How to give a sensual massage

How to Give a Sensual Massage

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How to Give a Sensual Massage That’s Actually Hot and Nice

We hope you enjoy this article on sensual massage. LCAT owner, Dr. Amanda Pasciucco was interviewed by Self.com writer Ro White. This article was published in Self.com on September 15, 2023.

 

Here’s exactly what to do—and not do—to pull off a sexy, relaxing back rub.

If you’re seeking new ways to feel close to your partner, you might be wondering how to give them a good sensual massage to help you connect. (And a downright sexy massage offers even more opportunities for intimacy.) Horny touching, including massage, causes our brains to release oxytocin, a.k.a. the “love hormone”, so an erotic massage is the perfect recipe for bonding, relaxation, and arousal—possibly even a better sex life.

Read on as experts share how to give a sexy back massage to turn on both you and your partner—and maybe set the mood for more.


Talk to your partner about what their dream massage would look like.

There’s no one way to give an erotic massage, so before you pump up the Marvin Gaye and break out the “good” massage oil, ask your partner what they’d like to get out of this experience—and share your own desires too.

“The ‘why’ of the massage should dictate the ‘how,’” Barbara Carrellas, an AASECT-certified sex educator who teaches erotic massage, tells SELF. So: Are you and your partner seeking connection, or maybe novelty? Are you wanting to take some pressure off of your sexual performance? Are you having trouble getting out of your own head and looking for new forms of foreplay? Do you just think their back is hot and want to love up on it a little? Find out!

Once you’re clear on the “why” behind your sexy massage, decide together how you’d like it to feel. “Erotic massages can be therapeutic, relaxing, stimulating, healing, sensual, sexual, kinky, or whatever other intention you set,” Carrellas says.

Check in about where and how your partner wants to be touched and if there are any no-go zones, AASECT-certified sex therapist Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, CST, tells SELF.

You should definitely ask whether your partner wants the massage to include overtly sexual contact. “Each person likes to be touched in a different way,” Pasciucco explains. “Some people love the adrenaline of just going toward the genitals, while many others enjoy long, slow strokes to build up anticipation.”


Make your surroundings feel sexier.

Use dim lighting, a playlist featuring gentle music, and candles to create an ambiance that helps your partner feel relaxed, Pasciucco says. (Just make sure the candles are securely placed far from the massage zone—catching your hair on fire would kill the mood.)

One of the best—but often overlooked—massage tips isn’t about what you set up, but what you get the hell out of sight at home. Pasciucco suggests removing any potential distractions from the room, like pets, phones, piles of laundry, and family photos (you probably won’t want your relatives staring you down while you zealously knead your partner’s butt cheeks).

If this kind of traditional massage setup feels slightly corny to you, Pasciucco suggests leaning into the cringe. “Making your bedroom look like a temple of love might not be your norm, but do it anyway,” she says. Trust that once you’re squeezing your partner’s thighs, you’ll probably both be too turned-on to feel embarrassed—and until you get there, it’s okay to laugh a little too.

If you just can’t get past the corniness of candles and soft music, there are plenty of other ways you can set the mood. “While some people like candles, soft music, and feathers, others like dark dungeons, floggers, and being ordered to get on the massage table,” Carrellas says. There’s no one perfect way to do this: The vibe of your sexy massage should feel personal to you and your partner! Let your imaginations tell you what a “good massage” should look like.


Pick an oil that’s up to the hot task at hand.

Your most important massage tool is lotion or oil, since this will help your hands glide more easily along your partner’s body, Pasciucco notes. Just make sure you review the ingredients first, especially if either of you has skin allergies or fragrance sensitivities.

Since this is a sexy massage, chances are there might be some genital-touching involved either during or after the rubdown. If you’re planning to use this same oil externally on your partner’s junk, you’ll need a fragrance-free oil, as scented products (including essential oils) can irritate the urethra (where pee comes out). Soothing Touch’s nut-free massage oil, Sliquid’s Escape massage oil, and Now Solutions’ massage oil are all excellent options.

For any vaginal penetration, you’ll want an all-natural oil to avoid irritation or infection. Vagina-safe options include coconut oil, hemp seed oil, grape seed oil, vegetable oil, sunflower oil, and olive oil, as the Cleveland Clinic notes. Keep in mind that using oil inside the vagina can increase the risk of developing a yeast infection, according to a UCLA study, so if your partner knows their vagina doesn’t respond well to oil or if they’re not sure, clean your hands after the massage and switch to lube when you’re doing hand stuff.

If you think your massage might lead to sex involving safer sex barriers, like condoms, make sure you use only water-based or silicone lube for any between-the-legs action and thoroughly wash your hands before handling barriers. Since oil degrades latex, getting massage oil on a latex condom or dental dam can prevent your barrier from doing its job.

Finally, make sure any sex toys, or sensations toys like feathers, paddles, and floggers, that you plan to use are easily accessible, too, so you don’t have to fumble around with slick hands.


Sensual massage techniques.

Take it slow.

Have your partner lie flat on a bed face-down or face-up, depending on the areas you’d like to focus on. They can be partially dressed or fully nude—whatever feels most comfortable.

Once your partner is situated, find a position for your own body that you won’t mind holding for a while. You can sit beside your partner, pull up a chair next to the bed, or—if you want to heat things up right away and this works for both of you—straddle your partner while you oil up your hands and prepare to caress their stress away.

Massage techniques can and should vary based on what your partner’s into, but here are some rules of thumb about sensual touch: If you’re planning on giving a full-body massage experience, start by gently kneading your partner’s shoulders, adding more massage oil as needed, and checking in with them about the level of pressure you’re using. “Erotic massage creates lots of space for communication, so there’s always room for your partner to ask for more or less of any touch,” Carrellas explains.

Rub your partner’s back and limbs (or whatever part of the body they like) with circular motions, or with long, smooth strokes along each muscle using your palms and the whole lengths of your fingers and tips of your forefingers. “Touching with your whole hand feels like an embrace,” Carrellas says. “You can use this technique to glide anywhere on your partner’s body without lifting your palm.” Another one of the best sensual massage techniques: Use your thumbs in areas where your partner wants more pinpointed pressure, like on the arches of their feet. If your hands need a rest, throw in some kissing or licking, if that’s your partner’s thing. (If they don’t mind oil in their hair, go ahead and stroke it—just ask first if you don’t know.)

Once your partner is feeling relaxed, ramp up their arousal by stroking and rubbing erogenous zones, like their earlobes, chest, butt, and inner thighs, before venturing between their legs, if that’s something you’re both down for. A sexy massage doesn’t have to end in genital stimulation—“an erotic massage should with pleasure, which doesn’t necessarily mean an orgasm,” Pasciucco says. But if you and your partner want your massage to get a little spicier, go for it! Sensual massage can feel incredible on your partner’s whole body—not just their back.

Read more of Dr. Pasciucco’s media interviews here.

Erogenous Zones Not To Ignore For Maximum Pleasure

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Erogenous Zones Not To Ignore For Maximum Pleasure

 

To truly boost your sensuality, you need to be aware of erogenous zones that you should not ignore for pleasure. Consider your partner’s ears, lower back, collar bones, and so on when you explore. Sexuality and sensuality are not just about penetration and coitus. If you ever took your time to kiss your partner’s neck and got them aroused that way, you know what we’re talking about here.

Many body parts are unfairly ignored regarding sex, and this article aims to change that once and for all. Say goodbye to repeating the same seduction steps over and over again, and say hello to exploring other areas of the body that can provide the same or even more pleasure for both of you!

 

  • Neck

If you have a neck, you are aware of it. The nape and back of your neck have an abundance of nerve endings that only take a light touch to drive you both crazy. To reach that concentration of nerves, ask your partner to lightly run the tips of their fingers up and down your neck as you kiss. You can also do it to them first and ask them to do the same for you. Establish a no-kissing-on-the-lips rule and ask your partner to concentrate on your neck instead to turn the heat up a notch. Trust us, you will love the tension this move builds!

 

  • Inner Thighs

Have your partner tease your inner thighs for a while before moving on to the main meal. Because of its extreme sensitivity and dense concentration of nerve endings, this skin is particularly receptive to your partner’s bites, nips, and licks. To take things to the next level, urge your spouse to trail an ice cube up and down your thighs and enjoy that new feeling.

