Therapy for Children of Divorce: Especially if Your Child Lives With You

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Therapy for Children of Divorce: Especially if Your Child Lives With You

 

Divorce also affects teenagers, so it’s only natural to consider therapy for children of divorce as an option. Research shows that most people, including most children, struggle because they lack the necessary resources to deal with divorce, despite the fact that it is an extremely traumatic event. 

Media outlets such as newspapers, journals, and television shows regularly emphasize the long-term impact divorce causes, especially on the children of the divorcing parties. Despite making for dramatic headlines, this is not how scientific evidence works. Divorce in itself has no long-term impact on children’s mental health or academic achievement, according to research. The way in which parties treat one another as they are uncoupling can impact all ages of children whose parents are getting divorced. 

Children face various problems due to divorce, but most of them can overcome them after some adjustment. Although divorce is nearly always traumatic, it does not cause permanent harm if handled appropriately.

 

How to Explain Divorce To Your Child 

Children of various ages interpret divorce in different ways. Young children certainly have no concept of divorce, yet they do have a concept of changes in their daily routine. They value consistency and security above anything else. 

Younger children and teenagers may have similar questions: 

  • Where will I live now?
  • Will you leave me alone?
  • Where will all my things be now?
  • When will I see my other parent?
  • Will you still love me? 

Teenagers need information the most. As such, they need a brief but clear explanation. It is appropriate for children to know the reasons behind their parents’ divorce, but not all the details of their parents’ marriage. They are children, not friends.

 

Signs Your Child Needs Therapy After Divorce

Trauma and psychological anguish can have long-lasting effects that can drastically change a person’s life, well into adulthood. Because trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder are frequently invisible, it is important to notice this in others and suggest therapy if you can. 

These are some of the things you should pay attention to:

  • Atypical behavior,
  • Changes in eating and/or appetite,
  • Changes in daily functioning,
  • Lack of interest in things they used to enjoy, 
  • Sudden medical issues. 

 

Types of Therapy

Divorce may be challenging for the whole family, so it’s even more critical for all individuals to have the support they need. Fortunately, a variety of therapy services can assist in adjusting to the emotional and psychological repercussions of divorce.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), family therapy, and trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) are some of the most popular types of treatment. Depending on the circumstances, starting therapy as a family might be beneficial to show you are a family, no matter what. 

The benefit of children of divorce going to therapy is coping mechanisms and an increased ability to process their emotions. Individuals benefit from therapy by having access to an objective person. A therapist can support and mentor them while they process their feelings around their parents’ divorce.

A therapist, for instance, can assist in identifying underlying problems brought on by the divorce, such as anger, anxiety, humiliation, guilt, and grief. With this knowledge, you may encourage them to express their feelings securely in a safe setting rather than suppressing or acting out inappropriately. People can better accept and get through challenging life transitions with the assistance of a qualified adult without experiencing long-term psychological issues.

Therapy for children of divorce can help mend complex concerns between parents and their children. According to research, a successful outcome in family therapy after divorce depends on parental participation. A therapist can suggest the most important ways for parents to support their children during this time. Therapists can also provide insightful advice on any possible parenting problems that must be addressed.

Collaborating with a skilled therapist ensures everyone gets the most out of the therapeutic process and lays the groundwork for long-term, healthy family interactions.

 

Conclusion

Much of what people believe about divorce will be different from what they are seeing. When parents provide information intended to assist their children rather than relieve themselves of responsibility or place blame on the other parent, it is easier. In all of this, the help of a skilled family therapist is valuable. They can support in ways that others cannot. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Negotiation Techniques: Align Your Values for Stronger Relationships

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Negotiation Techniques: Align Your Values for Stronger Relationships

 

Learn more about negotiation techniques to help you in the office and with your friends.

Using your words to negotiate techniques helps in many contexts, so come fix your techniques!

 

 

 

 

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Video Therapy: The Modern Path to Self-Help

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Video Therapy: The Modern Path to Self-Help 

 

While traditional books have always been the stalwart of self-help, a new medium has emerged to revolutionize our approach to personal development: video therapy. This cinematic journey taps into the visual cravings of film and video enthusiasts, helping individuals uncover a more communicative, passionate, and pleasurable life.

 

The Power of Sight and Sound: More Than Just Entertainment 

Unlike reading, where one is bound to interpret words in their mind’s theater, video therapy offers an immersive experience. The combination of visual and auditory stimuli can lead to a deeper, more resonant understanding of the content. As many say, “A picture is worth a thousand words,” and a moving picture? Perhaps even more.

We live in a time where body image issues are rampant, and video therapy introduces a fresh perspective. Through narratives, testimonials, and expert guidance, viewers are taught to celebrate their bodies, imperfections and all. The moving visuals reinforce the idea that every body type has its own beauty, fostering a healthy self-image.

 

Why bother improving our communication skills?

In both the personal and professional spheres, effective communication can:

  • Strengthen relationships
  • Boosting confidence
  • More fulfilling interactions
  • Reduce misunderstandings

 

Through practical demonstrations and role-playing scenarios, video therapy provides profound and actionable insights. By seeing the nuances of body language, tone modulation, and active listening, viewers can better emulate these behaviors in their own lives.

Video therapy provides a discreet platform to explore these aspects, helping viewers understand the boundaries, techniques, and tone of voice. It is also great because you have easy access in a place where you are most comfortable.

