Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

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Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Intimate Concerns

 

Sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction (commonly known as “ED”) is a form of psychotherapy that helps men (and their partners) address the psychological and emotional factors that are contributing to the ED. 

This type of sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction can include individual therapy or couples counseling and may involve a variety of techniques. 

Additionally, it is important to consider the psychological and emotional impact of ED on individuals and their partners. This can include feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem, which can impact the individual’s quality of life and relationship satisfaction. In these cases, it may be helpful to seek out counseling or therapy to address these underlying emotional issues.

A sexual therapist for erectile dysfunction can help the couple to identify any emotional or relationship issues that may be contributing to the ED, including yet not limited to cultural context, sexual orientation, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or unresolved conflicts. If you can’t get into the mood because you are stressed out, sex therapy may help you. 

Be mindful that the type of ED concerns you have can vary, yet sex therapy can help a variety of guys. Do you struggle with self-doubt, anxiety, and insecurity in the bedroom? If you cannot keep it up during a steamy session, it makes sense that you would want more support.

Some people come to sex therapy because their partners have incredibly high expectations, which can cause performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you are constantly worrying about your partner’s satisfaction only, you aren’t going to have successful intimate moments in partnered sex.

Finally, some people have sex therapy and ED concerns because of past trauma. Feeling triggered during an intimate event is something that many don’t want to experience. Therefore, they seek out sexual therapy for erectile dysfunction.

 

The main reasons someone may come to sex therapy, other than erectile dysfunction: 

  • To address issues with sexual identity or orientation: 🏳️‍🌈
  • To overcome sexual dysfunction or discomfort: 🤕
  • To improve communication and intimacy in their sexual relationship: 💬
  • To explore and understand their own sexual desires and preferences: 🧐
  • To address past trauma related to sexual experiences: 💔

 

A therapist can also teach the couple communication and intimacy skills to improve their sexual relationship.

It’s important to note that sexual therapy is used in conjunction with other treatments for ED such as tantra, kink, somatic experiences, or sensate focus techniques. 

Therapists skillset and client needs can vary greatly from person to person and is influenced by a range of factors such as culture, religion, and personal values. A qualified sex therapist can help individuals and couples address these needs in a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential environment.

Seeking professional help as soon as possible can help you understand the underlying cause of ED and get the appropriate care.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

 

The Truth About Valentine’s Day: It’s More About Effort Than You Think!

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The Truth About Valentine’s Day: It’s More About Effort Than You Think!

 

The truth about Valentine’s Day is that it is thought of as a day to celebrate romantic relationships. The thing is that buying gifts, cards, chocolate, and engaging in special “dates” isn’t just for life partners. 

As we begin to approach this holiday, it’s important to remember that relationships come in many forms and should be celebrated throughout the year.

 

Commercial Holiday

The truth about Valentine’s Day is it a commercial holiday. Yet this level of celebration for those you love is something to consider every day! 

As a couple’s therapist, often we see couples who rarely spend quality time together outside of special dates. In relationships, it is vital to the relationship to spend quality time with our partner(s). 

As a result of a lack of quality time, couples become disconnected from each other. 

Celebrating relationships outside of Valentine’s Day can help deepen connections with important people in our lives. 

Often in couples therapy or relational therapy in general we focus on “love languages” of quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and gift giving (many more have been identified, yet these are the ones many are familiar with). 

 

Valentine’s Day and Love Language

The truth about Valentine’s Day and any day you’re with a loved one is that you give in the love language that the person you are giving to receives in. Meaning, if I love to cook desserts as my love language. And my partner doesn’t have a sweet tooth, there is going to be some dysfunction there. 

Instead, focus on giving in the way that others receive. For example, quality time looks like spending time with the person whom you are trying to build a connection with individually or in small groups.  This could include scheduling regular date nights with a partner, going on a fun outing with friends. Or having a family game night. 

Another way to celebrate is to show gratitude towards the people in our lives. Like writing a heartfelt letter, giving a thoughtful gift, or finding a poem to express verbally. 

Another way to celebrate relationships is to make an effort to stay in touch with people who are important to us, even if they live far away. This could include sending a text or an email, or even scheduling a video call to catch up. We see more frequent connection points in relationships can enhance connection and strengthen the relationship.

Another vital relationship for us to cultivate is the one we have with ourselves. Building a connection to ourselves on an ongoing basis, helps our mental health, our physical health, and the relationships with those around us.  

