How to give a sensual massage

How to Give a Sensual Massage

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How to Give a Sensual Massage That’s Actually Hot and Nice

We hope you enjoy this article on sensual massage. LCAT owner, Dr. Amanda Pasciucco was interviewed by Self.com writer Ro White. This article was published in Self.com on September 15, 2023.

 

Here’s exactly what to do—and not do—to pull off a sexy, relaxing back rub.

If you’re seeking new ways to feel close to your partner, you might be wondering how to give them a good sensual massage to help you connect. (And a downright sexy massage offers even more opportunities for intimacy.) Horny touching, including massage, causes our brains to release oxytocin, a.k.a. the “love hormone”, so an erotic massage is the perfect recipe for bonding, relaxation, and arousal—possibly even a better sex life.

Read on as experts share how to give a sexy back massage to turn on both you and your partner—and maybe set the mood for more.


Talk to your partner about what their dream massage would look like.

There’s no one way to give an erotic massage, so before you pump up the Marvin Gaye and break out the “good” massage oil, ask your partner what they’d like to get out of this experience—and share your own desires too.

“The ‘why’ of the massage should dictate the ‘how,’” Barbara Carrellas, an AASECT-certified sex educator who teaches erotic massage, tells SELF. So: Are you and your partner seeking connection, or maybe novelty? Are you wanting to take some pressure off of your sexual performance? Are you having trouble getting out of your own head and looking for new forms of foreplay? Do you just think their back is hot and want to love up on it a little? Find out!

Once you’re clear on the “why” behind your sexy massage, decide together how you’d like it to feel. “Erotic massages can be therapeutic, relaxing, stimulating, healing, sensual, sexual, kinky, or whatever other intention you set,” Carrellas says.

Check in about where and how your partner wants to be touched and if there are any no-go zones, AASECT-certified sex therapist Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT, CST, tells SELF.

You should definitely ask whether your partner wants the massage to include overtly sexual contact. “Each person likes to be touched in a different way,” Pasciucco explains. “Some people love the adrenaline of just going toward the genitals, while many others enjoy long, slow strokes to build up anticipation.”


Make your surroundings feel sexier.

Use dim lighting, a playlist featuring gentle music, and candles to create an ambiance that helps your partner feel relaxed, Pasciucco says. (Just make sure the candles are securely placed far from the massage zone—catching your hair on fire would kill the mood.)

One of the best—but often overlooked—massage tips isn’t about what you set up, but what you get the hell out of sight at home. Pasciucco suggests removing any potential distractions from the room, like pets, phones, piles of laundry, and family photos (you probably won’t want your relatives staring you down while you zealously knead your partner’s butt cheeks).

If this kind of traditional massage setup feels slightly corny to you, Pasciucco suggests leaning into the cringe. “Making your bedroom look like a temple of love might not be your norm, but do it anyway,” she says. Trust that once you’re squeezing your partner’s thighs, you’ll probably both be too turned-on to feel embarrassed—and until you get there, it’s okay to laugh a little too.

If you just can’t get past the corniness of candles and soft music, there are plenty of other ways you can set the mood. “While some people like candles, soft music, and feathers, others like dark dungeons, floggers, and being ordered to get on the massage table,” Carrellas says. There’s no one perfect way to do this: The vibe of your sexy massage should feel personal to you and your partner! Let your imaginations tell you what a “good massage” should look like.


Pick an oil that’s up to the hot task at hand.

Your most important massage tool is lotion or oil, since this will help your hands glide more easily along your partner’s body, Pasciucco notes. Just make sure you review the ingredients first, especially if either of you has skin allergies or fragrance sensitivities.

Since this is a sexy massage, chances are there might be some genital-touching involved either during or after the rubdown. If you’re planning to use this same oil externally on your partner’s junk, you’ll need a fragrance-free oil, as scented products (including essential oils) can irritate the urethra (where pee comes out). Soothing Touch’s nut-free massage oil, Sliquid’s Escape massage oil, and Now Solutions’ massage oil are all excellent options.

For any vaginal penetration, you’ll want an all-natural oil to avoid irritation or infection. Vagina-safe options include coconut oil, hemp seed oil, grape seed oil, vegetable oil, sunflower oil, and olive oil, as the Cleveland Clinic notes. Keep in mind that using oil inside the vagina can increase the risk of developing a yeast infection, according to a UCLA study, so if your partner knows their vagina doesn’t respond well to oil or if they’re not sure, clean your hands after the massage and switch to lube when you’re doing hand stuff.

If you think your massage might lead to sex involving safer sex barriers, like condoms, make sure you use only water-based or silicone lube for any between-the-legs action and thoroughly wash your hands before handling barriers. Since oil degrades latex, getting massage oil on a latex condom or dental dam can prevent your barrier from doing its job.

Finally, make sure any sex toys, or sensations toys like feathers, paddles, and floggers, that you plan to use are easily accessible, too, so you don’t have to fumble around with slick hands.


Sensual massage techniques.

Take it slow.

Have your partner lie flat on a bed face-down or face-up, depending on the areas you’d like to focus on. They can be partially dressed or fully nude—whatever feels most comfortable.

Once your partner is situated, find a position for your own body that you won’t mind holding for a while. You can sit beside your partner, pull up a chair next to the bed, or—if you want to heat things up right away and this works for both of you—straddle your partner while you oil up your hands and prepare to caress their stress away.

Massage techniques can and should vary based on what your partner’s into, but here are some rules of thumb about sensual touch: If you’re planning on giving a full-body massage experience, start by gently kneading your partner’s shoulders, adding more massage oil as needed, and checking in with them about the level of pressure you’re using. “Erotic massage creates lots of space for communication, so there’s always room for your partner to ask for more or less of any touch,” Carrellas explains.

Rub your partner’s back and limbs (or whatever part of the body they like) with circular motions, or with long, smooth strokes along each muscle using your palms and the whole lengths of your fingers and tips of your forefingers. “Touching with your whole hand feels like an embrace,” Carrellas says. “You can use this technique to glide anywhere on your partner’s body without lifting your palm.” Another one of the best sensual massage techniques: Use your thumbs in areas where your partner wants more pinpointed pressure, like on the arches of their feet. If your hands need a rest, throw in some kissing or licking, if that’s your partner’s thing. (If they don’t mind oil in their hair, go ahead and stroke it—just ask first if you don’t know.)

