How to Give a Sensual Massage

How to Give a Sensual Massage That’s Actually Hot and Nice

We hope you enjoy this article on sensual massage. LCAT owner, Dr. Amanda Pasciucco was interviewed by Self.com writer Ro White. This article was published in Self.com on September 15, 2023.

 

Here’s exactly what to do—and not do—to pull off a sexy, relaxing back rub.

If you’re seeking new ways to feel close to your partner, you might be wondering how to give them a good sensual massage to help you connect. (And a downright sexy massage offers even more opportunities for intimacy.) Horny touching, including massage, causes our brains to release oxytocin, a.k.a. the “love hormone”, so an erotic massage is the perfect recipe for bonding, relaxation, and arousal—possibly even a better sex life.

Read on as experts share how to give a sexy back massage to turn on both you and your partner—and maybe set the mood for more.


Talk to your partner about what their dream massage would look like.

There’s no one way to give an erotic massage, so before you pump up the Marvin Gaye and break out the “good” massage oil, ask your partner what they’d like to get out of this experience—and share your own desires too.

“The ‘why’ of the massage should dictate the ‘how,’” Barbara Carrellas, an AASECT-certified sex educator who teaches erotic massage, tells SELF. So: Are you and your partner seeking connection, or maybe novelty? Are you wanting to take some pressure off of your sexual performance? Are you having trouble getting out of your own head and looking for new forms of foreplay? Do you just think their back is hot and want to love up on it a little? Find out!

Once you’re clear on the “why” behind your sexy massage, decide together how you’d like it to feel. “Erotic massages can be therapeutic, relaxing, stimulating, healing, sensual, sexual, kinky, or whatever other intention you set,” Carrellas says.

Check in about where and how your partner wants to be touched and if there are any no-go zones, AASECT-certified sex therapist Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, CST, tells SELF.

You should definitely ask whether your partner wants the massage to include overtly sexual contact. “Each person likes to be touched in a different way,” Pasciucco explains. “Some people love the adrenaline of just going toward the genitals, while many others enjoy long, slow strokes to build up anticipation.”


Make your surroundings feel sexier.

Use dim lighting, a playlist featuring gentle music, and candles to create an ambiance that helps your partner feel relaxed, Pasciucco says. (Just make sure the candles are securely placed far from the massage zone—catching your hair on fire would kill the mood.)

One of the best—but often overlooked—massage tips isn’t about what you set up, but what you get the hell out of sight at home. Pasciucco suggests removing any potential distractions from the room, like pets, phones, piles of laundry, and family photos (you probably won’t want your relatives staring you down while you zealously knead your partner’s butt cheeks).

If this kind of traditional massage setup feels slightly corny to you, Pasciucco suggests leaning into the cringe. “Making your bedroom look like a temple of love might not be your norm, but do it anyway,” she says. Trust that once you’re squeezing your partner’s thighs, you’ll probably both be too turned-on to feel embarrassed—and until you get there, it’s okay to laugh a little too.

If you just can’t get past the corniness of candles and soft music, there are plenty of other ways you can set the mood. “While some people like candles, soft music, and feathers, others like dark dungeons, floggers, and being ordered to get on the massage table,” Carrellas says. There’s no one perfect way to do this: The vibe of your sexy massage should feel personal to you and your partner! Let your imaginations tell you what a “good massage” should look like.


Pick an oil that’s up to the hot task at hand.

Your most important massage tool is lotion or oil, since this will help your hands glide more easily along your partner’s body, Pasciucco notes. Just make sure you review the ingredients first, especially if either of you has skin allergies or fragrance sensitivities.

Since this is a sexy massage, chances are there might be some genital-touching involved either during or after the rubdown. If you’re planning to use this same oil externally on your partner’s junk, you’ll need a fragrance-free oil, as scented products (including essential oils) can irritate the urethra (where pee comes out). Soothing Touch’s nut-free massage oilSliquid’s Escape massage oil, and Now Solutions’ massage oil are all excellent options.

For any vaginal penetration, you’ll want an all-natural oil to avoid irritation or infection. Vagina-safe options include coconut oil, hemp seed oil, grape seed oil, vegetable oil, sunflower oil, and olive oil, as the Cleveland Clinic notes. Keep in mind that using oil inside the vagina can increase the risk of developing a yeast infection, according to a UCLA study, so if your partner knows their vagina doesn’t respond well to oil or if they’re not sure, clean your hands after the massage and switch to lube when you’re doing hand stuff.

If you think your massage might lead to sex involving safer sex barriers, like condoms, make sure you use only water-based or silicone lube for any between-the-legs action and thoroughly wash your hands before handling barriers. Since oil degrades latex, getting massage oil on a latex condom or dental dam can prevent your barrier from doing its job.

Finally, make sure any sex toys, or sensations toys like feathers, paddles, and floggers, that you plan to use are easily accessible, too, so you don’t have to fumble around with slick hands.


Sensual massage techniques.

Take it slow.

Have your partner lie flat on a bed face-down or face-up, depending on the areas you’d like to focus on. They can be partially dressed or fully nude—whatever feels most comfortable.

Once your partner is situated, find a position for your own body that you won’t mind holding for a while. You can sit beside your partner, pull up a chair next to the bed, or—if you want to heat things up right away and this works for both of you—straddle your partner while you oil up your hands and prepare to caress their stress away.

Massage techniques can and should vary based on what your partner’s into, but here are some rules of thumb about sensual touch: If you’re planning on giving a full-body massage experience, start by gently kneading your partner’s shoulders, adding more massage oil as needed, and checking in with them about the level of pressure you’re using. “Erotic massage creates lots of space for communication, so there’s always room for your partner to ask for more or less of any touch,” Carrellas explains.

Rub your partner’s back and limbs (or whatever part of the body they like) with circular motions, or with long, smooth strokes along each muscle using your palms and the whole lengths of your fingers and tips of your forefingers. “Touching with your whole hand feels like an embrace,” Carrellas says. “You can use this technique to glide anywhere on your partner’s body without lifting your palm.” Another one of the best sensual massage techniques: Use your thumbs in areas where your partner wants more pinpointed pressure, like on the arches of their feet. If your hands need a rest, throw in some kissing or licking, if that’s your partner’s thing. (If they don’t mind oil in their hair, go ahead and stroke it—just ask first if you don’t know.)

Once your partner is feeling relaxed, ramp up their arousal by stroking and rubbing erogenous zones, like their earlobes, chest, butt, and inner thighs, before venturing between their legs, if that’s something you’re both down for. A sexy massage doesn’t have to end in genital stimulation—“an erotic massage should with pleasure, which doesn’t necessarily mean an orgasm,” Pasciucco says. But if you and your partner want your massage to get a little spicier, go for it! Sensual massage can feel incredible on your partner’s whole body—not just their back.


Read more of Dr. Pasciucco’s media interviews here.

Mental Health for Musicians: Break Away and Find Yourself Today

Mental Health for Musicians: Break Away and Find Yourself Today

 

 

Mental health is an important issue that affects people from all walks of life, including mental health for musicians. In fact, the lifestyle of a musician can frequently exacerbate existing mental health problems or contribute to the onset of new ones. The rigorous schedule, constant pressure to create and perform, and intense scrutiny from fans and industry professionals can wear down even the most resilient individuals.

 

In his 2003 song “Somewhere I Belong,” Linkin Park’s Chester Bennington said, “I will break away, and find myself today.” Chester died of depression fourteen years later, on July 20, 2017. Chester was a musician who influenced my life and the lives of many others during his 41 years on this planet. Depression does not discriminate; he was a father, husband, friend, and frontman, among other roles. 

 

The nature of musicians’ work may make them more susceptible to mental health issues. Creating music requires tapping into emotions and personal experiences. These vulnerabilities can cause intense emotions, isolation, and despair. Also, the creative process requires hours of focused work and self-criticism.

 

The instability of musicians’ careers contributes to mental health issues. The music industry has its ups and downs, and musicians often face financial instability and uncertain futures. Chronic uncertainty can cause stress, anxiety, and depression.