We can improve our self-care, self-compassion and self-love. And make sure that we are taking care of ourselves in a way that makes us feel good to us (building pleasure practices, quality time with ourselves. And building compassion towards ourselves).

It’s important to make an effort to celebrate relationships in a variety of ways throughout the year. And not just on Valentine’s Day.

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know Nicole Scrivano, LMFT, LCAT’s Director, by making an appointment. Nicole specializes in working with individuals and couples to bring identity-informed care and strategies for success in overcoming trauma triggers. Start your journey here with Nicole.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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Why Can't I Keep an Erection

Why Can’t I Keep an Erection❓ Understanding the Causes of ED

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Why Can’t I Keep an Erection❓ Understanding the Causes of ED 🔬

 

Why can’t I keep an erection and maintain it? Did you used to be able to keep an erection?

Maybe this short can be a guide to transformation of weak erection into the full, powerful erections you long for.

Treatment for why can’t i keep an erection is available, if you are willing to do some work. It might include lifestyle changes to make it easier for your erection and performance.

 

Watch the youtube video!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Man sitting on edge of bed looking at wall Can erectile dysfunction be cured

Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌 Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

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 Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Cured? 🍌Learn a Systemic Approach to Aging!

People often ask can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I am here to tell you that erectile dysfunction has a cure and treated successfully.

The specific treatment that is most appropriate for an individual is dependent on the underlying cause of their erectile dysfunction (ED). 

In many cases, you can improve your ED with lifestyle changes, such as cardio exercise, balanced eating – no fatty foods that affect cholesterol and quitting smoking. 

Making lifestyle changes is not easy, yet it is one way to answer: can erectile dysfunction be cured? 

Please, consult with a healthcare provider to determine the best treatment plan for you. 

For some, medications [sildenafil – Viagra, vardenafil – Levitra, and tadalafil – Cialis] are effective in treating ED. Yet, for others this is not a possibility. Learn the best way to manage your ED by learning what is happening in your body. 

Get comfortable with touching your skin, the largest organ full of sensation so that you can awaken a full-body type of orgasmic experience.

Yet in other cases, erectile dysfunction does not have a cure, because it is a more serious underlying condition. 

 

Curious to start your journey?

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Solutions for Valentine’s Day

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Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Solutions for Valentine’s Day

 

Erectile dysfunction and Valentine’s Day can be a hard problem. Valentine’s Day – celebrated on February 14th – is dedicated to expressing love and affection to those that are important to us. 

Today, we are going to talk about things to do instead of focusing on your erectile dysfunction for Valentine’s day.  

Here are a few ideas for Valentine’s Day to do instead of having sex, 

  1. Valentines Crafts: Provide some ideas to your partner for DIY Valentines, such as homemade wreaths and decor for the home. Erotic energy is also creative energy!
  2. Read traditions: What are the origins of Valentine’s Day customs around the world! Some people really enjoy the story and this is such a great distraction from erectile dysfunction on the holiday. 
  3. Gift ideas: Share some thoughtful gift ideas with your significant other, such as massage coupons, a romantic getaway, or a special piece of art you make together.
  4. Date night ideas: Offer suggestions for unique date night ideas, such as a cooking class, a cheese tasting, or an escape room. Don’t focus on intimacy. 

Remember to keep your partner in mind while you customize your plans for Valentine’s Day to be relevant and interesting. Also… keep in mind that Valentine’s Day is not the only day to be gracious and caring for your partner. In long-lasting relationships that have high levels of sexual satisfaction, these individuals report celebrating their love daily.

How to Prevent Erectile Dysfunction? 

There are things to do to work on your erectile dysfunction, yet wait until Valentine’s Day and the pressure is over. 

Making small, long-lasting adjustments is an integral part of enhancing general health.

To reduce your risk of ED, consider the following:

  • Medical condition management,
  • Reduce stress,
  • Exercise about 4x/week,
  • Keep your weight where you feel most comfortable, 
  • Eat balanced meals (not just fatty foods)
  • Seek help if experiencing anxiety or depression,
  • Stop drinking and smoking! 

In Conclusion 

Sometimes it’s hard to be honest about your struggles with erectile disorders. 

However, seeing a doctor is essential if you cannot get or maintain an erection. Your symptoms might not be related to ED yet a medical thing! Your doctor can do several procedures to rule out or confirm the presence of any of other disorders.

Although dealing with ED symptoms can be unpleasant and even shameful, numerous services are available to help. 

