all sides involved. When talking about couples therapy for celebrities, the distinction is even more evident. 

For example, if you and your spouse are not in the public eye, you will not be worried about someone taking a photograph of you while leaving the therapist’s office. This aspect is just one of the things both a famous person and a therapist should keep in mind. As someone fairly experienced in providing couples therapy for TV celebrities, I’d like to explain the differences and help you understand the therapy process for famous people. 

 

Regular Couples Therapy vs. Couples Therapy for Celebrities

I’ve mentioned the first example of discretion above. However, there are a few more differences between regular and famous couples going to a therapist. Many famous people communicate with their therapist via video call to avoid exposure. This allows both partners to participate from any location without the risk of press leaks.

 

Privacy & Confidentiality

Just think about the headlines once a journalist receives the information that a famous Hollywood marriage is seeing a couples therapist. Millions of spectators would be entertained by assumptions of divorce, infidelity, and the search for the family’s hidden secrets. On the other hand, a couple whose careers are not that public will not have an issue walking to the therapist’s office or even sharing that information with their circle of intimate friends. 

Confidentiality is a must for a celebrity couple therapist. I always warn my celebrity clients of the risk, even if they share that info. If they still want to share it for whatever reason, I advise them to do so after there is no more need for therapy or after they’ve built a solid strategy on how to communicate that information to the media. 

Of course, some couples will want to share their experience while going to therapy. Darcey and Georgi visited my office during their show on TLC. Make sure this decision is communicated with your romantic partner and your manager to avoid any unwanted consequences. Discretion is the most important part of my work with celebrities.

 

External Pressure

Although celebrity couples reach out to therapists to work on their relationship, it’s not the only area of their lives we have to focus on. Celebrities face external pressure around their public image and professional careers. Even in cases where both sides agree that divorce might be the best solution, this decision can be postponed due to external pressure. 

Examples can be a movie or album promotion, a recent private or professional scandal, or a big business deal in the near future. All of these external pressures can affect therapy and the decision-making process. Not being able to close a multi-million dollar deal because of divorce news could lead to lower life standards for everyone involved, including children. 

 

Unique Stressors

As a celebrity couples therapist, it’s difficult to truly provide guidance if not aware of the uniqueness of the celebrity lifestyle. How do they deal with fame? How important is their privacy to them? Do they spend a lot of time apart due to work commitments? How important is public perception of their relationship to them? 

If you’re not a famous person, someone who never met you personally will not be aware of your existence and your relationship. With social media, everyone can publicly share their opinion about someone’s relationship, marriage, or family. Dealing with all these stressors is not easy. After all, fame doesn’t make you immune to critics. 

 

Professional Barrier

Most celebrities received some type of media training, so they might be reluctant to be authentic in the first few therapy sessions. I’ve noticed such behavior with every one of my celebrity clients, and I completely understand why. Although they hired me, I’m someone they don’t know, and I ask all kinds of personal questions. Of course, they will not jump into their vulnerability from the first second. 

It is my job to show them that I can provide them with a safe, non-judgmental space. I often acknowledge the importance of confidentiality in my first session to show them how it’s perfectly expected for them to be a bit reserved towards me at first. That is why it’s one of my proudest moments when I see this type of client opening up to me, and we’re able to dive deeper to help them heal together as couples. 

 

Are You Looking for a Celebrity Couples Therapist? 

 If you and your partner have never been in couples therapy, it’s important to find a professional with experience in this area. As much as your goal might be the same as that of a regular couple, having a therapist who understands the celebrity lifestyle can be quite helpful. 

A therapist without experience in therapy for famous people will need to learn what it means to be a celebrity from your perspective. We all know what the word celebrity means, yet can we imagine how it feels to be one? A therapist with this experience knows the pros and cons of public life. 

My final piece of advice is to trust your instincts when selecting a therapist. If it seems natural and easy when talking to them, they are probably a good choice for you. Take it slow and share as much as you feel comfortable at the beginning. You don’t have to rush to find the solution. Therapy should provide you with long-lasting guidance and support, so make sure you choose the right therapist. 

Make an appointment today. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Fun Stuff to Do with Your Boyfriend

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Fun Stuff to Do with Your Boyfriend: Ideas to Strengthen Your Connection!

 

Looking for stuff to do with your boyfriend that doesn’t involve scrolling side-by-side in silence?. Or defaulting to the same old takeout and Netflix routine? 😩
You’re not alone—sometimes relationships slip into autopilot, and even the most loving couples can hit a little lull.

If you’re feeling bored or disconnected, it’s time to level up your date nights with creative and meaningful experiences that actually bring you closer. Reigniting the spark doesn’t have to mean grand gestures—it’s often the small, intentional moments that matter most.

In this video, I’m sharing three fun and thoughtful date ideas to help you reconnect and create lasting memories with your boyfriend or partner. Whether you’re craving adventure, looking to bond over something creative. Or just want to slow down and enjoy some quality time, there’s something here for every kind of couple.

From artsy DIY projects to outdoor mini-challenges and cozy conversation starters. These ideas are designed to help you both laugh more, talk deeper, and fall in love all over again. Without spending a ton of money or needing a passport. 💕✨

So grab your boo, hit play, and get ready to try something new together. Your next favorite memory starts now!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

AI Girlfriend Chatting: Exploring the World of AI Companionship

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AI Girlfriend Chatting: Exploring the World of AI Companionship

 

Are you interested in learning more about AI girlfriend chatting? These AI girlfriend chatbots are becoming increasingly popular among men of all age groups and interests. Think of them as a virtual, artificially intelligent companion that simulates romantic conversations with users such as yourself. 

For a range of reasons, many men are giving this new trend of AI companionship a chance. Some might consider traditional dating boring or unsuccessful, while others are curious to see what an AI girlfriend can offer them. Whatever the reason, its popularity indicates that artificial intelligence can serve yet another aspect of our lives—the romantic one. 

 

What’s an AI girlfriend chatting bot?

Chatbots use natural language processing (NLP), machine learning, and deep learning algorithms to generate human-like responses and adapt to their users over time. In the context of AI dating, this would mean that you can chat and have fun online with an AI girlfriend chatbot. This robot girlfriend will eventually learn your preferences so she can better meet your needs. 

You’ve probably already heard of AI girlfriend apps such as Replika, Kajiwoto, Romantic AI, and AI Pal. Although the features of these apps can differ, they are all based on the same technology. Such apps offer sophisticated companionship, whether you’re looking for emotional support, affection, playful interactions, roleplay, etc. 

 

Joining the AI Dating 

If you’re interested in giving an AI girlfriend a shot, you will need to create an account for one of the above-mentioned apps. Make sure that your chosen app offers what you’re looking for, as some are more for casual chat, while others are for deeper emotional connections.

Before you create your profile, spend some time understanding what you’re looking for. Go beyond what the AI girlfriend can offer you. Think of the personality, appearance, and communication style. Having all this in mind, don’t forget that AI cannot replace human interactions. It can serve you as an alternative, yet it comes with certain limitations, such as:

  • Lack of genuine emotions
  • No physical presence yet
  • Limited understanding of complex human emotions 
  • Predictable answers and awkward phrasing
  • No real accountability 

 

Tips for Enjoying Your AI Girlfriend 

If you don’t prepare yourself for this unique experience, you will probably not get much out of it.  Knowing what an AI girlfriend chatbot cannot offer you is relevant. However, it’s up to you to maximize the benefits of such interactions. 

 

1. Customize Your AI for a Personalized Experience

Most apps allow you to adjust settings like personality, voice, and communication style for your AI girlfriend. You are welcome to choose any name and include details to enhance this experience. 