 

Getting the Best out of Video Therapy

Virtual therapy is different from being in the office. You save time on traffic, yet you get the same insights as you would because you’re with one another. You can see and feel someone’s emotions on screen, so this is why it is a powerful tool. 

To derive maximum benefit from video therapy:

  • Engage Actively: Instead of passive viewing, interact with the content. Pause, reflect, and jot down notes or thoughts.
  • Practice: Watching alone isn’t enough. Implement the learned techniques in real life.
  • Consistency is Key: Regularly watch and review to reinforce knowledge.
  • Open-mindedness: Approach each video with an open heart and mind, ready to learn and grow.

 

Lights, Camera, and Transformation!

Video therapy isn’t just a trendy self-help tool. It’s a powerful medium that combines the art of film with the science of personal development. For those inclined towards visual learning and seeking effective strategies to enhance communication, body positivity, and sensuality, this might just be the golden ticket.

If you want personalized content, check out these videos or meet with one of our telehealth staff. Some of our staff have virtual telehealth availability now.

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Signs of High Functioning Depression

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Signs of High Functioning Depression

 

Have you ever wonder what are the signs of high functioning depression? Recently, we’ve noticed it has become a buzzword in the media and wanted to offer a closer look into high functioning depression and signs that reveal it. 

It can be hard to explain depression to someone who has never had it. Only those who have experienced depression can genuinely understand the illness.

Different people deal with their depression in different ways. Some people self-medicate with drugs, others eat, and others isolate. While every case of high-functioning depression is different, some traits are common.

 

What Is High Functioning Depression?

This type of depression may appear milder when you are witnessing it. This suggests that people can usually continue their daily lives despite their despair. They work or study well, interact normally, and manage their responsibilities.

High functioning depression, however, can be a persistent and chronic condition. Even if its symptoms are less severe than those of other forms of depression, people who experience it do not find it unimportant.

High functioning depression is less ‘visible’ than other forms of depression. As a result, both medical professionals and people who are suffering from this type of depression might overlook or ignore it. It may, however, negatively affect quality of life, so it’s crucial that those suffering from high-functioning depression can access the assistance they require.

 

Signs of High-Functioning Depression

Your constant melancholy and mild symptoms may lead to the normalization of your high functioning depression and the assumption that it is only due to your personality. Rather than seeing you as having a persistent mental health illness that requires treatment, other people can think of you as being unhappy, depressed, sluggish, unable to have fun or just “loosening up.” Because of this, high-functioning depression might be challenging to identify.

The symptoms of high functioning depression can also develop gradually, with few or no triggers, as opposed to arriving suddenly or after a specific trigger or stressful event.

Many of the recognizable symptoms of clinical depression are still present in someone who struggles with high-functioning depression. However, this type of chronic depression has several distinctive characteristics, such as:

  • Eschewing social interactions
  • Appetite changes (increase or decrease)
  • Having trouble focusing or making judgments
  • Excessive irritation or anger
  • Low energy and weary
  • Losing hope
  • Feeling empty, depressed, or down
  • Remorse or concern about the past
  • A low sense of self
  • Decreased activity, effectiveness, or productivity
  • Self-doubt or a sense of being unable to do certain things
  • Sleep issues

 

Living with depression of any kind, including high-functioning depression, is challenging. Antidepressants, psychotherapy, regular exercise, and mindfulness practice are all recommended as part of a treatment plan that may provide some help.

Coping with High Functioning Depression

It may be quite taxing to have high functioning depression. To help you cope a little better each day, you may do a few things.

 

  • Exercise

It’s easy to disregard your physical health and wellness while you’re depressed. However, taking care of your bodily needs can also improve your mental state.

Try to get some exercise every day, even if it’s only a short stroll in the open air for ten minutes. Exercise increases the “happy chemicals” in our brain, which can make us feel better. 

 

  • Question Your Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts and feelings of hopelessness are among the signs of high functioning depression. It’s crucial to try to dispel these pessimistic ideas whenever they pop up.

You may perceive things as more balanced, optimistic, and healthy by challenging your cognitive processes, which can lift your mood.

 

  • Connect with Your Family and Friends

While you might want to keep your feelings to yourself and isolate yourself from others, it’s crucial to attempt to keep up a support system with people you can rely on. It may be really beneficial and soothing to simply have someone there for you during difficult times who can listen to how you’re feeling without passing judgment.

You can also think about attending a support group for depression, where you can speak with others who are experiencing similar problems. 

 

  • Do Little Things That Make You Happy

Happiness may only last a brief period for someone with high functioning depression. Because of this, it’s crucial to make an effort to include things that make you joyful in your everyday life.

Try to do the activities you like as frequently as possible after you’ve found them. These may include the following:

  • Playing your preferred music
  • Interacting with a pet
  • Watching a favorite movie
  • Reading a book 
  • Preparing your favorite dishes

 

Seeking Help

People with high-functioning depression could believe they aren’t unwell enough to want assistance and opt not to ask for it. Nothing could be farther from the truth since depression still reduces quality of life even when it is highly functioning.

It’s crucial to remember that ‘high functioning’ does not equate to optimal functioning. Even if they can complete the majority of duties on most days, people with dysthymia nevertheless have some level of impairment.

Even if you associate your sadness with severe situations or stereotyped symptoms that don’t apply to your situation, you may still receive professional assistance and benefit from it.

Early intervention is crucial, just like with physical disorders. Any signs of depression that go untreated might limit functioning or develop consequences, including substance abuse, chronic pain, and suicidal thoughts or actions.