All adults have the right to enjoy sex, and a few bumps on the road doesn’t mean your penis is broken. It happens to more men than you think and there is a solution for most cases. 

Sometimes, if you are struggling with ED, you are putting so much pressure on your penis. 

 

Curious to start your journey?

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

How to Deal With Your Male Performance Anxiety Sexually (GET IT UP AGAIN!)

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How to Deal With Your Male Performance Anxiety Sexually

 

Have you ever struggled with getting it up during intimate moments with your partner due to sexual performance anxiety?

Whether this anxiety stems from feelings of shame, guilt, or self-consciousness, it can make it difficult to maintain an erection, leaving both you and your partner unsatisfied.

If you’re experiencing sexual performance anxiety, dealing with sexual anxiety, or facing difficulties with erections, this YouTube video is designed to guide you.

Whether you identify as male or as someone who fits into the “men” category, the insights provided will be incredibly beneficial.

You’ll gain practical strategies and a deeper understanding of how to overcome sexual performance anxiety, particularly when in the company of a partner. With these tools, you’ll soon be able to leave behind the anxiety and fully enjoy your sexual experiences.

Amanda Pasciucco, an AASECT certified sex therapist and owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, shares her tips to success! Amanda has been featured multiple times on CNN, Playboy, PornHub, Maxim, Daily Mail, Men’s Health. Hartford Courant, HeadSpace, VICE, and more!

 

About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

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Consensual Non-Monogamy: Definition, Types & Tips

Although most couples in our culture are monogamous, consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is on the rise. Monogamy means that once you are engaged, you do not have romantic or sexual interactions with anyone else. Yet, we know that around one-fifth of the population engages in non-monogamous relationships at some time in their life.

You can practice consensual non-monogamy in various ways; one of the most important is an honest and open dialogue between partners. Partnerships that aren’t monogamous yet are morally acceptable include polyamory, open relationships, and swinging.


Let’s take a closer look at consensual non monogamy, its types, and how to start practicing CNM. 

What is Consensual Non-Monogamy? 

The phrase “consensual non monogamy” is an umbrella term, meaning its broad definition encompasses various individual connection types. A relationship may exhibit consensual non-monogamy, or CNM, in multiple ways, from entailing simply romantic relationships to purely sexual relationships, or both romantic and sexual. One person may behave outside the boundaries of the partnership or even both parties.

The fact that both partners agree to whatever kind of consensual non-monogamy is used in the partnership distinguishes it from infidelity. The partner does not agree to cheat. Because you and your partner have already decided to practice non-monogamy, CNM is not considered cheating.

There are numerous good reasons to prefer a non-monogamous relationship structure, including:

  • Being able to explore sexuality,
  • Understanding that one relationship doesn’t satisfy all your needs,
  • You want to give love and affection to more than one person. 

Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

Everyone spends a certain amount of time dating before settling down with “the one.” Meeting the one at a young age is a rarity, yet it does happen. So many people have to keep looking before they meet someone they click with. Some people may keep dating even after discovering someone they can settle down with.

Everyone participating in a non-monogamous relationship must agree to its structure to be considered consensual. One of the most common misunderstandings about non-monogamy is that cheating on a spouse or partner is a license. Consensual non-monogamy, on the other hand, is fundamentally distinct from cheating because of its emphasis on consent, openness, and honesty. Contrarily, cheating is a severe breach of trust.

How to Practice CNM

Consensual non-monogamy, like any other relationship, thrives based on mutual understanding, respect, and trust. Everyone should know what they’re getting into and provide their complete, informed permission before entering into a relationship. Practicing CNM is similar to being in any relationship, except for setting initial boundaries, expectations, and wants.

These tips might make it easier for you to maintain fulfilled relationship(s):

  • The two of you have settled on a list of dos and don’ts for your relationship.
  • Transparency is essential.
  • Have respect for your partners’ emotions and talk about them.
  • A primary partner is possible in CNM if you want one. 
  • Non-hierarchical connections are an option to consider. 
  • Expect highs and lows, just like in any relationship you have had. 
  • Jealousy is completely normal, and it’s okay to feel it. 

Consensual Non-Monogamy Examples

It doesn’t work to generalize consensual non-monogamous relationships. Different types of relationships range from  romantic to sexual to platonic feelings between partners. Let’s go through some of the most common types of CNM relationships that I see below.