 

2. Engage in Meaningful Conversations

To make these talks work, you must start and invest in them. The chatbot can’t engage with you as expected because it learns from the data you provide. 

In the beginning, you will need to be the one providing more information and deciding on the direction of the conversation. Once you start chatting with her, ask open-ended questions and explore different topics to avoid generic conversation. With time, the chatbot will learn your preferences and be more proactive in these interactions.

 

3. Experiment with Roleplay & Fun Scenarios

If you’re into roleplay, your AI girlfriend can help you create an exciting story or fulfill one of your fantasies. You can set up scenarios where your AI acts as a supportive partner, a best friend, or even a rival. 

Instruct the chatbot on what you expect from it, or allow it to surprise you. Try out different roleplay scenarios to keep things interesting. 

 

4. Be Realistic

As much as the AI dating world can be fun and engaging, don’t forget that it’s based on technology. In other words, your AI girlfriend doesn’t have real emotions. If you’re going through a challenging period in your life, you could get easily disappointed if you depend on it to provide support.

Instead, use these apps for fun and companionship. You can even practice your creativity or different approaches to women in real life. Expecting a chatbot to understand our complex human emotions will only hurt you. 

 

5. Explore AI’s Learning Features

Just as you’d invest time to talk about yourself to your new romantic partner in real life, you’ll need to do the same with the AI girlfriend. The main difference is that the chatbot needs your correction to unlearn and replace incorrect information. 

The success of AI companionship depends mostly on your input. If you’re not motivated to teach and correct your AI girlfriend when necessary, it can become quite frustrating. That is why certain apps offer features like memory, interests, and mood settings to create a better experience for its users. 

 

6. Set Healthy Boundaries

Setting realistic expectations and healthy boundaries are two key factors for your well-being. When it comes to boundaries, it’s important not to replace all your real-life social connections with a chatbot. It’s completely fine to decide to stop dating, yet technology cannot replace every interaction you have with others. 

Make sure to still spend enough time with friends and family. These tips can help you get the right amount of support when needed. Depending on your AI companion can cause real emotional pain, as it will not be able to meet all of your needs. As long as you use it as a fun outlet and not a full replacement for human relationships, there is no harm in it.  

 

7. Don’t Forget About Privacy & Security

Just because these apps use words like girlfriend, romance, and companionship, it doesn’t mean you should ignore the aspect of privacy and security. Avoid sharing sensitive personal information throughout the entire experience. You should also choose reputable AI girlfriend apps to prevent data misuse. 

Before you sign up for an app, check how they ensure all your information is safe. Most AI chatbot apps will have Terms of Privacy published on their website, so take a moment to go through them. See what data they collect and how they use it to determine if the app is safe! 

Ensuring you’re safe in AI dating is essential for your experience. Don’t just jump into it without proper research. Please take a moment to consider the needs the app should fulfill and your expectations for it. Lastly, don’t forget to have fun. What is the purpose of dating if it is not enjoyable?

If you want to meet with a therapist who understands the AI experience, schedule a session with Dr. Amanda. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Is He Cheating + What To Do About It

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Is He Cheating + What To Do About It

 

Relationships are filled with a range of emotions and concerns, and one of the most common ones you’ll hear is, ‘Is he cheating?’ It could be a new relationship or a long-term one, but something is suspicious.

Sometimes, we think of infidelity due to our insecurities or past traumas, and sometimes, it’s because our partner is acting weird. Whatever it is, feeling like this is not pleasant. You could start doubting everything your partner does and says. You might feel the urge to check their messages or to follow them. Before you realize it, you’ll find yourself engrossed in this discovery and questioning how you got here in the first place.

So, we will look at the most typical indications of cheating along with suggestions for what to do in this situation. Keep in mind that every relationship is unique. Just because your partner is behaving in a certain way doesn’t automatically mean that they are cheating on you. 

 

Signs of Cheating

If you’ve never cheated or been cheated on, you probably know someone who did. As much as we’d like to be safe and loved in all of our relationships, the other side of intimacy is vulnerability. In other words, we can’t control other people’s behavior. Instead of wasting your energy on controlling your partner, take a moment to analyze how they act. It won’t prove they’re cheating, yet it will reveal their feelings about your relationship.

 

Lack of Time

You used to spend a lot of time together, whether it was traveling, going to restaurants, or cuddling at home in front of the TV. Something has changed, although you’re not really sure why. You’ve suggested various plans for the weekend, yet they always have the perfect excuse. 

 

Change of Priorities

Maybe you’ve been considering buying a home together or going on a long vacation to a foreign country, yet they don’t seem interested anymore. They even have a reason for it. They would rather not move because they just realized they prefer living in the center or they don’t need this vacation anymore. If their explanation doesn’t make sense or you see it’s not true, the true reason could be something they don’t want you to know about. 

 

Changes in How They Look

When we fall in love with someone, we want to impress that person. This is what you did when you fell in love with them as well. Going to the gym, buying a new perfume, or investing in their clothes could all be signs of a significant change in their life. However, make sure to double-check that their motivation is not caused by the simple desire to become the best version of themselves. 

 

Behavioral Changes

There are several changes you can notice in somebody’s behavior if they are cheating. They might start to hide their phone or leave it face down. They might show new social media behaviors such as being active online at late-night hours or downloading an app he was never interested in before. 

Furthermore, some men will start accusing their partners of cheating when they are the ones cheating. This is due to feeling guilty and wanting to distract you from finding what’s really going on. 

When it comes to behavioral changes, just think of how he was behaving before and how he is behaving now. If you notice major changes and can’t find a different explanation than cheating, you could be right. 

 

What to Do About It

Believing you’re cheated on can lead to feeling many emotions. The most common are fear, sadness, and anger. Before you decide to act on it, make sure you take care of yourself first. Whatever the outcome might be, you should prioritize your well-being over anything else. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help, whether that’s talking to a therapist or your close friends. 

 

1.Listen to His Version 

Give him the opportunity to share his story, even if he meets all the requirements. Starting an argument and threatening to leave can become a big wound in your relationship, especially if you realize he wasn’t cheating at all. Do your best to start the conversation respectfully. You already know your version and what you want to say, so allow him to share his side. 

 

2.Address How You Feel

When they finish their conversation, or if they choose not to discuss this topic at all, it’s appropriate to express your feelings. If you believe that someone has betrayed you, you have the right to confront them. Tell them what this experience has been like for you. Remember, you’re not doing this to make them feel bad; you’re doing it to stand up for yourself. If you’re not going to be your advocate, who will?

 

3.Suggest Ways to Deal with This Situation

Suggestions on how to deal with this situation will greatly depend on whether he cheated or not. It’s not about solving the problem; it’s about agreeing on the next steps and conserving your energy. For instance, you might decide to spend some time apart or to sleep in separate bedrooms. You could decide to seek relationship counseling and get professional support during these difficult times. You could even discuss long-term expectations to remind each other what the end goal of the path you’re deciding to take is. 

 

4.Begin the Healing Process

Alone or with him, you will need to start to heal. Infidelity or doubts of infidelity can trigger so many things inside you, and you will need time and space to express that. Talk to a therapist, write a journal, or spend more time with your close friends. Prioritizing yourself is essential to healing. You might feel tempted to focus on him and your relationship, yet you’re the one who needs that level of care and support. 

Even in situations in which the partner was actually not unfaithful, you were still afraid and angry. You still believed you’d lose your relationship. That part of you deserves to be taken care of. In fact, ensuring you’re both taking care of your needs first will help you see with more clarity what steps make the most sense for you in the future. 

