Female Orgasm

Female Orgasm: Seven Areas of Pleasure

Female Orgasm: Seven Areas of Pleasure

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There are many areas of female orgasm, and each are delicious ways of experiencing pleasure.

Today we are speaking to those who have vulvas, not just those who identify as females, because all are welcome here!

An orgasm is the body's response to receiving sexual stimulation from intimate encounters, caresses or intercourse.

For all people. blood accumulates in the genital area during the sexual stimulation process, and it is released when the bodily function of orgasm occurs.

Orgasms are accompanied by a series of sensations that often produce intense pleasure and feelings of sexual satisfaction, adrenaline, oxytocin, and other feel good hormones! 

If I didn't mention the power of the brain and imagination in orgasm, I would be doing us all a disservice. You have to be turned on in your mind - of course! Psychosexual therapy exercises may help if this doesn't make any sense to you!

After you get warmed up, come join us in the seven areas of female orgasms! 

1. Sex for One or More! Clitoral Pleasure in Female Orgasm

This is the most favored area to achieve female orgasm thanks to 8,000 nerve endings. The clitoris is designed to give pleasure and 80% of women report needing direct stimulation of the clitoral glands to have an orgasm.

The sensation is often localized, sharp, powerful, and quick in duration.

Rubbing, oral sex, the use of sex toys or certain postures that favor the friction of the pubis are ways to trigger clitoris stimulation.

2. Entering the Vagina

The walls of the vagina have thousands of nerves that require a patient stimulation rhythm to achieve orgasm. The thing is that the vagina doesn't have the same amount of pleasure that comes from the areas where the clitoris is involved. This is likely due to minimize pain women feel in vaginal childbirth. 

3. Cervical Pleasure

This type of orgasm takes its name from the cervix, which is the female reproductive organ that connects with the uterus. The cervix is three centimeters long and 2.5 centimeters in diameter. First, understand where your cervix is located, and then instruct your partner to massage it with intense strokes. The "doggy style" sex position is good, because penetration is intense and deep.

4. A-Spot Pleasure

The A-spot orgasm is found in the vagina and creates more intense female orgasms - even multiples! The A spot or Anterior Fornix Erogenous (AFE) zone, was reported to be discovered in the 90's by Malaysian doctor, Chua Chee Ann.

It is located above the G spot about 7.5 centimeters from the entrance of the vagina, and on the anterior side, near the cervix.

If you want to explore finding it, sexual positions with penetration from behind, or the missionary position of the jackhammer will help! 

5. The Famous G-Spot

This is one of the most sought after orgasmic experience I am asked about!

Try the following to find your G spot:

  1. Insert a finger into the vagina.
  2. Feel for the front wall (the side where the navel is located).
  3. Move your finger around until you find a spot that feels different when you press or rub it.
  4. If you feel the urge to urinate, do not be concerned - this is normal and it's a good sign.

The most unique aspect of a G spot orgasm is that it can be accompanied by female ejaculation, which is completely normal.

The urethra releases the ejaculation fluid, and it contains prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP)! 

6. The "U-Spot"

The U spot is located at the entrance to the urethra (located just above the vaginal orifice in the middle of the lips).

Many women enjoy a gentle stimulation in this area with fingers and tongue. You will find out that if you are interested in this, oil may feel better than lube! 

7. Full-Body Orgasms

Full-body orgasms occur when a female orgasms throughout her entire body. We recommend full-body orgasms as often as possible! Especially during the same sexual session.

This type of pleasure happens the more you love and the more you know your body!  If you need tips on how to experience sexual nirvana, we can help

The skin is a great source of pleasure - for everyone. The mind as well! 

Explore by yourself or with your partner, and the greater your chances will become of achieving pleasure from multiple areas!

If you still can’t find the courage to tell your partner you want to explore female orgasm or if you are scared to venture into the world of female orgasm alone, contact us. We can guide you!


Life Coaching and Therapy (L-CAT) is a relationship coaching and sex therapy practice that transforms our clients lives through our flexible, multi-technique approach and pleasure-skills training provided by systemically-trained therapists!


Learn more about how LCAT can help improve your relationship and ignite your sex life at What We Do. Call or text us at 203-733-9600, or make an appointment.