 

The pressures of fame

The pressures of fame and success can also have a negative impact on a musician’s mental health. Even the most self-assured people can feel overwhelmed by the constant scrutiny and public exposure. Many musicians suffer from imposter syndrome, the feeling that they do not deserve their success or that they will be exposed as frauds. Furthermore, the pressure to outperform previous accomplishments and meet lofty goals can cause extreme stress and self-doubt.

 

It is critical to recognize that mental health issues among musicians are not the result of weakness or character flaws. They are difficult issues that can affect anyone, regardless of talent or success. A growing awareness of mental health in the music industry has led to many artists sharing their struggles and seeking support.

 

Many artists promote mental health awareness and share their experiences. By destigmatizing mental health and fostering support, the music industry can become healthier and more sustainable.

 

Mental health therapy can help musicians manage their mental health. Whether they are having trouble with anxiety, depression, drug abuse, or something else, therapy can help them deal with their problems and find a way to heal and grow.

 

Musicians benefit from therapy because it allows them to express their emotions safely. Deep emotions can make musicians vulnerable and exposed when creating and performing music. Musicians can express themselves freely in therapy without judgment. Through therapy, musicians can understand and manage their emotions better.

 

Therapists can help musicians improve self-awareness and self-care. The music industry is demanding, so musicians often neglect their own needs to succeed. Therapy helps musicians set limits, prioritize self-care, and identify their limits. By taking care of themselves, musicians can reduce stress and burnout and improve their health.

 

Musicians’ Unique Challenges

Therapy also helps musicians cope with their unique challenges. Performance anxiety, creative blocks, and imposter syndrome plague musicians. Therapy can teach deep breathing, cognitive restructuring, and visualization to manage anxiety and negative thoughts. They can help musicians cope with industry pressures and build resilience.

 

Furthermore, therapy can address some of the underlying causes of mental health issues, such as childhood trauma or dysfunctional relationships. By exploring these underlying factors, musicians can gain insight into the origins of their struggles and work towards healing and growth. Therapy can help musicians develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others, leading to improved mental health outcomes.

 

Finally, therapy can support musicians, especially those who feel isolated or misunderstood. An understanding therapist can help musicians cope with the isolation of the music industry. Therapists provide guidance, validation, and encouragement and connect musicians to support networks.

 

Due to their unique challenges, musicians often struggle with mental health. The emotional demands of work, chronic uncertainty, and fame can lead to anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. As the music industry becomes more aware of mental health and works to support all musicians, there is hope for change. A musician’s mental health can change everything. It provides a safe space to express emotions, improve self-awareness and self-care, learn coping mechanisms for challenges, address mental health issues’ root causes, and feel supported. By seeking therapy, musicians can take an important step towards improving their mental well-being and enjoying a more fulfilling musical journey. There is hope and help for musicians who struggle with mental health and substance abuse today, like Chester. Break away and find yourself today. 

 

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Best Text Therapy with Interns Gives Quality and Saves Money

Best Text Therapy with Interns Gives Quality and Saves Money

 

If you’re interested in the best text therapy services, you should consider talking to a therapist intern for a few reasons. However, before we go into details, we’d like to take a moment to explain our experience with interns. Which we highly recommend to our clients looking to save money. Working with interns is a beautiful experience as a therapist. Watching them grow and learn while also bringing a fresh perspective on things is incredibly valuable!

Therapists work closely with their interns to ensure they have everything they need once they start attending to clients. If you’re worried that talking to an intern will not be at the same level if talking to a therapist, don’t be! Interns typically start working with clients when their supervisors think they are ready. So, if this is something you’re interested in, this article is for you. 

 

Therapist Interns

You’ve already decided to start seeing a therapist, so the next step is to choose which professional to work with. You discover that some of the providers you have access to are identified in their profiles as interns when you are weighing your alternatives. While we understand that your initial instinct may be to seek out a therapist who is fully licensed or who has completed their Master’s program. There are some compelling reasons you might choose to work with an intern as your therapist instead.

There is usually one clinical supervisor assigned to each intern, and frequently there are two: one at the internship location and one in their educational program. These supervisors are entirely licensed and qualified and frequently undergo specialized training to become supervisors. All of the cases interns work on are reviewed and discussed with their supervisor(s). So you are not just getting one therapist working on your case. Rather, two or three therapists will be devoting their time, knowledge, and resources to working with you in therapy.

 

Benefits of Working with a Therapist Intern

Since interns are actively engaged in their academic environment while pursuing their Master’s degrees, they have to spend their days learning how to be excellent therapists. The intern you might pick to be your therapist devotes time to learning the most recent theories and techniques. And also collaborates with faculty, supervisors, and other interns to gain a deeper comprehension of and create application strategies for those theories and techniques. Therefore, you get a therapist who is not only up to date on theory and practice but also spends their days learning how to apply those ideas and approaches in the most efficient way when you hire an intern.

Interns frequently operate on a discounted or sliding-fee scale rather than charging an hourly rate comparable to fully licensed therapists or only taking on clients with health insurance because they are not entirely licensed. Interns could provide a price point that fits your budget more quickly if you don’t have insurance. Have a very high deductible, or decide to pay out of pocket for other reasons.

Working with a therapist intern is a fantastic option if you want the knowledge of two to three therapists for the price of one. A therapist whose life’s work is to learn the most current and successful theory and techniques. A therapist who has a growing passion and investment in their work, and flexible pricing options.

 

Therapists vs. Interns

A person may occasionally only have access to or be able to afford an intern for mental health therapy. And this should not prevent them from seeking care. Even though there are obvious distinctions between a fully-licensed therapist and an intern in terms of what they have done to meet licensure criteria, the interns’ talents may still astound you. 

Interns haven’t finished all of the criteria for licensing, which is the first difference. It may take some time for them to complete all the requirements set forth by most licensing boards. Whether they are still in school or have graduated. As a result, they have less therapeutic experience than their licensed counterparts. However, experience is only one, and maybe not even the most crucial, tool in a therapist’s kit.

The second distinction is that internships expire after a year, and you might have to transfer your case. Be sure to inquire about the intern’s expected stay as soon as you are paired with them. Of course, a licensed therapist’s employment, relocation, or retirement might also result in the termination of your relationship with them. Thus, this distinction may also be irrelevant.

The key similarity is that both licensed therapists and interns are actual people. As a result, both groups possess the same innate capacity for effective therapy. Every therapist has a different life experience and character traits that they bring to their interaction with you, whether they are just starting, nearly retired, or somewhere in between.

 

In Conclusion

Interns are counselors-in-training who have finished all of their Master’s-level curriculum and are wrapping up the last internship necessary for their degree. Through at least one field experience (often known as a “practicum”), they have already gained some experience dealing with customers. The final stage before they graduate and receive their restricted license is their internship.

As interns, they are closely watched. Meaning, there is a licensed professional who is checking in daily or weekly, offering constructive collaboration and skill sets. So, if this was the reason you were hesitant to reach out to a therapist intern, we hope we gave you enough reasons to start working with them toward your mental wellbeing. You will enjoy talking to a therapist intern as you will build a relationship with them. And they will help you on your way to growth, so make the most of it!

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

How to Break Up With Your Therapist

How to Break Up With Your Therapist

 

This article is for you if you are in therapy and are unsure of how to break up with your therapist and end things.  You may feel guilty for ending your relationship with your therapist because you do not want to hurt their feelings. Think about it this way: if you and your therapist are not a good fit, it is in both of your best interests to part ways so that you can find someone who is. 

Learn the ins and outs of terminating your therapy relationship with this comprehensive guide.

 

The Real Reasons You Should Dump Your Therapist

In a perfect world, you would leave therapy feeling as though your therapist had lightened rather than added to your load. Actually, because of the emotions that treatment may stir up, it is common to occasionally feel unhappy after treatment. The difference is feeling upset every time (or almost every time) you leave because your therapist is not paying attention, caring about your needs. Or helping you apply certain techniques to deal with this type of emotional pain.