No one should have to suffer from chronic depression when there are excellent medications readily available. First, consult your primary care doctor or other healthcare professional if you experience any symptoms. Depression treatment often includes talk therapy and medication.

Learn to witness your emotions without judgement and come see a professional if needed. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

What does Girth Mean? Girth vs Length

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What does Girth Mean? Girth vs Length

 

Have you been curious about girth vs length and which matters more?

Let’s learn the girth definition so you can be sure you’re measuring accurately

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

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Sex And Marriage Therapist In Training: How to Help Others Shine

 

A sex and marriage therapist in training can help you with gender and LGBTQIA+ problems. If you have questions about your sexuality or gender identity, they can help.

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, and other orientations and gender identities may also experience stress and anxiety from minority status. Although your sexuality, romanticity, or gender identity may not cause distress, you may still feel stressed, anxious, or unheard. To better manage these issues and express your orientation or gender identity, seek therapy.

 

Issues LGBTQIA+ People Face

Despite growing mainstream acceptance of various sexual and romantic orientations and gender identities, LGBTQIA+ people still face persecution, discrimination, and marginalization. Managing prejudice and oppression, coming out to family, and finding an “authentic” self in the face of society’s expectations and demands can lead to depression, anxiety, drug use, and other mental health issues for those who are LGBTQIA+.

According to research, young people who identify as LGBTQIA+ are more likely to have suicidal thoughts and self-harm, especially if they encounter prejudice because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Discrimination includes social exclusion, verbal and physical abuse, and sexual assault. Consequent incidents can cause chronic stress and mental illness. Anticipating prejudice and discrimination can also lower mental health. In housing, jobs, education, and human rights, LGBTQIA+ people may face similar harassment and bias.

The LGBTQIA+ community also faces many of the same challenges as everyone else. Money, sex, in-laws, and quality time are common topics of conflict in relationships, and the same everyday stressors—mood swings, work worries, or poor self-esteem—affect everyone.

 

Gender Dysphoria 

Gender dysphoria occurs when your identity contradicts your birth sex. You may experience severe distress and physical discomfort as a result of this. Gender dysphoric people can change their gender identity.

There are numerous reasons why people with gender dysphoria seek therapy. However, these are common ones:

  • Anxiety and/or confusion over sexual orientation,
  • Couple in conflict over coming out,
  • Gender transition.

 

Therapy for the LGBTQIA+ Community

People who are members of the LFBTQIA+ community frequently face unique challenges, with specific sets of circumstances unique to the LGBTQIA+ community or, in many ways, far more prevalent than in the straight community. Since the legalization of homosexuality and other steps toward a more equitable and tolerant society, such as raising the legal consent age, allowing marriage, and recognizing non-binary status, culture and its views on the LGBTQ community have changed.

Many who come out fear rejection from friends and family and workplace discrimination. Even after coming out, those who are in the LGBTQIA+ community may face assault, bullying, and hate crimes. Any of these can cause stress, sadness, anxiety, identity issues, and low self-esteem.

Whether your issues are related to your sexual orientation, risky sexual behavior, difficult relationships, or any other aspect of being LGBTQIA+ and navigating modern life, counselors and therapists offer a private, judgment-free space to work through them.

If you are experiencing emotional stress due to your gender or sexual identity, therapy and counseling can greatly help. A therapist may provide methods for coping with your worries about coming out, techniques to cope with prejudice, and assistance with other issues experienced by members of the LGBTQIA+ community, such as relationships, marriage, and parenthood, in a private, safe, and non-judgmental environment. Additionally, you can discover new approaches to relating to yourself and others, as well as daily self-management skills.

 

Considering a LGTBQIA+ Therapist

Even though many therapists are capable of helping, LGBTQIA+ clients may feel more at ease with an LGBTQIA+ therapist or, at the very least, with a therapist who specializes in or has extensive expertise in LGBTQIA+ matters. These therapists are located in some towns. As more therapists and counselors offer phone or online services, a person’s search for the right therapist may expand. Gender confirmation patients often see a therapist before surgery. If available, consult a specialist.

Another great option is to reach out to a sex and marriage therapist who can guide you through the entire process. Keep in mind that all traumas, problems, or minor issues can be solved with quality therapy. You just need to take the first step!

 

Come see Griffin or Karissa today. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

Trauma Therapist Near Me

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Trauma Therapist Near Me

 

If your latest Google search shows ‘trauma therapist near me,’ this article is for you. It will explain trauma therapy, how it can help you, and everything else you need to feel better.

Everyone has heard “trauma” in reference to horrific events. This includes surviving a car accident or losing a family member unexpectedly. Every person has unique experiences and perspectives. Several factors may trigger trauma reactions; therefore, it is best if the individual reaches out to a trauma therapist they trust and begins the healing process. 

 

What is Trauma?

Trauma is a psychological reaction to a catastrophic event, like a rape or a natural disaster. After a traumatic event, shock and denial are typical reactions. Over time, responses can cause erratic emotions, strained memories, strained relationships, and even physical discomfort such as headaches and nausea.

Even though these emotions are common, some people find it difficult to continue with their lives. They can learn healthy coping mechanisms for their emotions by working with a trauma therapist near me.

Most adults can recall at least a few excruciatingly unpleasant experiences. Funnily enough, those awkward situations still make you cringe decades later. Harder topics include heartache, loss, and regret. When we think of these memories, we feel strong emotions that make us queasy.

