The Rise of Lonely, Single Men: Is It a Trend or Something Completely Else? 

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The Rise of Lonely, Single Men: Is It a Trend or Something Completely Else? 

 

Lately, many conversations have been made around the topic of the rise of lonely, single men, and an article about it was even published on Psychology Today. Dating experts are highlighting that the number of men surpasses significantly the number of their female counterparts on dating apps and platforms, and they’re using this information to motivate men to upgrade their skills and mindset to become better than their competition. 

What does the phrase ‘lonely, single men mean? Are we truly starting to reduce our value as humans to how much we’re worth on a dating market? Let’s explore it more profoundly before adding yet another stereotype to our society. 

Single Doesn’t Make You Lonely

Let’s step away from genders for a second. The human race should not be divided by genders and taught how to win over the other pack, yet we should be aware we’re more complex than that. For instance, two single men in their 30’s are not the same person. They will probably have different interests, ways of communication, not to mention personalities. Also, another important point to make here is that being single doesn’t imply that person is lonely. 

You can be recovering from your last relationship, wanting to focus more on getting a promotion in the company, or earning a degree that will help you land the job of your dreams. Or, you can simply enjoy the single life and look for interactions with people you’re attracted to that will not necessarily lead to a romantic relationship. And that doesn’t make you lonely and it sure doesn’t make you a ‘work in progress’.

Embracing the Complexity

If we truly want to evolve as human beings and understand better our emotional and mental health wellbeing, we need to treat people as we want others to treat us. Imagine if you got laid off because the company you’ve worked in for years suddenly closed. Your closest friends invite you to a party to cheer you up, yet they introduce you to everyone as unemployed. They don’t mention that you’re their best friend or that you also play tennis. The only thing they highlight about you is that you’re unemployed.

This is what happens when people talk about the ‘rise of lonely, single men’. Just because there are more men than women on dating apps doesn’t mean they are desperate to match with their next romantic or sexual partner. They might be casually looking for fun, clever conversation, or adventure. 

Creating Confusion and Fear

If you’re a single man who is looking for a significant other on dating apps, how does this stereotype help you? Aren’t we all encouraging each other to go after what we want? So, why are we adding shame into the mix? 

A big portion of the reason can be found in the rise of dating experts across the United States. After all, even many young Americans in their 20s and 30s are reaching out to dating professionals that claim they can help them become a better ‘catch’ and also pair them with the right candidate or two. 

Even the term ‘skills’, used to describe which areas men need to improve to be more attractive to women on dating apps makes it sound like there are a few milestones before you reach your ultimate objective. Finding the person you like to begin a new relationship or even friendship with is not a linear process. You can check out all the boxes of an extensive checklist and still not be able to find someone you like or who likes you. These things can happen when you least expect them or when you don’t expect them at all.

Approaching such complex topics this way, we’re only making it worse for those who want to date and are doing what they can to find someone they find interesting to spend their time with. It’s very different when you’re talking to your male friend who is looking to meet someone new and giving them advice based on their situation from putting all men in one category, categorizing them as desperate, and offering them useless advice on what to do about it. 

Times Have Changed… And They’ll Continue Changing 

There are more single men and there are more single women than before because the times have changed compared to only 10 or 20 years ago. People are no longer spending 10, 20, or even 30 years doing the same job every day. We want to travel and explore the world before we settle down. Perhaps, we want to learn who we are first to be able to love the other person as they truly are. We want to date several people until we find the one that is the right match for us. 

All of this implies a lot of emotional and self-reflecting work. This means that the dating criteria you had five years ago maybe don’t work well for you today. Your dating or romantic life doesn’t require you to start seeing a therapist just to be able to find someone. You don’t have to read dozens of books with tips for single men or pay for dating expert services. 

Oftentimes, it’s the small things that make a difference. Maybe you should try starting more conversations in your favorite coffee shop, public transport, gym, or park. Maybe you can try to create a profile on a dating app that will show who you are better than trying to be the best ‘catch’. Or, maybe you should focus on trying out different things and opening up to new groups of people.

In Final Words

If you’re a man reading this because you thought there is a serious wave of lonely, single men across the globe, don’t worry. Just be yourself and don’t worry about other men. They might prefer a different type of woman than you or be a completely different person from you. Just be yourself, be honest about your intentions and interest, and if dating apps are not working – don’t give up. There are plenty of places all over the world to enjoy and explore and when you’re least expecting it, you could fall in love. 

 

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Discover Fetlife & Getting Into the BDSM Community as a Beginner

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Discover Fetlife & Getting Into the BDSM Community as a Beginner

 

This isnt something easy – understanding Fetlife. Getting into the BDSM community as a beginner is a bit challenging and uncomfortable. Follow these points to understand our tips.

Amanda Pasciucco, an AASECT certified sex therapist and owner of Life Coaching and Therapy, shares her tips to success! Amanda has been featured multiple times on CNN, Playboy, PornHub, Maxim, Daily Mail, Men’s Health. Hartford Courant, HeadSpace, VICE, and more!