Knowing you are working on yourself with a professional you emotionally connect with may inspire you. Choosing a new therapist may be necessary if your current one is not motivated or qualified to help you advance.

The goal of therapy is to open up. If you hide your thoughts or behaviors from your therapist, it may hinder your mental and emotional development and create an unhealthy dynamic. 

Remember that your therapist holds you accountable, which can be awkward. It seems odd to pay someone to call you out when needed. You may be hesitant to talk about difficult or embarrassing parts of your life.

 

Steps to Breaking Up with Your Therapist

Try addressing the problems you’re experiencing instead of ghosting a provider. Setting precise progress metrics that you’d like to achieve in a specified time as part of that discussion might help determine whether. Or not you should stop seeing your therapist permanently. Depending on the circumstances, you should do this privately or with your therapist.

It’s acceptable to try to find a new therapist if your current one doesn’t appear to be interested in your concerns or if nothing seems to change after you raise them. Before leaving your present therapist, you should secure an appointment with someone else. Depending on the urgent issues you’re working on.

Before moving on, it may sometimes be reassuring to see another therapist to make sure you’re covered. It depends on how severe the problems you’re facing are. It will be crucial if the condition is urgent, such as severe depression. To be clear, you shouldn’t decide to quit taking medicine alone. Or abruptly cease seeing a psychiatrist who oversees any mental health medications you are on. Both circumstances present a risk to your safety and call for professional advice initially.

You should speak with your therapist to find out their opinion or if they have any advice. Even if you’ve decided you’ve made enough progress to stop treatment or need a more convenient therapist to visit. They suggest someone who would be a better fit from a logistical or therapeutic standpoint.

 

Examples of Breaking Up with Your Therapist

We’ve got you covered if you are uncertain about the best way to break up with your therapist. Below, you will be able to find a few examples that might work for your situation with your therapist. 

When breaking up with your therapist, go through our lists of examples and find the one that suits you best, or simply get inspired:

  • “I want to end our collaboration because I currently have different goals.”
  • “I genuinely value the work we’ve accomplished together. I recognize that I now require something else, yet I nevertheless value your desire to assist me.
  • “I feel like I’ve come a long way in the time we’ve spent together. And I feel like it’s time for me to move on.”
  • “I discussed [insert worries here] a few weeks ago. I don’t see enough of a shift to think it’s justified for us to keep meeting.
  • “I am ending my therapy with you and seeking alternative solutions. I don’t feel like I received care and skill sets, so I’m deciding to end my therapy sessions.”

 

Your therapist may be okay with this or want to talk it through a little to better understand your stance and provide their professional input on your choice. Depending on your mental health status and the progress you have made or haven’t made.

You don’t need to have one last session with your therapist if you’ve just been going to them for a few weeks. Instead, it’s usually OK to terminate therapy over the phone or via email. However, rather than choosing not to visit your therapist, expressing your worries to them is extremely beneficial. You’ve only been together a few weeks, so you’re still getting to know one another. Your therapist could be better able to steer you in the right direction or explain why you haven’t noticed any significant improvements yet, for example.

 

Conclusion

Honestly, this stage is comparable to breaking up with a therapist. How you should end things with them depends significantly on how long you’ve been seeing them. If you’ve been seeing your therapist for over a few weeks, consider breaking up in person during a session. In addition to giving you both some closure, it also serves as a beautiful challenge for those who find it difficult to say goodbye or worry about offending others. 

Many people avoid conflict, so practicing this skill is a good idea. The therapy breakup shouldn’t be shocking, as you should have previously explained to your therapist why you weren’t happy with your sessions. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Getting the Most Out of Your Therapy Sessions

The moment you decide to start therapy sessions is crucial for many reasons. It also requires a substantial time, emotional, and frequent financial investment. As a client, it makes sense that you want to ensure treatment is worthwhile since you have so much place for it in your life.

You’ll need to invest the time, effort, and insight to get the most out of your sessions and have a successful conclusion. Unfortunately, some people in therapy feel that they are merely aimlessly meandering along a path without making any progress because of the unknowns involved. The worst case scenario is that it forces a patient to discontinue therapy before they may benefit from it and see beneficial improvements in their lives. On the other hand, a client may only continue in therapy for a short time without making genuine progress if there is no defined course of action and treatment.

Considering all that, you must have a very clear idea of what you want to get from your therapy sessions to see progress.

 

Tips for Getting the Most of Your Therapy Sessions

To get the most out of your talk therapy sessions, you must allow for both unstructured inquiry and deliberate contemplation. While it’s vital to allow your ideas and feelings to run freely, it’s also essential to take a moment to stop, step back, and consider what your thoughts and feelings could be trying to tell you and why. You may do this in a variety of ways and through a variety of self-examination activities. Here are several therapeutic recommendations to make the most of your sessions, even if the topics covered in each therapy session differ.

 

Be Transparent

Holding back is not appropriate in talk therapy. Feeling comfortable sharing your emotions should be simple if you are seeing the correct therapist. Granted, not everything may flood out at the start of your treatment. Trust takes time to develop, even when the patient and therapist are a perfect match. Having said that, express your emotions in your sessions when you feel at ease. Even though we frequently seek therapy to address problems, conflicts, and irritations, sharing victories, joys, and successes is vital.

Knowing what works in your life and what doesn’t is equally important for improving your understanding of yourself. Positive thinking is uplifting and frequently reveals the root reasons for undesirable conduct. Generally speaking, be able to take a step back, restrain your emotions, and be interested in them without allowing them to spiral out of control. In therapy, we practice feeling emotions without letting them control us.

 

Keep Focusing on Yourself

Keep your attention on yourself as much as you can. It’s far too easy to spend the entirety of a therapy session complaining about other people or situations that don’t directly affect you. Be sure instead to focus on your goals, what you want to get out of the session, and write notes. 

This is an excellent time to seek feedback or empathy from a neutral third party. Be sure to ask if you can record the session if you feel like recording, and ask the therapist for homework assignments if that is something you desire. 

However, if you don’t utilize your therapy sessions to talk about yourself, it will be challenging to make progress. Deflecting attention away from the self is a popular strategy used in therapy since it can be hard for many individuals to talk about themselves or how they’re feeling. You must keep the dialogue going and focus on yourself to get the most out of your sessions. 

 

Find Someone That Clicks

What type of therapist do you need? For optimal results from therapy sessions, it is crucial to find the right therapist. Treatment will only be successful with a mentor you can trust. You will need to put some effort into locating the ideal therapist. It’s good to take the time to investigate potential therapists and interview several of them before choosing one.

You should consider crucial elements, including gender, geographic area, experience with particular problems and treatments, and whether or not your insurance company will cover their services. You can locate the best therapist for you through personal and medical references if you need help with how to do it.

 

Build a Relationship with Your Therapist

Once you’ve selected the ideal therapist, it’s time to establish a trustworthy relationship. This cannot and should not be pushed, of course. Even though there is an initial feeling of ease and comfort, building genuine trust could take some time before you open yourself emotionally and fully. As with all partnerships, a good therapeutic connection is created rather than randomly discovered. Try to be straightforward with your therapist to achieve this.

Since no therapist is perfect, it is important to communicate with them about what is and is not working during your sessions. Keep in mind that you are paying your therapist for a service, so be sure to communicate any issues. What is your therapist doing that is effective or ineffective? To establish a strong relationship with your therapist, ask yourself these questions. Also, it is important to note that, depending on the amount of trauma you have experienced, this may affect your ability to see results. It can take some people a few months to trust a therapist, while it could take others a few years to feel comfortable disclosing their intimate stories. 

 

Look For Themes and Patterns

As you progress through your therapy, it’s crucial that you pay attention to more than just the details of each session and search for broader trends and themes. When we can comprehend how events are related and how our personalities and responses impact our well-being, therapy is most successful. 

When you stop attending therapy sessions and start navigating the world on your own, these patterns will help you better understand how you behave in various situations. This will be someone else’s responsibility, not your own. You will receive assistance from your therapist in identifying the themes and patterns that underlie the experiences you share in the session. You don’t have to wait for your therapist to accomplish this. Try going in search of themes on your own!