 

  • Armpits

You probably don’t think of your armpits while considering foreplay. Your armpits may be a shockingly erogenous area, though, if you can get over a little perspiration, hair, and taboo. Consider it like this: Your underarms are delicate. They may be quite seductive in this region for the same reason that makes them so ticklish.

How to explore: Ask your companion to stroke your underarms softly with the tips of their fingers. Use a gentle up-and-down motion at first, then a quick, circular motion. Pay special attention to what produces the optimum reaction. Sure, it’s amusing, yet it’s also alluring.

 

  • Ears

Despite being very sensual, ears are frequently disregarded, which makes them an even hotter area when you want to turn things up in bed. Because there are so many sensory receptors in the ears, they are really quite sensitive to touch.

Start out by having your lover delicately draw with their fingertips while you are kissing the C-shaped outline of your ear. A little kiss or nibble might potentially ignite a bonfire. Coupled with some below-the-belt movement, this may be an exceptionally potent maneuver; it may even assist you in reaching the peak of your sexual pleasure.

 

  • Hands

The hands are quite seductive. Even a gentle, firm touch can produce waves of feeling. One of the most sensual organs is your hand. Sucking on fingers truly constitutes an oral sexual act. Like sex, a partner may deliver the same signal to the brain’s reward region by sucking on the finger and massaging it with the tongue.

Have your partner slowly make circles with their tongue while they softly kiss the tips of your fingers to explore. Consider using a little mild suction if you’re into it.

 

  • Feet

Even if you don’t like feet or believe you don’t like feet, the proper touch might alter all that. Pressure areas on the foot may cause arousal in certain people. Particularly densely endowed with nerve endings are the arches of your feet, making them extremely sensitive.

You should concentrate on solid, consistent strokes rather than soft, ticklish motions, since some people are ticklish down there. Consider it more like a massage, which is enjoyable and can aid in relaxing, a necessary condition for many women to have orgasms.

 

  • Inside of the Ankle

We may as well discuss the second significant erogenous zone down there—the inside of the ankle—since we’re already down by the feet.

Najjar notes that this particular location is undoubtedly one that may elicit pleasure when stimulated appropriately with mild touch, similar to the wrist. Additionally, it has a sensuous quality that could even make you want to kiss and taste it.

 

  • Scalp

Don’t undervalue the value of some good hair-pulling! Your scalp has millions of tiny nerve endings, and if you’ve ever had your hair pulled during sex, you know it’s an erogenous zone.

You can still profit from the many nerve endings on the scalp, even if ripping off your hair isn’t your thing. It doesn’t matter if you like to stroke your partner’s hair or they prefer to stroke yours—either way, there is still a delightful sexiness to the act.

 

  • Inner Knee

The area behind your knee may not have received much attention in the past, yet try gently massaging it with your hand or having your partner do it, and you’ll discover that it’s far more sensitive than you thought. “If you want to, have your lover lick and cuddle it. It’s a brand-new area waiting to be discovered. It is a direct route to other alluring body regions.

 

  • Lower Back

The back frequently comes up when asked about their preferred erogenous areas. For some people, it’s the interscapular—that difficult-to-reach area between your shoulder blades. (Perhaps that’s what makes it so desirable: it’s out of reach.) If you want, trail down the lower back to the sensitive area just above the ass crease. As you walk beside someone, consider each time they have placed their hand there. Hot, huh? When they contact it while unclothed, it becomes extremely sexy!

 

Final Words

There are a few obvious areas you want your partner to go to when things are getting hot. Your lips, nipples, and genitalia, however, hardly scrape the surface of erogenous zones—those crazy-sensitive hot places that may transform you from zero to gotta-have-it-right-now. There are incredibly sensitive regions of your body that you might not even be aware of. Explore these areas to find the ones that suit you and your partner the most, and enjoy these sexy games!

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

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Yoga for Better Stamina & Poses to Boost Pleasure

 

Have you ever considered practicing yoga for better stamina? Well, there are many benefits you can enjoy from yoga, and improving stamina and sex is one of them. Reduced stress is surely the greatest advantage of yoga, which is great for bedroom activities as well. Practicing yoga regularly lowers cortisol levels, lowering stress levels in the body. In other words, if you are stressed, you will probably experience decreased sexual desire. 

This is why yoga is becoming a popular solution to improve sex quality among couples. To help you make the most of it, we’ve decided to gather all the relevant details about this trend!

 

Ways Yoga Benefits Your Life

Additionally, yoga may enhance overall sexual performance. Yoga teaches you how to calm your thoughts and pay attention to your body. Combining these two techniques will help you gain awareness of your likes and dislikes, enabling you to communicate with your spouse more effectively.

Regular yoga practice helps you become more mindful of the moment, which is crucial to improving your stamina. Yoga and sex improve your overall health—physically, mentally, and emotionally. The experience will be nicer for you both the more present you can be with your companion.

 

Yoga Poses for Better Stamina

Yoga is a great way to connect with your body and breath, which may help increase sexual longevity. It also improves flexibility, which might encourage you to try out new poses. As a result, regular yoga practice will leave you stronger and more toned, which can boost your self-assurance in your physical appearance.

 

  • Downward-Facing Dog

Stretching your muscles and improving blood flow to your body in the downward dog position can assist you in reducing stress. This stance will assist you in finding new, vivacious energy.

Keep your legs as straight as possible while putting your hands shoulder-width apart on the ground. Inhale deeply and keep your tailbone up as you place your hands on the mat.

 

  • Eagle Pose

Balancing in the eagle stance demands intense concentration. You’ll become more attentive and present if you carry this focus into the bedroom. Start by standing tall and lifting your left leg to perform this stance. As you lower yourself into a squatting position, hook it behind your right calf. Then parallelize your arms in front, hook your right arm underneath, and clasp your palms.

 

  • Frog Pose

Bhekasana, also known as the frog pose, can alleviate leftover tension in the groin region while boosting blood flow to the pelvic region. This region is essential for promoting arousal.

Start by bending your knees and pointing your feet outward. Start by pulling your hips back and opening up your legs. Your inner thighs will begin to strain severely. It’s a strong one, so you might unknowingly hold your breath. Hold for 1 minute, yet don’t forget to breathe. Too much? Put a folded blanket under your knees to modify it.

 

  • Water Hand Gesture

Deep meditation and orgasm both take place in the same brain state. You can get there by connecting with your water element. This element is associated with sexual expression and marma points, which are stimulation sites on the body related to everything from the health of your organs to the release of hormones. Yoga enhances all facets of sexual functioning, with the most noticeable results in women over 40.

Start by sitting up straight. With your hands on your knees, join your pinky finger and thumb. Make the connection between these points explicit. If your thoughts start to stray, gently bring them back while holding for one minute.

 

  • Bridge Pose

The bridge is a crucial posture to master for enhancing sexual function because it strengthens the pelvic floor and the core, activates the glutes, and increases blood flow to the pelvic area. The pelvic floor is capable of storing a lot of strain. Mindfulness techniques strengthen the area and allow more blood flow, enabling deeper orgasms and lubrication.

Kneel on the ground with your feet hip-width apart, near your glutes. Put your hands on the floor and lift your glutes while keeping your knees and ankles straight. To prevent stress from building up while you lift, keep your head and shoulders firmly planted. To lift higher, interlace your fingers beneath. For one minute, hold.

 

  • Happy Baby

Happy Baby is a powerful hip opener that promotes flexibility and emotional release. It activates your sacral chakra, the doorway to your pleasure and desire centers. Physically and emotionally, stress can make it difficult to have pleasant sex. Think about your neck or back muscles tensing under stress. Stress can cause the pelvic floor muscles to stiffen up as well, which can make intercourse unpleasant and, in extreme situations, cause vaginismus.

Lie on your back with your knees bent to perform this pose. With your knees slightly wider than your chest, grab the outside of your feet.

 

  • Shoulder Stand Pose

Lower body tension can be relieved with the shoulder stand. Additionally, it might increase blood flow to the pleasure center of the brain.

Lay on the ground with your knees bent to perform this pose. Put your hands out straight, palms facing the ground, on both sides. Using your hands to push through, extend your legs vertically to the ceiling. To support yourself and allow you to extend the stretch, place your hands behind your lower back.