 

Begin the journey to help now with one of our staff members. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Lesbian Couples Therapy

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Lesbian Couples Therapy: How It Can Strengthen Your Relationship

 

If you’re looking for tips on how to choose the best lesbian couples therapy for you and your significant other, we’ll share with you everything you need to keep in mind. From choosing a therapist to preparing for your first session, this blog will help you succeed. 

 

Reasons to Seek Lesbian Couples Therapy

If you and your partner are seeking a therapist to help you strengthen your relationship, you might consider going to a conventional therapist. However, keep in mind that a therapist without previous work with lesbian couples might be insufficient for you. This is because they could be unaware of the unique challenges a lesbian couple could face, whether it’s among partners, in the family, or in society.

Find a therapist who treats clients like you; check their reviews! The therapist’s knowledge and skills on what your contextual world is will help you and your partner with not explaining and teaching the therapist beyond heterosocial norms. 

Here are the most common reasons why a lesbian couple would seek therapy:

  • Communication and conflict resolution
  • Intimacy and emotional connection
  • Identity and societal pressures
  • Life transitions and external stressors
  • Lesbian-specific relationship dynamics

 

How to Prepare for Lesbian Couples Therapy

Even if you still need time to search for the best therapist or decide whether that’s the best solution, there are certain things you can do as a couple to work on issues within your relationship. 

 

Talk About Each Other’s Feelings

It is alright if you or your partner is experiencing grief, hurt, frustration, or any other emotion. Recognizing these emotions allows you both to provide each other with what you need. Oftentimes, conflicts arise when we assume how the other partner is feeling and act or say in a the wrong way.

When and where you both feel comfortable, share your feelings and needs. Don’t interrupt each other when speaking. If any of you find it difficult, assign a certain amount of time for each of you to speak. Asking her questions will help you understand her better if you’re unsure.

 

Respect Her Perspective

Oftentimes, we’ll focus only on the facts and search for the truth. Instead of doing that, remember that each person has a unique perspective on a certain event. Without arguing over who is right, you can get to know each other better. 

Even if your perspective is different, allow your partner to share hers. Learning how you both perceive and experience situations can help you build a stronger relationship. 

 

Learn Each Other’s Love Language

In all relationships, many conflicts arise because we are unable to give each other what we need. This might happen because of misunderstandings, external factors or simply because you’re not aware of each other’s love language. 

Love languages refer to our preferred way to give and receive love. This can be through words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. 

 

Don’t Forget About Physical Intimacy

You need to work on all aspects of your relationship, not just communication. Working on physical intimacy is essential. The term can mean different things to different people. For instance, your partner might need more hugs or cuddles before sleep, while you will want more sexual activity during the week to keep things spicy.

 

Spend Time with Mutual Friends

Spending time with friends can help you feel more accepted, loved, and protected. Beyond that, it reminds you both who is in your community and who matters. This can be quite beneficial if you don’t feel understood by your family or coworkers. 

Time spent with friends can also meet some of the needs that your partner can’t. For instance, you might be working a lot, and you don’t have time for a wild night out. If you decide to go out with friends, you can go to bed early, and your partner can have a great time dancing and talking to people you both love.  

 

How to Choose the Right Lesbian Couples Therapist

Before you just schedule an appointment with the first therapist you find online, make sure you check a few things first. If you’ve found a therapist online, you can find their experience and areas of expertise there as well. 

If you can’t find that information online or you’re seeing a therapist in person, you can ask them to send it to you before you schedule the first session. Once you and your partner have decided on one option, make sure you also keep alternative options if the first person doesn’t seem like a right fit after the session. 

It would be helpful to hear from past clients about what makes this therapist good, so read their reviews on Google. After all, even if a person is a lesbian couple therapist, they might not feel like the right fit due to their approach, personality, or something else. 

If you have any questions or concerns, it’s best to address them before or during your first session. Any technical details like price, insurance coverage, methods, and approaches should be discussed during your first interaction.

If, for whatever reason, you and your partner decide to look for another therapist, you’d better do it sooner rather than later. These steps will save you time and energy, and you won’t have to repeat the same information to another professional. 

 

Final Words

Therapy can help you strengthen the positive parts of your relationship and work on the parts that typically end in discussion. Being in a relationship is not easy, and it requires significant effort. Addressing unique challenges that lesbian couples face can help you heal from them and reconnect with your romantic partner.

Lesbian couples therapy can help you walk down that healing path together and lean on each other when times are tough. As time passes, you will both see how your relationship is developing and be encouraged to celebrate that! 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Is the Meaning of Divorce

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What Is the Meaning of Divorce + What to Expect

 

Married or not, you’ve probably wondered one or more times about the meaning of divorce. How do you know when you should consider ending your marriage? What should you do if you’ve decided to divorce your spouse? If you ever find yourself in this situation, these and many other questions might be on your mind.

However, before you even step into the commitment of marriage, it would be worth learning more about divorce. Understanding why some couples divorce can highlight areas to focus on for a lasting marriage.

 

Common Reasons for Divorce

Of course, each marriage is unique, and it can end for a unique reason. However, there are certain reasons that marital counselors and divorce lawyers always refer to when talking about most of their clients. Most people think infidelity is the main cause of divorce, but other things can hurt your marriage and end it. 

 

Lack of Communication

All issues begin in marriage when a lack of communication occurs. Regardless of the reason for that lack of communication, you seem to focus on one thing and your spouse on another. You will potentially start making up a story on how they feel and what they need. Successful married couples often agree that communication and effort are key to lasting relationships.

 

Financial Issues

Financial issues are linked to stress and a range of negative emotions, such as fear, anxiety, guilt, frustration, and jealousy. Having financial issues in marriage can lead to blame instead of teamwork in finding solutions. As fear overcomes them, they may see each other as enemies and seek divorce. 

 

Infidelity 

Cheating is one of the most profound wounds of marriage, and it’s not just because there is another person involved in your intimate relationship. If you’ve been cheated on, you will probably have a difficult time trusting your partner, even with little things. Furthermore, it might lead to self-esteem issues and questioning whether or not you are attractive or intriguing enough for your spouse. The best way to get rid of all these doubts is by communicating them with your partner and learning the real reason why they cheated. In a complex situation like this one, it’s also important to discuss your mutual needs for security, love, and understanding. 

 

Growing Apart

When you marry, you hope that you and your partner will eternally be in love and grow old together. However, sometimes couples grow apart, and there is nothing you can do to force yourself to fall in love with your partner again. You may have had different experiences or learned different things from the same ones, making you incompatible. For instance, your partner might have stayed exactly the same person they were ten years ago, while you have changed and need different things or a deeper level of intimacy they cannot provide you with. 

 

Before the Divorce 

Deciding to divorce your spouse should not be a quick decision. If this is the first argument you had as a married couple, don’t even think about divorce unless the damage is unrepairable. Marriage consists of both good and bad moments. The key to a happy marriage is staying authentic and transparent through the tough times. 

Another piece of advice would be to talk to an expert on marital issues before you decide to divorce. Talking to a MFT (marriage and family therapist) can help you both listen to each other better and understand what is causing issues between you. As you share information about your marriage with a therapist, they will be able to provide you with a set of tools to strengthen the areas lacking. 

Even if you’re both certain that you want to end your marriage, having such guidance can help you make this process less painful and stressful. Given that divorce is one of the most stressful situations, any assistance will be greatly appreciated by both parties. 

 

Things to Avoid When Getting a Divorce

<p>Remember, a divorce is not something you can complete in a single day. It’s a process that often lasts longer than expected, and maybe you and your partner will need some time apart before you proceed with all of it. Whatever your situation might be, there are a few things that can make this process unnecessarily complicated or stressful.