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Sex After Breast Cancer: How It Affects Your Life? 

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Sex After Breast Cancer: How It Affects Your Life? 

 

Sex after breast cancer is probably one of the uncomfortably awkward topics to discuss with your partner, let alone with someone else. Even though you may not be aware of the problem or the solution, you are quite aware that something has changed and is affecting one more area of your life – your sex life. 

For many reasons, many women report having less sex than they did before cancer. The breast cancer experience causes your body to slow down. Many things take longer, such as becoming interested in, initiating, and concluding sexual activity.

If you’re facing the sudden onset of menopause, sex may be uncomfortable or even painful. Undoubtedly, it’s not surprising that you currently have less sex. Between the time of diagnosis and the end of treatment, many women just like yourself may have had little to no sex. 

Yet, none of this solves your situation. It’s nice to know you’re not alone in the boat, however, what is there to do? What can you do to go back to how things were or even better? 

Accepting Your Body During and After Treatment

The first step to becoming more sexually active and, more importantly, feeling good about it is to learn how to accept your body and everything that is affecting it through this experience. Many women with breast cancer deal with changes in their looks as a result of their treatment in addition to the emotional, mental, and financial burden that cancer and its treatment can create.

Hair loss is one change that might only last a short while. However, even minor adjustments can have a significant impact on how a woman feels about herself. Women have a variety of options, such as wigs, hats, scarves, and other accessories, to help them deal with hair loss. As an alternative, some people decide to utilize their baldness as a sign of surviving breast cancer.

Other alterations, such as the complete or partial loss of a breast (or breasts) following surgery, might be permanent. While some women may opt not to have reconstructive surgery to rebuild the breast mound, others may. You can choose whether or not to use a breast shape or prosthesis if you opt against having breast reconstruction.

Re-Building Sexuality in Your Relationship

After breast cancer, you can be worried about your sexuality. Some women may feel less confident in their bodies as a result of physical changes, particularly those following breast surgery. The damaged breast could lose its feeling. Your hormone levels may vary as a result of various breast cancer therapies like chemotherapy and hormone therapy, which could impact your sexual interest and/or responsiveness.

Relationship problems are also crucial. Your partner could be concerned about how to show their affection after therapy, particularly after surgery. However, breast cancer can be an opportunity for relationships to grow, particularly when both spouses participate in decision-making and receive treatment.

Accept the Loss of Your Sexual Desire

As much as sex is important for couples, it can be replaced until you feel interested in it again with different types of physical intimacy. You can kiss, hug, touch, massage each other, or find other ways to be intimate with your partner. 

It’s completely expected to lose sexual desire for weeks or months, and you can explore other ways of reconnecting with your partner, which ultimately might even help you find your sexual appetite again. 

That said, if you think it’s been too long and you are willing to work towards having more sex with your partner now, you can also consider going to therapy and discussing it with a mental health professional. 

Understanding What Sex Means For You Now

Set aside some uninterrupted time for you and your partner when you feel ready to increase or resume sexual activity. It could be beneficial to reflect on what you and your partner now desire from sexual closeness and look into new approaches on how to do that.

At this moment, communication amongst each other is crucial. You both need the chance to express your feelings and get to know one another. Talking about sex may not always be simple, so it may be easier to do so somewhere you both feel at ease, perhaps outside the bedroom.

You may need to consider experimenting with other sexual positions as a result of your treatment’s side effects. That may be due to pain or discomfort or a desire to avoid drawing attention to a specific body region. Menopausal symptoms, for example, can have an impact on your sex life.

Tips for Having Sex Again

A few tips might help make the sexual experience more enjoyable for you and your partner. However, not all of them will work for you as every person is unique, and their journey can differ significantly from another person’s journey. 

1. Start fresh.

Avoid comparing your current situation to what it was before receiving your breast cancer diagnosis. Accept the changes brought on by breast cancer, and also accept it may take some time and patience to feel good about what you see in the mirror.

2. Apply moisturizers or lubricants.

Regular use of a vaginal lubricant or moisturizer will lessen dryness and aid to prevent pain. Also, it might be useful to have something else to focus on while heating things instead of wondering how your body looks and how your partner sees you. 

3. Explore your body.

To start, it may be helpful to examine your body independently. You could want to use a vibrator or your fingers. Utilizing vaginal lubrication might be beneficial. This might assist you in determining what types of touch are still pleasurable and where they cause pain.

4. Exercise your pelvic floor.

Exercises for the pelvic floor improve blood flow to the vaginal region, which can heighten sexual arousal and relax these muscles.

5. Be patient.

Initially moving slowly could be beneficial. Consider your energy level and the degree of intimacy that you find comfortable. There might be useful things to think about, including using painkillers if necessary.

6. Create a calm atmosphere.

Setting the proper mood could reduce your tension and boost your confidence. An inviting and seductive ambiance can be created with the use of lighting, music, or aromatherapy products.