 

Leaving the Therapist If Doesn’t Feel Right

If you still feel like you’re not with the correct therapist despite many check-ins and open discussions, maybe it’s time to leave. If your therapist doesn’t “get you,” you won’t ever be emotionally open enough to make significant progress in your therapy. The worst error you can make is not discussing unpleasant topics with your therapist. Because your therapist is an authority figure, you might be reluctant to question or threaten them, but remember that they are also trained in mental health, so they should be able to face a backlash. 

If the therapist doesn’t manage it well, that’s a red flag that you should consider changing therapists. The entire success of your therapy depends on your ability to recognize the characteristics of a competent therapist. A skilled therapist will be willing to accept blame for errors or misconceptions.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

AI Therapists: All You Need to Know About This Type of Therapy

AI Therapists: All You Need to Know About This Type of Therapy

 

If you have not heard of AI therapists, they are one of the latest trends in alternative therapy. So, what is actually AI therapy? As you probably already know, AI stands for artificial intelligence, and in the context of therapy, it aims to provide support for mental health online. In general, you would type an issue you’re struggling with, and the AI would then provide you with different ways to look at the situation. 

Knowing that there are many obstacles to such a type of therapy, we wanted to take a deeper look and give you a fair overview of what you can expect if you reach out to an AI therapist.

 

What Is AI Therapy?

Artificial intelligence therapy, or AI therapy is a type of therapy where you share your fears, struggles, problems, or anything else that bothers you through a virtual experience. That said, it is important to say that AI therapy is not the same as online therapy or texting therapy. If you opt for AI therapy, you will not talk to a real person. Instead, a machine will read all of your messages. Think of the automated chat messages you get when you ask for more information about the product instead of calling customer support and talking to a real person.

Obviously, there are certain benefits to undergoing AI therapy. However, they cannot replace conversations with actual therapists. We know that writing in our journals about how we feel and think helps us alleviate some of that tension or anxiety that is building inside us, and that’s exactly what you can do with AI therapy. You can write your heart out and feel safe knowing that nobody will read it or use it inappropriately. What is important to keep in mind is that AI doesn’t guide you to growth. It can only provide limited advice on the situation you’re talking about. That’s the main downside of a form of therapy that might become popular across the US. 

AI therapy completely dismisses a person’s facial and emotional expressions, background, past experience, and anything else a therapist would notice during a session. On the other hand, if you feel okay with having space to write down what is bothering you, AI therapy might be good for you. 

 

AI Therapy vs. Talking to a Real Therapist

Do you remember the first time you visited a therapist? Do you remember the discomfort you felt when you thought about sharing some of your intimate thoughts? Well, that is the reason why many people will choose AI therapy over talking to a real therapist. As humans, we tend to avoid experiences that make us feel uncomfortable, and going to your first therapy session is not as easy as getting out of bed. 

However, AI will never be able to give you the explanations and tools you need to overcome certain situations, especially when it comes to trauma. Another important thing to remember is that the human factor is crucial in therapy. Sometimes, knowing your therapist is a real person helps you open up because you know they have made mistakes, cried, lost someone, and gone through their own set of experiences. 

Also, therapists are educated and trained in the type of therapy they provide, and AI is not. For instance, going to a counselor for marital issues will help you understand what is lacking in your marriage and how to rebuild it. On the other hand, AI is just a machine that can provide you with a pasta carbonara recipe and advice on your marriage. AI therapy lacks complexity, context, or depth. 

 

What to Use AI Therapy For

If you simply love trying out new trends and you want to understand the fuss about AI therapy, by all means, go for it! If you know that it cannot replace a real therapist or truly guide you in your life, there is no harm in it. There are many ways you can use it to help you feel better. We’ve gathered a list of these ways:

  • You got home stressed from work yet wanted to be fully present for your family, so you used AI therapy to vent and have more capacity for your loved ones. 
  • You feel stuck because of a comment from a friend, relative, or coworker, and you use AI therapy to get ideas on how to go about this situation. 
  • You have an irrational fear (e.g., of certain animals, heights, germs, etc.), and you ask AI to help you think of ways to survive a vacation that will expose you to your fear. 
  • You like a person and use AI therapy to encourage yourself to ask them out and plan great first date options. 

With all of this said, these options work only in the short term and only if they are applied in a particular situation. For instance, if you’re afraid of heights and your job requires you to face that fear daily, one limited piece of advice will probably not be enough to start feeling in control of your fear. If you have a recurring issue in your life, you will want to talk to a real therapist. 

 

Other Therapy Types to Consider

Nowadays, there are different types of therapy you can consider trying. Besides the conventional one, which involves going to your therapist’s office and talking to them, there are other forms of therapy you can try. You can also choose different therapy types based on the techniques and areas they treat (i.e., cognitive-behavioral therapy, exposure therapy, animal-assisted therapy, etc.).

If we’re talking about ways to attend therapy, there are offline and online options. Online ways to attend therapy include texts, emails, phone calls, and video services. Text therapy lets you text your therapist and receive prompt answers via mobile phone. Phone therapy enables you to get mental health support via phone conversations. You can also email your therapist and spend some time really writing how you feel or describing a certain situation, which can be quite handy for those who love to express themselves by writing. And finally, there is video therapy, which is the closest thing to in-person therapy. When you have a video therapy session, you will talk to your chosen therapist from the comfort of your home. Most online therapy options will be more affordable than in-person sessions, yet it’s best to consult the prices before starting therapy.

Finally, whichever option you choose, make sure you do your research. Be aware of the advantages and disadvantages. If you’re passionate about trying out AI therapy, make the most of it! However, don’t forget that it will not replace a real therapist, and use it just as a short-term tool, not something that will guide you through life. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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High Functioning Depression Symptoms: What You Need to Know 😔

High Functioning Depression Symptoms: What You Need to Know 😔 

 

As a depression expert, we often see clients with high functioning depression symptoms. These individuals may appear successful on the surface, yet they are struggling with depression in their daily lives.

What is High Functioning Depression?

High functioning depression is a type of depression that is characterized by persistent feelings of sadness and hopelessness. However, unlike individuals with major depression, individuals with high functioning depression symptoms maintain their daily activities. So, even if you get through your day, you may still have it. 

 

Signs of High Functioning Depression

Some common high-functioning depression symptoms include:

  • Changes in appetite or weight
  • Feeling sad or hopeless most days
  • Fatigue or lack of energy
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Lack of interest in activities that were once enjoyable
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • Difficulty sleeping or oversleeping
  • Thoughts of suicide

 

Why It’s Important to Seek Help

Many people who suffer from high functioning depression might not be aware that they are depressed. They may believe their feelings are normal or that they can manage them. Since depression can worsen over time, it’s crucial to seek mental health care if you feel suicidal.

 

How Can You Help Yourself? 

If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of high functioning depression, it’s important to prioritize self-care and community care. This can include getting enough sleep, walking outdoors regularly, maintaining a balanced diet, and going to events in your community. 

Treatment Options: Treatment for high functioning depression may include therapy, medication, meditation, or more. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is a common type of therapy used to treat depression. Meaning that because it focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviors, there is relief. Of course, antidepressant medication may also be prescribed to help alleviate symptoms.

Support from Friends and Family: In addition to professional help, support from friends and family can also be beneficial for individuals with high functioning depression. Having a support system can make people feel less alone and give them emotional support when things are hard.

Remember, depression is a treatable condition, and seeking help is the first step towards recovery. 

If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of high-functioning depression, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for support. Meaning that reaching out to a mental health professional is the best way to approach it. This will help the person in need find adequate treatment and work on improving the quality of their life. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

 

Talking to Teens about Sex

Talking to Teens about Sex

 

Talking to teens about sex is not easy. Sex and sexuality are some of the most significant and impactful conversations we can have with our kids. Therefore, parents must take a deliberate and considerate approach when discussing sex. 