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Improving Couples Sex Life

Improving Couples Sex Life

There are many ways to improving a couples sex life, and we help our clients with skills and techniques based on what works the best for them. For some, the key is improved communication, and for others it's finding ways to address their fantasies. Wouldn't it be wonderful to maintain the same spark a couple had when they first met? Quite often, time and friction from everyday life causes a relationship to become routine and the spark slowly fades away. Many couples surrender, accepting this routine sex life or lack of a sex life and do not believe that it's even possible to improve their sex life.


The reality is that couples just need a relationship reboot in order to ignite their passion.


Below are seven tips on how to keep the spark in your relationship and improve your sex life, because I want you to know that no matter how long you've been a couple, a great sex life is possible at any time.

Work as a Team


You are! When you decided to commit yourselves and spend the rest of your lives together, you began a long path. You will both only be victorious if you work together as a team. You must join together in dealing with adversities. Problems arise all the time. There may be arguments about money, kids, and even your sex life, but the only ones that can solve the challenges are you two - working together. You have to learn from mistakes and accept that the person next to you has flaws.

Spice Things Up


If you are not having a lot of sex, relax, this is not rare and there is a solution. The first thing you should observe is the daily physical contact that you both have with each other. A hug, a kiss on the cheek or a naughty pat are great gestures if you have not been intimate for a long time.


Regular sexual intercourse will naturally increase sexual desire. The same thing applies when sex frequency is low, sexual desire goes down. Having more sex causes the body to start producing more sex hormones that remind you how much you like to have sex.


Variety is one way to improve a couples sex life. It makes things exciting and rewarding. One of the main reasons why couples stop having sex is because it becomes routine, boring and predictable. Individuals need emotion, fun and a touch of mystery to activate their desire.


Plan a regular date night, and forget about the dishes, kids' homework and problems at work. Take a bath together or share a few glasses of wine to get in the mood. These activities work as passion igniters.


Why not venture into something new together? When it comes to bedroom experiences, there are many new things to try in order to improve couples sex life:


  1. Practice Karezza sex (a calm and gentle method).
  2. Masturbate and watch your partner masturbate.
  3. Implement (at least) half of the Kama Sutra’s positions
  4. Have cybernetic sex and/or erotic phone calls.
  5. Be blindfolded while making love.
  6. Wear super sexy lingerie and shop for it together.
  7. Encourage an erotic dance.
  8. Use a vibrator or other type of erotic toy.
  9. Tie up your partner, and another day, let him/her tie you.
  10. Seduce him/her with an erotic costume.
  11. Practice tantric sex
  12. Have sex in the shower.
  13. Read erotic literature.
  14. Try a sexual role play.
  15. Share your fantasies (and put them into practice).
  16. Wake him/her up in the middle of the night to make love.
  17. Practice "wet" fetishism or splosh sex (cover your partner with wet food, such as cream, before having sex)
  18. Have "morning quickies" before going to work.
  19. Make love with candlelight.
  20. View pornography together and try to imitate it.
  21. Play "strip poker" and undress little by little.

Go Out for Adventures Together


Just as you must experiment in the bedroom, you must also do so in everyday life - I am not talking about sex. Go for a walk in the park together, or go out for coffee like you did when you first met. Your relationship is not limited within the house.

It may sound silly or too obvious, but how many times have you heard your partner say "we never do things together” or “we never go anywhere"? There are many options and the most entertaining are usually the lowest cost or free.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate


Communication is not the solution to all your problems, but it is essential if you want to lay the foundation for a strong future. Most detachments occur when we misinterpret the other person or simply stop communicating. Sit down to enjoy a night together and ask again all the things you asked each other when you first met.


Ask For What You Really Want


A common mistake is to wait for your partner to do something without ever telling him/her what it is you desire. Your partner is not a mind reader no matter how much time you have spent together, or how well you think you know each other. If you really want something, express it in the proper way.

Explain What You Think or How You Feel


Clearly say what you think or how you feel - both positive and negative thoughts and feelings, but always be respectful of each other. There is no better way for your partner to understand you than when you show your emotions. Do not assume that your partner will know how you feel.


Take Care of Yourself


You have to invest in yourself in order to improve your self-esteem. Your partner will love you now matter how you look, but when you feel good about yourself it will improve your attitude, which can help with your relationship. Only you can decide if you let external factors affect your self-esteem.


Regular exercise, for example, will not only improve your health, but your body will start producing more serotonin, which regulates the state of mood. That is why it is also known as a happiness hormone. You must love and be happy with yourself so that your partner can also love you without restrictions.