Once your partner is feeling relaxed, ramp up their arousal by stroking and rubbing erogenous zones, like their earlobes, chest, butt, and inner thighs, before venturing between their legs, if that’s something you’re both down for. A sexy massage doesn’t have to end in genital stimulation—“an erotic massage should with pleasure, which doesn’t necessarily mean an orgasm,” Pasciucco says. But if you and your partner want your massage to get a little spicier, go for it! Sensual massage can feel incredible on your partner’s whole body—not just their back.

Read more of Dr. Pasciucco’s media interviews here.

Prepare for Marriage: Navigating a Shared Life Without Prior Cohabitating

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Prepare for Marriage: Navigating a Shared Life Without Prior Cohabitating

 

When you prepare for marriage, you need essential steps for a successful union when you haven’t lived together. This marks the union of two individuals on a journey of shared growth, companionship, and love. 

If you are about to get married and have never lived with your partner before, you might be wondering how to get ready. Even though not living together before marriage comes with its own set of challenges, it is still possible to build a strong foundation for a long-lasting and happy marriage. 

 

Here are some important things to think about:

 

  1. Communicating in an open and honest way:

Effective communication is the key to a happy marriage or any other relationship. Start by talking about what you want, what you value, and what you want your future to look like. Talk about things like finances, chores, and personal space to make sure you are on the same page. When people talk honestly about possible problems and conflicts, they can avoid misunderstandings in the future. Conflicts are a natural part of any relationship. Learning how to address disagreements respectfully and find solutions together is key. Focus on active listening, empathy, and compromise rather than winning arguments.

 

  1. Pre-Marital Counseling:

If you have never lived together before, it can be very helpful to talk to a professional marriage counselor. A therapist can help you deal with possible problems, give you tools for better communication, and teach you how to handle disagreements in a healthy way. Premarital counseling provides a safe environment for couples to explore their relationship dynamics and better understand one another’s needs.

 

  1. Quality Time Together:

Even if you have never lived together, spending quality time with your partner in a variety of settings can reveal their habits, preferences, and behaviors. Plan weekend trips, shared hobbies, and other activities that simulate living together. This can help you see how well you two work together and whether any adjustments are necessary.

 

  1. Talk about Money:

Marriages frequently experience stress from financial issues. Engage in frank discussions about the ways in which the two of you intend to co-manage your finances, as well as your financial objectives and responsibilities. Putting together a spending plan, having a conversation about how we spend our money, and paying down any debts we may already have are all steps that can help prevent future arguments over money.

 

  1. Practice Compromise and Flexibility:

Compromise and adaptability are necessary when living with another person. Your routines, habits, and preferences will accompany your marriage. Harmony requires adaptability to each other’s needs. Therefore, adjusting to a shared life takes time. Be patient with each other as you navigate through the ups and downs of living together for the first time. Understand that both of you will have moments of adjustment and vulnerability.

 

  1. Define Personal Space:

Even in marriage, maintaining individuality is essential. Discuss and establish clear boundaries for personal space, such as private spaces for work or recreation. Relationships can become healthier and more harmonious if both parties respect each other’s need for privacy. While you’re entering a partnership, it’s essential to maintain your sense of self. Nurture your own passions, friendships, and hobbies. A healthy balance between your individual identity and shared life will contribute positively to your marriage.

 

  1. Plan Household Responsibilities:

Dividing household chores and responsibilities is vital to maintaining a smoothly running household. Discuss and assign tasks based on each other’s strengths and preferences, ensuring that both partners contribute to the shared space.

 

In conclusion

While not living together before marriage may present unique challenges, it’s entirely possible to build a strong and fulfilling partnership. 

The key to preparing for a shared life without prior coexistence is open communication, mutual respect, and a readiness to adapt. You can create the framework for a devoted and fruitful marriage that thrives on connection, teamwork, and growth by following these crucial steps.

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Does Couples Therapy Work?

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Does Couples Therapy Work?

 

If you have ever wondered, ‘Does Couples Therapy Work?’, this article will answer this question and others about couples therapy. In most cases, couples therapy links partners with a therapist who can assist them in cooperatively resolving issues and difficulties while enhancing communication. Couples counseling may be done in person or online; you don’t have to be married to benefit from it. 

Results are frequently improved when both parties are ready to work hard to change for the better. The ability to set limits with friends, find a mental health professional with whom you feel at ease, be honest with oneself, and seek couples counseling or marital counseling before issues get out of hand are some additional elements to success. 

 

What Is Couples Therapy? 

Couples therapy often assists couples in addressing issues like excessive argumentation, growing apart, or coping with work-related stress that affects their relationship. While therapeutic strategies might be helpful, these difficulties and many more can be daunting. Couples counseling typically provides you and your spouse with the skills necessary to communicate effectively and handle the unique issues in your relationship.

You don’t necessarily need to have relationship issues to seek couples counseling. Acting now rather than when your marriage is falling apart may improve your outcome. If couples want to get closer, this treatment may help.

 

Benefits of Couples Therapy

Effective couples counseling may help you improve skills that support healthy relationships and help you and your spouse understand your relationship better. Communication, conflict resolution, listening, and relationship harmony and positivity are examples.

Couples who struggle to resolve conflicts and maintain their relationship benefit from couples therapy. Does couples therapy work? It depends on whether individuals are willing to learn to forgive, heal, and reconnect via sessions. 

Due to their inability to repair their hurt, many couples are stuck. For instance, one spouse might have been unfaithful while the other may still be inconsolable over the betrayal. Their partner must recover from adultery before forgiving the cheater. 

Effective communication is essential for every relationship to be successful and joyful. In a relationship, it’s necessary for both partners to feel heard and understood. Believing that your partner is not paying attention to you is upsetting. It’s easy to feel disregarded by a loved one, whether they stonewall you or don’t offer any indications that they comprehend your ideas and feelings. Couples can sharpen their communication and listening skills through marital counseling so that both spouses feel heard and understood. 

 

How Couples Therapy Works

Couples counseling does not involve blaming someone or pointing fingers, if there is one thing it does not involve. Instead, marital counseling gives couples the skills to speak honestly to one another and request what each partner requires for their relationship to be successful. 

Couples counseling encourages partners to talk about their current issues and consider any potential answers they may have to mend their marriage and halt the fighting. The counselor will steer the dialogue to concentrate on assisting the partners in effectively communicating any conflict or potential relationship cracks. The therapist won’t pick sides or incite conflict between the partners. Instead, they will assist the spouses in understanding one another and exploring and resolving their issues. 