You might be lucky enough for your adolescent to approach you directly with inquiries. You’ll need to take advantage of talking points as they arise. It might happen as you’re listening to a well-known song about a failed relationship. It could be when you catch your child’s eyes lighting up when they spot someone they find attractive. Or perhaps it will happen when you suspect your kid might be sexually active. Although we hope you have “the talk” before it occurs, here are all the things you should keep in mind when talking about sex. 

 

Sex Talk or Ongoing Conversation about Sex?

Let’s not pretend that discussions about sex and sexuality are easy, although we recognize their fundamental necessity. That means that you will probably not be able to cover all sex-related topics in one talk. That puts the subject under far too much pressure. Sexuality and sex talk should be topics for further discussion. You should aim to develop these topics over time and remind your child of values and beliefs that you consider important. 

It’s crucial to teach young people how to make healthy and safer sexual decisions in addition to the relevant sexuality-related information. Parents who are upfront with their children about their sexuality have a greater impact on their sexual practices as they mature.

 

How to Communicate about Sex with Your Teens

It varies from person to person how comfortable they feel talking about sexual health issues. We can admit that discussing sex is uncomfortable as long as we also admit that we transmit our discomfort to others. It will go more smoothly, and your youngster will feel more at ease approaching you if you can get more comfortable. Also, remember that there are numerous concerns related to sex and sexuality. It is OK to address certain concerns on your own and to rely on other dependable adults in your community, especially specialists, to address situations that are outside of your comfort zone.

While talking with your child is crucial, it’s equally important to know yourself and what constitutes emotionally healthy behavior for you. Be aware that your conversations may become more difficult if your own sexual past includes actions or decisions that you now regret or that are emotionally difficult to relive. Talking about the things you can do will help you take care of yourself. Remember that you can engage with your child about issues you find difficult to discuss by involving other people in your social network (co-parents, grandparents, and friends). Additionally, there are experts in your child’s life who are knowledgeable on these subjects, including teachers, counselors, doctors, and nurses.

 

Start Talking Early

We must have constant conversations with our kids from an early age. Even young kids need to learn about respecting themselves, using acceptable touch, and respecting others’ feelings and boundaries. When your children reach puberty and begin to experience sexual feelings, it will be easier to bring up these subjects when they feel like an integral part of the principles you often discuss.

Teens find it simpler to talk about values and safety issues regularly than only after something has happened. If your conversation does not begin before a first date or prom night, you will feel much more at ease, and your adolescent will be much more receptive. Ongoing discussions can be treasured as chances to explain values and consider how to make judgments since they have the feel of education. Conversations that are “emergently” held may feel motivated by fear, “controlling,” or “demanding.”  

As a result, even the best-laid plans can go wrong. While talking with your child is crucial, it’s equally important to know yourself and what is an emotionally healthy behavior for you. Your conversations may become more difficult if your own sexual past includes actions or decisions that you now regret or that are emotionally difficult to relive. 

Talking about the things you can do will help you take care of yourself. Remember that you can engage with your child about issues you find difficult to discuss by involving other people in your social network. Also, there are experts in your child’s life who are knowledgeable on these subjects, including teachers, counselors, doctors, and nurses.

 

Talk about Your Values

Your tween or adolescent can find out about the specifics of puberty and growth in a variety of settings. The internet, books, and health classes are among the examples. You must ensure they pick up these principles of healthy sexuality from you. If you and other responsible people don’t discuss these issues, they will get their morals from the internet, TV, and music. In the worst situation, they might pick up harmful and uncomfortable portrayals of sex and sexuality through internet pornography. Additionally, they will pick up values from their friends, which may be positive yet are not always seasoned by life.

 

Explain Respect and Why It Matters in Sex

We know teenagers value their parents’ advice and that instilling parental knowledge in children is essential to setting them up for future success. We also know that teenagers reject parental advice when they feel it intrudes on their privacy, yet cherish it when it helps them negotiate the world shrewdly and safely. This information is essential in guiding our discussions about sex and sexuality, which can feel extremely personal. So, if you discuss particular relationships, you’re probably getting too intimate. 

Similarly, if you inquire about your teen’s specific sexual activities, you are likely entering uneasy territory and risk provoking a rejection. On the other hand, keeping conversations casual enables you to have extremely serious conversations more successfully and comfortably. Young people believe that it is the responsibility of their parents to keep them safe, and we often talk about healthy sexual practices while discussing safety issues. 

 

Where to Start

As a parent, you might feel overwhelmed by the idea of talking about sex with your teen. However, it is crucial to do it. Many people will struggle to find adequate information to guide them during these talks. One of the most recommended sources is Scarleteen, a sex education website with comprehensive and inclusive information for teens and parents.  This would help you to understand the perspective of teens on sex as well. So, when you start talking to your child about sex-related topics, do it right. Don’t judge or yell at them. Instead, offer compassion, support, and guidance. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Fascinating Facts About Women: Unveiling the Power and Potential

Fascinating Facts About Women: Unveiling the Power and Potential

 

Fun and fascinating Facts About Women that men don’t know!

Let’s learn more about celebrating the remarkable achievements and unique qualities of women around the world!

Here, we bring you an insightful collection of facts about women.

From bodies to pleasure, we showcase the incredible facts about women and their bodies! Join us on this journey of female empowerment.

Our content is dedicated to fostering understanding and appreciation for the unique experiences of humanity, and we aim to share lovely facts about females.

We believe that knowledge is power, and by sharing these facts, we hope to promote gender equality, encourage inclusivity, and ignite conversations that empower both humans.

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Attention Deficit Disorder in Women: Seeking Solutions!

Attention Deficit Disorder in Women: Seeking Solutions!

 

Women with ADHD or attention deficit disorder face unique challenges. They might feel powerless, fatigued, and like they’re constantly struggling to keep up. They may also have trouble with friendships, work, and school deadlines. If you’re a woman with attention deficit disorder, know that you’re not alone. There are many resources available to help you manage your symptoms and live a happy and fulfilling life.

 

What is ADHD?

Also, women with ADHD often have trouble with executive functioning, which can make it hard for them to manage their time, stay organized, and finish what they start.

The neurodevelopmental condition ADHD affects impulsivity, hyperactivity, and attention. In adults, ADHD is thought to affect 5–10% of them. Regardless of the type of diagnosis used, attention deficit disorder is referred to as the “ADHD inattentive type.”

 

Symptoms of ADHD in Women

The symptoms of ADHD in women can vary depending on the severity of the disorder. However, some common symptoms include:

  • Difficulty paying attention or following instructions
  • Restlessness, trouble sitting still 
  • Desire to fidget due to body dysregulation
  • Having trouble reining in impulsive behavior
  • Trouble planning tasks
  • Difficulty managing time and staying on task
  • Trouble with controlling emotions

 

Challenges Women with Attention Deficit Disorder Face

If you think you may have attention deficit disorder, it’s important to see an APRN and/or mental health professional for diagnosis and treatment. There are a number of effective treatments for ADHD, including medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. 

Women with ADHD often have difficulty with emotional regulation, which can lead to impulsive behaviors and mood swings. This can be difficult for partners to understand and can create conflict in the relationship. This can also be difficult for partners to understand and can lead to frustration.

Furthermore, changes that can be helpful for managing ADHD quickly include getting sleep, eating a balanced diet, moving your body, avoiding stress, avoiding caffeine, and finding someone to help you get organized. 

Women with ADHD face a number of challenges, including:

  • Having trouble at work and in school 
  • Substance abuse and / or disordered eating
  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Sleep disturbances 
  • Difficulty in relationships – including family and friends

 

How to Find a Therapist

If you’re looking for a therapist to help you with ADHD, you can ask your doctor for a referral or search online. When choosing a therapist, it’s important to find someone who is experienced in treating ADHD and who you feel comfortable with. 

Psychotherapy can be an effective treatment for attention deficit disorder in women. So, there are a number of different types of therapy that can be helpful, including:

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): CBT can help you learn how to manage your thoughts and behaviors in a more helpful way.
  • Group therapy: Group therapy can provide you with support and a sense of community.
  • Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT): DBT can help you learn how to manage your emotions and cope with stress.