 

  • Corpse Pose

‘Corpse pose’ is the yoga pose known as Savasana. The freedom and room to engage in sexual pleasure are available here. Breathing shallowly or holding your breath is typical, especially when an orgasm is about to occur. This may reduce the depth of the experience. Deep breathing induces relaxation, which heightens your perception of pleasure.

Close your eyes and lie on your back with your arms and legs at your sides. Turn your palms up, breathe gently, and remain for five minutes. As your thoughts wander, resist the need to judge; instead, practice acceptance.

 

The Final Words

While some yoga poses might enhance your stamina and sexual life, being less stressed is the benefit that everyone notices! This offers many advantages and allows you to unwind and enjoy sex!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Female Orgasmic Disorder: What Every Woman Needs to Know

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Female Orgasmic Disorder: What Every Woman Needs to Know

 

If you haven’t yet heard about the phrase “female orgasmic disorder,” you will probably want to read this article and maybe even send it over to your female friends. Every woman responds to stimulation differently, both in terms of intensity and type. Most women can reach orgasm when their clitoris is stimulated, yet not all of them will orgasm during sexual intercourse. If we consider that some women never even reach orgasm, many questions need to be answered to help women enjoy sex more and have frequent orgasms. 

Many women with orgasmic disorder can’t have an orgasm at all, not even when they’re masturbating or very excited. But if a woman doesn’t have an orgasm because she isn’t stimulated enough, this is called an arousal disorder, not an orgasmic disorder. It’s usually only a problem when the woman is upset about not being able to orgasm. 

What Is Female Orgasmic Disorder?

Several factors can cause female orgasmic disorder. If a woman cannot orgasm, her orgasms take way too long to happen, she orgasms less frequently than you’d prefer, her orgasms are not as intense, or she feels anxious or depressed about orgasms, all of these can be causes for a female orgasmic disorder. Still, if you only have one or two of these problems, it can be called an orgasmic dysfunction instead of an orgasmic disorder. Both are more common than you think, yet luckily, it is possible to treat them and continue enjoying sex as you have before.

As was already said, our orgasms are affected by many things, including our physical health, emotions, hormones, experiences, beliefs, relationships, and way of life. If you experience issues with any of these things, you might have issues with having an orgasm as well. 

What Causes a Female Orgasmic Disorder?

Remember that the factors that cause orgasmic disorder vary from woman to woman. Remember that the factors that cause orgasmic disorder vary from woman to woman. Also, someone might experience only one factor from this list, while another might experience several. 

This is a comprehensive list of all possible causes of orgasmic disorder.

  • Anxiety,
  • Depression, 
  • Stress,
  • Tiredness,
  • Issues with the nerves or blood flow in your genitals,
  • Issues with your sexual or romantic partner,
  • Concerns about your body image,
  • Reduced amounts of sex hormones,
  • Medications (e.g., blood pressure medications, antidepressants, chemotherapy, etc.)
  • Medical problems (e.g., such as bladder issues, diabetes, heart issues, multiple sclerosis, or cancer),
  • Menopause,
  • Pregnancy,
  • Past sexual assault or trauma.

Types of Orgasmic Disorders

The inability to reach sexual climax is the primary sign of orgasmic disorder. When talking about orgasmic disorders, four different kinds exist:

  1. Primary anorgasmia: The inability to experience an orgasm.
  2. Secondary anorgasmia: The inability to orgasm despite having previously had one.
  3. Situational anorexia: This form of orgasmic dysfunction is the most prevalent. It occurs when you can only orgasm in particular circumstances (e.g., during masturbation or oral sex).
  4. General anorgasmia: An inability to experience orgasm at any time, even when you’ve had enough sexual stimulation and are extremely aroused.

How to Treat Female Orgasmic Disorder?

You can make an appointment with your doctor if you think that you have an orgasmic disorder. Your doctor can identify and offer an appropriate course of action. After all, the best way to make sure you can once again thoroughly enjoy sexual activity is to talk about it. 

Your doctor may do a physical examination and ask about your sexual history. Meaning, a gynecologist can then recommend suitable options to treat your orgasmic disorder. 

Orgasm disorder can be treated in various ways, and the cause of the issue will determine how it is treated. You will not have to look for the best treatment, as your doctor or a sexual health therapist can guide you and provide helpful information. When talking to a doctor or therapist, you will be asked about your health and any potential issues mentioned above. These questions can also be about your sex life; however, don’t feel awkward, as they are genuinely interested in helping treat the orgasm disorder.  

Your doctor may also do a physical exam and take blood and urine from you to check for any health problems.

Options for treatment include:

  • Breathing techniques
  • Communicating about fantasies
  • Using sex toys
  • Using moisturizers or lubricants 
  • Elevating your mood through different techniques (e.g., breathing exercises and meditation)
  • Limiting alcohol intake and abstaining from drugs, and smoking
  • Regular exercise and being active
  • Pelvic floor physical treatment 
  • Talking to a sex or relationship therapist 

If you’re in menopause, your doctor might advise inserting a ring, cream, or pill called estrogen in your vagina. This may increase blood flow and moisture by strengthening and stretching the vagina’s muscles.

In Final Words

Being unable to orgasm can be quite frustrating and could affect your relationship. With the proper care, you might be able to start enjoying your orgasms again. It’s critical to understand that you are not alone. Orgasmic disorders affect a lot of women at some point in their lives.

If you suffer from it, counseling may be very beneficial. How you see sexual activity is discussed in individual or couple therapy. By going to therapy together, you and your partner can learn more about each other’s sexual wants and needs. It will also deal with any problems with other people or general stress that are making it hard for you to orgasm. You could return to enjoying your sexual life anytime soon if you take care of these underlying issues.

That said, orgasmic disorder can result from physical issues, so it’s important to talk to your therapist and doctor to get proper treatment. 

 

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

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Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

 

Sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction (commonly known as “ED”) is a form of psychotherapy that helps men (and their partners) address the psychological and emotional factors that are contributing to the ED. 

This type of sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction can include individual therapy or couples counseling and may involve a variety of techniques. 

Additionally, it is important to consider the psychological and emotional impact of ED on individuals and their partners. This can include feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem, which can impact the individual’s quality of life and relationship satisfaction. In these cases, it may be helpful to seek out counseling or therapy to address these underlying emotional issues.

A sexual therapist for erectile dysfunction can help the couple to identify any emotional or relationship issues that may be contributing to the ED, including yet not limited to cultural context, sexual orientation, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or unresolved conflicts. If you can’t get into the mood because you are stressed out, sex therapy may help you. 

Be mindful that the type of ED concerns you have can vary, yet sex therapy can help a variety of guys. Do you struggle with self-doubt, anxiety, and insecurity in the bedroom? If you cannot keep it up during a steamy session, it makes sense that you would want more support.

Some people come to sex therapy because their partners have incredibly high expectations, which can cause performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you are constantly worrying about your partner’s satisfaction only, you aren’t going to have successful intimate moments in partnered sex.

Finally, some people have sex therapy and ED concerns because of past trauma. Feeling triggered during an intimate event is something that many don’t want to experience. Therefore, they seek out sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction.

 

The main reasons someone may come to sex therapy, other than erectile dysfunction: 

  • To address issues with sexual identity or orientation: 🏳️‍🌈
  • To overcome sexual dysfunction or discomfort: 🤕
  • To improve communication and intimacy in their sexual relationship: 💬
  • To explore and understand their own sexual desires and preferences: 🧐
  • To address past trauma related to sexual experiences: 💔

 

A therapist can also teach the couple communication and intimacy skills to improve their sexual relationship.

It’s important to note that sexual therapy is used in conjunction with other treatments for ED such as tantra, kink, somatic experiences, or sensate focus techniques. 

Therapists skillset and client needs can vary greatly from person to person and is influenced by a range of factors such as culture, religion, and personal values. A qualified sex therapist can help individuals and couples address these needs in a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential environment.

Seeking professional help as soon as possible can help you understand the underlying cause of ED and get the appropriate care.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

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Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌 Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

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 Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

People often ask can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I am here to tell you that erectile dysfunction has a cure and treated successfully.

The specific treatment that is most appropriate for an individual is dependent on the underlying cause of their erectile dysfunction (ED). 