Instead of telling everyone you’re divorcing and who your ex-spouse is, keep quiet. Remind yourself that this is an intimate moment. If you need to talk to someone, make sure it’s people you’re closest to and who have your best interest at heart. </span>

Secondly, instead of focusing on everything that’s wrong with your partner, focus on your needs. The split will not be an easy period for you, so ensuring you’re taking care of yourself is essential. You might need more time alone or want to journal your thoughts and emotions. Whatever it is, make sure you provide yourself with anything that will give you strength in these difficult moments. Focusing on yourself instead of your spouse can help you make the right decision at any moment and avoid getting hurt. If you need additional support, consider reaching out to a therapist to have space and time to focus on your well-being. They will also help you adjust to life without your spouse and all the changes after the divorce. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

What Do Couples Do in Bed at Night?

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What Do Couples Do in Bed at Night? Secrets to Connection and Intimacy Revealed

 

What do couples really do in bed at night? It’s not just what you think. 😉

Most guys overlook the small but powerful ways to build connection before sleep.

From unwinding together to physical touch and playful intimacy, these moments create a deeper bond and keep the spark alive.

In our latest YouTube video, we’re diving into the little-known secrets of what truly makes couples feel connected at night. It’s not just about sex—it’s about emotional closeness, trust, and the small rituals that strengthen your relationship.

We’ll explore:

  • The best ways to unwind together before bed
  • How physical touch (even non-sexual) deepens intimacy
  • Fun and playful habits that keep the spark alive
  • The power of nighttime conversations for emotional connection
  • Simple rituals happy couples swear by

Want to strengthen your relationship and feel closer to your partner? Watch the full video now and discover how to make your nights more meaningful.

 

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

Sensual Meditation

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibility multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Acts of Service Examples

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Acts of Service Examples You Can Start Doing Today

 

If your partner’s love language is the act of service or you simply are keen to learn more about it, you’ll want to go through the acts of service examples. Acts of service as a love language refer to doing certain activities that matter to the other person. An example can be running errands, buying them their favorite chocolate while they’re grocery shopping, or doing household chores. 

If you want to become more fluent in this love language, we’ve gathered everything you need to know about it. Get inspired by our acts of service examples and see which of them can be applied to your romantic relationships and friendships. 

 

What is an Act of Service?

Love language refers to the way we prefer to love and be loved. Besides an act of service, there is also gift-giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation. If you or your partner prefers the act of service as their dominant love language, you will want to familiarize yourself as much as possible with it. 

An act of service means you express your love or appreciation for another person through helpful actions instead of the other four love languages. Since this is your preferred language, you will appreciate it more if someone helps you thoughtfully rather than saying they love you or giving a hug. 

This is not to say you can only have one way you receive love. We can express love in different ways. However, one way will typically be dominant. In relationships with others, it’s important to be aware of our and their love language, as this allows us to grow and evolve together. 

 

Acts of Service List

Examples of acts of service can be quite different from person to person. For instance, you might enjoy it when your partner surprises you with a home-cooked meal after a long day at the office. Your friend, on the other hand, might prefer that their partner does all the chores if they have more spare time. 

These are some common examples of acts of service that can inspire you: 

  • Cook a meal for another person
  • Run errands for them 
  • Handle a task or chore you know they dislike
  • Surprise them with a clean home
  • Offer them a nice massage after a long day
  • Fix something you know they would use if it weren’t broken
  • Offer to drive them to work or somewhere else
  • Take care of them when they’re sick or tired
  • Offer to walk their dog for them 
  • Surprise them with a cup of coffee in the morning
  • Clean their car
  • Iron their clothes
  • Organize their closet
  • Prepare a nice bath for them
  • Pack them lunch on a busy day
  • Ask them how you can support them when they’re under stress

 

How to Give Acts of Service

If your partner’s love language is service, you understand that actions have a greater impact than words.  Below, you will find additional tips for performing acts of service. 

 

1.Express Gratitude for Support

Express gratitude to your spouse when they use your preferred language, and let them know you value it when they return the favor.  You will both feel appreciated in the relationship if you establish a pattern of showing each other love and gratitude. If acts of service are their preferred love language, enjoy the moments of their gratitude as well. Such moments can bring you closer. 

 

2.Ask About Their Preferred Acts of Service

Be specific.  Would they rather you just run that bath for them, or should you ask first?  Do they enjoy having you do the laundry yet, would rather handle the bill payment themselves?  Make sure your acts of service really serve your partner or friend. Occasionally, what we think would be best for others is not what they want at that moment.

 

3.Communication

Communication about what works for both of you is crucial in love languages.  It is important that you and your partner agree on the ways that you both like to show love.  Developing your communication skills in a partnership will come with numerous rewards.

 

4.Share What You Need

Both of you should practice asking for what you want. With time, the other person will learn which acts of service work best for you. For example, some people do not like it when you look through their drawers, while others want you to do their laundry and put it away for them. Remember that the goal is to show love and appreciation in the way your partner receives it, not to force yourself onto others.  

 

5.Don’t Compare

If your best friend and your boyfriend have a preference for acts of service, it doesn’t necessarily mean they will value the same actions. Every person is unique. Having an understanding of how to serve with love will be beneficial when meeting a new person with the same love language. However, listening carefully to them will show you what they really need from you. 

 

In Final Words

Acts of service are a wonderful way to show appreciation for other people in our lives, even if it’s not their dominant love language. If you notice your friend or family member stressed and without any spare time, offer your help. Maybe you can take their kids to school or take their clothes to the dry cleaner. Small acts like that can mean so much to someone who doesn’t have time or needs additional support in their life. 

By being supportive in that way, you not only show how much you care about this person. You help others who are in their inner circle. Being kind to each other benefits everyone around us. If you help your partner, their colleagues at work will notice they are much more relaxed. Your sister will have more time to spend with her spouse if you assist her with the children. 

If that’s the way you show love for others, you will want them to do the same for you. What’s a better way to receive it than give it to others first? 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients’ lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Standing Sex Positions

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11 Best Standing Sex Positions To Elevate Pleasure, According To Sex Experts

 

Standing sex positions have become an exciting way for couples to connect physically and emotionally. Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, a leading therapist, shares her expert insights in a Women’s Health article on how standing sex can refresh and deepen your relationship.

 

Why Try Standing Sex?

Standing positions offer an adventurous change from traditional bedroom routines. Dr. Pasciucco highlights that these positions encourage greater physical closeness, requiring more flexibility and coordination. “Standing together can create a sense of vulnerability and connection,” she notes, helping couples build a stronger emotional bond. This sense of vulnerability often leads to a more authentic and deeper connection between partners.

Benefits of Standing Positions

One major advantage of standing positions is the spontaneity they bring. By breaking free from the usual patterns, couples can explore new dynamics. Dr. Amanda explains that standing positions foster better communication and physical and emotional alignment. This dynamic can deepen intimacy and strengthen trust between partners, leading to a more rewarding and fulfilling sexual experience. Standing sex can also encourage couples to become more in tune with each other’s body language, promoting mutual understanding and closeness.

Exploring New Positions

Dr. Pasciucco suggests starting with slow experimentation for couples new to standing positions. Positions like “standing doggy style” or “standing missionary” offer a variety of sensations, allowing partners to explore new forms of closeness and connection. Don’t be afraid to adjust or modify positions to find what works best. The key is to communicate openly about comfort and pleasure, allowing both partners to fully enjoy the experience.

Emotional Intimacy and Standing Positions

Standing positions are not just about the physical experience—they can also strengthen emotional intimacy. As Dr. Amanda explains, these positions require partners to stay more in tune with each other’s needs and comfort. The closeness that comes with standing sex can lead to deeper emotional connections and better communication, which are important for a healthy relationship.