 

Tips for Women with Attention Deficit Disorder

In summary, don’t be afraid to learn new skill sets. There are a number of resources available to help you manage your ADHD. Also, it’s common and normal to need others. Be patient with yourself, as it takes time to learn how to manage a different brain.

Although ADHD cannot be cured, some people find it to be a gift. Concentrate on your distinct advantages, please. Relationships with women who have ADHD can be challenging, and they can also be incredibly rewarding. 

Women with ADHD are frequently passionate, creative, and active. They can also be incredibly supportive and devoted partners. It’s crucial to be understanding and supportive if you’re in a relationship with a woman who has an attention deficit. With some time and effort, both you and those around you can learn to enjoy the benefits of your relationship. Also, be certain to celebrate your connections. If you’re a woman with ADHD, know that you’re not alone and that there are others who are going through this as well. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

The Effectiveness of Talk Therapy for Anorgasmia Treatment

The Effectiveness of Talk Therapy for Anorgasmia Treatment

 

Anorgasmia treatment is a common sexual problem that can have an effect on a person’s sexual and emotional health. Anorgasmia is defined as the inability to attain orgasm despite sexual excitement. Both physical and mental factors can contribute to anorgasmia; the former may include things like specific medications. Or medical conditions, while the latter may include things like stress, worry, or issues with interpersonal relationships.

 

Talk therapy, which is also called psychotherapy, is a type of treatment that can help people with anorgasmia deal with the mental issues that may be making their condition worse. A wide range of mental health professionals, including psychologists, counselors, and certified therapists, can provide talk therapy, a type of psychotherapy.

 

How Talk Therapy Can Help with Anorgasmia

 

Talk therapy can be helpful for people with anorgasmia because it can help them figure out and deal with the mental issues that may be contributing to their illness. During treatment sessions, people are given a safe and supportive environment in which they can talk about their thoughts, feelings, and experiences related to sexuality and sex. People might benefit from this research by learning more about their own sexual responses and finding any problems that might be causing them to not have a sexual desire.

 

Here is a list of things that can be done in talk therapy: 

 

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a form of talk therapy that focuses on modifying destructive patterns of thought and behavior. CBT is an acronym for cognitive behavioral therapy. Those who suffer with anorgasmia may find that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is helpful in identifying and addressing any negative ideas or attitudes about sexuality or sex that may be contributing to their illness.

 

  • Mindfulness-based therapy can help people with anorgasmia become more aware of the present moment and more in tune with their own sexual responses. By practicing mindfulness, people can learn to pay more attention to their own physical feelings and become more aware of their own sexual excitement.

 

  • Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that focuses especially on sexual concerns. The goal is to develop strategies for improving sexual communication, increasing pleasure. And resolving any concerns that may be contributing to anorgasmia.

 

Benefits of Talk Therapy for Anorgasmia Treatment

 

Talk therapy for anorgasmia treatment has a variety of advantages, including the following:

 

  • People who go to talk therapy may become more aware of themselves and gain a better understanding of their own sexual reactions. Similarly, talk therapy can help couples communicate better sexually by fixing any communication problems that may be linked to anorgasmia.

 

  • Talk therapy can help people find ways to increase their sexual pleasure and achieve orgasm. Which can lead to a higher level of sexual satisfaction overall.

 

  • Talk therapy can make relationships happier as a whole by addressing any relationship problems that may be caused by anorgasmia.

 

Conclusion

 

Anorgasmia treatment is an illness that has the potential to be irritating and unpleasant. Yet it’s essential to keep in mind that it is treatable. Talk therapy can be a good way to address anorgasmia treatment. Because it can help people deal with the mental health issues that may be contributing to their problems. 

 

Working with a mental health professional can help people with anorgasmia improve their sexual communication. Become more self-aware, and have more sexual pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

 

If you aren’t ready to commit to therapy, you can start your journey here. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do

Erectile Dysfunction Therapy: Questions You Were Afraid to Ask

Erectile Dysfunction Therapy: Questions You Were Afraid to Ask

 

Trouble achieving or maintaining a hard enough erection for intercourse is referred to as erectile dysfunction, and the recommended treatment that might help you is erectile dysfunction therapy. Men most frequently disclose erectile dysfunction, or ED, to their doctor when they have sex-related issues. Some studies say erectile dysfunction can impact up to 30 million men.

Even though it’s common for men to experience occasional erection issues, ED that progresses or frequently occurs during sexual activity is abnormal and has to be addressed. It can most often happen when the penis’ blood supply is restricted, or its nerves are damaged, under stress, or for emotional reasons. It can also be an early sign of a more severe condition like atherosclerosis (hardening or blocking the arteries), heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes.

Your general health and your ED treatment will benefit from determining the cause(s) of the condition. Generally speaking, whatever is healthy for your heart is also excellent for your sexual health.

What is Erectile Dysfunction?

Impotence sometimes referred to as erectile dysfunction, is characterized by difficulties obtaining and maintaining an erection. It might be awkward to bring up the subject. According to reports, more than half of men between the ages of 40 and 70 deal with ED in some capacity. So, console yourself in the knowledge that you are not alone.

Nerves release substances that boost blood flow to the penis during sexual stimulation. Two erection chambers of the penis, which are formed of spongy muscular tissue, receive blood flow (the corpus cavernosum). The chambers of the corpus cavernosum are solid.

Erection results from the penis being stiff due to the blood pressure in the chambers. The spongy tissues loosen up and trap blood during an erection. The second set of nerves reaches the penis during an orgasm and forces the penis’ muscular tissues to contract, releasing blood back into the circulatory system and causing the erection to disappear.

The penis is soft and limp when not sexually stimulated. Men may see that their penis changes in size in response to heat, cold, or stress; this is typical and represents the balance of blood entering and exiting the penis.

Symptoms & Causes

Erectile dysfunction can result from a variety of causes, such as:

  • Vascular disease: Vascular diseases like atherosclerosis can cause the blood flow to the penis to become restricted or constrained (hardening of the arteries).
  • Neurological conditions (like multiple sclerosis): Strokes, diabetes, and other conditions can affect the nerves that transmit signals to the penis.
  • Psychological conditions: These include worries about performing, tension, sadness, and a lack of brain stimulation.
  • Trauma: An injury may make ED symptoms worse.

ED may also be brought on by chronic sickness and certain drugs, including a disorder known as Peyronie’s disease. Additionally, bladder, colon, and prostate cancer treatments may have contributed.

Various pharmaceutical medications frequently have adverse effects on erectile dysfunction (ED). While these drugs may treat an illness or condition, they can also negatively affect a man’s hormones, nervous system, or blood flow, leading to ED or increasing the risk of ED. Do not stop taking medicine if you have ED and suspect it may be related to the drugs you are taking. Contact your doctor if the issue continues; they might be able to recommend an alternative medicine.

ED & Depression

For certain men, erectile dysfunction can coexist with depression (ED). Men with ED frequently experience emotions like rage, frustration, sadness, self-doubt, and even a loss of “manliness.” That could result in low self-esteem and, in extreme circumstances, depression.

The associated depression with ED is curable. Being honest with yourself, your spouse, and your doctor is the first step in addressing your worries about ED-related sadness. Coping with depression will be simpler and less demanding if it is publicly acknowledged.

Your doctor will assess your medical history and complete a physical examination before recommending any testing. You will also be “interviewed” by the doctor on your personal and sexual background. Some of these inquiries could seem invasive since they are so unique. You must provide honest responses to these queries, though. 

Psychosocial History

Your doctor will inquire about your symptoms, medical history, and sexual history or may ask you to complete a questionnaire to diagnostic with a Erectile Dysfunction Therapy . Your comments may aid their assessment of the severity of your ED.

