Setting Goals For The New Year

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Setting Goals For The New Year

 

It’s time to begin setting goals for the new year and harvesting what you accomplished this year! 

Whether you want to get rid of a habit that’s bothering you or add something new, it’s time to begin to set goals. 

In this article, we’ve gathered all useful tips for setting your new year goals and ways to achieve them. 

New Year Exercise

If you’re passionate about setting new goals, whether they’re personal or professional, you’ve probably done some exercise on your own, however, this one combines all of your goals for the upcoming year, while also looking back at the year that’s behind us. You can do this exercise alone, with your partner, your best friend, or anybody else you wish to share it with.

What did I Accomplish in 2022?

Start thinking about your proudest moments in the past year. Maybe you’ve learned a new language, made a new friend, started going to the gym regularly, began to eat more healthily, or something completely else. This exercise is about you, so whatever you think it’s relevant to celebrate from 2022, point it out. To create more order in the way you’ll approach thinking in retrospect, make sure you separate your personal goals from your professional goals. 

Personal goal examples:

  • I reconnected with extended family and had a great time with them.
  • I stopped overeating due to boredom and drank enough water.

Professional goal examples:

  • I successfully completed a project
  • I learned to dance which I knew nothing about before this year.

What did I WANT to Accomplish yet didn’t in 2022?

When asking yourself this question, it’s important to approach it correctly. You are thinking about it to inspire yourself to do it in the next year, and not to feel bad you didn’t achieve it. Try to eliminate any unpleasant or negative thoughts that might arise when going through this question as it will help you understand better which of these things are still important to you. After all, if you still care about them, you have plenty of days in the upcoming year to do them.

Personal examples:

  • I didn’t manage to go to bed before midnight and have more quality sleep.
  • I wanted to cook more at home yet I mostly ordered in or went to a restaurant.
  • I tried spending more time with friends, however, I had too many work obligations. 

Professional examples:

  • I wanted to learn how to use a new tool that would make my work easier and didn’t do it in the end.
  • I tried becoming more punctual and arriving to work on time, yet somehow I was late every day.

COUPLES: What did We ACCOMPLISH in the Relationship in 2022?

This part can be done alone or with your partner. If you’re going through this exercise with your partner, make sure that both of you have the space to voice your answers without affecting each other’s responses or getting off track. 

When thinking about these accomplishments, you will need to think about those areas of your relationships you managed to improve in some way. Whatever you feel was an accomplishment in your relationship, celebrate it with your partner.

Couple goal examples:

  • We managed to spend more time together and try out new activities.
  • We improved our intimacy by hugging more and having sex. 
  • We started going to couple therapy and successfully resolved many issues from before. 

COUPLES: What did We WANT to Accomplish in the Relationship yet didn’t in 2022?

Like your personal desired accomplishments, approach this question without any resentment or frustration. What were the important things for you both at the beginning of 2022, yet you couldn’t do them? If they still seem relevant to you, make sure you talk about them as it might give you a better idea of how to accomplish them. 

Examples:

  • We tried to do more outdoor activities, yet we spent too much time at home watching TV.
  • We wanted to cook dinners together, and often ended up not cooking because we were too tired. 
  • We wanted to have more profound conversations about ourselves as a couple, yet we spent more time talking about our common responsibilities.

New Vision & Recommitment

Here, you will need to think about what you wish to celebrate by the end of 2022. Think about the things that matter to you personally and your relationship. What do you wish to start implementing in your everyday life? What are the things or habits you wish to say goodbye to? 

The great thing about doing this exercise with your partner or your friend is they will motivate you throughout the year as they will be aware of your new year goals. Also, you can invite them to hold you accountable. For instance, if you want to spend more time with your friends, your best friend or partner can encourage you to do so by reminding you of your goals. 

When talking about committing to something, think about how you will hold yourself accountable? Having the help of others is great, yet if not doing your best, it will be hard to achieve any goal you want to set for the new year. 

There are plenty of ways you can make sure your 2023 will align with your goals:

  • If you wish to be more active, pay an annual membership instead of monthly.
  • If you wish to spend more time with friends, book the times in your calendar and share them with your friends. 
  • If you want to be more proactive at work, talk with your colleagues and find a way that will help you to deliver more.

Whatever it is, think about the easiest way to achieve your goals. If you think about ways to do something, it will be easier to achieve it than just focusing on goals. And think big, you can do anything you set your mind to. Happy new beginnings!

