Grief Symptoms, Causes & Types

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Grief Symptoms, Causes & Types

 

If you notice a few grief symptoms, it probably means that you’ve lost someone or something very valuable in your life recently. Grief refers to learning to live with loss. Besides losing someone close to you, losing a house, divorce, and death are all significant life events that also cause grief. 

As much as it’s true that every person experiences sorrow differently, there are certain typical reactions that you may find helpful to identify if you’ve experienced a loss. Patience is crucial when navigating this challenging period, whether you’re grieving over a loved one or providing assistance.

 

What Is Grief?

Regardless of whether a person’s grief comes from the death of a loved one or from receiving a terminal diagnosis, it is a powerful and often overwhelming emotion. You might feel numb and disconnected from daily life as a result of the loss, which will make it challenging for you to carry out your regular tasks.

That said, it’s important to be aware of the fact that grief is completely normal and expected on such occasions. After all, grief is a normal response to loss. Bereavement is a shared and individual experience. The type of loss has an impact on how each person grieves. Common examples of events that cause grief are losing a loved one, ending a significant relationship, losing a job, suffering a theft, or losing mobility due to an accident or an unfortunate event. 

Other grieving examples include the loss of: 

  • A home or community
  • Financial stability
  • A goal
  • Youth
  • Fertility

 

If you’re experiencing grief symptoms, you can expect different stages of mourning. Keep in mind that you shouldn’t and probably won’t be able to impact your grieving process. There are many healthy ways to deal with your grief, such as talking to others about situations that cause considerable emotional pain or the emotions you are experiencing on a daily basis.

A person may mourn for months or even years. In most cases, grief lessens with time as you learn to live without the person or thing you have lost, accept the fact that you are unable to change the past and start making room in your life for healing. 

 

Grief Symptoms

Loss and grief can cause a wide range of symptoms in different people. What they are feeling is neither good nor wrong. However, sometimes we need help to navigate those emotions so we can complete our other responsibilities and eventually end the grieving process once we’re ready. 

When it comes to common grief symptoms, these are mentioned:

  • Void, ache, and/or pain in your stomach
  • Tightness or heaviness in your chest or neck
  • Oversensitivity to sounds
  • Breathing difficulties
  • Numbness
  • Weakness or exhaustion
  • Dry mouth
  • Changes in appetite
  • Sleeping issues 

 

Five Stages of Grief

In her book On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross outlines the five phases of grieving. Despite its 1969 publication, this is still the most well-recognized source of knowledge about the mourning process. Kubler-Ross conducted interviews with more than 200 terminally ill patients for her book. Through these talks, she was able to pinpoint five typical phases that people go through as they come to terms with their imminent mortality.

These are the five stages we use today to better understand the grieving process: 

  1. Denial: It is difficult for you to accept the loss and you don’t want to admit that this event happened in your life.  
  2. Anger: You might feel that you’re angry at God, at others who failed to save what you’ve lost, at yourself, or even at no one in particular.
  3. Bargaining: To avoid coping with a loss, you can envision coming to an arrangement. You could also feel remorse for certain actions that you believe could have prevented loss.
  4. Depression: Emotional detachment is one of the complicated feelings that are linked to depression.
  5. Acceptance: With time, you will be able to accept the loss and find a way to continue with your daily activities, accepting that the event changed you and that you’re accepting the pain it comes with. 

 

Types of Grief

There are several ways that bereavement can be felt. The various forms of grief illustrate the complexity and variety of grief.

 

Anticipatory Grief

Grieving in anticipation of a loss means starting the grieving process before it happens. For instance, finding out that you or a loved one has a fatal illness may cause you to start mourning. Grief processing in advance might help you be ready to accept the loss when it happens. However, it’s crucial to remember that grief shouldn’t keep you from savoring the limited time you have.

 

Short-term Grief

There are moments when you can get over your grief very fast. This is the situation with a shorter period of grieving. Abbreviated grief may occasionally follow anticipatory grief. Because you’ve already used a lot of emotional energy anticipating the loss, you may grieve it more swiftly. It’s not a sign that you never cared about what you lost if you were just grieving briefly.

 

Delayed Grief

After a loss, you don’t feel the grief-related emotions right away. You might experience them days, weeks, or even months later. Sometimes, your body takes a while to process these feelings because of the shock of the loss. Or perhaps your body can’t grieve until you’ve taken care of the practical issues that come with loss, such as funerals and wills, because you’re too occupied with them.

 

Repressed Grief

Inhibited mourning is the suppression of feelings. Most of us haven’t received any instruction on identifying or handling the complex feelings that might surface throughout the mourning process. Because of this, many people suppress their emotions without realizing it. 

 

Accumulated Grief

When you experience cumulative grief, you process several losses at once. You’re not only grieving the death of a child, for instance. You’re mourning the breakup of a marriage that came after that tragedy. Grieving many losses at once adds unanticipated complexity and difficulty to the process.

 

Collective Grief

Though most of us consider grieving personal, communal sadness often occurs among communities. Significant occurrences like pandemics, natural catastrophes, school shootings, and conflicts cause wide-ranging losses that alter the definition of “normal” living. We mourn the common experiences we have lost as a community while finding it difficult to envision a different future.

 

Final Words

It’s not necessary for you to experience grief on your own. You might rather talk to a therapist in person or online, seek an online support group with members who’ve experienced the same as you, or read books on this topic. Whatever works for you, stick to it. This is your grieving process, and what works for others might not work for you. Just keep in mind that help is always there when you are ready to accept it. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Self-Esteem vs Self-Confidence: What’s the Difference?

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Self-Esteem vs Self-Confidence: What’s the Difference?

 

When it comes to self-esteem vs self-confidence, we’re all guilty of sometimes confusing these two terms and thinking they mean exactly the same. However, self-esteem and self-confidence are not synonyms, although they are very similar. 

For you to understand the difference, we will examine these two terms. You will not be confused for long once you understand what self-esteem and confidence are, and it can also help you better understand those around you.

 

What Is Self-Esteem? 

Your self-esteem is your level of self-worth and appreciation. It also includes your life experiences and relationships with other people, shaping and altering your sense of self-worth.

Self-esteem, as the term suggests, is about how we estimate or value ourselves. It’s a concept deeply rooted in our feelings, ideas, and actions. The term ‘estimate’ (aestimare) originates from Latin and means ‘to appraise, value, rate, or estimate.’ Understanding this origin can enhance your knowledge and appreciation of the concept of self-esteem.

Strong self-esteem is a powerful attribute. It liberates individuals from the need for external validation, such as money or prestige. It fosters acceptance of oneself and others, encourages risk tolerance, and opens doors to new experiences. This understanding can inspire and motivate you to nurture your own self-esteem. 

 

What Is Self Confidence? 

The term “self-confidence” describes the assurance we possess in particular areas of our lives. It is our conviction that we can accomplish our objectives and overcome obstacles. Unlike self-esteem, self-confidence is more outwardly focused and frequently easier to develop. 

Since knowledge and experience are the sources of confidence, our confidence level increases with our level of experience. The term “confidence” is derived from the Latin word, which means “to trust.” In other words, one has to have faith in their own abilities and their capacity to interact with others to be self-assured. 

Successful experiences usually result in increased self-confidence, which increases self-confidence in those domains even more. Most people, however, rely more on their self-confidence than on improving their self-esteem to be happy. The issue with this is that, unless we rise to a new challenge, our success is usually fleeting. 

 

Impacts of Low Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

Low self-confidence or self-esteem are common problems for many people. For some, it just affects certain circumstances, while for others, it can be crippling or limiting.

If you lack these qualities, individual unpleasant or disappointing events might negatively impact your self-esteem or confidence. This might lead to a vicious loop of self-fulfilling prophecies, discouraging you from attempting them because of your pessimistic outlook on the future. Of course, this produces unsatisfactory results.

For example, if you lack confidence in yourself and receive negative feedback from your boss, you may think, “What else can I expect? I am stupid. This experience proves it, so I may as well give up.”

If you feel good about yourself and get negative feedback from your superior, you could ask yourself, “Where did I go wrong? I’ll research it so that I can improve next time.” You don’t feel less of a person despite your disappointment with the poor evaluation.

 

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

Luckily, there are many ways to improve your self-esteem and self-confidence. After all, these two terms have a great impact on all areas of your life, so it’s in your interest to improve them. 

 

Start with Self-acceptance

Regardless of the circumstances, feeling better about yourself and other people is facilitated by increasing your self-acceptance.

We all make mistakes, and accepting them can make your life a lot easier. By engaging in self-acceptance exercises, you can:

  • Acknowledge that making mistakes is a vital part of learning 
  • Consider how you could approach challenges differently or change your approach to get different results.
  • Review your actions and try to change them without self-blame.