Trauma intensifies this phenomenon. Due to their emotional impact, even slight reminders of traumatic memories can be debilitating. For example, just a familiar scent or a vehicle siren can cause uncontrollable emotions.

 

How Trauma Therapy Works

Simply put, trauma therapy is a type of talk therapy used to address trauma’s emotional and mental health effects. To use clinical terminology, a traumatic incident is one in which a person’s life was in danger or they saw another person’s life in danger. Vulnerable people may potentially experience trauma-related issues after witnessing another person’s death. How and why different people respond to trauma in various ways is uncertain. Genetics, temperament, and repeated exposure to stressful situations are all possible risk factors.

Some can recover from trauma without long-term effects. Some people may be more susceptible to psychological harm. Following the threat, trauma occurs when a person struggles to cope. Sometimes, traumatic scars affect individuals more than others who were exposed to the same event. 

Trauma therapy refers to various therapies explicitly designed to address the aftereffects of trauma. It is also known as trauma-informed care, and it is more of an umbrella term that encourages mental health doctors and other health care providers to consider a patient’s past experiences while offering therapy. 

Guidelines for providing the best treatment possible to patients with a history of trauma are provided through trauma-informed methods, which also involve training professionals in the best ways to treat trauma and collaborating with other organizations. 

 

Types of Trauma Therapy

We have not yet covered all types of treatment frequently used to treat trauma sufferers. 

 

Trauma-Focused Cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) 

TF-CBT is essentially cognitive behavioral therapy developed specifically for victims of trauma. This type of brief conversation therapy aids patients in confronting and controlling their thoughts connected to the trauma.

 

Psychodynamic Treatment 

You will talk about your symptoms and your trauma in psychodynamic therapy. A solid client-therapist relationship is essential for this type of treatment. Its foundation lies in exposing internal problems that the client is suffering from. It also gives a lot of attention to how connections impact people, particularly how they influence their attitudes, feelings, and actions. 

 

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

The fundamental objective of EMDR is to eliminate obstacles to the client’s progress. External stimuli (such as hand tapping or eye movement) achieve this. The stimulation the therapist gives as you discuss your experience focuses your attention outward.

The information mentioned above may be helpful to you during your treatment process, or you may require more counseling. Additionally, remember that often, healing from trauma necessitates using many types of treatment.

 

Benefits of Trauma Therapy

Traumatic events can have an impact on relationships and life. Its consequences can also make life challenging at work, in social situations, and even in school. Thus, trauma therapy can enhance the quality of life. Before receiving trauma treatment, a client might not even be aware of how much their trauma has changed how they live.

Though it may be difficult to talk about terrible events with a doctor, trauma treatment can reduce symptoms over time. Additional advantages of trauma therapy include:

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) causes and symptoms can be eliminated or reduced
  • Enhancing intimate connections and interactions with others
  • Developing coping mechanisms to deal with erroneous or unfavorable thoughts and emotions
  • Lowering rage, frustration, and irritation while raising calmness
  • Putting the unpleasant event in a new light and trying to make sense of it

 

Finding the Right Trauma Therapist

It’s crucial to locate a trauma therapist with credentials to support this assertion. Examining the therapist directories on the websites of organizations for professionals who specialize in trauma is one place to start. These organizations include the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, the American Psychological Association Division of Trauma Psychology, and the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies.

Finding a qualified trauma therapist can be challenging since there is frequently a higher need than available professionals. We advise visiting a conventional therapist in the interim if you have problems locating a trauma therapist. However, don’t entirely postpone your search for a trauma therapist. 

Recovery from a traumatic experience is feasible with the aid of a qualified specialist. Though overcoming traumatic memories is complex, it is possible. With the right therapist, you will be able to recover from your trauma and live a meaningful life!

 

You can begin sessions now with Chastity from the comfort of your own home. 

Chastity Rodriguez, LMFT, MEd, EMP, PC, CME

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

How to Remain Calm When Angry [Calm Nerves Quickly]

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How to Remain Calm When Angry [Calm Nerves Quickly]

 

How to remain calm when angry is a skillset that many of us arent taught. In this video we will learn how to calm nerves quickly and calm yourself down when stressed.

These techniques will help especially if you practice them when you are in a calm mood.

 

 

 

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

Sensual Meditation: Strategies to Fall in Lust Again

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

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What Is Consent in a Relationship?

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What Is Consent in a Relationship?

 

If you’re looking for a clear answer to what is consent, the first thing you will need to know is that it’s about mutually respecting yourself and the other person you are getting consent from. 

When someone gives you their consent, it means they are permitting you or agreeing to express something with you! 

  1. Consent cannot be assumed just because someone is silent, hasn’t said the word ‘no,’ or because the sexual partners have a relationship or sexual past together.
  2. Consent may be revoked at any time. 
  3. Force, threat, or intimidation are not acceptable methods for obtaining consent. 
  4. A person who is in any way incapacitated cannot give consent.

Before diving into this topic, there are a few things to remember when having sexual relations with someone.  

 

What is Consent?

Sexual consent means agreeing to participate in a specific sexual activity. Before being sexual with another person, you will need to know if they truly want to be sexual with you as well. On the other side, make sure you’ve communicated what you want with your partner before initiating intercourse or any other sexual activity.

Both consenting and asking for one serve to encourage people to set their own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. Also, it serves to check if everything is clear and, if not, to communicate it properly before sex. Both partners must give sexual consent each time before engaging in sexual activity for the sex to be considered consensual. 