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Esther Perel

Esther Perel Discussion Group Joins Leveled Up Love for Relatefest

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Esther Perel Discussion Group Joins Leveled Up Love for Relatefest

 

We are working together to create a new world where we have conscious & consensual relationships through the Esther Perel discussion group, Leveled Up Love, and Wedeepen. Coming together, these three communities created a weekend of workshops for people endlessly curious about relationships. 

Esther Perel 

Esther Perel

Esther perel shows us that there is a problem with the way we are doing relationships. Even some of my clients tell me that “Mating in Captivity” feels hopeless. I felt the same way when I was first introduced to it in 2013, so as a sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist, I went on a quest on how to create conscious and ideal relationships.

What I found through Francesca Gentille would change my life. What I honed in on through compassionate / nonviolent communication was pivotal. Taking the needs inventory and hearing the concise Tony Robbins version was also helpful. Knowing that certainty, Uncertainty, significance, communication, growth, and contribution. These needs actually were one of the first things I bonded with Shai Fishman about. 

Leveled Up Love

 

Shai Fishman and Lea Aeolli of Leveled Up Love are creating a new paradigm on relationship lifestyle choices. Going over what they have learned and spreading helpful information is something that the non monogamous world desperately needs. I am so proud they showed up and that I have had the honor of working alongside them. 

When I heard that Shai and Leah Marshall run another Facebook group for those who discuss Esther Perel, I knew this event would be of particular interest to me. 

Joining up with Christina Weber of Wedeepen synched it all together. Thanks Christina for leading my husband and I through a beautiful ecstatic dance morning. We felt so held by your leadership. 

At the relatefest event, we entered and created a container of the new paradigm. Creating relationships based on new principles will create a new world. My husband and I performed and did a tie along rope bondage demo to the audience. 

Esther PerelNew Paradigm Vision 

For example, when we say that no one is entitled in an adult relationship… that no one is entitled to time, money, partnered sex, or emotions – we begin to build a new world. We create a world that is unlike what Esther Perel warns of in Mating in Captivity. Creating a world where partners are not even entitled to hold space for one another, yet GET to listen to their partner because they want to create new levels of intimacy. That depth is one of the most important concepts that we continue to learn over and over as we are creating conscious relationships. 

Every interaction can become a conscious negotiation between functional adults. If you are able to give yourself space to be reactive with emotions, yet not entitled towards sharing those emotions in the heat of the moment with the person you feel emotional about, you are an empowered and functional, conscious adult. 

Esther Perel’s mission and the mission of our work is ongoing growth & consent on all levels. If we think about our emotions, they have powerful messages for the US. The reality is no one else has the right to our feelings – we share them with consent. When we do this, it begins to even out the playing field between all genders. 

If you curate your life to practice this, then you can call in others who are owning their emotions, owning their inner work, and in their healing process. Even when you feel lonely, we practice holding space for someone where we can model healthy and divine sacred relationships – both in darkness and light. 

Esther Perel

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Get to know our founder and owner, Amanda Pasciucco, (a.k.a. The Sex Healer) a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). And an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) that has developed innovative therapy programs and therapy videos that get results.

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Sex Robots

Sex Robots Are A Thing of the Present – No Longer The Future

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Sex Robots Are A Thing of the Present – No Longer The Future

 

For years, I have thought about what it would be like to love and be intimate with sex robots.

Would it be similar to an actual person or more like a sex toy?

Would sex with a robot be similar to sex with a human or more like a silicone surrogate? If you have seen the movie Lars and the Real Girl, you could imagine the companionship one could have with sex robots.

If you have noticed the advances in technology, especially sex toys, you will know that they can be programmed even when you are far apart from a partner.

Long-distance sex toys are quite popular so that one partner can decide the speed and intensity for their partner from afar!

I think to myself… What would Betty Dodson do?

Then, I think she would probably try it out. And if she would, so would I! For science! I have a strong inner field researcher of life within me.

 

What about you?

Would you ever have sex with a robot? What about loving a machine, like in the popular movie Her?

Artificial intelligence can mimic interpersonal relationships so that everyone feels they have a partner.

Some people have told me it is easier to be intimate with someone or something that does not judge them.

Even if humans were capable of radical acceptance and non-judgement, I still believe that sex robots would exist.

Just like a sacred intimate experience, sex robots have a place too.