In many cases, you can improve your ED with lifestyle changes, such as cardio exercise, balanced eating – no fatty foods that affect cholesterol and quitting smoking. 

Making lifestyle changes is not easy, yet it is one way to answer: can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

Please, consult with a healthcare provider to determine the best treatment plan for you. 

For some, medications [sildenafil – Viagra, vardenafil – Levitra, and tadalafil – Cialis] are effective in treating ED. Yet, for others this is not a possibility. Learn the best way to manage your ED by learning what is happening in your body. 

Get comfortable with touching your skin, the largest organ full of sensation so that you can awaken a full-body type of orgasmic experience.

Yet in other cases, erectile dysfunction does not have a cure, because it is a more serious underlying condition. 

 

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Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Solutions for Valentine’s Day

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Erectile dysfunction and Valentine’s Day can be a hard problem. Valentine’s Day – celebrated on February 14th – is dedicated to expressing love and affection to those that are important to us. 

Today, we are going to talk about things to do instead of focusing on your erectile dysfunction for Valentine’s day.  

Here are a few ideas for Valentine’s Day to do instead of having sex, 

  1. Valentines Crafts: Provide some ideas to your partner for DIY Valentines, such as homemade wreaths and decor for the home. Erotic energy is also creative energy!
  2. Read traditions: What are the origins of Valentine’s Day customs around the world! Some people really enjoy the story and this is such a great distraction from erectile dysfunction on the holiday. 
  3. Gift ideas: Share some thoughtful gift ideas with your significant other, such as massage coupons, a romantic getaway, or a special piece of art you make together.
  4. Date night ideas: Offer suggestions for unique date night ideas, such as a cooking class, a cheese tasting, or an escape room. Don’t focus on intimacy. 

Remember to keep your partner in mind while you customize your plans for Valentine’s Day to be relevant and interesting. Also… keep in mind that Valentine’s Day is not the only day to be gracious and caring for your partner. In long-lasting relationships that have high levels of sexual satisfaction, these individuals report celebrating their love daily.

How to Prevent Erectile Dysfunction? 

There are things to do to work on your erectile dysfunction, yet wait until Valentine’s Day and the pressure is over. 

Making small, long-lasting adjustments is an integral part of enhancing general health.

To reduce your risk of ED, consider the following:

  • Medical condition management,
  • Reduce stress,
  • Exercise about 4x/week,
  • Keep your weight where you feel most comfortable, 
  • Eat balanced meals (not just fatty foods)
  • Seek help if experiencing anxiety or depression,
  • Stop drinking and smoking! 

In Conclusion 

Sometimes it’s hard to be honest about your struggles with erectile disorders. 

However, seeing a doctor is essential if you cannot get or maintain an erection. Your symptoms might not be related to ED yet a medical thing! Your doctor can do several procedures to rule out or confirm the presence of any of other disorders.

Although dealing with ED symptoms can be unpleasant and even shameful, numerous services are available to help. 

All adults have the right to enjoy sex, and a few bumps on the road doesn’t mean your penis is broken. It happens to more men than you think and there is a solution for most cases. 

Sometimes, if you are struggling with ED, you are putting so much pressure on your penis. 

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

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Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

Although most couples in our culture are monogamous, consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is on the rise. Monogamy means that once you are engaged, you do not have romantic or sexual interactions with anyone else. Yet, we know that around one-fifth of the population engages in non-monogamous relationships at some time in their life.

You can practice consensual non-monogamy in various ways; one of the most important is an honest and open dialogue between partners. Partnerships that aren’t monogamous yet are morally acceptable include polyamory, open relationships, and swinging.


Let’s take a closer look at consensual non monogamy, its types, and how to start practicing CNM. 

What is Consensual Non-Monogamy? 

The phrase “consensual non monogamy” is an umbrella term, meaning its broad definition encompasses various individual connection types. A relationship may exhibit consensual non-monogamy, or CNM, in multiple ways, from entailing simply romantic relationships to purely sexual relationships, or both romantic and sexual. One person may behave outside the boundaries of the partnership or even both parties.

The fact that both partners agree to whatever kind of consensual non-monogamy is used in the partnership distinguishes it from infidelity. The partner does not agree to cheat. Because you and your partner have already decided to practice non-monogamy, CNM is not considered cheating.

There are numerous good reasons to prefer a non-monogamous relationship structure, including:

  • Being able to explore sexuality,
  • Understanding that one relationship doesn’t satisfy all your needs,
  • You want to give love and affection to more than one person. 

Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

Everyone spends a certain amount of time dating before settling down with “the one.” Meeting the one at a young age is a rarity, yet it does happen. So many people have to keep looking before they meet someone they click with. Some people may keep dating even after discovering someone they can settle down with.

Everyone participating in a non-monogamous relationship must agree to its structure to be considered consensual. One of the most common misunderstandings about non-monogamy is that cheating on a spouse or partner is a license. Consensual non-monogamy, on the other hand, is fundamentally distinct from cheating because of its emphasis on consent, openness, and honesty. Contrarily, cheating is a severe breach of trust.

How to Practice CNM

Consensual non-monogamy, like any other relationship, thrives based on mutual understanding, respect, and trust. Everyone should know what they’re getting into and provide their complete, informed permission before entering into a relationship. Practicing CNM is similar to being in any relationship, except for setting initial boundaries, expectations, and wants.

These tips might make it easier for you to maintain fulfilled relationship(s):

  • The two of you have settled on a list of dos and don’ts for your relationship.
  • Transparency is essential.
  • Have respect for your partners’ emotions and talk about them.
  • A primary partner is possible in CNM if you want one. 
  • Non-hierarchical connections are an option to consider. 
  • Expect highs and lows, just like in any relationship you have had. 
  • Jealousy is completely normal, and it’s okay to feel it. 

Consensual Non-Monogamy Examples

It doesn’t work to generalize consensual non-monogamous relationships. Different types of relationships range from  romantic to sexual to platonic feelings between partners. Let’s go through some of the most common types of CNM relationships that I see below.

Polyamory

The idea of love is vital to polyamory, yet instead of being limited to a single partner, it is shared in many forms among many individuals. Friendships might be seen as polyamorous since we often cultivate close bonds with several people at once. Persons who practice polyamory are like those with more than one relationship because they satisfy their emotional demands in this way. Polyamory is not exclusively practiced by any one sexual orientation, although bisexuals and heteroflexibles seem to embrace it the most.

Hierarchy in Polyamory: the Primary/Secondary Model

Primary and secondary exclusive non-monogamous relationships vary primarily because both partners can have sexual and/or emotional connections with others. The passionate commitment to the principal partner in a non-monogamous relationship is equivalent to that to the only partner in a monogamous relationship.

Individuals in CNM relationships tend to be satisfied inside the partnership, yet research has shown that a deep bond with one primary partner might diminish happiness in secondary relationships.

Closed V

Picture three persons, one on each of the letter V’s vertical sides. The other persons in the V are only linked to the person at the bottom. As a result, a closed V involves a single individual having love ties to two others who are not linked.

Throuple/Quad

A throuple or quad consists of three persons, or four people in the case of a quadruple, who are romantically or sexually associated with one another, as opposed to the closed V, in which only one person is romantically involved with two others.

Monogamish

These hybrid monogamous/polyamorous couples share characteristics of both types of relationships. It often works because, at some point in time, one or both parties will decide to introduce a third party into the relationship. In most cases, this is done to gratify sexual desires rather than form meaningful bonds with others.

Because of this, firmly attached persons are more likely to have a sense of emotional safety and contentment in their closest personal connections. They may relax in a relationship or be independent if they choose.

Swingers

Whether single or in a committed relationship, you may participate in swinging, also known as wife-swapping, husband-swapping, or partner-swapping. Swinging is an open, non-monogamous relationship. Reasons vary for why people decide to adopt a swinging lifestyle. According to proponents, both the quality and amount of sexual activity improve. Swinging is a form of sexual experimentation that may appeal to those bored with or seeking variation in their sexual life. Swinging is a positive way to release stress and enhance bonds by some couples.

Kinksters

A kinkster is someone who engages in sexual behavior that deviates from the conventions of their society. It comes from the word “kink,” which in the context of sex means any sexual activity other than “norm” of heterosexual, cisgender missionary with the goal of having children.