Polyamory

The idea of love is vital to polyamory, yet instead of being limited to a single partner, it is shared in many forms among many individuals. Friendships might be seen as polyamorous since we often cultivate close bonds with several people at once. Persons who practice polyamory are like those with more than one relationship because they satisfy their emotional demands in this way. Polyamory is not exclusively practiced by any one sexual orientation, although bisexuals and heteroflexibles seem to embrace it the most.

Hierarchy in Polyamory: the Primary/Secondary Model

Primary and secondary exclusive non-monogamous relationships vary primarily because both partners can have sexual and/or emotional connections with others. The passionate commitment to the principal partner in a non-monogamous relationship is equivalent to that to the only partner in a monogamous relationship.

Individuals in CNM relationships tend to be satisfied inside the partnership, yet research has shown that a deep bond with one primary partner might diminish happiness in secondary relationships.

Closed V

Picture three persons, one on each of the letter V’s vertical sides. The other persons in the V are only linked to the person at the bottom. As a result, a closed V involves a single individual having love ties to two others who are not linked.

Throuple/Quad

A throuple or quad consists of three persons, or four people in the case of a quadruple, who are romantically or sexually associated with one another, as opposed to the closed V, in which only one person is romantically involved with two others.

Monogamish

These hybrid monogamous/polyamorous couples share characteristics of both types of relationships. It often works because, at some point in time, one or both parties will decide to introduce a third party into the relationship. In most cases, this is done to gratify sexual desires rather than form meaningful bonds with others.

Because of this, firmly attached persons are more likely to have a sense of emotional safety and contentment in their closest personal connections. They may relax in a relationship or be independent if they choose.

Swingers

Whether single or in a committed relationship, you may participate in swinging, also known as wife-swapping, husband-swapping, or partner-swapping. Swinging is an open, non-monogamous relationship. Reasons vary for why people decide to adopt a swinging lifestyle. According to proponents, both the quality and amount of sexual activity improve. Swinging is a form of sexual experimentation that may appeal to those bored with or seeking variation in their sexual life. Swinging is a positive way to release stress and enhance bonds by some couples.

Kinksters

A kinkster is someone who engages in sexual behavior that deviates from the conventions of their society. It comes from the word “kink,” which in the context of sex means any sexual activity other than “norm” of heterosexual, cisgender missionary with the goal of having children.

People who prefer BDSM and those who engage in polyamory are most likely to identify as kinksters, yet it can extend far more broadly to persons with fetishes and other wants (e.g., pet play, role play, leather, etc.).

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Alternative Lifestyles: Guide to Non-Traditional Relationship Types

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Alternative Lifestyles: Guide to Non-Traditional Relationship Types

 

Are you wondering if it’s possible to have alternative lifestyles in 2023? 

Have you been hearing about alternative lifestyles and non-traditional relationships recently and wanted to learn more about them?

Contrary to what we see in movies, individuals want relationships that aren’t limited to a one-on-one dynamic. Some experts even claim that the realities of contemporary living have influenced some couples to choose unconventional arrangements and alternative lifestyles – the most popular ones being open relationships. 

What is a Non-Traditional Relationship? 

The concept that there is “one person” who can provide all of our wants throughout our whole lives is one that is modeling in the media. 

The truth is that we all need various things from different people, and by cultivating different kinds of connections, we develop different facets of our personalities. 

Learning about oneself opens up opportunities for exploration, whether solo or in a relationship.

The ability to discuss and negotiate all the aspects of your life that are essential to you, while thinking about what you can contribute for an alternative lifestyle is crucial. 

Sometimes we let our love attachments distract us from the more critical aspects of life, such as eating, sleeping, and our goals. This can occur in an alternative lifestyle or not, yet be conscious in creating the life you want. 

So, what are some alternatives to typical couples that share romantic feelings, a home, and a life?

Platonic Life Partners

Companions for life who don’t need or want romantic or sexual ties. There is trust and mutual understanding in this connection. There is a solid emotional connection, albeit it may not lead to anything sexual. The phrase “roommates” has been used to describe this scenario, but it does not encompass all options. Long-term friends may opt to live together and share decision-making, finances, and a shared future, while still giving each person room to pursue romantic or sexual relationships.