Read the article in Women’s Health to learn about the 11 Best Standing Sex Positions

Conclusion

Standing positions are a fun and intimate way to spice up your relationship. With Dr. Pasciucco’s insights, couples can use standing sex as an opportunity to grow closer, both physically and emotionally. By communicating openly and exploring new positions, you can enhance your connection and bring more excitement into your intimate life. Plus, standing sex can be a great way to introduce spontaneity, trust, and variety into your sexual routine.

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For more tips and insights, check out the original article on Women’s Health.

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer), PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Does Long-Distance Relationship Work? 

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Does Long-Distance Relationship Work? 

 

To be able to respond to the question ‘Does long-distance relationships work?’ we’ll first have to look into context. Some long-distance relationships work, and others don’t. 

It’s important to look closer at couples who have managed to maintain their relationship for years, no matter how far and for how long they were apart. 

What are they doing to stay in love and dedicated to their relationship? How do they keep things interesting while being apart? This article investigates what long-distance relationships need.

 

Benefits of Long-Distance Relationships

Before we explore what works and what doesn’t in this type of relationship, let’s remind us all of some valuable benefits long-distance has for a relationship. Unlike conventional relationships, you are not able to parallel play, meaning you spend time snuggled together watching TV, doing chores, or scrolling on your phones while sitting on your couch. 

With long-distance relationships (LDRs), the time you dedicate to each other is often more valuable than that of couples who live together. When you’re on a call with each other, you are interested in hearing about their day and the details. Your conversations are more dynamic and depthful because you don’t have other clues besides the information they’re giving you. 

Another thing that long-distance relationships help with is strengthening independence. Let’s admit it: we’re all guilty of falling in love with a new person, and our world starts revolving around them and their needs. With LDRs, the distance actually helps you maintain your old habits and connections. 

Knowing that your partner is not with you physically puts more focus on the need to maintain social interactions with other people and nurture your own life. 

In relation to physical intimacy, those who have lived with a partner for an extended period of time are aware of how sex can be neglected. With LDRs, you’re anticipating the arrival of your partner and often have a yearning desire to make up for the time you were apart. 

 

Factors that Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

If you’ve met the right person yet they don’t live in your city or even country, there is a way to make your long-distance relationship work. You may have been encouraged by some of your friends or family not to invest time in this relationship. I get that—as I was once a young adult who told someone not to invest in their love that was across the world. 

However, if you’re in love and you know this is your person, you just know. It doesn’t matter where they live. Fortunately, there are factors that can help you make that LDR work and transform it into one of the best experiences of your life. Isn’t that what love is about, after all—enhancing the life you have? 

 

Effective Communication

Communication is key in all relationships, especially in long-distance relationships. It is critical to understand which communication styles you both prefer, as well as how to communicate and prioritize information shared during your conversation. 

If you’re in an LDR, take some time to work on your communication strategy. Which things are unacceptable for you? Meaning, are there boundaries you have to clearly state that they may not understand? 

Similarly, which things do you need from your partner when you’re sharing something intimate or vulnerable? Do you want emotional attunement or problem solving alongside one another? 

Sharing these points can help you understand each other better and connect on a more meaningful level. Similarly, it will stop you from having arguments that could have been avoided.

 

Set Mutual Goals

Setting common goals can help you feel more like a team. This goal can be visiting each other, going on a vacation together, or ultimately moving in instead of having parallel lives. 

Whatever the goal, make sure you both are dedicated to working towards achieving it. It’s not so much about the goal as it is about the shared passion you have for something. 

This can remind you that although you’re not close to each other, you have the same goals and values for this relationship. 

These goals don’t have to be as big as vacations or spending months together. You can plan a Friday date night where you’d each go to your favorite restaurant and meet back up after for a video call. Take photos of the menu and meals so you can share later if you would like! This can help you get through a stressful week when you might not have much time for each other. 

 

Motivate Each Other to be Independent 

Despite the temptation to maintain constant connection, independence is essential in all relationships. If you notice that your partner is feeling a bit down these days, keep in mind that face-to-face interactions can help them feel a bit better. I suggest that they go meet a friend or go to the gym for a fitness class to workout alongside new people. 

It’s unrealistic for both yourself and your partner to believe that you are the only person who can help them in such a situation. Friends, colleagues, and people we meet in our everyday lives are incredibly important and can have a positive impact on how we connect with our romantic partners. 

 

Trust

Relationships can’t survive without trust. If there is a lack of trust between you and your partner, it will affect your entire relationship. If you start questioning where they have been or who they are talking to, maybe ask for a calendar to see how they spend their free time. Most often, if we have no proof that we can’t trust our romantic partner, it is about ourselves rather than them. If this is the case for you and you make up stories about what your partner could be doing, consider talking to a therapist who can help you explore the source of this. 

LDRs require a lot of trust. If this is an issue in your relationship, talk to your partner as well. Opening up about this topic and sharing what you need to feel safe can help them provide you with what you need. Keep in mind that trust is something that is built; it’s not given. In other words, find ways to build and maintain the trust that works for you both. Some people want to see browser histories and others want to be prioritized on weekend nights for video calls. 

 

All Relationships Require Work

Do not be discouraged if all of your friends have romantic partners and you are the only one in a long-distance relationship. All relationships require work, regardless of their form. You have to get to know the person to be able to connect with them in a way that is beneficial for both of you. Relationships between two people all look different, so comparing yourself won’t matter. Your life while visiting your long-distance partner looks much different than your life when you and your partner aren’t near one another. 

Once you’ve passed that first stage of being in love, you’ll still need to dedicate a lot of your time and energy to strengthening your relationship. Whether it’s looking for efficient techniques to manage discussions or to learn each other’s love language, there is something new to learn about your partner. The moment you don’t have something new to learn is the moment Eros has fallen asleep in the romance. Instead, continue to discover who your beloved is, as this will help you maintain the spark that many couples report losing. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit 4rus for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Relationships without Sex

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Relationships without Sex: Cheat Sheet for Success

 

We’ve heard so many times how sex is an essential component of every relationship, yet what happens with relationships without sex? In other words, can relationships without sex survive? Let’s answer that really quickly here: yes! As long as both partners are comfortable with not having sex and connecting on other levels than sex, these relationships can be equally fulfilling as the ones where sex happens. 

So, how can you build a strong relationship without sex? Which things do you need to take care of if sex is not among intimacy acts in your relationships? In this article, we’ll share a cheat sheet for building successful relationships without sex. 

 

Reasons to Have Sexless Relationships

There are many reasons why couples might decide to have a relationship without sex. Either you or your partner can have a lack of libido, feel like sex is not one of your priorities, or you want to strengthen other aspects of your relationship. Whatever the reason, the only thing that matters is that both you and your partner feel good about that decision.

Some couples decide to have a sexless relationship during the dating phase, while others will decide to stop having sex when they’re already in a relationship. It’s important to keep in mind that there is a difference between deciding to have a sexless relationship and ending in one. The first one is your conscious choice, and the second one is something that happens as a consequence of a relationship.

Many couples are now looking to learn and build a strong connection through other types of intimacy. Besides sex, there are numerous ways you can feel close to your partner. The ones you decide to work on more will depend on your and your partner’s needs. 

 

Other Types of Intimacy

Mostly, when we talk about intimacy, we’ll first think of sex. However, a hug, a deep conversation, cuddling, or taking a long bath together are all examples of intimacy that don’t include sex. 