Without sexual consent, any sexual activity, from oral sex or genital touching to vaginal or anal penetration, is considered sexual assault or rape. You have every right to decide what happens to your body. It doesn’t matter if you were up for it ten minutes ago and even said ‘yes’ to your sexual partner; you can change your mind freely. Every person is allowed to say “stop” at any time before and during sexual activity, and their partner must respect it. 

You have to be a person that is comfortable and gracious about receiving a no. That is what consent is. If you guilt someone, or pressure them when they say “no,” that is not consensual. That is covertly manipulating a situation to get your needs met. 

 

Sexual Assault and Rape

Who can consent to sexual activity is regulated by law. Someone who is drunk, high, or passed out cannot consent sexually. Minors are protected from sexual activity with adults. Meaning, sex with a minor resulted in jail time and sex offender registration.  

Despite their legal definitions, rape, sexual assault, and sexual abuse all begin with lack of consent. All of these involve unconsented sexual contact. This means that sexual contact without consent is rape, assault, or abuse. 

Anyone can be a victim of rape, sexual assault, or sexual abuse, regardless of their age, gender, or sexual orientation. That said, certain groups of people are more likely than others to experience sexual assault. We particularly want to recognize that women of color, LGBTIA+ individuals, and those with developmental disabilities are more likely to experience sexual assault. 

There are numerous ways in which sexual violence can occur. Rape or sexual assault can occur without a weapon, and the victim does not have to fight back, scream, or say ‘no’. Our most common image is of sexual assaults in dark alleyways with strangers, even though that is rare. Family, relatives, and romantic partners often are the perpetrator.  

If you or anyone you know has experienced any type of sexual violence, keep in mind that you’re not alone and that help is available to all victims of sexual violence.

 

How to Ask For Consent

Most of the time, you’ll hear people talking about giving consent before a certain sexual activity. However, asking for consent is equally important in communication between two individuals who will become sexual partners. Both partners need to give their consent to have sex. 

Openly discussing consent with your partner is best. Request it in multiple formats. Instead of saying the same thing over and over, ask your partner if they are ready to engage in sexual activity, and then confirm with them if they are comfortable with how things went later. 

Asking for consent does not have to slow down or diminish sexual desire. While communicating and being intimate with your partner, you can request consent. Although consent is required before any sexual activity, make an effort to communicate with the person you are getting to know more about.  If you are about to have sex with your long-term partner, you probably already know whether or not they want to have sex at that particular time. However, asking for consent implies consent from both partners in a relationship. 

 

How to Give Consent

Like asking for consent, you should give your consent to your partner. That will inform them that you agree to continue being sexually intimate with them and give them the ‘green light’ to proceed. You are not, nevertheless, required to wait for your partner to inquire whether you are enjoying the foreplay. In other words, a person can give consent without waiting for their partner to ask for it. 

Informing your partner that you consent to having sex with them helps you both be transparent about your sexual desires and allows you to connect sexually. However, don’t confuse giving consent with receiving it. You will still need to hear your partner say they are okay with moving things forward sexually to continue with a certain sexual activity. Once both partners have given their consent, you can proceed with sex and make the most of it together. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

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How To Get a Girl Horny: Pro Tips and Tricks

 

For all of you wondering how to get a girl horny, today we’re sharing our best tips and ideas on how to make her panties wet. Luckily, there are plenty of tricks you can try out when wanting to get a girl very interested in being sexually intimate with you. Although you might assume that things get heated up after the penetration, you will be surprised to hear that for most girls, foreplay is key to good sex.

You will find plenty of articles online on how to improve your sex game or lead your girl to orgasm, yet very few of them talk about setting the mood for sex and upgrading your foreplay game. If you’re curious to learn what works and what doesn’t, continue reading this article and taking notes.

 

Build Up the Chemistry

Establish sexual chemistry before making any moves. Instead of admitting you like her, flirt with her verbally and nonverbally. You can flirt by casually complimenting her looks or outfit. You might also tease her a little bit by cracking a joke or two. Please keep in mind that most girls will feel attracted to someone who makes them laugh.

With nonverbal flirting, you will need to learn how to look at her in a way that makes her intrigued. You should look deep into her eyes, and when your eyes meet, do not look away. This is where the flirtation starts. You can slightly smile at her when she looks your way, even if you’re already conversing with her. 

 

Sit Close to Her

If you’re not comfortable with flirting, this one might seem awkward to you at first. Ensure that you sit extremely close to the girl you wish to get horny with the next time you see her. This will also allow you to see how she feels near you. When you’re that close to her, pay attention to her signs. She might turn towards you and start a pleasant chat, decide to sit even closer to you, or show you she is not interested in sharing her space with you. 

You can show her something interesting on your phone to have her lean closer and see how she feels sitting this close to you. Or, you might show her something that is in front of you, such as a billboard sign or a parked sports car. 

Although you will be focusing on another thing, you will notice whether or not she feels comfortable with you being really close to her.

 

Talk about Something You’re Passionate about

Many girls will become attracted to someone when they notice their passion for something. For instance, seeing a person talk about their favorite band, movie, sport, or childhood memory can really turn a girl on. Your passion doesn’t have to be anything out of the ordinary. You might talk about your favorite restaurant or how you feel about your upcoming vacations. 

For someone listening, you will show a side of you they haven’t seen before. This is also probably where your confidence lies, another factor girls seek in their partners. Getting immediately into foreplay or sex is not nearly as interesting as getting attracted to another person gradually and then, when things get heated up, starting with the action.