 

Learn More about Yourself

Pay attention to the situations or ideas that make you feel more or less confident or good about yourself. Be honest and list all your accomplishments, big and small. Once you are used to celebrating small wins, you will feel more confident and encouraged to tackle bigger projects. Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, and accomplishments helps. 

Consider that you are the only person with you 24/7. As you are beginning to learn more about yourself, focus on your own growth – which is something you are actually in control of. This means considering your goals and the aspects you would like to enhance or modify.

 

Challenge Your Thinking Patterns

When describing oneself to others or to yourself, be mindful of the words you use. We frequently show others more generosity and kindness than we do ourselves.

Acknowledge and confront your inner critic and try to convert them into your friend, not your enemy. After all, our inner critic is trying to protect us from negative experiences, and acknowledging its function allows you to become friends with it.  

Pay attention to the messages that help you respect who you are, and ignore the ones that doubt your worth or capacity. Use affirmations and constructive self-talk to rewire your brain every day, wherever you are.

 

Make Positive Changes in Your Life

To boost your confidence and sense of self-worth, you could decide to make some adjustments in your life. Consider the things you can change to feel better about yourself. For instance, you could wish to change your career, relationships, education, or acquire new skills.

Create a strategy that will entail specific objectives you want to achieve. Also, provide a timeline so you don’t feel stressed about this strategy of positive change. If it feels overwhelming for you, divide the objective into actionable steps and add them to your calendar. That can save you time and energy and keep you accountable at all times. 

 

Final Words

Whether you have low self-esteem or self-confidence, accepting that you’ve got the power to change it is crucial. As people, we’re all different, and we have unique experiences in life that can result in lower self-esteem or self-confidence. However, there are many ways for you to change that and start living a more confident, richer life! 

If you continue to struggle with boosting your self-esteem or self-confidence, consider reaching out to a therapist and working on it with them. Therapists can help you acquire a valuable set of techniques for this area and discover what is causing your low self-esteem or self-confidence. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Help with Menopause Crazy Behavior

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Help with Menopause Crazy Behavior

 

If you’re a woman, you’ve probably heard someone talking about menopause crazy behavior, and if you’re in your 30s or 40s, you might feel confused about its meaning. We wanted to do some more research on how menopause affects women before deciding what is crazy and what isn’t. 

There is little discussion of menopause, which is unavoidable for aging cis women. Even if you ask young women, most of them will not know what to expect when that time comes. Read on if you are a woman curious about menopause or has just entered it and wants to know if your symptoms are common.

What Is Menopause? 

A woman enters menopause twelve months following her last menstrual cycle. The menopausal transition, also known as perimenopause, is the period before that happens when women may have hot flashes, irregular monthly cycles, or other symptoms.

The onset of menopause typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55. This period of time can range from 7-14 years. The length of time may vary depending on lifestyle choices, including smoking, age at onset, and race/ethnicity. The ovaries produce the hormones progesterone and estrogen, which the body produces in varying amounts during perimenopause.

Every woman experiences the menopausal transition differently and in different ways. Women may acquire weight more quickly, and their bodies use energy differently and in various ways in fat cells. Your physical function, body composition, and structure, as well as your heart or bones, may all alter.

Stages of Menopause

Menopause is the natural end to menstruation. There are three stages of menopause that you’ll need to be aware of to be able to tell them apart.

Perimenopause

Your ovaries progressively start to generate less estrogen eight to ten years before menopause, which is when perimenopause starts. It generally begins in your 40s. The final year or two of perimenopause is when estrogen begins to decline. Many women may be experiencing menopausal symptoms at this point. However, you can still become pregnant during this period and still have menstrual cycles.

Menopause

When you reach menopause, your menstrual cycles stop. Your ovaries have finished generating the majority of their estrogen and are no longer releasing eggs at this point. When you have missed your monthly cycle for 12 months in a row, a medical professional will diagnose you with menopause.

Postmenopause

This is the term used to describe the period following a year without a period. Menopausal symptoms, such as hot flashes, may improve during this phase. Nonetheless, a decade or more after the menopause transition, some women still have menopausal symptoms. People in the postmenopausal period are more susceptible to several health issues, including osteoporosis and heart disease, due to a decreased level of estrogen in their bodies.

Menopause Symptoms

If you start to have some or all of the following symptoms, you could be entering menopause:

  • Hot flashes (a sudden sense of warmth that spreads across your body)
  • Chills and/or flashes of cold
  • Dryness of the vaginal walls 
  • Pain during intercourse
  • Urinary urgency
  • Sleep problems
  • Emotional changes 
  • Chapped lips, eyes, or skin
  • Soreness in the breasts
  • Abnormally heavy, light, or irregular periods

Some women might also experience:

  • Heart palpitations
  • Headaches
  • Pain in the muscles and joints
  • Sex desire changes
  • Concentration issues
  • Memory loss
  • Weight gain
  • Thinning or loss of hair

Changes in your hormone levels bring on these symptoms. While some people experience minor menopausal symptoms, others may experience severe symptoms. Not every person going through menopause will experience the same symptoms. 

Contact a healthcare provider that specializes in menopause. There are different boards depending on what country you live in. If you are in the United States, check them out. 

Why Do I Feel Like This? 

In menopause and perimenopause, varying emotions are common. Changing progesterone and estrogen levels cause many changes in your life like mood swings, insomnia, and hot flashes.

Your ability to sleep may suffer, libido problems may negatively impact your sexual life, and vaginal dryness may make things seem unpleasant. You could think you’re insane because of all these changes, yet we’re here to reassure you that you’re not. Hormonal changes happen! You don’t have to suffer and you can reach out to a longevity specialist. 

Hormone fluctuations occur throughout perimenopause and diminish during menopause, which can lead to abrupt and inexplicable mood swings or seemingly insane behavior. You could think you’re going crazy if you experience increased levels of impatience, anxiety, or melancholy, yet there’s no reason to freak out.

Menopause is a natural aspect of aging for all women, and it brings with it a host of mental and emotional changes that can cause disruptions to day-to-day activities. You should be aware that you are not experiencing menopausal symptoms alone, since around 75% of women encounter emotional issues during this time.

The Bottom Line

Your progesterone and estrogen levels vary during perimenopause and drop sharply during menopause. Due to low hormone levels affecting mood-regulating neurotransmitters, mood swings are common.

Hot flashes, which exacerbate tiredness and irritation and make it hard to fall asleep, are another effect of a fall in estrogen. Without enough sleep, as we all know, everything feels worse, and our emotional stamina is at its lowest.

While most women do not experience severe depression or anxiety after menopause, it is normal for them to have modest mood changes, irritability, and a lack of energy. Additionally, women who have had anxiety or depression in the past are more likely to encounter severe emotional symptoms throughout menopause.

If you’re struggling with your menopause symptoms or have any questions related to them, reach out to your doctor. If you’re noticing mood swings and are not able to function due to emotional bursts, you should consider reaching out to a therapist, as there might be other issues you need to address and work on. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

When to Seek Help for Anxiety & How to Do It

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When to Seek Help for Anxiety & How to Do It 

 

If you’ve been wondering when to seek help for anxiety, it probably means you’ve been experiencing certain symptoms for a while and are considering reaching out for support. As with any mental health challenge, professional guidance can be crucial in managing daily difficulties and uncertainties.

 

What Is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a complex reaction to perceived or actual threats, manifesting in behavioral, physiological, and cognitive changes. The brain releases adrenaline in response to these threats, triggering the fight-or-flight response. This can occur in social situations or during significant life events. Sometimes, anxiety symptoms can persist long after the initial stressor, leading to physical symptoms like nausea or high blood pressure. Understanding when to seek help for anxiety is crucial in distinguishing between normal worry and an anxiety disorder.

 

Treatment Options

If you’re unsure when to seek help for anxiety, consider whether your symptoms are affecting your daily life. Consulting with a primary care physician is a good first step. They can identify any potential underlying medical conditions contributing to your anxiety. For more severe cases, a mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist or psychotherapist, can provide specialized care. These professionals are skilled in diagnosing anxiety and offering effective treatment options.

 

Psychotherapy

In psychotherapy, a therapist works with you to reduce anxiety symptoms. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is particularly effective, teaching methods to manage symptoms and gradually face anxiety-inducing situations. Knowing when to seek help for anxiety can guide you in finding a therapist who specializes in CBT or other relevant therapies.

 

Medications

Medications can be useful depending on the type of anxiety disorder and any co-occurring conditions. Discussing the benefits and potential side effects with your doctor will help determine if this is an appropriate option for you.