Even if it feels awkward, I think many partners in monogamous relationships would rather have a virtual or surrogate partner than a sex worker or opening up the relationship.

I am incredibly interested in your opinions on sex robots and what you and your partner(s) think about the idea of intimacy with a machine.

The conference for love with robots is actually coming up and you can find more information here.

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

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Get Ready for Summer Love with Some Tips

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Get Ready for Summer Love with Some Tips

 

It’s that time of year where spring is in the air and summer love is on the horizon. 

We all love a great love story and hot, summer love is a fan favorite. 

We will discuss summer love ideas on how to stay cool while it heats up, body love and confidence, and a frequent fan favorite question – shaving tips! 

 

How To Stay Cool When It is Hot!

Literally and figuratively, we think about staying cool during the summer. Summer love is no different. 

On most days, I ask my clients to drink HALF their body weight (in lbs) in ounces of water daily. In the summer, you may need more. Add ice and a straw and keep drinking if you are dehydrated.

Dress in less layers, just like you would on the equator. There isn’t shame in keeping your body temperature regulated. 

 

Body Confidence – From 0 to 100

Do a body scrub to get your skin exfoliated. Add a little lotion and sunblock when you head outdoors, and this will help you caretake your skin! 

For those of you who have gained covid weight, it’s important to let your confidence lead. Honestly, no matter what your summer love body shape, be gracious in how you talk to yourself. It is easier said than done, yet you can practice this by using positive affirmations. 

Here are some examples: 

  • I enjoy the summer, and my body allows me to enjoy the heat
  • I love how I look in sunglasses
  • Bright clothes help me feel happier 

Those are just some examples of numerous positive body summer loving ideas you can say to yourself. 

Also, move your body when it feels comfortable. If this isn’t enough, please seek professional assistance. 

 

To Shave or Not in the Summer

Summer heat brings us sensual questions about hair! 

About a decade ago, smooth skin was known as the ultimate pleasure for a hot, sticky day. If you recall, Brazilian wax salons and sugar-ing places started popping up all over the United States of America. 

At first, we all giggled at the thought of ripping hair off vulvas, testicles, and other body parts. Similarly, waxing scenes of removing underarm, chest, and pubic hair played in movies as a joke. It isn’t a joke now though.

Body hair is discussed and thought about by many individuals. 

HAVING HAIR IS NOT A CAUSALITY! Hair actually has its own character, and the way it is styled (or our head or our body) is important to whoever wears it. This is what matters. 

Do what feels right for your comfort with your hair and do not let others dictate it for you! 

These are some of the best tips we have for hot, sizzling summer love! 

If you need more help, watch our body image webinar. 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Evolve Fest

Evolve Fest – International Online Tantra Event

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Evolve Fest – International Online Tantra Event

 

EVOLVE FEST is a 5-day online festival internationally brought to increase connection.

 

“A journey of love, transformation and togetherness ONLINE!” now is the time to experience online tantra if you have been curious about it. 

 

For those that are interested in discovering what is possible with an open mind. 

 

If you feel a heavy weight on your chest, like it’s almost difficult to get through your days, consider an online community. Why? Because you will learn to connect more with yourself and enjoy the time you spend with YOU through tantric practices. 

 

So… may we tantalize, allure, and transform you?

 

Would you like to join us March 17-21, 2021, and specifically on 3/21/21 for a Sensuous Spring Equinox?

 

It may be that it’s time for you to take a break! If so, come rejuvenate and relax with us, while learning!

 

A special sneak peak of the Sunday finale of the 5 Day EVOLVE FEST ! 

 

What is EVOLVE FEST ONLINE TANTRA EVENT? 

 

More than 85 of the world’s top Relationship guides, coaches, teachers and facilitators share over 150 + hours of live workshops,  inspiring new ways of thinking and rejuvenated relational upgrades, because pandemic life has been tough globally. 

 

What this means is that for one ticket price you will receive:

  • A 5 day 24/7 journey fitting to all time zones. 
  • Full Access to the entire live program of 100+ workshops and lectures
  • Teachings from top facilitators internationally
  • Full Access to the Festival community group to meet, connect and share with others
  • 30 days of access to the workshops which will be recorded!

 

If you aren’t able to attend, you will have access to this evolve fest programming for up to 30 days after, consider the importance of doing something new to connect during a lonely time.