 

Avoid Touching

As much as physical contact can be sensual and flirty, try to avoid it until you’re 100% sure the girl is interested. Think about it: a part of what makes flirting interesting is the uncertainty of the outcome—whether or not the girl will like you back. Even if you notice that she is becoming more and more interested, try to avoid touching her to get her even more excited.

After all, words can be a powerful seduction tool. Tease her and show her you’re the catch. Curiosity will motivate her to continue talking to you and, when the time is right, move it to the next level. 

 

Let’s Get Physical!

There’s a reason why it takes a few steps until you can try to either touch her fingers, move hair from her face, hug her, or do anything else that naturally comes to mind. Touching someone without first determining whether or not they are interested in you will eliminate any possibility of arousing their desire. 

Once you’ve read all the signs right and noticed she likes having you close and there is a certain chemistry between you, you can try to show her you like her in a decent physical way. For instance, you might touch her fingers while you’re sitting close and talking. Or, you might move her hair from her face after a sudden breeze. 

All of these movements will show you how she reacts to physical touch. If she touches your back or indicates that everything is well received, you are on your way to getting a girl horny. You two decide how to proceed from there. You could stop here or continue privately.

Make sure you are both okay with sex and have everything you need for the safest and most pleasurable experience. Each example is unique; some people will need weeks or months to get a particular girl horny, while others might need a few hours. There is no magic formula, and oftentimes, it will depend on factors that are out of your control. 

 

Conclusion

Ready to get a girl horny? If there’s a person you like, why not try to put your new skills to the test? Ask them out for a coffee or a dinner; invite them to see a music concert; or ask them to work out with you in the gym. If they accept, it means they would like to spend some time with you.

When you meet, it will be up to you to see if her interest is purely friendly or if there is something more for you to discover. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists helps all clients who visit us with a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy, and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

What Is The Perfect Size For A Woman In Inches?

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What Is The Perfect Size For A Woman In Inches?

What is the perfect size for a woman?

I am going to answer the perfect size for this woman and many others I know!

The best penis size is normal penis size.

What is the perfect size for a woman and does size matter in a relationship?

Let’s explain it and break it down!

 

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Body Image Therapy: Learn to Love Your Look

body image and social media

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

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Sex Training: Understanding Sexuality and Beyond

 

Sex training is one of the best ways that therapists can enhance their intimate connection with themselves so that they can help their clients do the same. 

 This therapy is client-centered, trauma-informed, and intimacy-deepening. Sex training is specialized clinical training for consultants, life coaches, and therapists.

Sex training teaches you how to help your clients feel less trauma-related symptoms, more serenity, a better grasp of how to ask for what they want, and a greater sense of connection with others around them.

 

What is Sex Training?

Sexual therapy certification programs train specialists to help clients with sexual health issues. Although some healthcare training programs cover gender and sexuality, most do not prepare professionals to provide sex therapy. Sex therapy certification programs teach experts in other fields how to treat sexual health issues.

The majority of states require sex therapists to hold valid healthcare licenses to practice their profession. Sex therapists typically have backgrounds in a range of disciplines, such as marriage and family therapy (systems work), social work, psychology, urology, gynecology, and/or psychiatry. The American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), which offers a national certification process, is where most of those who are certified in sex therapy obtain their credentials. The top certification programs for sex therapy offer a direct path to a certification that is acknowledged at the local, state, or federal levels.

However, receiving sex training is what ensures that a therapist is knowledgeable about different approaches to helping their clients in the field of sexuality and intimacy. There are different training programs available across the United States, and finding the one that will provide you with key learnings and skills is crucial for your work success. 

 

Key Learnings in Sex Training

Programs for sex training are made to get you ready to use sex therapy in your practice. They adopt a sex-positive and inclusive stance and discuss issues including common therapies, strategies to rephrase language to be inclusive, and sex therapy diagnosis.

Some of the key learnings in sex training that therapists can expect to start applying in their work with clients are:

  • Identifying and diagnosing common concerns in sex therapy
  • How to apply different interventions, 
  • How to build trust with clients to discuss sexual concerns

Your comprehension of the intersections between the body, mind, emotions, culture, and identity will deepen as a result of the course. You’ll be able to assist patients in achieving their treatment objectives and staying true to their basic principles. Similar to this, you will be able to assist couples in overcoming the push-pull conflict cycle that frequently arises while working with multiple people simultaneously.

Sex training is intended for professionals interested in learning how to apply sex therapy to their clinical work as well as how to be more inclusive in their client interactions. Throughout this program, you will also discuss issues including usual diagnoses, the distinction between sex positivity and sex negativity, how to change the language to be more inclusive, normal sex therapy techniques, and more.

 

Becoming a Sex Therapist

There are five crucial steps to follow to become a sex therapist, yet if you are just getting started, it may take some time. The amount of time required for sex therapy training depends on your level of education and any credentials or certificates you have earned before enrolling in a particular program. Each state has its own standards for finishing your master’s degree, and they might be complicated and unclear.

Most sex therapists take this route to earn their degree and start working in the field:

  1. Obtain a master’s degree in counseling, psychiatry, clinical social work, marital and family therapy, or psychotherapy. Depending on the degree you choose to pursue, these degrees typically take two to seven years to complete.
  2. Meet all licensing standards; these criteria vary by state, so you’ll need to do your study based on where you live.
  3. While you are completing your supervised work experience, get a provisional license. Typically, the criteria call for between 1,500 and 4,000 hours.
  4. Pass the state’s licensing test.
  5. To finish your sex therapy training, finish an extra 60 supervised hours, finish an equivalent number of sexuality-related graduate school classes, or become a Certified Sex Therapist (CST).