 

Relaxation Techniques

Stress can exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Techniques such as mindfulness, deep breathing, and progressive muscle relaxation can help manage stress and anxiety. Recognizing when to seek help for anxiety can involve exploring these techniques to see if they alleviate your symptoms.

 

How to Find Help for Anxiety

Finding the right therapist is a crucial step in managing anxiety. Research potential therapists, consider your therapy goals, and assess your budget and insurance coverage. Personal recommendations can also be valuable, but ensure the therapist’s approach aligns with your specific needs.

By understanding when to seek help for anxiety and exploring the available options, you can take proactive steps toward managing your mental health and improving your quality of life.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Anxiety Counselor: What Is It & How Do They Help?

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Anxiety Counselor: What Is It & How Do They Help?

 

If you’re struggling with anxiety, a general therapist might not be the best choice for you, and you should consider seeing someone who specializes as an anxiety counselor. After all, having anxiety is very different from having depression or experiencing difficulties in certain areas, so having a therapist who is skilled in treating anxiety can be very helpful.

If you or someone close to you is struggling with anxiety. Make sure you read this article as we share what you can expect from seeing an anxiety counselor and how they can help you feel better. 

 

What Is Anxiety?

It’s normal to feel anxious in life occasionally. On the other hand, people with anxiety disorders frequently experience intense, overwhelming, and persistent concern and panic regarding routine events. Panic attacks, which are abrupt, intense emotions of fear or terror that peak in a matter of minutes, are a common feature of anxiety disorders.

These uncontrollably intense, out-of-proportion-to-the-real-danger emotions cause disruptions to everyday tasks and can last for extended periods. You could steer clear of certain areas or circumstances to stop these emotions. The onset of symptoms can occur in infancy or adolescence and persist throughout maturity.

Generalized anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, particular phobias, and social anxiety disorder (sometimes known as social phobia) are a few types of anxiety disorders. Anxiety disorders can coexist in you. Anxiety can occasionally be the outcome of a disease that requires medical attention.

 

Therapy for Anxiety

You don’t have to live with anxiety and dread, whether you’re experiencing panic attacks, obsessive thoughts, constant worries, or an overwhelming phobia. Therapy is frequently the best course of action for many anxiety disorders, and treatment can be helpful. This is because, in contrast to anxiety medications, anxiety treatment addresses the root cause of the issue as well as its symptoms. 

Finding the root reasons for your anxieties and phobias, learning how to unwind, adopting a more positive outlook on life, and improving your coping and problem-solving abilities are all possible with the support of therapy. Therapy teaches you how to use these techniques and provides you with the means to overcome anxiety.

Since anxiety disorders vary widely, treatment should be customized to your unique symptoms and diagnosis. For example, you will receive a different course of therapy if you have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) than if you are experiencing anxiety attacks. The kind and degree of your anxiety problem will also determine how long therapy takes. Nonetheless, a lot of anxiety treatments are only temporary.

Although there are many other kinds of treatment used to address anxiety, exposure therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) are the most popular methods. Any anxiety treatment can be used on its own or in conjunction with other forms of treatment. Individual or group therapy for those with comparable anxiety disorders might be used for anxiety treatment. However, the objective remains the same: to reduce your anxiety, relax, and face your anxieties.

 

How Can an Anxiety Counselor Help You?

Notwithstanding their licensure or number of clinical hours, not all counselors provide the same services or possess the same experience. If two counselors work exclusively with anxiety. For example, one may provide cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) while the other would solely do exposure treatment. Therefore, it might be helpful to explore treatment modalities, specialties, and strategies before choosing a counselor. 

Finding mental health practitioners who work in these fields after researching different kinds you might be interested in for your specific symptoms could be a useful place to start. You may also get in touch with an anxiety-focused counselor to find out which method they think will work best for your circumstances.

Experience does not always correlate with a field’s licensing and training requirements. A counselor with years of expertise in treating anxiety may be able to help various clients by drawing on what they have observed to be effective in the past. However, because they have recently finished school, newer providers may also be conversant with more sophisticated treatments as they often supervise more seasoned specialists. 

 

I’ve Found My Anxiety Counselor, Now What?

Some mental health providers may limit their client interactions to in-person sessions. On the other hand, many counselors now only or mostly provide text, phone, or video sessions. These virtual formats could be more pleasant for those who suffer from anxiety and might also be more practical for people who reside in remote places or have difficulty finding a suitable provider nearby. 

To help you decide, you may evaluate online and in-person counselors’ availability and testimonials. 

Prepare a short list of questions to ask possible therapists to learn more about them and see if they are a good fit for you. A lot of providers will offer a short email consultation before the first session to answer any questions you may have. Here are some examples of questions you could ask: 

  • Are you working with clients who struggle with anxiety?
  • Do you have experience treating symptoms similar to mine? 
  • What do the people you work with do to control their anxiety?

 

Conclusion

It’s a common misconception that treatment will make you feel better immediately. Sometimes, this might be the case, yet more often, therapy requires time. However, you frequently have worsening symptoms before improving ones. Interestingly, feeling worse is often a sign of getting better, which makes sense when you think about it.

When you decide to go to therapy, it is usually because you have not been able to deal with your anxiety on your own. As you go through therapy, you will learn more about what is making you anxious. The process will not always feel pleasant, yet in the end, it will be helpful.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Work Stress Therapy: A Path to Managing Work Stress More Efficiently 

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Work Stress Therapy: A Path to Managing Work Stress More Efficiently 

 

We spend so many hours working that it is not surprising that more people are interested in work-stress therapy. Feeling good about your work environment can be challenging when you have a lot of responsibilities and obstacles. 

Mental health professionals say that people who work in stressful places or who get stressed out a lot at work have chronic stress. Having a lot of stress in your life can have long-term effects on your physical and mental health. 

Discover methods that can stop some stressful events from happening and how work stress therapy can help you handle the stress you experience at work.

 

What Causes Stress at Work? 

Stress at work is affecting workers’ health and happiness, as well as the efficiency of businesses around the world. Work-related stress happens when someone has to deal with too many demands at work.

Various situations can result from work stress. A person may feel pressured by their work when their demands—such as long hours or heavy workloads—beyond their capacity. Unexpected changes, disagreements with coworkers or superiors, and threats to job security, such as potential layoffs, can also cause stress at work.

When talking about symptoms of work stress, these are the most common ones: 

  • constant or frequent fatigue
  • muscular tension
  • headaches
  • heart palpitations
  • sleeping difficulties
  • gastrointestinal issues 
  • anxiety and negative thoughts
  • irritability

 

What is Work-Stress Therapy?

Seeking professional help from a therapist is a must when someone is stress level gets so high that it is hurting their mental health. Too often, people do not care about treatment. After all, how can a therapist make their office feel different? That is not what the treatment is meant to do, though. Therapists help people deal with stress in a healthy way, which is good for their mental health.

There are different types of therapy that can help you manage your work stress, depending on the therapist you choose, your needs, and your specific situation.

 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) aims to treat a range of mental and behavioral health issues. Counselors using cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) assist patients in seeing the strong links that exist between their ideas, emotions, and actions. The first step in creating techniques to manage negative thoughts and emotions, lessen the stress they produce, and curtail any resulting harmful actions is to recognize what negative thoughts and feelings are.

 

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

Many mental health professionals advise using DBT, a type of stress reduction, in addition to more conventional therapies like CBT. While DBT doesn’t “cure” stress, it does improve coping mechanisms like emotion regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness. People with long-term mood disorders and eating disorders are among those who use this method to get better. DBT therapists help clients with work stress therapy by incorporating mindfulness into their daily lives, which makes a big difference in the quality of their lives. 

Although these two approaches are the most common in treating work stress, other therapy approaches that can be beneficial are psychoanalytic therapy, EMDR, or sometimes medication. 

 

Other Ways to Cope with Work Stress

Besides therapy, there are other things you can try to help alleviate stress and feel more relaxed at work. Knowing how much impact work has on our private lives as well makes it even more necessary to approach stress the right way.

It is important to keep track of your medical visits because stress has been associated with certain medical conditions. Making an appointment with your healthcare provider will assist in ruling out any potential medical issues that could be causing your symptoms. Additionally, your doctor can help you create a healthier diet and recommend avoiding coffee as a way to manage stress.

Try mindfulness exercises like meditation through classes or applications. Studies have indicated that these techniques, many of which are straightforward enough for you to include in your workday, might help lessen the anxiety symptoms that may accompany work-related stress.

Discussing your job stress with your boss might be beneficial, especially if you have the help of a therapist, to see if you two can come up with any solutions. Speak with an HR specialist as well, if there is one at your place of employment. You can involve HR if you think that harassment or discrimination at work is the cause of your stress. You can also ask union resources for assistance if you’re a member of one.

