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Sex Education You Never Got

Sex Education You Never Got


Whether you’re in a relationship or solo, adolescent, or in your 20s or 30s, sex education is a never-ending process. Often, we’ll wrongly assume that just because someone has passed their adolescent year, they know everything there is about sex, dating, and relationship, yet this is not the case. 

This area is so wide that it would probably take us an entire lifetime to learn everything there is about sex. Dr. Sara and I did a presentation on this before the pandemic and I would love to share here! 

Learning about sex shouldn’t begin after your first sexual experience, yet as this topic was until recently considered taboo, things are slowly starting to change. Young people are educating themselves through conversations with their family members and friends, through schools, media, etc. By understanding sexual education doesn’t involve only sex, you will better manage situations you find yourself in, from dating to being in serious, long-term relationships. 

Dating as an Opportunity

Things are not just fast-forwarded to sex. To get to know each other better, people will typically start dating before they decide to move to a more physical phase that involves touching, kissing, and having sex. If dating is a stressful experience for you, consider applying an opportunistic or zen philosophy in dating. In other words, you will have to be willing and open to confront anything that’s causing any unpleasant emotions within yourself. 

Instead of allowing these emotions to take control over you while you’re trying to ignore them, take a look at them to understand them better. What makes you feel like this? Is it a certain situation or expectation that is causing discomfort in you? Have you had this feeling before? Start exploring it instead of ignoring it and you will soon notice how your attitude towards dating is changing. So, before jumping into exploring sex, make sure you feel good about dating new people. 

The Science Of Sex

How you feel about sex is one thing, yet knowing the technical details of sexual pleasure is crucial to enjoying sex and having orgasms. Understanding the difference between the internal and external clitoris, the labia majora and minora, uretha and vagina hole are just some of the terms you’ll need to learn to understand better the female body, and see what works for you and what doesn’t. 

There are many different paths to a female orgasm, which doesn’t necessarily include only sex organs. By touching and kissing a person’s nipples, they can experience a wave of sexual excitement which followed by, for instance, touching the G-Spot can lead to an incredible orgasm. As every person is different, their likes and dislikes in sex will differ as well.

Physiology Behind The Orgasm

If you’ve ever orgasmed before, you know that this feeling is undeniably good, however, to learn how to have frequent orgasms you’ll continue enjoying, it’s necessary to know at least some basics around the big O. Having an orgasm is feeling your vagina, uterus, anus, and sometimes even other body parts contracting rapidly from 3 to 15 times, squeezing for a little less that one second at a time. 

The female orgasm can also include ejaculation, the release of a liquid out of the urethra. As every sex experience is different for each person, orgasms might feel different as well. That’s why it’s vital to learn what feels good and what doesn’t for you. Understanding what excites you and sharing it with your sex partner to experience the four phases of orgasm: 

  1. Excitement: Initially being turned on.
  2. Plateau: Repetitive motion that feels pleasurable.
  3. Orgasm: The burst of pleasure and release.
  4. Resolution: The refractory period. 

Although these phases are accurate, they don’t need to occur every time. Also, for some women, sexual pleasure doesn’t always lead to orgasm. On the other hand, having an orgasm at the end of the sexual experience doesn’t imply that the sex was amazing. As said, it’s quite individual, so your learning about sex might be different from how your friend is learning about their body and sexual pleasure. 

Types of Sex

There are hundreds and hundreds of sex positions you can try out with your sex partner. However, if you’re looking for more general categories of sex, you can start learning about different types of sex. You can choose between clitoral, vaginal, cervical, and anal sex. 

With all four types of sex, a woman can experience orgasm. Depending on what you prefer, you can combine a few sex types in one experience or stick to the one that makes you feel completely excited. If you lack experience and would like to see how you like each of these types of sex, you can easily try it on your own. Use a sex toy like a vibrator or your fingers instead of a penis. For instance, with clitoral sex, you can insert your fingers or the toy into your vagina and move them in a “come hither” motion in the direction of your belly button. 

Taking Care Of Your Health

Taking care of your sexual health goes beyond just having protected sex. As much as using condoms protect you from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You will need to be careful which soap you use, underwear you wear, the food you eat, etc. Taking care of yourself is essential for a fulfilled and satisfied sexual life. 

If you’re keen on practicing anal sex, make sure you shorten your nails, take off any jewelry such as rings or bracelets, and use lubricant for easier penetration. Be responsible and discuss all these aspects with your sex partner as they might prefer something different from what you had in mind. Having an open conversation is the first step leading towards great sex as it helps partners exchange ideas and get to know each other better before engaging in any sexual activity.

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Sex Education – Why is it so Sexist?

Sex Education – Why is it so Sexist?