A couples counselor will also assign tasks to clients outside of their therapy sessions, such as practicing empathetic behavior, effective communication, or constructive conflict resolution. Couples must work on their relationship outside of counseling sessions in order to modify ingrained negative behaviors that contributed to the initial decline of their relationship. 

 

Preparing for Couples Therapy

Avoiding the idea of couples therapy as “divorce counseling” or as a punishment your spouse must experience to demonstrate their love for you may be helpful. You should remember that you are the only one you can manage. Although you may not be able to pick your partner’s path or control their behavior, you may influence others, especially those with whom you have a strong relationship. Even in marriage counseling, concentrating on your ideas, attitudes, intentions, and behaviors may be the key to success. This might be a straightforward yet effective tactic to enhance the therapeutic process for troubled marriages.

People have a tendency to resist change. No matter how bad our reality is, we are usually more comfortable in the familiar. Truly, this might be one of the biggest obstacles when undergoing individual or couple treatment.

As was already established, for couples therapy to be successful, both spouses’ motivation is often needed. Therapy may require more receptivity from some partners. One spouse may agree to couples counseling to say they tried to save the relationship. Although these partners may not know what is expected if couples therapy works, significant change requires genuine dedication, intentionality, and action.

 

How to Make the Most of Your Couple’s Therapy

Before starting your first therapy session, consider your goals and the direction you’d like your relationship to take. It may be helpful to be willing to own your shortcomings and your part in the present situation and to be ready to put in the necessary personal effort to make your therapeutic efforts effective.

Having the support of your friends while establishing clear boundaries may help you deal with the issues brought up during your therapy sessions. However, your progress can be hampered if your friends consistently advise you to break up with your spouse rather than recognize your right to make your own choices.

Collaboration between you, your partner, and your therapist is typically necessary for therapy. Finding a therapist with whom you feel at ease is frequently beneficial. Also, be prepared to switch to another therapist if your present one is ineffective. 

 

In Final Words

It’s crucial to pick a therapist whose method you believe will work for your circumstances. You could opt to participate in emotion-focused treatment even though your family would benefit from solution-focused therapy. With this method, your therapist reorganizes interactions, reduces relationship discomfort, and enhances relationship function. Then, emotionally oriented treatment can strengthen the attachment relationship. 

 

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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How To Increase Excitement In Female Instantly

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How To Increase Excitement In Female Instantly

 

This video will teach you how to increase excitement in female instantly.

How to get women and females aroused is a frequently asked question.

Let’s learn how to increase excitement and sexual pleasure in females.

 

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Mental Health for Musicians: Break Away and Find Yourself Today

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Mental Health for Musicians: Break Away and Find Yourself Today

 

 

Mental health is an important issue that affects people from all walks of life, including mental health for musicians. In fact, the lifestyle of a musician can frequently exacerbate existing mental health problems or contribute to the onset of new ones. The rigorous schedule, constant pressure to create and perform, and intense scrutiny from fans and industry professionals can wear down even the most resilient individuals.

 

In his 2003 song “Somewhere I Belong,” Linkin Park’s Chester Bennington said, “I will break away, and find myself today.” Chester died of depression fourteen years later, on July 20, 2017. Chester was a musician who influenced my life and the lives of many others during his 41 years on this planet. Depression does not discriminate; he was a father, husband, friend, and frontman, among other roles. 

 

The nature of musicians’ work may make them more susceptible to mental health issues. Creating music requires tapping into emotions and personal experiences. These vulnerabilities can cause intense emotions, isolation, and despair. Also, the creative process requires hours of focused work and self-criticism.

 

The instability of musicians’ careers contributes to mental health issues. The music industry has its ups and downs, and musicians often face financial instability and uncertain futures. Chronic uncertainty can cause stress, anxiety, and depression.

 

The pressures of fame and success can also have a negative impact on a musician’s mental health. Even the most self-assured people can feel overwhelmed by the constant scrutiny and public exposure. Many musicians suffer from imposter syndrome, the feeling that they do not deserve their success or that they will be exposed as frauds. Furthermore, the pressure to outperform previous accomplishments and meet lofty goals can cause extreme stress and self-doubt.

 

It is critical to recognize that mental health issues among musicians are not the result of weakness or character flaws. They are difficult issues that can affect anyone, regardless of talent or success. A growing awareness of mental health in the music industry has led to many artists sharing their struggles and seeking support.

 

Many artists promote mental health awareness and share their experiences. By destigmatizing mental health and fostering support, the music industry can become healthier and more sustainable.

 

Mental health therapy can help musicians manage their mental health. Whether they are having trouble with anxiety, depression, drug abuse, or something else, therapy can help them deal with their problems and find a way to heal and grow.

 

Musicians benefit from therapy because it allows them to express their emotions safely. Deep emotions can make musicians vulnerable and exposed when creating and performing music. Musicians can express themselves freely in therapy without judgment. Through therapy, musicians can understand and manage their emotions better.

 

Therapists can help musicians improve self-awareness and self-care. The music industry is demanding, so musicians often neglect their own needs to succeed. Therapy helps musicians set limits, prioritize self-care, and identify their limits. By taking care of themselves, musicians can reduce stress and burnout and improve their health.

 

Musicians’ Unique Challenges

Therapy also helps musicians cope with their unique challenges. Performance anxiety, creative blocks, and imposter syndrome plague musicians. Therapy can teach deep breathing, cognitive restructuring, and visualization to manage anxiety and negative thoughts. They can help musicians cope with industry pressures and build resilience.

 

Furthermore, therapy can address some of the underlying causes of mental health issues, such as childhood trauma or dysfunctional relationships. By exploring these underlying factors, musicians can gain insight into the origins of their struggles and work towards healing and growth. Therapy can help musicians develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others, leading to improved mental health outcomes.

 

Finally, therapy can support musicians, especially those who feel isolated or misunderstood. An understanding therapist can help musicians cope with the isolation of the music industry. Therapists provide guidance, validation, and encouragement and connect musicians to support networks.

 

Due to their unique challenges, musicians often struggle with mental health. The emotional demands of work, chronic uncertainty, and fame can lead to anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. As the music industry becomes more aware of mental health and works to support all musicians, there is hope for change. A musician’s mental health can change everything. It provides a safe space to express emotions, improve self-awareness and self-care, learn coping mechanisms for challenges, address mental health issues’ root causes, and feel supported. By seeking therapy, musicians can take an important step towards improving their mental well-being and enjoying a more fulfilling musical journey. There is hope and help for musicians who struggle with mental health and substance abuse today, like Chester. Break away and find yourself today. 