Consider adding rewarding activities to your everyday life and reducing your body’s stress reaction by engaging in the visual, performing, and creative arts. Maintaining interests outside of work may also be a helpful reminder that life is more than just your job.

Lastly, consider spending more time in nature. Going for long walks in nature and exploring new parks, mountains, or woods can help you feel more relaxed, grounded, and connected with your surroundings. The sun, fresh air, and movement are three things that can help you improve your mood and make you feel relaxed almost immediately. If your work is stressful, aim to walk every day for at least 20 minutes. 

 

Conclusion

If you believe you are experiencing stress at work, you should get adequate help. It’s easy to believe that the emotion will pass or that everyone experiences it in the same way, yet ignoring it and not addressing it can only make you feel worse. Work should normally make you feel happy, especially when you spend so much time there. You ought to be content and pleased with your accomplishments.

Everyone will inevitably experience unpleasant days where they feel worn out and uninspired. However, if you carry these feelings with you every day, they will eventually get to you. Long-term stress may have a negative impact on your life, both psychologically and physically. 

Seeking a good therapist and prioritizing your mental health are crucial to managing stress. The sooner you start working on it, the sooner you will feel better. Don’t forget that by taking care of yourself, you become a better partner, mother, daughter, and friend, as you’ll have more energy and capacity for everyone around you. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

How To Convince Someone To Go To Therapy With You

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How To Convince Someone To Go To Therapy With You

 

If you’re in a relationship or a marriage, you have experienced the good and the bad and might be wondering how to convince someone to go to therapy with you. No relationship is perfect, and it requires a lot of communication to understand each other’s needs and wants, so talking to someone who might guide you both to become the couple you want to be could be the solution you need.

If your partner or spouse doesn’t feel as strongly about the benefits of therapy as you do, give them some time. In the meantime, do your best to share everything they will get from sessions and work with you on strengthening your union.

 

The Power of Couples Therapy

Marital therapy, couples counseling, and couples therapy are other names for couples therapy. It’s a form of family therapy that can help examine why two individuals disagree. This kind of relationship therapy also emphasizes communication skill improvement for a romantic relationship to recover and flourish. Marital counseling or couples therapy may have numerous advantages when two people are committed to it. It may play a crucial role in establishing a partnership based on trust, respect, and concern for one another.

The advantages of relationship therapy can vary depending on the pair seeking assistance. The greater the level of commitment both you and your partner are prepared to make to your relationship, the more likely it is to succeed.

Having someone you both trust is essential when looking for a competent couples therapist. After hearing what you both say, your therapist may provide frank, fair, and impartial comments. Hearing what someone else says about our relationship gives us a fresh perspective. That impartial third person can hear all sides and provide you with insightful comments and suggestions on different areas of your relationship or marriage. 

 

How to Convince Your Partner/Spouse to Go to Therapy with You

If you’re certain that you want to try therapy, yet your partner doesn’t agree, be patient. There are certain things you can do to help your partner understand how therapy can make your relationship and your individual lives better. 

 

  • Ask Them Why

Before judging or encouraging your partner to try couples therapy with you, ask them for their reasons. Why don’t they like therapy? Are they afraid of something? What do they think might happen? Understanding why your partner doesn’t consider couples therapy a good idea might help you understand each other better. Once you know their reasons, it will be much easier to know your options.

 

  • Share Your Reasons

Oftentimes, your partner might assume that by going to therapy, you’re expressing your unhappiness about the relationship. Explain to them the real reasons why you think therapy would benefit your relationship. For instance, you might want to feel closer to them, work on setting boundaries that would work for both of you, or look to solve a recurring argument in a relationship.

 

  • Connect with a Couple That Goes to Therapy

Do you have a friend who went to or is going to couples therapy with their partner? If they are willing to share that experience, this might show your partner that it’s not at all as they imagined it. Also, if they hear from someone else about the numerous benefits of couples therapy, it might be more effective. 

 

  • Talk about Boundaries

When trying a new thing, especially as a couple, it’s important to establish boundaries. Your partner might feel insecure about certain topics or areas of their life, so respecting their needs is essential before going into therapy. Allow them to gain trust in your therapist first. They might need more time than you to open up about certain things, yet once they feel secure enough, they will feel more open to the idea of sharing more vulnerable experiences or thoughts.

 

  • Test the Idea

Explain to your partner or spouse that you can try different therapists before you commit to the one you both like. Not only that, you can get them to be more interested in couples therapy if you tell them that this doesn’t have to be a commitment at all. Suggest trying one session and seeing how they feel about it. With a good therapist, they will probably want to give it another shot before you start going to therapy regularly. 

 

  • Find the Common Objective

Besides sharing your reasons why you want to try couples or marriage therapy, also try to focus on the common goal. For instance, if you’re engaged, you can tell your partner that you want to be even more intimate with them as you’re approaching marriage. Or, you might want to start working on some issues before you go on a longer vacation together. Framing the idea of therapy as a tool to enjoy something that matters to you both might improve the chances of your partner actually going to therapy with you. 

 

  • Know When to Quit

If your partner is certain that they don’t want to go to therapy even after trying all these suggestions from our list, respect it. Maybe it’s not the right time for them to do therapy. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t open up this subject with them in a few months. Be mindful of how your partner feels, and instead of forcing a solution, try to be more supportive. 

 

Conclusion

There is no doubt that any relationship can benefit from therapy, even the one that ended. However, we are not all aware of the benefits that couples or marriage therapy can bring to our relationships. If your partner or spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy, talk to them about it. Ask them about their reasons and think about ways you can make them feel more comfortable with that suggestion. Also, if you’re not in therapy and are only considering couples therapy, think about finding a therapist for yourself and working on improving your mental and emotional health. In the end, there are so many things we can give to ourselves without expecting to receive them from someone else!

 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Effective Strategies for Preventing Burnout in the Workplace

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Effective Strategies for Preventing Burnout in the Workplace

 

In today’s work environment, preventing burnout in the workplace has become increasingly crucial. The rise in employee burnout across various industries, particularly in the tech sector, highlights the need for effective strategies to manage and prevent this issue. Understanding and implementing these strategies can significantly enhance employee well-being and productivity.

 

What Is Employee Burnout?

Employee burnout refers to a state of physical or emotional exhaustion, often accompanied by feelings of emptiness and helplessness. While not classified as a medical condition, burnout can lead to or exacerbate mental health issues such as anxiety or depression. Recognizing the symptoms of burnout, such as frequent headaches, fatigue, and lack of motivation, is essential for early intervention and recovery.

 

Strategies for Preventing Burnout in the Workplace

  1. Seek Employee Feedback

Regularly soliciting feedback from employees is a key strategy for preventing burnout in the workplace. Engaging with team members helps identify potential issues before they escalate into burnout. Addressing concerns promptly and ensuring employees feel heard can prevent dissatisfaction and reduce the risk of burnout.

  1. Be Mindful of Workload

Managing employee workload is crucial for preventing burnout. Overworked employees are at higher risk of burnout, so it’s important to ensure that workloads are manageable and align with each employee’s capacity. Monitoring performance and being proactive in adjusting workloads can help maintain a healthy work environment.

  1. Provide Flexible Scheduling

Flexible scheduling is another effective approach to preventing burnout in the workplace. Allowing employees to design their own work schedules can enhance job satisfaction and reduce stress. Flexibility helps employees balance their personal and professional lives, leading to lower burnout rates.

  1. Implement a Good PTO Policy

A robust paid time off (PTO) policy is essential for preventing burnout. Encouraging employees to take their allotted PTO helps them recharge and return to work with renewed energy. Cultivating a workplace culture that values and supports time off can significantly impact employee well-being.

 

In Conclusion

Preventing burnout in the workplace is essential for maintaining a productive and healthy work environment. By implementing strategies such as seeking employee feedback, managing workloads, offering flexible scheduling, and promoting a good PTO policy, companies can create a supportive atmosphere that reduces burnout and fosters overall employee satisfaction.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Harmonizing Minds: How Music Helps Mental Health

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Harmonizing Minds: How Music Helps Mental Health

 

If you’ve ever listened to music and noticed you feel better as soon as your favorite song comes on. You might have wondered how music helps mental health. Whether it’s listening to music that reminds you of certain times or certain somebody, to cheer you up. Or to allow you to connect with your other emotions. Music is a powerful tool that can have a great impact on how you feel.

According to recent studies, listening to music influences our cultural and personal identities and affects how we feel. Let’s take a look at how music can improve your mental health.

 

Why Music Is Important to Us

If one language could be used worldwide, it would be music. It has the power to take us elsewhere, enable us to relive memorable events. Improve our health and happiness, and enhance our sense of community and family ties.