Sex education in the United States is first introduced in schools in about 10th grade – if at all. According to the CDC, the following is supposed to be included, but it often isn’t: 

  • How to obtain and use condoms
  • Importance of using a condom at the same time as another form of contraception to prevent both STDs and pregnancy
  • How to access valid and reliable information, products and services related to HIV, STDs, and pregnancy
  • How HIV and other STDs are transmitted and their health consequences
  • Importance of limiting the number of sexual partners
  • Preventive care that is necessary to maintain reproductive and sexual health


Here is the stuff on the list that I paid for in higher sex education:

  • How to create and sustain healthy and respectful relationships
  • Influences of family, peers, media, technology and other factors on sexual risk behavior
  • Benefits of being sexually abstinent
  • Importance of using condoms consistently and correctly
  • Communication and negotiation skills
  • Goal-setting and decision-making skills
  • Influencing and supporting others to avoid or reduce sexual risk behaviors


We live in a culture of sexual health. Not a culture of sexual wellness or pleasure! 


Don’t believe me, the CDC says so!

Think about your sex education talk. While boys are taught about masturbation, girls are taught about periods and preventing pregnancy. 

Sometimes I feel like it is an “us” vs “them” mentality for the genders, but what about those beyond the binary? How do they get their sex education? 

All genders are included in sexually transmitted infections (STI) education and LGBTQ+ curriculum if schools are willing to pay for it. 


Great… so… no one knows ANYTHING!


Unless you had an older sibling that happened to share information, the “birds and the bees” talk typically goes something like… “don’t get pregnant” or “don’t get a disease.”  


Then, you move on to college and if you are blessed, as I was, your school offers sexual education or “human fertility” as it was called at Providence College! ::shaking my head:

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Thankfully, no matter what, we all have the Internet to learn sex education from PORN! 


You know… another place where men and women are objectified for the pleasure of the voyeur at home. 

Porn sex education is not real! The waxed and bleached vulvas and anuses, humongous penises that are ALWAYS hard and ALWAYS cause an orgasm for the receiver are for entertainment.


Some people begin to rely solely on porn to masturbate and thus have no experience in developing or fixing a sexual connection and sexual routine with a committed partner. 


A Lack of Sex Education Can Lead to Other Life Problems


What I have seen, specifically in women, is that many feel shame about discovering and enjoying masturbation. Self-pleasure can become a normal part of sexual development if we discuss it!


A lack of sex education is problematic, because individuals enter sexual relationships without knowing what gives them pleasure and assuming it will naturally work. 


If you do not know your sexual anatomy and how the different areas are designed for pleasure, then you do not have the foundation to take control of your pleasure or your relationship. 


What often happens is a ripple effect across the entire life cycle of not getting what you want and living life on half-empty. 


Pleasure-Centered Sex Education Should Be Mandatory


I don’t even like the word “should,” but I feel passionate about our mission in helping others love themselves and their relationships! 


Over the past six years hundreds of individuals have come to see us at Life Coaching & Therapy to help them overcome  to sexual pain, shame, and insecurities. 


I’ve struggled with sexual addiction and relationship issues all of my life. I have spent years in traditional therapy with everyone from social workers to psychologists to psychiatrists. And then I found Amanda. She has an expert knowledge of the field she works in. But it’s her love and passion and new approach for her work that separates her from the rest! In a short period of time she gave me feedback and solutions to my problems. She changed my life! If you’re tired of traditional therapy, don’t wait… try Amanda! She will change your life! – Gary 


It took one visit for me to realize that Amanda was a godsend. It was a turning point in my life. Over the next few years, I experienced a lot of “aha” moments and Amanda guided me through them all. I’ve gained so many valuable lessons on: self-esteem, the ability to receive, confidence, letting emotions out, intimacy, communication, languages of love, knowing your value and much more.These lessons don’t come naturally in everyone’s life and there is no shame in seeking out assistance. Amanda’s technique was exactly what I needed. She is compassionate and helps you explore your situation and feelings, but she will be honest with you and challenge you in ways that will help you grow if you are open to it. – Al.



Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!

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Sex Education Netflix Series Review (REAL THERAPIST REACTS!)

Sex Education Netflix Series Review (REAL THERAPIST REACTS!)


Within the first week that this came out, SIX people told me to watch this! And I’m so glad I did. It gave a fun, yet deep spin on topics that may be embarrassing to those who experience it and opened conversation on how to deal with these matters. I enjoyed every minute of watching the characters interact with each other and see them grow throughout season 1! If you want to see my reaction on specific scenes, go ahead and click the link on my profile to find it! If you haven’t watched the series, I encourage that you do! I hope you enjoy it!



Sex Education from Netflix! I will give my Netflix Sex Education reaction. I will dive into some themes from Netflix Sex Education! If you’re looking for a Netflix Sex Education Review, watch this video! I react to scenes from Sex Education Episode 1, and many other parts of the season! Don’t miss this review for Sex Education Netflix! You’ll want some insight from my Sex Education Episode 1 reaction! I ain’t called the Sex Healer for nothing!