Conclusion

Whatever you do, try to remain a positive attitude. As you’re aware that you’re going through recovery after cancer and the treatment, your sex life will need to go through recovery on its own. If you allow yourself to be patient and kind to yourself, you might notice that your sexual desire comes back before you expected it. Lastly, enjoy every moment with your partner because sometimes a hug means more to you than sex – and that is something you should be aware of when rebuilding intimacy with your partner. 

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Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction [FIX Porn-Induced ED]

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Porn induced erectile dysfunction – these are the facts to know about porn-induced ED and to understand whether you have to quit porn or not.

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). And an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

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What Is a Sexology Degree & Who Is a Sexologist 

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What Is a Sexology Degree & What a Sexologist Does

 

Sexology is the scientific study of sexuality, and a sexology degree and studying human sexuality credentials you as a sexologist. If you haven’t heard this term before, there are sexology degrees for those that examine sexual desires, sexual function, and sexual behaviors. 

There are many avenues to becoming a sexologist, and each of them is valuable for a career you’re exploring. To help you understand the sexology degree, we bring the most relevant facts about this degree and profession.

Numerous Paths to Becoming a Sexologist

Sexology is the study of a person’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors around their own or others’ sexual behavior from a contextual standpoint. The sociological viewpoint is concerned with how individuals engage during sexual encounters, sexual preferences, and how culture & community affects these behaviors. Part of getting a sexology degree is learning about the emotional and systemic components that effect sexual performance.

In private practice or clinics, sexologists frequently address issues like identity and / or sex-related dysfunctions such as anorgasmia, erectile dysfunction, pelvic pain, and ejaculation control.

Studying the field in which you are most interested and where you believe you can make a difference is a key to becoming a sexologist and helping others learn more about their sexuality in general. 

Education Requirements to Become a Sexologist

There aren’t many degree programs specifically designed for sexologists. Since sex may be researched through a variety of academic fields, you can become a sexologist by earning a variety of graduate degrees. A degree in physiology, biology, public health, anthropology, social psychology, or women’s studies can also be used to become a sexologist in addition to the degrees in psychology, sociology, and medicine already mentioned.

To become a sexologist, you must earn a doctoral, master’s, or other advanced degree in a subject that allows you to conduct sexuality research. Because sexual behavior is influenced by biology, psychology, and the society one lives in, a complete understanding of sexual behavior involves information from a variety of perspectives.

Do Sexologists Need Certification?

Several organizations provide a route to getting a sexology degree, even though sexology is not a profession that is regulated in the United States. Some places for a sexology degree includes the Therapist Certification Association and the American College of Sexologists. 

Typical requirements include:

  • An advanced degree,
  • A certain number of additional hours of training in the field of sexuality and sex-related topics,
  • A certain number of hours having worked in the field of sexology,
  • Clinical sexologist’s supervision for your sexology degree.

A Career of a Sexologist

Depending on their chosen field, a sexologist’s degree can differ a lot when compared to other colleagues. Most sexologists will dedicate their work to doing one or more of these things:

  • Study topics related to sexuality,
  • Work as a clinician with clients facing sexual problems,
  • Teach about sex and sexuality in an academic setting (i.e., school or university),
  • Supervise other sexologists interested in getting practice and certification in this field,
  • Work with the wider population as a sex educator,
  • Speak on the topic of sex for other professionals in similar fields.

During a Session With a Sexologist

People will often wrongly assume that when a couple or a person decides to see a sexologist it includes a lot of physical touch, nudity, and practice. However, it’s completely the opposite. Most of the time, couples will not even be asked to hug or kiss them in front of their chosen sexologist. 

Instead, they will be invited to talk about their sexual issues, desires, or behaviors and maybe get a little bit of homework. What’s even more important to say is that clients will never have to do something they are uncomfortable with or consider inappropriate. Think about a session with your sexologist as a conversation about emotions related to sex rather than sex positions and practices.

Sexologist vs Sex Coach

A sexologist’s job may resemble a sex coach’s in many ways, or it may be very dissimilar. A sexologist’s work does not involve touch or direct assisting in the moment of the sexual difficulty.

On the other hand, a sex coach mostly works with individuals, couples, and groups to improve their sex lives and self-esteem regarding sex and sexuality. They rarely conduct their study. Both sexologists and sex coaches can offer sessions or lectures to clients or other professionals, which is one way in which their work paths overlap.

When to Visit a Sexologist

There are numerous physiological explanations for sex-related problems. Medical intervention can be used to treat those, yet the majority also have psychological problems that need treatment. Let’s look at them below. 

Penis Size

For men, the size of the penis can be a major problem. A man’s confidence can be negatively impacted by having a small penis, which can cause anxiety and nervousness and significantly lower his performance. A specialist may assist the patient in overcoming confidence issues, while the doctor may recommend medication and hormonal therapy.

Erectile Dysfunction

Men who lose their erections or are unable to maintain one can experience extreme distress. In the majority of situations, this is treatable. The patient can return to a normal sexual life with the aid of a sexologist.