It’s well established that music enhances mental health and life satisfaction. Young children may communicate through sound and movement through music, providing a creative and healthy avenue for self-expression for people of all ages.

Our relationship with music is particularly personal since we are complex human beings from a wide range of cultures with diverse life experiences and physical and mental health demands. Our connection with music may be a highly delicate, fragile, and frequently complex dance that changes every minute depending on our feelings, tastes, social context, and past experiences. 

There are ways in which listening to music can immediately and visibly improve our well-being:

  • Using a calming playlist to facilitate the transition to sleep,
  • Using lively dance music to inspire yourself to work out or feel better in general,
  • Facilitating self-expression through singing, 
  • Connecting with others during a live performance.

 

Music & Healing

Musical interactions between babies and their caretakers may develop a baby’s attention span and social awareness from birth. Musical interactions also provide social benefits for toddlers and preschoolers; however, their area of influence also extends to other children and instructors.

As children grow into teenagers and adults, they engage with others in a community of listeners and players through music. Music aids our understanding of people’s thoughts and emotions. Out of all the groups in our culture, students who play in the school band or orchestra have the lowest rates of alcohol, tobacco, and illegal drug use, both in the present and over the long term. 

Listening to music influences our cultural and personal identities and affects our feelings. Serious mental health and drug use issues can also be treated with music therapy, as it can help people take a deeper look into their emotions and understand what caused them to feel a certain way. 

Apart from its therapeutic qualities, music can enhance the message of diversity and inclusivity by exposing individuals to different cultures and giving voice to underrepresented groups, thereby improving our comprehension and admiration of many societies.

 

Ways Music Can Help Mental Health

Music may be a powerful tool of transformation, even though there isn’t one miraculous song, optimal intervention, or ideal genre to make life’s difficult things easier.

 

  • Trauma Healing

It has been demonstrated that music therapy may offer a secure and encouraging setting for trauma healing and resilience development, as well as lowering anxiety and enhancing depressed people’s functioning. Utilizing music to achieve health and educational objectives, such as enhancing mental well-being, lowering stress levels, and easing pain, is known as music therapy. It is an evidence-based therapeutic intervention. 

Hospitals and schools are two places where you will be able to find therapy in the form of music. Participating in music-making activities, including creating songs, drumming circles, or group singing, has helped emotional release, encouraged introspection, and fostered community.

 

  • Social Connection

Additionally, music can unite people and foster social support by tearing down barriers and bridging gaps. There is growing evidence that music can foster social connectivity, improve prosocial conduct, and foster emotional competency. Communities may use choirs, music education programs, and music programs’ intrinsic power to unite people and promote a feeling of belonging. 

These events have the potential to provide welcoming environments where individuals from all backgrounds may congregate, work together. And form bonds around common musical interests. These encounters foster community, fight loneliness, and offer a network of support that can enhance general well-being.

 

  • Empowerment

There is a long history of using music for social change and activism. Through tackling subjects like gender bias, LGBTQ+ rights, and racial inequality, music may effectively serve as a vehicle for advancing inclusivity and social justice. People may communicate their particular experiences, challenges, and victories via music, connecting with others who have similar experiences. Listening to various musical genres and performers may help listeners overcome preconceptions, widen their viewpoints, and develop empathy—especially when they dance together.

Historically, underrepresented voices have been given a platform by genres like hip-hop, reggae, jazz, blues, rhythm & blues. And folk to reclaim their stories and question social conventions. Songs that are socially conscious have been shown to have a significant impact on causes like feminism. LGBTQ+ rights, and civil rights, where they have mobilized communities and brought about change. Engaging in activism as a musician may help their audience feel more connected to causes and inspired to become involved, as well as reach out to new supporters.

 

Conclusion 

According to certain studies, listening to music may be enjoyable and may even improve your health. In addition to its potential to bring happiness and pleasure, music has several other psychological advantages. In addition to energizing the body and calming the mind, music can even improve pain management.

The idea that music has the power to affect your emotions, ideas. And actions probably does not come as a huge surprise. Ever been moved by a live performance or pumped up by your favorite fast-paced rock anthem? You may understand how music can affect moods and motivate action. Whatever your mood, music will likely be your best friend. Whenever you need it, you can easily access it and enjoy its numerous benefits!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Improve Your Communication Skills With These Helpful Tricks

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Improve Your Communication Skills With These Helpful Tricks

 

As long as we live, we will need to communicate, so finding ways to improve your communication skills is beneficial for all areas of your life. When we are better at communicating what we need, we can better understand others and build valuable relationships with them. People who have successful careers are often excellent communicators. Also, people in fulfilled relationships are quite aware of the value of communication.

That said, communication is a skill. We are not born as great or bad communicators and we cannot change that throughout our lives. There are many ways you can improve your communication skills and start noticing changes very soon. Continue reading!

 

Why Communication Matters

From the moment we are born, we start communicating. A baby cries if it is hungry, cold, or feels unsafe. The mother hears her baby cry and fulfills her newborn baby’s needs. That is communication. 

We can communicate verbally or nonverbally with each other. For instance, you can tell your friend that their comment was inappropriate by giving them a certain look. Or you can be direct and express your thoughts with words. Without communication, we would be unable to connect with others. We wouldn’t be able to build relationships with our parents, siblings, friends, teachers, partners, bosses, and random people we meet in life.

However, communication is not just an exchange of information. It gives us self-esteem, security, and a feeling of belonging. It is what builds relationships and communities that, without it, probably wouldn’t even exist. When we understand the value communication has in our lives, we are able to treat it as a priority and spend some time learning techniques that improve how we interact with the world around us. 

 

How to Improve Communication Skills

If you think your communication skills could be better, you’ll be happy to hear that improving them is not that complicated. As with everything, it takes time, yet once you start implementing the tricks we’ll share below, you’ll notice how you understand people better, and they will be able to understand you better as well. 

 

  • Listen Carefully

When talking about communication, most people will assume that we’re referring to talking. However, listening is a crucial part of communication. How you pay attention to the person talking to you will impact the quality of the communication you two have. Not only that, listening to someone partially shows them you don’t care about them or the topic they are trying to discuss with you. 

If you want to become better at listening, make sure you engage in a conversation when you are ready for it. If you feel tired or distracted, it’s better to share it with the other person and find a time and place that work better for both of you. 

 

  • Ask Questions

The best way to ensure that communication is ongoing and valuable to everyone who is interacting with you is by asking questions. When you ask a question, you show that you care and that you want to learn more about the person. This will also motivate the other person to ask questions about you.

Asking questions is not just reserved for showing interest. You should ask a question if you are listening to a lecturer at a seminar and need clarification on what they are saying. By clarifying, you will be able to have more valuable information and avoid miscommunication and confusion.

 

  • Always Recap 

Regardless of whether communication is happening between you and your work colleague or your partner, it’s a wise idea to recap. It allows you to see if you forgot to address something and also ensures that everyone is on the same page. Many times, you will notice that although you’ve shared your ideas or expressed your opinion, the other side didn’t maybe understand the way you hoped for. When you recap, you can check if all the information is clear. 

Don’t skip this one just because you assume that everything you or someone else has shared is more than straightforward. Just one second of distraction and your brain could have lost the most valuable detail!

 

  • Be Patient

When communicating, don’t rush! Trying to say or explain something quickly can make you skip important pieces of information and create chaos. When talking too fast or trying to end the conversation as soon as possible, the other person might even get the wrong idea and think you don’t like talking to them.

That is why it’s crucial to plan time for communication. If you need to talk about something with your partner, dedicate a certain amount of time to the conversation. Don’t just calculate the time you need to say what you need to say; include the time for the other person as well. 

 

  • Be Kind

Kindness and patience go a long way. If you are kind, people will want to talk to you. Even the leaders who are in front of multinational corporations will seem more approachable if their employees see them as kind. However, kindness is so much more than just not being distant or close-minded.

Offer empathy. Use your body language to show interest. Offer a hug when someone seems to need it. If people feel comfortable when talking to you, they will seek your advice more often. This also builds trust between people, so you’ll see that a kind person has more friends than an unkind one. 

 

Your Words Have Power … And Your Actions Too

Becoming aware of how you communicate with people around you is the first step to improving your communication. If you feel comfortable, ask a friend or your partner how they would describe your communication style. Take their impressions and start working from there.

Keep in mind that everything can be improved if you work on it. Also, don’t forget to work on areas that are important to you. If you want to learn how to speak more, get connected and start your journey at home. 