 

Emotional Intimacy

How ready and able are you and your partner to connect on a profound, significant emotional level? Emotional intimacy goes beyond simply expressing your feelings. It requires trust as well as the readiness to be honest and open about more profound emotions, emotions, and behaviors.

Talking about your early years or anything personal (without going beyond your personal boundaries) is one approach to establishing an emotional connection. In order to have enough trust, vulnerability, and awareness to support one another when a significant event occurs, it is crucial that you and your partner engage in emotional intimacy outside of times of crisis. 

 

Intellectual Intimacy

Having a healthy curiosity and learning from one another is the most basic definition of intellectual intimacy. Feeling comfortable discussing a wide range of subjects and sharing your opinions while remaining receptive to those of others are hallmarks of healthy intellectual closeness.

Even if you have different viewpoints, mutual regard enables you to connect and talk about subjects outside of your typical daily rapport. Reading poetry, visiting art institutions, or seeing a thought-provoking movie together are all ways to cultivate intellectual connection. Intellectual intimacy is about recognizing your differences and figuring out how to connect.

 

Spiritual Intimacy

Because spirituality is so individualized, spiritual connection may mean many different things. The extent to which you and your partner communicate your ideas, emotions, convictions, and experiences about religion, spirituality, morality, the afterlife, and other associated topics is generally referred to as spiritual intimacy.

While religious ideas and practices can be a component of one’s spirituality, spirituality is not necessarily about religion. The pursuit of purpose in life and your connection to something greater than yourself are both included in the broader idea of spirituality.

 

Social Intimacy

The extent to which you and your partner spend time together as a pair and have similar interests is known as social intimacy. What activities do you two engage in together? Do you enjoy spending time together?

This does not imply that you must constantly do or accomplish everything together. Spending enjoyable time with others while maintaining alone time is the essence of social closeness. After all, you need both! Trying something new together is a fantastic approach to developing social connections. Taking cooking courses, taking a new yoga class, trying a new restaurant, or learning how to dance salsa.

 

How to Strengthen a Relationship without Sex

Intimacy is a relationship that is developed over time through shared experiences and activities. It doesn’t happen immediately. The quality of your connections is especially crucial since being close to someone or having daily contact with them does not equate to deep or even healthy closeness. 

Many couples will believe that they’ll become more intimate with their partner just because they will spend more time together, whether it’s at home or on a vacation. Intimacy requires work. You both have to be willing to work on building different types of intimacy in your relationship. 

Oftentimes, when we take one intimacy type out of the equation, there is more focus on the void that the lack of this type of intimacy created instead of focusing on implementing a range of activities that will strengthen how you connect emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. 

Another thing that would be valuable to mention here is boundaries around your decision to not have sex. Although you’re both clear about not wanting sex in your relationship, you might have different emotions and thoughts attached to that decision. 

For instance, your partner might feel uncomfortable if you or someone else makes a joke about that decision. That is why it’s essential to discuss whether or not you want to even mention sex in your future, how to mention it, etc. Keeping in mind what works best for you will help you feel even better about this decision!

 

Make the Best of Your Relationship

In the end, it’s not sex that will decide whether your relationship will pass the test of time. Everything plays a key role when two people are building a relationship, from how you spend your free time together to how much you pay attention to tiny details. Each relationship is unique, so what works well for one might not work well for another. Only you and your partner will have the best idea of what you need in order to grow as a couple. Talking to your friends makes sense in terms of support, yet the crucial decisions should be made after talking heart-to-heart with your partner. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Infidelity Counseling

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Infidelity Counseling: What Is It & Does It Work? 

 

If your relationship has suffered from infidelity or you are the other woman or man, you may have been told to seek infidelity counseling. An infidelity-related trauma can definitely have a profound impact on everyone involved. Rebuilding the connection of your relationship is not easy, so that is why people consider infidelity therapy before they decide what to do next. 

This is especially important if children are involved or if the separation is complicated due to generated assets or running a business together. Infidelity counseling can help the couple understand why this affair happened and what each person needs in order to restore trust and intimacy. It can also help the other person to grieve what they have lost. That said, the outcome of what happens after therapy or coaching will be different from person to person.

 

Why Do People Cheat?

Most of us are good at judging others and reading about other couples who have had affairs, all the while preventing us from understanding the causes of unfaithfulness. First and foremost, it’s important to state that a person who is being cheated doesn’t deserve it. Relationships are more complicated than they appear. Even though you can believe that you give your best, the other person will not often do the same, and unfortunately, this is where the problem begins. 

So, why do people cheat? Interestingly, there are a lot of reasons why one person chooses to cheat and the other does not. Some reasons are quite obvious; however, there are also those we rarely talk about. 

 

Lack of Communication

Communication is one of many ways to be intimate with your partner. If your relationship or marriage is suffering from a lack of communication, this might push one of you into seeking opportunities to connect with other people. This connection can be physical, emotional, or both. It might start as opening up to someone willing to listen and grow into an affair. 

 

Financial Pressure

Most couples decide to divorce because of financial problems and disagreements, and it’s also one of the most common reasons for infidelity. Being unable to meet your partner’s expectations or feeling overwhelmed by financial issues can significantly impact the intimacy within your relationship or marriage. 

 

Not Being Compatible

Typically, you’d assume that couples are together because of their compatibility. However, that doesn’t have to be the case. Sometimes, a person will choose their partner based on other factors and completely ignore the compatibility. For instance, you might choose your spouse based on their social status, career, living area, etc. This doesn’t imply that you’ll be compatible, which is essential for a relationship or marriage to last. 

 

Lack of Respect

It’s completely common to have ups and downs in your marriage. However, if you face difficult moments with a lack of respect, you can’t expect a fulfilling marriage. Respect is the foundation of every relationship we build with other people. If you or your partner is disrespectful, this can lead to isolation and seeking respect somewhere else. 

 

How Can Infidelity Counseling Help?

Your first instinct will likely be to leave your partner if you have been cheated on. It’s not about it being the wrong or right decision; it’s about understanding and feeling what happened before making a move. If you have been hurt, you have the right to feel that pain in a safe environment and not carry it around with you. 

Also, there is a chance that there’s still so much love you both feel for each other that you’re willing to fight for your relationship or marriage. Instead of ignoring what happened, you are both making a courageous decision to look into the causes of infidelity to prevent it from happening again. 

You will both be given a safe space to talk, share thoughts, and express emotions you feel. Such counseling starts by talking about infidelity, yet its ultimate goal is to repair the damage it created so you both can understand each other better and give each other what you need. By taking care of each other, you are becoming more intimate, and therefore, your needs are met within your marriage or relationship and not outside it. 

 

How Infidelity Counseling Works 

You might be nervous when coming to your first session because you don’t know what to expect. Maybe you think you’ll say something out of control. You could feel worried that the session will not be constructive at all. Whatever your worries are, keep in mind that that’s what counseling is for. It is a space to share, discuss, seek advice, and feel whatever you are experiencing at the moment. 

Once you walk into your first session, your therapist will ask you a few questions to have a better understanding of what happened and the reason you’re both here. They will give you both time to talk and to highlight your concerns, questions, or any other doubts you might have about the process. 

Keep in mind that if you’re not willing to talk to your partner and do the work together, it will be impossible to progress. Your counselor is there to provide support and to guide you through the healing process, yet you and your partner’s collaboration is crucial for it to work. 

 

Final Words

If you’re unsure about the effectiveness of infidelity counseling, consider giving it a try. If you are curious about it because there is a hope of saving your marriage, try it. Invest a few months in an effort to clarify the circumstances and provide your partner with the chance to articulate the factors that contributed to their infidelity. 