Pain and/or Discomfort during/after Intercourse

The act of having sex becomes traumatizing if one or more of the parties feels pain during or after. There are various causes of painful erections, including infections, sores, ulcers, and dryness. There is a cure for this condition. It is much more vital to see a doctor and receive treatment than to let an infection persist and suffer in quiet.

In addition, a loss of interest in sex, phobias, or inhibitions brought on by an abusive experience may stand in the way of a happy marriage. A sexologist addresses problems with intimacy and relationships and offers a guided self-help personal intervention to help you get the most out of your relationship.

In Conclusion

Sexologists help their clients to solve their problems related to sex. They can work with clients alone or with couples. Also, sexologists can work outside the clinical setting and dedicate their time to research, teaching, or exploring different topics related to sex and similar fields. 

Depending on their interests and preferences, you can get a sexology degree if you are interested as well. If you’re more interested in just learning, consider a video packed with decades on information in under one hour! 

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Erectile Dysfunction Cure – Tips for Harder & Better ERECTIONS!

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Erectile Dysfunction Cure – Tips for Harder & Better ERECTIONS!

 

So you want an Erectile Dysfunction Cure?

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). And an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

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Censorship in Healthcare: Why Aren’t We Allowed to Talk About Sex?

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Censorship in Healthcare: Why Aren’t We Allowed to Talk About Sex?

 

You might wonder what censorship in healthcare has to do with my work as a certified sex therapist. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) Certified Sex Therapist and CE provider, a good amount of my work revolves around sex and related topics.

In the past few years, my colleagues, clients, and I started noticing something bizarre going on with my published sex-education content. Also, my emails and social media content were censored – I just didn’t know why. 

Can you imagine my surprise when it came to censorship? Especially as my objective is to help individuals and couples connect through restoring intimacy (both physical and emotional), and educate people on what sexuality involves and how it impacts our wellbeing, it is shocking.

So instead of having a platform to discuss the difference between a vulva and a vagina, or why not to circumcise those assigned male at birth, I am encouraged to be silenced. 

Let’s Talk About Sex … Or Better Not?

As someone who is also a doctoral candidate in clinical sexology, most of my writing on my website, on social media channels, and in emails is about sex and physical intimacy. To be absolutely clear, these topics are discussed in a way that helps each individual understand themself better, and then the way they relate to other people.

So, who or what doesn’t want others to learn this valuable information about protected sex, ways to enjoy intimate moments with your partner, and similar things I teach about since the beginning of my career? The answer is more complex than I thought at first. 

Back in 2013, when I started talking about sexuality, it seemed there were no issues around these words and terms. In 2017, I had a book release event on Facebook and it went smoothly. A year later, however, my group practice changed and focused more on pleasure and identity-affirming care for marginalized LGBTQIA+ communities. I also changed my website domain to ‘Sexandmagic.com’ and established the trademark “the sex healer.”

That is when my colleagues were telling us that our emails are blocked at their clinic, and we were getting calls from confused clients who never got our reply to their email. It took us a while to figure out that our emails were getting blocked because of the word ‘sex’ as in the phrase ‘sex therapist.’

Social Media Undermining Sex Education 

Then, in 2020, Google My Business started taking down my content because I allegedly violated their rules by using ‘sex’ and ‘pleasure’ to describe my services as a sex therapist. The third situation occurred with Instagram. My professional page got shut down, which was reported to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, a non-profit committed to creating a political and legal environment in the United States for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. 

Throughout 2020 and 2021, I hosted various education webinars that I wasn’t able to promote on multiple social media and Google My Business sites. Keep in mind that this doesn’t only mean that I cannot openly talk about my work. It also means that people seeking this type of content cannot find it because of this odd censorship. Want to learn about what to expect when you have sex the first time? You can’t. Want to learn how to reconnect with your loving spouse in the bedroom? You can’t. Want to learn about different contraceptive methods? You can’t. 

In 2022, I noticed that I cannot promote most of my sex eucation content, including free events, through the Facebook page. When I tried bringing this up with these two social media platforms, I hit a wall. When talking about social media, TikTok is also not helping me access my account as it is linked to my Instagram, which is still blocked. As you might have guessed, LinkedIn doesn’t allow to advertise services or events that are specifically created for sexual health and wellness either. 

YouTube constantly puts restrictions on my account, although I have 20,000 subscribers. That means there are at least that many people who crave quality, informative content on sexual education, yet they are unable to reach me – and I’m unable to reach them. 

Woodhull wants to do something about that, as that seems like it is anti-constitution. 

 

What Type of Society are We Building?

If the Internet is the first place we look for information on health, food recipes, and DIY home ideas, why cannot we educate ourselves on sex there as well? These platforms are seriously affecting the possibility of finding such content and ensuring that most of our romantic, sexual, and other intimate encounters are positive experiences. Educational topics, such as overcoming sexual trauma, solutions for male erection and ejaculation issues, and transparent communication in relationships, are not something that should be blocked, especially by those claiming to help us connect with others and share what is relevant to us. 