People who prefer BDSM and those who engage in polyamory are most likely to identify as kinksters, yet it can extend far more broadly to persons with fetishes and other wants (e.g., pet play, role play, leather, etc.).

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Kink Ideas You Will Want to Apply In Your Everyday Life

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Kink Ideas You Will Want to Apply In Your Everyday Life

 

Many couples often fantasize about spicing things up in the bedroom or outside of it, yet they feel clueless when looking for kink ideas. What is kink? How kinky should you and your partner be? These are all the questions that newbies think about when exploring this new exciting world.  

Regardless of your kink experience, this article will inspire you to play harder and more often with your sexual partner(s). Find out what experienced kink couples suggest to new members of the kink community. Before diving into these ideas, let’s look at what kink is. 

What Is Kink?

With its broad definition of “non-normative” sexual acts that go beyond customary or accepted sexual behaviors, the term “kink” is often used to describe these practices. However, kink encompasses a wide range of activities outside BDSM, known as an acronym for bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. Anything from role-playing to using blindfolds and feathery props to having a threesome might be considered kink. The most important guideline is to talk openly with your partner about what it is about kink that turns you on and what you feel comfortable doing if you both enjoy kinky sex.

Kink is a collection of enjoyable behaviors that individuals choose to partake in with one another yet which are uncommon or unappealing in other settings. Another name for it is BDSM, a catch-all phrase for any actions, thoughts, or situations involving a pleasant power transfer and acknowledging that one individual has more influence on another. The partners agree in advance on what they will do. It could entail restriction, physical restraint, sensory deprivation, discomfort, humiliation, or being reprimanded. All the things that would often be terrible might feel exciting in kink. It’s something that many people simply imagine.

Often, non-kinky or non-kinky objects are referred to as “vanilla” things. It’s just not kink; vanilla isn’t dull or worse than kink. The term “kink” is even sometimes used liberally to describe everything else outside of a monogamous sexual relationship, although that might not always be the case. The focus of kink in this article is mainly on BDSM-related activities.

1. Watch a Kinky Movie Together

According to the experts, seeing a movie with a kink aspect might be a fantastic place to gain some ideas if you’re not ready to delve in. Don’t make it porno, though. In porn, BDSM is used in various genuinely nasty and dangerous ways.

Considering that not everybody in the kink community approves of the way BDSM is depicted in the movie, the experts also do not advise 50 Shades of Grey. Play The Secretary on Netflix instead, or become sexy researchers who search kinky movies together and discover something exciting to watch.

2. Get Inspired by a Blindfold or a Tie. 

You may have a scarf or a tie lying around your bedroom. Tying one on takes away one of your primary sensations, which amplifies the intensity of the other senses—touch, taste, smell, and sound—for you or your spouse. You may enjoy yourself differently by doing this. A power imbalance is further emphasized by the blindfold, which places your companion at your mercy. How sexy is that?

3. Play Gently Restrained.

Using belts, ties, and scarves can also be a simple, unthreatening technique to practice restraint (a.k.a. bondage). In reality, testing it out is as easy as securing someone’s hands with a bandana or scarf.

A beginner’s kink kit is also available; it contains items like fuzzy handcuffs and blindfolds. In addition to things like a feather on a stick for sensation play or a soft flogger for spanking, most sex shops offer beginner’s packages that will be more than enough for you to relish in the kink world. 

4. Visit a Sexual Dungeon.

Before you freak out, the experts endorse BDSM dungeons as a terrific spot to watch kinky sex from a distance. Beginner lessons are available in several local dungeons where you may practice spanking and knotting ropes. Additionally, this is a fantastic location to pick up some kink safety advice.

However, if the name “dungeon” turns you off, try out the kink workshops your neighborhood sex-positive sex shop offers to learn some kinky tricks in the open air. That might also help you observe the variety of kinks and see which ones seem exciting and which are a big NO for you.

5. Let the Spanking Begin.

A surprisingly private method to enter kink is via spanking. Because of its tactile nature and close skin contact, it may indeed be a bonding activity. However, there is also a transfer of power. A gentle touch with a hand swat or a soft, padded flogger from your local sex-positive shop can help you get comfortable.

6. Enjoy Dress-Up Games.

Costumes may be a fun way to get kinky, whether your fantasy is a silk French maid uniform, a sexy police outfit studded with leather, or a fuzzy animal print catsuit. Tell your partner that you’d like to play with clothing and see how you feel about role-playing. If you don’t know what to wear, it’s a great way to make your partner’s fantasy come true. A math teacher? A hot girl from a recent action movie? A heroine from his favorite comic book? Go for it!

Is Kink for You? 

These kink ideas might be for you, and they might not be. Kink is not for everyone, and that’s completely okay. Some people choose to engage in activities only with partners who share negligible power.

The perception that we should constantly expand and push ourselves to achieve more is often untrue. For instance, just because you and your partner have started practicing kink doesn’t mean you can rebuild intimacy or solve other issues in your relationship. Due to BDSM being performed without consent during sex, many people are completely turned off to it.

Most people struggle to grasp that what they enjoy sexually may be off to others and that what they find repulsive may be their ultimate happiness.

Ultimately it’s up to you whether you want to give it a shot or not. If you do, make sure you only try out things you and your partner are excited about!

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How To Have Sex During Your Period

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How To Have Sex During Your Period

 

Learning how to have sex during your period is easier than you think. More importantly, there is no scientific evidence that having sex during your period is harmful to your health in any way. Some women even report that having sex with their partner during a period brings them several benefits, with deeper orgasms being one of them. 

Keep in mind that you can get pregnant during your period. Also, having sex while you’re menstruating will not eliminate the possibility of getting a sexually transmitted infection (STIs), so it’s recommendable to practice safe sex. 

Period Sex Benefits

We’ve already mentioned above that sex while menstruating brings many physiological benefits. Orgasms tend to relieve menstrual cramps because of contracting and releasing the uterine muscles. Due to that movement, muscle tension can be significantly reduced during the period. Not to mention that having sex will trigger endorphins, which remove the focus of any pain and discomfort you might feel in your body.   

Also, these muscle contractions will help clear the uterus contents leading to a shorter period, however, there is still no scientific evidence for this, although many women swear it’s true. Besides the ease of menstrual cramps, sexual activity can even help with headaches, which is assumed to be related to endorphins. 

Let’s not forget another important aspect of period sex which is lubrication. Many women have vaginas dry, so the menstrual flow can serve as a natural lubricant. That will make sex more pleasant for both you and your sex partner as you don’t have to stop with sexual activity to apply the lube. 

Practicing Safe Sex

Regardless of your menstruation, you should always practice safe sex. Even with all the benefits of having sex during your menstruation, you cannot simply ignore the risk of sexually transmitted infections, such as hepatitis or HIV. Such viruses can spread easily when in contact with the infected person’s blood, making menstruation the perfect situation for the virus to spread. 

To ensure you’re practicing safe sex and still getting as much pleasure as possible, use condoms during sex to be safe from catching or spreading an STI.

Avoid Heavy Days

It will greatly depend on your menstrual flow, however, some women will experience a more intense flow during the first few days of their period. If you are among them, choose lighter days for sexual activities. If the heavier flow doesn’t affect you or your partner in any way, there is no reason not to have sex during the first days of your period. 

Prepare Towels and Tissues

If this will be your first time having sex during your period, make sure you put some towels under to protect your bed sheets and mattress. You might even have a lighter flow that day, yet the sexual activity will probably get some blood around, so have towels and tissues nearby to wipe yourself after sex. 

Sex In The Shower

If you feel uncomfortable having sex during your period on your bed, you can try sex in the shower. The water will wash away the menstrual flow and allow you to change things a bit if you’re both bored of the old-fashioned missionary position in the bed. This option is great for everyone who will be trying to have sex during the period for the first time and once they feel comfortable with it, they can continue trying all the positions they want without worrying about pain or discomfort. 

Rethink Foreplay

While menstruating, you and your partner might want to avoid using your hands as it can be messy due to the blood, however, if it doesn’t bother you, just go for it. If you wish to play with your partner before the sexual activity, you should consider vibrators or any sex toys that might set the mood for both of you. If you’re looking for a quickie, your period days are perfect for it because you already have a natural lube so your partner can easily penetrate and give you the pleasure you deserve. 