Living Apart Together

This type of arrangement is common among families with members in the military or who commute to work. The relationship’s quality may be the deciding factor. The fact that you two are physically separated is merely one facet of your close yet distant friendship. The essentials, like communicating, making choices, sharing memories, etc., are still carried out in person. It’s common for anxiety to cast a pall on relationships of this sort. Fear of separation from one’s relationship. Anxiety at being turned down by a potential companion. Having well-defined goals is critical to LAT. ‍

Open Relationships

This is a totally liberated partnership. Polyamory (having several sexual partners) is common, but the primary relationship’s emotional connection and agreements are still prioritized.

How to Start a Non-Traditional Relationship

Your active interaction with your spouse has decreased. A connection that has been opened up can become stronger. It might seem like a genuine diminution of self in a monogamous relationship because the partnership is defined by what you don’t do.

In a non-monogamous relationship, you can experience things that you otherwise might not be able to in a monogamous one. Instead of taking each other for granted, it may be a significant drive for some individuals. Observing them go on dates with others may give you the need to prove your worth and win this person’s love and affection. Additionally, it might serve as a reminder of how appealing their spouse is.

Challenges of Non-Traditional Relationships

Identify any connections or individuals who are “off limits.” Discuss any key relationships that will take precedence if you or a partner have them, and consider what information you will disclose with other partners.

Communication is crucial in every relationship. You need to be more aware of what you’re discussing with your spouse in an open relationship when expectations are even less apparent.

Achieve agreement between you, your primary partner, and any prospective additional partners.

You can check your answers to the following questions:

  • Do you intend to spend time engaging in a particular activity?
  • Do you want your partners to be acquainted?
  • Are there any specific sexual or romantic interests you have?

It’s possible for goals to vary from relationship to relationship and to change over time, so being upfront about them might prevent misunderstandings and damaged feelings in the future.

Tips for Your Non-Traditional Relationship

The most crucial component of any open relationship is honesty. You must be honest about your emotional and sexual demands if you want to settle into a relationship that you and your partner find comfortable. To feel safe and comfortable, you must also be honest about the limits you must impose. Establishing the foundation of trust required for any open relationship will be made more accessible by honest and open communication.

Before sharing the idea with your spouse, consider your motivations for an open relationship. If you are specific in your logic, plan or select a time to discuss the matter. You must speak with each other within a mental state of neutrality (i.e., not after a big fight). Start by telling your spouse that expanding your relationship has crossed your mind; you need to take concrete action.

For those who think they need more from their monogamous relationship or something different, open partnerships are the ideal option. Some people want more than one person’s emotional or physical closeness to feel complete since they are not completely happy in monogamous relationships. Others search for open partnerships to complement their present connection with another one.

If you and your partner believe an open relationship is the best choice for you, establish sexual boundaries straight away. It’s crucial that this discourse clearly states what is permitted. Do you feel at ease having penetrative sex? Oral sex? Trying out new activities that you haven’t done together? You’ll be able to focus on what you want from your sexual adventure by discussing these boundaries.

Final Words

In fact, keeping your relationship open will make you more devoted to your mate. Couples in alternative lifestyles and non-traditional relationships need high levels of communication, effort, and transparency to succeed. Investment in these abilities as a unit, so you can strengthen your relationship. 

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Treatment for Weak Erection: Get Stiff Fast!

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Treatment for Weak Erection: Get Stiff Fast!

 

Is it time that you get treatment for weak erection in your life?

 

Get our most popular sex therapy video, Stiff: Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction. 

Treatment for weak erection and ejaculation issues may be embarrassing yet there is a permanent cure if you are willing to do some work.

Amanda Pasciucco, an AASECT certified sex therapist and owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, shares her tips to success! Amanda has been featured multiple times on CNN, Playboy, PornHub, Maxim, Daily Mail, Men’s Health. Hartford Courant, HeadSpace, VICE, and more.

 

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About Life Coaching and Therapy

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a therapy and coaching practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible. Multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systematically-trained and licensed therapists!

Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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On the Importance of Communication in Relationships

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On the Importance of Communication in Relationships

 

The importance of communication in relationships is crucial for effectively communicating in any relationship you have. Communication allows individuals to understand each other, connect, and build trust with one another. 

Without communication, misunderstandings and conflicts can arise, leading to frustration, resentment, and potentially the breakdown of the relationship. Many people do not understand the importance of communication in relationships. 

Why? 

Because effective communication involves both speaking and listening. 

The importance of communication in relationships is needed to express your thoughts and feelings to your partner in a clear yet concise manner, and to be open to hearing their perspective too. This means actively listening to what they have to say, without interrupting or becoming visibly defensive.