Just think about the people from marginalized and poor communities with no one to reach out to and learn more about sex, relationships, and love. If access to the Internet is something we all have, why not use it to build a stronger, more informative, and more caring society that doesn’t only benefit those in power? Undoubtedly, sex education should and must be online. 

For example, your child, who is still shy to communicate to you about sex, has the right to read basic information about it before talking to you. Your partner, who is concerned about the lack of sexual connection between you, has the right to search only on how to start this conversation without blaming anybody. You have the right to seek fun ideas to upgrade your masturbation game and learn more about your sexual pleasure. 

Conclusion

We are all born thanks to sex. Let’s demystify this field once and for all, and allow sex educators, sex healers, and sex therapists to teach us how to know ourselves better, understand our partners more profoundly, and raise the next generations to be more educated than we were. If it’s an uncomfortable topic, remind yourself that not so long ago periods, sex before marriage, and postpartum depression were considered taboos. What changed our perspective on these and similar topics was talking about them and allowing ourselves to unlearn what doesn’t serve us anymore and create space for new learnings. 

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Early ejaculation can be frustrating, so do this if you ejaculate too early…. Most men can improve their ejaculatory control.

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‘How to Build a Sex Room’ Netflix Serie Reviewed By a Sex Therapist

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‘How to Build a Sex Room’ Netflix Serie Reviewed By a Sex Therapist

 

‘How to Build a Sex Room’ is one of the recent Netflix series in which Melanie Rose, an interior designer, is building a sex room for couples who want to spice up their sex lives and reconnect with their partner intimately. Although an excellent and easy-to-watch concept, this reality show soon witnessed numerous negative reviews, mostly around the lack of sex educators to discuss with the couples what they are interested in trying out and finding out the many dimensions of sex and games. 

We’ll dive into the show, respond to some of those online critics, and take a look at what could be done better in the format it was recorded.

What is ‘How to Build a Sex Room’? 

When an interior designer, Melanie Rose, steps in to assist 11 couples and a single woman to spice up their sex life with rooms packed with specialty furniture and other decor tailored to satisfy dreams and fetishes, names it ‘How to Build a Sex Room’, and launches it on Netflix, you know it’s going to be a hot topic. 

We’re already deep in summer, and the temperature continues to rise, so watching sexy and steamy content on TV might be one of the best things to watch before going to bed, while traveling to your vacation spot, or maybe at work while most of your colleagues have already set their out-of-office emails. 

Melanie Rose is an interior designer with over 15 years of experience and five years of experience designing sex rooms. So, what is a sex room? It is not your bedroom or any room you frequently use for sex. It is a space specifically built and designed for sexual activities. There are many variations of how a sex room can look, and it will mostly depend on the individual’s or couple’s preferences. It can be sensual and simple, or it can be a true sex dungeon with endless numbers of sex toys and tools. 

What’s the Fuss With the Show?

As much as all sex therapists and sex educators are enthusiastic each time we see a show that aims to educate wider audiences on sex, sexual pleasure, and physical intimacy, something was off from the start.

As an interior designer, it is obvious that Melanie Rose doesn’t have enough experience to guide and advise couples on their sex lives, yet she does that throughout the entire show. For instance, a couple that has never experimented with anything rather than vanilla sex is taken to see an intimate BDSM play between the dominatrix and her submissive partner, which surprises and even disgusts them a little bit. Keep in mind that all of these couples have different dynamics, desires, boundaries, and personalities. What one couple sees as a perfectly normal sexual activity, another couple might consider repulsive. 

Just because we say we want to try something different with our partner doesn’t mean it has to be the opposite of what we are already practicing in the bedroom or, in this case, the sex room. A couple that feels most confident in vanilla sex can do a few tweaks, introduce a new sex toy like a vibrator, and both feel sexually satisfied. Each couple is unique, and even those couples that enjoy BDSM will get turned on by some variations of it, while others will do nothing for them. 

The show lacks a deeper understanding of what sex means to a couple or an individual and how to learn what lights their fire and what they are assuming. That perspective can only be given by someone with experience working with couples in the field of sex therapy. Also, a sex therapist or a sex educator would provide more valuable insights to viewers at home who might be curious about how to improve their sex life with the resources available. 

After all, it has little to do with a cute design and everything to do with understanding yourself better sexually to be able to reconnect with your partner and give yourselves the pleasures for which you both are yearning. 

Another point to make is that the couples were shown in a very shallow way due to the format. Can you really learn about marriage or couple’s life and common issues that occur in almost every relationship if the show presents 11 couples and one single person in eight episodes? The way it was recorded showed more emphasis on the construction and design side of the project instead of sensual and sexual, making the viewers feel like they are watching just another series about home makeovers. 