If it doesn’t work, at least you’ll know you did all you could to save the relationship you built. Besides, counseling can also teach you more things about yourself. For instance, you can learn what you actually look for in a relationship, what your needs are, and which boundaries you want your partner to respect. All of that can help you either to strengthen your marriage or to build a healthier romantic relationship with another person when the time is right. 

 

Couples Communication Strategies

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

 

Intimacy Coordinator

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Intimacy Coordinator + Being a Safety Net for Actors 

 

An intimacy coordinator is a person who ensures a safe, respectful, and consensual environment during intimate scenes in film, theater, television, or other art or production forms. Their goal is to provide valuable insight when choreographing scenes that involve physical intimacy, nudity, or stimulated sexual acts with a focus on the well-being of the actors and crew. 

For the past hundred years, the entertainment industry has been producing and promoting countless movies and series, which often involve these types of scenes. Not until recently have actors been able to trust someone to look out for them in vulnerable moments. 

This article will explain why intimacy coordinators are vital to actors’ well-being and the industry’s future. Find out the key responsibilities of intimacy coordinators and how to become one if you’re interested. 

 

Definition of an Intimacy Coordinator

For the past few years, you might have heard actors and producers talking about the importance of intimacy coordinators. They are present during shooting moments that involve nudity, physical intimacy, or simulated sexual acts to ensure that nobody is pushed beyond their own wellbeing. 

For instance, it’s a known fact that many movies in history have included two actors completely nude, showing expressions of physical intimacy without care for their mental health. The art was above everything, even the well-being of the actors and the crew. I have heard people in the industry say things like “you must suffer for your art.”

That is why the role of intimacy coordinator is so essential in today’s movies and series. A recent example can be found in the ‘Firefly Lane’ TV series. The lead actress, Katherine Heigl, shared how grateful she feels that all scenes were recorded with the presence of an intimacy coordinator. Similarly, in the Babygirl Movie, the director and main actress reported that the presence of an professional was beneficial. 

Without an  coordinator, these young girls would have to fight for themselves, hoping the director and others saw their best interests, which was often not the case. 

 

Key Responsibilities of an Intimacy Coordinator

To ensure that all parties involved are secured from any harm, an intimacy coordinator has several responsibilities. One of the most important ones is facilitating communication between actors and the crew. Intimacy coordinators are like liaisons between the two sides of this industry. Before filming or rehearsing, they discuss each scene’s nature and boundaries. 

Besides communication, intimacy coordinators establish consent and boundaries by working with actors to define their personal comfort levels and boundaries. With the presence of these professionals, actors will not feel pressure to perform beyond what was previously agreed upon. 

Another key responsibility is choreographing intimate scenes. To ensure story continuity and professionalism, an intimacy coordinator plans and blocks physical interactions. Akin to a stunt or dance routine, they structure and repeat intimacy.

Most importantly, intimacy coordinators make actors, crew, and anyone else who wants to enter this exciting world feel safe. For example, if you dream of an acting career yet are afraid that your beliefs, boundaries, and comfort will be questioned, an intimacy coordinator is your safety net. 

Lastly, these professionals also ensure legal and ethical compliance. They do so by ensuring that productions comply with union guidelines and legal standards regarding nudity and simulated acts. They can also implement modesty garments, barriers, or other protective measures when sensual scenes happen.

 

How to Become an Intimacy Coordinator

SAG-AFTRA-accredited professional certificates in intimacy coordinating can be obtained through different venues. To be included in the union’s intimacy coordinator register, you must combine relevant training and job experience. 

Aspiring intimacy coordinators are advised by SAG to show intent, develop their skill set, and network to obtain employment experience. To demonstrate interest in this emerging sector, future intimacy coordinators should participate in industry conversations. Another great idea is to join relevant organizations, attend networking events, build company relationships, find mentors, and look for assistance or shadowing.

To be an intimacy coordinator in the United States, a person will need to meet a few requirements, including:

  • Pass a state and federal background check
  • Obtain intimacy coordinator certification from a SAG-AFTRA-approved training program
  • Continue educating yourself about sexual storytelling, communication, consent, gender, sexual diversity, sensitivity, movement coaching, masking, and power dynamics 
  • Gain knowledge about union contracts that discuss simulated sex
  • Seek mentorship opportunities from an established intimacy coordinator

Also, many professionals have previously worked as sex and relationship coaches. This allowed them to have relevant experience working with couples and individuals and learning different methods to establish boundaries and build mutual respect. Such knowledge is extremely beneficial for intimacy coordinators. 

 

Conclusion

It’s not a surprise that everyone, including sex therapists, is celebrating this rising trend in the entertainment industry. Intimacy coordinators establish a professional atmosphere that discourages exploitation or inappropriate behavior, contributing to improving the conditions of the industry. Because of intimacy coordinators, awareness of the need for workplace safety and consent is growing as well. Actors and crew members have been vocal about their need for an independent professional who can protect their boundaries in a healthy and sustainable way. 

With the right training and education, intimacy coordinators can protect everyone involved in rehearsing and producing vulnerable scenes. By standing up for each person in this industry, intimacy coordinators are ensuring that the work environment of these people is not as harmful as it was before. Just like it is with any other profession, workers have every right to have their boundaries respected and not be traumatized during their work hours. 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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How to Be a Better Listener

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How to Be a Better Listener: Tips and Techniques To Use

 

Learning to be a better listener will benefit you in every aspect of your life. Actively listening to people allows you to get to know them better, understand their point of view, and become closer to them. Although we are all aware of the importance of quality communication, the emphasis is often on talking rather than listening. 

However, communication cannot exist without listening. If one person talks, the other one has to listen. No matter how clearly someone is stating something, if another person is not paying attention, the communication will not be successful. Instead of providing you with useful tips and ideas on how to be better at communicating what you want, we’ve decided to focus on helping you become a better listener. 

 

Why Does Listening Matter?

Even for a little interaction between two human beings, you need someone to talk to and someone to listen. We’re exchanging information with other people constantly, whether it’s at work, at home, or while we’re on public transportation. That said, each interaction or communication we share with another person or group of people can only be efficient if somebody is listening to us. You may feel let down if your boss does not listen to you when you walk into their office after spending the entire night planning the best way to request a raise. 

You can easily find online courses and schools that help people become better at public speaking. And you probably already know certain people who excel in communication. However, we rarely seek out listening strategies or learn how to listen better. Somehow, society has pushed listening aside, and people have focused on sharpening their communication skills while completely ignoring the importance of being a good listener

Except for certain situations, most communication opportunities will require a certain amount of talking and a certain amount of listening. Being good at talking alone does not translate into effective communication. Meaning, brilliant communicators understand that talking and listening are complementary aspects of communication. 

Lastly, when you listen to someone, you show respect. It’s impossible to respect someone without caring about what they have to say, how they feel, and what they need. 

 

What Happens When You Don’t Listen

If you care about any aspect of your life, it might be your marriage or your career; becoming even better at it requires understanding what is necessary to move forward. Meaning, ignoring your spouse’s needs during a difficult time in your marriage could result in divorce. If you want a promotion by the end of next year, failing to listen to your superior’s requirements could cost you that opportunity or even get you fired.

When we were children, we listened to other people in order to stay safe. Now, when we’re adults, we should listen to connect. This connection isn’t necessarily a form of intimacy. It can also lead to fulfilling your professional goals, meeting new people in a new city, or learning about a different culture when traveling. 

 

How to Listen Better

Before we get into tactics and tips for becoming a better listener, it’s important to distinguish active from passive listening. Passive listening is a type of listening in which you are quiet, yet you are not fully concentrated on what the person is saying. A perfect example of passive listening would be a child during a subject they are not passionate about. 