In a healthy relationship, both people feel comfortable and safe communicating with each other. It’s okay to disagree or have different viewpoints, yet it’s important to have open and honest discussions to find common ground and resolve conflicts.

Effective communication also involves being able to express your needs and boundaries. It’s important for both partners to feel like their needs and wants are being heard and respected. This can help prevent misunderstandings and resentment from building up over time as there is enough room for everyone’s needs.

In summary, the importance of communication in relationships is essential. It allows individuals to have connection, build trust, and repair conflicts. Without communication in a relationship, misunderstandings and frustration can lead to the breakdown of the foundation.

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Get to know Chastity Rodriguez, LMFT, MEd, EMP, PC, CME by making an appointment. Chas specializes in individuals with chronic stuckness, teenagers and the next generation, and helping bring strategies for success. Start your journey here with Chas or the other therapists.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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 How to Stop “Self Sabotaging Behaviors”

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 How to Stop “Self Sabotaging Behaviors”

 

Do you know how to stop self sabotaging behaviors from affecting your life? Nobody loves acknowledging self sabotage, yet we all undermine our own lives at times Everyone has taken actions that have put them at odds with a goal they are working toward. When we’re conscious of self sabotaging behaviors, that’s okay.

 

Life might seem impossible when not conscious of our self-destructive behaviors. This article will teach you how to spot harmful habits and quit self-defeating behavior. You will benefit significantly by focusing on what can be controlled rather than making the needed changes.

What is Self-Sabotage?

To intentionally harm, impede, or hinder anything that doesn’t function as intended is called sabotage. Even while we seldom ever purposefully stand in our way, we occasionally take actions or say words that accomplish just that. Others might even think it was intentional.

Self-destructive actions can harm our success in our personal and professional lives and our mental health. People who self-sabotage themselves do (or don’t do) things that obstruct their achievement or keep them from achieving their objectives. Both consciously and unintentionally might take place.

The first step in changing these tendencies is becoming aware of self-sabotage. A mismatch between values and conduct will result in self-sabotage. We may act in a way that prevents us from achieving our goals.

Cognitive dissonance, the psychological pain brought on by internal conflicts, is another factor connected with self-destructive actions. We experience an imbalance when we force ourselves to act in a manner that is inconsistent with our ideas and ideals. We frequently alter our behavior to restore this equilibrium unconsciously.

Recognizing Self-Sabotage

The development of self-awareness is one of the most critical steps in detecting self-destructive behavior. Self-awareness, or introspection, is essential to identifying harmful behavioral patterns and improving one’s capacity to break them immediately. Self-sabotage has several distinct recurring ways.

Frame your scenario using the following phrase to assist you in starting recognizing self-sabotage:

“I want to accomplish (objective), yet I continue to act this way.”

“I want to acquire a passport, yet I keep missing the appointment.” 

Now that you’ve recognized the behavior and the way you keep blocking it, you can start searching for new contexts in which it can emerge. You could discover, for instance, that you frequently forget doctor’s appointments or never schedule appointments for passports. You’ll start to recognize your habits once you ask yourself these questions (which might arise in more than one area of your life).

Types of Self Sabotaging Behaviors

There are more ways of self sabotaging ourselves, and the more we are aware of them, then it will be easier to reduce the effect they have. 

Perfectionism

Although aiming for perfection can seem like a good idea, doing so frequently hinders productivity. Perfectionists often struggle to begin tasks; if they do, their fixation on the intricacies prevents them from finishing them.

Additionally, all-or-nothing thinking is a trait of perfectionists. They have the propensity to be very hard on themselves and talk themselves out of possibilities before they ever begin.

Running on Empty

To do more, neglecting your needs personally is foolish and subtle self-sabotage. Have you ever heard the proverbial tale of the golden egg-laying goose? The owner chopped apart the goose to obtain all the eggs since they were sick of just receiving one a day (that didn’t work out well).

Moderation

Setting limits might be challenging for people with difficulty being moderate. A night out with many drinks or a lack of moderation in other aspects of their lives is a self sabotaging behavior. This conduct may be people-pleasing (which leads them to accept too many requests). 

Other, more subtle methods of “overdoing it” include staying up late watching TV or working out at the gym until you’re exhausted. Overcommitting frequently hides a hidden fear of achievement, although it might appear to be a strong will to succeed.