What About Oral Sex?

If you’re a big fan of oral sex, you can practice it without any problems during your period. Think about using a menstrual cup, tampon, or contraceptive sponge to decrease the leakage. If you decide to do it in the shower, you will probably not need any of these things, yet keep in mind that sometimes things can get pretty steamy, so make sure you don’t forget about putting a condom before penetration.

Have a Talk First

As much as having sex during your period is completely normal and there is no reason for avoiding it during these days, make sure your partner is okay with it. Let them know you’re having your period and that you don’t mind a few drops of blood to enjoy good sex with them. Typically, most people don’t have any issues with having period sex, however, your sex partner might be terrified of blood, so seeing it during sex might not produce the results you need. 

Ask them openly have practice period sex and if they liked it. Luckily, there are so many ways to enjoy sex during your period, it will not be difficult to find one that both you and your partner will love.  

In Final Words

Once you start practicing it, you will discover a completely different dimension of sexual pleasures and orgasms and you will be impatiently waiting for your next period to enjoy it all over again. While practicing it, make sure you’re not having menstrual cramps as it will be difficult to relax and enjoy sex with your partner. Before going into any sexual activity, take a moment to see how you feel and if there are no obstacles or concerns from your end, go and have the best sex of your life!

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Freaky Couples Goals

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Freaky Couples Goals

 

If you’re thinking about spicing up things in the bedroom, have you ever wondered what is on the freaky couples goals list? We have, and we wanted to share them with you. It’s time to act wild and fun by setting up a playful relationship goal.

Every relationship needs a little bit of a freaky couples goals to aim towards, yet only some couples can maintain it. That only indicates that setting realistic relationship objectives is always necessary, even if they are not required. Here is everything you need to consider to add to your freaky plans for your relationship to blossom sexually.

What are Freaky Couples’ Goals? 

Have you ever found a partner that makes you feel good, is enjoyable to be with, and who, just by being in their presence, brings out the best in you? Think of these freaky goals as crazy, sexy, and curious expectations you and your partner decide to research further. Before we spill the beans, let’s look at what is considered freaky regarding couples’ goals.

The definition of an unusual relationship is doing wild, nasty, yet valuable things in a relationship. Vibe partnerships refer to freaky relationships that are vibrant, joyful, and entertaining despite engaging in highly unusual and bizarre activities.

It’s time to go from taking relationships seriously daily to having bizarre relationship objectives. Sometimes we focus on the essential things that occasionally do not constantly improve a relationship and pay little to no attention to the simple things that support a partnership.

We overlook that many fragile relationships lack the vital elements that seem less significant. Why stay in a constantly severe relationship when you and your spouse may engage in wild and fun activities while maintaining a solid bond superior to that of other people?

1. Sex in the Wardrobe

When there is a perfectly decent bed available, why choose the little closet or cupboard beneath the stairs? Mainly because you have to try out fresh stances and angles. It forces you to devise creative methods to achieve orgasm to do it someplace less liberating than a bed, such as a car, a tent, or a restroom. And the more ways you practice, the more familiar you’ll get with your body, making orgasms more straightforward. Don’t do this if your home has a built-in closet. When two people are having sex, furniture tends to shift, and if it collapses with the doors down while you are inside it, you may be trapped for a very long time!

2. Hair Brushing Your Bodies

Another commonplace item that also functions admirably as a sex toy is the hair brush. Before contacting each other, skin to skin, you may use a hairbrush to make the nerve endings ready. Green advises getting undressed and gently brushing his body. Start from the feet and legs, then massage the arms, shoulders, and chest. Work on the thighs and abdomen last, concluding with his testicles. That excites every inch of his skin, causing hell to erupt with pleasure as you explore your entire body with your fingers, tongue, and lips after throwing the hairbrush across the room. 

3. Tasting Toes

Tasting toes is gross for some people; for others, it’s bliss. Unless you have a foot fetish, our feet may not seem like the sexiest body part, yet some sections are extremely sensitive to touch. Consider how much you like massaging your feet because these nerve endings are sensitive to the touch.

4. Synchronized Breathing

You relate heavy breathing with sexual arousal for a reason: breathing is indissolubly linked to sexual stimulation and orgasm! Blood pumps to your genitalia as your body gets ready for sex, and your nerve endings go into red alert because you start lacking oxygen. There are two benefits to matching your breathing pattern to that of your man. It helps you concentrate on your breathing. You’re more likely to inhale profoundly and fill your lungs. That helps in the diffusion of feelings rather than their localization. Second, depending on your respiration rates, you’re more likely to be in sync sexually at comparable excitement levels. For instance, it can assist slow the reaction if one partner is in front of the other.

5. Nose Diving 

There is an urban legend linking a guy’s nose size to the size of his penis. However, we believe there is some merit to the notion that a man with a somewhat large nose can be fantastic in bed. Why? Considering that it is the ideal clitoral stimulation! The perfect stimulus is a nose since it is firm without being overly so, stimulating the whole clitoral region and surrounding tissue. Men often use the tip of their tongue or finger for cunnilingus, yet sticking their noses within will trigger more erotic nerve endings.

6. Wheelbarrow

The wheelbarrow is one of several nearly difficult sex positions worth attempting. It is an excellent position when your boyfriend is too quick to the climax. He will not arrive immediately with all his work to keep you waiting. Of course, you’re working hard, so how about your orgasm? The woman lays her arm and chest on the bed, and I like to suggest a twist on the wheelbarrow. She may then unwind a little and relish the nipple stimulation as her partner thrusts back and forth and lifts her bottom and thighs.

In Final Words

We hope you have found one or two ideas for a freaky night with your partner. Ensure you bring these ideas with them to hear how they feel. Your partner might also come up with some steamy, sexy ideas that will blow your mind in bed – and around it.

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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A Parent’s Guide On Teenagers Sex Education

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A Parent’s Guide On Teenagers Sex Education

 

As a parent, your responsibility is to prepare your child for adulthood as much as possible, including teenagers sex education. After all, it’s completely normal for your teenager to have many questions and a lot of thoughts about sex education, so it’s vital to approach this topic maturely. Even allow your child to ask you everything that’s on their mind and respond to them without shame!

Keep in mind that teens who have frequent and open conversations with their parents about sex will more likely step into sexual activities when they are older. Similarly, they will be protecting themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when they become sexually active. 

If you wish to be the biggest influence in your teenager’s decisions about sex, you should start planning these conversations and make sure they feel comfortable enough to come to you with their questions as well. 

Prepare Yourself

In all honesty, accepting that your teenagers sex education at school won’t be enough and it’s on you is not easy. As parents, we often continue seeing them as too vulnerable for the real world, and that’s why you need to prepare yourself if you wish to avoid confusing your teen even more. 

What are your personal values and beliefs about sex? What is something that you want to share with your teen? 

Ask yourself about what you have learned from your first sexual experiences and which mistakes you would wish they avoid making. 

If this conversation is uncomfortable for you, make sure you are well prepared and see a sex therapist or sex educator first.

Include in your conversation information about protections such as birth control and condoms, STIs, and everything else that might be important for them. 

Think about this as the first step to building a mature relationship with your teen where you will start discussing topics you never have before. 

Start the Sex Talk First

It would be really good if you would be the one starting this conversation so you can dedicate your full attention to it. They might ask you some questions before you decide to sit with them and have the ‘big talk’, yet make sure you start it first as it will show you are open to discussing this topic and you’d love to hear your teen’s view on it. 

Make sure you have chosen a day where both you and your kid have enough time to dedicate to this conversation. When you’re ready, start the conversation casually and try to not make a big deal out of it. Remember, you should make this conversation about teenagers sex education the least uncomfortable that it can be for them. So, being uptight about it will not help at all! 

Guiding the Conversation

Your teen will probably have a few questions for you as well. Try to respond to your teenager accurately and straightforwardly. For instance, if they ask for a proper age to start having sexual relations, try not to get too philosophical about it. 

Instead, provide them with statistics in different countries, and then add your personal opinion if they want to know it. Literally, ask them “do you want to hear my opinions on this too, or just the statistics?” This models consent for your teenagers, which is so important when it comes to sex education. 