With your demanding boss, sharpening your communication skills will get you there. Test our ideas and adjust them to your communication style. As soon as you do so, you will start noticing how communicating with others has become much easier and more beneficial for you!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Anxiety and Depression Therapist Near Me

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Anxiety and Depression Therapist Near Me

 

If you’ve come here after searching for an anxiety and depression therapist near me, we’ll share everything you need to know to find the best professional for yourself. Whether it is anxiety or depression, you need help with, or both, finding a good therapist is essential.

If you are keen to find someone who offers in-person sessions, look for a therapist whose office is within a reasonable distance from you. Before you go to your first session, there are some things you should be aware of, and we’ll mention them all in this article. 

 

Definitions of Anxiety and Depression

Although anxiety and depression are two distinct conditions, many people will experience both at the same time. If this is your case, you don’t have to seek a therapist for anxiety and another one for depression. As these two conditions often go hand in hand, patients dealing with both an5xiety and depression will receive one treatment that focuses on the causes and symptoms of both. 

Feeling sad or unmotivated to get out of bed is normal from time to time. Also, it’s normal that you experience anxiety in certain situations. This doesn’t mean you need to be diagnosed with these two conditions. However, if you’ve been experiencing anxiety or depression for a while now and it’s difficult to find something that makes you feel calm, happy, or satisfied with your life, it would be a good idea to see a therapist. 

Persistent or severe anxiety and depressive symptoms may indicate an underlying mental health issue. One of the signs of clinical depression is anxiety. Anxiety disorders like separation anxiety disorder, panic disorder, or generalized anxiety disorder can also frequently cause depression. A lot of people are diagnosed with both clinical depression and anxiety disorders.

Most of the time, psychotherapy, often along with antidepressants, successfully reduces the symptoms of these disorders. Adjusting your lifestyle to include better sleeping patterns, more social support, stress-reduction strategies, or regular exercise may also be beneficial. Avoid recreational drugs, alcohol, and tobacco if you have anxiety or depression. Even though many assume that because they briefly alleviate certain anxiety and depression symptoms, drugs and alcohol can hurt your progress to recovery. 

 

Symptoms of Anxiety and Depression

If you notice a constant presence of a feeling of unease, whether it’s fear or worry, you might have anxiety. Having anxiety is different from experiencing worry or fear from time to time. For instance, feeling anxious about a job interview is completely normal, yet feeling anxiety often and so intensely that it affects your daily activities is a more severe condition. 

These are the most common anxiety symptoms:

  • Finding it challenging to concentrate or make decisions
  • Feeling irritable or tense
  • Experiencing nausea or abdominal pain
  • Having heart palpitations
  • Sweating, trembling, or shaking without any cause
  • Sleeping problems or insomnia
  • Fearing that something bad is going to happen 

It’s important to learn the difference between anxiety and depression. When you feel sad for a while and feel like it’s interfering with your everyday activities, these could be signs of depression.

These are the common symptoms of depression: 

  • Feeling down or sad constantly
  • Feeling like you’ve completely lost hope
  • Feeling helpless
  • Feeling unworthy
  • Being constantly irritable and intolerant of others
  • Feeling guilty for things that are out of your control 
  • Finding it hard to make decisions
  • Lack of motivation or interest in things you were once passionate about 

 

Anxiety and Depression Therapy

Through therapy, you can become more conscious of your feelings, the reasons behind them, your triggers, and techniques to help change your behavior. Certain forms of treatment provide useful skills for reframing unfavorable beliefs and altering behaviors, and they are used in treating anxiety and depression as well.

 

Interpersonal Therapy 

Interpersonal therapy is focused on any disturbed personal relationship in your life that could be the cause of depression or anxiety. 

 

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

The goal of cognitive behavioral therapy is to help patients change the negative patterns in their thinking and behavior, which are often common symptoms of depression and anxiety. 

 

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) 

Dialectical behavioral therapy was created to help with borderline personality disorder, yet it has proven to be quite successful with patients who deal with anxiety and depression. Many individuals can use these skills to get instant distress tolerance and emotion regulation. 

 

Eye Movement Desensitization Resolution (EMDR)

The EMDR technique is recommended for people who want to recover from a certain trauma or have post-traumatic stress disorder. As childhood traumas are one of the most common causes of depression and anxiety in adult life, EMDR therapy can help you deal with symptoms better and learn how to cope with your everyday activities better. 

 

Somatic Therapy

Although popularized recently, somatic therapy is really efficient when it comes to learning how our thoughts and emotions impact our body. Somatic therapy consists of numerous body-centered practices in which your therapist helps you understand what your body is experiencing with certain memories or events and how to find better ways to deal with them. 

 

Finding the Right Anxiety and Depression Therapist

There are probably many therapists in your area. However, not all of them will be adequate to deal with patients who are suffering from anxiety, depression, or both. This is why it’s important to research a therapist before booking a session with them.

Check their website and client reviews, or ask them directly for fields of expertise. You have every right to know whether or not they will be able to help you with your unique situation. Treating a patient who has anxiety or depression is very different from treating a patient who is going through a divorce with kids. 

These are just a few useful tips when looking for an anxiety and depression therapist:

  • Determine your goals before seeing your new therapist.
  • Check your finances and consult your insurance company.
  • Ask for recommendations from people you trust. 
  • Reach out to therapists who address your area of concern. 
  • Ask your therapist questions during the first session to see if they fit you well. 

 

Whichever therapist you choose in the end, make sure they have the knowledge and the skills to help you deal with the challenges in your life. If you are experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression, reach out to a trustworthy anxiety and depression therapist in your area and take the first steps towards a more fulfilled life. 

 

Quick Ways to Reduce Anxiety and Stress

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Tips to Improve Confidence

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Tips to Improve Confidence

 

Anyone looking for tips to improve confidence may be aware that they need to change something up. Not only that, but our confidence reflects how we truly feel about ourselves.

Confidence can empower us to face life’s obstacles with determination. It is a universal experience to feel unsure in certain situations, but many of us have also experienced the feeling of confidently performing a task. So, how challenging is it to boost your confidence and take on tasks you once considered beyond your capabilities? Let’s find out together!

 

What Is Confidence?

Being confident means having faith in yourself, knowing that you can get through tough situations and reach your goals, and being ready to do what you need to do. To have confidence, you need to be realistic about yourself and feel safe in your skills.

Confidence helps people handle pressure, build trust, make a good first impression, and solve personal and professional issues. Also, people like people who are confident because it makes them feel at ease. Not everyone is naturally confident. With practice and patience, one can acquire and hone this skill.

 

Ways to Improve Your Self-Confidence

So many successful people attribute their success to their self-assurance and confidence. However, only a few of them go into detail about how to develop or acquire confidence. Confidence can be challenging because it is based on various factors. In general, it is based on decisions and outcomes that fulfill your passion and give you a sense of fulfillment and self-worth.

 

Start Accomplishing Small Things

Accomplishment leads to confidence. Simple as that! You will feel much better about yourself if you accomplish something today. This can be cooking lunch, organizing your closet, completing a business project, or doing anything else that would make you feel good about yourself. You can even plan daily, weekly, monthly, and annual goals if that’s something you’re passionate about.

Try to make these goals something that could boost your confidence beyond just accomplishing the task. For instance, you can decide to attend more events where you can meet people with similar interests and feel confident about yourself once you make a new friend.

 

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Do you evaluate your worth against others you follow on Instagram? Or, do you compare your career and lifestyle to those of your friends? Comparing is a fundamental human behavior; however, you shouldn’t expect it to increase your confidence. In fact, comparing leads to quite the opposite.

How do you gain confidence when you realize you are comparing? First, tell yourself that it isn’t beneficial to do so. Feeling jealous of someone else’s life? Focus on your own strengths and achievements. To remember your blessings, keep a gratitude journal, as this keeps you focused on yourself, not others.

 

Get Inspired By Others

Consider for a moment how people in your life make you feel. Do they make you feel better or worse? Do they accept you as you are, or are they always passing judgment on you?

The people you spend time with can affect how you think about and feel about yourself. That is why knowing how other people make you feel is important. If you feel as if your confidence drops after spending time with a certain person, it is time to evaluate their meaning in your life. Rather, surround yourself with people who genuinely care for and love you. You should always look for people who can boost your confidence and are positive about life.

 

Exercise

Exercise has several health benefits, including enhancing attention, preventing depression, lowering stress levels, and enhancing memory recall. With frequent exercise, you will start feeling good about yourself. Your body will be stronger and in better shape, and you will also have more confidence once you start following your workout routine.

That said, you don’t have to work out every day. Depending on your schedule, choose a time that works well for you and dedicate 30 to 45 minutes to yourself. If you’re not a fan of working out at home or the gym, consider jogging in the park, taking a yoga or pilates class, or joining a group sport such as volleyball or basketball.

