Clitoral Orgasm: From A To Z
When talking about women enjoying their sexual life, we somehow lack good talks about orgasms, especially a clitoral orgasm. Unlike men, women experience their orgasms differently and reaching them also varies from one person to another. That’s why it’s vital to have quality discussions about it and allow women to explore different aspects of clitoral orgasm and discover new things about their sexuality.
There are numerous methods that might help you reach climax with more ease and even improve your arousal and orgasmic experience. After all, as women are climaxing differently, there is still so much mystery wrapped around this topic.
Types of Orgasms
Women can reach orgasm in more ways than just one. For instance, they can reach it through clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation or through stimulating breasts or any other erogenous zone.
However, the clitoral orgasm is the type that’s closest to male orgasm. It requires engorgement or erection of the clitoris to lead to an orgasm. In most cases, continuing with sexual activity after the clitoral orgasm will result in discomfort or pain.
A clitoral orgasm is typically described as more intense and profound than any other type and when combined with stimulation of other erogenous zones, it might even provide additional pleasure.
Some women reach orgasm when another person is stimulating their genitalia, while others will reach it when their breasts are being stimulated. Another thing that’s important to keep in mind when talking about clitoral orgasms is that you can always play with other orgasm types and come back to it. It’s like riding a bike, you will not forget it!
You might have only one type of orgasm for years. Or you can have different types depending on the sexual activity with your partner. When talking about female orgasm, every person is a unique individual and their orgasms depend on many things. Yet it’s recommendable to try out all of them to see what works best for you.
Understanding Clitoral Orgasms
During an orgasm, there are certain things happening in the human body. A woman will notice that her heart rate is increasing, her breathing is accelerating. And her metabolism will speed up leading to an orgasm.
When a woman is experiencing clitoral orgasm or any other type, she will go through these four phases of sexual pleasure.
This phase can be described best as the state of arousal or desire and it involves the female body preparing for sexual activity. In the excitement phase, there will be a boost of certain hormones, the blood will begin to engorge the vagina. And the entire body will feel like it’s blushing.
In the second phase of sexual pleasure, the tension will build even more. A woman might not be able to think or do anything that’s not related to sexual stimulation. Her heart rate and blood pressure will continue to increase.
When a woman is reaching orgasm, her vagina, uterus, pelvic floor muscles and occasionally her other muscles will contract in the same rhythm.
Right after the clitoral orgasm, the woman will start feeling her body relaxing, and her heart rate, blood pressure. And breathing starting to slow down as well.
Does Every Woman Orgasm?
If you’re concerned because it’s difficult for you to have an orgasm. Understanding that every fourth woman is reporting the same issue might help not feel alone. In reality, there are numerous reasons why a woman is not having a clitoral or any other orgasm. These reasons can be physiological or physical, or sometimes both.
However, if a woman wants to enjoy fully her sexual life, she will need to take a look at different types of treatments, therapies, or interventions recommended by a professional. Most of the time, talking to a therapist is a good start to understanding what is preventing you to enjoy your sexuality.
Also, a lot of women are reporting that their desire for sex is diminished as soon as they enter postmenopause. Luckily, there are solutions for each issue behind the lack of orgasm and low libido as long as the woman is open to tackling the issue and working together with the therapist or any other professional who is qualified to help.
Can You Have Clitoris Orgasm More Often?
For those who are interested to boost their sexual desire and having more intense clitoral orgasms. There are plenty of exercises and practices you can do in the comfort of your home and some even at work.
Keep in mind that if you’re experiencing difficulties with orgasming for a longer period. It’s recommendable to talk to a therapist who will provide you with methods that will be more efficient for you.
These are the recommendations for those who are looking to improve their overall orgasm experience. Whether it’s to improve the frequency or quality of your orgasms:
- Kegel exercises: Empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Contract your pelvis muscles and count to five. Then release them and count to five. Repeat this for 10 minutes and do it at least once a day.
- Analyze your orgasms: To have more or better orgasms, you will need to understand what happens in your body when you’re seconds from having it. Focus on your breathing, tension in your body, and your heart rate. The more you’re aware of these signs, you can remind your brain that if you start breathing rapidly. It’s time for a clitoral orgasm.
- Try different things in bed: Don’t be stuck with the same-sex routine. Switch positions, stimulations, and make each of your sex fantasies come true. You might discover a new orgasm trigger which you can then implement when having sex.
- Connect with your partner: Regardless of whether you’re in a romantic relationship with a person you’re having sex or not, try to connect with them before, during and after sex. Be aware of their presence, provide them pleasure, enjoy the game. And your pleasure will follow as well and guide you to an orgasm.
Practice, practice, practice: If you want to have a better orgasm or enjoy it more often, you will need to work a bit harder. This will depend on a person. However, you can try having sex more often or for a longer time to allow yourself to truly dive into your sexuality and learn more about it.
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