 

Sex Therapy Session

As a sex therapist, you will pay attention to how your clients explain their issues and determine whether psychological, physical, or a combination of the two factors into the problem.

Every treatment session is private. Your clients are welcome to attend alone, yet if their issue also impacts their partner, it could be best for both of them to be present.

You’ll learn more about what’s going on and the reasons for it by talking about and investigating your client’s experiences. You might also assign them tasks to complete at their convenience

Typically, sessions last between 30 and 50 minutes. Your therapist might suggest weekly sessions or fewer regular visits, like once a month.

 

Sex Therapist vs. Sex Coach

You can also think about becoming a sex coach if you have a strong desire to help people improve their sex lives and relationships but feel unsure if the career path of a sex therapist is best for you.

Even though you will still require training, taking this specific course can help you finish it much more quickly and start work right away. There is a growing and strong demand for sex coaching.

As a therapist, you may want to enroll in a sex coaching school to help your clients with sexuality without going through the certification process. If you want a more hands-on experience, try somatic sex coaching or sex surrogacy. 

 

In Conclusion

Regardless of your career path, if you’re passionate about sexuality and learning ways to help your clients connect better with that part of themselves, you should take sex training. Learning from such programs is incredibly valuable to you as a professional and also to the relationship you are building with your clients. 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Conflict in the Workplace: What to Do About Them

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Conflict in the Workplace: What to Do About Them

 

Whether you’re working in an office or from home, you’ve probably noticed a conflict in the workplace at least once. It might have been when certain expectations were not met or when the communication between supervisors and employees was not efficient, yet conflicts are quite common in any type of workplace. 

However, there are certain things you should learn how to manage to protect your mental and emotional health. To help you thrive in a healthy, sustainable environment, we took a look at the types of conflicts at work.

 

Different Leadership Styles

A leadership style becomes an issue if a new leader is introduced in the company and all employees must adapt to a new way of working and communicating. For instance, your previous boss might have been more laid-back and preferred a casual way of working. This might have implied that you could have been a few minutes late to work, had flexible deadlines, or reported on your work while sipping coffee in the hallway. 

Your new leader might have a completely different style of leading the company. They might be strict and highly technical, so you will need to be detailed in your work and report in a more concentrated way than you’re used to. This can create conflicts as everyone in the team is used to working in a certain way, so adjusting to all the changes might take time and patience. 

 

Work Style Conflicts

There are various work styles, just as there are various leadership styles. While some people like to work in teams, others are more productive working alone. Some people can finish a task with no additional guidance, yet others prefer outside input and guidance at every stage. Some people work better under pressure, while others prefer to finish their chores quickly.

Here, as well as in any workplace disputes or contact with other people, the same concept of mutual respect and understanding is applicable. Regardless of our preferred working methods, teams occasionally need to work together to generate ideas that are better than what any one person could come up with on their own.

 

Conflicts around Different Personalities

We won’t always get along with everyone we meet, and it might be challenging to deal with someone whose personality offends us. It’s important to keep in mind that people are not always what we perceive them to be. This brings up the subject of comprehension and empathy again. Don’t let what you’ve seen dictate how you’ll always feel about someone.

The best way to increase comprehension and empathy in workplace communication The better you get to know your peers, the easier it will be to understand them and their actions. 

 

Discrimination at Any Level

Conflict at work can get more serious at this point, and human resources may need to get involved. There is a critical necessity for the business to expressly highlight open-mindedness, acceptance, and understanding if there is harassment or discrimination taking place because of age, race, ethnicity, gender, or whatever the case may be.

All of us can learn to get along. Being able to work with people from different cultural backgrounds is an excellent way to learn more about the world. A diverse team is a company’s strength and not its weakness, yet learning how to make the most of it is where many businesses fail to succeed. 

 

Conflicts around Ideas

When it comes to concept brainstorming, conflict presents a fantastic chance to improve the idea. Employees must be able to listen to others’ ideas, express their own, and then put all the best parts of the puzzle together to create a magnificent solution.

If two people have conflicting project ideas, they may consult each other and mutually choose one or the other. They might also try to reach a compromise so that both perspectives can be heard and a stronger result of their cooperation emerges. If necessary, they could speak with a superior or a different coworker to mediate the situation or get their perspective on the chosen course of action.

 

Conflict Resolution

The first step is to take a deep breath and acknowledge that conflict is real. Next, talk with the other person(s) concerned to come up with a plan to resolve the issue before the tension between you becomes intolerable.

Keep things from turning passive-aggressive. Deal with the conflict before it escalates. Don’t let your feelings control you. Remember that there are always two sides to every story, and say what needs to be said without shouting or being rude. It’s possible that what someone else was feeling during their contact with you wasn’t always the same as what you were feeling. Be receptive to different perspectives. Recognize that you aren’t always right in advance.

People should get together to discuss and, more importantly, to listen. Engage in conversation with one another while drawing on your empathy. Make sure you both have a chance to say everything you need to say by taking a seat somewhere. 

Don’t just wait for your moment to speak; pay attention to what the other person has to say. Pay close attention to what they say and make an effort to think and feel like they do. Make sure you comprehend what they meant to say, not simply what you think they were saying, by asking questions.