Some questions they could ask include:

  • When did you first start having ED? Did it start slowly or suddenly?
  • Are you having any issues with orgasm, ejaculation, or sexual desire?
  • When was the last time you had sex? Has this frequency lately changed?
  • How solidly do your erection? Is this influenced by certain circumstances or forms of stimulation?
  • Do you have erections during the night or in the morning?
  • How is your existing union doing? What goals do you and your partner have for the relationship? Has anything changed recently?
  • Have you been under a lot of stress lately?
  • What prescription drugs do you now take? Do you use non-prescription medications, alcohol, or tobacco?
  • Do you suffer from any underlying illnesses? Have you ever had surgery on your pelvis?

In Final Words

There is growing evidence that ED is associated with obesity, high cholesterol, hypertension, diabetes, and heart disease. Steps may be taken to avoid the development of ED in those at risk owing to personal conduct. Other factors, however, might not be prevented.

The suggestions below might aid in preventing ED or treating it if it already exists:

  • Adopt a balanced diet. Men with ED can benefit from eating a diet low in saturated fat and high in healthy grains, fruits, and vegetables.
  • Lower your cholesterol. A healthy diet, regular exercise, and medicine can decrease cholesterol in men. The arteries leading to the penis might stiffen, constrict, or become blocked due to high cholesterol (atherosclerosis).
  • Keep a healthy weight.
  • Regular exercise Regular physical activity may lower the risk of ED. Exercise lowers your risk of ED and aids in stress management. Choose workouts that you will make a normal part of your day and that you love. Before commencing any workout regimen, consult your doctor.

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Contraceptive Methods: Everything You Need To Know

Contraceptive Methods: Everything You Need To Know

 

Having sex comes with responsibilities, and if you want to enjoy it without undesired consequences. You will need to know all about contraceptive methods. Luckily, there are many options when talking about contraception. So you will easily find something that suits your needs and allows you to have as much sex you want. And more importantly, the way you want it. 

Depending on the contraceptive method, it protects you from unwanted pregnancy. While some of them will also keep you safe from sexually transmissible infections (STIs). To answer all questions you might have about contraception. Take a look at the best contraceptive methods and find out what benefits they bring for your sexual health and lifestyle. 

Condoms

Having sex with a condom is the only way of protecting yourself. And your sex partner against most STIs and pregnancy. It’s a contraceptive method that can be used on-demand, while also being hormone-free and simple to carry around with you at all times. Another great thing about condoms is they come in both male and female varieties. 

While male condoms are being rolled onto an erect penis to prevent sexual fluids from passing between the partners, the female condom is being placed into the vagina moments before having sex. When comparing these two options, a male condom is more practical, effective. And enjoyable as the female condom requires both partners to get used to it. 

Oral Contraceptive Pills

Oral contraceptive pills need to be taken once a day, and as much as there are many different types of pills to choose from, the principle is the same with all of them. Combines pills contain estrogen and progestin, and mini pills contain only one – progestin. The most important thing with any of these oral contraceptive pills is to take them on time.

When used correctly, contraceptive pills are highly effective, allow both partners sexual spontaneity, and doesn’t put your activities on pause during the entire sex. Many women are even taking them to reduce heavy and painful periods or as a part of the acne treatment. Yet unlike condoms, these pills will not protect you or your sex partner against STIs. 

Contraceptive Implants

This contraceptive method implies a little, flexible rod being placed under the upper arm skin of a woman. There, it releases a form of the hormone progesterone. This hormone will stop the ovary from releasing the egg and thicken the woman’s cervical mucus which makes it very challenging for the sperm to enter the womb. 

With this method, you will need to do a small procedure that requires local anesthesia both when fitting it and removing it after three years. As a highly effective contraceptive method. It’s important to keep in mind there can be irregular bleeding at first. Which needs to be monitored by a trained healthcare provider to avoid any potential problems. 

Intrauterine Devices (IUDs)

This is a small, T-shape device that contains progesterone hormone and is placed inside a uterus by a trained healthcare professional. It´s one of the longest-acting contraceptive methods as it can stay in for three to ten years. Some IUDs will even release hormones gradually to prevent pregnancy. 

It can even be fitted inside a uterus as emergency contraception as it’s efficient within five days of the last time you had unprotected sex. As it is with contraceptive implants mentioned above, you need to be aware of potential irregular bleeding and spotting in the first few months of use. 

Emergency Contraception Pills

If you forgot or didn’t have access to contraceptive methods, an emergency contraception pill might be exactly what you need. If you just had unprotected sex or a condom has broken during sex. The ‘Morning After’ pill can be effective within the first five days of unprotected sex. To make sure it’s as efficient as possible, you should take it immediately or within the next three days after sex. 

When taken in that period of time, the emergency contraception pill prevents more than 80% of expected pregnancies. It contains a special dose of female hormones. These ‘Morning After’ pills can be bought over the counter at a pharmacy or chemist without any prescription. Another benefit is that even women who cannot take oral contraceptive pills can take this pill to prevent potential pregnancy. 

Contraceptive Rings

A contraceptive ring is a flexible plastic ring that constantly releases hormones and is placed in the vagina. Unlike previously mentioned methods like IUDs and contraceptive implants, a woman will put in a contraceptive ring. It stays in for three weeks. And once a woman removes it, she will need to wait another week to put another contraceptive ring. 

This ring releases the estrogen and progestogen, both hormones found in the combined oral contraceptive pill, yet at a much lower dose. Contraceptive rings are also being used to control periods and you can work on your pregnancy if you want as soon as you remove it. 

Conclusion

When choosing an appropriate contraceptive method for yourself, it’s best to consult with your gynecologist. Not every woman will be able to use all of the above-mentioned methods. So it’s best to have that conversation before you make a decision. For instance, not all oral contraceptive pills are the same, so someone might have negative consequences taking one and feel completely fine by taking another type of pill. 

If you’ve decided to use a contraceptive method that requires the help of a trained help provider. Make sure you’ve checked the background of that person before having the procedure. Making sure that the method is fitted correctly will keep you safe from pregnancy and minimalize the post-effects of the procedure, like bleeding and spotting. 

When in a serious relationship, talk about contraception with your partner as this decision affects you both. Having the support of your loved one will help you make the right decision. And allow you to enjoy sex as you used to.

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Does Sex Relieve Stress: What Do Experts Say?

Does Sex Relieve Stress: What Do Experts Say?

 

Sex and stress are connected in many ways, however, does sex relieve stress? When a particularly stressful week or two saps our sex drive—or when we successfully utilize sex to reduce stress—the majority of us instinctively know this and feel it unambiguously. These instincts are supported by scientific research.

Stress and anxiety can be reduced by sex by releasing “feel good” hormones like oxytocin. These hormones aid in promoting calm and reducing anxiety.

Sex increases hormone levels and other brain chemicals and it lowers stress hormone levels.

Ways Sex Relieves Stress

Your body can relax during orgasm and produce many hormones that are beneficial to your general health and well-being. Similar to this, sex can increase dopamine, a neurotransmitter that is commonly referred to as the “feel-good chemical” since it amplifies positive emotions.

  • Increased Oxytocin. Because it is released during physical contacts, such as during affectionate caressing and sex between adult couples, as well as during pregnancy, birth, and lactation, oxytocin is referred to as the “love hormone.”
  • Increased Endorphins. Although endorphins are neurotransmitters, which are released during sexual activity, as well as other physical activity, such as running, and in response to pain. They can lower stress and elevate mood, much like oxytocin.
  • Reduced cortisol. The sexual activity appears to lower levels of adrenaline and cortisol, also referred to as “stress hormones,” just as it might increase chemicals with favorable benefits. 

Benefits of Sex on Your Health

Sex provides a lot of additional significant health advantages in addition to flooding your body with hormones that can help you feel less stressed, anxious, and worried. Numerous other aspects of sex help deal more efficiently with stress management.

Improves Your Mood

Positive distractions like sex can help you put anxious thoughts out of your head. In turn, this can lift one’s spirits both now and in the future. For instance, a study of married couples discovered that having sex was linked to feeling well the next day at work.

It is also found that stress and conflict in the workplace-family environment decreased the likelihood of sex. If you often have conflicts between your personal and professional lives, you might want to be aware of this.