Procrastination 

Everyone occasionally procrastinates, especially when faced with a task they don’t enjoy. However, procrastinating might be a sign of low self-confidence. When you put off doing anything, you deprive yourself of the opportunity and resources you need to complete it well.

Perfectionism and procrastination frequently coexist. If a person believes they can’t do a task precisely, perfectionists often put off starting the activity.

Self-Sabotaging Symptoms

Self-sabotage can have very subtle symptoms. Here are some typical methods of self-sabotage that people use both at work and elsewhere:

  • Refusing to seek assistance,
  • Micromanaging or controlling conduct,
  • Starting disputes or arguments with family, friends, or coworkers,
  • Setting unrealistic or excessively high standards for yourself, 
  • Avoiding or excluding people,
  • Severe self-criticism and negative self-talk,
  • Making apologies or shifting the blame,
  • Compromising your morals and ambitions,
  • Substance addiction, excessive spending, or other types of “overdoing it”
  • Always looking for acceptance,
  • Unwillingness to advocate for oneself.

Regarding the future or reaching our objectives, we could feel pessimistic. We can believe that something is amiss and that we cannot just succeed. Self-sabotage may take over our daily life when we’re unaware of our negative thought patterns and how they influence our actions.

Conclusion

Be kind to yourself as you become familiar with the many forms of self-sabotage (and how they manifest). Remember that making too many changes at once is a classic self-defeating behavior. Collaboration with a mental health therapist or coach can be highly beneficial. It can help you learn how to quit self-sabotaging and move on by offering accountability and support.

An essential part of avoiding self-sabotage is tracking and evaluating behavior. People prone to self-defeating habits might become aware of when they are stressed and record the cause of that stress and their reactions. They may examine if that decision is based on any false or harmful ideas, and if so, train themselves to react in a different, healthier way by, for example, talking to others about their feelings, working out, or picking up a new interest.

Pick a success-limiting behavior, such as procrastination, low self-esteem, or bad financial decisions. Make a strategy for alternative activities after determining the factors that cause that behavior. For instance, if negativity is an issue at work, set a goal to say one encouraging thing every day. To make little steps toward your objective, embrace improvements instead of eliminating them.

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

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Erection Problems at 30 Causes! The Causes of ED in early 30s

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Erection problems at 30 causes can vary. Dealing with sudden erectile dysfunction 30 years old?

There are multiple causes of erectile dysfunction in early 30s

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Life Coaching for Teenagers: What is It

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As a parent, you may be interested in life coaching for teenagers because you want your teenager to grow into a confident and self-sufficient adult. 

Life coaching for teenagers can be a valuable resource for helping teenagers to develop the skills and mindset needed to achieve their goals and live a fulfilling life. 

Here are a few reasons why life coaching is good for teens:

Life coaching helps teens to identify their strengths. 

Many teenagers are still figuring out who they are and what they want to do with their lives. A life coach can help teens to identify their unique strengths and passions and to use them to create a vision for their future.

Life coaching helps teenagers set goals.

Teens may struggle with setting and achieving goals on their own, particularly if they lack direction or motivation. A life coach can help teens to set and achieve short-term and long-term goals, which can boost their confidence and help them to feel more in control of their lives.

Life coaching helps teens to build resilience. 

Life can be tough, and teens may struggle with setbacks and challenges. A life coach can help teens to develop a growth mindset and to build resilience, which can help them to overcome obstacles and bounce back from setbacks.

Life coaching helps teenagers to manage stress and anxiety. 

Many teens struggle with stress and anxiety, which can negatively impact their mental health and well-being. A life coach can help teens to identify the sources of their stress and to develop coping strategies to manage it effectively.

In conclusion, life coaching is a valuable resource for helping teens to develop skills. Life coaching is needed to achieve teens goals for living a fulfilling life. If you are a parent looking for ways to support your teenager, consider seeking out the services of a life coach. Life coaching for teenagers is new and can be used via text therapy, phone chats, or video.

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Pet Play Guide: Learn the Basics

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Pet play is a relationship in which the dominant person assumes the position of owner, master, or trainer, while the submissive person plays the part of a pet. These may be chosen according to your personality and requirements, much as other dominant-submissive roles.

In this dynamic, the dominant has a fantastic chance to control the submissive’s conduct through sweets, attention, and even leash-assisted walks, yet additional rewards can undoubtedly be added. Many kink lovers will pick goodies that fit the character their submissive is portraying, such as fish for a Swedish cat or sugar cubes for a pony.