 

However, consider the wealth of knowledge from close to 100 leaders all over the world. There will be unique perspectives that maybe you haven’t considered for your life. 

 

So do you want to purchase a ticket? Find the Information here and then use the code “SEXHEALER” for 25% off! 

 

If you have questions, learn about new insights on a range of topics such as: 

  • Monogamy/Non-Monogamy
  • Communication Skills
  • Sexuality: From BDSM/Kink to Tantra & Embodiment
  • Trauma and Shadow work
  • Conscious Community and Parenting in the New Century 
  • Conflict Resolution for Triggers – including Attachment theory & Breakups
  • Conscious Dating in the Pandemic
  • Passion/Attraction/Desire Throughout A Marriage
  • Non-Binary, Gender fluid and LBGTQ relating
  • The Science of Relating (neurobiology in the brain)
  • And more…

 

If you are interested, visit the presenters page to see the entire list. 

 

If you have any questions, or for clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized sessions on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

 

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

The Inner Aspects Method

The Inner Aspects Method (IAM):  A Methodology to Improve Communication and Satisfaction in Couples

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The Inner Aspects Method (IAM): A Methodology to Improve Communication and Satisfaction in Couples

No one can make you do anything as an adult, unless there is physical force. Don’t believe it? Think about it…

Now is an intense time; locally, domestic violence is up 20%.

It’s time to learn a new way to teach others how to communicate.
Using the Inner Aspects Method changed my life and revolutionized how I practice with my clients. 
See a brief demo here: https://youtu.be/oxAOkI0clyI

If you are desiring to dive deep into therapeutic practices with your online or in person clients clients,  using the inner aspects model, created by Francesca Gentille, will help! 

The Inner Aspects Method

There are many couples counseling techniques: 

  • Imago Therapy
  • Gottman Method
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Couple-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) for Couples

The problem with these models is that it misses the pervasive cultural trauma that most of us have. So, if you aren’t looking at  childhood traumas and cultural conditioning of romantic relationships within the media, you are missing out on how to help couples. 

Actually, the problem is in the interaction with others, and specifically the systemic dynamic within the romantic partnership.  

We compare ourselves to what we see online, hear in music, or watch. We believe that other romantic relationships are going better and that they are having a more passionate intimate life, so then we begin to justify our learned behaviors (yelling, shaming, avoiding, and criticizing). 

Even if the best intentions in romantic relationships are acted out of fear, resentment, judgment, scarcity, or rage, these strategies for connection do not result in long-term positive outcomes for individual success or relationship sustainability. 

However, empowered strength with compassion, learning boundaries, and working on building new skill sets is what the Inner Aspects Method can help you model. 

For Counselors and Therapists

When you counsel your clients, do you wonder how clients justify the shaming, blaming, and yelling? Or, do you question that they criticize their partner or relatives in front of you? 

When in a “child” part of us, we believe that our only option is verbal violence, or even physical aggression. 

Even though our clients often assume that they know why someone said or did a certain thing, that is not true and is often a sign of black and white thinking patterns – the thinking of a young internal wounded part of ourselves, and even an inner rebellious streak we have. 

Refresher! 

No one can know for certain what is in the heart and mind of another. 

Most of us were not trained in how to listen with care and compassion to the variety of our own Inner Voices and diverse feelings and intentions. Even in graduate programs, sometimes, the nuances of working with the inner psyche is not addressed. 

This model helps clinicians uncover for themselves, and their clients, new skill sets! 

  • Collaborate for wins
  • Make requests that get responses
  • Express a boundary with compassion and firmness
  • Find the solutions to problems that trauma in childhood may leave behind

Conclusion

In this model, we can teach our clients to give empathy and compassion while holding compassion for their partner. Therefore, we can look for the win-win.

The most inspiring couples in therapy collaborate in uncovering, discovering, and recovering the many INNER ASPECTS that they have on the inside. Learning to bring love, understanding and compassion to themselves as a foundation for how they interact with their beloved.

If you want to learn more about these techniques to apply to your own life and your practice working with individuals and couples, please click this link to learn more.

If you have any questions, or for clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized sessions on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

New Year Resolution: 5 Questions For Couples to Consider as we End 2020

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New Years Resolution time as the year comes to an end, we offer 5 questions that couples should consider before ending the year.