You might question if sex, which improves mood, might also help manage depressive symptoms. Since both depression symptoms and therapies can contribute to a decrease in libido, the connection between sex and depression is complicated.

Better Brain Function

Sex may assist in keeping your mind sharp in addition to benefiting your body and mood. According to studies, older persons who had sex more regularly performed better on memory tests.

Strengthens the Relationship

Additionally, having sex deepens the intimacy you experience with your spouse, which lowers stress and elevates your mood. People tend to manage stress better, live longer, and have better overall health when they have a supportive social outlet, which may include a solid personal relationship.

Improves Sleep

According to research, sexual activity helps people sleep better. Specifically, having sex may make it easier for you to nod off and improve the quality of your sleep. Once more, hormones might be involved. Both sexual activity and better sleep are related to raised levels of oxytocin, prolactin, and cortisol, which can surge after an orgasm.

Improves Heart Health

Sex may also assist your heart health, which is another perk. Most research suggests that men who have sex twice a week are less likely to acquire the cardiovascular disease. Having sex should be safe as long as you can exercise without experiencing any heart issues for three to five metabolic equivalents (METs). These equivalents are a unit of measurement used to calculate the energy needed to complete an activity.

Improves Fertility

Experts have demonstrated that ejaculating frequently lessens sperm harm. They hypothesize that this occurs because there is a greater likelihood of DNA damage the longer sperm remains in the testes.

Solo Sex Benefits

Sex doesn’t have to happen between two people to enjoy its health benefits. Masturbation enables people to access an incredible wealth of sensations, information, and ultimately, benefits that go beyond an orgasm. After all, most of the reactions in your body that occur during sex with another person will appear when you are masturbating as well. So, if you heard from someone or somewhere that masturbation is bad for you, here is another reason to tell them otherwise. 

These are just some of the many benefits of masturbation:

  • releases sexual tension
  • reduces stress
  • helps you improve sleep quality
  • improves your self-esteem and body image
  • helps treat a range of sexual problems
  • relieves menstrual cramps and muscle tension
  • strengthens muscle tone in the pelvic and anal areas

Masturbation also enables you to discover your sexual preferences. How would you like to be touched? How much pressure is comfortable? What speed or tempo? Learning to have orgasms on your own can make it simpler to do so with a partner since you can describe or demonstrate the pleasurable sensations to them. And, you are more likely to feel comfortable protecting yourself from STDs and unexpected pregnancy when comfortable with sex, your body, and communicating with your partner.

Some people experience guilt after masturbating because they learn as children that it is wrong or bad. Try to keep in mind that most people masturbate if you feel that way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and it is quite normal. If you struggle to overcome guilt feelings, speaking with a counselor or therapist may be helpful.

Conclusion

You probably aren’t surprised to learn that having sex feels nice and helps relieve stress. Since it has so many advantages, knowing more about how and why sex can relieve stress might give you a few more reasons to engage in it.

It’s critical to concentrate on stress management if it’s affecting your ability to have or enjoy sex with your partner or your connection with them. That could entail individual or couple’s counseling, where you can develop a stronger bond and discover constructive methods to deal with stress and conflict.

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

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5 Signs You Need Therapy 

5 Signs You Need Therapy 

 

You might ask ‘What are the signs you need therapy? ’At some point in our lives, we encounter stress, anxiety, mood swings, and other types of emotional suffering. Whether it’s because of a failure in the workplace, rejection, problems with money, interpersonal conflicts, a death in the family, or another reason, we usually are able to recover eventually. However, occasionally, we might want a little extra assistance to do so.

You might not be able to “snap out of it” because you’re feeling down or empty. Or perhaps you’ve noticed some unhealthy patterns in your behavior that you find difficult to change. The symptoms of mental or emotional strain might sometimes be plain to see. However, sometimes it is more difficult to identify them.

Our energy, productivity, and general health are directly impacted by our emotions, thoughts, and actions. Taking care of your mental health makes it easier for you to deal with stress and problems in daily life. This is why it’s so important to pay attention to your mental health and get assistance if you feel that things are out of control.

What is Therapy?

When they hear the word “therapy,” a lot of people panic. Contrary to popular belief, however, psychotherapy is not only for people who are experiencing mental illness. Anyone who wants to improve their life yet is under stress, going through high emotions, or going through life transitions may find it helpful.

You can explore your options, vent about your experiences, and get the skills to deal with a variety of life difficulties through psychotherapy or talk therapy.

Psychotherapy comes in a variety of formats. Knowing what to anticipate from the treatment you or your child is undergoing is so crucial. These are the main types of psychotherapy:

  • interpersonal psychotherapy 
  • psychoanalytic psychotherapy
  • cognitive analytical therapy 
  • systemic psychotherapy 
  • humanistic therapy 

It’s critical to keep in mind that asking for help is not a sign of weakness yet a crucial step on the road to self-care. You can get back on track more quickly the earlier you seek assistance. Below, you can find the signs that indicate you should consider therapy.

1. You find it difficult to manage your emotions successfully. 

Even while everyone experiences sadness, anxiety, or anger at some point in their lives, it’s crucial to be aware of how frequently or strongly a person experiences any of these feelings. Anger frequently appears as part of a depressed episode. In fact, because men’s irritability or short temper is mistakenly seen as a masculine trait, melancholy in males is frequently overlooked. Uncontrolled rage can also signify negative thoughts about oneself or the outside world, frustration, or a poorly controlled stress response, in addition to despair. 

In a similar vein, persistently feeling down, empty, and uninterested in anything could be an indication of clinical depression. This is distinct from a depressed mood, which everyone experiences occasionally. 

Many adolescents and young people exhibit impatience, wrath, or hostility toward others rather than experiencing increasing grief. Therapy can help you to better manage emotions. Think of your therapy as an honest, objective, and private environment that helps you to examine painful sensations, comprehend their underlying causes, put them in context, and learn coping mechanisms to overcome such sentiments.

2. Your performance in school or at work is decreasing. 

One of the symptoms of psychological or emotional problems is a decline in performance at work or school. Mental health problems can affect one’s ability to pay attention, concentrate, remember things, have energy, and be energetic. They can also cause apathy, which can make it difficult to enjoy or even want to go to work. It could cause a lack of interest and mistakes at work, which would lower production. Even more so, it could endanger you or others.

For instance, whether you’re a caregiver, doctor, law enforcement official, or someone who drives or operates machinery. By actively solving problems and practicing relaxation techniques, a therapist can help you learn how to successfully self-regulate your behavior and develop more adaptive coping mechanisms for stress.

3. You notice changes or distruption in sleep or appetite.

Our sleep and appetite can be significantly impacted by mental health problems. A person who is worried or manic may have trouble sleeping, yet a person who is really sad may sleep all the time. 

When under stress, some people overeat to numb their emotions, while others find they can barely eat. Therefore, it may be time to take a step back and carefully evaluate the issue if you realize that you have been eating or sleeping either less or more than usual for an extended length of time.

4. It is difficult for you to build and maintain relationships.

Our mental health can have a range of effects on our relationships, including making us withdraw from those who are important to us, creating uneasiness in a partnership, or making us severely rely on another person for emotional support. People experiencing psychological or emotional difficulties may find it challenging to build relationships at work or school, collaborate in teams, or communicate with superiors, coworkers, or subordinates. 

New or ongoing relationships may suffer as a result of any of these circumstances. Therapy can be helpful if you frequently find yourself at odds with people or struggle to express your emotions to others. You can learn better social skills from a qualified therapist, like respectful assertiveness. 

5. You experienced a traumatic event. 

Talk therapy can also help those who have experienced past physical or sexual abuse or other trauma from which they have not yet entirely recovered. In a private, judgment-free setting, psychotherapy enables a person to discuss these traumatic events with a professional skilled at listening to these concerns. 

Additionally, the client is not concerned with “protecting” the therapist from learning about these experiences. A therapist can also assist the patient in learning skills for overcoming associations and the hold that the trauma has over them as well as new ways of thinking about the terrible incident.

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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