Here, punishments can range from standard dominant-submissive sanctions like slapping to animal-specific sanctions like being made to feed and drink from bowls on the floor for a predetermined period.

Find out what other couples find interesting in pet play in this article. 

What is Pet Play?

Role-playing as a cat or dog provides many new pet players to Domination and submission (D/s) with a secure, approachable outlet to begin exploring their fetishes. Some people are involved in the leather scene and like pet play in all its eccentricities, from leashes and collars to masks, cages, and grooming their cherished dogs. Pet play is also a very well-liked kink in the online BDSM community, notably among YouTubers who host kink channels.

In pet play, one or more individuals pretend to be a pet animal. Pet play technically comes under the broader kink category of “animal play,” which, according to Kinkly, might involve “imitating the sounds of animals, crawling about on all fours, being hand-fed or petted, or wearing a collar.” The animal role-identity players can take on a variety of shapes in pet play, from the typical household cat to wild animals and even mythological pets.

How to Pet Play

Pet play doesn’t require sophisticated technical knowledge as in rope play and impact play, nor do you need to be an expert in D/s to begin. Due to the emphasis on role-playing in pet play, play scenarios might be as straightforward as one partner acting as a puppy or cat and the other as their owner. 

This is because pet play is a flexible kink that is amusing and approachable. Pet play offers an enjoyable means of self-expression. And it is simple to expand upon to include different kinks, which, in my opinion, contributes to the appeal.

Pet play dynamics vary depending on the interests of the play partners and the animal(s) used for scenarios. A dominant handler who grooms and trains a pet is known as a handler. In other instances, the pet may exhibit a blend of human and animal traits such as barking, whining, talking to itself in puppy language, or donning a collar and leash while standing upright. Pet play has many subcategories, including:

  • Play that focuses on acting out scenarios as a dog or puppy,
  • Pony play is a game in which one person pretends to be a pony or horse,
  • Play when the role-player is a kitten or cat as “kitten play”,
  • Play in which the role-player assumes the form of a pig.

Collars, leashes, cages, masks, and pet bowls are all typical pet play essentials that may improve roleplay for seasoned kinksters seeking a deeper level of scene immersion. For instance, puppies could sip water from a bowl when playing with puppies. The kinksters’ preferences eventually choose whether or not to use extra equipment. 

How to Start

Pet play is a very accessible kink for new and experienced BDSM users. In contrast to rope play, impact play, and any type of BDSM involving sex toys and penetrative sex, you all need your imagination and a few fundamental kink techniques. Yet the most crucial aspect of all is communication. You’ll need to talk to your partner about your boundaries, interests, wants past experiences (or lack thereof), and safe words. 

Ideally, you should talk about limits 24 hours or 30 minutes before a situation begins. This is especially true if a submissive—whether a pet or its owner—will have restricted motion or speech. Or be at a higher risk of getting hurt from physical activity.

Think about how using tools like masks and bondage tape will affect your capacity to move and communicate with your partner. Learn about each tool’s safety standards and recommended practices. If you intend to spank a dog, you should practice impact play before and learn where it is safe (and unsafe) to hit people. 

Moreover, take into account more sophisticated communication methods in addition to safewords. To me, a traffic light system works best: green means “good,” yellow means “slow down/ease up,” and red means “stop.” If you worry about losing your audience’s attention. You can create nonverbal safewords by pressing against each other, like a call-response.

Common Pet Play Myths

Within and outside the kink community, there are many myths about pet play. For instance, pet play doesn’t involve zoophilia. Pet play is about taking on fictitious personas to investigate sexual sensations. Meaning, the idea that all animals are submissives or bottoms is the biggest fallacy among kinksters. In actuality, anyone can have a dominant relationship with a pet; many queer trans women, for example.

Many women seek permission to experience it because numerous people are viewed as gatekeepers. So the idea that it is solely for guys presenting is a great lie.

Kink shame is genuine, and it can make it harder for people to satisfy their sexual desires and needs. You can be as eccentric or conventional as you choose. Enjoying pet play is perfectly acceptable, and accepting your dreams is the first step toward turning them into reality. It’s critical to be honest with oneself. Engaging with kink isn’t humiliating, and it may be a really eye-opening experience for you. Life is too short not to explore your full potential.

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Soft Erection: How To Handle A Soft Penis

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Soft penis sex still can count, as a soft erection feels pleasure. Yes, a soft erection is great. We teach you how to handle a soft penis here.

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

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