 

 

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How is the Barbie Movie Symbolizing Women’s Empowerment?

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How is the Barbie Movie Symbolizing Women’s Empowerment?

 

If you’ve seen the Barbie movie, you might have been surprised at first to learn how much Barbie and the women’s empowerment movement have in common. Barbie was a pretty doll to play with in our childhood. The movie you have probably heard about helped us see her complexity. 

In case you haven’t watched the movie yet, we’ve compiled several reasons we think Barbie should be on your to-watch list. 

Grab a friend, sister, niece, or partner and have a great cinematic experience while highlighting the journey of womanhood in our world.

 

Women Behind the Barbie Movie

To create such a heartfelt story that impacted millions of women worldwide, this movie surely needed a team of strong women. Margot Robbie’s portrayal of Barbie has transformed her from a one-dimensional character to a real woman who interacts with the outside world. Greta Gerwig, who is well-known for putting women and their untold stories at the forefront of her films like Little Women and Lady Bird, wrote and directed it. Even Barbie’s high-arched feet, formerly permanently molded into plastic to accommodate high heels, flatten out in the movie.

Amazing actresses like America Ferrera, Issa Rae, Kate McKinnon, Alexandra Shipp, and Emma Mackey were responsible for portraying each Barbie. Even the popular singer Dua Lipa appears as one of the Barbies. Naturally, men play Kens in the film. These were, however, supporting roles that were used to highlight the differences between the Barbie world and reality.  

 

How the Barbie Movie Empowers Women

“Stereotypical Barbie” and all other Barbies live in Barbieland, a matriarchal society where all women are successful, independent, and confident, according to the movie. Barbies work as doctors, lawyers, and legislators, while Kens relax at the beach. Barbie prefers her independence and time with the other Barbies, despite Beach Ken’s attempts to win her over.  

Barbie claims that empowering girls and women to believe in themselves has improved the world. Stereotypical Barbie leaves the fantasy world with Ken (Ryan Gosling) after an existential crisis. They discover during their travels that the majority of the women they meet in the real world require more empowerment. They were shocked to learn that men appear to hold the majority of economic and other power. 

 

Why Barbie Is Still Relevant

America Ferrera, who plays Mattel employee Gloria, mentioned how men can enjoy childhood pastimes like video games and comic books as adults. However, women must mature, set aside pleasures, sacrifice for others, and perform their duties while grinning selflessly. That is why the actress played Gloria. She viewed this figure as a resilient woman who made it into adulthood without giving up her belief in the value of childlike wonder, high aspirations, or originality. 

While grieving, Gloria looks for comfort in a memento from happier times. In a way that many women can relate to, she longs for the ease of her childhood. As the film progresses, it becomes clear that Barbie was mistaken in thinking that a young girl going through an existential crisis was playing with her. Instead, it was a full-grown woman who spends her downtime at Mattel conceptualizing new Barbies. It is truly remarkable that Barbie depicted an adult retreating to the familiarity of a childhood toy in the face of hardship, despair, and confusion. 

That is why the film resonated so deeply with women. We can simultaneously take on many identities.  We can be joyful, creative, and childlike even as grown women. 

 

One Last Thing

Girls grow up way too quickly. We naturally assume more moral, emotional, and sexual responsibility, even if we do not try. The global women’s empowerment movement aims to change that. The smartest people in the room can be playful. Without impressing others, we can dress cute or sexy. We deserve to love our childhood heroes like men do: Superman, Batman, the Ninja Turtles, and more. Yet, we love the Barbie movie. 

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Marrying A Stripper – When You’re Dating An Escort or Stripper

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Marrying A Stripper – When You’re Dating An Escort or Stripper

 

What happens when you are marrying a stripper or dating a dancer?

You have conversations you may not have practiced before dating an escort.

While dating a stripper, consider open communication.

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Healing Intergenerational Trauma: Guide to Breaking the Cycle

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Healing Intergenerational Trauma: Guide to Breaking the Cycle

 

If you’ve heard about healing intergenerational trauma but are unsure what it is, this article is for you. Trauma that is passed down through generations is referred to as intergenerational trauma. It starts when a group goes through a traumatic occurrence that produces suffering in the family, culture, and economy. People in that group have physical or psychological problems as a result.

This theory has long provided an explanation for family issues. This practice perpetuates the harmful effects of oppressive or traumatic events in the past on subsequent generations. An example would be a grandmother who learned to survive by “cutting off” her emotions while imprisoned in a concentration camp. As a result, this woman could have emotionally distant interactions with her family, and that is what her children may continue in their future lives and homes. 

Therefore, understanding these traumas is crucial for healing and breaking the cycle. In order to provide you with useful information on how to live your life as you should, we have further investigated generational trauma.

 

Healing Intergenerational Trauma within the Family

Families that have experienced extreme trauma (such as sexual abuse, murder, etc.) frequently experience intergenerational trauma issues, including oppression. If a therapist or other mental health practitioner brings up the subject, it is very unusual, if ever, that the effects of intergenerational trauma are explored. 

Although it is a crucial subject, many mental health practitioners are either unsure or unaware of how to discuss this process. Investigating how trauma may have harmed previous generations of family members is essential for healing.

For instance, a mother dealing with the sexual abuse of her daughter may also have experienced sexual abuse from her father, who may have experienced sexual abuse from his father. 

Trauma passed down through generations has a big impact. It may be quite challenging for a parent or grandparent to offer emotional assistance to a family member dealing with trauma if they have never fully recovered from or processed it. Tragically, families frequently heal intergenerational trauma by using two harmful coping mechanisms:

  • Denial (refusal to accept that the trauma occurred)
  • Minimization (the act of downplaying the significance of the trauma)

How family members “cope” with intergenerational trauma may influence younger generations. For instance, a grandma who refused to consider the effects of her trauma may have mistakenly or consciously taught her grandchildren to disregard the effects of their trauma. There is a good chance that something will sooner or later provoke the trauma. No matter how hard you try, trauma is not something you can hide from.

 

Generational Trauma Signs and Symptoms

There are a variety of symptoms and signs that someone may be experiencing generational trauma, such as:

  • Lack of self-worth,
  • Anxiety,
  • Feeling detached from yourself and your surroundings,
  • Depression,
  • Feeling numbness when it comes to emotions, 
  • Impaired life skills,
  • PTSD symptoms.