 

Be Kind to Yourself

You will build confidence once you learn to be kind to yourself. Everyone makes mistakes or fails to meet certain expectations. Making it difficult for yourself will not make you feel better or build your confidence.

By being kind to yourself, you can better handle difficult emotions and adapt to them, strengthening your relationships with others and yourself. When experiencing a difficult situation, there is so much you can do. Keep in mind that we all do the best we can and allow yourself time to recover and heal.

 

Face Your Fears

If you have big aspirations and high standards for yourself, you will undoubtedly feel overwhelmed and incapable of achieving them. Your fear might be present because something feels too big or because you simply feel unprepared. However, when you break each project into tiny pieces, it becomes less scary.

Any fear prevents you from being your best. Start by diving into that fear. Discovering its purpose may reveal that it is protecting you. For example, if your previous relationship left you heartbroken, you may be afraid of falling in love again. Acquiring knowledge will enable you to assess your personal growth from the previous encounter and boost your self-assurance when interacting with strangers.

 

Final Thoughts

Everybody occasionally struggles with confidence. Fortunately, you can boost your confidence in a number of ways with our tips to improve confidence. Taking action is a common way to actually feel more confident.

Low self-esteem can occasionally be an indicator of mental health issues like anxiety or depression. Seek advice from a mental health expert if your lack of confidence affects your ability to function in your job, social life, or education. A therapist may provide further insight into the problem, suggest a course of action, and collaborate with you to create skills that can boost your self-esteem.

If you want more tips to improve confidence, start your journey at home and take small steps every day to build a more confident you!

 

Body Image Therapy: Learn to Love Your Look

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Difference between Therapist and Psychologist: Choosing the Right Professional for Yourself

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Difference between Therapist and Psychologist: Choosing the Right Professional for Yourself

 

There is more than one difference between therapist and psychologist, and knowing them will help you find adequate mental health support. Among other things, the educational backgrounds and diagnostic skills of psychologists and therapists are what differentiate one profession from another.

All psychologists can be r therapists, even if the name “therapist” refers to a variety of occupations in the field of psychotherapy. However, not every therapist is a psychologist.

Let’s dive deeper into these roles to understand them better and help you decide which of these two professions you need to live your life to the fullest. 

 

Therapist vs. Psychologist: Educational Background

You need a master’s degree in counseling or a similar discipline to work as a therapist. Most states also demand licensure, which consists of fulfilling academic prerequisites and finishing a clinically supervised experience. 

In order to gain the practical skills of a therapist, you could participate in a practicum or intern during your study. To become a licensed professional counselor, you must learn about and abide by the regulations set out by your state’s counseling licensure board.

Psychologists will need to have an advanced degree in psychology to be able to diagnose their patients with mental health disorders or conditions. Psychologists can also decide on the appropriate treatments based on their clinical diagnoses and observations.

Therapists, on the other hand, is a profession that welcomes all psychologists, psychiatrists, marriage counselors, life coaches, and social workers. Unlike psychologists, therapists can have any of the degrees in social work, clinical psychology, psychiatry, family counseling, or a similar field. The goal of therapists is to help their patients make better decisions and clarify feelings through talking to them. 

 

Similarities Between Therapists and Psychologists

As many people will confuse therapists with psychologists and vice versa, it’s obvious that they have certain similarities. Both a therapist and psychologist can help improve the mental and emotional well-being of their patients.

Also, they can diagnose mental health issues and guide their clients to more sustainable, stable, and fulfilling ways of doing things. This can be related to a range of issues, from how to set healthy boundaries to how to communicate your needs to your spouse. 

Both professions can help you with the right treatment and tactics to overcome challenges you face in your everyday life. When it comes to licenses, therapists and psychologists must possess a state-required license and meet all the requirements of the state they work in. 

In most states, neither the therapist nor the psychologist can prescribe medications to their patients or clients. 

 

Therapist and Psychologist Specialties

If you’re considering whether you should see a therapist or a psychologist, the list of areas they treat might help you decide whether this type of help will provide you with what you need:

  • Marriage counseling
  • Divorce counseling
  • Couple counseling
  • Family counseling
  • Grief counseling
  • Group therapy
  • Career counseling
  • Community counseling
  • Substance abuse
  • Addiction counseling
  • School counseling
  • Play therapy

 

Seeing a Therapist or a Psychologist

Ask for qualifications while searching for any kind of psychotherapy. Since not all psychotherapists have the same level of competence in all areas, this information is crucial depending on the kind of treatment you’re seeking. 

The most crucial factors to take into account when selecting a mental health expert to deal with are their clinical experience, educational background, and possession of the necessary licenses to offer you safe and efficient care.

Psychotherapists can help people develop stronger interpersonal skills and relationships and find clarity and fulfillment. Clinical and counseling psychologists are skilled in those domains as well, yet others opt to specialize in testing, diagnosing, and treating severe mental diseases that go beyond everyday problems.

Which problems you hope to address will determine whether you see a psychologist or therapist. Remember that a professional’s degree of education and training is indicated by the phrases “psychologist,” “therapist,” and “counselor.”

All of these experts, however, are beneficial to the mental health field and have various methods to assist their customers.

Feel free to enquire about a therapist or psychologist’s credentials and training if you’re considering working with them. Additionally, you can enquire about their methods and areas of expertise.

 

Other Factors to Consider

Costs should be considered when deciding between a therapist and a psychologist. When estimating expenses for visiting a psychologist or therapist, consider the following:

  • Fees: Higher costs may be charged by a private practice, particularly if the experts are well-liked by a sizable patient base or have many years of expertise.
  • Reputation: Recognize that reputation may affect price. If you have a specific therapist or psychologist in mind because of their reputation, it can be worth paying a little bit more for a private practitioner.
  • Apps: Community clinics and counseling apps can provide more cost-effective therapy solutions with fixed session prices or a monthly membership fee.
  • Group therapy: Individual treatment may be more expensive than group therapy. Additionally, they could connect you to groups of individuals who are sympathetic to your situation and share your worries.
  • Coverage network: If you have insurance, verify that your provider is in your coverage network by calling your insurance company before seeing a specialist. You’ll pay extra out of pocket for experts outside your network.
  • Sliding fees: Ask about a sliding payment schedule. If you don’t have insurance, many psychologists and therapists offer sliding prices to assist you to afford their services.

 

Conclusion

For addressing mental health issues, including depression and anxiety, psychologists and therapists may be quite helpful. Also, some psychologists and therapists focus on group therapy, which involves bigger cohorts of individuals addressing related issues.

Both adults and children can start with therapy. The decision between a therapist and a psychologist ultimately comes down to your requirements and your objectives. You can create and meet therapeutic objectives with the help of either kind of mental health practitioner.

Make sure you feel at ease with the expert you choose in the end so that you can lay the groundwork for effective long-term care. With the right expert, you will be able to improve any area of your life that is troubling you and become a happier person!

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Trauma PTSD: Definition, Examples and Treatment Options

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Trauma PTSD: Definition, Examples and Treatment Options

 

A person suffering from trauma PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) frequently relives the horrific incident through flashbacks and dreams. They may also feel guilty, alone, and irritable.

They could also have trouble focusing and experience sleep issues, including sleeplessness. These symptoms frequently affect the person’s day-to-day functioning significantly since they are severe and persistent.

 

What is Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)?

PTSD is a mental health condition that can affect those who have gone through or observed a traumatic incident, sequence of events, or combination of circumstances. This might harm someone’s mental, bodily, social, and/or spiritual well-being and be perceived as emotionally or physically damaging or even fatal. 

Natural catastrophes, catastrophic accidents, terrorist attacks, war and conflict, rape and sexual assault, past trauma, violence against intimate partners, and bullying are a few examples.

 

What Causes PTSD?

PTSD can result from any experience that a person deems distressing.

These may consist of:

  • major traffic incidents,
  • violent crimes against people, such as robberies, muggings, and sexual assaults,
  • major health issues,
  • birthing experiences.

 

After going through a traumatic situation, someone may get PTSD right away, or it may take weeks, months, or even years for it to manifest.

About one in three people who suffer trauma are thought to have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), while the precise reason why some individuals get the disorder and others do not is unknown.

People who often encounter traumatic events, such as extreme abuse, neglect, or violence, may be identified as having complex PTSD. While it may not manifest for years after the incident, complex PTSD might have symptoms that are comparable to those of PTSD.

Early-life trauma tends to be more severe since it might have an impact on a child’s development.

 

Who Can Get PTSD?

PTSD may strike anyone at any age. This covers those who have served in the armed forces as well as those who have been the victims of abuse, assault, or other serious incidents, including accidents and disasters. Even when they are safe, people with PTSD may experience anxiety or tension.