The Good Side of This Show

As already said, it’s still a success to see on such a mainstream platform anything that teaches a wider audience that talking about and working on improving your sexual pleasure is completely normal and shouldn’t be considered taboo. Sex education should be available to everyone who wants to learn about it. If you can learn how to tidy your home and live a more organized life, why couldn’t you learn how to have better sex with your partner or have more frequent orgasms?

The responsibility of those creating such content is huge, however, it doesn’t mean that even a show like ‘How to Build a Sex Room’ with all its negative reviews is a step backward. It’s a step forward, and we should feel comfortable talking about it with our partners, friends, and family. That is where the true value of sex-educated content lies – in being a conversation starter and motivating us to communicate about such an important matter in our lives. 

In a way, Melanie Rose and her team managed to add sexual pleasure as a topic in dining conversations, casual talks, and self-observation moments. It’s up to us what we will make of it. Maybe you will go to your partner and share your hidden sexual fantasy or give yourself the right to explore your body to learn what gives you pleasure. Maybe, you will motivate your friends to talk more about sexual experiences and desires, or you will start researching more about sexuality. Whatever you decide to do, it will impact your sex life and help you enjoy sex more.

 

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How the Other Guy Feels When It’s Over

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How the Other Guy Feels When It’s Over

 

Love is complicated, especially if you’re in a triangle, and we often forget to talk about how the other guy feels when it’s over. Most conversations in the media are about the other woman or the broken-hearted couple who has gone through this experience and decided to either peacefully terminate the relationship or save it. Yet, we rarely think about how the other guy feels when it’s over.

Affairs and secretive non-monogamy happen more than we’d like to admit. However, we’re still treating it as something to judge and afraid it might happen to us eventually. As bizarre as it is, something happening this often is not that taboo. 

Talking About Affairs

You might decide not to talk to anyone about this experience, and that’s completely fine. Yet, talking about how we felt when it occurred, the reasons for it, and emotions might help someone currently going through it. Let’s say you were the one having an affair with the other guy. That person was present for some time in your life, and pretending they never existed is not doing a favor to anyone.

Who was this other guy? What made him so attractive to you? How did he make you feel? Responding to these and similar questions can help you to understand better what was missing in your relationship. 

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The Other Guy

Besides the individual level, we barely talk about the other guy. If anything, we tend to put all the blame on the third person for causing damage to the relationship or marriage. Or, we’ll portray the other guy as the villain of the story because he seduced the woman he wasn’t supposed to. 

When listening to stories about affairs, have you ever wondered how the other guy feels when it’s over? Considering their feelings and thinking about them is essential to understand not only love affairs yet also romantic connections and love in general. So, let’s take a look at how he might feel when the affair is over, and their beloved woman decides to either work more on her marriage or relationship or simply move on. 

Things Left Unsaid

When the husband finds out about the affair without the woman wanting it to happen, the affair will most probably end without too many explanations. A guy who was in love is left behind without a conversation explaining what happened. Did the woman get bored of their relationship? Did she fall in love with her husband again? Is she still in love yet fearing that the husband will do something to him? It is difficult to move on from a relationship if things are left unsaid.

Broken Illusions

As much as the other guy knows that the woman he is spending time with is in a relationship or a marriage with another person, he knows that she chose him for a reason. She decides to see him over and over again because she likes spending time with him. It is easy to start imagining that she will leave her partner and dedicate time only to him. After all, even affairs that are purely sexual can lead to having romantic feelings for the other person. 

So, when a woman decides to terminate the affair, the other guy is left with broken illusions. Everything he wanted is disappearing, and he probably didn’t even see it coming. As risky as it was to start an affair with someone committed to another person, it is equally risky to daydream about becoming a duo instead of a triangle. 

Low Self Esteem

 If it’s over, it’s probably because the woman reconciled with her partner. When somebody chooses another person over us, we tend to feel like we don’t matter to them. Not only that, we often start comparing ourselves to that person and start experiencing self-esteem issues. In this case, the other guy might feel that he is not worthy of the woman’s love because he is not handsome enough, smart enough, successful enough, rich enough, etc.

Although women more openly discuss these topics with each other, men will also feel this way, especially if they are left with a broken heart. Instead of blaming them, we should all remind ourselves that the other guy is probably not having fun when going through the breakup. They will more often feel either sad, confused, frustrated, angry, or despair than nothing at all. 

How to Help the Other Guy

If your friend is going through this situation, instead of saying to them ‘You should know better’ or ‘Next time, don’t fall in love with someone who is already taken’, provide a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen without any judgment. It doesn’t matter what you think about it as it already happened, and you were not one of the protagonists of that story to act in it. 

If you wish to be involved in any way, choose the kind way. Listen to how they feel and be there for them. When they are ready, suggest going out to a restaurant or for a walk, depending on their preferences. Help them close that chapter when it’s the right time and you see they are stuck in a circle of emotions. Invite them to activities they would enjoy, watch their favorite movies with them, or take them to a place they’ve never been before. These things tend to take the mind off the thing we’re worried about and remind us of many other beautiful things and people in love waiting for us. 