There is some evidence that generational trauma may impact the immune system. A 2021 study examined genes associated with immunological health in the offspring of Holocaust survivors. Some of those genes were less active than usual, the researchers discovered. Therefore, the subjects had poor innate immunity, or immunity present at birth.

 

Causes of Generational Trauma

Generational trauma begins to form when a group experiences a traumatic event like abuse, prejudice, a natural disaster, racism, or war together. For those who directly experienced those events, PTSD, sadness, and anxiety are potential negative side effects. Following that, those people’s children may continue to experience trauma, and so on. 

One way that trauma is passed down through the generations is through epigenetic modifications. The idea is that trauma changes the way your genes work. Then, your kids inherit those modifications. 

 

Diagnosing Intergenerational Trauma

The “Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition” (DSM-5) states that there is no particular diagnosis for generational trauma. The DSM-5 is the reference manual that mental health professionals often use to identify mental health problems. However, experts generally agree that the phenomenon exists and that the DSM is a limited medical model with various limitations. 

Inherited, learned beliefs, behaviors, and patterns may also conceal intergenerational trauma.

A healthcare professional can use a mental health screening to check for mental diseases if your family has a history of trauma. However, there is no test to identify generational trauma. A mental health screening includes questions regarding your hunger, sentiments, mood, sleep, and other activities. 

You might answer a questionnaire or discuss your results with a healthcare professional. To effectively assess your problem, you must respond honestly. If you exhibit symptoms of a mental illness, your healthcare practitioner may suggest that you consult a psychologist or psychiatrist who focuses on mental health. To identify mental diseases like anxiety, sadness, or PTSD, a mental healthcare professional may pose additional inquiries.

 

Generational Trauma Treatment

There is no unique treatment for generational trauma, yet there are certain steps that will probably be part of healing, such as:

  • Accepting the trauma, how it affected your life, and what you can do to manage emotions
  • Understand signs and sensations that may relate to the trauma.
  • Constant retelling of the story with those who are not trained or skilled in empathetic listening, which may only worsen the effects of the trauma.

The consequences of generational trauma can be lessened or eliminated via psychotherapy or talk therapy. You can identify the trauma and how it affects you through talk therapy. 

An expert in mental healthcare might suggest coping mechanisms based on your experiences. For instance, they could suggest breathing techniques and meditation to reduce feelings of anxiety. Personal or family therapy may be used in talk therapy to discuss the systemic implications. Therefore, see an MFT if you need more help with systemic patterns. 

 

In Final Words

One of the most important strategies for breaking the cycle is educating people about healing intergenerational trauma. It might be easier to process the trauma if you realize that you are not helpless or alone and that there might have been other influences. Breaking the cycle of recurring trauma is essential, and this may require a lot of encouragement and support.

Possible sources of assistance include engaging in cultural practices, reading or watching content that speaks to you, talking with loved ones about your culture, and engaging in traditions.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Let Go of Your Prince Charming Complex and Be Your Own Hero

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Let Go of Your Prince Charming Complex and Be Your Own Hero

 

Why do Americans—women and men of all ages—have a Prince Charming complex? In this article, we touch on the reasons why it exists, how it has shaped our beliefs and actions. And how you can break free from this unrealistic childhood fantasy. Say goodbye to fairytales and embrace a more authentic and fulfilling reality. It’s time to foster personal growth and empowerment where you are the hero of your own life story.

In American culture, the idea of a Prince Charming coming to rescue us from life’s challenges and fulfill all our desires is deeply ingrained. This fairytale notion, while charming on the surface, can hinder personal growth and self-sufficiency. In this article, we will delve into why this belief persists and explore how letting go of the Prince Charming fantasy can lead to personal empowerment and the fulfillment of our true needs.

The Prince Charming complex can apply to a broader range of individuals than just single women. Meaning, it’s a belief system that can impact people across various demographics and life stages. Here are some other groups that the Prince Charming complex can apply to:

 

  1. Men who are single:

Men sometimes make the mistake of thinking that finding the right partner will make all their problems go away. This can impede personal development and independence and cause irrational expectations in interpersonal relationships.

 

  1. People in Relationships:

Individuals in relationships may still harbor the Prince Charming complex. Expecting their partner to fulfill all their needs and make them feel joy at all times. By putting too much pressure on one partner to provide all of the support and happiness, this can strain relationships.

 

  1. Parents and caregivers:

Parents, particularly single parents, might unintentionally cling to the hope of finding a partner who will assist them in raising their kids and offer stability. Although seeking support is common, relying solely on this expectation may prevent parents from fully embracing their role and achieving personal growth.

 

  1. Individuals Facing Life Transitions:

During times of uncertainty or significant life changes, such as job loss, divorce, or a midlife crisis, people might be more susceptible to the Prince Charming complex. The desire for stability and comfort can lead individuals to believe that finding a partner will magically solve their current challenges.

 

  1. Elderly Individuals:

Even in later stages of life, some individuals might hold onto the Prince Charming fantasy, hoping for companionship or support in their senior years. This can prevent them from exploring their independence and pursuing personal passions.

 

  1. People with Low Self-Esteem:

People with low self-esteem might believe that someone else’s love or validation will give them a sense of worth. This can lead to seeking external validation rather than cultivating a healthy self-image.

 

The Appeal of Prince Charming

The allure of Prince Charming lies in its simplicity and the promise of a happily-ever-after. The media, fairy tales, and popular culture often portray a knight in shining armor or a person with the answers as a solution to life’s struggles. This portrayal perpetuates the belief that someone will come and save us, providing emotional security and happiness. 

The desire for rescue and protection is natural, yet relying solely on external sources for fulfillment can be detrimental to personal development. 

 

Unrealistic Expectations

The concept of Prince Charming fosters unrealistic expectations about relationships and life. Believing that someone else will solve our problems can lead to disappointment and a sense of powerlessness when reality fails to match our fantasies. Relationships require effort and compromise from both parties, and expecting a perfect savior can lead to a cycle of failed connections.

 

The Influence of Pop Culture and Media

Pop culture and media play a significant role in shaping our beliefs and perceptions, including the idea of Prince Charming. From classic fairy tales to modern romantic comedies, the narrative of a perfect hero sweeping in to save the day is repeatedly reinforced. 

Here’s how these influential mediums contribute to the persistence of the Prince Charming fantasy:

 

Fairy Tales and Disney Princesses:

Fairytales have been an integral part of culture for centuries, and they often feature a damsel in distress waiting for her Prince Charming to rescue her. Disney has immortalized iconic characters like Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty, further promoting the idea that finding true happiness requires a prince’s rescue.