  1. What did we ACCOMPLISH in the relationship in 2020?
  2. WHAT did I ACCOMPLISH in 2020?
  3. What did we WANT to accomplish in the relationship but didn’t in 2020?
  4. What did I WANT to accomplish but didn’t in 2020?
  5. THE NEW VISION: What do you want to be celebrating by the end of 2021?

These questions are brought to you by Francesca Gentille, and I see them as highly valuable for couples ending one year and beginning another.

Not everyone enjoys New Year Resolutions; however, this is something you can do together.

What Did We Accomplish in The Relationship in 2020?

As couples, you should reflect on how you’ve spent your year so far. It helps you to discover ways of making your relationship better and being a better version of yourself.

It will help if you ask yourselves questions about what you’ve accomplished so far as couples in 2020. Doing this will help you plan and have a better 2021.

Asking yourself if you’re becoming the kind of partner you want to be to your partner will help you know if you’ve accomplished all you wanted to in the year.

You should ask yourself if you’ve provided your support and empathy to your partner and how much you’ve encouraged them throughout the year.

As a couple, working as an individual and then together can help you set the right path for your future and that of your partner.

You can discover what you’ve achieved for the year by ticking the boxes of the plans you both had for the year.

  • Did we achieve what we want in our career?
  • Did we get to develop ourselves as a couple?
  • Did we meet our financial goals for the year?
  • Did we enjoy our hobbies more than the previous year?
  • Has our spiritual life improved?
  • Did we care for our health the way we wanted?

These are some aspects where you both need to ask questions about your vision. Create more questions as they suit you, and write them down in a journal.

Knowing if you’ve accomplished your vision for the year will help you get a good head start for the next year.

What Did I Accomplish In 2020?

Before finding what you’ve accomplished in your relationship, you need to realize your accomplishments first. You need to find out if you’ve accomplished all you want in 2020 and discover ways of improving yourself in the coming year.

To know what you’ve accomplished as an individual, you must ask yourself some questions to see how you can improve in the coming year. You can start by writing down what you’ve accomplished in the year.

Write down the good things that you’ve experienced in your career, marriage, and family. Write down the list of things you failed to achieve for the year.

It will also help if you write down every unfavorable condition you found yourself in during the year. With this, you can know the next step of action on having a better 2021.

What Did We Want to Accomplish in the Relationship But Didn’t in 2020?

When you write down the list of things you didn’t accomplish in 2020, you may discover that you have accomplished a little in your relationship. As soon as you discover the things that you fail to accomplish in 2020, the next step is to find the means of achieving them in 2021.

The question you should keep asking yourselves is “What do we have to do to make this vision a reality.” Having a vision is different from accomplishing it. Accomplishing a vision comes with some unfavorable tasks that may want you to quit. It may even be the reason you weren’t able to accomplish it in 2020.

However, do not be discouraged or think that your vision is not right. Instead, accept the challenges that come with it. You can write down what you fail to accomplish in 2020 as a couple to find out where the problem is coming from. Do not be bothered or be negative about it in the coming year and always see the bigger picture.

What Did I Want to Accomplish But Didn’t in 2020?

It’s very normal to want to accomplish something but ended up not getting it throughout the year. Many factors could be responsible for this. So, do not flog yourself too hard. If you didn’t accomplish what you ought to in 2020 and they are a vital part of your vision, let them be at the top list of what you want to achieve in 2021.

Begin to work on them as soon as possible and they’ll be among your list of accomplishments for the year 2021.

The New Vision: What do You Want to Be Celebrating by The End of 2021?

You should know what you want and identify the things you have achieved and what you need to achieve by the end of 2021. When you have a vision, making it a reality will become easier.

Vision involves revising, recalling, and identifying your dream as a person and the one you also have with your partner. One way to discover your vision is by knowing what you want in your relationship and keeping to it, having a financial resolution ( buying a house, saving more, paying off your debts, e.t.c), and individual or personal resolution.

However, you may fail to realize your vision if you let some negative thinking and unhealthy behaviors take over your life. Some of these thinking include:

  • Feeling of guilt for wanting too much
  • Thinking that getting what you want is impossible
  • Believing that you’ll fail before even starting the new year
  • Being too anxious when you think about your vision
  • The thought that your partner will not support your vision or even laugh at you.

And the list goes on, so we recommend a New Year Resolution strategy for you and those around you!

Your vision may seem challenging when you look at it. This is normal as long as they excite you, are meaningful, and the results make a difference in your life as an individual or a couple.

If you have any questions, or for clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized sessions on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists!