If you’re the woman who ended your affair with the other guy, don’t confuse him by sending messages or calling him. And if you decided to end it, stick by your decision if you don’t want to play with the emotions of another person. 

If you’re the husband in this story, don’t blame someone outside your marriage for your marital problems. Focus on strengthening the connection between you two and let the other guy process what happened on his own. It’s nobody’s objective to destroy someone’s spirit yet to learn from each experience and think about what is good for your wellbeing. 

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As a sexologist i want to answer is masturbation good for health & answer can you masturbate too much?

Solo sex is fun, and too much of anything can be a negative!

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Celebrity Therapist: Helping Famous People to Have a Better Life

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You’ve probably seen something about famous people going to a celebrity therapist if you watch television. Read publications, or browse the internet. You may wonder what makes celebrity therapists so great and how they differ from a therapist you or your friends are seeing on a regular basis.

In this article, we bring you everything you ever wanted to know about therapy for celebrities. Find out the most common issues for famous people and how they learn new techniques to manage their personal and professional lives better.

What Is a Celebrity Therapist?

As a celebrity therapist in ‘Darcey and Stacey’ a reality show about the life of these twin sisters and other high-profile executives internationally, I think the best way to describe my role is as someone who understands the challenges and issues a famous person faces and helps them acquire practical techniques to become happier, healthier, and more fulfilled in their lives.

Because they are under the spotlight, celebrities will struggle with a range of issues. From their ego affecting negatively their decisions and relationships to feeling unworthy or without the right to complain about their issues. Undoubtedly, fame brings a set of situations that are untypical for people who are not under the public’s eye. For example, a celebrity will need to face their business failures in front of everyone and the media will exhaustively report about it. Their personal problems are also under the spotlight. A famous actress or singer who is going through her divorce will often not be able to do it privately and allow herself to feel sad and grieve.

What I Learnt From Working with Celebrities

Famous people are humans too, and that is something we all need to remind ourselves of every now and then. We shouldn’t feel amused reading about someone’s heartbreak, affair, poor business decision, etc. If you and I can make mistakes and have our internal struggles, so can celebrities. 

There are many things I learned from being a celebrity therapist that can be an eye opener to all of us. 

1. Humanizing Celebrities 

If someone is an excellent actor, do we really need to know about their love life? We should treat famous people by the way they do their job, not by the way they are in a sphere we’re not included in. They have every right to feel things we all feel on a daily basis. And, more importantly, be treated as humans in every situation. This often means talking to a therapist that provides them with a safe space where they can be who they are, and not who the world is expecting them to be. 

2. Compassion

In celebrity therapy, compassion is everything. As therapists, we are not part of the celebrity world and we probably haven’t experienced most of the situations troubling our patients. However, therapists don’t need to experience everything to be good at what they do. You don’t have to experience family betrayal or infidelity to be able to help your client. Your compassion and therapeutic skillset allow you to understand your client and think of ways that will help them heal from a certain situation.

Celebrity therapy is not about working with famous people. Yet it is about giving them the same amount of attention and care you would give to the next person. After all, clients can easily pick up if they are not heard or treated with the respect they deserve.

3. Building Trust & Self Esteem

Before anything, a celebrity therapist will need to build trust with their client. Just because their team or a colleague has highly recommended you don’t mean that you don’t have to establish a relationship with your client first. Another trap that I noticed many celebrity therapists fall into is expecting they already have trustworthy relationships with their famous clients just because they know a lot about them from the media, Facebook, and Instagram.

After the trust is established between the therapist and the client, it’s time to strip down all the expectations everyone has from the client, maybe even including you. Your client will probably need to work on their self-esteem to understand who they are and what they actually want, instead of thinking about everyone else. 

4. Creating Healthy Boundaries

Sometimes, you can even experience that your famous patient unintentionally doesn’t respect your time or space. For instance, they might call you late at night to ask for advice or come into your office although you haven’t scheduled a session with them. Setting boundaries is crucial in the healing process like therapy. Even our non-celebrity clients need to be reminded of this often. 

Because celebrities are surrounded by their team of professionals, they might start treating their therapists as one as well. However, this only means you need to help them understand that as much as they appreciate their job, they should do the same with yours. This can also help them have better relationships with other people they work with and have more empathy for everyone around them. 

5. Curiosity Is Not Listening

What differentiates the celebrity therapist from the one working with non-celebrity clients is that they need to eliminate completely their curiosity and focus only on listening. The time in therapy is when the client talks about what is important to them, and not you or anyone else. For instance, a recent business failure can trigger childhood traumas that the client wants to address in therapy. Healing is a process that is guided by you as a therapist. Yet you should never pressure someone into talking about something they are not ready to address. 

Celebrity therapists must be really good listeners because it might be difficult for a famous person to trust someone who is new in their life. That is why it takes patience to give the client exactly what they need from the therapy. The better you listen, the easier they will open up, and talk about the real reasons for seeing you. Make sure that they feel safe with you and it will turn into a valuable experience for both of you. 