Keep in mind that your teenagers will form their own opinion about sex education as they go through life, so it’s vital to give them all information ahead of time. 

If you personally feel uncomfortable sharing some of your sexual experiences with your child, you can talk about it in the third person. If your teen asks a question you don’t know how to answer, be honest and invite them to look for that information together. 

Common Misconceptions Teens Have About Sex

When talking with your teenager, they will maybe share with you one or two of the common misconceptions teens have about sex. For instance, they might think that sex will make them appear more grown. 

Be supportive and offer alternative ways that might show them what it is like to be mature and responsible in their friends’ eyes. For instance, they can get a summer job or volunteer or start creating a YouTube channel.

If they want to have sex just because all of their friends are doing it, you can focus on things that make them unique and stand out from the crowd! 

Explain that not following every step their friends make is a good sign, and that they should start having sex when they feel desire. Teach them about healthy solo sex and look up websites like scarleteen.com, instead of having them compare to what their friends are doing. Also, make them aware that many lie about their sexual experiences and that on average, teenagers in the United States are having partnered sex at a later and later age. 

If they are in a relationship and they want to feel closer to their partner, ask about their motives behind it. For example, many teenagers will have sex because of fear of losing that person or being seen as “prude.” Teach your teenagers that there are many ways to show you love someone and sexual pleasure is more than just genitals touching. Also, share that consent is what matters most, and without it, it isn’t enjoyable, will not improve relationships, and will cause an impact. 

Safe Sex

As a parent, it’s your responsibility to inform your teen of sexually transmitted infections, unwanted pregnancy, and any other consequences having unprotected sex can have for them. You don’t have to be a teenagers sex education expert to help your teen avoid these consequences; howeer, make sure you motivate them to learn about safe sex. 

Make sure they know they have to use protection once they start having sexual relations. Talk to them about pregnancy and how it changes life for a young person, so they are aware of all the outcomes of unprotected penetrative penis-vagina sex. Let them know that sexually transmitted infections happen from various partnered sexual acts. Also, make your teenagers aware that they are not alone in partnered sex, and their decisions on partnered sex involves another’s desires and preferences.

Conclusion

Your teenagers sex education will happen, one way or another. 

It’s best if you can be their source of information and help them shape their opinion on sex, so that porn doesn’t affect their sexual life later. Don’t assume they know something just because you do, or because it was online. Really, check your own biases, because this builds trust and connection. Allow your teenagers to ask you whatever they need and encourage them to start the sex talk at any time. 

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Couple’s Sex Toys: The Gift That Keeps Giving

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If you’re in a relationship, finding a few couple’s sex toys this holiday season is where it is at! Interestingly it’s a small investment that brings incredible benefits to your sexual wellness. If you’re assuming you know all there is to know, then please comment and give some ideas! 

We spend hundreds of dollars on a treadmill, a new juicer. Or anything else we believe that might benefit us in any way. So why not do the same when it comes to pleasure? Regardless of what you’re looking for in bed. You will find a toy that can help turn fantasies into a reality. 

Many toys out there have a diverse use, so you can truly make the most of them and start experimenting with different types of sexual pleasure during the season. 

To help you make the right choice, you will find the best couple’s sex toys on the market and tips on how to use them for maximum fun!

#1 Magic Wand Original

How can you expect to do some between-the-sheets magic without a magic wand? Many are saying it is their favorite vibrator, and what’s even more surprising is that this Hitachi Magic Wand has been on the market for over 50 years. It has two speeds, low and high, and is a great option for different pleasurable uses for both women and men. 

The Magic Wand Original comes with a 2.5-inch soft head and is completely bendable. All you have to do is to choose between the two speeds and this magic wand will help you relieve any type of stress you might have. With your partner, you can use its good vibrations to heat up the things between you two and give each other the sensations of your lifetime.

#2 We-Vibe Sync

This vibrator prouds itself to be the number one vibrator for couples. We-Vibe Sync is a cuff-shaped vibrator, and its top is shaped like a pancake ensuring it stimulates the clitoral part and a smaller vibrator that stimulates the G-spot while the couple is having sex.

The great thing about it is that the cuff will stay in the desired position preventing the device from slipping in and out during sex. If you and your partner are looking for sex toys that can be used in a pool or ocean, you’ll definitely want We-Vibe Sync as it’s completely waterproof. 

#3 We-Vibe Couples Massager

If you prefer stimulation over penetration, you will love the We-Vibe Couples Massager! It’s created to bring a lot of clitoral stimulation to partners with a vagina. The reason why this toy is so popular with heterosexual couples is that it can be used at any moment before, during, and even after sex. 

You can use it as a tool for foreplay, yet it can be perfect once you and your partner have both achieved orgasm, and you wish to start the second round. Nothing will get you going like a good, stimulative sex toy that both of you can use.

#4 Vesper Necklace

Okay, you will probably not be encouraged to walk around with the sex toy you and your partner just bought, right? What if that sex toy seemed like an elegant piece of jewelry hanging around your neck? Vesper Necklace is such a sex toy you’ll love to wear. And it can also serve as a great conversation starter with new people. 

Choose between three colors and three suggestive phrases to be engraved on the necklace for a more personalized touch. And, once the vibrations of this beauty kick in. You and your sexual partner can drop any conversation you were having and go straight into the action.

 

#5 Trojan Vibrating Fingertip Personal Massager

If you enjoy the sensation of vibration, yet would prefer avoiding toys that are created for penetration, this toy is the right choice for you. The famous preservative company Trojan has designed an exciting vibrating fingertip massager that will go beyond your lover’s touch. With it, the couples can enjoy the boost of high-sensory titillation while at the same time staying connected. 

Its simple design allows you to create layers of excitement with just your hand going from one part of your partner’s body to another. Including the erogenous zone and genitals. This personal massager is perfect for foreplay and during sex as it creates a complete explosion of pleasure!

#6 Starsi Silicone Rechargeable Waterproof Vibrator By Cute Little Fuckers

This is truly a unisex toy, as it can be used by anybody. Any gender, and orientation, and on any part of the body. This interesting sex toy can be used over the nipples, vulva, penis, neck. Or anywhere else where you think there will be beneficial and provide pleasure to you or your partner. 

Based on the idea that our entire bodies are covered in nerve endings, this little star will blow your mind. As it touches your skin and moves around with your partner guiding it, it’s awesome. Explore each other’s bodies and find an erogenous zone where you never thought it exists.

#7 Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrating Cock Ring

If you’re into sex toys, you have probably already tried one of the rings on the market. However, there is nothing like this little rabbit. It will add stimulation during sex with your partner. And because of the base of the vibrating part, it brings incredible clitoris stimulation.

With its bunny ears, this sex toy definitely has some charm you’ll need to explore further. What’s interesting to most couples is that this ring can be used with a remote. So the partner who is wearing it can control the buzz of the ring. 

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Does Sex Relieve Stress: What Do Experts Say?

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Sex and stress are connected in many ways, however, does sex relieve stress? When a particularly stressful week or two saps our sex drive—or when we successfully utilize sex to reduce stress—the majority of us instinctively know this and feel it unambiguously. These instincts are supported by scientific research.

Stress and anxiety can be reduced by sex by releasing “feel good” hormones like oxytocin. These hormones aid in promoting calm and reducing anxiety.

Sex increases hormone levels and other brain chemicals and it lowers stress hormone levels.

Ways Sex Relieves Stress

Your body can relax during orgasm and produce many hormones that are beneficial to your general health and well-being. Similar to this, sex can increase dopamine, a neurotransmitter that is commonly referred to as the “feel-good chemical” since it amplifies positive emotions.

  • Increased Oxytocin. Because it is released during physical contacts, such as during affectionate caressing and sex between adult couples, as well as during pregnancy, birth, and lactation, oxytocin is referred to as the “love hormone.”
  • Increased Endorphins. Although endorphins are neurotransmitters, which are released during sexual activity, as well as other physical activity, such as running, and in response to pain. They can lower stress and elevate mood, much like oxytocin.
  • Reduced cortisol. The sexual activity appears to lower levels of adrenaline and cortisol, also referred to as “stress hormones,” just as it might increase chemicals with favorable benefits. 