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems.

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do.

Happy Thanksgiving from LCAT! 

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Happy Thanksgiving from LCAT! 

 

We all know the research, that when you practice thankfulness and gratitude you are happier! Yes, contribution is THAT important, so I wanted to take the time to really say thank you for all that you do.

We have the greatest most dedicated clients! 

I am so grateful for all the hard work that they put in their individual lives, in their family life, and of course, their romantic relationships.

Here in Life Coaching and Therapy, we are grateful that you chose us to start your journey and we are grateful that you will continue your healing process with us in 2020.

Without you, the mission that we have in LCAT isn’t possible so thank you.

If you have topics for 2020, email us: info@lcatllc.com.  Yes! I am always looking for more ideas!

Thank you so much for sharing your secrets, trying new things, and embracing the uncertainty.

We appreciate you so much. Thank you for choosing us and trusting us.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Text Therapy Program.

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your life at What We Do. 

Call or text us at 203-733-9600 or make an appointment.

Veterans Day

Veterans’ Day

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Veterans’ Day

 

Do Us All a Favor and Thank A Vet this Coming Veterans’ Day!

If you’re living in the U.S., odds are you know a veteran. Every year, millions of Americans serve in our all-volunteer military service. They come from all walks of life. Rich and poor, all different genders, and races. Immigrants even joined the armed forces for a chance to become a U.S. citizen. They answer the call of sacrifice and duty to country that protects the freedoms we often take for granted.

Given the sheer number of people over the years who’ve served, you probably know several veterans. They’re our schoolteachers, they train us at the gym, they work at grocery stores, and run successful companies all across the United States.

So yeah, obviously, we shouldn’t just celebrate our veterans one day a year, but if you haven’t had the chance, use the holiday to show some love to the people who gave up time and being around the people they love for something bigger. Here are some great ways you can show love for our veterans this year.

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Give Thanks by Understanding the Tradition of Service to Country

If you ask vets or active duty personnel, a lot of them will tell you that they tired, “Thank you for your service” can make their skin crawl. Sometimes it’s sincere, but so often it’s a canned line filled with political undertones.

Show a veteran you care by trying to understand what they’ve been through. Sure, you’ll never fully understand what it’s like to serve in wartime or be posted somewhere far overseas, but context goes a long way.

 

What Does Veterans Day Even Mean?

The U.S. has celebrated veterans since World War I ended in the early 1900s. On November 11 a year after the war, people flocked to the streets to celebrate peace, knowing the hell they’d been through. The holiday was initially called Armistice Day, but President Eisenhower changed it to celebrate all veterans.

America has been involved in the conflict for so long, that a lot of vets feel like what they do overseas is too far removed from normal American life. Unless you’re directly impacted, say, having a direct family member or close friend serve in a warzone, it’s hard to relate. A lot of the time they come home frustrated that normal people don’t understand what they’re doing over there.

We’re not out celebrating in the streets, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be showing thanks for what our soldiers, sailors, and marines are doing abroad. We’re lucky that current wars aren’t impacting us at home the way previous wars did.

When you meet a vet, the best way to thank them is to get to know them. If you know them, talk to them about their time in the military. Don’t be afraid to ask them questions about their time and what it meant. Don’t pry. Learn to take the subtle hints when something’s out of bounds. But don’t act like it never happened. Validate them with your interest.

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Hold It Down for Our Vets

If you’re wondering what to do for our veterans this Veterans Day, there are tons of ideas. Here are a few good ones.

  • Donate to a Good Cause – There are a ton of charities and service organizations focused on helping veterans find jobs, get therapy, find a place to live, and plenty more as they transition out of service. The money you give goes directly to helping the life of a veteran in need.
  • Acts of Service – If you know a veteran, think of something you can do for them that they would enjoy. Get them tickets to the game or buy them some movie tickets. Take them out and treat them to a meal.
  • Show Respect – You may not notice it, but most veterans pay attention to how people around them act concerning respect for the military and country. You may have strong opinions about certain political decisions but try your best to refrain from severe criticism if you’re around a veteran.
  • Send a Care Package – You can mail a package of candy, clothes, electronics and other supplies to military personnel overseas for Christmas and other holidays. It’s easy to do and they love it.
  • Show Your Vet Some Love – Hopefully, you noticed that we wrote “your vet” there. Some of us are extremely lucky to be in relationships or dating veterans. They bring so much to our lives. They work hard, are disciplined, honor us, and strive to progress. On Veterans Day it’s the least we can do to show them some fun, right? This Veterans Day let loose a bit and give your partner a good time.