While these stories may hold sentimental value, they can also create unrealistic expectations. They often omit the complexities of real-life relationships, where both partners must actively work to maintain a healthy connection. By internalizing the fairytale narrative, individuals may start believing that their problems will be magically solved when they find their perfect match.

 

Romantic Comedies and Dramas:

Romantic movies and TV shows also contribute to the Prince Charming fantasy. These narratives typically revolve around a romantic pursuit, where the lead characters’ lives transform once they find their soulmate. The focus on the “happily-ever-after” ending can overshadow the importance of personal growth and self-discovery.

While entertainment is meant to be enjoyable, it is essential to differentiate between fiction and reality. Romantic movies often present a highly idealized version of love, which can set unrealistic expectations for relationships in the real world. This can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction when real-life partnerships don’t live up to the cinematic magic.

 

Social Media and Influencers:

In the digital age, social media platforms and influencers play a significant role in shaping societal norms and ideals. Many influencers curate picture-perfect relationships and lifestyles, creating a false sense of what constitutes a successful and fulfilling life.

The constant exposure to idealized versions of relationships and the pursuit of “happily-ever-after” can subconsciously reinforce the belief that someone else holds the key to our happiness. This can lead to comparison and feelings of inadequacy, further perpetuating the Prince Charming myth.

 

Gender Roles and Societal Expectations:

The concept of Prince Charming is often intertwined with traditional gender roles, where men are expected to be strong protectors and providers, and women are portrayed as passive and in need of rescue. These roles can limit personal agency and perpetuate unequal power dynamics in relationships.

Challenging these gender norms is essential to promoting healthier relationships and empowering individuals to embrace their authentic selves. Acknowledging that both men and women can be strong, vulnerable, and capable of personal growth fosters more equal and fulfilling partnerships.

 

Men and the Pressure of Being Prince Charming: Redefining Masculinity

While the Prince Charming complex is often associated with women seeking a rescuer, it’s essential to recognize that men also experience significant pressure to embody the role of a perfect savior in their own right. 

This pressure is a result of societal expectations and traditional gender norms, which frequently put men in difficult situations that can impede their personal development and well-being.

 

  1. Emotional Suppression:

The social pressure on men to always maintain emotional fortitude and stoicism is one of the main ways they encounter the Prince Charming complex. Since sadness, fear, and vulnerability are seen as signs of weakness, men are frequently discouraged from expressing them. This pressure to appear strong and unaffected can cause emotional suppression and make it difficult to connect with people in a genuine way.

 

  1. Financial Responsibility:

Men are frequently expected to be the main providers and breadwinners in a family. This pressure to succeed financially and maintain stability in order to validate their worth can be overwhelming for men. Thus, failure to meet these expectations can cause stress, anxiety, and inadequacy.

 

  1. Relationship Roles:

In romantic relationships, men can feel pressure to be the strong and authoritarian figure, solving all problems and providing unwavering support. This can create an imbalance in the relationship dynamics, where men might suppress their own needs and emotions to fulfill the Prince Charming role, leading to unfulfilled relationships and emotional detachment. This leads to situations where men follow leaders like Trump, Andrew Tate, and Putin, who are seen as capable of solving the problem. While it is not problematic to have role models, the concept that you have to save someone creates issues in relationships because you cannot actually fix, heal, or change another person. You can help collaborate with a partner to the extent they are ready, willing, and able, but saving someone will come off as overbearing and thus further promote relationship issues. 

In conclusion, it’s time to forget Prince Charming and take that pressure off of men. Believing in the notion that someone will come to save you may hinder personal growth, self-sufficiency, and authentic relationships. 

 

The Power of Self-Reliance:

Embracing self-reliance empowers individuals to take control of their lives. Instead of waiting for a savior, we can become our own heroes, capable of making positive changes and pursuing our dreams. Recognizing our strengths and abilities enables us to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.

 

Embracing Growth and Personal Development:

Believing in Prince Charming can keep us stagnant, waiting for external forces to shape our lives. By breaking free from this notion, we open ourselves to personal growth and development. Embracing change and continuously striving to improve allows us to evolve as individuals, leading to a more fulfilling and meaningful existence.

 

Building Interdependent Relationships:

Redefining our beliefs about Prince Charming is crucial to establishing healthy relationships. Letting go of the idea that someone else can complete us encourages us to seek partners who support and complement our growth rather than fill an unrealistic role. Healthy relationships are founded on mutual respect, shared values, and the willingness to grow together.

Let’s forget Prince Charming. Instead, let’s embrace our own strengths and capabilities, taking charge of our lives and embracing growth and empowerment through caring communities. True fulfillment comes from a variety of means, not from an external fairytale fantasy. Let’s reclaim our power and create a reality where we are the curators of our own realities and the hero of our own lives or stories

 

Note to Readers:

Breaking free from the Prince Charming illusion is a process that requires self-reflection and patience. It isn’t as easy as you might think. Recognizing the impact of pop culture and media on shaping our beliefs about Prince Charming is crucial to breaking free from this limiting fantasy. While these narratives may have a place in entertainment, we must remember that real-life growth and fulfillment come from within.

As we navigate the influence of media and societal expectations, let’s be mindful of the stories we internalize and seek a more balanced perspective on relationships. By challenging the Prince Charming myth and embracing personal empowerment, we can create healthier, more fulfilling connections based on mutual respect, growth, and authenticity.

As a master’s-level therapist in systems theory, I encourage you to explore these ideas further, seeking support and guidance if needed. Remember, you hold the key to how you interact with others, so sometimes it is helpful to explore with someone who gets it. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together with one of our staff. 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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How To Dominate: Navigating Consent in the Bedroom

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

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Alternatives to Online Dating

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Alternatives to Online Dating

 

It might be difficult even to recall what was the alternatives to online dating. Do you remember how we used to meet people before swiping right on them? However, swiping becomes frustrating when you have no luck on dating apps, leaving you to question how to date without turning to online dating.

Let’s face it, folks today have incredibly hectic schedules and little free time. While discovering a possible partner online is easy and handy, many people need help finding it. After all, not everyone is eager to meet up with a stranger they met online, regardless of how attractive they may be.

If you’re one of them and think online dating isn’t for you, keep reading to learn about the better options and why they are preferable to meeting someone online or through a phone app.