Benefits of Sex on Your Health

Sex provides a lot of additional significant health advantages in addition to flooding your body with hormones that can help you feel less stressed, anxious, and worried. Numerous other aspects of sex help deal more efficiently with stress management.

Improves Your Mood

Positive distractions like sex can help you put anxious thoughts out of your head. In turn, this can lift one’s spirits both now and in the future. For instance, a study of married couples discovered that having sex was linked to feeling well the next day at work.

It is also found that stress and conflict in the workplace-family environment decreased the likelihood of sex. If you often have conflicts between your personal and professional lives, you might want to be aware of this.

You might question if sex, which improves mood, might also help manage depressive symptoms. Since both depression symptoms and therapies can contribute to a decrease in libido, the connection between sex and depression is complicated.

Better Brain Function

Sex may assist in keeping your mind sharp in addition to benefiting your body and mood. According to studies, older persons who had sex more regularly performed better on memory tests.

Strengthens the Relationship

Additionally, having sex deepens the intimacy you experience with your spouse, which lowers stress and elevates your mood. People tend to manage stress better, live longer, and have better overall health when they have a supportive social outlet, which may include a solid personal relationship.

Improves Sleep

According to research, sexual activity helps people sleep better. Specifically, having sex may make it easier for you to nod off and improve the quality of your sleep. Once more, hormones might be involved. Both sexual activity and better sleep are related to raised levels of oxytocin, prolactin, and cortisol, which can surge after an orgasm.

Improves Heart Health

Sex may also assist your heart health, which is another perk. Most research suggests that men who have sex twice a week are less likely to acquire the cardiovascular disease. Having sex should be safe as long as you can exercise without experiencing any heart issues for three to five metabolic equivalents (METs). These equivalents are a unit of measurement used to calculate the energy needed to complete an activity.

Improves Fertility

Experts have demonstrated that ejaculating frequently lessens sperm harm. They hypothesize that this occurs because there is a greater likelihood of DNA damage the longer sperm remains in the testes.

Solo Sex Benefits

Sex doesn’t have to happen between two people to enjoy its health benefits. Masturbation enables people to access an incredible wealth of sensations, information, and ultimately, benefits that go beyond an orgasm. After all, most of the reactions in your body that occur during sex with another person will appear when you are masturbating as well. So, if you heard from someone or somewhere that masturbation is bad for you, here is another reason to tell them otherwise. 

These are just some of the many benefits of masturbation:

  • releases sexual tension
  • reduces stress
  • helps you improve sleep quality
  • improves your self-esteem and body image
  • helps treat a range of sexual problems
  • relieves menstrual cramps and muscle tension
  • strengthens muscle tone in the pelvic and anal areas

Masturbation also enables you to discover your sexual preferences. How would you like to be touched? How much pressure is comfortable? What speed or tempo? Learning to have orgasms on your own can make it simpler to do so with a partner since you can describe or demonstrate the pleasurable sensations to them. And, you are more likely to feel comfortable protecting yourself from STDs and unexpected pregnancy when comfortable with sex, your body, and communicating with your partner.

Some people experience guilt after masturbating because they learn as children that it is wrong or bad. Try to keep in mind that most people masturbate if you feel that way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and it is quite normal. If you struggle to overcome guilt feelings, speaking with a counselor or therapist may be helpful.

Conclusion

You probably aren’t surprised to learn that having sex feels nice and helps relieve stress. Since it has so many advantages, knowing more about how and why sex can relieve stress might give you a few more reasons to engage in it.

It’s critical to concentrate on stress management if it’s affecting your ability to have or enjoy sex with your partner or your connection with them. That could entail individual or couple’s counseling, where you can develop a stronger bond and discover constructive methods to deal with stress and conflict.

 

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Shibari Rope – Tied Up Sex for Beginners

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If you’re searching for shibari rope and learning about tied up sex for beginners on Google, you’re not alone. 

While some couples are dedicated to discovering the best sex toys for couples. Or even the most incredible sex toys period—others choose shibari rope bondage as a method to spice things up in the bedroom. 

Shibari rope bondage has been a common theme in erotic literature and art for centuries. Yet why is servitude so appealing? Well, there are many causes. While being blindfolded heightens the senses in the rest of the body, playing around with constraints can provide a thrilling adrenaline rush. Consider all the times you’ve slept off during a massage; it must have felt wonderful.

You and your partner have certainly tried a few sex tricks and ideas. How can you bring something that brings to mind twisted rope, leather fetish gear, and gimp masks into your sex lives? Continue reading for our beginner’s guide to bondage and let’s explore together the world of tied-up sex.

Ask and give consent. 

Although consent is as crucial in vanilla sex, we frequently grow accustomed to it to the point where we either forget to ask for it or excitedly provide it. However, in BDSM, you deviate from the set pattern. You and your partner must communicate frequently and clearly to ensure that everything you’re doing is safe and enjoyable since experimenting with bondage or another non-vanilla play is different from the kind of sex we’re used to seeing in the movies or on TV.

How is it possible to be completely willing while also being someone’s sex slave? How can you be both down for it and desire to get spanked, beaten, or punished? How does the person with whom you are having kinky sex know where the boundaries are? How do you express a yes or a no?

Have an escape plan. 

Although you and your partner have talked about all you wish to try in the bondage sex and things you want to avoid, there is still a need for an escape plan. You have to have a safe word or safe signal that will show your partner that you either want to fully stop or slow down. 

Some people use the color terms for communication in tied-up sex. 

For instance, yellow for slowing things down and red for stopping completely. 

If you’re tied up and you cannot speak, you can have something in your hand and drop it when you want to stop. You can also agree on certain movements to demonstrate you are not enjoying the bondage games as much as you’d like to. 

Be Clear on Each Other’s Mindset

Both of you will need to feel good about the role. If you’re the submissive one and your partner the dominant one, you should both be responsible in your roles. The dominant partner must be especially responsible, as they are controlling the situation. The submissive partner should trust them and know they are reliable in such scenarios. 

A partner who is tying up the other partner should be certain of their actions yet not controlling. This will allow the submissive partner to relax and enjoy the sex even more. And, the best way to ensure you’re both ready for your roles is to talk about it before it happens. 

Keep Learning

There is so much you can learn about tied-up sex, bondage, BDSM, and fetishes if you’re into it. Don’t think that one hard-core sex is enough to satisfy both of your needs if vanilla sex is no longer doing it for you. There are so many variations you can try out. From role-playing to different tools and toys that might help you improve your sexual life. 

You can find different sources online that can teach you how to make your BDSM side alive and satisfied. With plenty of online courses, books, blogs, and forums, you will have no issues finding interesting ideas that you’ll be eager to try out with your partner in the bedroom. 

Pre-Sex Tips

You shouldn’t start your first bondage experience with a close acquaintance, according to experts. So, even if you met them through one of the top dating websites on the internet, brand-new Tinder dates and anyone you just met online are out.

Because they don’t know how to bring up bondage with their partner, many people are discouraged from trying it out. Obtain some erotic literature or even a movie to enjoy in the privacy of your own house. Before even considering items like tools and clothing, it is the first step. Instill the idea that you might want to give it a try in your partner’s head.

Couples that can be completely honest tend to stay together and have the most fulfilling relationships. One of them might respond, “I would love to explore role-play,” if they feel comfortable enough to ask, “Let’s explore what you enjoy.” This creates an entire world of new possibilities waiting for you two to explore them. 

The best way to make something less intimidating is to offer to do it first. For example, you could say, “I’m going to wear a blindfold tonight. I’ve got this great idea. I want to try you massaging me while I’m wearing the blindfold,” and then after you’ve done it, tell them how awesome it was. 

In Final Words

Be safe; respect one another, be serious about one another, yet have fun! 

You are not doing shibari rope correctly if you are not enjoying your time in the bedroom. 

Things might seem a bit weird at the beginning as you’re doing it for the first time, yet have patience and be open-minded. 

You decided to try shibari rope out, so why not give it some time? 

Try it a few times, and explore different positions and scenarios. Talk about it with your partner before and after you have a sensual scene, to be on the same page when learning what you like and don’t like. 

If you treat shibari rope as an experience in which you can learn so much about yourself and your partner(s). You will easily find what works best for you and have fun along the way. 

 

Are you ready to learn more and unlock a more satisfying experience?

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.