Regardless of the reasons, such as stress, lack of intimacy or poor communication that cause a couple to lose their spark, it is possible to improve couples sex life by breaking out of their routine, trying new things, and acting like they are dating again in order to ignite the passion that originally brought them together.


Please learn more about how Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) can help improve your relationship and ignite your sex life at What we do, call or text us at 203-733-9600, or make an appointment.

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Is The G-Spot Real Or A Myth?



Debunking the G-Spot! I know this catchy term has been thrown here and there, but what have you thought of it as? Have you ever asked, “Is the G Spot real”? The female G Spot is a mystery that’s for sure!


The questions about it have been how to find the G Spot, where is the G Spot, and even... does the G Spot exist? We’ve seen the term thrown here and there as the magical place, the vagina g spot, to hit for a g spot orgasm! You've probably failed and asked yourself, is there a G Spot? Is the G Spot a myth? Have you ever asked yourself how I can find my G-Spot? You’ll find the answer to that question here from your very own sex therapist --  I will reveal the truth about the famous vagina G Spot!  Let me tell you how to get a G Spot orgasm with today's sex education!


If you're like most people, you probably thought it was one specific anatomical spot that could induce an orgasm in the vagina.... Well here's the truth. As long as the front wall of the vagina is hit-- you've hit the so-called G-Spot. It's more an area than a spot. To learn more about what produces or makes up the G-Spot, head over to this video!


Communicating About Difficult Matters

Communicating About Difficult Matters


I know I talk a lot about communication and how important it is to the health of relationships. WELL, I'll never stop! It's SO important to keep honing your communication skills in all types of settings, especially difficult ones.


Something that's been on my mind lately is how to break news to a partner. It might not necessarily be bad news, but news that you think may change their perception of you in any way. For example, if you have an illness, disability, or other difficult matters that are extremely personal. I know how intimidating it can be to communicating someone these things. Here's what I suggest:


 1.) Decide on how much you're willing to share before.


2.) Know that you HAVE TO tell the story directly - no rambling, no beating around the bush. 👌


3.) Practice several times. Keep in mind the context of your news to handle your style and tone appropriately. If you're breaking it to them about a disability, maybe you can start with, "I really enjoy the relationship I've had with you so far, and I feel really comfortable with you. I really care for you, and that’s why I think I should finally share something about myself to you. It's really personal and I've been worried about your reaction to it, but you should really know."


4.) Ask if you can clarify anything to help them better understand your situation.


I hope these tips can help you in the future. REMEMBER that if you KNOW that your partner loves you, there's NO DOUBT that they'll take in every single bit of you, whether it be your flaws or strengths, and love 👏 it 👏 all👏.


Communication is the KEY!


At Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) we help you get the life you want, and the results you desire when it comes to passion, connection, and growth. Through our flexible, multi-technique approach (DBT, CBT, EMDR) and pleasure skills training (tantra, the science of sex, and sensate focus techniques), we transform our clients lives!

Please learn more about how Life Coaching and Therapy (LCAT) can help improve your relationship and ignite your sex life at What We Do. Call or text us at 203-733-9600, or make an appointment.

Pleasuring a Woman: What You Should Know Before Having Sex

Pleasuring a Woman: What You Should Know Before Having Sex


What are you up to for Valentine's Day? If you're in for a romantic night, I hope my tips can help you out! No matter what stage of love you're in, it doesn't hurt to make sure you're on the right track in your relationship!


Check out this video!


So you want to please a woman in bed.. The art of pleasuring a woman in bed isn’t easy, especially if you aren’t too educated in female anatomy. That’s the key on how to please a woman in bed or on how to satisfy a woman in bed. How to give pleasure can be mastered with practice!


I will give you my insight as a sex therapist and a woman on how to give pleasure, give women pleasure, that is. Giving her pleasure is important, of course! You’re here because you want to better understand giving her pleasure since you love her. Giving women pleasure is definitely a talent that can be improved on, no worries.  This is what every man needs to know before having sex!


Sex Education Netflix Series Review (REAL THERAPIST REACTS!)

Sex Education Netflix Series Review (REAL THERAPIST REACTS!)


Within the first week that this came out, SIX people told me to watch this! And I'm so glad I did. It gave a fun, yet deep spin on topics that may be embarrassing to those who experience it and opened conversation on how to deal with these matters. I enjoyed every minute of watching the characters interact with each other and see them grow throughout season 1! If you want to see my reaction on specific scenes, go ahead and click the link on my profile to find it! If you haven't watched the series, I encourage that you do! I hope you enjoy it!