 

Reasons to Avoid Online Dating

If you had shared fifteen years ago that you discovered your partner using a dating app that instantly displayed hundreds of possible partners, people would have thought you were insane. Today, those who are interested in dating and socializing have access to an endless number of profiles on online dating apps and platforms, allowing you to choose those who seem to match your preferences. 

Many people are used to opening an app or logging online daily to sift through hundreds of people. It’s one of the most common methods for American couples to meet. The drawback is that some people give up on conventional dating entirely. That said, there are still many people who dislike interacting with others online for various reasons, such as:

  • It’s difficult to show emotions through text.
  • Misunderstandings are common in online communication.
  • People find it almost impossible to feel intimate because of a lack of face-to-face communication.
  • Online dating can often feel overwhelming. 
  • There are too many rude and mean people, not to mention scammers. 

 

Alternatives to Online Dating

Bars, clubs, social circles, and things like that are ideal if you wish to take a more conventional path. However, several less typical and interesting options are gaining favor. 

It’s crucial to understand that you can meet people anywhere. If you’re bold enough, you can do it at the grocery store, beach, or street. Therefore, keep yourself from the options listed below. And everywhere you are, if you see a good chance, approach someone you find appealing.

 

  • Bar, Clubs, Concerts & Similar Venues

The mainstay of conventional dating takes place in these and comparable locations. They’re excellent because there are plenty of people there, nice music is playing, and typically booze.

You’ll have lots of chances to have fun if you put all of the stuff together. You should concentrate on having fun if you want to meet someone at these sorts of places. People who see you will think you are more appealing, and occasionally they may even approach you.

 

  • Hobby Classes

Enrolling in a hobby class is another option for dating websites and internet applications.

 Classes in amateur theater, improv, cooking, ceramics, book groups, and running are all excellent options. Even better are yoga, dance, group hiking, and team sports classes.

Select a pastime or class you like to meet new people and advance your skills. Additionally, everyone there will have their shared interest, making mingling and conversing easy. However, you’ll also enjoy the activity with new acquaintances you may date or include in your social group.

 

  • Speed Dating

Although it might seem like speed dating is a thing of the past, it’s fantastic and is quite similar to “real-world Tinder.” In essence, you get to sort through a LOT of folks to determine whether you click or if there is any chemistry.

Only 30 seconds of talking time are permitted at certain speed dating events before you must rotate. Some people allow you a minute or two to see if you can find anything useful to discuss with the other person. Whatever your opinion on speed dating, I strongly encourage you to give it a shot if you don’t enjoy internet dating.

 

  • Professional Networking Events

Various networking events for your industry are a fantastic location to meet a prospective love interest. It doesn’t even have to be something related to your industry if you’re bold enough. However, you should still be informed about the subject.

You’ll not just get to know people who might greatly boost your earning possibilities. However, you’ll also have plenty of chances to talk with people who work in the same field as you do.

Powerful relationships are frequently formed in this area. Not to mention that some people became billionaires due to finding love in the same field and starting a business together after getting married. Consider also trying networking apps like Meetup.com, which offers various work-related and free-time activities. 

 

  • Single Groups and Activities

Joining a singles adventure club or other gatherings restricted to singles is another method to meet plenty of singles in your neighborhood. The issue is that it could be challenging to locate them. Ironically, Facebook and Telegram groups are still the best resources for finding and organizing one today.

In essence, you choose one that interests you, read the prerequisites, look at the member list if one is available, and then choose whether or not you want to attend. These organizations frequently revolve around various hobbies, including music, film, fashion, etc. And even science, math, coffee, wholesome cuisine, and sports.

They resemble hobby courses in some ways, albeit frequently free, and no teacher is present. Everyone is there for their shared interests rather than to get specialized knowledge.

 

Explore the World 

Online dating apps will often shrink our perspective on the options available. There are so many options to meet new people, and online dating will remain the same. Besides the above-mentioned ideas, you can go to a park if you have a dog, go to your favorite bar for drinks, be more present while on public transportation, work in your favorite coffee shop, etc. If online dating is not your thing, just pretend it doesn’t exist. Seriously, do things you enjoy, and you might find the right person for you in a random place!

 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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What does Damsel Mean? Damsel in Distress Fantasy

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What does Damsel Mean? The damsel meaning will be defined here for our knight in shining armors!

The damsel in distress fantasy is one that’s fun for many!

The psychological components and the archetype of the temptress are nuanced.

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Best Text Therapy with Interns Gives Quality and Saves Money

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If you’re interested in the best text therapy services, you should consider talking to a therapist intern for a few reasons. However, before we go into details, we’d like to take a moment to explain our experience with interns. Which we highly recommend to our clients looking to save money. Working with interns is a beautiful experience as a therapist. Watching them grow and learn while also bringing a fresh perspective on things is incredibly valuable!

Therapists work closely with their interns to ensure they have everything they need once they start attending to clients. If you’re worried that talking to an intern will not be at the same level if talking to a therapist, don’t be! Interns typically start working with clients when their supervisors think they are ready. So, if this is something you’re interested in, this article is for you. 

 

Therapist Interns

You’ve already decided to start seeing a therapist, so the next step is to choose which professional to work with. You discover that some of the providers you have access to are identified in their profiles as interns when you are weighing your alternatives. While we understand that your initial instinct may be to seek out a therapist who is fully licensed or who has completed their Master’s program. There are some compelling reasons you might choose to work with an intern as your therapist instead.

There is usually one clinical supervisor assigned to each intern, and frequently there are two: one at the internship location and one in their educational program. These supervisors are entirely licensed and qualified and frequently undergo specialized training to become supervisors. All of the cases interns work on are reviewed and discussed with their supervisor(s). So you are not just getting one therapist working on your case. Rather, two or three therapists will be devoting their time, knowledge, and resources to working with you in therapy.

 

Benefits of Working with a Therapist Intern

Since interns are actively engaged in their academic environment while pursuing their Master’s degrees, they have to spend their days learning how to be excellent therapists. The intern you might pick to be your therapist devotes time to learning the most recent theories and techniques. And also collaborates with faculty, supervisors, and other interns to gain a deeper comprehension of and create application strategies for those theories and techniques. Therefore, you get a therapist who is not only up to date on theory and practice but also spends their days learning how to apply those ideas and approaches in the most efficient way when you hire an intern.

Interns frequently operate on a discounted or sliding-fee scale rather than charging an hourly rate comparable to fully licensed therapists or only taking on clients with health insurance because they are not entirely licensed. Interns could provide a price point that fits your budget more quickly if you don’t have insurance. Have a very high deductible, or decide to pay out of pocket for other reasons.