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Is Webcam Sex Cheating & How It Affects Relationships

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Is Webcam Sex Cheating & How It Affects Relationships

 

 The question “Is webcam sex cheating?” is one of the most asked by many people ask in this days.

In the past, adultery involved secret rendezvous, fabrications of “business excursions”. And embarrassing justifications involving the aroma of perfume on a dress shirt. Nowadays, hooking up online makes it possible to start a relationship with someone other than your spouse or partner. Since people are not in physical contact, it may appear innocent enough. Yet online infidelity is exactly what it sounds like: cheating.

Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t sign on if married or in a committed relationship if you have been debating this issue for whatever reason. “Seeing” someone online or searching for a sexual release and considering browsing online for it.

The Concept of Cheating

Webcam sex or cyber sex is a type of emotional affair in which one of both participants establish a sexually intimate relationship without ever meeting in person. They might never even exchange voicemails or see each other’s faces. Therefore, intimacy experienced online could not appear like a true relationship if there is a lack of actual physical contact.

However, just like a physical flirtation, an internet affair can have a lasting negative impact on a relationship or even the entire family. It may divert the unfaithful partner’s focus away from his or her spouse and kids. Depriving them of valuable time and attention and making them feel neglected and taken advantage of. And just like in-person relationships, online sex experiences eventually involve secrets and lies that have the power to shatter the trust that keeps a relationship intact.

The relationship is shattered when a spouse or partner is unfaithful, even if all sexual activities are happening online without touching or kissing the third person. People having affairs also frequently become unsatisfied with their relationship or marriage in real life, which can do more harm.

The Temptations of Webcam Sex

Digital infidelity appeals to people for a variety of reasons. Having an online sexual experience can seem risky and exotic. It implies that you get to visit a new location to meet someone who finds you intriguing or strange. Also, the webcam person is always at their best when they publish or stream online. Meaning it’s easier to fall for their physical aspect. 

Because it only occurs online, digital infidelity attracts many people. Because they don’t necessarily want to meet their affair partner in person. There is less chance that physical issues may arise.

Some people turn to webcam sex as a haven because they are unhappy in their relationships yet are reluctant to express it. For instance, a straight individual who discovers that they are attracted to a person of the same sex can feel guilty and feel safer exploring their feelings online. The same goes for someone drawn to others who practice a different ethnicity, creed, nationality, age, etc.

The Consequences of Webcam Sex in Relationships

Online sex can even lead to addiction in some people, complicating matters further. The amount of free time spent in front of a computer or screen will likely increase for someone addicted to cybersex, leaving less time and attention for their spouse or partner, children, and family.

Today’s webcam sites provide easy access to sexual adventures even if there is no personal communication between two individuals. Of course, if they have begun communicating, online adultery might progress to actual adultery, which elevates cheating to a new level. 

Remembering that one webcam sex experience may not be enough to halt the episode or stop it from happening again is vital because, like real-life infidelity. It is frequently a symptom of issues in a relationship. Talk to your spouse or partner instead of searching the internet for happiness or anything else you perceive to lack in your existing relationship.

Webcam Sex Is a Fantasy

Lastly, it’s critical to stress that a webcam person is not interested in your spouse. Camgirls aren’t trying to take your spouse away from you, and they aren’t even interested in your spouse personally; instead, they are more interested in what they can give them financially. 

However, that point of view is camgirl’s, not your husband’s. There is a reason why they need webcam sex, regardless of its frequency. It might be every week, once a week, or twice a month. The truth is that an issue in your relationship needs to be addressed. 

The Next Step

If you or your partner find it difficult to cease indulging in sexually compulsive behavior, think about seeking out individual treatment or couples counseling. By doing this, you will prevent both yourself and your loved ones from suffering significant harm. Not to mention that this is the only way to truly understand what causes the need to seek sexual experience outside your relationship.

Preventing yourself or your partner will not be enough to solve the initial problem. Let’s say your husband is indulging in webcam sex on his computer, and you’ve prohibited him to do that by threatening you’ll end your marriage. This doesn’t mean that the need for similar experiences is gone or that the reason for it disappeared. 

Most of the time, there are some aspects of the relationship that need to be looked at closely for the couple to reconnect again. Whether it’s physical intimacy, lack of time together, stressful jobs, or anything else. Seeking romantic connection or sexual pleasure outside your relationship implies that something needs fixing.

In Final Words

If your partner is engaged in webcam sex activities, try not to judge them. Try to understand their perspective and suggest couples therapy instead. A relationship professional with the right set of skills can help your partner understand the core of the problem and find the best way to solve it. And reconnect with you sexually and romantically. 

Depending on how you and your partner feel, you might strengthen your relationship through therapy. It might be the experience that your relationship needed to take a look again into the sexual connection you two share. And work through the issues that have been there for a while. Once you’ve both dedicated time to those issues, you might be able to even love each other more and feel a stronger attraction to each other. 

 

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Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help all clients who visit us for a variety of personal, relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.