Not every person suffering from PTSD has experienced a traumatic incident. Finding out that a friend or family member experienced trauma can occasionally cause trauma symptoms in others. Specific individuals may be more susceptible to developing PTSD due to some aspects of the traumatic incident and biological variables (such as genes).

 

Symptoms of PTSD

The severity of PTSD symptoms might change over time. When you’re under a lot of stress or are reminded of your past experiences, you could experience increased symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. 

For instance, you could encounter fighting again and hear a car backfire. Alternatively, you can be struck with flashbacks to your assault after seeing a news article about a sexual attack.

 

Intrusion 

Uncontrollably recurring recollections, unsettling nightmares, or flashbacks to the traumatic incident are examples of intrusive thoughts. People may suffer flashbacks that are so vivid that they feel as though they are experiencing or reliving the painful event.

 

Avoidance

One way to prevent yourself from being reminded of the traumatic occurrence is to stay away from people, places, activities, things, and circumstances that might bring back painful memories. Individuals might make an effort to forget or stop thinking about the upsetting experience. They could be reluctant to discuss what transpired or their feelings around it.

 

Changes in Mood 

The inability to recall significant details of the traumatic event; negative thoughts and feelings that result in persistent and distorted beliefs about oneself or others; erroneous ideas about the event’s cause or consequences that lead to incorrectly blaming oneself or another; persistent fear, horror, anger, guilt, or shame; a marked decrease in interest in once-enjoyed activities; a sense of being distant or estranged from others; or the inability to feel happy or satisfied.

 

Changes in reactivity and arousal

Reactive symptoms, such as irritability and furious outbursts, reckless or self-destructive behavior, suspiciously over-vigilant awareness of one’s surroundings, difficulty focusing, difficulty sleeping, and so on, can all indicate arousal.

 

Treatment Options

After a traumatic occurrence, it’s common to have disturbing and perplexing thoughts; nonetheless, most people recover on their own over a few weeks. If one month after the traumatic event, you are still experiencing issues, or if the symptoms are especially bothersome, you should consult a general practitioner. Your general practitioner may recommend you to mental health professionals for additional evaluation and care if needed.

Even if PTSD appears years after a terrible experience, it is still treatable. The intensity of the symptoms and the time elapsed after the traumatic incident determine the course of treatment. 

It is crucial to remember that not everyone who encounters trauma goes on to acquire PTSD, and not everyone who does has to go to a mental health facility. Some people’s PTSD symptoms gradually lessen or go away. Others who have family, friends, or clergy as support systems recover. 

However, to recover from psychological suffering that can be severe and incapacitating, many people with PTSD require professional care. It’s critical to keep in mind that trauma can cause extreme suffering. PTSD is curable, and the person experiencing the anguish is not to blame. A person’s chances of recovering are improved the earlier they receive therapy.

 

Final Thoughts

Following a stressful experience, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may arise. It manifests as a variety of symptoms, including worry, hypervigilance, negative ideas and beliefs, and flashbacks.

Speak with your doctor or a mental health professional if you’ve been experiencing unsettling thoughts and feelings related to a traumatic experience for longer than a month, if they’re intense, or if you feel like you’re struggling to regain control over your life. You should seek therapy as soon as you can get the help you need for PTSD symptoms.

You cannot avoid negative events or experiencing situations that negatively impact you. However, you can learn how to deal with the consequences of these events in a way that is not harmful to your physical, mental, and emotional health. With the right PTSD therapist, you will learn helpful tools and techniques that can help you heal from the traumatic event that caused the PTSD. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Emotional Granularity: How to Understand Emotions Better

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Emotional Granularity: How to Understand Emotions Better

 

Emotional granularity, also known as an emotional distinction, refers to the ability to identify our exact emotions with terms other than the typical ones, such as “happy,” “sad,” “angry,” or “excited.” We learn to understand emotions as we become adults and face different life situations.  

We become more aware of our emotions as we mature. And we become adept at identifying various emotions, such as feeling cold, hungry, angry, sad, ashamed, joyful, etc. A person’s capacity to distinguish between the specificity of their feelings is known as emotional granularity. 

In this article, we’ll examine emotional granularity and how you can better understand your emotions to live a more fulfilling life. 

 

What Is Emotional Granularity?

The capacity to pinpoint exact details about our emotional experiences is known as emotional granularity. This makes it easier to comprehend and helps us cope with our emotions. While some people rely on more broad emotional strokes, others can engage in this process naturally. 

Many of us characterize our emotional states with cryptic phrases like stress. This can also sound like “that makes me sad” or “I’m just so mad.” These are helpful places to start. However, the more detailed we can be, the more capable we will be to respond to our emotions rather than just react.

When we can express our anger, we are likely to discover that numerous things or circumstances make us feel that anger. It can often be used as a mask for pain, humiliation, or shame. Just picture the sensation of having a friend or a partner who genuinely understands your situation and perspective. It’s comforting to feel secure and have a sense of belonging, right? By trying to understand ourselves better, we may offer that to ourselves on some level. 

 

Examples of Emotional Granularity

You have low emotional granularity if you identify and discuss your feelings with certain, limited phrases. For instance, you may choose to use terms like “excited,” “happy,” or “calm” to express your good feelings and “angry,” “sad,” or “afraid” to describe your negative ones.

People with severe depressive illness and social anxiety disorder have reduced emotional granularity, making it harder for them to distinguish between different negative emotions.

On the other side, those with high emotional granularity deal better with emotions in general. They frequently have fewer episodes of anxiety and despair, respond less strongly to rejection and setbacks, and are generally less likely to engage in self-destructive coping mechanisms like binge drinking, drugs, or violence.

Emotional granularity approaches have the potential to help even with phobias. Those people who have arachnophobia and have been trained to articulate their thoughts about spiders felt less anxious than those who are used to either thinking positively about the spider or avoiding it altogether. People with higher emotional granularity felt even more at ease going up to the spiders in person.

 

Why Emotional Intelligence Matters 

The skills and talents that enable you to recognize, comprehend, and regulate your own emotions and recognize and sympathize with those of others are referred to as emotional intelligence (EQ). Empathy may assist each of us in creating and sustaining deeper and better connections, whether in person or online, at work or at home. 

Being emotionally intelligent makes it possible for you to communicate clearly, sympathize with others, and be self-conscious and socially aware. How we react to each other and ourselves influences our work and home situations. Living in this world involves connecting with various individuals and embracing change and unexpected experiences daily. Emotional intelligence is the secret to how you react to what life throws at you. It’s also essential to have compassion and comprehend the underlying motivations of other people’s behavior.

When faced with challenging circumstances like conflict, change, and hurdles, EQ becomes even more crucial. Remembering to be nice during these moments is essential, and being aware of our feelings can support us. 

 

Benefits of High Emotional Granularity

Understanding the intricate details of emotions enables us to react perceptively, explain our experiences to others clearly and concisely, and thoroughly digest our feelings. Physical, mental, and emotional well-being are all intricately linked. We are focusing on all if we are focused on only one. Take an interest in the world of your emotions. Make inquiries about oneself and come up with responses. The beauty of reflection is that it gives us the freedom to reject things as they are.

 

Comprehending Complex Emotions

Every day, we encounter annoying circumstances, and things rarely go as planned. High emotional granularity reduces our likelihood of feeling overwhelmed in difficult or stressful circumstances because it allows us to respond to our emotions more precisely and even reinterpret them to suit our needs at that particular time.

 

Connecting Better with Others

We become more acquainted with a range of emotions when we strive to increase our capacity to distinguish between them with specificity. This aids in accurately identifying our own emotions and also the emotions and motives of others. When we understand people around us, we can better empathize with them, communicate more effectively, and build stronger bonds with them.

 

Improving your Behavior

When you understand your feelings more deeply, your brain can more easily perceive how you perceive a certain situation. You can pay serious attention to your instincts rather than leaving them aside. As a result, you can determine your options and the best course of action with greater accuracy. These experiences eventually shape your behavior and how you react to difficult circumstances in the future.

 

Practicing Emotional Granularity

Expand the vocabulary of emotions you know. This can be accomplished by storing a feelings wheel on your phone or printing out a copy. Use it to help identify your feelings more precisely the next time you are experiencing negative emotions. 

Describe your “bad” feelings in further detail: Do you feel scared, busy, stressed out, or bored? And then go into even more detail: Are you feeling indifferent or apathetic when you’re bored? Are you feeling abandoned or alone if you are lonely? 

You’ll have more accurate tools to deal with life’s numerous obstacles when you exercise emotional granularity. The benefits of higher emotional granularity are not something you will take for granted because they can have a significant effect on your health and well-being. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.