 

On A More Serious Note

Everyone should know that every veteran returns from service as a changed person. Some changes are harder than others. Tens of thousands of veterans who served our country come home with physical injuries, emotional scars, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Putting the pieces back together takes time and patience. Most of all it takes a network of caring people who are there for them when they need them.

If you know someone who is struggling with issues they experience in the military, talk to them. You may not be able to give them the help they need, but you can help them find it. There are resources available for veterans to call on.

 

 

There are Still People Out There Fighting

Ask a vet, and they’ll tell you one of the best things you can do to support them is to support the brave people still out there fighting. Brave service people are stationed in bases all over the world ready to move on a moment’s notice.

We’re indebted every day to their willingness to serve and what they stand for. Veterans Day is more than a holiday. It’s an annual reminder that we should all be doing more to thank and give back to our veterans.

No go out there and show them some love.

Sex and Intimacy Workshops

Sex and Intimacy Workshops

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Sex and Intimacy Workshops for Couples and Singles

Finally…sex and intimacy workshops for couples and singles are being held in September. Two workshops will be held at Middletown and Rocky Hill, CT locations.

There are several components to having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others, and amazing sex is one factor.

Across the genders, everyone wants and craves sex and intimacy. Whether we are married or single or in some unclassifiable state in between.

According to multiple studies, sex boosts happiness, because it makes people feel more satisfied with their significant other and with their selves.

If your sex life has fizzled out and you’re having trouble getting it back on track, you and your partner might consider attending our Sex and Intimacy Workshops. Additionally, talking with a Certificated Sex Coach is another option if you prefer on-site sessions, text or video chat therapy.

My colleague, Dr. Sara Frawley, and I will present two workshops in September about dating, cultural shame, codependency, self love, and the Erotic Anatomy. 

Sex and Intimacy Workshops:

For Singles – The Sex Ed You Never Got in High School

Join us to get a refresher course on erogenous anatomy, discuss applying a Zen philosophy to dating, and explore different aspects of human sexuality. 

Date/Time: Wednesday, September 18th at 6:30 p.m

Location: Middlesex Community College (Chapman Hall Room 808), 100 Training Hill Rd, Middletown, CT

Cost:  $30 each

Register at Eventbrite

For Couples – The Sex Ed You Never Got in High School 

Join us to explore those burning relationship questions and take your relationship to the next level. 

Date/Time:  Sunday, September 22nd at 2:30 p.m

Location: The Barre CT, 412 Cromwell Ave., Rocky Hill, CT

Cost:  $35 per couple

Register at Eventbrite

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Tickets include light refreshments, Kava Kava ‘cocktails’ and all the supplies needed for a great class. For more information please call Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) at (203) 293-7293 or email us at: info@lcatllc.com 

 

About the Sex and Intimacy Webinar Educators

Sara B. Frawley

Sara B. Frawley

Sara B. Frawley is a Naturopathic Doctor (ND), a chemist, and a human biology professor. Dr. Frawley is the owner of Ground Force Medicine in Wallingford and Cromwell, CT, as well as the founder of Ground Force Supplements.

Amanda Pasciucco

Sex and Intimacy Workshops

Amanda Pasciucco is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and has certification as a Sex Therapist from the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors & Therapists (AASECT). She is a national sexuality educator, and the practice owner of Life Coaching and Therapy in West Hartford, CT.

 

Few of us know everything about sex, however, here’s your chance to learn more.

Please join Sara B. Frawley, ND and Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT at these two amazing Sex and Intimacy Workshops.

 

Amanda Pasciucco

Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained and licensed therapists! 

Our team of compassionate, licensed therapists and certified sex therapists help Millennials and Baby Boomers alike who visit us for a variety of relationship, intimacy and sex problems. 

LCAT provides on-site appointments, as well as video chat and text therapy programs. For clients hoping to take their intimate lives to the next level through personalized coaching on YOUR terms, learn more about our Couples Cure text therapy program.

If you know someone who would benefit from sex, intimacy and relationship knowledge, feel free to send them a link to Amanda’s YouTube channel – The Sex Healer! 

Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your relationship and ignite your sex life at What We Do. Call or text us at 203-733-9600, or make an appointment.