Active listening, on the other hand, requires your focus. You are paying attention to what the person is talking about, you feel interested in the subject of the conversation, and you want a positive outcome of such a conversation. Active listening is required for overcoming a crisis in a relationship or during a performance review, especially if you’re interested in improving your results. 

If you want to become a better listener, keep reading our recommended techniques.

 

1.Set Intention to Listen

It might sound weird at first; however, those who are not naturally good listeners will need to practice it, just like they would with any other skill. So, if you’ve decided to become a better listener, you should start by setting the intention to listen more and speak less in a certain situation of your interest.

For instance, if you want to show support to your spouse who is going through a stressful period at work, you will want to initiate the conversation after you’ve set the intention to listen. Choosing to pay attention allows you to feel more curious about the conversation itself instead of feeling like you’re trapped until the person stops talking. This will also help you become more aware of the moments when you feel ready for such a conversation and those when it would be best to be alone and take care of yourself first.

 

2.Ask Questions

Listening doesn’t have to be a passive activity in which you struggle to stay concentrated. If your mind wanders off or you feel like you need additional clarification, ask a question. For instance, if you’re new at your job and the onboarding specialist is giving too many instructions, instead of feeling overwhelmed with information, ask a question. 

Ask them to repeat something they’ve said or ask about something you’re interested in. This will allow you to change the dynamic of the conversation, take a breath, and feel like you have more control over the situation. 

 

3.Pay Attention to Nonverbal Communication

We are always communicating, even in a room with people who are all sitting quietly. Nonverbal communication is often more impactful than verbal communication. If you’re listening to your colleague talking in a long business meeting, what would your nonverbal communication say? Are you bored? Are you impatient to jump in and start talking? 

Nonverbal communication matters equally when you’re speaking and listening. That is why it’s crucial that you remind yourself that your posture, eye contact, and every little move you make show how you feel about the situation you’re in. Avoid playing with your fingers, looking away through the window, and sitting with your arms crossed across your chess, as they are all cues of lack of interest or disagreement. 

Luckily, if you’re truly interested in becoming a better listener, you can do so with practice. Give yourself some time to implement these tips, and whenever you find yourself in a listening mode, use it as an opportunity to improve your listening skills. 

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Nonverbal Communication Cues

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Nonverbal Communication Cues In Dating or Partnership

 

Communication is the basis for every relationship, and nonverbal communication cues are a big part of it. We often forget that communication is not only the things we say and hear. It is far more than that, and as a result, we frequently suffer in certain relationships and situations. Not knowing why you feel uncomfortable or stressed even though a person is not saying anything harmful to you could be quite confusing. Oftentimes, the answer can be found in nonverbal communication cues. 

In this article, we will explain why nonverbal communication has such an impact on us and share examples of nonverbal communication cues with you. Also, you will learn how to read these cues and their meaning, so let’s dive into them straight away. Shall we? 

 

What is Nonverbal Communication?

Experts say that around 80% of our communication is actually nonverbal. In a way, we can say that for every sentence you speak, you’ve already given four nonverbal communication cues to the person or group listening to you. Unlike talking and listening, nonverbal communication doesn’t require our conscious decision to express itself. 

For instance, you might be on the first date with the person you’ve been thinking about for a while. You are saying the right things and trying to remain calm. However, your left leg is restless, your hands are sweating, and you suddenly sense that the room temperature is too high. These are all examples of nonverbal communication that provide information on how we feel about a certain situation or person. 

 

Examples of Nonverbal Communication Cues

Nonverbal communication cues can be divided into a few categories. The ones we are most aware of are probably facial expressions, followed by gestures, postures, eye behavior, touch, body movements, and use of space. 

 

Facial Expressions 

Both children and adults make facial expressions based on how they feel about something. Teenagers learn to control their facial expressions so they don’t reveal too much. 

Examples of facial expressions are:

  • Smiling 
  • Frowning 
  • Raised eyebrows
  • Avoiding eye contact 

 

Gestures

Gestures are most notable when we meet someone or are listening to them speak. When we greet someone, we’re very focused on the way they respond to seeing us. Are they happy to see us or not? We draw a conclusion through their gestures.

Examples of gestures are:

  • Nodding 
  • Shaking head 
  • Thumbs up 
  • Waving 

 

Postures

You’ve probably thought about your posture during long business meetings, lectures, or any other situation in which you’ve been more passive than active. If a person enters the room with a straight posture and stands tall next to you, they express confidence and authority that way. If that same person entered the room with their head down, looking at the floor, this wouldn’t be an example of confident behavior. 

Examples of postures are:

  • Leaning forward
  • Crossing arms 
  • Standing tall 
  • Slouching 

 

Eye Behavior 

This is maybe one of the most intimate nonverbal communication cues of all, as it requires you to be close to the person to see their eye behavior. For instance, you might want to pay attention to your friend’s eye behavior when asking if they’ve shared your secret with someone else. 

Examples of eye behavior are: 

  • Direct eye contact
  • Staring
  • Rapid blinking
  • Looking away

 

Touch 

Although we think of touch when talking about intimate relationships, it can also be a part of your professional life. Shaking hands with coworkers and new business partners can reveal a lot about you. On the other hand, touch can give a person so much information on a first date. Did you shake hands or hug at the end of your date? 

Examples of platonic touch are:

  • Handshakes 
  • Patting on the back or shoulder
  • Hugging 
  • Tapping someone on the shoulder

 

Body Movements 

Body language allows us to express ourselves in so many ways, and one of them is through body movements. These body movements differ from our conscious movements, such as walking, reaching out for something, or raising our hands to ask a question. 

Although the way we do all these things also contains valuable information, body movements refer to the following: 

  • Shrugging shoulders 
  • Tapping fingers 
  • Pacing 

 

Use of Space

The way someone uses the space between you or your group will tell you a lot about how comfortable they feel or how much they trust you. Even on professional occasions, you can use these nonverbal communication cues to understand the other person better. 

These are the ways a person can use space: 

  • Standing close
  • Keeping distance
  • Encroaching on personal space

 

How to Read Nonverbal Communication Cues

If all this information is new to you, don’t worry. Reading nonverbal communication cues is a skill that everyone can learn. At first, it might take you some time to pick up this habit when interacting with other people, especially when you’re meeting a new person. Also, this skill will be quite beneficial if you’re going through a rough patch with your romantic partner and you want to understand them beyond the words they speak.

So, the first thing you’ll need to do to learn to read nonverbal communication is to speak less and listen more. When you’re not talking, you have more energy and time to focus on the other person. If they are shy, ask them a question and analyze their body language. Are they playing with their fingers? Do they adjust their hair every few minutes? How is their posture while sitting with you? Do they look directly into your eyes, or are they looking away?

All these answers can help you understand how the person feels in the situation. For instance, your dating partner might say all the right words, yet something feels off to you. Although they say they want to meet you again, they maintain distance, cross their arms, and are looking all around, except at you. This could mean that they are potentially not as interested as they portrayed. With time and curiosity, you will be able to read all these cues. Until then, you can ask what the other is thinking. 

 

Quality Communication Helps Strengthen Connection

Once you start paying attention to people interacting with you, whether it’s in your personal or professional life, you will notice how your relationships grow. If you’ve only been focused on a portion of communication between you and your partner, friends, or family, you’ve also been missing a lot of information. Maybe somebody is uncomfortable with your tone and doesn’t know how to say it to you. 

Reading their nonverbal communication cues can help reduce the tension between you and the other person. As soon as you focus more on their body language instead of just what they are saying, you will be able to understand people better and connect with them on a more meaningful level. 

To begin the communication journey at home, learn to get connected.

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexibile, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.