Working with a therapist intern is a fantastic option if you want the knowledge of two to three therapists for the price of one. A therapist whose life’s work is to learn the most current and successful theory and techniques. A therapist who has a growing passion and investment in their work, and flexible pricing options.

 

Therapists vs. Interns

A person may occasionally only have access to or be able to afford an intern for mental health therapy. And this should not prevent them from seeking care. Even though there are obvious distinctions between a fully-licensed therapist and an intern in terms of what they have done to meet licensure criteria, the interns’ talents may still astound you. 

Interns haven’t finished all of the criteria for licensing, which is the first difference. It may take some time for them to complete all the requirements set forth by most licensing boards. Whether they are still in school or have graduated. As a result, they have less therapeutic experience than their licensed counterparts. However, experience is only one, and maybe not even the most crucial, tool in a therapist’s kit.

The second distinction is that internships expire after a year, and you might have to transfer your case. Be sure to inquire about the intern’s expected stay as soon as you are paired with them. Of course, a licensed therapist’s employment, relocation, or retirement might also result in the termination of your relationship with them. Thus, this distinction may also be irrelevant.

The key similarity is that both licensed therapists and interns are actual people. As a result, both groups possess the same innate capacity for effective therapy. Every therapist has a different life experience and character traits that they bring to their interaction with you, whether they are just starting, nearly retired, or somewhere in between.

 

In Conclusion

Interns are counselors-in-training who have finished all of their Master’s-level curriculum and are wrapping up the last internship necessary for their degree. Through at least one field experience (often known as a “practicum”), they have already gained some experience dealing with customers. The final stage before they graduate and receive their restricted license is their internship.

As interns, they are closely watched. Meaning, there is a licensed professional who is checking in daily or weekly, offering constructive collaboration and skill sets. So, if this was the reason you were hesitant to reach out to a therapist intern, we hope we gave you enough reasons to start working with them toward your mental wellbeing. You will enjoy talking to a therapist intern as you will build a relationship with them. And they will help you on your way to growth, so make the most of it!

 

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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How to Break Up With Your Therapist

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This article is for you if you are in therapy and are unsure of how to break up with your therapist and end things.  You may feel guilty for ending your relationship with your therapist because you do not want to hurt their feelings. Think about it this way: if you and your therapist are not a good fit, it is in both of your best interests to part ways so that you can find someone who is. 

Learn the ins and outs of terminating your therapy relationship with this comprehensive guide.

 

The Real Reasons You Should Dump Your Therapist

In a perfect world, you would leave therapy feeling as though your therapist had lightened rather than added to your load. Actually, because of the emotions that treatment may stir up, it is common to occasionally feel unhappy after treatment. The difference is feeling upset every time (or almost every time) you leave because your therapist is not paying attention, caring about your needs. Or helping you apply certain techniques to deal with this type of emotional pain.

Knowing you are working on yourself with a professional you emotionally connect with may inspire you. Choosing a new therapist may be necessary if your current one is not motivated or qualified to help you advance.

The goal of therapy is to open up. If you hide your thoughts or behaviors from your therapist, it may hinder your mental and emotional development and create an unhealthy dynamic. 

Remember that your therapist holds you accountable, which can be awkward. It seems odd to pay someone to call you out when needed. You may be hesitant to talk about difficult or embarrassing parts of your life.

 

Steps to Breaking Up with Your Therapist

Try addressing the problems you’re experiencing instead of ghosting a provider. Setting precise progress metrics that you’d like to achieve in a specified time as part of that discussion might help determine whether. Or not you should stop seeing your therapist permanently. Depending on the circumstances, you should do this privately or with your therapist.

It’s acceptable to try to find a new therapist if your current one doesn’t appear to be interested in your concerns or if nothing seems to change after you raise them. Before leaving your present therapist, you should secure an appointment with someone else. Depending on the urgent issues you’re working on.

Before moving on, it may sometimes be reassuring to see another therapist to make sure you’re covered. It depends on how severe the problems you’re facing are. It will be crucial if the condition is urgent, such as severe depression. To be clear, you shouldn’t decide to quit taking medicine alone. Or abruptly cease seeing a psychiatrist who oversees any mental health medications you are on. Both circumstances present a risk to your safety and call for professional advice initially.

You should speak with your therapist to find out their opinion or if they have any advice. Even if you’ve decided you’ve made enough progress to stop treatment or need a more convenient therapist to visit. They suggest someone who would be a better fit from a logistical or therapeutic standpoint.

 

Examples of Breaking Up with Your Therapist

We’ve got you covered if you are uncertain about the best way to break up with your therapist. Below, you will be able to find a few examples that might work for your situation with your therapist. 

When breaking up with your therapist, go through our lists of examples and find the one that suits you best, or simply get inspired:

  • “I want to end our collaboration because I currently have different goals.”
  • “I genuinely value the work we’ve accomplished together. I recognize that I now require something else, yet I nevertheless value your desire to assist me.
  • “I feel like I’ve come a long way in the time we’ve spent together. And I feel like it’s time for me to move on.”
  • “I discussed [insert worries here] a few weeks ago. I don’t see enough of a shift to think it’s justified for us to keep meeting.
  • “I am ending my therapy with you and seeking alternative solutions. I don’t feel like I received care and skill sets, so I’m deciding to end my therapy sessions.”

 

Your therapist may be okay with this or want to talk it through a little to better understand your stance and provide their professional input on your choice. Depending on your mental health status and the progress you have made or haven’t made.

You don’t need to have one last session with your therapist if you’ve just been going to them for a few weeks. Instead, it’s usually OK to terminate therapy over the phone or via email. However, rather than choosing not to visit your therapist, expressing your worries to them is extremely beneficial. You’ve only been together a few weeks, so you’re still getting to know one another. Your therapist could be better able to steer you in the right direction or explain why you haven’t noticed any significant improvements yet, for example.

 

Conclusion

Honestly, this stage is comparable to breaking up with a therapist. How you should end things with them depends significantly on how long you’ve been seeing them. If you’ve been seeing your therapist for over a few weeks, consider breaking up in person during a session. In addition to giving you both some closure, it also serves as a beautiful challenge for those who find it difficult to say goodbye or worry about offending others. 

Many people avoid conflict, so practicing this skill is a good idea. The therapy breakup shouldn’t be shocking, as you should have previously explained to your therapist why you weren’t happy with your sessions. 

 

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