Think about your behavior from both perspectives. To overcome the issue, it helps to comprehend the other person’s perspective and what they are thinking and feeling.

Consider where you agree instead of where you disagree. Just keep in mind that we are all human. We make mistakes and misinterpret events. Empathy for one another can help us overcome disagreements and make each other better individuals.

 

In Final Words

Conflicts will happen, yet how you react to them is what differentiates healthy environments from unhealthy ones. Even if you think that your opinion cannot change a thing, keep in mind that you’re a part of the workforce in the company, and often, it takes only one person to lead to a positive change. 

If you have an HR department or work for one, ask us about special packages to help you out of difficult situations.

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

What Does Peyronie’s Disease Look Like? [WHY IS IT CROOKED]?

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What Does Peyronie’s Disease Look Like? [WHY IS IT CROOKED]?

 

What Does Peyronie’s Disease Look Like and why is my penis crooked?

Some penises curve, yet it doesn’t prevent penetration or pleasure.

Penises can grow slightly from one side or the other because the urethra does not always accompany the development of the rest of the organ, causing a slight curve.

 

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

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Sex Education Video: What You’ve Been Afraid to Ask

 

Have you ever watched a sex education video on your own initiative rather than at the request of your teacher or parents? How curious are you about sex? Just like you, many young people feel a bit overwhelmed with everything around sex, yet they are either too afraid, too proud, or too confused to decide to learn more about it.

Imagine if you were to learn how to drive a car from reading several social media posts or hearing gossip in high school. You might know how to start the engine or steer the wheel, yet being able to drive on the road without hurting yourself or anybody else requires more knowledge, skills, and practice. 

The same is true with sex; you need to educate yourself about all aspects of sex. From hygiene and feeling comfortable in your body to different sex techniques and orgasm types, you should be informed about it all before stepping into this experience. 

Although sex has become less taboo in recent years, many teens and young adults are still ashamed to seek answers to questions about sex. That’s why watching a few sex education videos or reading a blog or two might be just what you need to feel more confident and safe for your first time.

 

Why Sex Is Not Like Any Other Topic

It kind of is, yet your experience is telling you differently. You talk comfortably with your friends and family about your hobbies, the music you listen to, and your dream career, right? However, when it comes to sex, you start to feel uncomfortable and wish to switch to another topic. Sex was considered taboo in the past for a variety of social and religious reasons, yet learning about it on time helps young individuals like yourself, when they decide to have sex for the first time, practice it safely and not in ignorance. 

Sex is a private act, and if you don’t feel comfortable talking about it openly, you can educate yourself about it privately as well. It’s up to you when choosing how to learn about sex;, however, don’t ignore the power of education. Ignorance about sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), broken hearts, and different emotional issues. 

 

Learn Your Body First

Pleasure is the reason why people enjoy sex. You can reach sexual pleasure on your own or with another person; that’s completely up to you, yet you will need to learn what feels good and what doesn’t. The best way to do it is to study your body first. Masturbating is completely natural and the best way to get to know your body in a sexual way. 

Besides knowing how touching certain spots on your body makes you feel, you should also learn the names of body parts and what they do. For instance, do you know the difference between the vulva, vagina, and clitoris? This information can make your first sexual experience more enjoyable and help you not feel confused about sex.

 

Sex Requires Consent

Once you’ve covered all the details about your body parts and learned what you like and don’t like, there are quite a few things you’ll need to keep in mind for your first time. The most important one is consent. Because it involves another person, it is very important for you to communicate your intentions and get consent to have sex. 

If you or your partner starts feeling uncomfortable, in pain, or has simply changed their mind, make sure you respect them and stop right away. Also, you should know the name and age of your sex partner and avoid getting intimate with people you don’t know well enough. 

 

Before Your First Time

Once you’ve given and received consent and decided you’re ready for your first time, a few other things will need to be crossed off of your list. Consider how you wish to have your pubic hair. Maybe you want to have it completely shaved or waxed, or you want to leave it as it is. Also, think about the things you really didn’t like during the exploration of your body. You can even write them down on a piece of paper so you don’t forget them later. 

These things should be communicated to your sex partner before you engage in any type of sexual activity, as they will affect how you feel during sex and, often, after it. Once you’ve both expressed your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, be sure to have protection with you, whether it’s a preservative, contraceptive pills, or something else. Keep in mind that not all types of contraception protect you from both STIs and unwanted pregnancy. In fact, the only contraceptive method that will keep you safe from both is a preservative or condom. 

Another thing you need to know is that the first time is only that—the first time you are experiencing something new. Don’t feel bad if you feel awkward during sex;, that’s completely normal and expected. It will take some time until you start feeling more pleasure in sex and the discomfort and weirdness around sex completely disappear. By communicating with your partner, it will be easier to go through these mixed feelings because you will realize you are not alone in them.

 

Conclusion

There are a lot of things you need to learn about sex before engaging in sexual activity. However, the more you learn, the better you will feel about it. Knowing what to expect during sex and understanding what your body needs helps you have better control over a situation that is completely new to you. Not to mention that experiencing anything for the first time always brings a bit of confusion and fear.

Sex is a form of intimacy between partners, and it can bring you closer to each other, but only if it’s not rushed and done when you’re both ready. The only way you’ll know if you’re both ready for what you want is by talking to each other before anything actually happens. 

That way, you will assure the connection between you strengthens and your sexuality is nurtured in a healthy way. After all, you’ve got your entire life to explore everything around sex, so make sure you dedicate some time to learning about it first. 

 

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.