Sex Education from Netflix! I will give my Netflix Sex Education reaction. I will dive into some themes from Netflix Sex Education! If you’re looking for a Netflix Sex Education Review, watch this video! I react to scenes from Sex Education Episode 1, and many other parts of the season! Don’t miss this review for Sex Education Netflix! You’ll want some insight from my Sex Education Episode 1 reaction! I ain't called the Sex Healer for nothing!

Codependent Relationship To Interdependence


Codependent Relationship To Interdependence

Are you in a codependent relationship and want to be codependent no more?.


Let’s focus on interdependence and having interdependent relationships!.


After looking at the codependent relationship signs, we can be on the road to codependent relationship recovery! Codependency in relationships is not healthy, so interdependence is the way to go!.


We’ll look at interdependence theory and the difference between interdependence vs codependency.


How would you describe a perfect relationship in one word?


For me, that word is interdependence! Now you're probably asking, Amanda, haven't you already talked about this? Aren't codependency and interdependence the same? Not at all! The type of relationship you DON'T WANT is one based in codependency. Strive for interdependence, at least that’s what we strive for in my therapy sessions with clients.


Interdependence is that goals relationship.— Where you have a long-term partner that may do anything for and vice versa. However, the difference to codependency is that this type of relationship gives you the freedom to be... you!.


You and your partner support each others goals and give trust in one another, allowing you to be flexible in your relationship as well. Who doesn't want this?


What does interdependence mean to you? Learn more on how to get there in my video!


Rebuild Trust In A Relationship

Rebuild Trust In A Relationship (Therapist Advice To Save It!)


Are you working towards rebuilding trust in relationship? It’s important to build trust with our partner or rebuild trust in broken relationship because you are with a person you love. Wouldn’t you want them to be comfortable in telling you anything that bothers them? Wouldn’t you want to extend that same courtesy to them. Sometimes relationships are broken because of trust issues in relationship and that’s okay -- you can still rebuild trust in relationship. Relationship trust issues are not to be taken lightly!  All it takes is hard work to build trust again, so let me tell you how!


As a therapist, I understand the significance of the trust between me and my clients. The same significance goes for my personal relationships as well. In both situations, I have a responsibility to uphold and protect the trust instilled in it. If you ask me, I'd say that trust is definitely the glue in any relationship. When meeting someone new, trust is generally a given because you both haven't given each other any reason for "distrust".


Now, when that trust is violated, that is a problem that is not to be taken lightly-- If you are the one who breaks your partner's trust, it will be a long, uphill battle to return to the comfort of the relationship you once had.


It takes delicacy to pick up the pieces of the broken relationship. You can make things worse if you aren't careful!! You can check out my video for tips! Thanks for watching! <3

What is Codependency?

Codependency In Relationships Explained (BE CODEPENDENT NO MORE!)


Have you ever asked yourself what is codependency and what are its symptoms? On your way to codependency recovery? Don’t even know what is codependency in relationships even looks like or ask what does codependency mean? This video is for you to learn more about the ties between codependency and narcissism as well as codependency and addiction.


Codependency is such an important relationship topic to learn and initiate conversations about. Keep yourself and others aware of just how common and unhealthy this can be, as it can be a pattern that is repeated until conscious action is taken!


Codependency is when one partner disproportionately gives more in a relationship, and in doing so, perpetuates their partner's bad behaviors.


If you want to learn more about how codependency traits develop, check out more details in this video!


How To Catch A Cheater

How to Catch A Cheater: Explained by The Sex Healer 


Don’t know how to go about confronting infidelity? Have you ever wondered “are they cheating on me” or “why did they cheat on me” when looking at your partner? Is your husband cheating on you? Is your wife cheating on you? Is your girlfriend cheating on you? Is your boyfriend cheating on you? It’s a big question why cheaters cheat, but it doesn’t mean you should be a blind victim of it any longer. Catch cheaters and stop relationship cheating!


Fun topic, right? I'm so excited! Here's three of my tips to catch a cheater:


1.) Make A List

2.) Be Where They Don't Expect You

3.) Look Through Social Media



If you want to see the rest of my tips and get some elaboration on why these ideas can even work, check out my video on YouTube and search TheSexHealer for more!